FabSwingers.com forum: is it only me find this strange?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

ok you find a meet notice on the board,

you write a message,

you see that it is read,

and also not deleted,

but

no response

is it that difficult to write "yes please" or "no, thanks"... jees...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are not owed a reply. Read the FAQ. No reply means they arent interested.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

They are considering it, along with a whole host of others

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By *itsAndTaffCouple
over a year ago

Grays, Essex

If it's from a couple maybe they need to discus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ok you find a meet notice on the board,

you write a message,

you see that it is read,

and also not deleted,

but

no response

is it that difficult to write "yes please" or "no, thanks"... jees..."

It can be, yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here we go again

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"ok you find a meet notice on the board,

you write a message,

you see that it is read,

and also not deleted,

but

no response

is it that difficult to write "yes please" or "no, thanks"... jees..."

It means they don't want to meet you or talk to you.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

But when you have written yes please or no thanks several times over it gets a little tedious...especially when the "no thanks" are followed up with a "but why not message"...read the FAQs there's no obligation to respond to any message, and no response should be taken as a "no thanks"

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough

I wouldn't read anything into it. We rarely delete messages because we're too lazy to do so.

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By *lasgownewbies6266Man
over a year ago

glasgow

"You are not owed a reply. Read the FAQ. No reply means they arent interested."
I agree you're not owed a reply but a no thank you would be polite

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You are not owed a reply. Read the FAQ. No reply means they arent interested. I agree you're not owed a reply but a no thank you would be polite "

Thanks, you wrote better than me... and sure I can read FAQ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are not owed a reply. Read the FAQ. No reply means they arent interested. I agree you're not owed a reply but a no thank you would be polite "

Is that a "I have read the FAQ but I still think otherwise?"

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"You are not owed a reply. Read the FAQ. No reply means they arent interested. I agree you're not owed a reply but a no thank you would be polite "

What if the reply was "no thanks your cocks too small"?

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough

"You are not owed a reply. Read the FAQ. No reply means they arent interested. I agree you're not owed a reply but a no thank you would be polite "

Been answered 1000s of times before. Some people get upwards of 200 messages a day; should they take a couple of hours every day just to reply "No, Thanks"?

What about when person then asks "Why not?" Do they ignore that or should they be polite and answer them again?

People have lives outside Fab and can't commit to spending roughly 20 hours a week replying to people they have zero interest in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are not owed a reply. Read the FAQ. No reply means they arent interested. I agree you're not owed a reply but a no thank you would be polite "

A female friend of mine had 672 messages yesterday.

Unfortunately 672 of them weren't what she was looking for.

Do you suggest she writes each of them a polite no thank you message?

That was one day. Every day is pretty much the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are not owed a reply. Read the FAQ. No reply means they arent interested. I agree you're not owed a reply but a no thank you would be polite "

On the other hand, why would you want any communication with people you consider to be impolite?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ok you find a meet notice on the board,

you write a message,

you see that it is read,

and also not deleted,

but

no response

is it that difficult to write "yes please" or "no, thanks"... jees..."

Do you write back to all the companies who post junk mail through your letterbox? Can't be that difficult surely, after they've taken the time to print the leaflet and post it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here we go again"

We sure do....Zzzzzzzz!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You are not owed a reply. Read the FAQ. No reply means they arent interested. I agree you're not owed a reply but a no thank you would be polite

A female friend of mine had 672 messages yesterday.

Unfortunately 672 of them weren't what she was looking for.

Do you suggest she writes each of them a polite no thank you message?

That was one day. Every day is pretty much the same. "

A delete will do I guess, stronger than a no...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are not owed a reply. Read the FAQ. No reply means they arent interested. I agree you're not owed a reply but a no thank you would be polite

A female friend of mine had 672 messages yesterday.

Unfortunately 672 of them weren't what she was looking for.

Do you suggest she writes each of them a polite no thank you message?

That was one day. Every day is pretty much the same.

A delete will do I guess, stronger than a no..."

Why should people have to delete messages in order to give you closure?

If someone likes the look of you, they'll reply. If they don't, they have zero interest in you or your feelings, so move on.

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town

"Here we go again"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here we go again"

I do wonder if admin should make a small change.

Currently new members can't contribute to the forum until they have been here for a 'qualifying period' - currently I believe this is a week.

Perhaps when making their first post, they should be taken to the FAQ's as, though the link is available throughout the site, I wonder if it should feature more prominently on the site rather than where it is currently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Ive removed posts. Its the guys first post in the forums, no need to be rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are not owed a reply. Read the FAQ. No reply means they arent interested. I agree you're not owed a reply but a no thank you would be polite

A female friend of mine had 672 messages yesterday.

Unfortunately 672 of them weren't what she was looking for.

Do you suggest she writes each of them a polite no thank you message?

That was one day. Every day is pretty much the same. "

Wow. She needs to tighten up her filters

I don't think I've ever received that amount but I've never counted

I try replying but sometimes it's just too time consuming, especially when someone who messages hasn't bothered to read my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

New members aren't pariah.

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts

When you get leaflets for Pizza & kebab shops through the door, do you phone them all to say no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are not owed a reply. Read the FAQ. No reply means they arent interested. I agree you're not owed a reply but a no thank you would be polite

A female friend of mine had 672 messages yesterday.

Unfortunately 672 of them weren't what she was looking for.

Do you suggest she writes each of them a polite no thank you message?

That was one day. Every day is pretty much the same.

A delete will do I guess, stronger than a no..."

672 delete and blocks took her enough time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I do find weird is when someone initiates contact, either a wink or message saying they like what they see then you politely reply and they never reply back. They are well within their rights but why message me in the first place?

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"ok you find a meet notice on the board,

you write a message,

you see that it is read,

and also not deleted,

but

no response

is it that difficult to write "yes please" or "no, thanks"... jees..."

It means, not interested

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"When you get leaflets for Pizza & kebab shops through the door, do you phone them all to say no thanks"

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"Here we go again"

Wonder if the mods can automatically put music to topics.

How about the theme from the magic roundabout for these ones

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Here we go again

I do wonder if admin should make a small change.

Currently new members can't contribute to the forum until they have been here for a 'qualifying period' - currently I believe this is a week.

Good idea.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"When you get leaflets for Pizza & kebab shops through the door, do you phone them all to say no thanks"

I guess they are hoping that some will buy out of sympathy

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"What I do find weird is when someone initiates contact, either a wink or message saying they like what they see then you politely reply and they never reply back. They are well within their rights but why message me in the first place? "

We find this is usually they didn't read your profile & didn't even look where you live, you answer then they look & "Oh fuck".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a couple of easy reply option buttons could be simply added to the site to make it better for all. You get a message and you can send a oersonal reply, or you can click on ond of following:

A) Thanks for your message, but you are not for me/us.

B) Thanks for your message, if we are interested we will be in touch.

C) Thanks for your message, would like to chat more.

That way, whether you have carefully drafted a message based on their profile or you have cut and pasted, you know where you stand.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"ok you find a meet notice on the board,

you write a message,

you see that it is read,

and also not deleted,

but

no response

is it that difficult to write "yes please" or "no, thanks"... jees..."

If I have a meet request up I never go with the first reply (sorry, but it's not first come, first cum, so to speak). I wait and see who else is interested, then pick the one I want the most.

Any impatience and the delete button is deployed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are not owed a reply. Read the FAQ. No reply means they arent interested."

It might be in the FAQ but they are just that, frequently asked questions. Common curtouesy even if a "no thanks" is given, you know where you stand then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find this is usually they didn't read your profile & didn't even look where you live, you answer then they look & "Oh fuck".

Yeah that can definitely explain a lot of those instances by I've had occasions when they have even referred to how local I am and reference my profile then still do it. I'm not losing any sleep over it just find it strange.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"You are not owed a reply. Read the FAQ. No reply means they arent interested.

It might be in the FAQ but they are just that, frequently asked questions. Common curtouesy even if a "no thanks" is given, you know where you stand then."

Common courtesy is that you read and digest the FAQs so you're not disappointed when a woman uses the site properly.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"You are not owed a reply. Read the FAQ. No reply means they arent interested.

It might be in the FAQ but they are just that, frequently asked questions. Common curtouesy even if a "no thanks" is given, you know where you stand then."

Common courtesy is also to read a profile and only send a message if one fits ALL of their requirements. It is rude to send messages otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are not owed a reply. Read the FAQ. No reply means they arent interested.

It might be in the FAQ but they are just that, frequently asked questions. Common curtouesy even if a "no thanks" is given, you know where you stand then."

If someone messages me, I did not ask for them to do so. I have no responsibility to reply. That is what it is about.

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough

"You are not owed a reply. Read the FAQ. No reply means they arent interested.

It might be in the FAQ but they are just that, frequently asked questions. Common curtouesy even if a "no thanks" is given, you know where you stand then."

If they don't reply you also know where you stand.

No one owes anyone anything on this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are not owed a reply. Read the FAQ. No reply means they arent interested.

It might be in the FAQ but they are just that, frequently asked questions. Common curtouesy even if a "no thanks" is given, you know where you stand then."

No reply is no thanks. READ the FAQs. Seriously do some men only think with their dicks!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are not owed a reply. Read the FAQ. No reply means they arent interested.

It might be in the FAQ but they are just that, frequently asked questions. Common curtouesy even if a "no thanks" is given, you know where you stand then."

You should know where you stand if you get no reply. They aren't interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are not owed a reply. Read the FAQ. No reply means they arent interested.

It might be in the FAQ but they are just that, frequently asked questions. Common curtouesy even if a "no thanks" is given, you know where you stand then.

"If someone messages me, I did not ask for them to do so. I have no responsibility to reply. That is what it is about. "

Fictitiously, if we met in a club and I said hi, etiquette suggests a polite response, verbal or by jesture of a no (nod wave of hand). Anything other would be construed as being down right discourteous and ignorant. The method of communication is irrelevant.

Others have suggested to tighten the the filters and those who normally get "672" messages per day, are either very lucky or not using the full potential of the site. A statement such as "anyone for a fuck" is bound to attract alot of unwanted attention.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I send this:

"Thank you for your message but it has not been deemed interesting enough to warrant a reply"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you get leaflets for Pizza & kebab shops through the door, do you phone them all to say no thanks"

Not even remotely a good analogy...

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I send this:

"Thank you for your message but it has not been deemed interesting enough to warrant a reply"

I know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. It's just you OP.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"ok you find a meet notice on the board,

you write a message,

you see that it is read,

and also not deleted,

but

no response

is it that difficult to write "yes please" or "no, thanks"... jees...

Do you write back to all the companies who post junk mail through your letterbox? Can't be that difficult surely, after they've taken the time to print the leaflet and post it?"

And all the emails for Viagra etc. Do you reply to them with a polite no thanks?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"When you get leaflets for Pizza & kebab shops through the door, do you phone them all to say no thanks

Not even remotely a good analogy..."

The kebab bit is.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I send this:

"Thank you for your message but it has not been deemed interesting enough to warrant a reply"

I know!

Don't say 'shag me big boy' then!!! Show some imagination and read the sodding profile!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you get leaflets for Pizza & kebab shops through the door, do you phone them all to say no thanks

Not even remotely a good analogy..."

It's an excellent analogy. Both unsolicited shite that you haven't asked for, or remotely interested in.However, at least the pizza leaflet has more intelligence and doesn't demand a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ok you find a meet notice on the board,

you write a message,

you see that it is read,

and also not deleted,

but

no response

is it that difficult to write "yes please" or "no, thanks"... jees...

Do you write back to all the companies who post junk mail through your letterbox? Can't be that difficult surely, after they've taken the time to print the leaflet and post it?

And all the emails for Viagra etc. Do you reply to them with a polite no thanks?

He must do. In fact, I suggest that all l the ones whining should respond to every piece of unwanted junk they receive. It's exactly the same!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you get leaflets for Pizza & kebab shops through the door, do you phone them all to say no thanks

Not even remotely a good analogy...

It's an excellent analogy. Both unsolicited shite that you haven't asked for, or remotely interested in.However, at least the pizza leaflet has more intelligence and doesn't demand a reply. "

Just spat my soup out at the last line! So true.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"You are not owed a reply. Read the FAQ. No reply means they arent interested.

It might be in the FAQ but they are just that, frequently asked questions. Common curtouesy even if a "no thanks" is given, you know where you stand then.

If someone messages me, I did not ask for them to do so. I have no responsibility to reply. That is what it is about.

In a club you would not know what someone's preferences are, so yes, I would reply with a "hi" and leave it to you to take the conversation further. But if it goes further to where intimacy is discussed and you are not what I am interested in then I will just say that we are not sexually compatible

Over here, the profiles [generally] state preferences clearly. Writing to someone whose requirements one does not meet is not only stupid, but is also rude. And I would rather not start any kind of a conversation with such an entitled person

PS. I did not receive 672 messages today. Only a dozen or so where he had either not read my profile or does not understand English

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"When you get leaflets for Pizza & kebab shops through the door, do you phone them all to say no thanks

Not even remotely a good analogy...

It's an excellent analogy. Both unsolicited shite that you haven't asked for, or remotely interested in.However, at least the pizza leaflet has more intelligence and doesn't demand a reply. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you get leaflets for Pizza & kebab shops through the door, do you phone them all to say no thanks

Not even remotely a good analogy...

It's an excellent analogy. Both unsolicited shite that you haven't asked for, or remotely interested in.However, at least the pizza leaflet has more intelligence and doesn't demand a reply.

Just spat my soup out at the last line! So true."

Tho tbh it may start a whiney thread about being left, all alone in a cold porch on a soggy Thursday.

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By *arnaclebillMan
over a year ago

Robin Hood County

"ok you find a meet notice on the board,

you write a message,

you see that it is read,

and also not deleted,

but

no response

is it that difficult to write "yes please" or "no, thanks"... jees..."

Happens all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ok you find a meet notice on the board,

you write a message,

you see that it is read,

and also not deleted,

but

no response

is it that difficult to write "yes please" or "no, thanks"... jees..."

it sometimes takes me ages to respond to a message..

sometimes I take so long that I get a second message asking if they are not what I'm looking for

that's usually when I block them and thank god I didn't respond to the first message

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town

"You are not owed a reply. Read the FAQ. No reply means they arent interested.

It might be in the FAQ but they are just that, frequently asked questions. Common curtouesy even if a "no thanks" is given, you know where you stand then.

If someone messages me, I did not ask for them to do so. I have no responsibility to reply. That is what it is about.

I'm lucky if I get 6 a day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ok you find a meet notice on the board,

you write a message,

you see that it is read,

and also not deleted,

but

no response

is it that difficult to write "yes please" or "no, thanks"... jees...

Do you write back to all the companies who post junk mail through your letterbox? Can't be that difficult surely, after they've taken the time to print the leaflet and post it?

And all the emails for Viagra etc. Do you reply to them with a polite no thanks?

I get those emails......

My first thought is always "how on earth did they know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are not owed a reply. Read the FAQ. No reply means they arent interested.

It might be in the FAQ but they are just that, frequently asked questions. Common curtouesy even if a "no thanks" is given, you know where you stand then."

Interesting reply......

Question;

Have you read the FAQ?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"And all the emails for Viagra etc. Do you reply to them with a polite no thanks?

I get those emails......

My first thought is always "how on earth did they know

I've not said a word, honest guv

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I may read a message, get distracted and then it falls off the bottom of the page before I can reply.

Then I delete it much later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I'm glad I hardly ever get messages then! Would be a pain saying no to all those ladies demanding sex from me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I may read a message, get distracted and then it falls off the bottom of the page before I can reply.

Then I delete it much later."

Evening kinky! Fancy going to the nobody's for a pint lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And all the emails for Viagra etc. Do you reply to them with a polite no thanks?

I get those emails......

My first thought is always "how on earth did they know

I've not said a word, honest guv

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's par for the course on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But when you have written yes please or no thanks several times over it gets a little tedious...especially when the "no thanks" are followed up with a "but why not message"...read the FAQs there's no obligation to respond to any message, and no response should be taken as a "no thanks""

This plus messages can move fast you can't always see them to delete them tbh

They can go if the inbox page within an hour at times if your having a conversation with someone

Stop looking at you sent box is a good idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've written no thank you thousands of times. It's not difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you get leaflets for Pizza & kebab shops through the door, do you phone them all to say no thanks

Not even remotely a good analogy...

It's an excellent analogy. Both unsolicited shite that you haven't asked for, or remotely interested in.However, at least the pizza leaflet has more intelligence and doesn't demand a reply. "

It's a shite analogy regardless of whether you think people should reply or not (and I don't particularly). People create profiles on the basis that (or at least it's reasonable to assume) they want people to message them. They can even use filters to eliminate certain criteria of people from messaging them.

In contrast there's no implication that people are encouraging pizza or kebab shops to mail them. They don't have statements pinned to their doors setting out the takeaways they are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Basically some messages profiles, just don't deserve replies

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

"ok you find a meet notice on the board,

you write a message,

you see that it is read,

and also not deleted,

but

no response

is it that difficult to write "yes please" or "no, thanks"... jees..."

It may save you the stress of the unknown if once you've sent a message you delete all from your sent box.

This would then stop you knowing what people have done .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ok you find a meet notice on the board,

you write a message,

you see that it is read,

and also not deleted,

but

no response

is it that difficult to write "yes please" or "no, thanks"... jees..."

A message deleted is to be taken as a polite no thank you as it states on the FAQs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ok you find a meet notice on the board,

you write a message,

you see that it is read,

and also not deleted,

but

no response

is it that difficult to write "yes please" or "no, thanks"... jees...

A message deleted is to be taken as a polite no thank you as it states on the FAQs "

It may say that on FAQ but actually it may not be the case. I've had messages deleted and the message was just missed by the woman, who bulk deletes old messages as a matter of course. If I'd just assumed that she was no longer interested I would have lost an interesting connection. If I deleted sent messages then I wouldn't have known it was deleted unread. Some of us really do put effort into our communication (both identifying relevant profiles and writing messages). Sometimes it's worth a bit more effort to ensure that isn't wasted...

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"ok you find a meet notice on the board,

you write a message,

you see that it is read,

and also not deleted,

but

no response

is it that difficult to write "yes please" or "no, thanks"... jees...

It may save you the stress of the unknown if once you've sent a message you delete all from your sent box.

This would then stop you knowing what people have done .

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Just received a huge hissy fit from a chap whose message I deleted. Told him I don't owe him anything, same thing I'd tell you OP.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

If the messages were interesting, they wouldn't get deleted/bulk deleted. It's normally the profiles that aren't very eye catching.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Its fab normal, not strange.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

"ok you find a meet notice on the board,

you write a message,

you see that it is read,

and also not deleted,

but

no response

is it that difficult to write "yes please" or "no, thanks"... jees...

A message deleted is to be taken as a polite no thank you as it states on the FAQs

And if you put the effort in that's great. However I would assume that you also accept that you can't have a rant or paddy and have to act like an adult because of the choice taken.

Unfortunately more people are the opposite of yourself and seem to turn into children when the response/action isn't to their liking

So good you

Wish more had your view

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you get leaflets for Pizza & kebab shops through the door, do you phone them all to say no thanks

Not even remotely a good analogy...

It's an excellent analogy. Both unsolicited shite that you haven't asked for, or remotely interested in.However, at least the pizza leaflet has more intelligence and doesn't demand a reply.

In contrast there's no implication that people are encouraging pizza or kebab shops to mail them. They don't have statements pinned to their doors setting out the takeaways they are looking for."

*point flies overhead*

Personally I think it's a great analogy.

Both behaviours and expectations are exactly the same...

Unwanted junk coming through that you've no interest in taking any further.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Personally I think "If" you send a good polite & what you think is an interesting message & "If" you fit all aspects of their profile then a response would be nice & usually we get one.

If you send nothing interesting other than "Your pics make me hard, wanna meet?" Or similar. Have a 5" when they ask for an 8", are 5'6" when they ask for 6'5" then you should expect fuck all..

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Personally I think "If" you send a good polite & what you think is an interesting message & "If" you fit all aspects of their profile then a response would be nice & usually we get one.

If you send nothing interesting other than "Your pics make me hard, wanna meet?" Or similar. Have a 5" when they ask for an 8", are 5'6" when they ask for 6'5" then you should expect fuck all..

Exactly what I think too

What kind of response would anyone give to messages such as "your pics are w**king material" (oh, yes, I get plenty of those)?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I think "If" you send a good polite & what you think is an interesting message & "If" you fit all aspects of their profile then a response would be nice & usually we get one.

If you send nothing interesting other than "Your pics make me hard, wanna meet?" Or similar. Have a 5" when they ask for an 8", are 5'6" when they ask for 6'5" then you should expect fuck all..

Exactly what I think too

What kind of response would anyone give to messages such as "your pics are w**king material" (oh, yes, I get plenty of those)?"

Lol had a few of them today. They just get blocked. The wankers

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"Personally I think "If" you send a good polite & what you think is an interesting message & "If" you fit all aspects of their profile then a response would be nice & usually we get one.

If you send nothing interesting other than "Your pics make me hard, wanna meet?" Or similar. Have a 5" when they ask for an 8", are 5'6" when they ask for 6'5" then you should expect fuck all..

Exactly what I think too

What kind of response would anyone give to messages such as "your pics are w**king material" (oh, yes, I get plenty of those)?"

"You go fella, glad I could be of service to those less fortunate than the guys I will meet"

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Personally I think "If" you send a good polite & what you think is an interesting message & "If" you fit all aspects of their profile then a response would be nice & usually we get one.

If you send nothing interesting other than "Your pics make me hard, wanna meet?" Or similar. Have a 5" when they ask for an 8", are 5'6" when they ask for 6'5" then you should expect fuck all..

Exactly what I think too

What kind of response would anyone give to messages such as "your pics are w**king material" (oh, yes, I get plenty of those)?

"You go fella, glad I could be of service to those less fortunate than the guys I will meet"

Thats cruel

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I've written no thank you thousands of times. It's not difficult."

Me too. I actually write a bit more than that and I copy the blurb into the private notes for each message so that I remember what's been said if there's another one at a later date. The record holder has ten notes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ok you find a meet notice on the board,

you write a message,

you see that it is read,

and also not deleted,

but

no response

is it that difficult to write "yes please" or "no, thanks"... jees...

A message deleted is to be taken as a polite no thank you as it states on the FAQs

And if you put the effort in that's great. However I would assume that you also accept that you can't have a rant or paddy and have to act like an adult because of the choice taken."

Absolutely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are not owed a reply. Read the FAQ. No reply means they arent interested. I agree you're not owed a reply but a no thank you would be polite "

But 200+ no thanks would be tedious and time consuming..... and pointless!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you get leaflets for Pizza & kebab shops through the door, do you phone them all to say no thanks

Not even remotely a good analogy...

It's an excellent analogy. Both unsolicited shite that you haven't asked for, or remotely interested in.However, at least the pizza leaflet has more intelligence and doesn't demand a reply.

In contrast there's no implication that people are encouraging pizza or kebab shops to mail them. They don't have statements pinned to their doors setting out the takeaways they are looking for."

But most couples/ladies do state what they are looking for. A friend of mine in Gloucester was quite specific with things such as local, straight guys only, no beards or beer bellies.

Why should she reply to a fat, bald, beardy, bi Scotsman....whose message was along the lines of 'hey blonde..fancy a fuck when I'm passing through.? Because that's the kind of messages she has received. Rather like a vegan being junk mailed by a steakhouse!

When you get junk mail.....do you rush out, buy stamps and reply to them all?

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"When you get leaflets for Pizza & kebab shops through the door, do you phone them all to say no thanks

Not even remotely a good analogy...

It's an excellent analogy. Both unsolicited shite that you haven't asked for, or remotely interested in.However, at least the pizza leaflet has more intelligence and doesn't demand a reply.

In contrast there's no implication that people are encouraging pizza or kebab shops to mail them. They don't have statements pinned to their doors setting out the takeaways they are looking for.

But most couples/ladies do state what they are looking for. A friend of mine in Gloucester was quite specific with things such as local, straight guys only, no beards or beer bellies.

When you get junk mail.....do you rush out, buy stamps and reply to them all?"

When we joined we didn't block anyone but despite H's penchant for a pussy rather than another cock the messages from guys chancing their arm outweighed those from females 30/1!!!

Ergo..guys blocked, there are some nice ones here but they are outnumbered by the arsehole or desperate by a big margin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you get leaflets for Pizza & kebab shops through the door, do you phone them all to say no thanks

Not even remotely a good analogy...

It's an excellent analogy. Both unsolicited shite that you haven't asked for, or remotely interested in.However, at least the pizza leaflet has more intelligence and doesn't demand a reply.

In contrast there's no implication that people are encouraging pizza or kebab shops to mail them. They don't have statements pinned to their doors setting out the takeaways they are looking for.

But most couples/ladies do state what they are looking for. A friend of mine in Gloucester was quite specific with things such as local, straight guys only, no beards or beer bellies.

When you get junk mail.....do you rush out, buy stamps and reply to them all?"

You really should read the posts you're replying to. I said it was a crap analogy (which it is), not that women should reply.

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