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I hate my new job :-/

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I just started a new job a few weeks, left an employer I worked for 8yrs and now I'm the newbie. ..

The team I am now working with are so cliquey and I feel like an outsider and it's really uncomfortable

Anyone who asks " how's the new job"

I'm saying " yeah its ok "

IT SUCKS !!

Feel better for saying it

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Oh no

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It will probably get better. It's a bit like fab, we were all new once and didn't fit in.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Give it some time, don't get upset. Be a bit patiant, just be yourself and smile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give it time, it's early days. Could you not suggest a night out? A few drinks and a laugh and it'll help break the ice.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Chances are there will be one or two 'ringleaders' that everyone follows but secretly hates.

Once you research the true dynamic of the office you can see who would be worth making friends with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give it time X

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

It took me a year to get truly comfortable in my current job. I love it now.

Give it a chance. organise something for the team. I did a bake Off for Sports Relief, and organised the Christmas Meal. Maybe bake some cupcakes to take in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stick at it and you'll feel like part of the furniture before you know it

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Stick at it and you'll feel like part of the furniture before you know it"
Sofa so good

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm probably just unsettled as Im used to working with a smaller dynamic of people ....

I hope I will fit in soon :-/

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I'm probably just unsettled as Im used to working with a smaller dynamic of people ....

I hope I will fit in soon :-/"

You will.

People can be really cliquey I wish they'd remember what being new was like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm really sorry to hear that

I started a new job three months ago and I love it, but it took a few weeks to acclimatise.

Give it time and maybe set a deadline. If you still hate it in x amount of weeks/months then look for something else.

Always remember you have options. I hope it works out. Good luck

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I've been employed in jobs I disliked, I guess I was always lucky that the other folk I worked with made the job tolerable, I used the employr as a paid employment service continued working for them while seeking alternate employment...

Hope things sort themselves out op ..if not paid employment service.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been in my job for 13 year and it's all new staff that are coming in and I feel like an outsider, so I know how you feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Identify who was the newbie before u... Quiz them..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Offer to make everyone a round of tea/coffee a few times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I just started a new job a few weeks, left an employer I worked for 8yrs and now I'm the newbie. ..

The team I am now working with are so cliquey and I feel like an outsider and it's really uncomfortable

Anyone who asks " how's the new job"

I'm saying " yeah its ok "

IT SUCKS !!

Feel better for saying it "

Aw bless you doll! It'll get better. I hate being the new girl top. Big hugs!

Eve. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will be alright OP; be yourself, don't change to fit in... be who you are and let people warm to you. Deep breaths, you WILL get there

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london


"Chances are there will be one or two 'ringleaders' that everyone follows but secretly hates.

Once you research the true dynamic of the office you can see who would be worth making friends with "

This is so true.

Try to relax and smile (though inwardly this may be difficult), project nice thoughts towards them all, then gradually you will find them gravitating towards you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I just started a new job a few weeks, left an employer I worked for 8yrs and now I'm the newbie. ..

The team I am now working with are so cliquey and I feel like an outsider and it's really uncomfortable

Anyone who asks " how's the new job"

I'm saying " yeah its ok "

IT SUCKS !!

Feel better for saying it "

Exactly what's happening to me too!

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By *hloe sussexTV/TS
over a year ago

Larne


"So I just started a new job a few weeks, left an employer I worked for 8yrs and now I'm the newbie. ..

The team I am now working with are so cliquey and I feel like an outsider and it's really uncomfortable

Anyone who asks " how's the new job"

I'm saying " yeah its ok "

IT SUCKS !!

Feel better for saying it "

Stick at it be strong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I just started a new job a few weeks, left an employer I worked for 8yrs and now I'm the newbie. ..

The team I am now working with are so cliquey and I feel like an outsider and it's really uncomfortable

Anyone who asks " how's the new job"

I'm saying " yeah its ok "

You are the newbie, give it a chance, you left your old job for a reason

IT SUCKS !!

Feel better for saying it "

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By *huckzMan
over a year ago

spalding


"So I just started a new job a few weeks, left an employer I worked for 8yrs and now I'm the newbie. ..

The team I am now working with are so cliquey and I feel like an outsider and it's really uncomfortable

Anyone who asks " how's the new job"

I'm saying " yeah its ok "

Then find another job or quit jeez

IT SUCKS !!

Feel better for saying it "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I just started a new job a few weeks, left an employer I worked for 8yrs and now I'm the newbie. ..

The team I am now working with are so cliquey and I feel like an outsider and it's really uncomfortable

Anyone who asks " how's the new job"

I'm saying " yeah its ok "

IT SUCKS !!

Feel better for saying it "

Know how you feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give it a bit longer. It's really hard when you move to a new team who have their own dynamic and their own politics. It can take a while to break into that. Hope you feel a bit better about it soon.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It is a clique at first. They know each other and what they'll tolerate from each other. In your old organisation of 8 years, everyone new coming in felt you were part of a clique. The next person that comes in will see you as part of that same clique.

Remember why you wanted the job. You didn't apply to somewhere to make new friends. Work on getting to grips with that and decide whether it is really a role you want. If it is then make life easier by getting to know your colleagues.

Instant work friendships rarely work. Take the time to understand who your allies are and who you need to be watch.

It's always hard starting a new job so don't beat yourself up about something that doesn't pay your salary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I just started a new job a few weeks, left an employer I worked for 8yrs and now I'm the newbie. ..

The team I am now working with are so cliquey and I feel like an outsider and it's really uncomfortable

Anyone who asks " how's the new job"

I'm saying " yeah its ok "

IT SUCKS !!

Feel better for saying it

Know how you feel. "

I'm desperately looking for a new job - costing me £45-£50 a week to travel to work every week and also on the road and hour and fifteen minutes every day. My big worry is how will I cope in a new environment. Keep telling yourself to stay strong - relationships develop in time x Have hope and just be yourself xx

Let us know how you get on x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I just started a new job a few weeks, left an employer I worked for 8yrs and now I'm the newbie. ..

The team I am now working with are so cliquey and I feel like an outsider and it's really uncomfortable

Anyone who asks " how's the new job"

I'm saying " yeah its ok "

IT SUCKS !!

Feel better for saying it

Know how you feel.

I'm desperately looking for a new job - costing me £45-£50 a week to travel to work every week and also on the road and hour and fifteen minutes every day. My big worry is how will I cope in a new environment. Keep telling yourself to stay strong - relationships develop in time x Have hope and just be yourself xx

Let us know how you get on x

"

Ouch, that's a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the trade I've being training for. Looking forward to the near year and getting into the construction industry.

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