FabSwingers.com forum: Safety Measures before meeting strangers?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If planning a sexual encounter .... what are yours or do you just go with your gutt feelings about a person after chating on here ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to build up to a meet and chat on the phone etc before meeting, it's different for a Lady as their more vunerable normaly.

Gut feelings are important but we can get them wrong sometimes as I was a while ago when I was set up

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By *waymanMan
over a year ago

newcastle

"If planning a sexual encounter .... what are yours or do you just go with your gutt feelings about a person after chating on here ? "

Social meet on neutral territory.

Then trust my instincts.

I quite like to pay for lunch or dinner with a credit card - so the other party can see I'm comfortable leaving a paper trail.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I hide knives and weapons around the house..... never more than an arms reach from a blade and I have disguised two baseball bats as floor lamps.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I try and avoid chatting to strange men but my knee skills are perfected for the knee in the bollocks..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always met socially before arranging a play meet. Not all social meets end in play meets as no chemistry.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I usually wear a suit of armour. (With cock trap door)

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Well if they want to meet me after I clearly state I'm an axe murder on my profile then I guess their okay.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I don't really have any safety measures,just a huge hubby

If I was single then it would be a different matter entirely and I could possibly make myself paranoid to the point I would never meet anyone

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"I usually wear a suit of armour. (With cock trap door)"

You made your trap door out of cock

I just thought they were feather pants

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I do like to meet socially first if possible.

I always take my chemistry set and do a few experiments to see if we get on first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd advise anyone planning a social meet with a stranger to treat it a bit like hillwalking.

Tell someone you trust where you're going, who you're going with and when you expect to be back.

Agree what they'll do and when in the event you don't contact them after the meet.

Make sure you have the right equipment (condoms etc).

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"I'd advise anyone planning a social meet with a stranger to treat it a bit like hillwalking.

Don't do it at night and be prepared to get blisters?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd advise anyone planning a social meet with a stranger to treat it a bit like hillwalking.

Don't do it at night and be prepared to get blisters?

Hillwalking at night is great fun, especially at this time of the year when it hardly gets really dark at all.

There's a long tradition of walking up Ben Lomond overnight at midsummer to watch the sunrise. It can get a bit like Sauchiehall Street up there.

Blisters are no fun. A wee drop Liquid Silk might help.

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By *heWolfMan
over a year ago

warwickshire

"Blisters are no fun. A wee drop Liquid Silk might help."

Um, I think a visit to the GUM clinic would be more appropriate.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Blisters are no fun. A wee drop Liquid Silk might help.

Um, I think a visit to the GUM clinic would be more appropriate. "

Do they do feet?

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By *heWolfMan
over a year ago

warwickshire

"If planning a sexual encounter .... what are yours or do you just go with your gutt feelings about a person after chating on here ? "

Gut feelings, I like to look someone square in the eyes to get the measure of them - "The eyes are the window to the soul".

I'm kinda big and ugly enough to look after myself, but maybe bells would ring if someone won't meet my gaze or if body language isn't quite right.

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By *heWolfMan
over a year ago

warwickshire

"Blisters are no fun. A wee drop Liquid Silk might help.

Um, I think a visit to the GUM clinic would be more appropriate.

Do they do feet?"

Depends. I'm sure Fergie's doc had to be an all-rounder after her trysts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even if I have had a social meet before a play meet, I still have security measures in place, I have CCTV at my front door, I have an arrangement with my nextdoor neighbours that I will text them the moment the meet arrives and if they have not received another text from me within 90 mins they will text me, if I do not reply to the text within 10 mins they will come to my flat, which they have the key for, these measures were put into place as I did have a meet turn nasty when I first started swinging, so far it has worked well

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Make sure i get to know them well enough via the computer and telephone and after that use my gut instinct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when i meet someone

i always cam then talk on the phone and meet socially 1st

this way find is safer x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Make sure i get to know them well enough via the computer and telephone and after that use my gut instinct"

gut instint very rarely lets me down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I have safety measures in place and if i am unsure I will wait.

I will keep my phone on me at all times, and someone will know where I am going and when, also they will check in and I have code words for different situations :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have just walked out on a social said bye and im off

as the person wasnt floating my boat and i wasnt interested

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"i have just walked out on a social said bye and im off

as the person wasnt floating my boat and i wasnt interested "

HAHAHA good one...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work with veifies, calls,cams... I rarely do social meets unless its actually a social event.I can meet and if chemistry isnt there thats fine, but I research who I'm meeting and most times we have already planned the next step in our meet...yup, its shagging!

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

I usually arrange a quick social meet but not always. I do however make it clear before the meet that I will not play unless both parties agree.

I always speak on the phone first and ALWAYS go with my gut instinct. Any doubt at all and I dont go.

I get their home address in advance and if I dont know the area I do a quick google to try and find out as much as possible - have even been known to check out street view to give me a better idea...

I phone them just before I leave and if I dont speak to them then I dont go.

I let a friend from here know that Im going on a meet and I leave the computer logged on to fab on their profile page, with the address and phone number by the side of the lappy if those details are not in a pm.

I sometimes text my friend when I get there, but always when I leave.

Gawd it makes me sound paranoid when I write it down like this, but better to be safe than sorry I guess...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i have just walked out on a social said bye and im off

as the person wasnt floating my boat and i wasnt interested

HAHAHA good one...

he texted me for days after asking me why did i leave him

i replied as he wasnt for me and he was a winger

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"i have just walked out on a social said bye and im off

as the person wasnt floating my boat and i wasnt interested

HAHAHA good one...

he texted me for days after asking me why did i leave him

i replied as he wasnt for me and he was a winger

HAHA some just don't get the hint..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chat for a while on here first, social meet and always tell a friend the profile name and address etc of the other person.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

In all seriousness for a moment…. if I felt I had to consciously put a list of actions in place before meeting someone as safety measures…. me personally, I’d stop meeting people.

There are things I do without thinking about it… not deleting messages, looking up addresses on google map and not deleting browser histories, text messages, using satnav and so on…. all things which make a trail.

But let’s face it, them is the trails for catchin’ murderers… and by the time they are useful, it’s too late…. but I can die safe in the knowledge that the fecker will be caught.

You can arrange to be in contact with someone every 60 seconds…. you could have already been punched 10 times in the first 15…. leaving 45 seconds to kick the fuck out of you on the floor. If it’s gonna happen it’s gonna happen just because they are that type of person.

The thing to really think about is… people do all of their safety list stuff with the people they don’t know and then start to drop their guard after they have played once or twice. Some of the most dangerous, twisted, sickos expect this and are very, very, very patient. The majority of rapes in the UK are committed by people the victim knew and trusted.

If my gut instinct is telling me “be careful” … the most careful thing I can do is meet someone else instead.

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By *heWolfMan
over a year ago

warwickshire

"i have just walked out on a social said bye and im off

as the person wasnt floating my boat and i wasnt interested

HAHAHA good one...

he texted me for days after asking me why did i leave him

i replied as he wasnt for me and he was a winger

HAHA some just don't get the hint..

Don't you think it would have been more polite to have actually said that in the first place, rather than leaving him unsure exactly what the fuck was going on? Isn't that common courtesy?

If you tell him straight, he knows where he stands, no scope for misinterpretation, end of story.

It's true, some people don't get hints, seriously, so if you get bombarded with texts and mail afterwards, you only have yourself to blame for not making yourself clear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i have just walked out on a social said bye and im off

as the person wasnt floating my boat and i wasnt interested

HAHAHA good one...

he texted me for days after asking me why did i leave him

i replied as he wasnt for me and he was a winger

HAHA some just don't get the hint..

Don't you think it would have been more polite to have actually said that in the first place, rather than leaving him unsure exactly what the fuck was going on? Isn't that common courtesy?

If you tell him straight, he knows where he stands, no scope for misinterpretation, end of story.

It's true, some people don't get hints, seriously, so if you get bombarded with texts and mail afterwards, you only have yourself to blame for not making yourself clear."

EXACTLY a case of a girl claiming to be "on her way"- late at nite, travelling by bus...refuses to answer her text or a call..... she was fine tho... seen her online 3hrs later!

some of us have genuine concern for others, and If u know someone close to u in the swinging sense I dont think its that bad an idea to inform tem who u are meeting, sorry if it sounds like an invasion of privacy but I have friends I know would hate for something to happen to me!

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