FabSwingers.com forum: Bbw's has Fab enhanced your life

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Have you ladies found that Fab has helped your self imagine?

I read these forums and all the men seem to love BBW's in every thread.

So is this the new thing in the U.K. Dating scene ? or is Fab just full of men that prefer bigger ladies....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No to be honest, it's made it worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you ladies found that Fab has helped your self imagine?

I read these forums and all the men seem to love BBW's in every thread.

So is this the new thing in the U.K. Dating scene ? or is Fab just full of men that prefer bigger ladies...."

They may prefer them on here but out in the real world it seems to be a different story

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No to be honest, it's made it worse "

How so?

I see on the forums daily bbw appreciation threads..... and looking at your profile you have plenty of verifications.. Am I missing something?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you ladies found that Fab has helped your self imagine?

I read these forums and all the men seem to love BBW's in every thread.

So is this the new thing in the U.K. Dating scene ? or is Fab just full of men that prefer bigger ladies...."

Nope. It's just lip service, as displayed on most hotlist/fancy a fuck type threads. Very rarely does a larger lady get mentioned on those. Curvy ladies get mentioned, but never the BBW's.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you ladies found that Fab has helped your self imagine?

I read these forums and all the men seem to love BBW's in every thread.

So is this the new thing in the U.K. Dating scene ? or is Fab just full of men that prefer bigger ladies....

They may prefer them on here but out in the real world it seems to be a different story

Interesting post.... With women getting 500 messages daily. I would think you would be beating the men away with a stick. Looking at people's verifications. Doesn't meeting on fab end up in the real world?

Reading the forums men are quoted as saying they don't care about a woman's size it's her confidence and they love larger ladies.

I would think those men would be eager to meet and date.

Now if I had all this attention from women in my inbox .....let's say just 100 emails a week... I'm sure I could find one lady to date.

This place is getting confusing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The really world is so different to on here. There is so much pressure to be slim.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you ladies found that Fab has helped your self imagine?

I read these forums and all the men seem to love BBW's in every thread.

So is this the new thing in the U.K. Dating scene ? or is Fab just full of men that prefer bigger ladies....

Nope. It's just lip service, as displayed on most hotlist/fancy a fuck type threads. Very rarely does a larger lady get mentioned on those. Curvy ladies get mentioned, but never the BBW's.

I don't read those threads you speak of ...but every thread I read the majority of men are very positive to all the women . They usually give many compliments and let the ladies know they are beautiful..

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Have you ladies found that Fab has helped your self imagine?

I read these forums and all the men seem to love BBW's in every thread.

So is this the new thing in the U.K. Dating scene ? or is Fab just full of men that prefer bigger ladies....

They may prefer them on here but out in the real world it seems to be a different story

Reading the forums men are quoted as saying they don't care about a woman's size it's her confidence and they love larger ladies.

I would think those men would be eager to meet and date.

Now if I had all this attention from women in my inbox .....let's say just 100 emails a week... I'm sure I could find one lady to date.

This place is getting confusing... "

What women get 500 messages a day? Even when I was very active I never got 500 messages a day!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Have you ladies found that Fab has helped your self imagine?

I read these forums and all the men seem to love BBW's in every thread.

So is this the new thing in the U.K. Dating scene ? or is Fab just full of men that prefer bigger ladies....

Nope. It's just lip service, as displayed on most hotlist/fancy a fuck type threads. Very rarely does a larger lady get mentioned on those. Curvy ladies get mentioned, but never the BBW's.

Because they want a fuck.... Really quite simple.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The really world is so different to on here. There is so much pressure to be slim. "

I'm not doubting you.... but reading profiles and verifications. Fab seems like a friendly place for everyone.

You guys have socials , clubs and parties weekly and everyone is included. All shapes and sizes , So you all know each other in the real world. Where is this pressure to be skinny you speak of ? at socials , club , or parties?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you ladies found that Fab has helped your self imagine?

I read these forums and all the men seem to love BBW's in every thread.

So is this the new thing in the U.K. Dating scene ? or is Fab just full of men that prefer bigger ladies....

Nope. It's just lip service, as displayed on most hotlist/fancy a fuck type threads. Very rarely does a larger lady get mentioned on those. Curvy ladies get mentioned, but never the BBW's.

Because they want a fuck.... Really quite simple. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you ladies found that Fab has helped your self imagine?

I read these forums and all the men seem to love BBW's in every thread.

So is this the new thing in the U.K. Dating scene ? or is Fab just full of men that prefer bigger ladies....

Nope. It's just lip service, as displayed on most hotlist/fancy a fuck type threads. Very rarely does a larger lady get mentioned on those. Curvy ladies get mentioned, but never the BBW's.

Because they want a fuck.... Really quite simple. "

Yes , but start reading a few women's profiles... they usually meet in public for a social first... you know kinda like a date

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you ladies found that Fab has helped your self imagine?

I read these forums and all the men seem to love BBW's in every thread.

So is this the new thing in the U.K. Dating scene ? or is Fab just full of men that prefer bigger ladies....

They may prefer them on here but out in the real world it seems to be a different story

Reading the forums men are quoted as saying they don't care about a woman's size it's her confidence and they love larger ladies.

I would think those men would be eager to meet and date.

Now if I had all this attention from women in my inbox .....let's say just 100 emails a week... I'm sure I could find one lady to date.

This place is getting confusing...

What women get 500 messages a day? Even when I was very active I never got 500 messages a day! "

Do a forum search of men not getting a response... they standard answer is women get 100-500 messages a day , if they answered every message with a no thank you..They would need a full time assistant. So they just delete and block because it saves them abuse.

So are these women lying or am I illiterate?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"The really world is so different to on here. There is so much pressure to be slim.

I'm not doubting you.... but reading profiles and verifications. Fab seems like a friendly place for everyone.

Everywhere! Do you live in a bubble? TV, news, movies, music videos, the recent Facebook trend of 'have you seen xxx' where fat women who don't conform to the body beautiful are ridiculed.

Most men on here think with their dicks and they think plying fat women with nice words will get them what they want. For the most part it does but they would be foolish if they thought the women didn't know what they were up to but used them anyhow.

Of course there are some men who do genuinely like bigger women. Quite a lot of them attend my bbw nights in fact.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Have you ladies found that Fab has helped your self imagine?

I read these forums and all the men seem to love BBW's in every thread.

So is this the new thing in the U.K. Dating scene ? or is Fab just full of men that prefer bigger ladies....

They may prefer them on here but out in the real world it seems to be a different story

Reading the forums men are quoted as saying they don't care about a woman's size it's her confidence and they love larger ladies.

I would think those men would be eager to meet and date.

Now if I had all this attention from women in my inbox .....let's say just 100 emails a week... I'm sure I could find one lady to date.

This place is getting confusing...

What women get 500 messages a day? Even when I was very active I never got 500 messages a day!

So are these women lying or am I illiterate?"

They are exaggerating a point I would say in order to justify themselves for not replying to all messages.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

No effect what so ever

As confident in myself now as I was before joining fab. I won't be for everyone, same as everyone won't be for me.

As with a night on the town, I Take most of the compliments I get on here with a pinch of salt, in both scenarios they're from guys trying to get into your knickers. I'm not saying they're aren't some that aren't genuine with their compliments but there's a proportion that are just after getting their end away

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Have you ladies found that Fab has helped your self imagine?

I read these forums and all the men seem to love BBW's in every thread.

So is this the new thing in the U.K. Dating scene ? or is Fab just full of men that prefer bigger ladies....

Nope. It's just lip service, as displayed on most hotlist/fancy a fuck type threads. Very rarely does a larger lady get mentioned on those. Curvy ladies get mentioned, but never the BBW's.

Because they want a fuck.... Really quite simple.

Yes , but start reading a few women's profiles... they usually meet in public for a social first... you know kinda like a date"

It's not like a date at all. This is not a dating site and the end goal of meeting in public is always to get their dick wet. Always ulterior motives.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Have you ladies found that Fab has helped your self imagine?

I read these forums and all the men seem to love BBW's in every thread.

So is this the new thing in the U.K. Dating scene ? or is Fab just full of men that prefer bigger ladies....

Nope. It's just lip service, as displayed on most hotlist/fancy a fuck type threads. Very rarely does a larger lady get mentioned on those. Curvy ladies get mentioned, but never the BBW's.

Because they want a fuck.... Really quite simple. "

That's cynical Evie, but sadly quite possibly true for a lot of the desperate guys on here

Pretty sure there are quite a lot of us who wouldn't compliment someone they didn't like just to get a fuck though ? But hey I could be wrong

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The really world is so different to on here. There is so much pressure to be slim.

I'm not doubting you.... but reading profiles and verifications. Fab seems like a friendly place for everyone.

Everywhere! Do you live in a bubble? TV, news, movies, music videos, the recent Facebook trend of 'have you seen xxx' where fat women who don't conform to the body beautiful are ridiculed.

Of course there are some men who do genuinely like bigger women. Quite a lot of them attend my bbw nights in fact. "

So you run a night for big beautiful women and men pay come to your party because they love a big beautiful women.... and you feel pressure to be skinny from society. Wouldn't that put you out of business ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No effect what so ever

As confident in myself now as I was before joining fab. I won't be for everyone, same as everyone won't be for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab has given me experiences I wouldn't have thought to look for in my day to day life.

I'm a big fattie but luckily I'm a pretty one so I never was short of offers for filthy encounters with gorgeous chaps before. Your post kinda reads like fab is the only place big fatties can pull. There is also a place called Blackpool.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Have you ladies found that Fab has helped your self imagine?

I read these forums and all the men seem to love BBW's in every thread.

So is this the new thing in the U.K. Dating scene ? or is Fab just full of men that prefer bigger ladies....

Nope. It's just lip service, as displayed on most hotlist/fancy a fuck type threads. Very rarely does a larger lady get mentioned on those. Curvy ladies get mentioned, but never the BBW's.

Because they want a fuck.... Really quite simple.

That's cynical Evie, but sadly quite possibly true for a lot of the desperate guys on here

Pretty sure there are quite a lot of us who wouldn't compliment someone they didn't like just to get a fuck though ? But hey I could be wrong"

Cynical it may be and it doesn't apply to all guys but you'd be a fool to believe it doesn't happen very often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you ladies found that Fab has helped your self imagine?

I read these forums and all the men seem to love BBW's in every thread.

So is this the new thing in the U.K. Dating scene ? or is Fab just full of men that prefer bigger ladies...."
many of the guys that approach bigger ladies do so because they think that flattery will get them sex.... Mr genuinely prefers bigger ladies but from over a decade and actually nearer 2 in swinging.. I find him in the minority

Im 6 stone down now and about 5 more to go... but fab doesn't increase my confidence as mostly its insincere comments.. from guys that think a bit of flattery and a big girl is easy.

There are exceptions to this but not as many as fab would have you believe x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"The really world is so different to on here. There is so much pressure to be slim.

I'm not doubting you.... but reading profiles and verifications. Fab seems like a friendly place for everyone.

Everywhere! Do you live in a bubble? TV, news, movies, music videos, the recent Facebook trend of 'have you seen xxx' where fat women who don't conform to the body beautiful are ridiculed.

Of course there are some men who do genuinely like bigger women. Quite a lot of them attend my bbw nights in fact.

No because even though there is societal pressure for people to be skinny it obviously isn't going to happen overnight and people will still be big for years to come.

You only have to look at the booming weight loss industry to know that the pressure is there, it is real, and it is in your face daily. Again, only a fool would think it is non existent.

If everyone woke up tomorrow skinny there would be something else for the world to focus on to make us want to change.

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By *iamonddave84Man
over a year ago

Hereford

"The really world is so different to on here. There is so much pressure to be slim. "
the pressure to be slim just isn't on ladies and think its the same for guys too finding this myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give women a bit more credit in that they can see through baseless compliments and fawning undertaken by men who are trying to get laid. If a man is being complimentary towards all women on threads, as you've suggested a lot do, then it's no longer a compliment, it's a simpering, sycophantic idiot who thinks that's how they'll get laid. And I'm sure it probably works on some women but I'd expect the majority to have a bit more sense than that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Fab has given me experiences I wouldn't have thought to look for in my day to day life.

Hmmmm I was pointing out men are very complimentary on Fab to curvy/bbw women. I work with men and I have never heard the compliments I read on here daily ..... said about women in threads.

So I asking if this is spilling out into the dating world.

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By *horehouseprincessWoman
over a year ago

small town near Munich

Too often guys things a fattie would be desperate enough not to say no to them.

I'm not saying there arent any genuine guys out there who mean what they say but experiences has taught me well. And nothing good tbh.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

No not at all really, i think on here they just say what women want to hear so they can get some sex and be liked.

Most men would rather have a young slim woman but they cant always get one so they settle for what they can get. There are some men who arent bothered about size though, After i put on a stone i was surprised when a good looking younger man i met wasnt put off by my size and wanted to have sex with me and said he liked curvy women.

I noticed when he met a woman who was 20 years younger than me and a lot slimmer he left her a verification saying how good looking she was. You see men leaving slim women verifications saying what a nice slim fit body they have, then the ones they leave for cuddly women will say they were nice or they took it up the arse.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Give women a bit more credit in that they can see through baseless compliments and fawning undertaken by men who are trying to get laid. If a man is being complimentary towards all women on threads, as you've suggested a lot do, then it's no longer a compliment, it's a simpering, sycophantic idiot who thinks that's how they'll get laid. And I'm sure it probably works on some women but I'd expect the majority to have a bit more sense than that. "

So when I read quotes like ... I've always dated larger women... I love a big belly on a woman... I married a bbw .... I would be proud to take a bbw on my arm to my company Christmas party.

These men are liars and being deceitful....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No not at all really, i think on here they just say what women want to hear so they can get some sex and be liked.

Hmmm so how do women suss out the men who truly like bigger women ?

Do you have a 3 date no sex policy ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So when I read quotes like ... I've always dated larger women... I love a big belly on a woman... I married a bbw .... I would be proud to take a bbw on my arm to my company Christmas party.

These men are liars and being deceitful.... "

Not necessarily. But I've read posts like that from men who then on the next "who's on your hotlist" or "who has the hottest pics on fab" thread is extolling the virtues of someone who is a size 8. I can think of an example I read very recently where a guy who kept claiming to love the fuller figure posted who was on his hotlist and, lo and behold, they were all slim.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Have you ladies found that Fab has helped your self imagine?

I read these forums and all the men seem to love BBW's in every thread.

So is this the new thing in the U.K. Dating scene ? or is Fab just full of men that prefer bigger ladies....

Nope. It's just lip service, as displayed on most hotlist/fancy a fuck type threads. Very rarely does a larger lady get mentioned on those. Curvy ladies get mentioned, but never the BBW's.

Because they want a fuck.... Really quite simple.

That's cynical Evie, but sadly quite possibly true for a lot of the desperate guys on here

Pretty sure there are quite a lot of us who wouldn't compliment someone they didn't like just to get a fuck though ? But hey I could be wrong

Cynical it may be and it doesn't apply to all guys but you'd be a fool to believe it doesn't happen very often. "

Not a fool and I didn't say it doesn't happen quite often, some men really are just after a fuck.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

BBW is not a term I use myself, but as a fat woman Fab has "enhanced" my life the same way online shopping has: I don't have to trawl the streets looking for what I want I look, select, never collect, have what I want delivered to my door!

I'm well off, smart, have a growing family, have people in my life who love me...I'm truly blessed. Men saying what they assume I want to hear to get a fuck have zero effect on my confidence or self worth.

I've been married, dated, current partner met on here when I was a size 24...never had a problem getting men, getting rid of them an entirely different story!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So when I read quotes like ... I've always dated larger women... I love a big belly on a woman... I married a bbw .... I would be proud to take a bbw on my arm to my company Christmas party.

These men are liars and being deceitful....

Wow

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"BBW is not a term I use myself, but as a fat woman Fab has "enhanced" my life the same way online shopping has: I don't have to trawl the streets looking for what I want I look, select, never collect, have what I want delivered to my door!

I've been married, dated, current partner met on here when I was a size 24...never had a problem getting men, getting rid of them an entirely different story!

I've read some of your posts.... you have a sharp tongue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would prefer someone to like me for me and not some fetish

Most the guys who message me wouldn't go out in public with me as I'm big

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The really world is so different to on here. There is so much pressure to be slim.

I'm not doubting you.... but reading profiles and verifications. Fab seems like a friendly place for everyone.

I've never been to socials or parties so I can't comment on those. I mean pressure in my every day life from those I'm in close contact with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me if anything it's made me more self-conscious about my body

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I've been married, dated, current partner met on here when I was a size 24...never had a problem getting men, getting rid of them an entirely different story!

I've read some of your posts.... you have a sharp tongue "

I don't play to the gallery so my comments may appear harsh.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"No not at all really, i think on here they just say what women want to hear so they can get some sex and be liked.

Hmmm so how do women suss out the men who truly like bigger women ?

Do you have a 3 date no sex policy ?"

I dont worry about it too much but i try and take my time deciding who to meet, i want to meet men who like the same things as me who i will be compatable with. Anyway they may prefer slim women but thats ok because i would prefer lots of other things too myself but you cant always get what you want in this life.

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By *retty FolliesCouple (FF)
over a year ago

south

"No not at all really, i think on here they just say what women want to hear so they can get some sex and be liked.

So many men do not do oral on a big woman either.....heard many times men in clubs or private parties say they only do penetrationon with fat woman because lfting their stomach up for oral and the fact that they sweat so much beause of it makes them feel sick......if they cannot look after themselves as far as weight goes....what parts can they look after..so they say at least penetration with a condom keeps them safe.......now these are words heard from many men in clubs etc.....got to say it would also put my partner off too...but we only watch as we only play togethet....but then some men on here like you say will do and say anything to get a shag...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The really world is so different to on here. There is so much pressure to be slim.

I'm not doubting you.... but reading profiles and verifications. Fab seems like a friendly place for everyone.

Everywhere! Do you live in a bubble? TV, news, movies, music videos, the recent Facebook trend of 'have you seen xxx' where fat women who don't conform to the body beautiful are ridiculed.

Of course there are some men who do genuinely like bigger women. Quite a lot of them attend my bbw nights in fact. "

Absolutely this

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"No not at all really, i think on here they just say what women want to hear so they can get some sex and be liked.

Bet some of those same men will post on "menstrual sex" threads saying they love giving oral to women they meet off here whilst saying they won't give oral to fat women with blood free foofs!

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"No not at all really, i think on here they just say what women want to hear so they can get some sex and be liked.

Its true fat women do sweat more i always makes sure im very clean before i meet someone though obviously, it hasnt put many men off some enjoy giving oral and when im lying down they dont have to lift my stomach up because its flatter then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Made no difference to me, always had plenty of male attention in the real world and here, however I do think it's how you carry Yourself and the bigger picture, I spend time on my hair, I dress well, I make the most of what I have got.

The Mr is gym fit, likes boobs on a woman but it isn't neccesarily the bigger woman that he goes for but a woman as a whole. and he met me on here, we fell for each other when neither of us were looking for more.

All my ex's hadn't been with girls above a size 14 till they got with me, yet they all wanted long term relationships with me, not just fucks. Infact my sons dad only liked really skinny woman before I came along.... Yet now he is married to another BBW.

So what I'm trying to say is I think for a lot of men when they are looking for someone to settle down with they look for confidence, a woman who they can introduce to there mums, someone who takes care of there appearance and someone who has the same values and a good personality size often doesn't come into it.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I have to say though, regardless if their true attraction.... I have never met a guy unhappy to lick me out

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I have to say though, regardless if their true attraction.... I have never met a guy unhappy to lick me out

The only man reluctant to lick me out was my husband. Nothing to do with my size, his generation of black men seldom did oral!

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Some men are put off giving oral sex not because a womans big but because shes natural and not shaved, which is fair enough, not all men are though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you ladies found that Fab has helped your self imagine?

I read these forums and all the men seem to love BBW's in every thread.

So is this the new thing in the U.K. Dating scene ? or is Fab just full of men that prefer bigger ladies....

They may prefer them on here but out in the real world it seems to be a different story

Reading the forums men are quoted as saying they don't care about a woman's size it's her confidence and they love larger ladies.

I would think those men would be eager to meet and date.

Now if I had all this attention from women in my inbox .....let's say just 100 emails a week... I'm sure I could find one lady to date.

This place is getting confusing...

What women get 500 messages a day? Even when I was very active I never got 500 messages a day! "

Me neither

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So when I read quotes like ... I've always dated larger women... I love a big belly on a woman... I married a bbw .... I would be proud to take a bbw on my arm to my company Christmas party.

These men are liars and being deceitful....

Exactly!

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By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

"Made no difference to me, always had plenty of male attention in the real world and here, however I do think it's how you carry Yourself and the bigger picture, I spend time on my hair, I dress well, I make the most of what I have got.

I've always been a big gal, but, i carry it well, as they say

And my confidence and who i am has always attracted people to me. Regardless of what size I've been.

There is without doubt something sexy about someone that is comfortable within themselves, what ever size, shape or age they all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Based on dozens of messages we have had and also I have received on my singles profile, us bbws should be glad of the attention, we are obligated to sit on any rigid cock offered and if we don't we are then fat,ugly,desperate, frigid and any amount of awful names.

I tend to laugh it off cos I've had worse shit happen than getting called fat or a slag but there are those who are more delicate and it can really affect their confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is the difference for men is between the "slim, pretty and classy - trophy woman" they want on their arm in public as a girlfriend and the horny slut they want when their cocks are hard and they need a fuck.

Friends usually don't get to see the "fat" Fab woman so there is no need to compete. The men just want sex and go. What surprises them often is how much they like and enjoy the "fat" girl and often, shockingly, how much they then want them as a girlfriend.

The benefits of a sexy "fat" woman is a secret mature men appear to have discovered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with Ruby.

Men will say they love bbw's but when it comes to actually naming women either on their hotlist or for a calendar for example, surprise, surprise, not one bbw is named.

All the women named are slim or slim/curvy.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

You can tell the larger/curvier ladies that know their self worth, really enjoy their size and have a truly realistic appreciation for the fun Fab can bring. The way they conduct themselves reaffirms what strong independent self assured woman they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can tell the larger/curvier ladies that know their self worth, really enjoy their size and have a truly realistic appreciation for the fun Fab can bring. The way they conduct themselves reaffirms what strong independent self assured woman they are.

I don't believe the "really enjoy their size" part I'm afraid. I personally think women who are big would in all honesty prefer to be slim.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

As obvious as the size of their arses!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I don't believe the "really enjoy their size" part I'm afraid. I personally think women who are big would in all honesty prefer to be slim."

I think he means accepting and not beating themselves up about something they can change.

I've only ever failed in one thing I've set out to do and that is keep my weight in proportion to my height. Hardly rocket science is it...yet the siren call of anything delicious coupled with my natural aversion to exercise thwart my attempts.

Yeah...I want to be much slimmer and I know what to do but...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been on here at all sizes, ive been as big as a size 24 lost weight and went down to a size 12, i think most guys on here just talk bollocks

people say how many guys like big women, and when they do BBWs threads they all say how much they like 'curves' but you try finding a decent guy to meet when your 20 stone plus, i think a lot just don't want to seem shallow so say big women are sexy when they dont find them so

The amount of mail i get now compaired to before i lost weight is unreal, and the pics i have up now are from a couple of stones ago (yes i need new recent pics

)but i still get loads more mail

So i would like to know where all these big women lovers are because none ever mailed me

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

I don't believe the "really enjoy their size" part I'm afraid. I personally think women who are big would in all honesty prefer to be slim."

No i think they would rather be slim too and its not true about fat people being jolly either.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I don't believe the "really enjoy their size" part I'm afraid. I personally think women who are big would in all honesty prefer to be slim."

I mean they own the size they are and yes, they may prefer to be slimmer but they then would go and do something about it. They carry themselves with dignity and self respect and don't need to lambast everyone who speaks differently, make silly remarks about cake, or the fridge and snide remarks about slimmer ladies. They enjoy the site, the people they meet with confidence, not simpering needy validation.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I don't believe the "really enjoy their size" part I'm afraid. I personally think women who are big would in all honesty prefer to be slim."

Nah fuck that.....

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I don't believe the "really enjoy their size" part I'm afraid. I personally think women who are big would in all honesty prefer to be slim.

I knew what you meant!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I don't believe the "really enjoy their size" part I'm afraid. I personally think women who are big would in all honesty prefer to be slim.

I knew what you meant!

I knew you would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't believe the "really enjoy their size" part I'm afraid. I personally think women who are big would in all honesty prefer to be slim.

I agree about the silly remarks about cake etc and snide remarks about slimmer ladies

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I don't believe the "really enjoy their size" part I'm afraid. I personally think women who are big would in all honesty prefer to be slim.

I agree about the silly remarks about cake etc and snide remarks about slimmer ladies

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"Have you ladies found that Fab has helped your self imagine?

I read these forums and all the men seem to love BBW's in every thread.

So is this the new thing in the U.K. Dating scene ? or is Fab just full of men that prefer bigger ladies...."

I'm not a lady ...however ..

There's a statistic that admin put out that less than 1% of the sites users post in the forums so your _iew of all the men maybe skewed..

There are threads started frequently(by all genders) bemoaning various aspects , abuse, lack of success etc , I'd say fab can be a place to boost confidence ...it can also be a brutally hard place at times that can shake anyone's confidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there are fewer "BBW" ladies on here than the forum seem think.

When a thread about bigger women pops up - obviously bigger women are going to respond.

I think FAB has a wide variety of people all different shapes and sizes - it just that on a site where we post pictures of our bodies then weight, shape and size is obviously an issue.

We live in a world where beautiful people are worshipped and fab isn't any different.

Someone far more eloquent than me said earlier that some men like to have a secret fab fuck with a fat bird - but then he's surprised to find that he wants a relationship with her sometimes instead of the slimmer woman his mates approve of

Or something along those lines!

I'm not really sure what I'm trying to say lol....

But in a world where beauty and how much you don't eat is worshipped - let's let us bigger women get some attention - without it turning into a fat shaming thread.

Or a thread where bigger women are made to feel bad because this is just a fuck site!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, this was a depressing read, this morning! So much cynicism.

Right, I completely agree that slimmer is much more widely accepted... everywhere. However, I genuinely don't think it's just weight that plays a part. I'm a size 22, I'm pretty chunky. I'm not short of offers in the outside world or on here. I just refuse to think that's to simply get laid.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

If youre both fat it doesnt matter but not all fat men like fat women, one of the most overweight men i met once said he didnt like fat women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's nice to have the appreciation yes but the appreciation off my partner means much more

Kinky

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"If youre both fat it doesnt matter but not all fat men like fat women, one of the most overweight men i met once said he didnt like fat women."

I'm the fattest woman I know and don't find fat men sexually attractive...what's your point?

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"If youre both fat it doesnt matter but not all fat men like fat women, one of the most overweight men i met once said he didnt like fat women.

I'm the fattest woman I know and don't find fat men sexually attractive...what's your point?"

If a blokes fat its like he cant complain about you being fat really although hes perfectly entitled to of course. Not everyone has to find people sexualy attractive though do they. Your partner finds you attractive and hes slim. How does that work then, if you dont like fat men?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"If youre both fat it doesnt matter but not all fat men like fat women, one of the most overweight men i met once said he didnt like fat women.

I'm the fattest woman I know and don't find fat men sexually attractive...what's your point?

Do you mean as I'm fat I should like fat men? As a woman I should be a lesbian? As I'm Jamaican I should only like other Jamaicans?

Doesn't that sound ridiculous...if that's what you mean.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"If youre both fat it doesnt matter but not all fat men like fat women, one of the most overweight men i met once said he didnt like fat women.

I'm the fattest woman I know and don't find fat men sexually attractive...what's your point?

Do you mean as I'm fat I should like fat men? As a woman I should be a lesbian? As I'm Jamaican I should only like other Jamaicans?

Doesn't that sound ridiculous...if that's what you mean."

no i just thought if youre fat but dont like fat men its funny that your partner isnt fat but still likes you isnt it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They may prefer them on here but out in the real world it seems to be a different story

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Have you ladies found that Fab has helped your self imagine?

I read these forums and all the men seem to love BBW's in every thread.

So is this the new thing in the U.K. Dating scene ? or is Fab just full of men that prefer bigger ladies....

They may prefer them on here but out in the real world it seems to be a different story

Reading the forums men are quoted as saying they don't care about a woman's size it's her confidence and they love larger ladies.

I would think those men would be eager to meet and date.

Now if I had all this attention from women in my inbox .....let's say just 100 emails a week... I'm sure I could find one lady to date.

This place is getting confusing...

What women get 500 messages a day? Even when I was very active I never got 500 messages a day!

So are these women lying or am I illiterate?

They are exaggerating a point I would say in order to justify themselves for not replying to all messages. "
i dont bother exaggerating i've had that many and it doesnt 'slow down'..not all women are liars..

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By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

I don't believe the "really enjoy their size" part I'm afraid. I personally think women who are big would in all honesty prefer to be slim."

I don't want to be slim thanks very much

I'd like to be fitter and have less fat around my midsection, purely because of the health implications.

But I've never wanted to be slim, i like being voluptuous. Same as like having different coloured hair, a nose ring and tattoos

Not everyone subscribes to the homogenisation of what is attractive in women or men

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"If youre both fat it doesnt matter but not all fat men like fat women, one of the most overweight men i met once said he didnt like fat women.

I'm the fattest woman I know and don't find fat men sexually attractive...what's your point?

Do you mean as I'm fat I should like fat men? As a woman I should be a lesbian? As I'm Jamaican I should only like other Jamaicans?

Doesn't that sound ridiculous...if that's what you mean.

no i just thought if youre fat but dont like fat men its funny that your partner isnt fat but still likes you isnt it."

Why is that "funny"? Would you say the same to a white woman say, married to a white guy but only met black guys?

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By *lsd199Man
over a year ago

London

No one likes fatties

and there are plenty of desperate men on Fabs.

That's the explanation for you

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"No one likes fatties

and there are plenty of desperate men on Fabs.

That's the explanation for you"

...

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

It never fails to amaze me that larger ladies are referred to like a separated entity, we are just women you know, I should think most of us are on here for sexual scenarios and experiences rather than ego boosting because let's face it some of the stuff you read on here would break your confidence not help it grow

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By *-angel-XWoman
over a year ago

hell

"No one likes fatties

and there are plenty of desperate men on Fabs.

That's the explanation for you"

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By *aughtyladyYummymanCouple
over a year ago

In a place not far from Exeter

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By *aughtyladyYummymanCouple
over a year ago

In a place not far from Exeter

"Have you ladies found that Fab has helped your self imagine?

I read these forums and all the men seem to love BBW's in every thread.

So is this the new thing in the U.K. Dating scene ? or is Fab just full of men that prefer bigger ladies....

They may prefer them on here but out in the real world it seems to be a different story

Yep I would agree with that. Don't seem to have a problem shagging a bbw but wouldn't want to date one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No one likes fatties

and there are plenty of desperate men on Fabs.

That's the explanation for you"

Pmsl you are going to be popular with the lady's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

....

It's not like a date at all. This is not a dating site and the end goal of meeting in public is always to get their dick wet. Always ulterior motives. "

So are women then on this site to chat or look for partners like on usual dating sites??? I doubt it. Women just have the chance to be picky.

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By *ysnomiaMan
over a year ago

Preston

"Your post kinda reads like fab is the only place big fatties can pull. There is also a place called Blackpool. "

I need to go there more often then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No one likes fatties

and there are plenty of desperate men on Fabs.

That's the explanation for you

Open minded and polite?

Not good to lie you know

truth is harsh"

You can speak for the entire male population can you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cringe at the title of this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These threads always baffle me (Mr) slightly. It's as if all there is to a woman is her size/breasts/bum or whatever.

If a woman makes me laugh, a personality that clicks or just that certain something then I'm going to fancy her. Obviously dating her these days wouldn't go down well with my wife, but pre marriage I wouldn't of thought twice about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No one likes fatties

and there are plenty of desperate men on Fabs.

That's the explanation for you"

Just like no one likes Mr Bean lookalikes

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By *lsd199Man
over a year ago

London

"No one likes fatties

and there are plenty of desperate men on Fabs.

That's the explanation for you

Open minded and polite?

Not good to lie you know

truth is harsh

You can speak for the entire male population can you?"

For vast majority. You can look at this in any way you like.

No one likes anorexic girls and no one likes fatties.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"No one likes fatties

and there are plenty of desperate men on Fabs.

That's the explanation for you

Open minded and polite?

Not good to lie you know

truth is harsh

You can speak for the entire male population can you?

For vast majority. You can look at this in any way you like.

No one likes anorexic girls and no one likes fatties."

It appears you do. Because by very little stretch of the imagination, I'm a fattie.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"No one likes fatties

and there are plenty of desperate men on Fabs.

That's the explanation for you

Open minded and polite?

Not good to lie you know

truth is harsh

You can speak for the entire male population can you?

For vast majority. You can look at this in any way you like.

No one likes anorexic girls and no one likes fatties."

The vast majority is still not all

I know quite few men on this very forum in fact that are very open about the fact that they adore the larger lady and they've never dated a slim woman, the two I'm thinking of also manage to state that preference for the larger ladies without out be derogative towards slim women

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"If youre both fat it doesnt matter but not all fat men like fat women, one of the most overweight men i met once said he didnt like fat women.

I'm the fattest woman I know and don't find fat men sexually attractive...what's your point?

Do you mean as I'm fat I should like fat men? As a woman I should be a lesbian? As I'm Jamaican I should only like other Jamaicans?

Doesn't that sound ridiculous...if that's what you mean.

no i just thought if youre fat but dont like fat men its funny that your partner isnt fat but still likes you isnt it.

Why is that "funny"? Would you say the same to a white woman say, married to a white guy but only met black guys?

Maybe she got a bit bored with white men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm totally cool with someone not finding me attractive because of my weight but if they actively dislike me because of it then they have issues.

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By *oughnut and radoxWoman
over a year ago

Ashingdon

I find a lot of men like bbw in bed but don't like being seen in public with us, any one else agrees?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From the social meet experience when the truth usually comes out,most of the guys I've met are prepared to fcuk a fat one because the others have turned them down.

Fat women have standards too so personally I'd rather sit on it than fcuk a guy because he was willing to lower his standards.

Hence no further meets with said guy.

Thankfully there are some genuine guys here who are bbw friendly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find a lot of men like bbw in bed but don't like being seen in public with us, any one else agrees?"
good point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find a lot of men like bbw in bed but don't like being seen in public with us, any one else agrees?"

You are so 100% correct'.

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By *lsd199Man
over a year ago

London

"From the social meet experience when the truth usually comes out,most of the guys I've met are prepared to fcuk a fat one because the others have turned them down.

Fat women have standards too so personally I'd rather sit on it than fcuk a guy because he was willing to lower his standards.

Hence no further meets with said guy.

Thankfully there are some genuine guys here who are bbw friendly

Or maybe they are just good liars

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No one likes fatties

and there are plenty of desperate men on Fabs.

That's the explanation for you"

How did I know when I looked at your profile youd describe yourelf as athletic. Well I for one think your skinny.

And this fattie doesnt like skinny guys as Im afraid Ill squash them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I certainly not talking for all the men, but I do find voluptuous women very attractive and have no issues with being seen with them in public.

I would be so proud to walk in the street with Kery Marie or Rachel Khoo

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"I find a lot of men like bbw in bed but don't like being seen in public with us, any one else agrees?"

Some do some dont, most of the ones i met on dating sites didnt seem to mind. It doesnt matter on here though as i only meet them at my house.

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By *lsd199Man
over a year ago

London

"I find a lot of men like bbw in bed but don't like being seen in public with us, any one else agrees?

You are so 100% correct'.

Well, all this thread had everyone saying that these desperate men just likes to f*ck and they will f*ck anyone. Still you imply that they actually like BBWs and that is not correct. They just say they like BBWs to get in your bed

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By *lsd199Man
over a year ago

London

"I certainly not talking for all the men, but I do find voluptuous women very attractive and have no issues with being seen with them in public.

I would be so proud to walk in the street with Kery Marie or Rachel Khoo

We are not talking about voluptuous women, we are talking about BBWs

Different thing

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"I certainly not talking for all the men, but I do find voluptuous women very attractive and have no issues with being seen with them in public.

I would be so proud to walk in the street with Kery Marie or Rachel Khoo

We are not talking about voluptuous women, we are talking about BBWs

You might want to google keep Marie she's classified as a BBW

Different thing "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or fatties as you like to call us (kat)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Disheartening though it may be to hear people saying that the majority of men who compliment bbws and larger women are simply 'paying them lip service,' are motivated by the idea that they are 'easy/desperate,' or are 'settling for what they can get,' is it any wonder that such cynicism abounds?

Society is RELENTLESS in pushing the idea than only slim people can be considered beautiful or have a satisfying sex life.

Let's look at the facts:

Telesales channels are clogged to the rafters with adverts for 'home gymnasium' products, whey supplements, weight-loss potions and fad diet programs; all promising to make your 'unsightly' fat disappear.

Both men's and women's magazines invariably feature articles on how to get 'beach-body-ready,' lose weight, tone up etc, and feature adverts from 'MYA' and other cosmetic surgery clinics.

Celebrity endorsements of gastric bands and fad diets are feted on early-morning and daytime television; while the tabloid press constantly depicts 'fatties' as being lazy, work-shy, and parasitical; particularly if they are in receipt of benefits or government aid.

The Daily Mail stands out in terms of 'championing' the stereotypical 'thin=beautiful' line; publishing articles which depict large-breasted women and/or bbws as miserable, cynical and lonely - at least until they have mammoplasty, liposuction and various tucks and lifts...

Likewise, 'Real-Life' medical TV shows such as 'Embarrassing Bodies' treat people with 'undesirable' body shapes in a manner akin to exhibits in nineteenth century freakshows, playing upon the misery of the participants.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I certainly not talking for all the men, but I do find voluptuous women very attractive and have no issues with being seen with them in public.

I would be so proud to walk in the street with Kery Marie or Rachel Khoo

We are not talking about voluptuous women, we are talking about BBWs

Different thing "
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Different names for the same thing. Some would class BBW as size 16 and above. I think voluptuous is just the polite term for BBW with sizeable assets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a big woman never have had a shortage of male company on here or off here. Maybe because I'm confident take care of myself and as for oral never had a man yet not want to do it I'm trimmed down below. As for been a mans fat trophy shag all men I've been with always come back for more. x marie x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I certainly not talking for all the men, but I do find voluptuous women very attractive and have no issues with being seen with them in public.

I would be so proud to walk in the street with Kery Marie or Rachel Khoo

Unless Rachel Khoo has really tanked it on since the last time I saw one of her programmes, she's a size 12 at the most

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"I certainly not talking for all the men, but I do find voluptuous women very attractive and have no issues with being seen with them in public.

I would be so proud to walk in the street with Kery Marie or Rachel Khoo

Unless Rachel Khoo has really tanked it on since the last time I saw one of her programmes, she's a size 12 at the most

Yea Rachael's a size 12 Kery is a much larger lady though

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By *lsd199Man
over a year ago

London

"Disheartening though it may be to hear people saying that the majority of men who compliment bbws and larger women are simply 'paying them lip service,' are motivated by the idea that they are 'easy/desperate,' or are 'settling for what they can get,' is it any wonder that such cynicism abounds?

Society is RELENTLESS in pushing the idea than only slim people can be considered beautiful or have a satisfying sex life.

Let's look at the facts:

Both men's and women's magazines invariably feature articles on how to get 'beach-body-ready,' lose weight, tone up etc, and feature adverts from 'MYA' and other cosmetic surgery clinics.

So you are saying that we should accept obesity? Obesity leads to health problems, ask any doctor. British women are the most overweight in all Europe and british society is already too accepting on this problem

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Why do we have to have a "type" anyway?

It's swinging, and surely people on a swingers' site can appreciate that some people like variety.

The more I am on fabs, the more I realise that I don't have a physical type as such (insomuch as, I do, but its parameters are quite wide), I can't tell you what atracts me to someone until I've met them - which is why I like to have a social first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Society is RELENTLESS in pushing the idea than only slim people can be considered beautiful or have a satisfying sex life.

Let's look at the facts:

Both men's and women's magazines invariably feature articles on how to get 'beach-body-ready,' lose weight, tone up etc, and feature adverts from 'MYA' and other cosmetic surgery clinics.

Don't pretend you give a shit about the NHS when you've just posted in praise of anorexia.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I certainly not talking for all the men, but I do find voluptuous women very attractive and have no issues with being seen with them in public.

I would be so proud to walk in the street with Kery Marie or Rachel Khoo

Unless Rachel Khoo has really tanked it on since the last time I saw one of her programmes, she's a size 12 at the most

Yea Rachael's a size 12 Kery is a much larger lady though "

I didn't know her dress size tbh, but she is certainly not skinny or slim, I just find her more attractive than any kate moss. Size 12 or 20, I'd still find her very attractive, as much as I have a massive crush on Kery Marie.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Society is RELENTLESS in pushing the idea than only slim people can be considered beautiful or have a satisfying sex life.

Let's look at the facts:

Both men's and women's magazines invariably feature articles on how to get 'beach-body-ready,' lose weight, tone up etc, and feature adverts from 'MYA' and other cosmetic surgery clinics.

I actually think that the fitness industry is partly to blame for this. A lot of the time, a company is there to sell you some mental diet or suppliment that promises to magically help you lose weight.

This works well for the company because the diet is so ridiculous that people don't stick to it, fail and then go back to the way they were before buying another product...etc.

The actual answer (most of the time) of "eat less, move more" just seems very unglamourous, and there iusn't anything you can post on your instagram about that.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I certainly not talking for all the men, but I do find voluptuous women very attractive and have no issues with being seen with them in public.

I would be so proud to walk in the street with Kery Marie or Rachel Khoo

We are not talking about voluptuous women, we are talking about BBWs

Different thing "

What's the difference?

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

my auntie was a big woman she got diabetes 2 when she was in her 70s but she still lived until she was 90, i think it was because she was so laid back as stess isnt good for you, that and just lucky. I dont think its good to be overweight though, i have to watch my diet now because of diabetes 2 and high cholesterol and i dont want to take statins. Diabetes runs in our family but it doesnt help if you eat too much sugar and dont get much excercise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you are saying that we should accept obesity? Obesity leads to health problems, ask any doctor. British women are the most overweight in all Europe and british society is already too accepting on this problem"

I'm not saying that at all. What I'm saying is that we should speak out against the media's perpetuation of abusive stereotypes about obese people.

Is obesity a problem? Yes

Would I benefit from losing a few pounds? Maybe

Should obese people be demonised by the tabloid press, treated like freaks on TV, and made to feel ashamed of their appearance? No

Perpetuating abusive and groundless steretotypes about fat people is no less shameful than engaging in racism, misogyny or LGBT-phobia.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Society is RELENTLESS in pushing the idea than only slim people can be considered beautiful or have a satisfying sex life.

Let's look at the facts:

Both men's and women's magazines invariably feature articles on how to get 'beach-body-ready,' lose weight, tone up etc, and feature adverts from 'MYA' and other cosmetic surgery clinics.

Don't pretend you give a shit about the NHS when you've just posted in praise of anorexia. "

Where did I praise anorexia?

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Don't pretend you give a shit about the NHS when you've just posted in praise of anorexia.

Where did I praise anorexia?"

You didn't - that wasn't aimed at you.

See: the thread in siwngers chat.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Society is RELENTLESS in pushing the idea than only slim people can be considered beautiful or have a satisfying sex life.

Let's look at the facts:

Both men's and women's magazines invariably feature articles on how to get 'beach-body-ready,' lose weight, tone up etc, and feature adverts from 'MYA' and other cosmetic surgery clinics.

Don't pretend you give a shit about the NHS when you've just posted in praise of anorexia. "

Yea, also sorry to burst your bubble so but there's more serious long term health issues associated with anorexia than obesity, the issues around obesity is merely more publicised

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

I dont take too much notice of what the media say about obese people because if its not them they are going on about the poor old people who they say are living too long and costing everyone too much money. Or the smokers and drinkers.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I'm not saying that at all. What I'm saying is that we should speak out against the media's perpetuation of abusive stereotypes about obese people.

Is obesity a problem? Yes

Would I benefit from losing a few pounds? Maybe

Should obese people be demonised by the tabloid press, treated like freaks on TV, and made to feel ashamed of their appearance? No

Perpetuating abusive and groundless steretotypes about fat people is no less shameful than engaging in racism, misogyny or LGBT-phobia."

People are born black or Gay.

No one is born fat.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I'm not saying that at all. What I'm saying is that we should speak out against the media's perpetuation of abusive stereotypes about obese people.

Is obesity a problem? Yes

Would I benefit from losing a few pounds? Maybe

Should obese people be demonised by the tabloid press, treated like freaks on TV, and made to feel ashamed of their appearance? No

Perpetuating abusive and groundless steretotypes about fat people is no less shameful than engaging in racism, misogyny or LGBT-phobia.

People are born black or Gay.

No one is born fat. "

You should have told that to my midwife granny, when my little lady was born after doing her first measurements she told me she was over the 90th centile and therefore overweight

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

People arent meant to be born fat though thats because the woman is overweight and ate too much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not saying that at all. What I'm saying is that we should speak out against the media's perpetuation of abusive stereotypes about obese people.

Is obesity a problem? Yes

Would I benefit from losing a few pounds? Maybe

Should obese people be demonised by the tabloid press, treated like freaks on TV, and made to feel ashamed of their appearance? No

Perpetuating abusive and groundless steretotypes about fat people is no less shameful than engaging in racism, misogyny or LGBT-phobia.

People are born black or Gay.

No one is born fat. "

That's a fatuous argument.

Whether or not people are 'born fat,' you do not have a right to abuse or demonise fat people.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

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By *lsd199Man
over a year ago

London

Society is RELENTLESS in pushing the idea than only slim people can be considered beautiful or have a satisfying sex life.

Let's look at the facts:

Both men's and women's magazines invariably feature articles on how to get 'beach-body-ready,' lose weight, tone up etc, and feature adverts from 'MYA' and other cosmetic surgery clinics.

Don't pretend you give a shit about the NHS when you've just posted in praise of anorexia.

Yea, also sorry to burst your bubble so but there's more serious long term health issues associated with anorexia than obesity, the issues around obesity is merely more publicised "

This is common missunderstanding. Anorexia mortality rate is easily recorded in statistics, However obesity mortality rate isn't. Obesity deaths are usually written off on other things like heart problem etc. Thus the government don't even record this as death because of obesity

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"People arent meant to be born fat though thats because the woman is overweight and ate too much."

Speak for yourself when I gave birth to my "over weight" baby I was 16lbs lighter than before becoming pregnant but I did slimming world all the way through it

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Society is RELENTLESS in pushing the idea than only slim people can be considered beautiful or have a satisfying sex life.

Let's look at the facts:

Both men's and women's magazines invariably feature articles on how to get 'beach-body-ready,' lose weight, tone up etc, and feature adverts from 'MYA' and other cosmetic surgery clinics.

Don't pretend you give a shit about the NHS when you've just posted in praise of anorexia.

Yea, also sorry to burst your bubble so but there's more serious long term health issues associated with anorexia than obesity, the issues around obesity is merely more publicised

No it's not the hearts problems are related to the visceral fat around organ so try again.

My comment wasn't actually in reference to the mortality rates either

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I'm not saying that at all. What I'm saying is that we should speak out against the media's perpetuation of abusive stereotypes about obese people.

Is obesity a problem? Yes

Would I benefit from losing a few pounds? Maybe

Should obese people be demonised by the tabloid press, treated like freaks on TV, and made to feel ashamed of their appearance? No

Perpetuating abusive and groundless steretotypes about fat people is no less shameful than engaging in racism, misogyny or LGBT-phobia.

People are born black or Gay.

No one is born fat.

That's a fatuous argument.

Whether or not people are 'born fat,' you do not have a right to abuse or demonise fat people.

fatuous ......... titter

It wasn't an argument.

No one demonised fat people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People arent meant to be born fat though thats because the woman is overweight and ate too much."

Am I saying that people are 'supposed' to be fat? No.

Am I encouraging people to be fat? No

What I am saying is that the media is irresponsible in its portrayal of fat people, and actively ENCOURAGES us to develop a negative self-image.

Regardless of whether you believe that obesity is a 'choice,' you do not have a right to treat us as lesser human beings.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"People arent meant to be born fat though thats because the woman is overweight and ate too much.

Speak for yourself when I gave birth to my "over weight" baby I was 16lbs lighter than before becoming pregnant but I did slimming world all the way through it "

Only going by what i have heard, my son weighed 8lb when he was born. I ate sensibly.

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By *lsd199Man
over a year ago

London

I'm not saying that at all. What I'm saying is that we should speak out against the media's perpetuation of abusive stereotypes about obese people.

Is obesity a problem? Yes

Would I benefit from losing a few pounds? Maybe

Should obese people be demonised by the tabloid press, treated like freaks on TV, and made to feel ashamed of their appearance? No

Perpetuating abusive and groundless steretotypes about fat people is no less shameful than engaging in racism, misogyny or LGBT-phobia.

People are born black or Gay.

No one is born fat.

That's a fatuous argument.

Whether or not people are 'born fat,' you do not have a right to abuse or demonise fat people.

Yes, people are mean, but the media just do their job, they have free speech. They could show us all obese or anorexic people on our TV shows, however by mass demand they are showing good looking people. It is not what the media chooses, it is what you and me want to watch all the time on TV

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I'm not saying that at all. What I'm saying is that we should speak out against the media's perpetuation of abusive stereotypes about obese people.

Is obesity a problem? Yes

Would I benefit from losing a few pounds? Maybe

Should obese people be demonised by the tabloid press, treated like freaks on TV, and made to feel ashamed of their appearance? No

Perpetuating abusive and groundless steretotypes about fat people is no less shameful than engaging in racism, misogyny or LGBT-phobia.

People are born black or Gay.

No one is born fat.

You should have told that to my midwife granny, when my little lady was born after doing her first measurements she told me she was over the 90th centile and therefore overweight"

Christ. They'll be shoving us with fat calipers during a fuck soon.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I'm not saying that at all. What I'm saying is that we should speak out against the media's perpetuation of abusive stereotypes about obese people.

Is obesity a problem? Yes

Would I benefit from losing a few pounds? Maybe

Should obese people be demonised by the tabloid press, treated like freaks on TV, and made to feel ashamed of their appearance? No

Perpetuating abusive and groundless steretotypes about fat people is no less shameful than engaging in racism, misogyny or LGBT-phobia.

People are born black or Gay.

No one is born fat.

You should have told that to my midwife granny, when my little lady was born after doing her first measurements she told me she was over the 90th centile and therefore overweight

Christ. They'll be shoving us with fat calipers during a fuck soon. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It wasn't an argument.

No one demonised fat people. "

Of course not...apart from the numerous people who seem to think it's acceptable to send me messages calling me 'fat' and 'ugly,' and those who claim that 'no woman would ever want to be seen with me' unless I lost weight...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, people are mean, but the media just do their job, they have free speech. They could show us all obese or anorexic people on our TV shows, however by mass demand they are showing good looking people."

Freedom of Speech is not licence to perpetuate abusive stereotypes.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By *lsd199Man
over a year ago

London

"It wasn't an argument.

No one demonised fat people.

Maybe you are fighting for the wrong cause. Imagine you would be an overweight woman on this forum. You would be considered BBW and get sooooo much love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It wasn't an argument.

No one demonised fat people.

That's still not demonising fat people.

That's calling you fat n ugly. "

Oh, so insulting someone doesn't count as demonising them?

Quit the semantic gymnastics. You've lost the argument.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

No. Actually calling someone something is not demonising them.

I'm off to a more amenable thread.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"It wasn't an argument.

No one demonised fat people.

Could just be me but I'm starting to think your own personal issues are coming into this a bit too much now

I'm fat I've got no problem with people calling me fat theyre merely stating one fact about me, I'm safe in the confidence I'm so much more than what the figure on the scale shows.

The only reasons I'm loosing weight now is because I've put a bit more on than I'd like since my last pregnancy so I've decided I want to I'm certainly not doing it to please others or to be socially more accepted

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"It wasn't an argument.

No one demonised fat people.

That's still not demonising fat people.

That's calling you fat n ugly.

Oh, so insulting someone doesn't count as demonising them?

Quit the semantic gymnastics. You've lost the argument."

Okay..... you win.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"No. Actually calling someone something is not demonising them.

I'm off to a more amenable thread. "

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I'm sure that telling someome that they have lost an argument usually signifies the opposite....

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By *lsd199Man
over a year ago

London

"It wasn't an argument.

No one demonised fat people.

Could just be me but I'm starting to think your own personal issues are coming into this a bit too much now

I'm fat I've got no problem with people calling me fat theyre merely stating one fact about me, I'm safe in the confidence I'm so much more than what the figure on the scale shows.

You don't understand his point of _iew. You are a women still, and you receive some attention. He is overweight man and this society does not accept a person like him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Imagine you would be an overweight woman on this forum. You would be considered BBW and get sooooo much love "

Eh?

Do you seriously think that BBWs only get 'love' on this site?

Yeah...right...

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"It wasn't an argument.

No one demonised fat people.

Could just be me but I'm starting to think your own personal issues are coming into this a bit too much now

I'm fat I've got no problem with people calling me fat theyre merely stating one fact about me, I'm safe in the confidence I'm so much more than what the figure on the scale shows.

You don't understand his point of _iew. You are a women still, and you receive some attention. He is overweight man and this society does not accept a person like him"

Well according to you a large lady only gets attention from desperate men, call me crazy but I don't see how that's much better than getting no attention at all in fact I know which I'd rather have and it's the latter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You don't understand his point of _iew. You are a women still, and you receive some attention. He is overweight man and this society does not accept a person like him"

What a load of bullshit. What do you mean by 'a person like me?'

Also, kindly do not put words into my mouth or twist my comments in order to engage in misogynistic attacks.

When did I say anything about being resentful of the fact that large women and bbws receive positive attention from men?

My entire post was about the negative stereotypes promoted about fat people of ALL genders - male, female, intersex, trans, whatever.

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By *lsd199Man
over a year ago

London

"You don't understand his point of _iew. You are a women still, and you receive some attention. He is overweight man and this society does not accept a person like him

What a load of bullshit. What do you mean by 'a person like me?'

Also, kindly do not put words into my mouth or twist my comments in order to engage in misogynistic attacks.

When did I say anything about being resentful of the fact that large women and bbws receive positive attention from men?

My entire post was about the negative stereotypes promoted about fat people of ALL genders - male, female, intersex, trans, whatever.

Who do you think have harder time? Overweight woman or overweight man?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You don't understand his point of _iew. You are a women still, and you receive some attention. He is overweight man and this society does not accept a person like him

What a load of bullshit. What do you mean by 'a person like me?'

Also, kindly do not put words into my mouth or twist my comments in order to engage in misogynistic attacks.

When did I say anything about being resentful of the fact that large women and bbws receive positive attention from men?

My entire post was about the negative stereotypes promoted about fat people of ALL genders - male, female, intersex, trans, whatever.

Who do you think have harder time? Overweight woman or overweight man? "

Overweight women - by a country mile.

Not only do they have to contend with the negative stereotypes surrounding fatness, but they have to deal with it in combination with misogyny.

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By *lsd199Man
over a year ago

London

Also, kindly do not put words into my mouth or twist my comments in order to engage in misogynistic attacks.

When did I say anything about being resentful of the fact that large women and bbws receive positive attention from men?

My entire post was about the negative stereotypes promoted about fat people of ALL genders - male, female, intersex, trans, whatever.

Who do you think have harder time? Overweight woman or overweight man?

Overweight women - by a country mile.

Not only do they have to contend with the negative stereotypes surrounding fatness, but they have to deal with it in combination with misogyny."

Well, I should have specified that I meant on Fabs. But yeah, in outside world they have harder time, but I think a big part of that problem is coming from other women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could just be me but I'm starting to think your own personal issues are coming into this a bit too much now"

What 'personal issues' are these then?

If you're referring to the fact that I'm fat and have been subjected to fat-shaming for many years, of course that's going to have a bearing on my _iews regarding the media's portrayal of obese people...

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By *igtittedteaseWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"No to be honest, it's made it worse

How so?

I see on the forums daily bbw appreciation threads..... and looking at your profile you have plenty of verifications.. Am I missing something?"

Bbw appreciation lol I got told by a guy on here that with me being a size 12/14 made me obese and that a size 8 is curvy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, kindly do not put words into my mouth or twist my comments in order to engage in misogynistic attacks.

When did I say anything about being resentful of the fact that large women and bbws receive positive attention from men?

My entire post was about the negative stereotypes promoted about fat people of ALL genders - male, female, intersex, trans, whatever.

Who do you think have harder time? Overweight woman or overweight man?

Overweight women - by a country mile.

Not only do they have to contend with the negative stereotypes surrounding fatness, but they have to deal with it in combination with misogyny.

Well, I should have specified that I meant on Fabs. But yeah, in outside world they have harder time, but I think a big part of that problem is coming from other women "

On fabs, the situation is the same...I just get abuse for being fat...big women get abuse for being fat and being women...

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

No. I'm not apparently large enough or pretty enough to be a bbw.

I'm just short and fat and nothing to look at but a realist.

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By *lsd199Man
over a year ago

London

Also, kindly do not put words into my mouth or twist my comments in order to engage in misogynistic attacks.

When did I say anything about being resentful of the fact that large women and bbws receive positive attention from men?

My entire post was about the negative stereotypes promoted about fat people of ALL genders - male, female, intersex, trans, whatever.

Who do you think have harder time? Overweight woman or overweight man?

Overweight women - by a country mile.

Not only do they have to contend with the negative stereotypes surrounding fatness, but they have to deal with it in combination with misogyny.

Well, I should have specified that I meant on Fabs. But yeah, in outside world they have harder time, but I think a big part of that problem is coming from other women

On fabs, the situation is the same...I just get abuse for being fat...big women get abuse for being fat and being women..."

I would disagree on that.

But what do you do to change your situation? You can sit and cry or do something?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Also, kindly do not put words into my mouth or twist my comments in order to engage in misogynistic attacks.

When did I say anything about being resentful of the fact that large women and bbws receive positive attention from men?

My entire post was about the negative stereotypes promoted about fat people of ALL genders - male, female, intersex, trans, whatever.

Who do you think have harder time? Overweight woman or overweight man?

Overweight women - by a country mile.

Not only do they have to contend with the negative stereotypes surrounding fatness, but they have to deal with it in combination with misogyny.

Well, I should have specified that I meant on Fabs. But yeah, in outside world they have harder time, but I think a big part of that problem is coming from other women

On fabs, the situation is the same...I just get abuse for being fat...big women get abuse for being fat and being women...

I would disagree on that.

But what do you do to change your situation? You can sit and cry or do something? "

have you asked any of the big women what their experience is? i have received numerous messages from people i have never spoken to telling me what a fat mess i am, calling me all sorts of names and saying i shouldnt be on here, or that i am only on here because no one in real life will want to fuck me. It isnt all chubby love on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But what do you do to change your situation? You can sit and cry or do something? "

Precisely what I'm talking about.

You assume that because I am fat, and pissed off about being treated like some kind of freak, that I am 'sitting at home and crying,' and should 'change my situation.'

First off, why do you assume that I am miserable and/or unhappy about my appearance?

Second, why should I be obliged to 'change my situation' just to conform with what society expects of me?

Third, just because I'm fat doesn't mean that I'm unhealthy. The only health issues I have are a series of neurological disabilities that have nothing to do with my weight.

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By *lsd199Man
over a year ago

London

Also, kindly do not put words into my mouth or twist my comments in order to engage in misogynistic attacks.

When did I say anything about being resentful of the fact that large women and bbws receive positive attention from men?

My entire post was about the negative stereotypes promoted about fat people of ALL genders - male, female, intersex, trans, whatever.

Who do you think have harder time? Overweight woman or overweight man?

Overweight women - by a country mile.

Not only do they have to contend with the negative stereotypes surrounding fatness, but they have to deal with it in combination with misogyny.

Well, I should have specified that I meant on Fabs. But yeah, in outside world they have harder time, but I think a big part of that problem is coming from other women

On fabs, the situation is the same...I just get abuse for being fat...big women get abuse for being fat and being women...

I would disagree on that.

But what do you do to change your situation? You can sit and cry or do something?

sorry for not making my statement clear, I meant the difference of attention they get on FABs comparing women between men, take away their body size

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you asked any of the big women what their experience is? i have received numerous messages from people i have never spoken to telling me what a fat mess i am, calling me all sorts of names and saying i shouldnt be on here, or that i am only on here because no one in real life will want to fuck me. It isnt all chubby love on fab"

Exactly what I was saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry for not making my statement clear, I meant the difference of attention they get on FABs comparing women between men, take away their body size "

Quit moving the goalposts.

Whatever way you look at it, women get far more negative and judgemental attention on fab than men.

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By *lsd199Man
over a year ago

London

"But what do you do to change your situation? You can sit and cry or do something?

Precisely what I'm talking about.

You assume that because I am fat, and pissed off about being treated like some kind of freak, that I am 'sitting at home and crying,' and should 'change my situation.'

First off, why do you assume that I am miserable and/or unhappy about my appearance?

Second, why should I be obliged to 'change my situation' just to conform with what society expects of me?

Third, just because I'm fat doesn't mean that I'm unhealthy. The only health issues I have are a series of neurological disabilities that have nothing to do with my weight."

Well everyone can clearly see that you are over the top angry about people calling you fat. You dont like it? Have you tried changing? If you are completely happy with your body size, why being called fat is an insult to you? If you consider your body size perfect for you, which is by medical term overweight , you shouldnt mind it? But you do?

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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire

We find that so many men will say anything just to try and get in Nick's knickers, saying how beautiful she is etc when there aren't any face pics on show. She could look like the back end of a bus for all they know.

Dave

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"We find that so many men will say anything just to try and get in Nick's knickers, saying how beautiful she is etc when there aren't any face pics on show. She could look like the back end of a bus for all they know.

Dave"

This does amuse me you see it on forums guys fawning over women telling them they're gorgeous when all they can see is a pair or tits etc

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"But what do you do to change your situation? You can sit and cry or do something?

Precisely what I'm talking about.

You assume that because I am fat, and pissed off about being treated like some kind of freak, that I am 'sitting at home and crying,' and should 'change my situation.'

First off, why do you assume that I am miserable and/or unhappy about my appearance?

Second, why should I be obliged to 'change my situation' just to conform with what society expects of me?

Third, just because I'm fat doesn't mean that I'm unhealthy. The only health issues I have are a series of neurological disabilities that have nothing to do with my weight.

do you not understand the concept of context? i have no problem being called fat by someone using it as a descriptor of my body....i am fat. but all too often it is used to belittle, undermine, and hurt people which is why some people dislike it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dave"

Be that a it may, Nicky has amazing breasts, and an excellent taste in lingerie...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But what do you do to change your situation? You can sit and cry or do something?

Precisely what I'm talking about.

You assume that because I am fat, and pissed off about being treated like some kind of freak, that I am 'sitting at home and crying,' and should 'change my situation.'

First off, why do you assume that I am miserable and/or unhappy about my appearance?

Second, why should I be obliged to 'change my situation' just to conform with what society expects of me?

Third, just because I'm fat doesn't mean that I'm unhealthy. The only health issues I have are a series of neurological disabilities that have nothing to do with my weight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well everyone can clearly see that you are over the top angry about people calling you fat. You dont like it? Have you tried changing? If you are completely happy with your body size, why being called fat is an insult to you? If you consider your body size perfect for you, which is by medical term overweight , you shouldnt mind it? But you do? "

Oh, so just because I'm happy with my weight and my body shape, I shouldn't be insulted when people decide to send me derogatory messages?

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By *lsd199Man
over a year ago

London

"But what do you do to change your situation? You can sit and cry or do something?

Precisely what I'm talking about.

You assume that because I am fat, and pissed off about being treated like some kind of freak, that I am 'sitting at home and crying,' and should 'change my situation.'

First off, why do you assume that I am miserable and/or unhappy about my appearance?

Second, why should I be obliged to 'change my situation' just to conform with what society expects of me?

Third, just because I'm fat doesn't mean that I'm unhealthy. The only health issues I have are a series of neurological disabilities that have nothing to do with my weight.

Yes it is bad, but why they are saying it? Simple. Respect. If they are working their asses to be better, more beautiful, fit and so on. And they come across a person who does nothing ( im not talking about you, as I dont know you). So should they respect that person? Respect is earned, it is not a privilege . You can shut those people, but they will still not respect the person if they didn't earn it. They will still think the same. And your problem is not about the words, but what they mean and where they are coming from.

You want respect? Earn it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone needs to chill out!

I've got wine and pringles and loving all the insincere attention I'm getting from all the men on here ....

As they can't possibly want me because I'm a fat bird

It's just a fuck after all ....

I reckon the smaller women on here get regular marriage proposals .....because they're under a size 14 - never used for sex EVER!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

sorry but everyone deserves basic respect as a human being regardless of their size and activity levels! As you said, you dont know me and you dont know someone you see in the street...you dont know their journey so have no right to judge them for their appearance!

what right to strangers on a fucking swingers site have to initiate messaging me to tell me i am fat slag or that my pictures make them want to be sick? OK, so they dont respect me, theydont have to tell me....do you really think that some random prick (and i know they are pricks because they have shown themselves to be) on a swingers site is going make me have some lightbulb moment and make me step away from the Sara Lee Gateau that i am obviously inhaling while reading their message?

you're 'be mean to be kind' theory has been shown time and time again to not get results and is a pile of bullshit. People will only want to change themselves after they learn to love themselves. That doesnt mean they love being fat but they need to love being themselves, accept themselves and want to be a slimmer, healthier version of themselves.

All throughout my school years and adolescence i was shamed for being fat (even by my own family) and all it did was made me sad and over eat my emotions. It took being diagnosed as type 2 diabetic and threatened to be on insulin for me to get off my ass, join slimmingworld and take up running.

I am much fitter than a lot of slimmer people that i know. by blood glucose is below 'normal' range now, i cant remember the last time i saw the Dr about something other than my diabetes or contraception so am healthier than a lot of them too. Size does not always indicate a persons health.

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