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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Right I decided to start dating again... and had a date off a well known free dating app with lots of fish (well more cod roe) the night ended with being asked for a shag and when he got a no....he then said not even a blowie

Anyway my question is, is the old fashioned method of dating such as meeting in a pub etc more successful than online dating? I met my ex in the real world but it didn't work out....

Is online dating better in a sense that there are people on there that we may not meet in real life?

I know what I'm trying to say just crap with putting it together so hopefully you will catch my drift

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met both my long term relationships at college and then at work.

Both relationships lasted over ten years.

I've had numerous dates with men I've met online but none have gone past the first date because there wasn't that spark there for me. Well, not until recently anyway and I have a second date with someone from the fishy site tonight

Whether I'm becoming more fussy the older I get I don't know but I do know if I'd met my husband online, I wouldn't have had a second date with him because there wasn't an instant attraction to him, it grew over time.

Maybe I want the spark to happen straight away and maybe that's unrealistic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a shy guy, I always use the Web as a means of dating. I have always struggled approaching women. So I decided to go online and do it that way. I had infinitely more success that way. Of course I don't meet someone until I've at least Skyped them. So there are some good eggs on these sites but most of them are after one thing

A friend of mine uses the same ocean based app. Every guy she met has always wanted her in bed. So I guess you're more likely to find sexual meets online that romantic ones.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Try the site that is OK with Cupid instead of fishing.

Still lots of knobheads but better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I noticed some guy had been dating females on plenty of fish and doing one of the most unpleasant things you couldnt possibly imagine.I mean fancy meeting up and going for food at a lovely restaurant and he having the thought of walking out after saying he going to the toiletand leaving the female with a huge bill cause he darts of threw the doors.It's So degrading.

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

lol it's a mystery as to why he's still single!!

Even on social/date from here I wouldn't presume in the slightest to ask for a shag/BJ! Surely it's about getting to know the person and then seeing if things develop

I think on that sight the line between socials and playing meets has got very blurred

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My longest relationship was an online one and we were together 7 years.

I just think it's luck of the draw, whether u meet them online or not.

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire


"My longest relationship was an online one and we were together 7 years.

I just think it's luck of the draw, whether u meet them online or not. "

Agreed it's no more scientific going to a bar and meeting someone

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I met my wife online, we have been together 19 years.

It can work.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

only going from my past limited eperiences i would say its better to meet someone in the real world, if you are able to get out a lot and travel its more likely you will meet someone special, i think. They always used to say that you should join clubs etc to meet people.

I know a couple of people who met online and are now married, i met my husband in a pub when i was 17.

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Try the site that is OK with Cupid instead of fishing.

Still lots of knobheads but better."

Just looked how many bloody questions

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire


"Try the site that is OK with Cupid instead of fishing.

Still lots of knobheads but better.

Just looked how many bloody questions "

Is one of them do you do a blowie on a first date?

Might avoid some of the pof issues!

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By *-angel-XWoman
over a year ago

hell

I don't go out so have no way of meeting anyone other than online

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I have no experience but if I was looking, I think I would prefer the non online world.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton


"Try the site that is OK with Cupid instead of fishing.

Still lots of knobheads but better.

Just looked how many bloody questions "

The more you aswer the better the match.

My wife is a 99% match. My girlfriend 91% lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met my first serious boyfriend who i was with for 7 years through a friend at work.

My ex (the father of my children) i met on a dating site. I was with him for 6 years.

For me online dating was easier as i'm painfully shy and socially awkward. If a man was to ask me out in a bar, i'd go on a date and then clam up. Online you get to know each other a bit before meeting, and i'd have pre-warned them about my lack of social skills and they'd be a bit more understanding.

I have to say i find online dating in my 40's souk destroying. No messages, just "likes" or "winks" and i just don't fancy any of the men i see who i suspect have knocked about 12 years off their true age and just want a bunk up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's probably 50/50 for online versus real life for my friends who've met their partners in the last 5 years or so.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Try the site that is OK with Cupid instead of fishing.

Still lots of knobheads but better."

I found that full of foreign knobheads to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blind date and still together 32 years later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right I decided to start dating again... and had a date off a well known free dating app with lots of fish (well more cod roe) the night ended with being asked for a shag and when he got a no....he then said not even a blowie

Anyway my question is, is the old fashioned method of dating such as meeting in a pub etc more successful than online dating? I met my ex in the real world but it didn't work out....

Is online dating better in a sense that there are people on there that we may not meet in real life?

I know what I'm trying to say just crap with putting it together so hopefully you will catch my drift "

Real world works better for me. I either don't come across well online, or don't photograph well, or both haha!

I also find that no matter how much time you spend chatting online, you don't start getting to know someone until you're face to face anyway.

A lot of people on dating sites are just looking for sex anyway. They might tell you they are looking for a relationship, but that's not always, or even usually, the case in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe in line dating sites are just as addictive as fab

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By *uperock99Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

The trouble with online looking for a date or a shag these days there are too many choices out there and a good chance even if you do meet up and have a relationship for your partner to cheat too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's probably 50/50 for online versus real life for my friends who've met their partners in the last 5 years or so. "

But I think that's tended to be stuff like Match or guardian soulmates...I don't know anyone who has met a long term partner on pof.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see lots of guys on Fab that I recognise from my days of online dating.

There's a really good book called 'Modern Love' by Aziz Ansari. It'll make you laugh as well as being completely honest about the state (and that's what it is) of online dating!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I've never had a relationship from an online dating site, I think it's much better to find someone through your normal social circle if you can, that's where nearly all my relationships came from.

But I agree it's the luck of the draw, you can stumble across someone you click with anywhere. I met my husband of 20 years at a SW Regional Committee meeting, and once had a very passionate relationship with a guy I saw in a bar one New Years eve who looked like a young Robert Redford, so I just went and positioned myself next to him at midnight haha!!

It's serendipity I think, random chance. The internet increases the number you 'meet', but sadly it seems to be mostly players and fucked-up puppies online.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I believe in line dating sites are just as addictive as fab"

I was addicted to POF for a while back when I was meeting gorgeous young men.

Nice pics BTW

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Try the site that is OK with Cupid instead of fishing.

Still lots of knobheads but better.

I found that full of foreign knobheads to be honest "

I joined so far I've had messages from Italy and America

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's probably 50/50 for online versus real life for my friends who've met their partners in the last 5 years or so.

But I think that's tended to be stuff like Match or guardian soulmates...I don't know anyone who has met a long term partner on pof."

I know of three people who met and have married people they met on POF

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"It's probably 50/50 for online versus real life for my friends who've met their partners in the last 5 years or so.

But I think that's tended to be stuff like Match or guardian soulmates...I don't know anyone who has met a long term partner on pof."

I went on both of those - Match was dreadful, Soulmates was more interesting but ultimately no use to me and it's zeitgeist has passed I believe.

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I believe in line dating sites are just as addictive as fab"

They can be....at least I know I can pull in real life so that's a bonus even if he was a twat wrapped up in Poundland tin foil

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"It's probably 50/50 for online versus real life for my friends who've met their partners in the last 5 years or so.

But I think that's tended to be stuff like Match or guardian soulmates...I don't know anyone who has met a long term partner on pof.

I went on both of those - Match was dreadful, Soulmates was more interesting but ultimately no use to me and it's zeitgeist has passed I believe."

Match charge you £25 for the pleasure of no messages

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By *itmanAndHerrCouple
over a year ago

st helens


"Right I decided to start dating again... and had a date off a well known free dating app with lots of fish (well more cod roe) the night ended with being asked for a shag and when he got a no....he then said not even a blowie

Anyway my question is, is the old fashioned method of dating such as meeting in a pub etc more successful than online dating? I met my ex in the real world but it didn't work out....

Is online dating better in a sense that there are people on there that we may not meet in real life?

I know what I'm trying to say just crap with putting it together so hopefully you will catch my drift "

It's all a means to an end. Sometimes it works, sometimes not. Same in traditional dating.

Nowadays all youngsters meet online. Or so my adult children tell me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's probably 50/50 for online versus real life for my friends who've met their partners in the last 5 years or so.

But I think that's tended to be stuff like Match or guardian soulmates...I don't know anyone who has met a long term partner on pof.

I went on both of those - Match was dreadful, Soulmates was more interesting but ultimately no use to me and it's zeitgeist has passed I believe."

They were all 20/30 somethings living in London - I think different sites will always work better for different demographics. But that was a few years ago so my intel may be out of date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't look online for a serious, long term partner.

I wouldn't purposefully look for a boyfriend, I never have. If I happen across one I will see how it goes.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Try the site that is OK with Cupid instead of fishing.

Still lots of knobheads but better.

I found that full of foreign knobheads to be honest

I joined so far I've had messages from Italy and America "

Exactly! I did go out to dinner with a high powered banker staying in Park Lane Hotel, when we got back (to the bar I thought!) he turned left to go to the lifts up to the room without so much as a by-your-leave!! I was furious, withered him with a look of total disgust, he apologized profusely, and I buggered off dancing!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Web is good for socialising I think mainly use here to keep in touch with people i met in clubs but never had much success online prefer to meet at socials or clubs..dating someone I met at a swinging club would never bother me actually think would prefer it as no secret history from someone vanilla. Not really into many bars or clubs well town centre type now...

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I wouldn't look online for a serious, long term partner.

I wouldn't purposefully look for a boyfriend, I never have. If I happen across one I will see how it goes. "

I don't think I look as such, I never looked for him but I like to stick my big toe in....I have friends but not all want to go and sit in a pub etc...plus I also think where I live is not where I grew up so don't have school friends or can walk into a pub and know people in there...

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"It's probably 50/50 for online versus real life for my friends who've met their partners in the last 5 years or so.

But I think that's tended to be stuff like Match or guardian soulmates...I don't know anyone who has met a long term partner on pof.

I went on both of those - Match was dreadful, Soulmates was more interesting but ultimately no use to me and it's zeitgeist has passed I believe.

They were all 20/30 somethings living in London - I think different sites will always work better for different demographics. But that was a few years ago so my intel may be out of date "

Yes, they do. I know alternative type guys who are a fair bit younger who did really well on OKC finding someone for a serious relationship, but to be honest by the time you get to my age you are scraping the bottom of the barrel wherever you go!!

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Web is good for socialising I think mainly use here to keep in touch with people i met in clubs but never had much success online prefer to meet at socials or clubs..dating someone I met at a swinging club would never bother me actually think would prefer it as no secret history from someone vanilla. Not really into many bars or clubs well town centre type now..."

Bloody hell you are the first man that has openly said he wouldn't mind dating someone they met in a swingers club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went online dating two years back (I think it was), I met a lovely woman, unfortunately we slept together on the very first date (she invited me over her house, we were going to go for a walk along the coast, yeah....... ). We stayed together for about 7 months, breaking up I think September last year... nothing acrimonious.....

....I realised that for her, it was just about sex, and knowing this, throughout the 7 or so months I kept a close watch on my feelings, it was restrictive and limiting. So when it ended I was relieved, if people just want to use me for sex, I prefer they did it through Fab...

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By *workoutMan
over a year ago

Cradley Heath

I'm on a few well known dating sites and have found them to be more about the nsa sex than fab is. There's no forum communities to speak of and it's amazing how many people on there just want fwb type relationships.

I have met people this way that did want relationships but I'm not ready for that so it never worked out but they are there!

I've always thought you find what you want when you're not actually looking and when you do it can be an amazing surprise

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I'm on a few well known dating sites and have found them to be more about the nsa sex than fab is. There's no forum communities to speak of and it's amazing how many people on there just want fwb type relationships.

I have met people this way that did want relationships but I'm not ready for that so it never worked out but they are there!

I've always thought you find what you want when you're not actually looking and when you do it can be an amazing surprise "

I agree with the not looking part....it's hard not to look but it's better not too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Web is good for socialising I think mainly use here to keep in touch with people i met in clubs but never had much success online prefer to meet at socials or clubs..dating someone I met at a swinging club would never bother me actually think would prefer it as no secret history from someone vanilla. Not really into many bars or clubs well town centre type now...

Bloody hell you are the first man that has openly said he wouldn't mind dating someone they met in a swingers club "

Why's that unusual? Surely that would be the ideal, for anyone that's really into the swinging scene!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met my ex husband in a club, and any relationships I had prior to that I probably met in pubs as well...

I don't think I've ever had a date through an online dating site (and I'm on the fishy site too) but if they lie as much as men seem to on here I'm not holding my breathe for any success

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Web is good for socialising I think mainly use here to keep in touch with people i met in clubs but never had much success online prefer to meet at socials or clubs..dating someone I met at a swinging club would never bother me actually think would prefer it as no secret history from someone vanilla. Not really into many bars or clubs well town centre type now...

Bloody hell you are the first man that has openly said he wouldn't mind dating someone they met in a swingers club

Why's that unusual? Surely that would be the ideal, for anyone that's really into the swinging scene!?"

I've had a Really bad experience of this recently and got my heart broken and I was told it was unhealthy to meet someone in a club by him and while I shouldn't take any notice I kind of thought Is it unhealthy to meet someone in a swingers club but like I told him I couldn't help my feelings and he proclaimed to love me...so I don't know whether men think that women who go to clubs are not worthy of meeting the parents etc

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire


"Web is good for socialising I think mainly use here to keep in touch with people i met in clubs but never had much success online prefer to meet at socials or clubs..dating someone I met at a swinging club would never bother me actually think would prefer it as no secret history from someone vanilla. Not really into many bars or clubs well town centre type now...

Bloody hell you are the first man that has openly said he wouldn't mind dating someone they met in a swingers club

Why's that unusual? Surely that would be the ideal, for anyone that's really into the swinging scene!?

I've had a Really bad experience of this recently and got my heart broken and I was told it was unhealthy to meet someone in a club by him and while I shouldn't take any notice I kind of thought Is it unhealthy to meet someone in a swingers club but like I told him I couldn't help my feelings and he proclaimed to love me...so I don't know whether men think that women who go to clubs are not worthy of meeting the parents etc "

On the contrary surely women who have enjoyed going to clubs are the only type you'd date?

I'd suspect once in this lifestyle that it'd be very difficult to totally forget how sexually liberated you once were and just go back to completely bland relationship - I think that's a bigger recipe for relationship failure and cheating myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I believe in line dating sites are just as addictive as fab

I was addicted to POF for a while back when I was meeting gorgeous young men.

Nice pics BTW "

Right back at ya

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Web is good for socialising I think mainly use here to keep in touch with people i met in clubs but never had much success online prefer to meet at socials or clubs..dating someone I met at a swinging club would never bother me actually think would prefer it as no secret history from someone vanilla. Not really into many bars or clubs well town centre type now...

Bloody hell you are the first man that has openly said he wouldn't mind dating someone they met in a swingers club

Why's that unusual? Surely that would be the ideal, for anyone that's really into the swinging scene!?

I've had a Really bad experience of this recently and got my heart broken and I was told it was unhealthy to meet someone in a club by him and while I shouldn't take any notice I kind of thought Is it unhealthy to meet someone in a swingers club but like I told him I couldn't help my feelings and he proclaimed to love me...so I don't know whether men think that women who go to clubs are not worthy of meeting the parents etc

On the contrary surely women who have enjoyed going to clubs are the only type you'd date?

I'd suspect once in this lifestyle that it'd be very difficult to totally forget how sexually liberated you once were and just go back to completely bland relationship - I think that's a bigger recipe for relationship failure and cheating myself "

I agree with you

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I believe in line dating sites are just as addictive as fab

I was addicted to POF for a while back when I was meeting gorgeous young men.

Nice pics BTW

Right back at ya "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Web is good for socialising I think mainly use here to keep in touch with people i met in clubs but never had much success online prefer to meet at socials or clubs..dating someone I met at a swinging club would never bother me actually think would prefer it as no secret history from someone vanilla. Not really into many bars or clubs well town centre type now...

Bloody hell you are the first man that has openly said he wouldn't mind dating someone they met in a swingers club

Why's that unusual? Surely that would be the ideal, for anyone that's really into the swinging scene!?

I've had a Really bad experience of this recently and got my heart broken and I was told it was unhealthy to meet someone in a club by him and while I shouldn't take any notice I kind of thought Is it unhealthy to meet someone in a swingers club but like I told him I couldn't help my feelings and he proclaimed to love me...so I don't know whether men think that women who go to clubs are not worthy of meeting the parents etc "

I don't think it's unhealthy at all, but there needs to be a lot more in common than just swinging.

Sorry to hear you had such a painful experience though. Unfortunately a lot of people tend to think they know what they want, until they get it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Web is good for socialising I think mainly use here to keep in touch with people i met in clubs but never had much success online prefer to meet at socials or clubs..dating someone I met at a swinging club would never bother me actually think would prefer it as no secret history from someone vanilla. Not really into many bars or clubs well town centre type now...

Bloody hell you are the first man that has openly said he wouldn't mind dating someone they met in a swingers club "

Lol well been on and off the scene for a good number of years and know many who met at clubs and are still going to clubs and in solid relationships so why not if I meet the right person I would have no issues...

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Web is good for socialising I think mainly use here to keep in touch with people i met in clubs but never had much success online prefer to meet at socials or clubs..dating someone I met at a swinging club would never bother me actually think would prefer it as no secret history from someone vanilla. Not really into many bars or clubs well town centre type now...

Bloody hell you are the first man that has openly said he wouldn't mind dating someone they met in a swingers club

Why's that unusual? Surely that would be the ideal, for anyone that's really into the swinging scene!?

I've had a Really bad experience of this recently and got my heart broken and I was told it was unhealthy to meet someone in a club by him and while I shouldn't take any notice I kind of thought Is it unhealthy to meet someone in a swingers club but like I told him I couldn't help my feelings and he proclaimed to love me...so I don't know whether men think that women who go to clubs are not worthy of meeting the parents etc

I don't think it's unhealthy at all, but there needs to be a lot more in common than just swinging.

Sorry to hear you had such a painful experience though. Unfortunately a lot of people tend to think they know what they want, until they get it. "

I don't think he actually knows what he wants in life and jumped into a relationship with a woman not on the scene 2 weeks later...slowly getting my head around it all and coming to terms with the problem was with him and not with me

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Web is good for socialising I think mainly use here to keep in touch with people i met in clubs but never had much success online prefer to meet at socials or clubs..dating someone I met at a swinging club would never bother me actually think would prefer it as no secret history from someone vanilla. Not really into many bars or clubs well town centre type now...

Bloody hell you are the first man that has openly said he wouldn't mind dating someone they met in a swingers club

Why's that unusual? Surely that would be the ideal, for anyone that's really into the swinging scene!?

I've had a Really bad experience of this recently and got my heart broken and I was told it was unhealthy to meet someone in a club by him and while I shouldn't take any notice I kind of thought Is it unhealthy to meet someone in a swingers club but like I told him I couldn't help my feelings and he proclaimed to love me...so I don't know whether men think that women who go to clubs are not worthy of meeting the parents etc

I don't think it's unhealthy at all, but there needs to be a lot more in common than just swinging.

Sorry to hear you had such a painful experience though. Unfortunately a lot of people tend to think they know what they want, until they get it.

I don't think he actually knows what he wants in life and jumped into a relationship with a woman not on the scene 2 weeks later...slowly getting my head around it all and coming to terms with the problem was with him and not with me "

We had a lot more in common than swinging which was sad because it could of been something good hey ho...move on and all that Jazz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Web is good for socialising I think mainly use here to keep in touch with people i met in clubs but never had much success online prefer to meet at socials or clubs..dating someone I met at a swinging club would never bother me actually think would prefer it as no secret history from someone vanilla. Not really into many bars or clubs well town centre type now...

Bloody hell you are the first man that has openly said he wouldn't mind dating someone they met in a swingers club

Why's that unusual? Surely that would be the ideal, for anyone that's really into the swinging scene!?

I've had a Really bad experience of this recently and got my heart broken and I was told it was unhealthy to meet someone in a club by him and while I shouldn't take any notice I kind of thought Is it unhealthy to meet someone in a swingers club but like I told him I couldn't help my feelings and he proclaimed to love me...so I don't know whether men think that women who go to clubs are not worthy of meeting the parents etc

I don't think it's unhealthy at all, but there needs to be a lot more in common than just swinging.

Sorry to hear you had such a painful experience though. Unfortunately a lot of people tend to think they know what they want, until they get it.

I don't think he actually knows what he wants in life and jumped into a relationship with a woman not on the scene 2 weeks later...slowly getting my head around it all and coming to terms with the problem was with him and not with me "

Maybe he couldn't deal with the jealousy.

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Web is good for socialising I think mainly use here to keep in touch with people i met in clubs but never had much success online prefer to meet at socials or clubs..dating someone I met at a swinging club would never bother me actually think would prefer it as no secret history from someone vanilla. Not really into many bars or clubs well town centre type now...

Bloody hell you are the first man that has openly said he wouldn't mind dating someone they met in a swingers club

Why's that unusual? Surely that would be the ideal, for anyone that's really into the swinging scene!?

I've had a Really bad experience of this recently and got my heart broken and I was told it was unhealthy to meet someone in a club by him and while I shouldn't take any notice I kind of thought Is it unhealthy to meet someone in a swingers club but like I told him I couldn't help my feelings and he proclaimed to love me...so I don't know whether men think that women who go to clubs are not worthy of meeting the parents etc

I don't think it's unhealthy at all, but there needs to be a lot more in common than just swinging.

Sorry to hear you had such a painful experience though. Unfortunately a lot of people tend to think they know what they want, until they get it.

I don't think he actually knows what he wants in life and jumped into a relationship with a woman not on the scene 2 weeks later...slowly getting my head around it all and coming to terms with the problem was with him and not with me

Maybe he couldn't deal with the jealousy. "

Well then he should of communicated lol we didn't play with anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Web is good for socialising I think mainly use here to keep in touch with people i met in clubs but never had much success online prefer to meet at socials or clubs..dating someone I met at a swinging club would never bother me actually think would prefer it as no secret history from someone vanilla. Not really into many bars or clubs well town centre type now...

Bloody hell you are the first man that has openly said he wouldn't mind dating someone they met in a swingers club

Why's that unusual? Surely that would be the ideal, for anyone that's really into the swinging scene!?

I've had a Really bad experience of this recently and got my heart broken and I was told it was unhealthy to meet someone in a club by him and while I shouldn't take any notice I kind of thought Is it unhealthy to meet someone in a swingers club but like I told him I couldn't help my feelings and he proclaimed to love me...so I don't know whether men think that women who go to clubs are not worthy of meeting the parents etc

I don't think it's unhealthy at all, but there needs to be a lot more in common than just swinging.

Sorry to hear you had such a painful experience though. Unfortunately a lot of people tend to think they know what they want, until they get it.

I don't think he actually knows what he wants in life and jumped into a relationship with a woman not on the scene 2 weeks later...slowly getting my head around it all and coming to terms with the problem was with him and not with me

Maybe he couldn't deal with the jealousy.

Well then he should of communicated lol we didn't play with anyone "

If you were no longer playing, it probably wasn't that lol! You're right though, communication is the key.

Maybe he was just lying through his teeth, got what he wanted and moved on to the next conquest. Like you said though, the issue is with him, not you.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton


"Try the site that is OK with Cupid instead of fishing.

Still lots of knobheads but better.

I found that full of foreign knobheads to be honest

I joined so far I've had messages from Italy and America "

You can set a filter for distance...eg 50 miles, 250 miles and so on.

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Web is good for socialising I think mainly use here to keep in touch with people i met in clubs but never had much success online prefer to meet at socials or clubs..dating someone I met at a swinging club would never bother me actually think would prefer it as no secret history from someone vanilla. Not really into many bars or clubs well town centre type now...

Bloody hell you are the first man that has openly said he wouldn't mind dating someone they met in a swingers club

Why's that unusual? Surely that would be the ideal, for anyone that's really into the swinging scene!?

I've had a Really bad experience of this recently and got my heart broken and I was told it was unhealthy to meet someone in a club by him and while I shouldn't take any notice I kind of thought Is it unhealthy to meet someone in a swingers club but like I told him I couldn't help my feelings and he proclaimed to love me...so I don't know whether men think that women who go to clubs are not worthy of meeting the parents etc

I don't think it's unhealthy at all, but there needs to be a lot more in common than just swinging.

Sorry to hear you had such a painful experience though. Unfortunately a lot of people tend to think they know what they want, until they get it.

I don't think he actually knows what he wants in life and jumped into a relationship with a woman not on the scene 2 weeks later...slowly getting my head around it all and coming to terms with the problem was with him and not with me

Maybe he couldn't deal with the jealousy.

Well then he should of communicated lol we didn't play with anyone

If you were no longer playing, it probably wasn't that lol! You're right though, communication is the key.

Maybe he was just lying through his teeth, got what he wanted and moved on to the next conquest. Like you said though, the issue is with him, not you. "

Maybe but then he still goes to said club....so that's his problem not mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mate married earlier this year to someone she met off fish

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"My mate married earlier this year to someone she met off fish "

Awww that's lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never tried the dating sites, I enjoy meeting women in the offline world much more than I imagine I would a dating site.

There is something very important about being willing to take the risk of rejection in public when it comes to setting up the dynamic of the early interaction.

Fab is my only online adventure and that's only for fantasy. I have male friends who use dating sites and the truth is that everyone of them only use those sites for easy sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm actually terrified of dating.

I was watching first dates, and thought about going out on dates, and I felt physically sick, like that feeling you get when you know you're in deep shit.

You know that saying "I'm single, and its going to take someone special to change that" that's how I feel about it all, I don't think I can go back to being someone's saviour, because that's what I end up being, I truly wish someone would come along that made me want to give up being single, but the likelihood of that happening is so remote, some bloke has just taken a picture of his dick next to it

But don't let my grim _iew of love and dating put you off op, your a lovely woman, and deserve the right man

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I'm actually terrified of dating.

I was watching first dates, and thought about going out on dates, and I felt physically sick, like that feeling you get when you know you're in deep shit.

You know that saying "I'm single, and its going to take someone special to change that" that's how I feel about it all, I don't think I can go back to being someone's saviour, because that's what I end up being, I truly wish someone would come along that made me want to give up being single, but the likelihood of that happening is so remote, some bloke has just taken a picture of his dick next to it

But don't let my grim _iew of love and dating put you off op, your a lovely woman, and deserve the right man "

I have yet to be swayed in dating at the moment but I can't sit here any longer in self pity land that the bloke I thought was my happy ending turned out to be my nightmare...I know I'm pretty, I know I have a great personality (well I think so) but maybe I need to take a step back and just enjoy life which I do but I know my happiness is down to one person and that is me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right I decided to start dating again... and had a date off a well known free dating app with lots of fish (well more cod roe) the night ended with being asked for a shag and when he got a no....he then said not even a blowie

Anyway my question is, is the old fashioned method of dating such as meeting in a pub etc more successful than online dating? I met my ex in the real world but it didn't work out....

Meeting someone in reality,is much more difficult as it was 30 yrs back...

Is online dating better in a sense that there are people on there that we may not meet in real life?

I know what I'm trying to say just crap with putting it together so hopefully you will catch my drift "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm actually terrified of dating.

I was watching first dates, and thought about going out on dates, and I felt physically sick, like that feeling you get when you know you're in deep shit.

You know that saying "I'm single, and its going to take someone special to change that" that's how I feel about it all, I don't think I can go back to being someone's saviour, because that's what I end up being, I truly wish someone would come along that made me want to give up being single, but the likelihood of that happening is so remote, some bloke has just taken a picture of his dick next to it

But don't let my grim _iew of love and dating put you off op, your a lovely woman, and deserve the right man

I have yet to be swayed in dating at the moment but I can't sit here any longer in self pity land that the bloke I thought was my happy ending turned out to be my nightmare...I know I'm pretty, I know I have a great personality (well I think so) but maybe I need to take a step back and just enjoy life which I do but I know my happiness is down to one person and that is me. "

My happy ending left me in a six month fight to save everything I owned from being taken from me, and lost my home in the end, makes you think, the prince/princess was a shit, I bet I've let a wonderful frog slip through my fingers

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Try the site that is OK with Cupid instead of fishing.

Still lots of knobheads but better.

Just looked how many bloody questions "

Thousands of the feckers - they never stop! I filled them in for hours - and it came to the conclusion I'm very kinky, friendly and sexual! Who knew?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol, I wonder what sort of response I'd get if I pasted my fab profile onto PoF

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone


"maybe I need to take a step back and just enjoy life which I do but I know my happiness is down to one person and that is me."

Too right sweetheart!

I'm recently single - split from my ex-bf of over six years. But we did meet online - so it does work (to an extent!).

The best way to look at Internet Dating is the way you would do Internet Shopping. It is a fantastic place to scout the market and I have a whale of a time flirting with lots of guys from lots of sites. The secret is being able to sift through the tadpoles even before you get to the frogs to kiss. The guys who are fit AND charming, I give a bit more time/effort and some have turned out to be good friends as well as FWB.

I think there is a book "Dummies Guide to Online Dating"? Anyone read it?Any good?

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

I have 'form' when it comes to meeting guys online but have never used a dating site.

I met my ex husband in an internet chat room. We were together for 10 years and married for 7 of those.

Fast forward and I found myself on here and yes, I met hubby in the chat room lol.

So, not quite online dating but most definitely not meeting in real life either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alot of that pond are on fab too haha

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Lol, I wonder what sort of response I'd get if I pasted my fab profile onto PoF "

Mention sex and you'll get banned lol!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Dating sites?

No, no... I can't face the horror again.

Mad Hamster Woman still haunts my dreams to this very day...

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I was out for a drink the other night with some friends and one woman there (dumpy, mid forties, nothing special) went online dating for a a very short time, met a guy in April, and they were married by September!!

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire


"Try the site that is OK with Cupid instead of fishing.

Still lots of knobheads but better.

Just looked how many bloody questions

The more you aswer the better the match.

My wife is a 99% match. My girlfriend 91% lol."

Doesn't matter how many questions or the money paid to join...

I got local wanting xxx

Other end of the country thinking dating long distance wouldn't be a problem

And matches that all went to delete

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By *oachman 9CoolMan
over a year ago

derby


"Try the site that is OK with Cupid instead of fishing.

Still lots of knobheads but better.

Just looked how many bloody questions

The more you aswer the better the match.

My wife is a 99% match. My girlfriend 91% lol.

Doesn't matter how many questions or the money paid to join...

I got local wanting xxx

Other end of the country thinking dating long distance wouldn't be a problem

And matches that all went to delete "
Local wanting has always been Important to me long distance has never really appealed to me, haveing to much expectation is not a good thing to have which I soon found out when I was younger and haveing things in common with people is hard in itself that itself is a stumbleing block along with getting to like one another and haveing sex at the wrong time just puts pressure on everything like someone was relateing to earlier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meeting in a convent was pretty successful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The 2 major relationships I've had I met them in real life.

I'm not sure that online dating is realistic.

You read so many different profiles and decide which are the best ones for you - based on what?

A few written lines and a couple of pictures!

Meeting that person is the only way to know if you will get on.

So then internet dating becomes your full time job!

It's exhausting I've done it ...

And realised that I'm a terrible judge of profile lol!

x

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I've tried it all, including lonely hearts columns in the local paper before the internet was invented. I'm still single so I'm obviously shit at it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've dipped my toes ...and more.... into online dating on and off over the last 16 years. Tried both free and pay sites.

Real life dating never happens either, i just don't give off that aura.

I've come to the conclusion that i'll probably never have a ltr again...but also realised that being single forever definitely isn't the worst fate that could befall me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've tried it all, including lonely hearts columns in the local paper before the internet was invented. I'm still single so I'm obviously shit at it!"

So i'm pretty shit at it too!

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"I've tried it all, including lonely hearts columns in the local paper before the internet was invented. I'm still single so I'm obviously shit at it!

So i'm pretty shit at it too! "

I think it's because we just won't settle for compromise? I dunno, it's just never happened.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've tried it all, including lonely hearts columns in the local paper before the internet was invented. I'm still single so I'm obviously shit at it!

So i'm pretty shit at it too!

I think it's because we just won't settle for compromise? I dunno, it's just never happened."

I'm less tolerant of lots of things and not very good at compromise at all. I simply haven't had to for a while

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By *andeCouple
over a year ago

Bognor area

We met on fishy site met a couple of lovely but not for me guys who have kept in touch with - all in ltr now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had to give up on online dating, the profiles are all the same, it became irritating reading the same things over and over again.

I do believe meeting in person is the way forward, however I am pretty shy in real life, so I've resigned myself to being alone. I'm going to get cats.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"I've tried it all, including lonely hearts columns in the local paper before the internet was invented. I'm still single so I'm obviously shit at it!

So i'm pretty shit at it too!

I think it's because we just won't settle for compromise? I dunno, it's just never happened.

I'm less tolerant of lots of things and not very good at compromise at all. I simply haven't had to for a while "

We need to start our own dating site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll join your online dating , any older women?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I had to give up on online dating, the profiles are all the same, it became irritating reading the same things over and over again.

I do believe meeting in person is the way forward, however I am pretty shy in real life, so I've resigned myself to being alone. I'm going to get cats. "

That cats say hi

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By *oachman 9CoolMan
over a year ago

derby


"I'll join your online dating , any older women?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll join your online dating , any older women?"

As cofounder....you're barred already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to use the fishy site, got bored of it and started telling the women I do some swinging, ended up getting lots more dates than before? Who would have guessed? And yes some of them had meets with me.

Met my current partner on here which is funny because we were in the same class at school

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll join your online dating , any older women?

As cofounder....you're barred already "
I'm hoping to join the board if you're on it x

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By *z2goTV/TS
over a year ago

london

Love the shoes x

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Sorry to hear it Miss CC

I think that certain site is full of people looking for fun and pretending not to be.

Maybe the sites you pay a little bit for are better ?

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife and I met through a dating site, back in 2002, when it was still not that common.

I was her first and only online date. She was my 4th date via online, plus a few women I chatted to but never met.

The dates before that had been mediocre/horrendous so I was ready to give up.

Although with me being on the autistic spectrum and much more shy back then, it was an alternative to meeting in real life.

Online dating seems to have passed its prime, a lot of the single women I've worked with dont seem to happy with it.

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