FabSwingers.com forum: What makes a good message?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm aware it can take a long time sometimes to make contact with people here, since so often if you're messaging women (as I am), you have to keep in mind they're (apparently) getting inundated with so many responses that your own becomes but a drop in the ocean.

With that in mind, I'm interested in canvassing opinions concerning what makes a good response to a profile by, say, a single woman wanting to meet new people? Are any women here interested in sharing emails they received that were particularly effective, from single males or otherwise? Is it best in a message to be overtly sexual, or just friendly and saying 'hi'?

Opinions?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi fancy a fuck I have an hour normally works fine

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

"Hi fancy a fuck I have an hour normally works fine

or 10 mins in your case kev

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I start on the shoulders and gently rub, then move along all the muscles in the back....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

id say a message that prooves you,ve read there profile properly..then its out of your hands.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

You won't get a definitive answer as we all like different things.

The best thing to do is be yourself and write what you think is a good mail. If it doesn't get you anywhere, change it round a bit etc until you get a response.

For us though, we like a bit of humour, plus more than " do you want a fuck" but it doesn't have to be an essay.

We like straight talking men who tell us what they are after and we decide if we want it or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi fancy a fuck I have an hour normally works fine

or 10 mins in your case kev

10 mins if I want 3 bonks

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Hi fancy a fuck I have an hour normally works fine

or 10 mins in your case kev

10 mins if I want 3 bonks

I'd say he is a 1 min man

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

DON'T be yourself!! I'm an axe murdering lunatic, I really don't want people knowing that now do I?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

compliments if theres pics, some humour ,something about urself, and i always ask someone to have a look at my profile and see if they like it.Then send hatemail threats if they delete ur mail.......oops delete that last one!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi fancy a fuck I have an hour normally works fine

or 10 mins in your case kev

10 mins if I want 3 bonks

I'd say he is a 1 min man

As long as I'm happy and you will always have your toys

crap just done another one

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Hi fancy a fuck I have an hour normally works fine

or 10 mins in your case kev

10 mins if I want 3 bonks

I'd say he is a 1 min man

As long as I'm happy and you will always have your toys

crap just done another one

Yes I will my toys you will just be on the sidelines for when the batteries run out and the shops are shut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi fancy a fuck I have an hour normally works fine

or 10 mins in your case kev

10 mins if I want 3 bonks

I'd say he is a 1 min man

As long as I'm happy and you will always have your toys

crap just done another one

Yes I will my toys you will just be on the sidelines for when the batteries run out and the shops are shut

Agreed, do you want me to climb back in and retrieve my miners helmet love

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Hi fancy a fuck I have an hour normally works fine

or 10 mins in your case kev

10 mins if I want 3 bonks

I'd say he is a 1 min man

As long as I'm happy and you will always have your toys

crap just done another one

Yes I will my toys you will just be on the sidelines for when the batteries run out and the shops are shut

Agreed, do you want me to climb back in and retrieve my miners helmet love

Ermmmmmmmmm why not close the flaps on the way out or there will be a draft

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

a good quality oil, sandalwood is my favourite, nice warm hands and firm but gentle pressure.

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

sorry I thought you said massage!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"I start on the shoulders and gently rub, then move along all the muscles in the back...."

Had to read it twice to get that.....got it eventually

If it is to a couple then should be written to both (not just the lady)

Maybe include something from the profile that you liked and also shows you actually read it!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well, sounds like I'm doing pretty much what I should be. Guess it's just down to persistence. Any way to write a title though, for a message, that might sound a bit more interesting than 'Hi Jane' or 'Hi Kirstie'? I'm rubbish at message titles, and they're another thing that make it hard to stand out from the crowd.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

But you won't stand out from the crowd if we all tell you what to write

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I always start it with a line to catch their attention, something to intrigue them...

"I know your mum..." or

"You left you knickers last time..." or

"I'm outside now..."

Guaranteed they will open your message.... and block you to be fair.

But hopefully you get the point, that first line is critical.

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

"Well, sounds like I'm doing pretty much what I should be. Guess it's just down to persistence. Any way to write a title though, for a message, that might sound a bit more interesting than 'Hi Jane' or 'Hi Kirstie'? I'm rubbish at message titles, and they're another thing that make it hard to stand out from the crowd."

try "Hi Wendy"..... that might work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try "Hi Wendy"..... that might work

Hi wendy..i mailed u today...u ignored it but i still want ya!! hehhee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How much does a Polar Bear Weigh???

Enough to break the ice.......

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

try "Hi Wendy"..... that might work

Hi wendy..i mailed u today...u ignored it but i still want ya!! hehhee"

who said that??????

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

try "Hi Wendy"..... that might work

You mean something like

''Hi, wendya wanna fuck me???????????''

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I tried 'Do Not Read This', but unfortunately they followed the advice...

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

try "Hi Wendy"..... that might work

You mean something like

''Hi, wendya wanna fuck me???????????'' "

that could work

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"I tried 'Do Not Read This', but unfortunately they followed the advice..."

lol you see that would make me smile and want me to read it

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

"I tried 'Do Not Read This', but unfortunately they followed the advice..."

I would read it then reply saying "ok, I won't"

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"I tried 'Do Not Read This', but unfortunately they followed the advice...

lol you see that would make me smile and want me to read it

nods

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are any women here interested in sharing emails they received that were particularly effective"

Nope! Cuz then we'd be inundated with copy/paste messages, all the same.

A good message has to be original and demonstrate your personality. Don't tell us what you think we want to hear.... be yourself!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Use buzz words to reel them in:

shoes

handbags

zumba

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By *razydriver8Couple
over a year ago

plymouth

we always try and link it to something with in their profile. normally gets our mail read..

hope that helps..

and one small point... pics that we need to turn the monitor to see can become a tad annoying..

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Be yourself, make sure you read my profile and a bit of humour. A picture is useful but only if it shows the person not parts of their anatomy only. Finally, the suggestion "Do not read this" would make me curious... so I would respond

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I used to send one saying 'free chocolate with every meet'

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"I used to send one saying 'free chocolate with every meet'

LOL But what chocolate were you offering, it makes all the difference you know

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By *o Peep n WoodyCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

from my experience, what makes a good message is mostly , reading a profile before copy and pasting your "perfect message" you keep on MS Word.

Many men could of had met us if wasnt the copy message without reading our profile.. they're on block list now

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I’m not keen on providing a message template for what will likely work, as part of what works best is that the sender worked it out for themselves….. but I don’t mind saying what definitely doesn’t work for me:

If it is obvious they skipped the part of the profile with all the words.

If the message is generic and could easily be sent to a hundred different people.

If the message contains moaning about timewasters, people not replying or fakes.

If the message implies the person is socially inept at starting a conversation.

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

just had message are you free this weekend ,answer yes from me ,now i have a meet agreed, what more do you need from a message by the way i dont send messages out for meets , i dont have to its all about contacts why do so many single guys complain they cant get meets its so simple

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