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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How many dates should one have before having sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as soon as you want him to fuck off and leave you alone, that is the time to have sex...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to there own ,whenever you feel it's the right time go for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely you would know by now....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"as soon as you want him to fuck off and leave you alone, that is the time to have sex... "
pmsl oh dear me lol

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By *hekaiserMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

No set rule....i got a bj off a girl on our first date.

Dated a girl last year...kissed on the 2nd date. 3rd date by the time i could get her top off and never had sex as it we never got past the 3rd date....

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By *uietlyBohemianCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

Not sure how many for certain, but can definitely confirm that consuming the whole box is liable to cause embarrassing interruptions. Probably better to stick to choccies

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By *ingdong11Man
over a year ago

emsworth


"as soon as you want him to fuck off and leave you alone, that is the time to have sex... "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Surely you would know by now...."

Haven't done it in years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs and I fucked on our first date

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"as soon as you want him to fuck off and leave you alone, that is the time to have sex... "

What if I don't want them to fuck off and leave me alone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last vanilla I met in local. Came back for coffee. Left her in lounge while I went to kitchen to make coffee. Came back and she wasn't there (thought she had gone to toilet). Sat down in lounge...two mins later heard "where's the coffee then?".

Found her naked in my bed..... I think things have changed since my youth lol! (Having said that she was 27)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"as soon as you want him to fuck off and leave you alone, that is the time to have sex...

What if I don't want them to fuck off and leave me alone? "

probably won't have a choice once he's fucked you.

i'm putting it down to the guys i date feel guilty for being so slutty so early on in the relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whenever the mood takes you. It makes mo difference to me. I don't have time for games personally but I'd say do whatever makes you feel comfortable.

Doll x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fucked my boyfriend before our 1st date. It was my 1st guitar lesson with him the day we met n I never went home lol x

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

try before you buy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and Mr SnT fucked on our first date. We should have been going for a lunch date but I asked him to take me home and fuck me! We did go for lunch afterwards though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never been on a date so I wouldn't know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally speaking, I've never fucked on a first date if I like them, and want it to go further. Nothing to do with respect, it's preference. I just like to get to know them a bit first, because when sex does eventually happen, it turns into not being able to keep your hands off each other for a while. But it's horses for courses. Whatever you feel is right OP. Everyone's different .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no set rule. Just when it feels right but I wouldn't rush it.

I was a virgin before I met Dorian so we didn't have sex until 2 months down the line

~Mia

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Vanilla dating is so complicated.

If I just wanted sex it would be so much easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Treat it like a meet, social first

Then sex

Unless they are hot, and your horny, then forget what I've said,two failed marriages, what the fuck do I know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't a clue as the only ever date I went on was last year with MrWho. All my relationships started with sex, I kind of bypassed the dating phase. From what friends have told me of their dating experiences there are no rules. Go with what feels right at the time. If anyone loses respect for you for having sex too soon, as they perceive it, then they're misogynistic cockwombles unworthy of your attention.

Nell

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've had one date so far with this person.

Just went out for a few drinks.

We hit it off, lots of laughter and easy to chat to.

He's taking me out for dinner on Tuesday.

Lots of texting and flirting going on.

I just hope this isn't all just to get in my knickers and then it's adios.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never on the first date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had one date so far with this person.

Just went out for a few drinks.

We hit it off, lots of laughter and easy to chat to.

He's taking me out for dinner on Tuesday.

Lots of texting and flirting going on.

I just hope this isn't all just to get in my knickers and then it's adios. "

even if it is there'll be other guys. don't stress about it, really.

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By *ick RapidMan
over a year ago

coventry

ASAP

No it depends if you want a relationship

If he really wants to be with you it won't matter and you have other things in common to do before then and you will be able to tell also if he really likes he will settle for fore play to start

Depends how often you see him too

I'd say 6 weeks

1 date per week for the 1st 3 weeks

Then 2 dates per week and so on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought there was a 5 date rule

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've had one date so far with this person.

Just went out for a few drinks.

We hit it off, lots of laughter and easy to chat to.

He's taking me out for dinner on Tuesday.

Lots of texting and flirting going on.

I just hope this isn't all just to get in my knickers and then it's adios.

even if it is there'll be other guys. don't stress about it, really."

You're right. Just for me, vanilla dating wise it doesn't happen often that I feel a connection with someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"as soon as you want him to fuck off and leave you alone, that is the time to have sex... "

Hahaha!

Are there rules to vanilla dating?

I've been on very few "dates" and have fucked most of them immediately!

One of them ended up being a four year relationship.

I have to confess that my last relationship was one of those situations where we were friends first so it all happened organically.

I'm not sure how to behave in a "dating" scenario ...

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"ASAP

No it depends if you want a relationship

If he really wants to be with you it won't matter and you have other things in common to do before then and you will be able to tell also if he really likes he will settle for fore play to start

Depends how often you see him too

I'd say 6 weeks

1 date per week for the 1st 3 weeks

Then 2 dates per week and so on "
you may waste 6 weeks before you find out they are crap in bed? no chance..(btw i dont vanilla date)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only you can decide that, but ensure you do what feels right for you, not anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had one date so far with this person.

Just went out for a few drinks.

We hit it off, lots of laughter and easy to chat to.

He's taking me out for dinner on Tuesday.

Lots of texting and flirting going on.

I just hope this isn't all just to get in my knickers and then it's adios.

even if it is there'll be other guys. don't stress about it, really.

You're right. Just for me, vanilla dating wise it doesn't happen often that I feel a connection with someone. "

i'm a slow burner. if i get on with someone it'll take me ages to get into them so that might be why it's easy for me to say that? like if we split within a few months it doesn't really bother me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had one date so far with this person.

Just went out for a few drinks.

We hit it off, lots of laughter and easy to chat to.

He's taking me out for dinner on Tuesday.

Lots of texting and flirting going on.

I just hope this isn't all just to get in my knickers and then it's adios. "

Does it matter if it is? Plenty more men out there to enjoy.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"as soon as you want him to fuck off and leave you alone, that is the time to have sex...

What if I don't want them to fuck off and leave me alone? "

Never then

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"you may waste 6 weeks before you find out they are crap in bed? no chance..(btw i dont vanilla date)"

True. I did a vanilla date recently and forgot it wasn't a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people like to lean more about the lover first before dropping knickers so what's what kissing and rubbings for

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Only you can decide that, but ensure you do what feels right for you, not anyone else."

Thanks, that's good advice

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