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"she's sexy as hell. Romanian. petite.. Id say 5.2 we live in apartments so she's in the one in front. she has a child and a man who constantly drinks and smokes. never hqve seen him without having a fag or drink. really weird. makes me wonder when does he work. oooh she doesn't speak much English nor I try to engage. she lives next door.. haha. dont want problems. anyone ever tried that and actually achieved ? "Have to say---the odds don't look good. Though some would say sex is a language all its own, most usually do need some form of communication beforehand. Maybe you could offer to tutor her in English? | |||
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"She has a man and a child - butt out!!! "Surely the decision to take things further would lie with the woman though. Maybe she would welcome attention from OP, have you thought of that? | |||
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"By get with do you mean you want to fuck your neighbour? The woman who has a family that you may break up or if you get caught get a well deserved slap from her fella. Is that what you are asking? " no no man. just sex. I don't get kicks out of drama | |||
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"She has a man and a child - butt out!!!
Surely the decision to take things further would lie with the woman though. Maybe she would welcome attention from OP, have you thought of that?"true. I don't Stare at her or anything like that. and if she's drying her clothes or going out. I don't directly look at her. I mind my own self but when you're horned up.. these thoughts come in your mind you know  | |||
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"She has a man and a child - butt out!!!
Surely the decision to take things further would lie with the woman though. Maybe she would welcome attention from OP, have you thought of that?"I don't give a damn - it's wrong, people should respect other people's relationships. | |||
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"It is risky playing on your own doorstep, but if you think she's worth the risk, give her a friendly smile and a hello and see how she responds." okay. no harm at all | |||
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"You said you don't want problems while you try to break up the family next door by fucking the wife, who (as far as we know) has never even shown an interest in you? Crack on mate, what's the worst that could happen? "why would he be breaking up a family. Hesdinly talking about NSA sex. As long as she is made aware that all it would ever be, then there shouldn't be any issues. | |||
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"Or tell her about this site and we can all have a go ha ha" hahaha ha  sure! | |||
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"You said you don't want problems while you try to break up the family next door by fucking the wife, who (as far as we know) has never even shown an interest in you? Crack on mate, what's the worst that could happen?
why would he be breaking up a family. Hesdinly talking about NSA sex. As long as she is made aware that all it would ever be, then there shouldn't be any issues."*He's only talking | |||
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"You said you don't want problems while you try to break up the family next door by fucking the wife, who (as far as we know) has never even shown an interest in you? Crack on mate, what's the worst that could happen?
why would he be breaking up a family. Hesdinly talking about NSA sex. As long as she is made aware that all it would ever be, then there shouldn't be any issues."wow. she's a queen not a bs'er | |||
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"You said you don't want problems while you try to break up the family next door by fucking the wife, who (as far as we know) has never even shown an interest in you? Crack on mate, what's the worst that could happen?
why would he be breaking up a family. Hesdinly talking about NSA sex. As long as she is made aware that all it would ever be, then there shouldn't be any issues."Sorry but for most people cheating is an issue, and rightly so. | |||
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"She has a man and a child - butt out!!!
Surely the decision to take things further would lie with the woman though. Maybe she would welcome attention from OP, have you thought of that?
I don't give a damn - it's wrong, people should respect other people's relationships."Wrong in your opinion maybe. He isn't disrespecting her relationship. She may love the attention, she may not. It would be her choice. | |||
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"You said you don't want problems while you try to break up the family next door by fucking the wife, who (as far as we know) has never even shown an interest in you? Crack on mate, what's the worst that could happen?
why would he be breaking up a family. Hesdinly talking about NSA sex. As long as she is made aware that all it would ever be, then there shouldn't be any issues."Yeh but her fella may disagree. | |||
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"If he doesn't work and she has a small child I can't imagine there will be any point where she would be able to nip round your for a quicky without someone finding out. Why not try finding someone less risky?" I do :3 but there's like you have to meet such weird ass requirements to meet people on here or they don't find me their cuppa. I don't mess at work because it's work :3 ad it's full of females | |||
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"Hire a police type uniform and knock on the door, if your lucky the hubby might not have permission to live here so he'll leg it out of the back window and you can work your magic" haha! omfg | |||
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"You said you don't want problems while you try to break up the family next door by fucking the wife, who (as far as we know) has never even shown an interest in you? Crack on mate, what's the worst that could happen?
why would he be breaking up a family. Hesdinly talking about NSA sex. As long as she is made aware that all it would ever be, then there shouldn't be any issues.
Sorry but for most people cheating is an issue, and rightly so."Most people lol ...have you realised how many "single" people on Fab are actually married or attached ? | |||
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"Get caught naked by her a few times put the thought in her head lol " lol.. theres like a little hallway and she is only ever out to fry her clothes and whatnot xD how am Igonna be seen naked by her? | |||
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"You said you don't want problems while you try to break up the family next door by fucking the wife, who (as far as we know) has never even shown an interest in you? Crack on mate, what's the worst that could happen?
why would he be breaking up a family. Hesdinly talking about NSA sex. As long as she is made aware that all it would ever be, then there shouldn't be any issues.
Yeh but her fella may disagree. "I doubt they would be telling him. | |||
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"You said you don't want problems while you try to break up the family next door by fucking the wife, who (as far as we know) has never even shown an interest in you? Crack on mate, what's the worst that could happen?
why would he be breaking up a family. Hesdinly talking about NSA sex. As long as she is made aware that all it would ever be, then there shouldn't be any issues.
wow. she's a queen not a bs'er "What is a bs'er? | |||
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"You said you don't want problems while you try to break up the family next door by fucking the wife, who (as far as we know) has never even shown an interest in you? Crack on mate, what's the worst that could happen?
why would he be breaking up a family. Hesdinly talking about NSA sex. As long as she is made aware that all it would ever be, then there shouldn't be any issues.
Yeh but her fella may disagree.
I doubt they would be telling him."I'll try the smile and hello. God trying to make conversation sounds fun. don't want to destroy her familt or anything. just simple nsa | |||
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"You said you don't want problems while you try to break up the family next door by fucking the wife, who (as far as we know) has never even shown an interest in you? Crack on mate, what's the worst that could happen?
why would he be breaking up a family. Hesdinly talking about NSA sex. As long as she is made aware that all it would ever be, then there shouldn't be any issues.
wow. she's a queen not a bs'er
What is a bs'er?"be is bullshit and a bs'er bullshitter :3 as you saw these othere females attack like vultures where as you actually understood | |||
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"You said you don't want problems while you try to break up the family next door by fucking the wife, who (as far as we know) has never even shown an interest in you? Crack on mate, what's the worst that could happen?
why would he be breaking up a family. Hesdinly talking about NSA sex. As long as she is made aware that all it would ever be, then there shouldn't be any issues.
Yeh but her fella may disagree.
I doubt they would be telling him.
I'll try the smile and hello. God trying to make conversation sounds fun. don't want to destroy her familt or anything. just simple nsa"Out of interest if you just want no strings attached why are you interested in a woman with more strings than Pinocchio? | |||
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"You said you don't want problems while you try to break up the family next door by fucking the wife, who (as far as we know) has never even shown an interest in you? Crack on mate, what's the worst that could happen?
why would he be breaking up a family. Hesdinly talking about NSA sex. As long as she is made aware that all it would ever be, then there shouldn't be any issues.
wow. she's a queen not a bs'er
What is a bs'er?
be is bullshit and a bs'er bullshitter :3 as you saw these othere females attack like vultures where as you actually understood"Ah right. | |||
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"You said you don't want problems while you try to break up the family next door by fucking the wife, who (as far as we know) has never even shown an interest in you? Crack on mate, what's the worst that could happen?
why would he be breaking up a family. Hesdinly talking about NSA sex. As long as she is made aware that all it would ever be, then there shouldn't be any issues.
Yeh but her fella may disagree.
I doubt they would be telling him."Yeh that doesn't sound foolproof for him not finding out. | |||
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"One hopes, if she turns the OP down, he'll leave her alone." mi imagine he would. Is anyone really pathetic enough to keep on trying after a refusal ? | |||
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"She has a man and a child - butt out!!!
Surely the decision to take things further would lie with the woman though. Maybe she would welcome attention from OP, have you thought of that?
I don't give a damn - it's wrong, people should respect other people's relationships.
Wrong in your opinion maybe. He isn't disrespecting her relationship. She may love the attention, she may not. It would be her choice."It is wrong, period, to attempt to fuck someone who has a relationship and child with someone else. Cheating is wrong, period. People make choices, it happens for all kinds of reasons, it always will, and on a site like this it abounds and we all collude at times, I get that. But let's not ever pretend black is white or betrayal or an attempt to cause it is ever going to be right. It isn't. | |||
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"You said you don't want problems while you try to break up the family next door by fucking the wife, who (as far as we know) has never even shown an interest in you? Crack on mate, what's the worst that could happen?
why would he be breaking up a family. Hesdinly talking about NSA sex. As long as she is made aware that all it would ever be, then there shouldn't be any issues.
Yeh but her fella may disagree.
I doubt they would be telling him.
Yeh that doesn't sound foolproof for him not finding out."Ways and means | |||
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"One hopes, if she turns the OP down, he'll leave her alone.mi imagine he would. Is anyone really pathetic enough to keep on trying after a refusal ?" Yes, as my inbox shows regularly. | |||
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"One hopes, if she turns the OP down, he'll leave her alone.mi imagine he would. Is anyone really pathetic enough to keep on trying after a refusal ?" I neveeR have tried :3 and if she doesnt. Just like fab. Leave them alone | |||
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"She has a man and a child - butt out!!!
Surely the decision to take things further would lie with the woman though. Maybe she would welcome attention from OP, have you thought of that?
I don't give a damn - it's wrong, people should respect other people's relationships.
Wrong in your opinion maybe. He isn't disrespecting her relationship. She may love the attention, she may not. It would be her choice.
It is wrong, period, to attempt to fuck someone who has a relationship and child with someone else. Cheating is wrong, period. People make choices, it happens for all kinds of reasons, it always will, and on a site like this it abounds and we all collude at times, I get that.
But let's not ever pretend black is white or betrayal or an attempt to cause it is ever going to be right.
It isn't. "You are entitled to your opinion of course
But I'm simply saying that life isn't black and white, ever. Life isn't that simple. I try not to judge on situations I know nothing about. | |||
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"You said you don't want problems while you try to break up the family next door by fucking the wife, who (as far as we know) has never even shown an interest in you? Crack on mate, what's the worst that could happen?
why would he be breaking up a family. Hesdinly talking about NSA sex. As long as she is made aware that all it would ever be, then there shouldn't be any issues.
Yeh but her fella may disagree.
I doubt they would be telling him.
Yeh that doesn't sound foolproof for him not finding out.
Ways and means "Plenty of ways and means to get caught, I totally agree. | |||
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"One hopes, if she turns the OP down, he'll leave her alone.mi imagine he would. Is anyone really pathetic enough to keep on trying after a refusal ?" If someone is pathetic enough to go after some married then probably. | |||
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"One hopes, if she turns the OP down, he'll leave her alone.mi imagine he would. Is anyone really pathetic enough to keep on trying after a refusal ? Yes, as my inbox shows regularly." I mean in a face to face situation though. Fab is different. | |||
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"One hopes, if she turns the OP down, he'll leave her alone.mi imagine he would. Is anyone really pathetic enough to keep on trying after a refusal ? If someone is pathetic enough to go after some married then probably. " Why pathetic? Have is crossed your mind the lady may appreciate the attention? | |||
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"One hopes, if she turns the OP down, he'll leave her alone.mi imagine he would. Is anyone really pathetic enough to keep on trying after a refusal ? If someone is pathetic enough to go after some married then probably. " The title just seems strange. | |||
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"One hopes, if she turns the OP down, he'll leave her alone.mi imagine he would. Is anyone really pathetic enough to keep on trying after a refusal ? Yes, as my inbox shows regularly. I mean in a face to face situation though. Fab is different." Yes, it happens. Stalkers, 'nice guys', d*unk blokes. Not lumping the OP in with that. I assume he can control himself living in such close quarters with a woman who he finds so attractive he's willing to ignore her husband being around, but it does happen. | |||
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"You said you don't want problems while you try to break up the family next door by fucking the wife, who (as far as we know) has never even shown an interest in you? Crack on mate, what's the worst that could happen?
why would he be breaking up a family. Hesdinly talking about NSA sex. As long as she is made aware that all it would ever be, then there shouldn't be any issues.
Yeh but her fella may disagree.
I doubt they would be telling him.
Yeh that doesn't sound foolproof for him not finding out.
Ways and means
Plenty of ways and means to get caught, I totally agree."Very true, also lots of ways of not getting caught either. | |||
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"One hopes, if she turns the OP down, he'll leave her alone.mi imagine he would. Is anyone really pathetic enough to keep on trying after a refusal ? If someone is pathetic enough to go after some married then probably. Why pathetic? Have is crossed your mind the lady may appreciate the attention? " I assume if someone was to con or defraud you, you know cheat? You'd be as understanding and not wanting any recompense. | |||
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"She has a man and a child - butt out!!!
Surely the decision to take things further would lie with the woman though. Maybe she would welcome attention from OP, have you thought of that?
I don't give a damn - it's wrong, people should respect other people's relationships.
Wrong in your opinion maybe. He isn't disrespecting her relationship. She may love the attention, she may not. It would be her choice.
It is wrong, period, to attempt to fuck someone who has a relationship and child with someone else. Cheating is wrong, period. People make choices, it happens for all kinds of reasons, it always will, and on a site like this it abounds and we all collude at times, I get that.
But let's not ever pretend black is white or betrayal or an attempt to cause it is ever going to be right.
It isn't.
You are entitled to your opinion of course
But I'm simply saying that life isn't black and white, ever. Life isn't that simple. I try not to judge on situations I know nothing about."Not judging someone is a far cry from actively encouraging something so blatantly fucked up. If she wants to cheat, let her go on a sex site and advertise the fact, otherwise respect their space and leave her alone. | |||
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"She has a man and a child - butt out!!!
Surely the decision to take things further would lie with the woman though. Maybe she would welcome attention from OP, have you thought of that?
I don't give a damn - it's wrong, people should respect other people's relationships.
Wrong in your opinion maybe. He isn't disrespecting her relationship. She may love the attention, she may not. It would be her choice.
It is wrong, period, to attempt to fuck someone who has a relationship and child with someone else. Cheating is wrong, period. People make choices, it happens for all kinds of reasons, it always will, and on a site like this it abounds and we all collude at times, I get that.
But let's not ever pretend black is white or betrayal or an attempt to cause it is ever going to be right.
It isn't.
You are entitled to your opinion of course
But I'm simply saying that life isn't black and white, ever. Life isn't that simple. I try not to judge on situations I know nothing about.
Not judging someone is a far cry from actively encouraging something so blatantly fucked up. If she wants to cheat, let her go on a sex site and advertise the fact, otherwise respect their space and leave her alone. "She may not feel comfortable going online. He isn't disrespecting her. Showing a woman interest happens in every day life, in all walks of life. The decision would be hers, he wouldn't be forcing her. | |||
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"she's sexy as hell. Romanian. petite.. Id say 5.2 we live in apartments so she's in the one in front. she has a child and a man who constantly drinks and smokes. never hqve seen him without having a fag or drink. really weird. makes me wonder when does he work. oooh she doesn't speak much English nor I try to engage. she lives next door.. haha. dont want problems. anyone ever tried that and actually achieved ? "So you're focused on dipping your wick with a woman who is, from your own description, possibly isolated and vulnerable? Think about how exploitative this may be. | |||
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"Going after someone you know,married,with child,not on fab, well put it this way if her "smoking drinking husband " gets wind of you trying to shag her you may have to move. And then you put it up for discussion. It appears in this world we live in not only honesty is beginning to disappear but morals also. " I don't think its a lack or morals, but it smacks of a lack of respect. Gorgeous women MUST be up for extra marital sex, therefore people think it's OK to proposition them. However at least the OP is starting with a smile and a nod, instead of pinning her against the washing machines. Maybe his Christmas will come early. | |||
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"she's sexy as hell. Romanian. petite.. Id say 5.2 we live in apartments so she's in the one in front. she has a child and a man who constantly drinks and smokes. never hqve seen him without having a fag or drink. really weird. makes me wonder when does he work. oooh she doesn't speak much English nor I try to engage. she lives next door.. haha. dont want problems. anyone ever tried that and actually achieved ?
So you're focused on dipping your wick with a woman who is, from your own description, possibly isolated and vulnerable? Think about how exploitative this may be. "Sounds like an ideal catch. | |||
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"Going after someone you know,married,with child,not on fab, well put it this way if her "smoking drinking husband " gets wind of you trying to shag her you may have to move. And then you put it up for discussion. It appears in this world we live in not only honesty is beginning to disappear but morals also. " It's his choice if he wants to take the risk of saying hello. Personally I say hello and smile to a lot of people every day. I feel people are blowing this thread out of proportion. OO asked for Ideson getting her attention. He has done nothing wrong. | |||
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"She has a man and a child - butt out!!!
Surely the decision to take things further would lie with the woman though. Maybe she would welcome attention from OP, have you thought of that?
I don't give a damn - it's wrong, people should respect other people's relationships.
Wrong in your opinion maybe. He isn't disrespecting her relationship. She may love the attention, she may not. It would be her choice.
It is wrong, period, to attempt to fuck someone who has a relationship and child with someone else. Cheating is wrong, period. People make choices, it happens for all kinds of reasons, it always will, and on a site like this it abounds and we all collude at times, I get that.
But let's not ever pretend black is white or betrayal or an attempt to cause it is ever going to be right.
It isn't.
You are entitled to your opinion of course
But I'm simply saying that life isn't black and white, ever. Life isn't that simple. I try not to judge on situations I know nothing about.
Not judging someone is a far cry from actively encouraging something so blatantly fucked up. If she wants to cheat, let her go on a sex site and advertise the fact, otherwise respect their space and leave her alone.
She may not feel comfortable going online.
He isn't disrespecting her. Showing a woman interest happens in every day life, in all walks of life.
The decision would be hers, he wouldn't be forcing her."It is disrespectful to both parties - the woman and the man she is in a relationship with. Showing interest is fine if someone doesn't know their status or has no intent. But if someone is attached and you know it, it is wrong, period. | |||
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"Going after someone you know,married,with child,not on fab, well put it this way if her "smoking drinking husband " gets wind of you trying to shag her you may have to move. And then you put it up for discussion. It appears in this world we live in not only honesty is beginning to disappear but morals also. It's his choice if he wants to take the risk of saying hello. Personally I say hello and smile to a lot of people every day. I feel people are blowing this thread out of proportion. OO asked for Ideson getting her attention. He has done nothing wrong. " *Ideas of getting her attention | |||
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"She has a man and a child - butt out!!!
Surely the decision to take things further would lie with the woman though. Maybe she would welcome attention from OP, have you thought of that?
I don't give a damn - it's wrong, people should respect other people's relationships.
Wrong in your opinion maybe. He isn't disrespecting her relationship. She may love the attention, she may not. It would be her choice.
It is wrong, period, to attempt to fuck someone who has a relationship and child with someone else. Cheating is wrong, period. People make choices, it happens for all kinds of reasons, it always will, and on a site like this it abounds and we all collude at times, I get that.
But let's not ever pretend black is white or betrayal or an attempt to cause it is ever going to be right.
It isn't.
You are entitled to your opinion of course
But I'm simply saying that life isn't black and white, ever. Life isn't that simple. I try not to judge on situations I know nothing about.
Not judging someone is a far cry from actively encouraging something so blatantly fucked up. If she wants to cheat, let her go on a sex site and advertise the fact, otherwise respect their space and leave her alone.
She may not feel comfortable going online.
He isn't disrespecting her. Showing a woman interest happens in every day life, in all walks of life.
The decision would be hers, he wouldn't be forcing her.
It is disrespectful to both parties - the woman and the man she is in a relationship with. Showing interest is fine if someone doesn't know their status or has no intent.
But if someone is attached and you know it, it is wrong, period."Oh if only | |||
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"Going after someone you know,married,with child,not on fab, well put it this way if her "smoking drinking husband " gets wind of you trying to shag her you may have to move. And then you put it up for discussion. It appears in this world we live in not only honesty is beginning to disappear but morals also. It's his choice if he wants to take the risk of saying hello. Personally I say hello and smile to a lot of people every day. I feel people are blowing this thread out of proportion. OO asked for Ideson getting her attention. He has done nothing wrong. " No the title is quite clear, not how do I get her attention. How do I get with my neighbour. | |||
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"One hopes, if she turns the OP down, he'll leave her alone.mi imagine he would. Is anyone really pathetic enough to keep on trying after a refusal ? If someone is pathetic enough to go after some married then probably. Why pathetic? Have is crossed your mind the lady may appreciate the attention? I assume if someone was to con or defraud you, you know cheat? You'd be as understanding and not wanting any recompense. " Apologies if I seen thick lol, I'm not quite understanding what you mean? | |||
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"At the end of the day he can smile and say hello all he wants. If she doesn't reciprocate then what's he gonna do?? " Exactly. I imagine he won't take it any further | |||
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"One hopes, if she turns the OP down, he'll leave her alone.mi imagine he would. Is anyone really pathetic enough to keep on trying after a refusal ? If someone is pathetic enough to go after some married then probably. Why pathetic? Have is crossed your mind the lady may appreciate the attention? " Then tell her to ask her husband to give her some.  | |||
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"One hopes, if she turns the OP down, he'll leave her alone.mi imagine he would. Is anyone really pathetic enough to keep on trying after a refusal ? If someone is pathetic enough to go after some married then probably. Why pathetic? Have is crossed your mind the lady may appreciate the attention? I assume if someone was to con or defraud you, you know cheat? You'd be as understanding and not wanting any recompense. Apologies if I seen thick lol, I'm not quite understanding what you mean?" You say life is not black and white, you seem content for cheating to take place. I'm assuming you are happy to be cheated on too, in all walks of life. Cheating and lying are not restricted to sexual monogamy. | |||
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"It is risky playing on your own doorstep, but if you think she's worth the risk, give her a friendly smile and a hello and see how she responds." How would you respond??? | |||
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"It is risky playing on your own doorstep, but if you think she's worth the risk, give her a friendly smile and a hello and see how she responds. How would you respond???" Hahaha...well obviously depends on the man in question  | |||
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"She has a man and a child - butt out!!!
Surely the decision to take things further would lie with the woman though. Maybe she would welcome attention from OP, have you thought of that?
I don't give a damn - it's wrong, people should respect other people's relationships.
Wrong in your opinion maybe. He isn't disrespecting her relationship. She may love the attention, she may not. It would be her choice.
It is wrong, period, to attempt to fuck someone who has a relationship and child with someone else. Cheating is wrong, period. People make choices, it happens for all kinds of reasons, it always will, and on a site like this it abounds and we all collude at times, I get that.
But let's not ever pretend black is white or betrayal or an attempt to cause it is ever going to be right.
It isn't.
You are entitled to your opinion of course
But I'm simply saying that life isn't black and white, ever. Life isn't that simple. I try not to judge on situations I know nothing about.
Not judging someone is a far cry from actively encouraging something so blatantly fucked up. If she wants to cheat, let her go on a sex site and advertise the fact, otherwise respect their space and leave her alone.
She may not feel comfortable going online.
He isn't disrespecting her. Showing a woman interest happens in every day life, in all walks of life.
The decision would be hers, he wouldn't be forcing her.
It is disrespectful to both parties - the woman and the man she is in a relationship with. Showing interest is fine if someone doesn't know their status or has no intent.
But if someone is attached and you know it, it is wrong, period."Period | |||
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"One hopes, if she turns the OP down, he'll leave her alone.mi imagine he would. Is anyone really pathetic enough to keep on trying after a refusal ? If someone is pathetic enough to go after some married then probably. Why pathetic? Have is crossed your mind the lady may appreciate the attention? I assume if someone was to con or defraud you, you know cheat? You'd be as understanding and not wanting any recompense. Apologies if I seen thick lol, I'm not quite understanding what you mean? You say life is not black and white, you seem content for cheating to take place. I'm assuming you are happy to be cheated on too, in all walks of life. Cheating and lying are not restricted to sexual monogamy. " Ah right I understand now. Cheating and lying happens in everyday life, it happens to me regular away. Anyone who thinks people are honest and upfront are being fools to themselves. And I don't mean just in relationship terms, I mean in life in general. It's up to the individual how they xhossero deal with it . | |||
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"She has a man and a child - butt out!!!
Surely the decision to take things further would lie with the woman though. Maybe she would welcome attention from OP, have you thought of that?
I don't give a damn - it's wrong, people should respect other people's relationships.
Wrong in your opinion maybe. He isn't disrespecting her relationship. She may love the attention, she may not. It would be her choice.
It is wrong, period, to attempt to fuck someone who has a relationship and child with someone else. Cheating is wrong, period. People make choices, it happens for all kinds of reasons, it always will, and on a site like this it abounds and we all collude at times, I get that.
But let's not ever pretend black is white or betrayal or an attempt to cause it is ever going to be right.
It isn't.
You are entitled to your opinion of course
But I'm simply saying that life isn't black and white, ever. Life isn't that simple. I try not to judge on situations I know nothing about.
Not judging someone is a far cry from actively encouraging something so blatantly fucked up. If she wants to cheat, let her go on a sex site and advertise the fact, otherwise respect their space and leave her alone.
She may not feel comfortable going online.
He isn't disrespecting her. Showing a woman interest happens in every day life, in all walks of life.
The decision would be hers, he wouldn't be forcing her.
It is disrespectful to both parties - the woman and the man she is in a relationship with. Showing interest is fine if someone doesn't know their status or has no intent.
But if someone is attached and you know it, it is wrong, period.
Period"That's fine. Good for you do standing so strongly for what you believe in, I do the same. It's good to have such interesting debates | |||
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"She has a man and a child - butt out!!!
Surely the decision to take things further would lie with the woman though. Maybe she would welcome attention from OP, have you thought of that?
I don't give a damn - it's wrong, people should respect other people's relationships.
Wrong in your opinion maybe. He isn't disrespecting her relationship. She may love the attention, she may not. It would be her choice.
It is wrong, period, to attempt to fuck someone who has a relationship and child with someone else. Cheating is wrong, period. People make choices, it happens for all kinds of reasons, it always will, and on a site like this it abounds and we all collude at times, I get that.
But let's not ever pretend black is white or betrayal or an attempt to cause it is ever going to be right.
It isn't.
You are entitled to your opinion of course
But I'm simply saying that life isn't black and white, ever. Life isn't that simple. I try not to judge on situations I know nothing about.
Not judging someone is a far cry from actively encouraging something so blatantly fucked up. If she wants to cheat, let her go on a sex site and advertise the fact, otherwise respect their space and leave her alone.
She may not feel comfortable going online.
He isn't disrespecting her. Showing a woman interest happens in every day life, in all walks of life.
The decision would be hers, he wouldn't be forcing her.
It is disrespectful to both parties - the woman and the man she is in a relationship with. Showing interest is fine if someone doesn't know their status or has no intent.
But if someone is attached and you know it, it is wrong, period.
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"One hopes, if she turns the OP down, he'll leave her alone.mi imagine he would. Is anyone really pathetic enough to keep on trying after a refusal ? If someone is pathetic enough to go after some married then probably. Why pathetic? Have is crossed your mind the lady may appreciate the attention? Then tell her to ask her husband to give her some. "Maybe her husband won't/doesn't. | |||
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"Maybe her husband won't/doesn't." And maybe he does. Nowhere does the OP state that he thinks she's not getting any, just that he wants to give her some too. | |||
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"I fully accept lying and cheating happens, but I'd rather discourage it than encourage it. I think the world would be a far less pleasant place if more people took the attitude of do what you like and fuck everyone else. A life were you can't trust anyone just sounds like hard work. " Oh I whole heartedly agree with you but unfortunately life isn't like that. | |||
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Maybe her husband won't/doesn't."She should leave him then. | |||
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"she's sexy as hell. Romanian. petite.. Id say 5.2 we live in apartments so she's in the one in front. she has a child and a man who constantly drinks and smokes. never hqve seen him without having a fag or drink. really weird. makes me wonder when does he work. oooh she doesn't speak much English nor I try to engage. she lives next door.. haha. dont want problems. anyone ever tried that and actually achieved ? "She is obviously looking to shag the English guy next door . She cannot possibly be happy living with a guy who has a drink . And a cigarette ( sarcasm ) | |||
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"Maybe her husband won't/doesn't. And maybe he does. Nowhere does the OP state that he thinks she's not getting any, just that he wants to give her some too." True. I very much doubt he will know either way | |||
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"One hopes, if she turns the OP down, he'll leave her alone.mi imagine he would. Is anyone really pathetic enough to keep on trying after a refusal ? If someone is pathetic enough to go after some married then probably. Why pathetic? Have is crossed your mind the lady may appreciate the attention? Then tell her to ask her husband to give her some.
Maybe her husband won't/doesn't.
She should leave him then. "Why ? | |||
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"I fully accept lying and cheating happens, but I'd rather discourage it than encourage it. I think the world would be a far less pleasant place if more people took the attitude of do what you like and fuck everyone else. A life were you can't trust anyone just sounds like hard work. " | |||
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"There are millions of women in the world and you want the one right on your doorstep. Are you thinking how convenient it could be? Incidentally, how big is her husband? " Good point !! If he is smaller then 5inches your in with a chance OP. Oh you mean height?? | |||
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"One hopes, if she turns the OP down, he'll leave her alone.mi imagine he would. Is anyone really pathetic enough to keep on trying after a refusal ? If someone is pathetic enough to go after some married then probably. Why pathetic? Have is crossed your mind the lady may appreciate the attention? Then tell her to ask her husband to give her some.
Maybe her husband won't/doesn't.
She should leave him then.
Why ?"Why stay in a relationship were you aren't happy? | |||
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"Why would this lady not tell her husband that the pervert neighbour has started hitting on her. If my neighbour hit on me I'd tell hubby. Not all women are dishonest with their husbands and some of us actually have open communication. " Yes, I never got that in groups of women I would always hear 'Oh I bought x,y,z, but I would never tell Fred....'. Sorry I don't get it, your partner is not supposed to be the enemy!!  | |||
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"Why would this lady not tell her husband that the pervert neighbour has started hitting on her. If my neighbour hit on me I'd tell hubby. Not all women are dishonest with their husbands and some of us actually have open communication. Yes, I never got that in groups of women I would always hear 'Oh I bought x,y,z, but I would never tell Fred....'. Sorry I don't get it, your partner is not supposed to be the enemy!! "Sadly and frustatingly, not all women's husbands are even willing to discuss matters. | |||
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"Why would this lady not tell her husband that the pervert neighbour has started hitting on her. If my neighbour hit on me I'd tell hubby. I wouldn't tell mine as all as it would do is cause upset and conflict. I'd rather deal with such issues myself and live a peaceful happy life. Not all women are dishonest with their husbands and some of us actually have open communication. Yes, I never got that in groups of women I would always hear 'Oh I bought x,y,z, but I would never tell Fred....'. Sorry I don't get it, your partner is not supposed to be the enemy!! " | |||
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"One hopes, if she turns the OP down, he'll leave her alone.mi imagine he would. Is anyone really pathetic enough to keep on trying after a refusal ? If someone is pathetic enough to go after some married then probably. Why pathetic? Have is crossed your mind the lady may appreciate the attention? Then tell her to ask her husband to give her some.
Maybe her husband won't/doesn't.
She should leave him then.
Why ?
Why stay in a relationship were you aren't happy? "Where have I said I'm not happy ? I don't believe for a minute that everyone's relationship is perfect all of the time. It's all about compromise and making your relationship work so you both are happy for the majority of the time. | |||
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"Why would this lady not tell her husband that the pervert neighbour has started hitting on her. If my neighbour hit on me I'd tell hubby. Not all women are dishonest with their husbands and some of us actually have open communication. " It takes two to communicate though. | |||
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"One hopes, if she turns the OP down, he'll leave her alone.mi imagine he would. Is anyone really pathetic enough to keep on trying after a refusal ? If someone is pathetic enough to go after some married then probably. Why pathetic? Have is crossed your mind the lady may appreciate the attention? Then tell her to ask her husband to give her some.
Maybe her husband won't/doesn't.
She should leave him then.
Why ?
Why stay in a relationship were you aren't happy?
Where have I said I'm not happy ? I don't believe for a minute that everyone's relationship is perfect all of the time. It's all about compromise and making your relationship work so you both are happy for the majority of the time."I wasn't referring to you. It was a general you and more specific to the one in the OP. I think very few would say they are happy in their relationship if they aren't getting any attention of their husband. Secondly a relationship is about both parties being happy. Cheating on your partner behind their back isn't comprise. | |||
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"One hopes, if she turns the OP down, he'll leave her alone.mi imagine he would. Is anyone really pathetic enough to keep on trying after a refusal ? If someone is pathetic enough to go after some married then probably. Why pathetic? Have is crossed your mind the lady may appreciate the attention? Then tell her to ask her husband to give her some.
Maybe her husband won't/doesn't.
She should leave him then.
Why ?
Why stay in a relationship were you aren't happy?
Where have I said I'm not happy ? I don't believe for a minute that everyone's relationship is perfect all of the time. It's all about compromise and making your relationship work so you both are happy for the majority of the time.
I wasn't referring to you. It was a general you and more specific to the one in the OP. I think very few would say they are happy in their relationship if they aren't getting any attention of their husband. Secondly a relationship is about both parties being happy. Cheating on your partner behind their back isn't comprise. "Cheating isn't a compromise at all. It's a way of dealing with a situation that I didn't choose to be in. | |||
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"Just pop round with a Christmas card and ask them if they would like you to join them for a threesome "Finally. Some light heartiness | |||
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"One hopes, if she turns the OP down, he'll leave her alone.mi imagine he would. Is anyone really pathetic enough to keep on trying after a refusal ? If someone is pathetic enough to go after some married then probably. Why pathetic? Have is crossed your mind the lady may appreciate the attention? Then tell her to ask her husband to give her some.
Maybe her husband won't/doesn't.
She should leave him then.
Why ?
Why stay in a relationship were you aren't happy?
Where have I said I'm not happy ? I don't believe for a minute that everyone's relationship is perfect all of the time. It's all about compromise and making your relationship work so you both are happy for the majority of the time.
I wasn't referring to you. It was a general you and more specific to the one in the OP. I think very few would say they are happy in their relationship if they aren't getting any attention of their husband. Secondly a relationship is about both parties being happy. Cheating on your partner behind their back isn't comprise.
Cheating isn't a compromise at all. It's a way of dealing with a situation that I didn't choose to be in."It arguably can be a compromise for some. I know more than a few people that were completely against cheating until something changed and then their former moral code was comprosmised to become a cheat as a coping mechanism to deal with the situation | |||
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""Don't want problems" Well leave it alone then." | |||
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"A child, a partner and language difficulties. It doesn't look good." true but i bet there's a 70's porno made with that scenario as the script.. | |||
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""Don't want problems" Well leave it alone then."
cos if its rubbed too much it will fall off..
or one will get eyesight issue's..
maybe..
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"One hopes, if she turns the OP down, he'll leave her alone.mi imagine he would. Is anyone really pathetic enough to keep on trying after a refusal ? If someone is pathetic enough to go after some married then probably. Why pathetic? Have is crossed your mind the lady may appreciate the attention? Then tell her to ask her husband to give her some.
Maybe her husband won't/doesn't.
She should leave him then.
Why ?
Why stay in a relationship were you aren't happy?
Where have I said I'm not happy ? I don't believe for a minute that everyone's relationship is perfect all of the time. It's all about compromise and making your relationship work so you both are happy for the majority of the time.
I wasn't referring to you. It was a general you and more specific to the one in the OP. I think very few would say they are happy in their relationship if they aren't getting any attention of their husband. Secondly a relationship is about both parties being happy. Cheating on your partner behind their back isn't comprise.
Cheating isn't a compromise at all. It's a way of dealing with a situation that I didn't choose to be in.
It arguably can be a compromise for some. I know more than a few people that were completely against cheating until something changed and then their former moral code was comprosmised to become a cheat as a coping mechanism to deal with the situation " well said | |||
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"One hopes, if she turns the OP down, he'll leave her alone.mi imagine he would. Is anyone really pathetic enough to keep on trying after a refusal ? If someone is pathetic enough to go after some married then probably. Why pathetic? Have is crossed your mind the lady may appreciate the attention? Then tell her to ask her husband to give her some.
Maybe her husband won't/doesn't.
She should leave him then.
Why ?
Why stay in a relationship were you aren't happy?
Where have I said I'm not happy ? I don't believe for a minute that everyone's relationship is perfect all of the time. It's all about compromise and making your relationship work so you both are happy for the majority of the time.
I wasn't referring to you. It was a general you and more specific to the one in the OP. I think very few would say they are happy in their relationship if they aren't getting any attention of their husband. Secondly a relationship is about both parties being happy. Cheating on your partner behind their back isn't comprise.
Cheating isn't a compromise at all. It's a way of dealing with a situation that I didn't choose to be in.
It arguably can be a compromise for some. I know more than a few people that were completely against cheating until something changed and then their former moral code was comprosmised to become a cheat as a coping mechanism to deal with the situation "But did they pretend it was right, that's my point? I sometimes do things I know are wrong, but I don't try to post-rationalise. You make a choice and you are responsible for it, and the consequences. | |||
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"One hopes, if she turns the OP down, he'll leave her alone.mi imagine he would. Is anyone really pathetic enough to keep on trying after a refusal ? If someone is pathetic enough to go after some married then probably. Why pathetic? Have is crossed your mind the lady may appreciate the attention? Then tell her to ask her husband to give her some.
Maybe her husband won't/doesn't.
She should leave him then.
Why ?
Why stay in a relationship were you aren't happy?
Where have I said I'm not happy ? I don't believe for a minute that everyone's relationship is perfect all of the time. It's all about compromise and making your relationship work so you both are happy for the majority of the time.
I wasn't referring to you. It was a general you and more specific to the one in the OP. I think very few would say they are happy in their relationship if they aren't getting any attention of their husband. Secondly a relationship is about both parties being happy. Cheating on your partner behind their back isn't comprise.
Cheating isn't a compromise at all. It's a way of dealing with a situation that I didn't choose to be in.
It arguably can be a compromise for some. I know more than a few people that were completely against cheating until something changed and then their former moral code was comprosmised to become a cheat as a coping mechanism to deal with the situation
But did they pretend it was right, that's my point? I sometimes do things I know are wrong, but I don't try to post-rationalise. You make a choice and you are responsible for it, and the consequences."No at least not the people I'm referring to they know they're actions are wrong and they're willing to accept the consquences of them, that includes the guilt they live with, the judgements they face because of it. We as people are complex individuals with complex emotions and we each deal with those in our own ways, that sometimes means mistakes are made and nice people do bad things (I know I'm no saint and have made poor choices) doesn't automatically equate to them being an arsehole | |||
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"One hopes, if she turns the OP down, he'll leave her alone.mi imagine he would. Is anyone really pathetic enough to keep on trying after a refusal ? If someone is pathetic enough to go after some married then probably. Why pathetic? Have is crossed your mind the lady may appreciate the attention? Then tell her to ask her husband to give her some.
Maybe her husband won't/doesn't.
She should leave him then.
Why ?
Why stay in a relationship were you aren't happy?
Where have I said I'm not happy ? I don't believe for a minute that everyone's relationship is perfect all of the time. It's all about compromise and making your relationship work so you both are happy for the majority of the time.
I wasn't referring to you. It was a general you and more specific to the one in the OP. I think very few would say they are happy in their relationship if they aren't getting any attention of their husband. Secondly a relationship is about both parties being happy. Cheating on your partner behind their back isn't comprise.
Cheating isn't a compromise at all. It's a way of dealing with a situation that I didn't choose to be in.
It arguably can be a compromise for some. I know more than a few people that were completely against cheating until something changed and then their former moral code was comprosmised to become a cheat as a coping mechanism to deal with the situation
But did they pretend it was right, that's my point? I sometimes do things I know are wrong, but I don't try to post-rationalise. You make a choice and you are responsible for it, and the consequences."If it's right for the person though. After all, they are the one who have to live with their own conscience | |||
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"One hopes, if she turns the OP down, he'll leave her alone.mi imagine he would. Is anyone really pathetic enough to keep on trying after a refusal ? If someone is pathetic enough to go after some married then probably. Why pathetic? Have is crossed your mind the lady may appreciate the attention? Then tell her to ask her husband to give her some.
Maybe her husband won't/doesn't.
She should leave him then.
Why ?
Why stay in a relationship were you aren't happy?
Where have I said I'm not happy ? I don't believe for a minute that everyone's relationship is perfect all of the time. It's all about compromise and making your relationship work so you both are happy for the majority of the time.
I wasn't referring to you. It was a general you and more specific to the one in the OP. I think very few would say they are happy in their relationship if they aren't getting any attention of their husband. Secondly a relationship is about both parties being happy. Cheating on your partner behind their back isn't comprise.
Cheating isn't a compromise at all. It's a way of dealing with a situation that I didn't choose to be in.
It arguably can be a compromise for some. I know more than a few people that were completely against cheating until something changed and then their former moral code was comprosmised to become a cheat as a coping mechanism to deal with the situation
But did they pretend it was right, that's my point? I sometimes do things I know are wrong, but I don't try to post-rationalise. You make a choice and you are responsible for it, and the consequences.
No at least not the people I'm referring to they know they're actions are wrong and they're willing to accept the consquences of them, that includes the guilt they live with, the judgements they face because of it.
We as people are complex individuals with complex emotions and we each deal with those in our own ways, that sometimes means mistakes are made and nice people do bad things (I know I'm no saint and have made poor choices) doesn't automatically equate to them being an arsehole "Excellently worded. I hope some people read this and it makes them think. But then maybe they have been fortunate in life and not had to deal with any complex issues. | |||
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"One hopes, if she turns the OP down, he'll leave her alone.mi imagine he would. Is anyone really pathetic enough to keep on trying after a refusal ? If someone is pathetic enough to go after some married then probably. Why pathetic? Have is crossed your mind the lady may appreciate the attention? Then tell her to ask her husband to give her some.
Maybe her husband won't/doesn't.
She should leave him then.
Why ?
Why stay in a relationship were you aren't happy?
Where have I said I'm not happy ? I don't believe for a minute that everyone's relationship is perfect all of the time. It's all about compromise and making your relationship work so you both are happy for the majority of the time.
I wasn't referring to you. It was a general you and more specific to the one in the OP. I think very few would say they are happy in their relationship if they aren't getting any attention of their husband. Secondly a relationship is about both parties being happy. Cheating on your partner behind their back isn't comprise.
Cheating isn't a compromise at all. It's a way of dealing with a situation that I didn't choose to be in.
It arguably can be a compromise for some. I know more than a few people that were completely against cheating until something changed and then their former moral code was comprosmised to become a cheat as a coping mechanism to deal with the situation
But did they pretend it was right, that's my point? I sometimes do things I know are wrong, but I don't try to post-rationalise. You make a choice and you are responsible for it, and the consequences.
No at least not the people I'm referring to they know they're actions are wrong and they're willing to accept the consquences of them, that includes the guilt they live with, the judgements they face because of it.
We as people are complex individuals with complex emotions and we each deal with those in our own ways, that sometimes means mistakes are made and nice people do bad things (I know I'm no saint and have made poor choices) doesn't automatically equate to them being an arsehole "And I would never say that - I try to separate behaviour from identity. We all do something wrong sometimes. | |||
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"One hopes, if she turns the OP down, he'll leave her alone.mi imagine he would. Is anyone really pathetic enough to keep on trying after a refusal ? If someone is pathetic enough to go after some married then probably. Why pathetic? Have is crossed your mind the lady may appreciate the attention? Then tell her to ask her husband to give her some.
Maybe her husband won't/doesn't.
She should leave him then.
Why ?
Why stay in a relationship were you aren't happy?
Where have I said I'm not happy ? I don't believe for a minute that everyone's relationship is perfect all of the time. It's all about compromise and making your relationship work so you both are happy for the majority of the time.
I wasn't referring to you. It was a general you and more specific to the one in the OP. I think very few would say they are happy in their relationship if they aren't getting any attention of their husband. Secondly a relationship is about both parties being happy. Cheating on your partner behind their back isn't comprise.
Cheating isn't a compromise at all. It's a way of dealing with a situation that I didn't choose to be in.
It arguably can be a compromise for some. I know more than a few people that were completely against cheating until something changed and then their former moral code was comprosmised to become a cheat as a coping mechanism to deal with the situation
But did they pretend it was right, that's my point? I sometimes do things I know are wrong, but I don't try to post-rationalise. You make a choice and you are responsible for it, and the consequences.
If it's right for the person though. After all, they are the one who have to live with their own conscience "No, in this instance he was considering impacting on 3 innocent lives, without any regard for them - that's why most advised against it. It is possible for people to silence their own conscience, bury their head in the sand and convince themselves what they know is wrong is 'right for them', but I would always speak out against inflicting that on others who had not made the same decision. | |||
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