FabSwingers.com forum: A 'Bbw' is for..

By *otrocklover OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Ok so there's a ton of forum posts on here extolling the veritable virtues of having a bbw lover..

Yes, there are many and for good reason.

But what I wanna know is how many guys here would readily take a "fabulous" girl out on his arm to the work's Xmas do? So many guys here seem to want to fetishise a 'bbw' in the bedroom, but not in the bar.

Me? I'd rock up anywhere and everywhere with a gorgeously curvetastic girl on my arm if she'd have me.

What's the _iew here fellas?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

doubt anyone will admit they wouldn't be seen in public with one.

going to bed, be intresting to see any repleis though, or if this topic is even still here after any replies...

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By *otrocklover OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"doubt anyone will admit they wouldn't be seen in public with one.

going to bed, be intresting to see any repleis though, or if this topic is even still here after any replies..."

Hmm.. maybe. We'll see..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god last time I posed this question I was eaten alive by some on their high horse.

Not sure why though tbf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love and married a bbw. She was a size 28 at one point, but due to one thing or another wasted down to a 20..

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think you only have to look around in any pub, club restaurant or bar and see men and women of all shapes, sizes and ages with partners.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

As a larger lady I definitely don't want to meet guys who fetishise bbws. I always check veris to see if the person usually meets larger ladies. I will not meet those who "just want to try a bbw". That's just another reason I meet socially first in a public place. If they won't be seen in a pub or coffee shop with me then I'm not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't be seen dead at the works Xmas do...

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Many will fuck us, even been seen in public with but date? Very few.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is interesting for me (Mrs) just to see what the general opinion is.

I have slowly crept up from a size 14 to a size 20 and have started to doubt everything, more through my own insecurities than anything else. Mr says he doesn't care, but sometimes I think he does a bit, and I don't blame him.

Once christmas is out the way, I need to seriously sort myself out.

You see these thread, but as I don't see myself as particularly attractive as the moment, I wonder how anyone can x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is interesting for me (Mrs) just to see what the general opinion is.

Once christmas is out the way, I need to seriously sort myself out.

You see these thread, but as I don't see myself as particularly attractive as the moment, I wonder how anyone can x

because anyone worthwhile will love you for more than your looks anyway.

i've had relationships with 2 guys i didn't find that attractive physically but once i fell in love with them they were the most physically attractive guys in the world because of their personality...hope that makes sense but i just found them highly attractive for their personality initially but love also made them more physically attracive at some point, not sure when exactly but i know it happened.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"This is interesting for me (Mrs) just to see what the general opinion is.

Once christmas is out the way, I need to seriously sort myself out.

You see these thread, but as I don't see myself as particularly attractive as the moment, I wonder how anyone can x

Don't disbelieve your husband, that's not a good thing to do. If he says it doesn't matter then believe him

What you see and what he see's will be 2 different things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being self employed, the Xmas works part of the OP leaves me a bit cold.

but on reflection, it occurred to me that if I was dating someone I would never think of her as a BBW, or whatever the opposite of that is... She may be woman, friend, girlfriend, wife... whatever, but I can't see how you catagorise a person as a dress size.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I think you only have to look around in any pub, club restaurant or bar and see men and women of all shapes, sizes and ages with partners."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Many will fuck us, even been seen in public with but date? Very few. "

I concur with this, sadly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is interesting for me (Mrs) just to see what the general opinion is.

Once christmas is out the way, I need to seriously sort myself out.

You see these thread, but as I don't see myself as particularly attractive as the moment, I wonder how anyone can x

Don't disbelieve your husband, that's not a good thing to do. If he says it doesn't matter then believe him

What you see and what he see's will be 2 different things."

I know this, but sometimes when I'm feeling shitty I can't help it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Many will fuck us, even been seen in public with but date? Very few.

I concur with this, sadly

that's on here though. most guys just want sex without making any effort. on dating sites they will date you, just to get sex like but you know what i mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is interesting for me (Mrs) just to see what the general opinion is.

Once christmas is out the way, I need to seriously sort myself out.

You see these thread, but as I don't see myself as particularly attractive as the moment, I wonder how anyone can x

because anyone worthwhile will love you for more than your looks anyway.

I know exactly what you mean. When we first met, it was anything but love at first sight, on my part anyway, but 19 years later I can't imagine life without him x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've dated bigger women - including one 4 year relationship.

However, yes, I do fetishise big boobs, curves etc. but these women are still human beings and so it's all part of attraction - sex is better when there's a connection.

However, the second "B" is the important part - not everyone is beautiful, and what I find beautiful may not be to everyone else's standards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being self employed, the Xmas works part of the OP leaves me a bit cold.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Many will fuck us, even been seen in public with but date? Very few.

I concur with this, sadly

that's on here though. most guys just want sex without making any effort. on dating sites they will date you, just to get sex like but you know what i mean.

I get what you're saying but again.....that's still

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Many will fuck us, even been seen in public with but date? Very few.

I concur with this, sadly

that's on here though. most guys just want sex without making any effort. on dating sites they will date you, just to get sex like but you know what i mean.

I get what you're saying but again.....that's still

yeah...

but they will date if not on this site.

i'm not BBW but know nobody on here would consider dating me properly, like see me as partner material (and not just because i am a dick), coz i don't care how open minded people think they are most men still don't want a sexually expereinced woman for a partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me, each to their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is interesting for me (Mrs) just to see what the general opinion is.

Once christmas is out the way, I need to seriously sort myself out.

You see these thread, but as I don't see myself as particularly attractive as the moment, I wonder how anyone can x

because anyone worthwhile will love you for more than your looks anyway.

I know exactly what you mean. When we first met, it was anything but love at first sight, on my part anyway, but 19 years later I can't imagine life without him x"

aw, that's nice.

i split from both my exes but one of them we have kids and he's a great guy so i wish all the best for him and still find him attractive.

also, men like all types of women. but if you wanna change yourself it's your right to as well. i've accepted i'm always gonna be overweight and just try to live the healithiest i can instead of caring about my size and weight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Many will fuck us, even been seen in public with but date? Very few.

I concur with this, sadly

that's on here though. most guys just want sex without making any effort. on dating sites they will date you, just to get sex like but you know what i mean.

I get what you're saying but again.....that's still

yeah...

but they will date if not on this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is interesting for me (Mrs) just to see what the general opinion is.

Once christmas is out the way, I need to seriously sort myself out.

You see these thread, but as I don't see myself as particularly attractive as the moment, I wonder how anyone can x

because anyone worthwhile will love you for more than your looks anyway.

I know exactly what you mean. When we first met, it was anything but love at first sight, on my part anyway, but 19 years later I can't imagine life without him x

aw, that's nice.

i split from both my exes but one of them we have kids and he's a great guy so i wish all the best for him and still find him attractive.

I wish I could be more like that, sometimes I am. I won't change who I am for anyone, but I need to change for me as I don't like myself at the moment x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so there's a ton of forum posts on here extolling the veritable virtues of having a bbw lover..

Yes, there are many and for good reason.

Me? I'd rock up anywhere and everywhere with a gorgeously curvetastic girl on my arm if she'd have me.

What's the _iew here fellas?"

You must be new here. If a skinny/average/bbw woman asked a guy off fab to take them to their work Christmas party.

They would have 1,000 offers in under 1 hour.

Fab is like the mythical Amazon forest. Women rule on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is interesting for me (Mrs) just to see what the general opinion is.

Once christmas is out the way, I need to seriously sort myself out.

You see these thread, but as I don't see myself as particularly attractive as the moment, I wonder how anyone can x

because anyone worthwhile will love you for more than your looks anyway.

I know exactly what you mean. When we first met, it was anything but love at first sight, on my part anyway, but 19 years later I can't imagine life without him x

aw, that's nice.

i split from both my exes but one of them we have kids and he's a great guy so i wish all the best for him and still find him attractive.

I wish I could be more like that, sometimes I am. I won't change who I am for anyone, but I need to change for me as I don't like myself at the moment x "

yeah do it for yourself, it's your body.

i'm probably in denial or something lol. had been busy bringing up 4 kids so didn't really focus on myself for a long time.

then i got disbetes and it was a wake up call to look after myself properly. speaking of which, i should get some sleep. night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know the feeling. Full of the cold and slept 13 hours last night (normally thats 3 nights sleep for me).

But up with the kids in 5 hours so time to put the phone down

Sweet dreams xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's inconvenient to be on a sex site, sometimes feeling like we are disposable sexual commodities to some.

It is certainly not gender related though.

Some Men as well as some women will use other as wank material.

Having said that, not everyone is like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well being a size 20/22 at the moment I'm classified as a BBW (hate the term) Mr is a tall sexy gym fit guy and he's happy to have me on his arm.

I see this thread a lot and I have spent the majority of my adult life ranging from size 20-28 and I have never struggled to get a date in the vanilla world, I've even been asked out while doing my shopping in the supermarket! My ex had only dated slim girls before meeting me too so I suppose what im trying to say is I think a lot of guys choose facial looks and personality over the size of a woman's body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to say, have been made to feel like the token fat girl fuck a couple of times. Fine everyone likes different things and I get that but now trying to find the ones that would love to be seen out with me and not just hidden away in a bedroom. The words needle and haystack spring to mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a 6ft 2 woman who is a size 24/26, the struggle is most definately real.

But i have never ever felt that a man was embarressed to be seen with me, or anything negative like that. Nor has my size been fetishized. The men i dated were into public displays of affection like hand holding or arm around the (ample) waist.

Maybe i have just been lucky.

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By *reakShow90Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"Wouldn't be seen dead at the works Xmas do...

Good shout I work with them I don't want to see them out of work lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wouldn't be seen dead at the works Xmas do...

Good shout I work with them I don't want to see them out of work lol"

I think you missed the point there. He said he would be seen at the works Christmas do, not be seen with a lovely fuller figured lady..

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By *reakShow90Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"Wouldn't be seen dead at the works Xmas do...

Good shout I work with them I don't want to see them out of work lol

I think you missed the point there. He said he would be seen at the works Christmas do, not be seen with a lovely fuller figured lady.."

Oh lol my bad Wellll if I was to go to my xmas do I would not mind taking a lovely bigger lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our relationship would be awkward if I didn't want to be seen with em Lol.

Ess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wouldn't be seen dead at the works Xmas do...

Good shout I work with them I don't want to see them out of work lol

I think you missed the point there. He said he would be seen at the works Christmas do, not be seen with a lovely fuller figured lady.."

No, I didn't mention a lady of any figure, just that I wouldn't go to a works Xmas party. Mind you I am self employed and my boss is a git

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By *otrocklover OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

An interesting range of responses to my OP here.The general _iew seems to be that guys here aren't necessarily judgemental in their _iew of fuller-figured women and that the ones posting here see beyond the fetish. Certainly there's consensus around how problematic labelling is (the 'bbw' referred to here) and most women have mixed experiences re how guys relate to their size; some good, some not so good.

Thanks for the replies all. Keep 'em coming.

Oh and xmas parties aren't THAT bad surely lol.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"Being self employed, the Xmas works part of the OP leaves me a bit cold.

One of the most sensible posts I've seen on the site!

Just as if I fell for a black guy or a ripped guy on here I wouldn't be dating a 'BBC' or a 'gymbunny (or whatever the male version is called) - I'd be dating them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shock horror i have been seen out in public with a few very sexy guys

real men see the real woman and not the outer shell

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Of course there are some guys who would genuinely love to date and be seen in public with larger women. There is someone for everyone (I bloody hope lol).

This site skews things somewhat as the majority are on hereto fulfil fantasies and check off sexual bucket lists.

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I don't want to be fetishised. I do want to be appreciated for my mind. I don't mind being appreciated for my roller coaster curves. All about balance I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I make it a rule of my life to never "fab meet" someone I would be uncomfortable with in public...

...now that response seems a little "loaded" and I can almost hear the "uncomfortable in public", "for shame Pauly, bit up yourself"....

..but to expand and explain, I wouldn't fab meet someone that I don't find attractive, because I would be just as uncomfortable in the bedroom (barn, kitchen, over the coffee table, in the shed, up in the woods etc.) as I would be down the village pub.....

Someones size, age or looks are not the deciding factor as to whether I want to be associated with someone.... whether they are sexy, intelligent, funny, imaginative...now those things are important. I have no problem introducing my fab friends to my vanilla friends, if the fab friend wants that; I just like people, I collect the strangest of them..... (partly because I am very weird), but they are strange because of who they are, not what they are

As I am a skinny fella, I know that when I walk into a cafe or bar or just through the park with a curvy lady we can look like the physical manifestation of the number 10, and I find that quite a nice thing; sometimes it takes two to be that perfect 10

I have dated bigger women, skinny women, average women, mostly they have all treated me rather badly, sometimes don't "date" because they don't want their heart ripped out, not because they are embarrassed to be seen with someone.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a interesting read and thread. I agree with a lot that's being said. Yes each to their own. Yes the term BBw is degrading pigeon holing women and men too and yes to many other points. But my point is I think as nation we have become fixated on the things that don't matter. Looks, size, how posh your car is, where you been on holiday etc. I think the media is mainly to blame we are all forced to question ourselves based on what someone else tells us is correct. I think this shame thing relates to that. Although I think more woman that are over a certain size and men too feel more shameful (if that's correct) for looking the way they do than the person on their arm been seen with them. Again we are made to feel inadequate for being over a certain size but the term bbw and fantasies about this doesn't help although not intended I'm certain.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

according to a lot of threads on here and the nature of this site, most women it seems are fuckable , but not dateable..whatever their size.

that's down to the guys not being 'committable' imo..seems there are plenty of women who want connection, over fuck and go..

just my observation (although its not conclusive)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"according to a lot of threads on here and the nature of this site, most women it seems are fuckable , but not dateable..whatever their size.

that's down to the guys not being 'committable' imo..seems there are plenty of women who want connection, over fuck and go..

just my observation (although its not conclusive)"

I think that's overly simplistic... blaming guys for not being able to commit. I have been on the "scene" for many years and some of the single women I have met are just as ill at ease with that concept. The attention and dare I say it "adoration" that women receive on sites like this makes them just as commitment shy (if not more so), why commit to one guy when the inbox has 100 others in it? Men on this site feel "temporary" because that's how they are used in the main... most men will tell you it takes a great deal of "commitment" to actually arrange a meet... women on here do not have that issue...

Now you can say "we want to make a connection" but I am sorry in the main that is false, mostly women on here will maintain that connection until somebody more buff comes along... their previous "beau" is quickly sidelined as the new fotm comes along...

Unfortunately after a year of being able to meet whoever you want (in the main) some of these women realise just how "hollow" that can be, by which time they would have turned off the guys that are looking for commitment and appeal more to the fotm types....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just like women with extra weight on I love touch and kissing a belly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a lot of people on here who fetishise their own appearance -- they post up photos of themselves engaged in sexual activity, showing off their cleavages and boobs, sexualising themselves for the sake of validation or attention...

You really shouldn't complain about being fetishised when (on a swinging site) you play into the hands of those that would fetishise you

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"There are a lot of people on here who fetishise their own appearance -- they post up photos of themselves engaged in sexual activity, showing off their cleavages and boobs, sexualising themselves for the sake of validation or attention...

You really shouldn't complain about being fetishised when (on a swinging site) you play into the hands of those that would fetishise you

To an extent I agree. However I don't feel I can take any responsibility for those who fetishise me due to my age.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

"Many will fuck us, even been seen in public with but date? Very few.

I concur with this, sadly

that's on here though. most guys just want sex without making any effort. on dating sites they will date you, just to get sex like but you know what i mean.

I found dating sites worse.

I was honest with my profile and at the last minute (after weeks of chat) when we were literally so what you driving so I spot you and we can go into the bar together...

What size are you?

When he finally admitted he thought a 14 was big I suggested he got his eyes tested as no way did any of my photos imply that I was near that size..unless he wanted half of me!

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"according to a lot of threads on here and the nature of this site, most women it seems are fuckable , but not dateable..whatever their size.

that's down to the guys not being 'committable' imo..seems there are plenty of women who want connection, over fuck and go..

just my observation (although its not conclusive)

...you create your own prophecy on here, blaming a section for lacking commitment seems an easy way of out of a fundamentally more important cause for your loneliness/not being able to find what you want.... we reap what we sow."
i said it was my observation, i didn't need a lecture..i also didnt blame anyone men or women, neither did i relate it to my personal experience on here...you shouldnt assume i dont find the ones who want more..i suggest you look more closely and see i have a couples profile with a FWB..you shouldnt also assume that i myself want a relationship or am against one..i was merely stating my experience based on the threads on this site, which i have already said is inconclusive..thanks though, its told me an awful lot about you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh god last time I posed this question I was eaten alive by some on their high horse.

Not sure why though tbf "
it happens.. Most of my teens and 20s I was one of the lads... same now really and the conversations from those lads nights out made me well aware that plenty will bed a bbw but wouldn't be seen publicly... I do take many of the compliments on here with a pinch of salt...

Cant see many admitting it on here though.. mr only likes larger ladies x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so there's a ton of forum posts on here extolling the veritable virtues of having a bbw lover..

Yes, there are many and for good reason.

Me? I'd rock up anywhere and everywhere with a gorgeously curvetastic girl on my arm if she'd have me.

What's the _iew here fellas?

You must be new here. If a skinny/average/bbw woman asked a guy off fab to take them to their work Christmas party.

They would have 1,000 offers in under 1 hour.

Fab is like the mythical Amazon forest. Women rule on here"

No they don't, they might get 1000 offers but only about 1 or 2 would actually turn up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I adore Big Black Willies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"according to a lot of threads on here and the nature of this site, most women it seems are fuckable , but not dateable..whatever their size.

that's down to the guys not being 'committable' imo..seems there are plenty of women who want connection, over fuck and go..

just my observation (although its not conclusive)

...you create your own prophecy on here, blaming a section for lacking commitment seems an easy way of out of a fundamentally more important cause for your loneliness/not being able to find what you want.... we reap what we sow.i said it was my observation, i didn't need a lecture..i also didnt blame anyone men or women, neither did i relate it to my personal experience on here...you shouldnt assume i dont find the ones who want more..i suggest you look more closely and see i have a couples profile with a FWB..you shouldnt also assume that i myself want a relationship or am against one..i was merely stating my experience based on the threads on this site, which i have already said is inconclusive..thanks though, its told me an awful lot about you..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh god last time I posed this question I was eaten alive by some on their high horse.

Not sure why though tbf it happens.. Most of my teens and 20s I was one of the lads... same now really and the conversations from those lads nights out made me well aware that plenty will bed a bbw but wouldn't be seen publicly... I do take many of the compliments on here with a pinch of salt...

Cant see many admitting it on here though.. mr only likes larger ladies x"

Bbw are like scooters, good to ride but you wouldn't want your mates to see you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You dont have to take someone out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This site skews things somewhat as the majority are on hereto fulfil fantasies and check off sexual bucket lists."

Precisely. Skewed data can be used to prove anything.

Case in point:

http://jezebel.com/over-22-years-old-men-find-you-less-and-less-attractiv-1635039272

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"according to a lot of threads on here and the nature of this site, most women it seems are fuckable , but not dateable..whatever their size.

that's down to the guys not being 'committable' imo..seems there are plenty of women who want connection, over fuck and go..

just my observation (although its not conclusive)

...you create your own prophecy on here, blaming a section for lacking commitment seems an easy way of out of a fundamentally more important cause for your loneliness/not being able to find what you want.... we reap what we sow.i said it was my observation, i didn't need a lecture..i also didnt blame anyone men or women, neither did i relate it to my personal experience on here...you shouldnt assume i dont find the ones who want more..i suggest you look more closely and see i have a couples profile with a FWB..you shouldnt also assume that i myself want a relationship or am against one..i was merely stating my experience based on the threads on this site, which i have already said is inconclusive..thanks though, its told me an awful lot about you...

Not quite sure why you got pussed off... I said it was overly simplistic for blaming single guys for lacking commitment; as you said it was your observation (but not opinion) I thought I would present an alternative observation.... I apologise if this has caused offense or to point finger specifically at you, it was not."
i dislike being misquoted..and meanings which arent there, being placed onto the words i carefully chose..apart from that, i couldn't care less..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well being a size 20/22 at the moment I'm classified as a BBW (hate the term) Mr is a tall sexy gym fit guy and he's happy to have me on his arm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you only have to look around in any pub, club restaurant or bar and see men and women of all shapes, sizes and ages with partners."

Ditto. My girlfriend is a BBW. We've been dating for almost two years now, and I'm always proud to be seen out with her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably the only reason i'm single... not many want to be seen with someone fat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't want to be fetishised. I do want to be appreciated for my mind. I don't mind being appreciated for my roller coaster curves. All about balance I guess."

Busy looking through your photos. You weren't kidding...roller coaster curves in abundance...

Now, about your mind...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have "dated" a bbw from here and taken her out on my arm, anyone who doesnt is very shallow to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From personal experience and what I've read in these forums, most guys care more about a pretty face and personality, than body shape.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From personal experience and what I've read in these forums, most guys care more about a pretty face and personality, than body shape.

I'm fucked then lol and not literally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some men on here actually care about equality... meeting someone of a like mind. Some one that doesn't treat them as a stop gap... (if you pardon the pun); someone who is as honest as the person that they meet demands...speaking from my point of _iew; I seek only a "moment" with someone that can entice me as I entice them... so I also seek equality, but I don't pretend to want a fwb or relationship and then go behind someone's back, honesty and equality with a delightfully wicked mind wins for me every time....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From personal experience and what I've read in these forums, most guys care more about a pretty face and personality, than body shape.

I'm fucked then lol and not literally

I've just looked at your pictures and I really don't think you need to worry!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From personal experience and what I've read in these forums, most guys care more about a pretty face and personality, than body shape.

I take what people say on the forums with a huge pinch of salt. Most say anything if they think it will lead to sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From personal experience and what I've read in these forums, most guys care more about a pretty face and personality, than body shape.

I'm fucked then lol and not literally

I've just looked at your pictures and I really don't think you need to worry!

Haha. I know I'm no BBW but i'm not skinny either or average for that matter. The fat just wobbles now and I can't even breathe in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From personal experience and what I've read in these forums, most guys care more about a pretty face and personality, than body shape.

I take what people say on the forums with a huge pinch of salt. Most say anything if they think it will lead to sex."

I've seen guys state their preferences for everything. Whatever they say it'll be ruling someone out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From personal experience and what I've read in these forums, most guys care more about a pretty face and personality, than body shape.

I take what people say on the forums with a huge pinch of salt. Most say anything if they think it will lead to sex.

I've seen guys state their preferences for everything. Whatever they say it'll be ruling someone out. "

Exactly

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From personal experience and what I've read in these forums, most guys care more about a pretty face and personality, than body shape.

I'm fucked then lol and not literally

I've just looked at your pictures and I really don't think you need to worry!

Haha. I know I'm no BBW but i'm not skinny either or average for that matter. The fat just wobbles now and I can't even breathe in

Work with what you have. I can guarantee you that in 29 years time, you'll look back at pictures of yourself now and think you looked wonderful!

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From personal experience and what I've read in these forums, most guys care more about a pretty face and personality, than body shape.

I'm fucked then lol and not literally

I've just looked at your pictures and I really don't think you need to worry!

Haha. I know I'm no BBW but i'm not skinny either or average for that matter. The fat just wobbles now and I can't even breathe in

Work with what you have. I can guarantee you that in 29 years time, you'll look back at pictures of yourself now and think you looked wonderful! "

That was meant to be 20 years time!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I rule people more on how they conduct themselves, appear needy and simpering like a spoilt child for affection, than looks or body shape.

That being said, a lot of the people who need fawned over are larger.

That is my experience on these forums and in swinging.

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over a year ago

"I rule people out more on how they conduct themselves, appear needy and simpering like a spoilt child for affection, than looks or body shape.

That being said, a lot of the people who need fawned over are larger.

That is my experience on these forums and in swinging."

Really? Because I think a lot of the 'look at me' threads are created by the slimmer women...

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I rule people out more on how they conduct themselves, appear needy and simpering like a spoilt child for affection, than looks or body shape.

That being said, a lot of the people who need fawned over are larger.

That is my experience on these forums and in swinging.

Really? Because I think a lot of the 'look at me' threads are created by the slimmer women... "

Cool

different _iewpoints are good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh god last time I posed this question I was eaten alive by some on their high horse.

Cant see many admitting it on here though.. mr only likes larger ladies x

Bbw are like scooters, good to ride but you wouldn't want your mates to see you

don't worry any woman regardless of there size would think twice about being seen out with you

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I don't give a shit what anyone else thinks, if I like a lady then I will happily escort her anywhere no matter what her size is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so there's a ton of forum posts on here extolling the veritable virtues of having a bbw lover..

Yes, there are many and for good reason.

Me? I'd rock up anywhere and everywhere with a gorgeously curvetastic girl on my arm if she'd have me.

What's the _iew here fellas?"

No one wants a skinny lady. Curves are wonderfull.

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By *weetandHungMan
over a year ago

liverpool

"doubt anyone will admit they wouldn't be seen in public with one.

going to bed, be intresting to see any repleis though, or if this topic is even still here after any replies..."

I would take one anywhere its what the heart that counts for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I rule people out more on how they conduct themselves, appear needy and simpering like a spoilt child for affection, than looks or body shape.

That being said, a lot of the people who need fawned over are larger.

That is my experience on these forums and in swinging.

Really? Because I think a lot of the 'look at me' threads are created by the slimmer women... "

i am with you on this the look at me threads are mostly created by slimmer women

i wouldn't post a look at me thread because quite frankly i happen to be comfortable in my skin and don't need any1s approval

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Ok so there's a ton of forum posts on here extolling the veritable virtues of having a bbw lover..

Yes, there are many and for good reason.

Me? I'd rock up anywhere and everywhere with a gorgeously curvetastic girl on my arm if she'd have me.

What's the _iew here fellas?

No one wants a skinny lady. Curves are wonderfull. "

all ladies have curves, just some are bigger than others. white knighting is so unattractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so there's a ton of forum posts on here extolling the veritable virtues of having a bbw lover..

Yes, there are many and for good reason.

Me? I'd rock up anywhere and everywhere with a gorgeously curvetastic girl on my arm if she'd have me.

What's the _iew here fellas?

No one wants a skinny lady. Curves are wonderfull.

all ladies have curves, just some are bigger than others. white knighting is so unattractive

I wasn't going to post on this as they always go awry.

Just had to say a BBW isn't just for Christmas (thumb

Apologies if someone has already said. Couldn't be arsed reading the whole thread

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Ok so there's a ton of forum posts on here extolling the veritable virtues of having a bbw lover..

Yes, there are many and for good reason.

Me? I'd rock up anywhere and everywhere with a gorgeously curvetastic girl on my arm if she'd have me.

What's the _iew here fellas?

No one wants a skinny lady. Curves are wonderfull.

all ladies have curves, just some are bigger than others. white knighting is so unattractive

I wasn't going to post on this as they always go awry.

Just had to say a BBW isn't just for Christmas (thumb

Apologies if someone has already said. Couldn't be arsed reading the whole thread

Spookily I've had long term relationships with a Scouser and an Aberdonian, both were +sized and were happy within themselves, neither of them thought it was necessary to go to the gym

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so there's a ton of forum posts on here extolling the veritable virtues of having a bbw lover..

Yes, there are many and for good reason.

Me? I'd rock up anywhere and everywhere with a gorgeously curvetastic girl on my arm if she'd have me.

What's the _iew here fellas?

No one wants a skinny lady. Curves are wonderfull. "

I don't think you can speak on everyone's behalf.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i've had relationships with 2 guys i didn't find that attractive physically but once i fell in love with them they were the most physically attractive guys in the world because of their personality...hope that makes sense but i just found them highly attractive for their personality initially but love also made them more physically attracive at some point, not sure when exactly but i know it happened."

Getting over that initial visual hurdle, can be hard work for some of us.

You never see a woman saying "Phwoar - look at the personality on him!" or fabbing a photo where his prodigious intellect is showing.

If personality could be shown in a 'diet advert' moment, it would be easier for us nice-but-ordinary guys, to attract some interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so there's a ton of forum posts on here extolling the veritable virtues of having a bbw lover..

Yes, there are many and for good reason.

Me? I'd rock up anywhere and everywhere with a gorgeously curvetastic girl on my arm if she'd have me.

What's the _iew here fellas?

No one wants a skinny lady. Curves are wonderfull. "

I beg to differ. When I was skinny-and I mean no curves or boobs-plenty of men wanted me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seriously dated 4 women that you wold say were bbw, 2 of them I took to weddings, OURS!

Its not so much that I have a fetish for larger ladies, its more of a genuine preference, I enjoy the sex more, I enjoy holding her more, and because I'm no gazelle myself, I think we just match, theres more chance of me falling in love with a curvaceous woman, that's just the way I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so there's a ton of forum posts on here extolling the veritable virtues of having a bbw lover..

Yes, there are many and for good reason.

Me? I'd rock up anywhere and everywhere with a gorgeously curvetastic girl on my arm if she'd have me.

What's the _iew here fellas?

No one wants a skinny lady. Curves are wonderfull.

all ladies have curves, just some are bigger than others. white knighting is so unattractive

I wasn't going to post on this as they always go awry.

Just had to say a BBW isn't just for Christmas (thumb

Apologies if someone has already said. Couldn't be arsed reading the whole thread

Spookily I've had long term relationships with a Scouser and an Aberdonian, both were +sized and were happy within themselves, neither of them thought it was necessary to go to the gym

Yeah

spooky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh god last time I posed this question I was eaten alive by some on their high horse.

Cant see many admitting it on here though.. mr only likes larger ladies x

Bbw are like scooters, good to ride but you wouldn't want your mates to see you

Says you with no public photos. You must be really fit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh god last time I posed this question I was eaten alive by some on their high horse.

Cant see many admitting it on here though.. mr only likes larger ladies x

Bbw are like scooters, good to ride but you wouldn't want your mates to see you

Says you with no public photos. You must be really fit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so there's a ton of forum posts on here extolling the veritable virtues of having a bbw lover..

Yes, there are many and for good reason.

Me? I'd rock up anywhere and everywhere with a gorgeously curvetastic girl on my arm if she'd have me.

What's the _iew here fellas?"

Ive always prefered curvy girls. Theres just something about them that really makes me smile. If my girl happened to be curvy id be proud to shout she was mine regardless of their size. I'm a personality man at the end of the day.

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

"Ok so there's a ton of forum posts on here extolling the veritable virtues of having a bbw lover..

Yes, there are many and for good reason.

Me? I'd rock up anywhere and everywhere with a gorgeously curvetastic girl on my arm if she'd have me.

What's the _iew here fellas?"

Oh my God marry me!!!!!

This....this exactly is it!

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

I've found most guys are happy to fuck me but want a smaller girl as a partner.

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

"Many will fuck us, even been seen in public with but date? Very few.

I concur with this, sadly

that's on here though. most guys just want sex without making any effort. on dating sites they will date you, just to get sex like but you know what i mean.

Nope not there either. Maybe I'm just an ugly fucker too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've found most guys are happy to fuck me but want a smaller girl as a partner."

Most guys are idiots

*legal disclaimer, this isn't based on actual scientific fact.

Ess

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

"Ok so there's a ton of forum posts on here extolling the veritable virtues of having a bbw lover..

Yes, there are many and for good reason.

Me? I'd rock up anywhere and everywhere with a gorgeously curvetastic girl on my arm if she'd have me.

What's the _iew here fellas?

No one wants a skinny lady. Curves are wonderfull. "

That's bullshit too. Plenty of people want 'skinny' ladies. Don't fall in the trap of putting someone one down to raise someone else up.

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By *otrocklover OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Oh my God marry me!!!!!

This....this exactly is it!"

Yes! Ha. Tbf there's some pretty insightful responses on here from both sexes. You're going to have a hard time choosing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Marie is a bbw and i will take her anywhere after all she's my partner Tony

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

"Oh my God marry me!!!!!

This....this exactly is it!

Yes! Ha. Tbf there's some pretty insightful responses on here from both sexes. You're going to have a hard time choosing

Haha if only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've found most guys are happy to fuck me but want a smaller girl as a partner."

Well I guess smaller women are easier to pack.... but it's a bit like smart phones, the one that fits your pocket may be too small to read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

BBW

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over a year ago

BBW

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I think you only have to look around in any pub, club restaurant or bar and see men and women of all shapes, sizes and ages with partners."

This!

No matter our size etc we will NEVER have universal appeal. Some people get so hung up on one aspect of themselves and project that onto others.

I've been size 20+ all my adult life. It hasn't prevented me marrying etc. I've never met a man under the cover of darkness or snuck into a hotel so not to be seen in public. My other half is 6ft 1, looks like Jason Statham and walks hand in hand with me.

For our first date he was late and came running dropping to his knees in public asking to be forgiven.

You can be a slim, petite stunner yet some men don't want to be seen in public with someone they met of this site.

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

"Many will fuck us, even been seen in public with but date? Very few.

I concur with this, sadly

Seriously?! I've got a number of relationships under my belt and haven't been smaller than a size 18 since I turned 18!

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By *iver2015Woman
over a year ago

middlesbrough

I struggle being happy walking into somewhere as myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally have no issue with size have had relationships with larger ladies and been more than happy being seen out and about. Real friends respect who your with regardless off size

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so there's a ton of forum posts on here extolling the veritable virtues of having a bbw lover..

Yes, there are many and for good reason.

Me? I'd rock up anywhere and everywhere with a gorgeously curvetastic girl on my arm if she'd have me.

What's the _iew here fellas?"

I wouldn't take one or sleep with them or anything just not for me...no doubt that'll upset some of the PC crowd on here

but fucks I give = 0

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Ok so there's a ton of forum posts on here extolling the veritable virtues of having a bbw lover..

Yes, there are many and for good reason.

Me? I'd rock up anywhere and everywhere with a gorgeously curvetastic girl on my arm if she'd have me.

What's the _iew here fellas?

I wouldn't take one or sleep with them or anything just not for me...no doubt that'll upset some of the PC crowd on here

but fucks I give = 0"

At least you're honest but I can't believe that's true. Gutted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is interesting for me (Mrs) just to see what the general opinion is.

Once christmas is out the way, I need to seriously sort myself out.

You see these thread, but as I don't see myself as particularly attractive as the moment, I wonder how anyone can x

Don't disbelieve your husband, that's not a good thing to do. If he says it doesn't matter then believe him

What you see and what he see's will be 2 different things."

I don't believe my husband either when he says I look fantastic. I think he says it out of habit or because he thinks it's what I want to hear. I'd rather him be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is interesting for me (Mrs) just to see what the general opinion is.

Once christmas is out the way, I need to seriously sort myself out.

You see these thread, but as I don't see myself as particularly attractive as the moment, I wonder how anyone can x

Don't disbelieve your husband, that's not a good thing to do. If he says it doesn't matter then believe him

What you see and what he see's will be 2 different things.

I don't believe my husband either when he says I look fantastic. I think he says it out of habit or because he thinks it's what I want to hear. I'd rather him be honest."

I tend to agree with you husband on that you do look great

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

"Many will fuck us, even been seen in public with but date? Very few.

I concur with this, sadly

Me too

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By *tephanie19631TV/TS
over a year ago

oxford

For life not just for Christmas ?

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By *ips n NipsWoman
over a year ago

in dreams

As a woman who has been 22st and is now 11st I can tell you that I get a lot more offers to be taken out now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so there's a ton of forum posts on here extolling the veritable virtues of having a bbw lover..

Yes, there are many and for good reason.

Me? I'd rock up anywhere and everywhere with a gorgeously curvetastic girl on my arm if she'd have me.

What's the _iew here fellas?

I wouldn't take one or sleep with them or anything just not for me...no doubt that'll upset some of the PC crowd on here

but fucks I give = 0"

Preference, innit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't regard myself as a BBW (my autocorrect tried to change that to BBQ...shows where my priorities lie) but the only times in my life I've been chatted up in public is when I've been size 14 or below. But I've been on sites like this as a 16, 18 or 20 with plenty of offers in private.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok so there's a ton of forum posts on here extolling the veritable virtues of having a bbw lover..

Yes, there are many and for good reason.

Me? I'd rock up anywhere and everywhere with a gorgeously curvetastic girl on my arm if she'd have me.

What's the _iew here fellas?

I wouldn't take one or sleep with them or anything just not for me...no doubt that'll upset some of the PC crowd on here

but fucks I give = 0"

Why would anyone be upset about that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't regard myself as a BBW (my autocorrect tried to change that to BBQ...shows where my priorities lie) but the only times in my life I've been chatted up in public is when I've been size 14 or below. But I've been on sites like this as a 16, 18 or 20 with plenty of offers in private. "

I know girls who are size 12 and gorgeous. Even they struggle on the dating scene and don't get chatted up.

I think the dating scene is problematic for everyone, whatever size you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know girls who are size 12 and gorgeous. Even they struggle on the dating scene and don't get chatted up.

I think the dating scene is problematic for everyone, whatever size you are.

Oh definitely, just comparing my experience of myself at different sizes, when everything else e.g. my face, personality, attitude, confidence has been exactly the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know girls who are size 12 and gorgeous. Even they struggle on the dating scene and don't get chatted up.

I think the dating scene is problematic for everyone, whatever size you are.

Oh definitely, just comparing my experience of myself at different sizes, when everything else e.g. my face, personality, attitude, confidence has been exactly the same. "

Ahh okay. My confidence is never exactly the same depending on my size. I wish it was!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A BBW IS FOREVER !!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My autocorrect does that too...the number of times that I've ended up searching for 'BBQ Porn,' 'BBQ Lesbians' and the like...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For life not just for Christmas ?"

That's the quote that popped into my head!

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By *harmingCMan
over a year ago

Bishops Stortford

women are wonderful creature, who ever they are, what age, size, shape or colour it doesn't really matter. I'm just glad I'm surrounded by them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a size 18-20 and I have absolutely no issues getting a man to take me out in public.

I think if you carry yourself well and have sex appeal, who care about the size label in your jeans.

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over a year ago

"Many will fuck us, even been seen in public with but date? Very few. "

Most people wouldn't be seen in public with a lot of people they fuck off here; irrelevant of size.

It's similar to fucking a cougar/MILF/much younger or older man...would you actually date them and introduce them to your mates, colleagues and family? Probably not.

I would definitely not be embarrassed to have you on my arm

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Many will fuck us, even been seen in public with but date? Very few.

Most people wouldn't be seen in public with a lot of people they fuck off here; irrelevant of size.

It's similar to fucking a cougar/MILF/much younger or older man...would you actually date them and introduce them to your mates, colleagues and family? Probably not.

I would definitely not be embarrassed to have you on my arm

What a lot of people don't get. You may look like Kendal Jenner, but by virtue of being on this site some will not be seen dead in public with you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would go to a bar with a bbw why not if people dont like it fuck em

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I range from a 22-26 so am a big lady however my hubby loves taking me out and cant keep his hands of me even in the supermarket. If men have a problem been seen out with a bigger lady that's his problem not yours (Kat) xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a size 16 but was a size 12 once upon a time. When I was slimmer I had people asking to take me out all the time. I still see some of them and now that I've put weight on some of them wont even speak to me

I do think confidence plays a huge part in it too though. I felt sexy as hell when I was slimmer wearing cute little dresses all year around. Now its jeans and a baggy T-shirt with long sleeves all year round.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

If a bloke won't be seen in public with me he sure as hell ain't going to be getting in my knickers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a bloke won't be seen in public with me he sure as hell ain't going to be getting in my knickers "

To right (Kat) xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thought you all might to know that someone going by the name of playingwithfire has just had a go at me in a private message. Because I said that my wife had wasted down to a size 20. They said she would still be clasaid as obese oh an sorry for your loss.

Yes she had lost a lot of weight it that was die to the cancer that took her last month after a 3 year battle with the horrible disease.

And I still loved her.."
What an utter idiot hope you blocked them sorry for your loss (Kat) xx

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By *untimes6969Man
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"I'm a size 18-20 and I have absolutely no issues getting a man to take me out in public.

I think if you carry yourself well and have sex appeal, who care about the size label in your jeans.

Confidence can be the key, likewise clothes sense is so important for both women and men. Doesn't matter what size you are, it's how you are perceived - beauty is in the eye of the beholder!!

Likewise if your 'craic' is poor and your personal hygiene needs an uplift (politeness is everything!), doesn't matter what you look like as it isn't going to happen!

Be yourself, be confident, learn,adapt and enjoy the whole experience - good and bad!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting topic.

I've been slim, curvy, fat, slim again, fat again. My body changes all the time.

One thing I try not to do is use the BBW label on myself or others around me as it creates a divide.

I've had slim friends be confronted at BBW events for not being big enough. Another friend has had insults from a big woman, body shaming is wrong either way in my opinion.

I lost 5 stone to fit in with what society and glossy magazines dictated I should look like, but let's be fair, eating lettuce all day long made me miserable and the attention I got was from a lot of shallow douchebags when I was slimmer.

Am I perfect? No.

Am I happy? Yes.

Which is more important?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a size 18-20 and I have absolutely no issues getting a man to take me out in public.

I think if you carry yourself well and have sex appeal, who care about the size label in your jeans.

Confidence can be the key, likewise clothes sense is so important for both women and men. Doesn't matter what size you are, it's how you are perceived - beauty is in the eye of the beholder!!

Likewise if your 'craic' is poor and your personal hygiene needs an uplift (politeness is everything!), doesn't matter what you look like as it isn't going to happen!

Be yourself, be confident, learn,adapt and enjoy the whole experience - good and bad!"

I think that's bollocks, sorry. Looks are the most important thing to most people meeting someone for the first time in the outside world, and your size is a huge part of that. You can be confident, well dressed, with excellent craic, a beautiful face and wonderful hygiene but if you're fatter than what is deemed acceptable then you will always be second best (with the exception of a very small number of men who genuinely find fat attractive).

I've got no doubt whatsoever that, all other things being equal, a thinner and smaller version of me would be considered infinitely more attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a size 18-20 and I have absolutely no issues getting a man to take me out in public.

I think if you carry yourself well and have sex appeal, who care about the size label in your jeans.

Confidence can be the key, likewise clothes sense is so important for both women and men. Doesn't matter what size you are, it's how you are perceived - beauty is in the eye of the beholder!!

Likewise if your 'craic' is poor and your personal hygiene needs an uplift (politeness is everything!), doesn't matter what you look like as it isn't going to happen!

Be yourself, be confident, learn,adapt and enjoy the whole experience - good and bad!

I've got no doubt whatsoever that, all other things being equal, a thinner and smaller version of me would be considered infinitely more attractive. "

I can relate myself to that.

I always think that despite good qualities I may have, there will alwaya be a 2.0 version of myself that will be way more attractive (physically speaking) than me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a size 18-20 and I have absolutely no issues getting a man to take me out in public.

I think if you carry yourself well and have sex appeal, who care about the size label in your jeans.

Confidence can be the key, likewise clothes sense is so important for both women and men. Doesn't matter what size you are, it's how you are perceived - beauty is in the eye of the beholder!!

Likewise if your 'craic' is poor and your personal hygiene needs an uplift (politeness is everything!), doesn't matter what you look like as it isn't going to happen!

Be yourself, be confident, learn,adapt and enjoy the whole experience - good and bad!

I've got no doubt whatsoever that, all other things being equal, a thinner and smaller version of me would be considered infinitely more attractive. "

I'm absolutely sure a smaller and slimmer version of me would be considered more desirable but that wasn't the original question. Most people's aesthetic features could be improved to make them more desirable and attractive. I personally would never feel second best just because of my size; without sounding like an egotistical arrogant bitch, I consider myself relatively attractive...maybe I'm biased but I'd much rather have me with my wobbly bits than some ugly munter who can squeeze her pert little arse in to a pair of size 10 jeans.

Anyway, each to their own but I refuse to accept bigger girls are perceived as second best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes she had lost a lot of weight it that was die to the cancer that took her last month after a 3 year battle with the horrible disease.

And I still loved her.."

That sounds horrible and I'm very sorry to hear it.

I'm afraid naming and shaming isn't allowed though. Particularly when the only people with that name haven't been online since they joined four weeks ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a size 18-20 and I have absolutely no issues getting a man to take me out in public.

I think if you carry yourself well and have sex appeal, who care about the size label in your jeans.

Confidence can be the key, likewise clothes sense is so important for both women and men. Doesn't matter what size you are, it's how you are perceived - beauty is in the eye of the beholder!!

Likewise if your 'craic' is poor and your personal hygiene needs an uplift (politeness is everything!), doesn't matter what you look like as it isn't going to happen!

Be yourself, be confident, learn,adapt and enjoy the whole experience - good and bad!

I've got no doubt whatsoever that, all other things being equal, a thinner and smaller version of me would be considered infinitely more attractive.

Anyway, each to their own but I refuse to accept bigger girls are perceived as second best. "

Sure. I'm hot, but I'm fat and hot, and that's always going to be second best if up against slim and hot. If I was really bothered by it I'd make more effort to lose weight, but that's just how the world works.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally like a fuller physique on a woman.

Thinner and leaner doesn't translate to more attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a size 18-20 and I have absolutely no issues getting a man to take me out in public.

I think if you carry yourself well and have sex appeal, who care about the size label in your jeans.

Confidence can be the key, likewise clothes sense is so important for both women and men. Doesn't matter what size you are, it's how you are perceived - beauty is in the eye of the beholder!!

Likewise if your 'craic' is poor and your personal hygiene needs an uplift (politeness is everything!), doesn't matter what you look like as it isn't going to happen!

Be yourself, be confident, learn,adapt and enjoy the whole experience - good and bad!

I've got no doubt whatsoever that, all other things being equal, a thinner and smaller version of me would be considered infinitely more attractive.

Anyway, each to their own but I refuse to accept bigger girls are perceived as second best.

I agree that a slimmer version of me is hotter but I think more and more people are realising that it's the whole package. I mean, I'd be interested to see what the guys think of a size 10 girl who's quite unattractive as opposed to someone who's fat and attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wouldn't be seen dead at the works Xmas do...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a size 18-20 and I have absolutely no issues getting a man to take me out in public.

I think if you carry yourself well and have sex appeal, who care about the size label in your jeans.

Confidence can be the key, likewise clothes sense is so important for both women and men. Doesn't matter what size you are, it's how you are perceived - beauty is in the eye of the beholder!!

Likewise if your 'craic' is poor and your personal hygiene needs an uplift (politeness is everything!), doesn't matter what you look like as it isn't going to happen!

Be yourself, be confident, learn,adapt and enjoy the whole experience - good and bad!

I've got no doubt whatsoever that, all other things being equal, a thinner and smaller version of me would be considered infinitely more attractive.

Anyway, each to their own but I refuse to accept bigger girls are perceived as second best.

When I look around, beyond the media that's thrown in your face, most women are not slim and hot...they are undoubtedly the exception. Everyone will be second best to a slim and hot woman, not just the fat chicks lol! I'm bisexual and I would most definitely be more attracted to a woman who has an ample body size and a beautiful face than a woman who's got the body of baywatch but a face off crimewatch.

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By *harmingCMan
over a year ago

Bishops Stortford

I kind of get the feeling that some people on comment on this topic to wind others up. cant understand why they do it, maybe they haven't seen the damage a few words can do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems like most of us think that slimmer more athletic versions of ourselves would be more attractive and don't realise that ither people find us perfect the way we are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seems like most of us think that slimmer more athletic versions of ourselves would be more attractive and don't realise that ither people find us perfect the way we are.

Maybe.

You only have to look at the forums though to see which type of girl is fawned over the most!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seems like most of us think that slimmer more athletic versions of ourselves would be more attractive and don't realise that ither people find us perfect the way we are.

Maybe.

You only have to look at the forums though to see which type of girl is fawned over the most! "

Never mind the forums, you just need to switch on the telly, open a magazine, go to a bar or go on social media.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seems like most of us think that slimmer more athletic versions of ourselves would be more attractive and don't realise that ither people find us perfect the way we are.

Maybe.

You only have to look at the forums though to see which type of girl is fawned over the most!

Never mind the forums, you just need to switch on the telly, open a magazine, go to a bar or go on social media. "

You are looking at what mist find attractive, some of us find body like yours or other fuller physique women more attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seems like most of us think that slimmer more athletic versions of ourselves would be more attractive and don't realise that ither people find us perfect the way we are.

Maybe.

You only have to look at the forums though to see which type of girl is fawned over the most!

Never mind the forums, you just need to switch on the telly, open a magazine, go to a bar or go on social media. "

Oh, completely. I'm just wondering about the comparison of slim/unattractive and fat/attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone once said...

You can be the juiciest peach in the world but not everyone likes peaches.

The world would be a crazy place if we all liked the same thing.

Going back to the original question/ topic...I am available for Christmas Parties this year so long as there's a free buffet and you're happy for me to have seconds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seems like most of us think that slimmer more athletic versions of ourselves would be more attractive and don't realise that ither people find us perfect the way we are.

Maybe.

You only have to look at the forums though to see which type of girl is fawned over the most!

Never mind the forums, you just need to switch on the telly, open a magazine, go to a bar or go on social media.

Oh, completely. I'm just wondering about the comparison of slim/unattractive and fat/attractive.

There does seem to be this way of thinking on here that slim always means attractive.

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By *harmingCMan
over a year ago

Bishops Stortford

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By *harmingCMan
over a year ago

Bishops Stortford

"Going back to the original question/ topic...I am available for Christmas Parties this year so long as there's a free buffet and you're happy for me to have seconds

respect and love that! wish I had somewhere amazing and fun to take a girl like you... alas, real life and work ruins all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seems like most of us think that slimmer more athletic versions of ourselves would be more attractive and don't realise that ither people find us perfect the way we are.

Maybe.

You only have to look at the forums though to see which type of girl is fawned over the most!

Never mind the forums, you just need to switch on the telly, open a magazine, go to a bar or go on social media.

Oh, completely. I'm just wondering about the comparison of slim/unattractive and fat/attractive.

There does seem to be this way of thinking on here that slim always means attractive. "

Exactly. We can probably all mostly agree that slim, hot with a wonderful personality is what most want but when it comes down to attractive/unattractive, I always wonder if body size plays a part.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As someone once said...

You can be the juiciest peach in the world but not everyone likes peaches.

The world would be a crazy place if we all liked the same thing.

Going back to the original question/ topic...I am available for Christmas Parties this year so long as there's a free buffet and you're happy for me to have seconds

Exactly what this hottie said. I bloody love a buffet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As someone once said...

You can be the juiciest peach in the world but not everyone likes peaches.

The world would be a crazy place if we all liked the same thing.

Going back to the original question/ topic...I am available for Christmas Parties this year so long as there's a free buffet and you're happy for me to have seconds

Exactly what this hottie said. I bloody love a buffet. "

Me too! As long as it has a cheese board!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seems like most of us think that slimmer more athletic versions of ourselves would be more attractive and don't realise that ither people find us perfect the way we are.

Maybe.

You only have to look at the forums though to see which type of girl is fawned over the most!

Never mind the forums, you just need to switch on the telly, open a magazine, go to a bar or go on social media.

Oh, completely. I'm just wondering about the comparison of slim/unattractive and fat/attractive.

There does seem to be this way of thinking on here that slim always means attractive. "

This is 'The Beauty Myth', a concept devised and force fed to us by the media and something ,i think, that most of us has fallen victim to in one way or another. It's high time we broke away from this and accept people the way they are.

Personally i have in the past dated the larger lady, of all shapes, sizes and ages for that matter and loved every minute that i've spent with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As someone once said...

You can be the juiciest peach in the world but not everyone likes peaches.

The world would be a crazy place if we all liked the same thing.

Going back to the original question/ topic...I am available for Christmas Parties this year so long as there's a free buffet and you're happy for me to have seconds

Exactly what this hottie said. I bloody love a buffet. "

Oh and one of those where they bring out bacon butties and fish and chips in the evening. Now that's a party!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of the day its the individuality of the person and their character and personality, surely we have reached a stage where we can look beyond...race, size and shape these days, it can be the most minor of a detail that makes some one stand out, have the confidence in yourself to stand up for what you like i like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At the end of the day its the individuality of the person and their character and personality, surely we have reached a stage where we can look beyond...race, size and shape these days, it can be the most minor of a detail that makes some one stand out, have the confidence in yourself to stand up for what you like i like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met BBW's and I have dated BBW's

For me it's the connection on the inside which is just as important as beauty on the outside.

I'd rock up to any party not just a Christmas one with a gorgeous BBW given the chance.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's all very nice and utopian, but looks are what attracts me to someone initially and I don't expect anyone else to think differently. My experience is my experience, and my experience is that I'm treated as much, much more attractive when I'm slimmer. It's just the way it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you can still be selective on their facial looks on wether they stimulate you to be attracted to them, all i am saying is dont let size, shape and race be what makes you decide on this, and also dont let your peers change your opinion on what you find sexy and appealing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I have had more than one slim girlfriend! I find myself more attracted to the fuller figure and over the years have had a couple of stupid comments thrown my way. Usually by ignorant fuck wits in a pub or club who are full of it when with their mates. Saw one guy a few days later and asked him if he was going to repeat what he said, he was with his partner and he stuttered, went red and said sorry mate. I am confident in my own skin that I'm happy to be seen out with whoever I choose to be with no matter what they look like. If others don't like it then they can fuck right off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think I have had more than one slim girlfriend! I find myself more attracted to the fuller figure and over the years have had a couple of stupid comments thrown my way. Usually by ignorant fuck wits in a pub or club who are full of it when with their mates. Saw one guy a few days later and asked him if he was going to repeat what he said, he was with his partner and he stuttered, went red and said sorry mate. I am confident in my own skin that I'm happy to be seen out with whoever I choose to be with no matter what they look like. If others don't like it then they can fuck right off! "

(Kat) xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is for........life. Not just for xmas?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very interesting topic.... Have you ladies found that Fab has helped your self imagine?

I read these forums and all the men seem to love BBW's in every thread. If someone disagrees with this I always read the term body shaming thrown at the person.

So is this the new thing in the U.K. ? or is Fab just full of men that prefer bigger ladies....

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