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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've had a look on the Internet for inspiration, while updating my wardrobe, and I've found that unless you are under 30, and don't know what carbs taste like, there is very little in the way of inspiration, for the man over 40.

Does this mean I have to go and get my old man dressing kit, and become a beige drawstring/elasticated waist trouser wearing old codger, never again to see the inside of next?

I feel a bit writen off

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jacamo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wait till you get to your 50's and Greenwoods window draws you in for the cardigans

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Next is shit anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had a look on the Internet for inspiration, while updating my wardrobe, and I've found that unless you are under 30, and don't know what carbs taste like, there is very little in the way of inspiration, for the man over 40.

Does this mean I have to go and get my old man dressing kit, and become a beige drawstring/elasticated waist trouser wearing old codger, never again to see the inside of next?

I feel a bit writen off "

you're 44 not 64

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what is this 'fashion' of which you speak?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've had a look on the Internet for inspiration, while updating my wardrobe, and I've found that unless you are under 30, and don't know what carbs taste like, there is very little in the way of inspiration, for the man over 40.

Does this mean I have to go and get my old man dressing kit, and become a beige drawstring/elasticated waist trouser wearing old codger, never again to see the inside of next?

I feel a bit writen off

you're 44 not 64 "

I know, but I don't wear skinny jeans, the clues in the name, I want to dress current, but not look like a bloke who is wearing his son's clothes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had a look on the Internet for inspiration, while updating my wardrobe, and I've found that unless you are under 30, and don't know what carbs taste like, there is very little in the way of inspiration, for the man over 40.

Does this mean I have to go and get my old man dressing kit, and become a beige drawstring/elasticated waist trouser wearing old codger, never again to see the inside of next?

I feel a bit writen off "

Nowt wrong with a cardie

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

I am 46 and I really don't follow fashion, I just wear what i like to wear.

never feel the need to be cool! just be me and wear what feels comfortable or I think looks good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.. male clothes are shite,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whats that i hear? Ahhh the sound of Marks and Spencers Men department calling to you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need a woman to take you shopping they have a tuned eye and know what looks best on a guy.

I hate shopping but a woman will save you hours trying on stuff you shouldn't IMO.

Plus they love it if it's your money their spending and get a trip to the shops and new pair of shoes for them thrown in. ha

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I've had a look on the Internet for inspiration, while updating my wardrobe, and I've found that unless you are under 30, and don't know what carbs taste like, there is very little in the way of inspiration, for the man over 40.

Does this mean I have to go and get my old man dressing kit, and become a beige drawstring/elasticated waist trouser wearing old codger, never again to see the inside of next?

I feel a bit writen off

you're 44 not 64

I know, but I don't wear skinny jeans, the clues in the name, I want to dress current, but not look like a bloke who is wearing his son's clothes "

Me and my lad swop clothing all the time although I do draw the line at skinny Jean's. They looked chap when they was last in fashion and still do now

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Whats that i hear? Ahhh the sound of Marks and Spencers Men department calling to you..."

Or vintage Levi's off ebay....

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Buy a vespa, get a young chick, have her bring you croissants and coffee in the morning and have her dress you in lofas and patterned silk scarf's. The rest is will be mustard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's difficult for men in their 30s too. My husband can never find anything because everything is either for teenagers/students or dads. I think there's a big gap in the market for (non-designer/non-ridiculously expensive) clothes for men in the 30-45 bracket.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don't you try a personal shopper. Tell them what you like and they get a selection of items for you to try on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's loads! Next, H and M, Jacamo, Tesco TU's just to name a few!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Buy a vespa, get a young chick, have her bring you croissants and coffee in the morning and have her dress you in lofas and patterned silk scarf's. The rest is will be mustard. "

Lol, I've got a Vespa

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Buy a vespa, get a young chick, have her bring you croissants and coffee in the morning and have her dress you in lofas and patterned silk scarf's. The rest is will be mustard.

Lol, I've got a Vespa "

Shakes head and walks away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had a look on the Internet for inspiration, while updating my wardrobe, and I've found that unless you are under 30, and don't know what carbs taste like, there is very little in the way of inspiration, for the man over 40.

Does this mean I have to go and get my old man dressing kit, and become a beige drawstring/elasticated waist trouser wearing old codger, never again to see the inside of next?

I feel a bit writen off "
This is exactly how I feel!

I've been told I shouldn't be wearing hoodies, skinny jeans, trainers........all sorts! OK, I'm pushing 60, fair enough, but thing is, I feel only 30!

Oh well, is Dunn & Co still trading?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Buy a vespa, get a young chick, have her bring you croissants and coffee in the morning and have her dress you in lofas and patterned silk scarf's. The rest is will be mustard.

Lol, I've got a Vespa

Shakes head and walks away "

Why, has your motorbike broken down again

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Wear what you like, walk with confidence, and fuck anyone who tells you what they think is "appropriate".

My tastes have always been a bit...outré, but the older I get, the more I'm willing to embrace it. Hence the animal print, sequins, flowery patterns, etc.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Buy a vespa, get a young chick, have her bring you croissants and coffee in the morning and have her dress you in lofas and patterned silk scarf's. The rest is will be mustard.

Lol, I've got a Vespa

Shakes head and walks away

Why, has your motorbike broken down again "

Wash your mouth out with soap young man. My bike is a pampered pooch. It's gets the best of everything including macanic me. It's cogently sat in its heated garage. Yes I even fitted a radiator for it. How sad am I

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Buy a vespa, get a young chick, have her bring you croissants and coffee in the morning and have her dress you in lofas and patterned silk scarf's. The rest is will be mustard.

Lol, I've got a Vespa

Shakes head and walks away

Why, has your motorbike broken down again

Wash your mouth out with soap young man. My bike is a pampered pooch. It's gets the best of everything including macanic me. It's cogently sat in its heated garage. Yes I even fitted a radiator for it. How sad am I "
Blade, my Blades got its own 15 tog duvet, with super-sur gas fire!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Buy a vespa, get a young chick, have her bring you croissants and coffee in the morning and have her dress you in lofas and patterned silk scarf's. The rest is will be mustard.

Lol, I've got a Vespa

Shakes head and walks away

Why, has your motorbike broken down again

Wash your mouth out with soap young man. My bike is a pampered pooch. It's gets the best of everything including macanic me. It's cogently sat in its heated garage. Yes I even fitted a radiator for it. How sad am I "

I just love it in the summer when I can go out on it in a suit, and not have to worry about messing it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've developed my own style with a bit of help from Debenhams, M&S and John Lewis and bargain designer stuff on sale. It also helps that I've shed nearly 3 stone since last new year. I wear what I like and I'm in the process of getting shot of my 'Dad' clothes..

Funnily enough I can fit into some of my son's cast offs that were hardly worn and they look good too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try Matalan and Tesco. ..Asda too. ..x

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Buy a vespa, get a young chick, have her bring you croissants and coffee in the morning and have her dress you in lofas and patterned silk scarf's. The rest is will be mustard.

Lol, I've got a Vespa

Shakes head and walks away

Why, has your motorbike broken down again

Wash your mouth out with soap young man. My bike is a pampered pooch. It's gets the best of everything including macanic me. It's cogently sat in its heated garage. Yes I even fitted a radiator for it. How sad am I

I just love it in the summer when I can go out on it in a suit, and not have to worry about messing it up "

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Buy a vespa, get a young chick, have her bring you croissants and coffee in the morning and have her dress you in lofas and patterned silk scarf's. The rest is will be mustard.

Lol, I've got a Vespa

Shakes head and walks away

Why, has your motorbike broken down again

Wash your mouth out with soap young man. My bike is a pampered pooch. It's gets the best of everything including macanic me. It's cogently sat in its heated garage. Yes I even fitted a radiator for it. How sad am I Blade, my Blades got its own 15 tog duvet, with super-sur gas fire!!! "

You just got to treat your loved one's right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't be happier with the options available to me. I've never felt better about my wardrobe.

The advantage with not having a teenagers mentality when it comes to my dress sense is that I can be fashionable without having to follow fashion.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm a bit happier now, I've just bought 2 pairs of Chelsea boots, one brown and one black, and a pair of brown leather leisure shoes saving nearly £150

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By *ogerNesszonesMan
over a year ago

Northern England

Yes, it's a problem - especially when you're single and don't have a woman's input when you go shopping. I have zero sense of colour coordination!

I wear a suit every day for work, with a nice shirt (always double cuffs / cufflinks), sometimes a tie for more formal meetings and a nice pair of shoes.

At weekends, I generally go very casual and wear (skinny-ish) jeans / t shirts (usually music related) and in the winter months I'll wear an open (checked) shirt on top.

A lot of the stuff in the men's departments at the larger Marks n Sparks is good (I never have said that 20 yrs ago), and the female sales assistants are always willing to help you match up shirts with suits.

I've bought some decent stuff from FatFace (casual shirts) and Timberland (boots) - but their clobber is pricey for what it is.

In summary, I'm happy with my wardrobe / look - and I hope I don't look too much like "old ram dressed as lamb"

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By *ogerNesszonesMan
over a year ago

Northern England


"I'm a bit happier now, I've just bought 2 pairs of Chelsea boots, one brown and one black, and a pair of brown leather leisure shoes saving nearly £150"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So I shouldn't be sitting here in jeans and a T-shirt anymore?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't beat a jolly splendid t suit

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

Have a look at Thread

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Have a look at Thread "

We are looking at the thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr always gets really good designer stuff at TK Max ... His dress sense is one of the many things that I love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

.. That should have finished with ... About him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a bit happier now, I've just bought 2 pairs of Chelsea boots, one brown and one black, and a pair of brown leather leisure shoes saving nearly £150"

Can't beat Chelsea boots... good call. I don't know about you Mr Butler, but I gave up wearing t-shirts a while back (just didn't feel right), but truly enjoy the feeling of a nice crisp linen shirt (white or other), smart dark jeans and a thin lambswool jumper (dark grey, or dark green is my preference), roll the sleeves over the rolled up arms of the jumper does me okay. I quite like to wear a waistcoat occasionally

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Next is shit anyway "

Exactly, get yer ass down to Brigdens

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By *rbane PlayerMan
over a year ago

London


"I've had a look on the Internet for inspiration, while updating my wardrobe, and I've found that unless you are under 30, and don't know what carbs taste like, there is very little in the way of inspiration, for the man over 40.

Does this mean I have to go and get my old man dressing kit, and become a beige drawstring/elasticated waist trouser wearing old codger, never again to see the inside of next?

I feel a bit writen off "

Oh you are not! I think it depends on your budget, but lots of good ideas exist. You may want to start with Pinterest. Just follow 'men's styles' and you get updates on lots of suits, jumpers etc. TM Lewin, Pink, and Charles Tyrwhitt (my favourite) does good quality clothes with really good service. So you can easily look stylish whatever your age. Good luck !

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"I'm a bit happier now, I've just bought 2 pairs of Chelsea boots, one brown and one black, and a pair of brown leather leisure shoes saving nearly £150"

I got slated by a few folk for starting a thread about me wanting to buy a pair of Clarks shoes for £98

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By *arksMan
over a year ago

in the centre


"Buy a vespa, get a young chick, have her bring you croissants and coffee in the morning and have her dress you in lofas and patterned silk scarf's. The rest is will be mustard.

Lol, I've got a Vespa

Shakes head and walks away "

Nothing wrong with owning a good scooter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I shouldn't be sitting here in jeans and a T-shirt anymore?"

You need a floral shirt in your life. Us chicks dig them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I shouldn't be sitting here in jeans and a T-shirt anymore?

You need a floral shirt in your life. Us chicks dig them "

Nah you just dig Tom Selleck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

L'Aragosta

Casadisartoria

#me, myself & I

Sprezzatura-Eleganza

Suggest u look some of these up on t u m b l r and u might finds a style then start ur collection ...

Just changed my style a month ago .... every two years it's fun to be someone else xx

Have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try TK MAXX and primarni

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I'm the personal shopper for one of the lads at work.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Wait till you get to your 50's and Greenwoods window draws you in for the cardigans "

Two words;

Edinburgh Mill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I shouldn't be sitting here in jeans and a T-shirt anymore?

You need a floral shirt in your life. Us chicks dig them

Nah you just dig Tom Selleck!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try having to shop for two sets of clothes

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"So I shouldn't be sitting here in jeans and a T-shirt anymore?

You need a floral shirt in your life. Us chicks dig them "

A kilt works well too; women love a man in a kilt it seems

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Jeans and t shirts ...I'm a charity shop shopper...and my Crocs come from the croc shop

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

I actually talked to an online style coach, who helped me find my 'style', whilst explaining why things look good, what suits me, etc.

He was really good.

PM me if you are interested and I'll give you his details.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I actually talked to an online style coach, who helped me find my 'style', whilst explaining why things look good, what suits me, etc.

He was really good.

PM me if you are interested and I'll give you his details. "

I think this kind of thing can be useful as a confidence boost. I've never done it professionally, but I think, for whatever reason, women are more open to the discussion on developing a style.

Presenting yourself well matters to many people. There's nothing wrong with that if it's what you need x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My other half uses Pinterest as a fashion guide , try downloading it

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Just go for the classics as slim fitting as you can. Jeans that reach your footwear, not ankle danglers like young people seem to wear. Good wool coat.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Once you decide what your style is, you then just need to find the suppliers of the component trousers, tops etc - coordinate the look, then the colours. Some things are good staples that will support many styles.

For trousers, get your measurements and then select from the huge range of cuts. There's a lot more than skinny out there.

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