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By *choSeeker OP Man
over a year ago

NORTH WEST LONDON

anyone had a battle with depression?

i currently fight it every day, can snap out of it!

would be great to hear other experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm no expert but I would have thought there would be way better platforms dedicated to providing the kind of support and advice needed to cope with such a devastating condition...

I wish you well..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I take the drugs prescribed for it

And fuck a lot

It helps!

Ruby x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"anyone had a battle with depression?

i currently fight it every day, can snap out of it!

would be great to hear other experiences.

It goes with my PTSD, the hardest part is realising you have a problem, the next is admitting you have a problem and then hardest of all is asking for help.

Unless you can do all 3, there will be little chance of reducing it's impact on yourself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i suffered for 5 months with it, it was awful, could not even get out of bed most days but with help from my Doctor and good friends around me i overcame the battle, you can do it, just get out there and get the help that is available.

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By *annooWoman
over a year ago

Hastings

I ha e suffered with depression my entire life been on and off meds and have found different ways of coping some with help some without

There are a lot of factors to it

The first being you need to not listen to any or all negativity..especially people telling you where to get your help from...help can come from a perfect stranger to a professional...

And secondly realising you are a suffering is believe it or not a great thing because you realise you need help and that you cannot do it on your own...

Sometimes the simple thing can help, like watching a film that takes you back to a happy childhood memory, music that sets your mind free even if only for the 2 1/2 mins it is playing...

Do you suffer from SADS it could be you need a SADS light to pic up your spirits

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

30 odd years and counting.

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By *itzhallMan
over a year ago

birchington

Have suffered with anxiety / depression for a number of years and live day by day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, the black dog descends every so often, the trick for me is knowing the signs before it fully hits, because if I let it in it can take a lot of work to lift it again.

I've tried medication, but it just made me feel....nothing.

So I try to keep myself even, I don't drink regularly because that starts it off, and I don't smoke because that just kicks my ass mentally.

Only people who have been close to depression understand quite how dark things can get, and that just because someone doesn't walk round with a sad face all day, that they are depressed, case in point, Robbin Williams.

And I hate to disagree with soxy, but ANY forum, is a forum for mental health issues, not many people when they are trying to cope with depression, go searching for depression forums, they are depressing, sometimes when I'm feeling depressed I just want a bit of tome off from it, and to see enlightened funny posts from a bloke in a frock

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By *choSeeker OP Man
over a year ago

NORTH WEST LONDON

That's how I feel. I go from extreme happy to down in the dumps! In a matter of hour. Hearing one negative thing can spark it.

The problem is I find it difficult to play the happy guy but I do it non the less.

I find it very difficult to bond with people. I had anti depression drugs, but they make me feel awful.

But just hearing from u all, I'm Not alone make me feel normal again.

I'm going to start regular exercise to see if that helps!!!

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By *choSeeker OP Man
over a year ago

NORTH WEST LONDON

"30 odd years and counting. "

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By *choSeeker OP Man
over a year ago

NORTH WEST LONDON

I don't smoke because that just kicks my ass tal health issues

I find occasional bit of herb helps numb my brain from light speed think once I'm down]

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By *choSeeker OP Man
over a year ago

NORTH WEST LONDON

"I ha e suffered with depression my entire life been on and off meds and have found different ways of coping some with help some without

There are a lot of factors to it

The first being you need to not listen to any or all negativity..especially people telling you where to get your help from...help can come from a perfect stranger to a professional...

And secondly realising you are a suffering is believe it or not a great thing because you realise you need help and that you cannot do it on your own...

Sometimes the simple thing can help, like watching a film that takes you back to a happy childhood memory, music that sets your mind free even if only for the 2 1/2 mins it is playing...

Do you suffer from SADS it could be you need a SADS light to pic up your spirits"

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Yes I do suffer from SADS as well, and I have the light.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's how I feel. I go from extreme happy to down in the dumps! In a matter of hour. Hearing one negative thing can spark it.

The problem is I find it difficult to play the happy guy but I do it non the less.

I find it very difficult to bond with people. I had anti depression drugs, but they make me feel awful.

But just hearing from u all, I'm Not alone make me feel normal again.

I'm going to start regular exercise to see if that helps!!!"

Only you will know what works for you, you will get a lot of advice on how to deal with it, from yoga, to "just cheer up" and from medication to "come on lets just get pissed" its a bit trial and error, but you Are not alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't smoke because that just kicks my ass tal health issues

I find occasional bit of herb helps numb my brain from light speed think once I'm down]"

That's the thing, when I'm down my mind needs quickening up a bit, its horses for courses

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By *ittle missnaughtyWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Yep, the black dog descends every so often, the trick for me is knowing the signs before it fully hits, because if I let it in it can take a lot of work to lift it again.

I've tried medication, but it just made me feel....nothing.

So I try to keep myself even, I don't drink regularly because that starts it off, and I don't smoke because that just kicks my ass mentally.

I here you.... I'm right here now and struggling

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Medication for depression takes away all feelings so you feel nothing at all, just numb x

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

"Medication for depression takes away all feelings so you feel nothing at all, just numb x"

For you maybe. That's not everyone's experience. Mine has saved my life. I get peaks and troughs. I still 'feel' sometimes I wish I didn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Medication for depression takes away all feelings so you feel nothing at all, just numb x

For you maybe. That's not everyone's experience. Mine has saved my life. I get peaks and troughs. I still 'feel' sometimes I wish I didn't. "

There's no correct way to manage depression, its as individual as people are

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By *itzhallMan
over a year ago

birchington

Meds aren't the be all and end all..... use them by all means to help you get yourself up from the floor but ultimately.... it's down to you to progress from that point.

Meds will get you to a certain level but they will keep you at that same level all the while you're taking them

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

"Medication for depression takes away all feelings so you feel nothing at all, just numb x

For you maybe. That's not everyone's experience. Mine has saved my life. I get peaks and troughs. I still 'feel' sometimes I wish I didn't.

There's no correct way to manage depression, its as individual as people are "

Agree hence why people should be careful about saying things like above. People could read that and think they want nothing to do with medication without realising that's an individual response not a global response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"anyone had a battle with depression?

i currently fight it every day, can snap out of it!

would be great to hear other experiences.

It goes with my PTSD, the hardest part is realising you have a problem, the next is admitting you have a problem and then hardest of all is asking for help.

Unless you can do all 3, there will be little chance of reducing it's impact on yourself!"

I suffer from ptsd as well. Id rather have lost a limb

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

"anyone had a battle with depression?

i currently fight it every day, can snap out of it!

would be great to hear other experiences.

It goes with my PTSD, the hardest part is realising you have a problem, the next is admitting you have a problem and then hardest of all is asking for help.

Unless you can do all 3, there will be little chance of reducing it's impact on yourself!

I suffer from ptsd as well. Id rather have lost a limb"

I'm sure people who have lost a limb would like to hear that......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suffer on and off. Was on 40mg of Citalopram at one point, that didn't help really they just made me less agitated, but coming off them was quite heavy going so i try to muddle on now without medication. I don't recommend that for anyone else though, before i get told off.

My ex suffers quite badly with it too and has dark moods. He has attempted to take his own life twice, whereas i'm just generally covered in a mist of sadness and i find it extremely hard to find joy in anything. I'm good at putting on an act for my children. Suicide has never crossed my mind as i just couldn't do that to my kids and i know my ex would be unable to manage them due to his depression which is more debilatating than mine.

My concentration levels are also shite, for example i used to love reading and would finish books in days. Now if i can make it through a paragraph i'm doing well.

I can still write long arsed forum posts though!

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By *obwithkiltMan
over a year ago

Belton

I have had my walks with a black dog... He is currently asleep in front of the fire.. So to speak.

I used exercise and routine along with counselling, volunteering, medication and love & help from my family and friends. You will eventually find you can see the signs and symptoms.. You then deal/cope as much as you can... Above all do not be afraid to talk about it... Be it to professionals or Total strangers.. Hiding is when it wins. I was given a book many years ago... I have passed it on tenfold... Well worth reading..

I Had a Black Dog by Matthew Johnstone (ISBN: 9781845295899)

Stay strong sir!

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By *heDevilsinthedetailMan
over a year ago

liverpool

Had it about two years since I broke up from a girl I loved more than anyone I ever have. It was the most intense relationship I've ever had and she was battling depression and decided she didn't want to be with me anymore and wanted to fuck a guy she worked with. Since then I can't totally shake it but have good and bad days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What many people don't realise is that depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain & yes medication does help ...when you find the right medication....but natural remedies are also good as is yoga & meditation...

It's nothing to be ashamed of & seeking help is a massive step x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple of websites that I recommend to my patients are moodgym and moodjuice

Both are cognitive behavioural therapy based self help packages / guides, which have a lot of evidence for helping with episodes of depression. If people prefer books, then I can higher recommend Mind Over Mood by Greenberger and Padesky.

most areas also have services known as IAPT (improving access to psychological therapies). If needed, google it for your local area. They often offer therapy quickly and accept self referrals.

Hope that helps anyone who needs it, and positive wishes to you all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had it about two years since I broke up from a girl I loved more than anyone I ever have. It was the most intense relationship I've ever had and she was battling depression and decided she didn't want to be with me anymore and wanted to fuck a guy she worked with. Since then I can't totally shake it but have good and bad days. "

No one is worth living the rest of your life in a state of depression. Get some help, don't live your life stuck in the past, move on and enjoy the positive things you have in life.

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By *heDevilsinthedetailMan
over a year ago

liverpool

No one is worth living the rest of your life in a state of depression. Get some help, don't live your life stuck in the past, move on and enjoy the positive things you have in life. "

I know and I am getting help. I'm mainly finding it hard because I still speak to her a lot and I know how sick she is and she comes asking for support on her bad days. I know I need to block her from my life and move on but I also know there are days she needs support and it knocks me back. Sometimes you just want to say fuck off and get support off the guy you fucked but I know she's not well so just stay plesant to her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been living with the black dog for around 18 years now.at one point was on 40mg citalopram and that seemed to put me on ground zero but I just felt nothing.these days I just deal with every day as it comes without medication and tell myself I'm doing better.

Each person deals with this differently and it affects each person differently so there is no set rules on anything.

I know it might sound abit harsh but I always think that someone out there has it worse than me&they are managing to get through each day,so I just get up put on a smile and live each day one at a time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A couple of websites that I recommend to my patients are moodgym and moodjuice

most areas also have services known as IAPT (improving access to psychological therapies). If needed, google it for your local area. They often offer therapy quickly and accept self referrals.

Hope that helps anyone who needs it, and positive wishes to you all"

Thank you for that, i'll look at the websites

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By *km45Man
over a year ago

UTTOXETER

I've suffered from depression for the last five years. I fight it most days. Have avoided medication however I found the counselling really helped. Teaching me how to handle most situations. This helps me most of the times. Yesterday was a bad morning for me, just felt so low and wanted to cry and I have no idea why I was so upset. My work colleagues were absolutely brilliant and helped me through it. It helps to talk and not bottle it up.

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By *choSeeker OP Man
over a year ago

NORTH WEST LONDON

" 20mg citalopram "

that's the dose i was on, but it made me feel nothing and dry mouth, so i stopped.

I guess my main trigger was when granddad passed away. Its him who comes into my mind when im down regardless of what's brought me down. i always have this feeling if granddad was here id be okay....

the struggle continues. I do want to say to you all, that the fact you have spoken about it with me on this forum has provided me with a sense of hope.

I came here to explore the sex and physical side of thing, but what i have found is some real people with real stores, so i thank you all. i read a quote i wanted to share with you all

'If there is no enemy within, then no enemy on the outside can do us no harm!'

one love people.

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By *choSeeker OP Man
over a year ago

NORTH WEST LONDON

thanks dude. i will have a butchers at the book.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one is worth living the rest of your life in a state of depression. Get some help, don't live your life stuck in the past, move on and enjoy the positive things you have in life.

Well that's very admirable of you. Pleased to hear you're getting help though and I hope she is too.

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By *verready32Man
over a year ago

omagh

After I come out of the army, I suffered badly from it, I found adjusting to civilian life hard, but now 7 years on I'm fine no meds, biggest help was the gym, gets me going and the routine is great

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By *heDevilsinthedetailMan
over a year ago

liverpool

No one is worth living the rest of your life in a state of depression. Get some help, don't live your life stuck in the past, move on and enjoy the positive things you have in life.

Well that's very admirable of you. Pleased to hear you're getting help though and I hope she is too."

Yeh she's getting help (on meds and councillor) but I'm not going to lie it's the hardest thing I've ever done being nice to someone who hurt me so bad but I know it's the right thing to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A couple of websites that I recommend to my patients are moodgym and moodjuice

most areas also have services known as IAPT (improving access to psychological therapies). If needed, google it for your local area. They often offer therapy quickly and accept self referrals.

Hope that helps anyone who needs it, and positive wishes to you all

Thank you for that, i'll look at the websites

You're welcome. Best wishes with it all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"anyone had a battle with depression?

i currently fight it every day, can snap out of it!

would be great to hear other experiences.

Yep. I suffered it for 5 years.

Bloody awful

Have you tried counselling?

I was skeptical about it, but it really can help.

It can help you identify the triggers and causes of your depression which could help to you finding a way through it.

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By *uperock99Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Many people feel depressed and don't know or understand why they do, I came across a friend a while ago and studied their behavior and how they respond to certain ways and situations, they thought they were just depressed all of their life until they were diagnosed with ASD Aspergers Syndrome Disorder after I mentioned it to them, something your born with and no medication can help, all you can do is learn how to cope with it. There are different levels from low to high.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thanks dude. i will have a butchers at the book."

No worries, hope it helps

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By *choSeeker OP Man
over a year ago

NORTH WEST LONDON

"ASD Aspergers Syndrome Disorder "

Wow, i was just diagnosed with Adult ADHD! that's freaked me out a bit.

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By *uperock99Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

"ASD Aspergers Syndrome Disorder

Wow, i was just diagnosed with Adult ADHD! that's freaked me out a bit."
at least there is a reason why you feel the way you do now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been depressed my whole adult life (because of various health issues). The last few years have been a constant battle to stay alive. Yes, I am receiving professional help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are so many really great posts on this topic, and I'm so glad to see that mental health stigma is lessening so we can all talk openly about it. I have experienced depression and anxiety on and off for a decade. Everything is pretty well managed these days apart from occasional bouts of social anxiety, and it is no coincidence that I'm able to be open about it with people in all aspects of my life. It's really great to be at a point in my life where I can really help other people who are going through tough times.

Quick reminder that anyone can call the Samaritans for confidential anonymous emotional support. Freephone 116 123.

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By *oshtottyCouple
over a year ago

brentwood

Never well happy

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I'm no expert but I would have thought there would be way better platforms dedicated to providing the kind of support and advice needed to cope with such a devastating condition...

I wish you well..

There have been lots of posts on this subject before and Fabbers have been really helpful and supportive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had depression ever since a teenager,seen many shrinks over the years all different kinds of meds ,finally after hitting a really bad time I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and put on the right meds and never felt better ..

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By *heDevilsinthedetailMan
over a year ago

liverpool

"There are so many really great posts on this topic, and I'm so glad to see that mental health stigma is lessening so we can all talk openly about it. I have experienced depression and anxiety on and off for a decade. Everything is pretty well managed these days apart from occasional bouts of social anxiety, and it is no coincidence that I'm able to be open about it with people in all aspects of my life. It's really great to be at a point in my life where I can really help other people who are going through tough times.

Quick reminder that anyone can call the Samaritans for confidential anonymous emotional support. Freephone 116 123."

Samaritans are great! I'm not ashamed to say I've rang three times and it's really helped me. I've promised myself I will join them to help others when I'm clear of it myself.

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By *rincessvenusCouple
over a year ago

Hull

what about us partners that have to live with it 24 7 who helps us then

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depression is a bastard, and I know for a fact how hard to fight it can be. Personally, I find walking helps, spending time with animals (just feeding birds is good), reading motivational quotes, and I don't mean that sort of crap you see on facebook, read some REAL quotes from REAL people who fought their battles in life and won, learn from them.

Sing and dance if you can, both are powerful tools against depression.

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By *entle giraffeMan
over a year ago

Minehead

Just bookmarking this thread to read later.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"what about us partners that have to live with it 24 7 who helps us then "

The Samaritans will help you too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quick reminder that anyone can call the Samaritans for confidential anonymous emotional support. Freephone 116 123.

Samaritans are great! I'm not ashamed to say I've rang three times and it's really helped me. I've promised myself I will join them to help others when I'm clear of it myself.

Really recommend volunteering when you feel ready, it completely changed the way I view things, for the better.

And yes reiterating to the person asking about support for partners of sufferers - the Samaritans are there for you. Ask the council about your local carers' support team. Even if you don't feel like a carer, you're probably doing a lot of things that qualify under that label. Also make sure you look after your own emotional wellbeing - you can't help others whilst neglecting yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one is worth living the rest of your life in a state of depression. Get some help, don't live your life stuck in the past, move on and enjoy the positive things you have in life.

Well that's very admirable of you. Pleased to hear you're getting help though and I hope she is too.

Yeh she's getting help (on meds and councillor) but I'm not going to lie it's the hardest thing I've ever done being nice to someone who hurt me so bad but I know it's the right thing to do

Is it? We need to rid ourselves of energy vampires/mood hoovers before we can help ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what about us partners that have to live with it 24 7 who helps us then "

Your gp. Support groups. Knowledge of the condition.

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By *choSeeker OP Man
over a year ago

NORTH WEST LONDON

Hi all I thought I’d give an update. I was stuffing really bad. I did an adhd test for adults and I have it hence the issues I was having.

I’m on meds for adhd and my life has changed for the better.

I wish all those who are struggling wellness

"anyone had a battle with depression?

i currently fight it every day, can snap out of it!

would be great to hear other experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi all I thought I’d give an update. I was stuffing really bad. I did an adhd test for adults and I have it hence the issues I was having.

I’m on meds for adhd and my life has changed for the better.

I wish all those who are struggling wellness

anyone had a battle with depression?

i currently fight it every day, can snap out of it!

would be great to hear other experiences.

Aweeeeee.

You made me smile. I'm glad things are good Echo. X

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