FabSwingers.com forum: Your feelings

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

On not getting a reply back when you message someone a quick yes or no sorry is surely more polite..what are peoples feelings on this

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By *rs DCouple
over a year ago

far

I allways reply,takes time because i get so much mail.but yes i do reply x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we don't get a reply we just take it that we're not their type and move on

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

Do you phone the local pizza delivery company to thank them for the leaflet they dropped through your letterbox but you don´t want to order any of their pizzas ?

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

What do you think people owe you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I reply to every message I get it opens a convo I'd rather not have and a lot turn nasty, why should I put up with that?

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I no longer reply unless I am interested, this is because they then ask why I am not interested and, frankly it's boring. In a club I wouldn't explain why it's a no.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

By the way it is just a post to gauge peoples feelings on the message thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

get used to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you phone the local pizza delivery company to thank them for the leaflet they dropped through your letterbox but you don´t want to order any of their pizzas ?"

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I've more important things to worry about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't let it get to you bud ,you have to remember how many messages ladies get.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A reply is always great. A delete lets you know where you stand. It is when they have been let as read! Not that I would get huffy and puffy like it seems others do!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"On not getting a reply back when you message someone a quick yes or no sorry is surely more polite..what are peoples feelings on this"

My profile is hidden. Do you want to know my feelings regarding men writing, asking to meet?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I personally get loads of replys im just interested in the general feeling about it and always check out verifications find it stops loads of the bs on here

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I've more important things to worry about"

Indeed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you craft a bespoke message, tailored to the individual/couple that you are messaging based on their profile, OP? If you do, and that doesn't get you a reply you just have to accept you aren't for them and move on.

Some folk may recieve literally hundreds of messages a day on here, and even if you have created a masterpiece that will titillate and wow the reader, you may be unlucky and just get deleted in bulk without being opened. It happens.

My advice to you is, don't take it personally. If you do, this may not be the place you you if you can't take a knock-back. Perseverance and patience are needed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I personally get loads of replys im just interested in the general feeling about it and always check out verifications find it stops loads of the bs on here"

Well I wish you had said that in your initial post mate!! Would've saved me all that bloody typing!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Woman are inundated on here, it's practically impossible for them to reply to all. Think about the message you send and the pics you attach. Send a face pic instead of a cock shot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would depend if the person messaging me has been polite enough to read my profile first.

A lot don't so no, in those cases I don't think it's rude to not answer their messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On not getting a reply back when you message someone a quick yes or no sorry is surely more polite..what are peoples feelings on this"

Read the FAQ.

They didn't invite your message. It has nothing to do with being polite and everything to do with time, interest and perceived compatibility.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they have put the time into reading my profile.. or a detailed message then yes I will always reply....if they havnt been bothered to then no I won't..

But to be fair I get hardly any messages a day anyway

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I personally get loads of replys im just interested in the general feeling about it and always check out verifications find it stops loads of the bs on here

Well I wish you had said that in your initial post mate!! Would've saved me all that bloody typing!!!

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"If they have put the time into reading my profile.. or a detailed message then yes I will always reply....if they havnt been bothered to then no I won't..

But to be fair I get hardly any messages a day anyway

I find that hard to believe. Love the ink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we're not a catalogue of ladies that have to say whether we're in stock or not.

yeah it would be nice, for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather it was deleted if they're not interested than see I've got a message, get my hopes up and then see it's a no thanks. Waste of their time writing it and waste of my time reading it

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I'd rather it was deleted if they're not interested than see I've got a message, get my hopes up and then see it's a no thanks. Waste of their time writing it and waste of my time reading it "

Go on make my day send me a faf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was replying a quick no thanks but found that started a conversation. If I have the time I will reply. Hubby will just delete..

S x

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By *rs DCouple
over a year ago

far

"I personally get loads of replys im just interested in the general feeling about it and always check out verifications find it stops loads of the bs on here"
lol do you bollocks hehe

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By *rs DCouple
over a year ago

far

Feck me forum ban soon last one was five days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always reply as this saves the sender from getting their hopes up

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By *eoffinthecityMan
over a year ago

Wigan

It's always nice to get a "no thanks" but it's never expected. I just trust that if there's any interest then whoever I'm messaging will respond.

That said, I can't believe some of the stories of verbal abuse and knob heads that I read. There's a damned good reason why people don't send a "no thanks".

Which is a shame...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Familiarise yourself with the FAQ's OP.

It very clearly states that some users are so overwhelmed with messages that they simply do not have the time to reply and that you should take a non-reply as a 'no thanks'

Some users have found that when they have responded with a 'no thanks' or similar, they then find the sender of the original message to them either gets abusive, or makes an attempt to change their mind, or ask questions about why - in other words, demonstrates a complete lack of respect of the decision to decline.

And let's face it, how much happier would you be with an inbox full of 'no thanks'?

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham

I rarely bother , so it's no sweat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think maybe iv had 3 replys and no one has ever messaged me 1st. Which is fine as i am not everyone (apparently no ones

) cup of tea. What i do find a bit annoying and odd is when a message goes unopened and deleted right away.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"If we don't get a reply we just take it that we're not their type and move on"

This for us and we may block to make sure we don't contact in future.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they have put the time into reading my profile.. or a detailed message then yes I will always reply....if they havnt been bothered to then no I won't..

But to be fair I get hardly any messages a day anyway

I find that hard to believe. Love the ink

Thank you

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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago

marlow

I always try and reply x

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

If I am not interested I never reply, saves any future hassle.

If they have put a lot of effort into their messages, then yes I will.

The one's that say 'Oh you are so close' for example

I tend to just think And?

I receive so many boring messages though...so easy to just ignore

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I do reply if I think people have actually read my profile which isn't often!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think you have to see it from the ladies point of view. Imagine getting hundreds of messages and practically all the same, you surely can't spend all day going through them.

When mine get deleted, move on, don't take it personal.

Btw, any guy getting nasty because of this, needs an outright ban.

If you bo get a reply and its a no thankyou, thank them, and move on.

No one likes an insecure guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd prefer a reply but there's no need really. Once I see a message is deleted then I get the hint.

I understand that lots of users are inundated with messages and that even a negative reply can result in further unwanted correspondence.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Damn I thought this was gonna be a nice touchy feelly thread!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Damn I thought this was gonna be a nice touchy feelly thread!!

Group hug?

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Damn I thought this was gonna be a nice touchy feelly thread!!

Group hug? "

Any excuse to cop a feel!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not bothered, it's the nature of the site.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Damn I thought this was gonna be a nice touchy feelly thread!!

Group hug? "

Yes please - mutual hair stroking??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Damn I thought this was gonna be a nice touchy feelly thread!!

Group hug?

Yes please - mutual hair stroking??

Oh go on then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Damn I thought this was gonna be a nice touchy feelly thread!!

Group hug?

Any excuse to cop a feel! "

We're not all perverts like you.

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By *rimo4uMan
over a year ago

north kensington w10

"Do you phone the local pizza delivery company to thank them for the leaflet they dropped through your letterbox but you don´t want to order any of their pizzas ?"

Ridiculous analogy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

However... being ignored on a forum thread pisses me off just a teeny weeny tad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What i do find a bit annoying and odd is when a message goes unopened and deleted right away."

What's odd about it? Most people will look at your profile before they read your message. If they don't like your profile (for whatever reason) then it's unlikely anything in your message is likely to make a difference.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Damn I thought this was gonna be a nice touchy feelly thread!!

Group hug?

Any excuse to cop a feel!

We're not all perverts like you. "

No, some of us like being stroked to sleep quite innocently!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What i do find a bit annoying and odd is when a message goes unopened and deleted right away.

Yup, this. Logical really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"However... being ignored on a forum thread pisses me off just a teeny weeny tad.

This...

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

"However... being ignored on a forum thread pisses me off just a teeny weeny tad.

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By *itsAndTaffCouple
over a year ago

Grays, Essex

I posted something similar earlier I was trying to reply to all messages (only been in here s week) but I was getting abuse for being online and not having responded yet (because I was responding to other messages) & then people not taking no for an answer wanting reasons why, totally ignoring our profile and what we want etc & not liking me saying we aren't a good match, some people message 10x in as many minutes just with ?? They obviously get deleted but that annoyed them more

So after my post this morning I now block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit of a caveman mentality on this site more about beating the other men to shag a girl rather than shagging the girl herself for some

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Bit of a caveman mentality on this site more about beating the other men to shag a girl rather than shagging the girl herself for some"

And therein lies the main reason for the failure of 99% of men on here to get the amount of sex they want!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bit of a caveman mentality on this site more about beating the other men to shag a girl rather than shagging the girl herself for some

And therein lies the main reason for the failure of 99% of men on here to get the amount of sex they want!"

Could be a reason loads of guys be pissed off its not even about the girl more a law of the jungle thing going on with other men.

Def thinking to much into this lol and dont even know if it makes sense but would def make a woman far more attractive if you knew about 50 guys were trying to pull her as well and you pulled her

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

I'm not going to apologise for not answering all my mail just because you want to have sex with me,yes it's rude I agree no matter what the site say's. I haven't had replies from my message's I just move on,yeah it can be disappointing,but you know what I'll live. See these places have turned me into a hard b*tch.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

No reply to us would mean they are not interested, so we would move on. Equally we don't reply to any messages, where they have not read our profile and are not compatible with us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not going to apologise for not answering all my mail just because you want to have sex with me,yes it's rude I agree no matter what the site say's. I haven't had replies from my message's I just move on,yeah it can be disappointing,but you know what I'll live. See these places have turned me into a hard b*tch."

same here.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

If they have read my profile and message regarding something in it, I will reply.

If they fit my preferences I will reply, if it's clear neither apply, I won't reply as thats junk mail.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"If they have read my profile and message regarding something in it, I will reply.

If they fit my preferences I will reply, if it's clear neither apply, I won't reply as thats junk mail."

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i feel nothing - i dont know them and i do the same - its fab not meeting new neighbours when youmove home

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