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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

and tired of having to do everything by myself!

Don't get me wrong - I'm OK about being single most of the time.

But then the weekend comes and I see everyone out with their partners having fun and I feel sad

Time to stop swinging and start looking for something else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If that's what you feel you have to do. Then so be it and all the best finding someone more permanent

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By *hocoholicWoman
over a year ago

The big D

Single 4yrs & still loving it. There are times I'd love to have a diy'ish guy about but Iv either learned to do stuff myself or that's what friends are for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and tired of having to do everything by myself!

Don't get me wrong - I'm OK about being single most of the time.

But then the weekend comes and I see everyone out with their partners having fun and I feel sad

Time to stop swinging and start looking for something else?

Good luck

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Why do you think they're having fun?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know how you feel op. But can you cope with vanilla and no fab fun? Tried many times

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Single 4yrs & still loving it. There are times I'd love to have a diy'ish guy about but Iv either learned to do stuff myself or that's what friends are for. "

Haha I know what you mean - but most of my friends are busy with their families at weekends - I still see them but sometimes it makes me feel even more alone

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town

"Single 4yrs & still loving it. There are times I'd love to have a diy'ish guy about but Iv either learned to do stuff myself or that's what friends are for. "

Been single 17yrs and have no intentions having a partner

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"and tired of having to do everything by myself!

Don't get me wrong - I'm OK about being single most of the time.

But then the weekend comes and I see everyone out with their partners having fun and I feel sad

Time to stop swinging and start looking for something else?

I've been trying to do that for year's

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I'm considering it and returning to celibacy. It's simpler.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why do you think they're having fun?"

LOL yes maybe they're not!

I know the grass is always greener!

But I don't have children or family - I just feel really lonely x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've got to do what's right for you, you just need to be honest with yourself about what you really want. Very few people actually enjoy being single if their friends are in steady relationships. Having had several friends and many colleagues in this situation. it only gets harder as you get older. It's good that you're thinking about it now though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Somehow you get used to it.......

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By *ild-1Woman
over a year ago

york

"Why do you think they're having fun?

LOL yes maybe they're not!

I know the grass is always greener!

But I don't have children or family - I just feel really lonely x"

Let's go out and hit the town - we don't need a man !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and tired of having to do everything by myself!

Don't get me wrong - I'm OK about being single most of the time.

But then the weekend comes and I see everyone out with their partners having fun and I feel sad

Time to stop swinging and start looking for something else?

yea just go out n meet some one,,good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why do you think they're having fun?

LOL yes maybe they're not!

I know the grass is always greener!

But I don't have children or family - I just feel really lonely x

Let's go out and hit the town - we don't need a man !! "

I'd love some friends with your mindset nearby xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and tired of having to do everything by myself!

Don't get me wrong - I'm OK about being single most of the time.

But then the weekend comes and I see everyone out with their partners having fun and I feel sad

Time to stop swinging and start looking for something else?

Yea but when your in a relationship you see every single person flirting and mixing it up and wish you could do the same lol

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I kinda feel the same but then every time I meet someone and think ye go for it they very soon turn out to be nut jobs. I've got to the point I no longer trust my own judgment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought i wanted something more.. then gave it up as it made me realise how full of anxiety i am

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I thought i wanted something more.. then gave it up as it made me realise how full of anxiety i am

Have you ended the 'seeing someone'?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm considering it and returning to celibacy. It's simpler.

I'm celibate now!

It sucks!

But yes it's simple- is that the same as BORING!

I need hobbies and local friends to make celibacy work

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I thought i wanted something more.. then gave it up as it made me realise how full of anxiety i am

Awww thought you was seeing somebody. Sorry to hear your not

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"and tired of having to do everything by myself!

Don't get me wrong - I'm OK about being single most of the time.

But then the weekend comes and I see everyone out with their partners having fun and I feel sad

Time to stop swinging and start looking for something else?

Maryfuckingpoppins if that what you need to do, you go do it.

Best of luck in finding what your looking for. X

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I've got to the point that the idea of having a partner brings me out in cold sweat. Never again.

NSA sex, however....

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I'm considering it and returning to celibacy. It's simpler.

I'm celibate now!

It sucks!

But yes it's simple- is that the same as BORING!

I need hobbies and local friends to make celibacy work

I didn't find celibacy boring.

I have very little sex now (see the 'how many times...' thread

) and a little can be worse than none at all, for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and tired of having to do everything by myself!

Don't get me wrong - I'm OK about being single most of the time.

But then the weekend comes and I see everyone out with their partners having fun and I feel sad

Time to stop swinging and start looking for something else?

I would suggest not mentioning swinging when on vanilla dates. Vanilla people tend to look down on swingers

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"and tired of having to do everything by myself!

Don't get me wrong - I'm OK about being single most of the time.

But then the weekend comes and I see everyone out with their partners having fun and I feel sad

Time to stop swinging and start looking for something else?

I would suggest not mentioning swinging when on vanilla dates. Vanilla people tend to look down on swingers

A male friend advised me to be outright dishonest about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I thought i wanted something more.. then gave it up as it made me realise how full of anxiety i am

Have you ended the 'seeing someone'?

yes i called time on it.. he was truly lovely.

right guy just wrong timing i guess.

we still chat though

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I thought i wanted something more.. then gave it up as it made me realise how full of anxiety i am

Have you ended the 'seeing someone'?

yes i called time on it.. he was truly lovely.

right guy just wrong timing i guess.

we still chat though "

I hope you find the right time... although I wonder if there ever is a right time? The most romantic, and very successful, relationship I know describe that they just took a risk on each other. 25 years later they're still together and taking a risk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try pushing a baby buggy down the high street. Every fucker coming towards you is a sickenly happy couple with their baby.

Bit like you buy a yellow mini and every other car is also a yellow mini.

It's all relative. Everyone else's life sucks too. Just not necessarily visually the same as yours.

Did that help? Make sense? Oh fuck; rambling again

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

Mmmm!I have a couple of local friends on Fab, where there has been no sex or plans but remain friends and lend an ear when needed or meet for coffee...

Some folk may find it controversial, but I believe true swingers, see it as a swinging community which involves friendship, trust and respect....If you cannot at times 'just be a good friend to someone,' then it is sex site...

I hope some good friends on site, gather around you OP x

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By *rs DCouple
over a year ago

far

Op your very hot and sexy,if u want a fella go get one, if you want him to swing with u go for that to xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"and tired of having to do everything by myself!

Don't get me wrong - I'm OK about being single most of the time.

But then the weekend comes and I see everyone out with their partners having fun and I feel sad

Time to stop swinging and start looking for something else?

I would suggest not mentioning swinging when on vanilla dates. Vanilla people tend to look down on swingers

Yes it's difficult!

I actually have no idea how to meet men in real life!

I'm at the age where I feel ignored - I'm just average looking and a bit chubby

I rarely go out and I work in a mainly female environment!

I'm on POF but that's like a full time job

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I actually have no idea how to meet men in real life!

I'm at the age where I feel ignored - I'm just average looking and a bit chubby

I rarely go out and I work in a mainly female environment!

I'm on POF but that's like a full time job

Have you looked at Meet Up? I met some people through that, although not for sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I thought i wanted something more.. then gave it up as it made me realise how full of anxiety i am

Have you ended the 'seeing someone'?

yes i called time on it.. he was truly lovely.

right guy just wrong timing i guess.

we still chat though

he was staying with his mum after his ex kept their flat on.. and i wasnt prepared to allow him into my home so soon..

he wasnt happy with pubs etc for 'dates' and i wasnt happy to invite him into 'my space'

i like mutual territory... then once im sure on someone then bring them into my world... he prefers it the other way around.

perhaps im odd

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I thought i wanted something more.. then gave it up as it made me realise how full of anxiety i am

Have you ended the 'seeing someone'?

yes i called time on it.. he was truly lovely.

right guy just wrong timing i guess.

we still chat though "

That's a shame but at least your still friends so who knows what might happen. Good luck sweet x

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I thought i wanted something more.. then gave it up as it made me realise how full of anxiety i am

Have you ended the 'seeing someone'?

yes i called time on it.. he was truly lovely.

right guy just wrong timing i guess.

we still chat though

he was staying with his mum after his ex kept their flat on.. and i wasnt prepared to allow him into my home so soon..

he wasnt happy with pubs etc for 'dates' and i wasnt happy to invite him into 'my space'

i like mutual territory... then once im sure on someone then bring them into my world... he prefers it the other way around.

perhaps im odd

Not odd. You two weren't compatible on this and neither would compromise. It's better to know that early on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I actually have no idea how to meet men in real life!

I'm at the age where I feel ignored - I'm just average looking and a bit chubby

I rarely go out and I work in a mainly female environment!

I'm on POF but that's like a full time job

Have you looked at Meet Up? I met some people through that, although not for sex

I think Meet Up is a good option, a no pressure way to meet others...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not odd. You two weren't compatible on this and neither would compromise. It's better to know that early on.

Think thats one thing ive learnt about myself, be confident in myself not to be in a situation i am not comfortable with. I dont need to bend over backwards just to please someone.

There was no major pressure but i appreciate he has his preferences and i know my own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and tired of having to do everything by myself!

Don't get me wrong - I'm OK about being single most of the time.

But then the weekend comes and I see everyone out with their partners having fun and I feel sad

Time to stop swinging and start looking for something else?

I would suggest not mentioning swinging when on vanilla dates. Vanilla people tend to look down on swingers

Yes it's difficult!

I actually have no idea how to meet men in real life!

I'm at the age where I feel ignored - I'm just average looking and a bit chubby

I rarely go out and I work in a mainly female environment!

I'm on POF but that's like a full time job

All I can suggest is go out with everyone that asks you out for a date. Even if it's for just a drink. You never know , you might find a diamond in the ruff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you looking to still swing? There was a post I saw earlier by a guy that clearly wanted a relationship with another swinger, so there are still options here, if that's what you're looking for..

Otherwise, I agree, you need to get a hobby/interest and meet some like minded people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been happily divorced for 4 years now. Second marriage. Every now and then yeah I think the same, then I remember how much happier I am now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and tired of having to do everything by myself!

Don't get me wrong - I'm OK about being single most of the time.

But then the weekend comes and I see everyone out with their partners having fun and I feel sad

Time to stop swinging and start looking for something else?

Completely understand where you are coming from

For me, I wonder if it's just the time

Of year making me feel this way. Seeing couples loved up and enjoying Christmas nights out and I'm here, with a cat on my lap, drinking Baileys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not single but still end up doing most things on my own. The grass isn't always greener.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This time of year isn't great for a lot of people in a lot of situations. Whatever you feel is missing in your life will be all over the place all of a sudden.

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By *un4allxMan
over a year ago

Arkley

"I've got to the point that the idea of having a partner brings me out in cold sweat. Never again.

NSA sex, however....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've got to the point that the idea of having a partner brings me out in cold sweat. Never again.

NSA sex, however....

Total opposite here...

Although there's no one on either horiin anyway.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"This time of year isn't great for a lot of people in a lot of situations. Whatever you feel is missing in your life will be all over the place all of a sudden. "

I think this has a lot of truth to it. I'm spending my Xmas with family and would give good money to be having it on my own. Three days with my Mum *shudder*

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It is a shit time of year to be alone - but to be honest I've been feeling like this for a while now.

I think the meet up idea could work - I just want to have a few more options than just a fuck!

I know it seems like I'm on the wrong site lol!

But I want kinky fuckery as well!

I know ....

Me me me

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

"This time of year isn't great for a lot of people in a lot of situations. Whatever you feel is missing in your life will be all over the place all of a sudden.

I think this has a lot of truth to it. I'm spending my Xmas with family and would give good money to be having it on my own. Three days with my Mum *shudder*

The worst scenario's....are when the mother/daughter....have similar personalities... so much love... and so much ;run for cover!'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes i have good days and bad days .miss haveing someone to share things with .

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"and tired of having to do everything by myself!

Don't get me wrong - I'm OK about being single most of the time.

But then the weekend comes and I see everyone out with their partners having fun and I feel sad

Time to stop swinging and start looking for something else?

Completely understand where you are coming from

For me, I wonder if it's just the time

Of year making me feel this way. Seeing couples loved up and enjoying Christmas nights out and I'm here, with a cat on my lap, drinking Baileys "

That was me last night

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By *erdita Von TeaseWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

"and tired of having to do everything by myself!

Don't get me wrong - I'm OK about being single most of the time.

But then the weekend comes and I see everyone out with their partners having fun and I feel sad

Time to stop swinging and start looking for something else?

Feeling exactly the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being single only bothers me when I can't open those bloody jars

or a big hairy spider (yes the small ones are big) appears; other than that I'm quite happy being single.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"I'm not single but still end up doing most things on my own. The grass isn't always greener."

I'm not single but I'm alone every weekend whilst my fella spends his time with his ex at their house so he can see his kid

there's loads I want to do, but I always feel like I would rather do it with someone rather than alone

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'm even more glad of being single at the weekend. My own plans, rules and full relaxation. Fk.the Stepford wives charades

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Christmas a time when people gather together and paradoxically feel alone.. OP you aren't alone

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