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By *ntellectualBBC OP   Man
over a year ago

sacramento

I squeeze into the traditional great catch of a guy role by default. When things get intimate I have always been cast into the unforgettable sexual experience a woman would generally be considered crazy to share.

So what am I to do when I want to share and be shared? Do I have the misfortune of simply being stuck around conservative Americans who demonize that thought of openly sharing sex, or am I simply ignorant of the words to say or methods to use in my relationships? I have kept the sexual juggernaut in me covered, and I now can no longer bare to remain tame. What is one to do?

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Shoulda kept to the first version, made more sense.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Honest conversations and respecting what the other person wants.

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

Stay single until you find someone you can have that conversation with and she wants the same

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By *ntellectualBBC OP   Man
over a year ago

sacramento

I don't know if I've come across a swinger in all 33 years of my life. Worse, I'm not even sure how best to investigate someone's preferences in that subject. Is it a first date conversational ice breaker?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I don't know if I've come across a swinger in all 33 years of my life. Worse, I'm not even sure how best to investigate someone's preferences in that subject. Is it a first date conversational ice breaker?

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I wouldn't lead with it on a first date. Perhaps wait until you know you are sexually and emotionally compatible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I squeeze into the traditional great catch of a guy role by default. When things get intimate I have always been cast into the unforgettable sexual experience a woman would generally be considered crazy to share.

So what am I to do when I want to share and be shared? Do I have the misfortune of simply being stuck around conservative Americans who demonize that thought of openly sharing sex, or am I simply ignorant of the words to say or methods to use in my relationships? I have kept the sexual juggernaut in me covered, and I now can no longer bare to remain tame. What is one to do?"
I'm glad I read this when I have had a few

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gotta love a surfa cali dude.

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By *ntellectualBBC OP   Man
over a year ago

sacramento

So over breakfast after a night marathon sex, I should just ask if she's interested in having sex in front of or with other people? lol. There are not many women interested in dealing with my size, and the few size queens I do come across are normally focused on locking me down. It's a frustrating predicament.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So over breakfast after a night marathon sex, I should just ask if she's interested in having sex in front of or with other people? lol. There are not many women interested in dealing with my size, and the few size queens I do come across are normally focused on locking me down. It's a frustrating predicament."
I don't normally do this but typical septic! Full of himself, yes you're a fairly well built guy, but there's many better on here, but besides that let's just remember personality guys a long way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't matter how big the dick is, if the dick its attached to is a bigger dick!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It doesn't matter how big the dick is, if the dick its attached to is a bigger dick!"

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By *ntellectualBBC OP   Man
over a year ago

sacramento

I think you are reading this wrong. This is a call for help and understanding. I have not met anyone on this site. All my sexual encounters have been with women who began as friends or those I met from other dating sites. Although I appreciate the body compliment, I am not comparing myself to other men. I am just explaining my situation and experiences.

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By *ntellectualBBC OP   Man
over a year ago

sacramento

Odd how wanting to be completely open with someone makes me a dick...

I thought this was a site full of like minded people, I was hoping to figure out how to become part of such a free and accepting community. But perhaps I erred in my judgment.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I don't know if I've come across a swinger in all 33 years of my life. Worse, I'm not even sure how best to investigate someone's preferences in that subject. Is it a first date conversational ice breaker?

"

I've come to the conclusion that open discussion between people from day one coupled with compromise is the best way to find out if you're going to be compatible long term. It's not a popular opinion but I think much time is wasted and many hearts broken because of mismatched expectations. The problem is that lots of people prefer to hope that because they feel strongly for each other they are both going to want the same things and it very often turns out to be untrue.

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By *ntellectualBBC OP   Man
over a year ago

sacramento


"I don't know if I've come across a swinger in all 33 years of my life. Worse, I'm not even sure how best to investigate someone's preferences in that subject. Is it a first date conversational ice breaker?

I've come to the conclusion that open discussion between people from day one coupled with compromise is the best way to find out if you're going to be compatible long term. It's not a popular opinion but I think much time is wasted and many hearts broken because of mismatched expectations. The problem is that lots of people prefer to hope that because they feel strongly for each other they are both going to want the same things and it very often turns out to be untrue."

Marvelous response! You are speaking to the heart of the matter. Thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know if I've come across a swinger in all 33 years of my life. Worse, I'm not even sure how best to investigate someone's preferences in that subject. Is it a first date conversational ice breaker?

I've come to the conclusion that open discussion between people from day one coupled with compromise is the best way to find out if you're going to be compatible long term. It's not a popular opinion but I think much time is wasted and many hearts broken because of mismatched expectations. The problem is that lots of people prefer to hope that because they feel strongly for each other they are both going to want the same things and it very often turns out to be untrue.

Marvelous response! You are speaking to the heart of the matter. Thank you! "

She/he is definitely the voice of the reason!

You definitely should, as we say in my country, put all your cards on the table, given the fact it is becoming serious with the person and you'd like to go further of course.

First she would realise you are genuine and honest with her, then she could take a decision for herself, you aren't imposing something onto her but giving her the choice to make the choice, she would thank you later.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I know where you live and there are lots of opportunities nearby for you to be more yourself around others who have a similar mindset.

Your post covers 3 or 4 things. Your conformity under pressure. Feeling right to be yourself. Getting the sex you desire. And how to secure a long term partner where your relationship includes swinging.

Keep life simple and focus on your challenges individually. Walk before running. Take single life first.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I don't know if I've come across a swinger in all 33 years of my life. Worse, I'm not even sure how best to investigate someone's preferences in that subject. Is it a first date conversational ice breaker?

I've come to the conclusion that open discussion between people from day one coupled with compromise is the best way to find out if you're going to be compatible long term. It's not a popular opinion but I think much time is wasted and many hearts broken because of mismatched expectations. The problem is that lots of people prefer to hope that because they feel strongly for each other they are both going to want the same things and it very often turns out to be untrue.

Marvelous response! You are speaking to the heart of the matter. Thank you!

She/he is definitely the voice of the reason!

You definitely should, as we say in my country, put all your cards on the table, given the fact it is becoming serious with the person and you'd like to go further of course.

First she would realise you are genuine and honest with her, then she could take a decision for herself, you aren't imposing something onto her but giving her the choice to make the choice, she would thank you later.

"

It's she in the forums Mr F and B. Mr N would not agree that I am the voice of reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op. you sound like a catch.

It Makes me fancy you. Damn. I'm going Unlos if this is what I have to stand up against.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"So over breakfast after a night marathon sex, I should just ask if she's interested in having sex in front of or with other people? lol. There are not many women interested in dealing with my size, and the few size queens I do come across are normally focused on locking me down. It's a frustrating predicament."

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"So over breakfast after a night marathon sex, I should just ask if she's interested in having sex in front of or with other people? lol. There are not many women interested in dealing with my size, and the few size queens I do come across are normally focused on locking me down. It's a frustrating predicament.

"

OP, it's a hard one when you have a giant cock. Sadly it makes women go crazy and want all sorts of things from you that you can't offer - your giant cock deserves to plough all the fannies. After that night of destroying her with your large appendage, you should just explain it's too good a thing to not share.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I don't know if I've come across a swinger in all 33 years of my life. Worse, I'm not even sure how best to investigate someone's preferences in that subject. Is it a first date conversational ice breaker?

I've come to the conclusion that open discussion between people from day one coupled with compromise is the best way to find out if you're going to be compatible long term. It's not a popular opinion but I think much time is wasted and many hearts broken because of mismatched expectations. The problem is that lots of people prefer to hope that because they feel strongly for each other they are both going to want the same things and it very often turns out to be untrue.

Marvelous response! You are speaking to the heart of the matter. Thank you!

She/he is definitely the voice of the reason!

You definitely should, as we say in my country, put all your cards on the table, given the fact it is becoming serious with the person and you'd like to go further of course.

First she would realise you are genuine and honest with her, then she could take a decision for herself, you aren't imposing something onto her but giving her the choice to make the choice, she would thank you later.

It's she in the forums Mr F and B. Mr N would not agree that I am the voice of reason "

You are the voice of reason. Actually it's a tricky one for me as well. I understand it's best to be open from the start,but when I have it's all they have focused on rather than getting to know me properly and at the end of the day I don't actually know how I would feel about seeing someone I cared for with someone else. Would feelings of jealousy get in the way?! so it's all hyperthetical really. Anyway I've been single for so long now it's not really an issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP: It's not the call for advice that's ruffled feathers - it's the grandstanding about how tremendously good at sex you are and how all the ladies want to keep you for their very own. While I don't doubt the truth of it for even a second, a pinch of humility really does go a long way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" OP, it's a hard one when you have a giant cock. Sadly it makes women go crazy and want all sorts of things from you that you can't offer - your giant cock deserves to plough all the fannies. After that night of destroying her with your large appendage, you should just explain it's too good a thing to not share. "

Actually, I think Meli put it better than I did...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know if I've come across a swinger in all 33 years of my life. Worse, I'm not even sure how best to investigate someone's preferences in that subject. Is it a first date conversational ice breaker?

I've come to the conclusion that open discussion between people from day one coupled with compromise is the best way to find out if you're going to be compatible long term. It's not a popular opinion but I think much time is wasted and many hearts broken because of mismatched expectations. The problem is that lots of people prefer to hope that because they feel strongly for each other they are both going to want the same things and it very often turns out to be untrue.

Marvelous response! You are speaking to the heart of the matter. Thank you!

She/he is definitely the voice of the reason!

You definitely should, as we say in my country, put all your cards on the table, given the fact it is becoming serious with the person and you'd like to go further of course.

First she would realise you are genuine and honest with her, then she could take a decision for herself, you aren't imposing something onto her but giving her the choice to make the choice, she would thank you later.

It's she in the forums Mr F and B. Mr N would not agree that I am the voice of reason

You are the voice of reason. Actually it's a tricky one for me as well. I understand it's best to be open from the start,but when I have it's all they have focused on rather than getting to know me properly and at the end of the day I don't actually know how I would feel about seeing someone I cared for with someone else. Would feelings of jealousy get in the way?! so it's all hyperthetical really. Anyway I've been single for so long now it's not really an issue "

She is, isn't she ? I have not found yet one thing sha has written that I disagree with !

But yes I know what you mean, difficult to find someone who has enough reflection to understand any situations he/she doesn't have aware of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I squeeze into the traditional great catch of a guy role by default. "

surely this should be in the oxymoron thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, if you come on here telling people how terrible you are and unwanted you'll get sympathy. They love an underdog and sob story on here...if you're a woman.

Only advice I have is to keep ploughing on, and one day you may find someone who wants the same as you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I squeeze into the traditional great catch of a guy role by default.

surely this should be in the oxymoron thread "

Why? He's speaking from experience. Women want to keep him to themselves.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I don't know if I've come across a swinger in all 33 years of my life. Worse, I'm not even sure how best to investigate someone's preferences in that subject. Is it a first date conversational ice breaker?

I've come to the conclusion that open discussion between people from day one coupled with compromise is the best way to find out if you're going to be compatible long term. It's not a popular opinion but I think much time is wasted and many hearts broken because of mismatched expectations. The problem is that lots of people prefer to hope that because they feel strongly for each other they are both going to want the same things and it very often turns out to be untrue.

Marvelous response! You are speaking to the heart of the matter. Thank you!

She/he is definitely the voice of the reason!

You definitely should, as we say in my country, put all your cards on the table, given the fact it is becoming serious with the person and you'd like to go further of course.

First she would realise you are genuine and honest with her, then she could take a decision for herself, you aren't imposing something onto her but giving her the choice to make the choice, she would thank you later.

It's she in the forums Mr F and B. Mr N would not agree that I am the voice of reason

You are the voice of reason. Actually it's a tricky one for me as well. I understand it's best to be open from the start,but when I have it's all they have focused on rather than getting to know me properly and at the end of the day I don't actually know how I would feel about seeing someone I cared for with someone else. Would feelings of jealousy get in the way?! so it's all hyperthetical really. Anyway I've been single for so long now it's not really an issue

She is, isn't she ? I have not found yet one thing sha has written that I disagree with !

But yes I know what you mean, difficult to find someone who has enough reflection to understand any situations he/she doesn't have aware of. "

She is,I've already told her I need to be more like her. I think if she told me off I'd feel very ashamed of myself ,whilst others can just f#ck off

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


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She is, isn't she ? I have not found yet one thing sha has written that I disagree with !

"

The sky is orange.

You're welcome

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I don't know if I've come across a swinger in all 33 years of my life. Worse, I'm not even sure how best to investigate someone's preferences in that subject. Is it a first date conversational ice breaker?

I've come to the conclusion that open discussion between people from day one coupled with compromise is the best way to find out if you're going to be compatible long term. It's not a popular opinion but I think much time is wasted and many hearts broken because of mismatched expectations. The problem is that lots of people prefer to hope that because they feel strongly for each other they are both going to want the same things and it very often turns out to be untrue.

Marvelous response! You are speaking to the heart of the matter. Thank you!

She/he is definitely the voice of the reason!

You definitely should, as we say in my country, put all your cards on the table, given the fact it is becoming serious with the person and you'd like to go further of course.

First she would realise you are genuine and honest with her, then she could take a decision for herself, you aren't imposing something onto her but giving her the choice to make the choice, she would thank you later.

It's she in the forums Mr F and B. Mr N would not agree that I am the voice of reason

You are the voice of reason. Actually it's a tricky one for me as well. I understand it's best to be open from the start,but when I have it's all they have focused on rather than getting to know me properly and at the end of the day I don't actually know how I would feel about seeing someone I cared for with someone else. Would feelings of jealousy get in the way?! so it's all hyperthetical really. Anyway I've been single for so long now it's not really an issue "

It only works if both people feel cards on the table is the right approach I guess. Your other question is unanswerable until you're faced with it but that's where it's so important to have thrashed it all out first I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So over breakfast after a night marathon sex, I should just ask if she's interested in having sex in front of or with other people? lol. There are not many women interested in dealing with my size, and the few size queens I do come across are normally focused on locking me down. It's a frustrating predicament.

OP, it's a hard one when you have a giant cock. Sadly it makes women go crazy and want all sorts of things from you that you can't offer - your giant cock deserves to plough all the fannies. After that night of destroying her with your large appendage, you should just explain it's too good a thing to not share. "

First world problems eh?

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By *ntellectualBBC OP   Man
over a year ago

sacramento


"So over breakfast after a night marathon sex, I should just ask if she's interested in having sex in front of or with other people? lol. There are not many women interested in dealing with my size, and the few size queens I do come across are normally focused on locking me down. It's a frustrating predicament.

OP, it's a hard one when you have a giant cock. Sadly it makes women go crazy and want all sorts of things from you that you can't offer - your giant cock deserves to plough all the fannies. After that night of destroying her with your large appendage, you should just explain it's too good a thing to not share. "

Lol. Love your point of view and humorous take. Perhaps using humor to make the suggestion may be the method I've sought. Well done!

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By *ntellectualBBC OP   Man
over a year ago

sacramento


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She is, isn't she ? I have not found yet one thing sha has written that I disagree with !

The sky is orange.

You're welcome "

I absolutely love your relationship. The goal is to be completely free with someone. And I suppose not exposing all of me is rather deceptive. However in my lineup of work the view of my sex life could be ruinous which is the first reason I maintain the sort of discretion which approaches a double life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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However in my lineup of work the view of my sex life could be ruinous which is the first reason I maintain the sort of discretion which approaches a double life."

The sort of discretion? Might be worth removing your highly identifiable face pics from your public pics then.

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By *ntellectualBBC OP   Man
over a year ago

sacramento


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However in my lineup of work the view of my sex life could be ruinous which is the first reason I maintain the sort of discretion which approaches a double life.

The sort of discretion? Might be worth removing your highly identifiable face pics from your public pics then. "

This site is not that popular here, and are the people I deal with are not technologically inclined. It's my local perception that is of concern.

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