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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Can you tell if someone fancies you?

I need a giant neon sign with a big arrow pointing at the person before I know.

I recently found out that someone thought we were flirting with each other for 6 years and he was waiting for me to give him the go ahead. I thought we were just chatting.

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By *aughtySxTV/TS
over a year ago

Wigan Bolton North West

People need to be as open as they are on here I'd much rather someone tell me they wanna fuck my brains out than try small talk and flirting

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"People need to be as open as they are on here I'd much rather someone tell me they wanna fuck my brains out than try small talk and flirting "

It makes things simpler but perhaps loses some of the wooing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ha ha im a lot like that i am shit at reading signs always passes me by i think i know but mostly deny it in my head like as if ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can you tell if someone fancies you?

I need a giant neon sign with a big arrow pointing at the person before I know.

I recently found out that someone thought we were flirting with each other for 6 years and he was waiting for me to give him the go ahead. I thought we were just chatting. "

I think that says more about his flirting techniques than yours tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a clue usually. I assume no one fancies me so I completely miss out unless told directly

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Can you tell if someone fancies you?

I need a giant neon sign with a big arrow pointing at the person before I know.

I recently found out that someone thought we were flirting with each other for 6 years and he was waiting for me to give him the go ahead. I thought we were just chatting.

I think that says more about his flirting techniques than yours tbh "

Probably a bit of both. I am not the sharpest knife in the rack on these things.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I can't unless they say. I tend to make it fairly obvious when I do but unless they go with a clear yes, I assume there's no interest on their part and they are politely entertaining my awful flirting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a pretty good antenna, but try to avoid those situations as much as possible

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Not a clue usually. I assume no one fancies me so I completely miss out unless told directly"

This I understand.

We'll need to enroll on a course or something.

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I can't unless they say. I tend to make it fairly obvious when I do but unless they go with a clear yes, I assume there's no interest on their part and they are politely entertaining my awful flirting."

You've got time to hone this skill... I'm the old dog.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP i'm the same a bit slow at times to suss it out, so take it as we're just chatty happy people and not got sex on the brain 24/7.

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I have a pretty good antenna, but try to avoid those situations as much as possible "

You avoid flirting or being flirted with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

6 years!?! What an anti climax lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blatantly subtle. But more realistically I am probably terrible at noticing and terrible at making it known. Makes things interesting though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a pretty good antenna, but try to avoid those situations as much as possible

You avoid flirting or being flirted with?

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Both, in real life. I get in too much trouble

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"OP i'm the same a bit slow at times to suss it out, so take it as we're just chatty happy people and not got sex on the brain 24/7. "

Perhaps we ought to have more sex on the brain?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can you tell if someone fancies you?

I need a giant neon sign with a big arrow pointing at the person before I know.

I recently found out that someone thought we were flirting with each other for 6 years and he was waiting for me to give him the go ahead. I thought we were just chatting. "

Same here? I just never see it until they're sat on my face!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not a clue usually. I assume no one fancies me so I completely miss out unless told directly

This I understand.

We'll need to enroll on a course or something. "

I can see that being excruciatingly cringeworthy

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"6 years!?! What an anti climax lol. "

Yep, no orgasms at all.

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Blatantly subtle. But more realistically I am probably terrible at noticing and terrible at making it known. Makes things interesting though. "

How do you get to interesting from that position? I would love to know.

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo


"Can you tell if someone fancies you?

I need a giant neon sign with a big arrow pointing at the person before I know.

I recently found out that someone thought we were flirting with each other for 6 years and he was waiting for me to give him the go ahead. I thought we were just chatting. "

Same here .... I'm almost incapable of telling when someone finds me attractive. I usually think they're being 'polite', 'kind' or on a bet

Think it's because I have such little self confidence - even when I think there *might* be an interest, I'll talk myself out of it rather than go with the flow and take the conversation in a more flirty direction. So, they probably think *I'm* not interested and then the whole thing fizzles out anyway. God, I could weep when I recall some of the lost 'opportunities' I only recognised literally years later .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It took me ages to tell the difference between being polite at 'that look' - it did come down to the confidence on my part too in realising they might like me back.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I always assume that flirting means nothing.

Mr N assures me that I'm completely oblivious to men fancying me sometimes

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Not a clue usually. I assume no one fancies me so I completely miss out unless told directly

This I understand.

We'll need to enroll on a course or something.

I can see that being excruciatingly cringeworthy "

We practice on each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely no way on gods green earth if I had a gun to my head could I tell if someone fancied me or if they're sending me signals

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any hints will practically have to run up and kick me in the bollocks for me to even notice, let alone act on, them.

It's a curse.

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Can you tell if someone fancies you?

I need a giant neon sign with a big arrow pointing at the person before I know.

I recently found out that someone thought we were flirting with each other for 6 years and he was waiting for me to give him the go ahead. I thought we were just chatting.

Same here .... I'm almost incapable of telling when someone finds me attractive. I usually think they're being 'polite', 'kind' or on a bet

Think it's because I have such little self confidence - even when I think there *might* be an interest, I'll talk myself out of it rather than go with the flow and take the conversation in a more flirty direction. So, they probably think *I'm* not interested and then the whole thing fizzles out anyway. God, I could weep when I recall some of the lost 'opportunities' I only recognised literally years later .....

"

If you can recognise it now do you think you can use that knowledge to recognise it when it comes to you again?

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"It took me ages to tell the difference between being polite at 'that look' - it did come down to the confidence on my part too in realising they might like me back."

There is a fine line to tread, I'm sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can you tell if someone fancies you?

I need a giant neon sign with a big arrow pointing at the person before I know.

I recently found out that someone thought we were flirting with each other for 6 years and he was waiting for me to give him the go ahead. I thought we were just chatting. "

you don't say whether it was on here or not..

as I think it becomes more obvious if you are at least in the same room as the other person but online you really haven't got a chance unless they actually tell you

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I always assume that flirting means nothing.

Mr N assures me that I'm completely oblivious to men fancying me sometimes "

Does Mr N let you know when you should grab the opportunity?

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Absolutely no way on gods green earth if I had a gun to my head could I tell if someone fancied me or if they're sending me signals"

We're a woeful lot...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not a clue usually. I assume no one fancies me so I completely miss out unless told directly

This I understand.

We'll need to enroll on a course or something.

I can see that being excruciatingly cringeworthy

We practice on each other.

"

That sounds far less excruciating and far more interesting

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I can't unless they say. I tend to make it fairly obvious when I do but unless they go with a clear yes, I assume there's no interest on their part and they are politely entertaining my awful flirting.

You've got time to hone this skill... I'm the old dog.

"

I'm not that young and you're not old. I think it's not so much to do with age and time you've had on this planet but an ability to read other people and all their nuances well without allowing your own self doubt and insecurities be projected on to the situation. Youngish and older both fail and succeed at it.

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Can you tell if someone fancies you?

I need a giant neon sign with a big arrow pointing at the person before I know.

I recently found out that someone thought we were flirting with each other for 6 years and he was waiting for me to give him the go ahead. I thought we were just chatting.

you don't say whether it was on here or not..

as I think it becomes more obvious if you are at least in the same room as the other person but online you really haven't got a chance unless they actually tell you "

Not on here. Someone I have known for over 20 years. The ship has sailed but the conversation got me thinking.

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo


"Can you tell if someone fancies you?

I need a giant neon sign with a big arrow pointing at the person before I know.

I recently found out that someone thought we were flirting with each other for 6 years and he was waiting for me to give him the go ahead. I thought we were just chatting.

Same here .... I'm almost incapable of telling when someone finds me attractive. I usually think they're being 'polite', 'kind' or on a bet

Think it's because I have such little self confidence - even when I think there *might* be an interest, I'll talk myself out of it rather than go with the flow and take the conversation in a more flirty direction. So, they probably think *I'm* not interested and then the whole thing fizzles out anyway. God, I could weep when I recall some of the lost 'opportunities' I only recognised literally years later .....

If you can recognise it now do you think you can use that knowledge to recognise it when it comes to you again?

"

Sadly not .... when in a potential situation like that, my lack of self confidence overrides all previously held logic. There's one voice telling me to be optimistic, but the other pessimistic one almost always wins out - unless the other party is unmistakably blatant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can you tell if someone fancies you?

I need a giant neon sign with a big arrow pointing at the person before I know.

I recently found out that someone thought we were flirting with each other for 6 years and he was waiting for me to give him the go ahead. I thought we were just chatting.

you don't say whether it was on here or not..

as I think it becomes more obvious if you are at least in the same room as the other person but online you really haven't got a chance unless they actually tell you "

I think you can tell online too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to really spell it out for me to realise it. Even then sometimes I'm just like nah it's banter and forget about it

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I can't unless they say. I tend to make it fairly obvious when I do but unless they go with a clear yes, I assume there's no interest on their part and they are politely entertaining my awful flirting.

You've got time to hone this skill... I'm the old dog.

I'm not that young and you're not old. I think it's not so much to do with age and time you've had on this planet but an ability to read other people and all their nuances well without allowing your own self doubt and insecurities be projected on to the situation. Youngish and older both fail and succeed at it."

I 'read' people all the time for other situations, just never for me. I think my celibate years meant I lost the skill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In person I find that I flirt with most so I wouldn't have a clue if they fancied me if they flirted back because it's just my natural way. On here it's easy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have to really spell it out for me to realise it. Even then sometimes I'm just like nah it's banter and forget about it "

What if you assumed it wasn't just banter and gently tested it out?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With the above in mind then, how do you react if you're getting along with someone and they tell you they fancy you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"God, I could weep when I recall some of the lost 'opportunities' I only recognised literally years later .....

"

Same here. It usually takes me 5+ years to realize someone was flirting with me

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I've lost count of the number of women who have said to me "I really fancied you when I was single"*

I have no antenna for people's perception of me whatsoever. In some respects, that might be useful!

*Actually I can -three.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't unless they say. I tend to make it fairly obvious when I do but unless they go with a clear yes, I assume there's no interest on their part and they are politely entertaining my awful flirting.

You've got time to hone this skill... I'm the old dog.

I'm not that young and you're not old. I think it's not so much to do with age and time you've had on this planet but an ability to read other people and all their nuances well without allowing your own self doubt and insecurities be projected on to the situation. Youngish and older both fail and succeed at it.

I 'read' people all the time for other situations, just never for me. I think my celibate years meant I lost the skill.

"

Or your defences are just preventing you from opening up to it?

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

Being honest and saying you want to meet and actually arranging a meet rather than keep saying they do and time-wasting, when they have no intention of doing so

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I have radar - I know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With the above in mind then, how do you react if you're getting along with someone and they tell you they fancy you?"

Decide whether you fancy them and act accordingly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely no way on gods green earth if I had a gun to my head could I tell if someone fancied me or if they're sending me signals

We're a woeful lot... "

Just a tad even if they blatantly tell me to my face, I still think they're having a laugh or something

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I always assume that flirting means nothing.

Mr N assures me that I'm completely oblivious to men fancying me sometimes

Does Mr N let you know when you should grab the opportunity?

"

Yep!

I can tell in a social situation because a man's face changes when he's attracted to a woman. What I used to be oblivious to and still am to an extent is the stranger scenario.

Mr N is a bit cheeky and if a guy is staring at me in the street he'll catch their eye and enjoy their embarrassment . I'm quite often oblivious to that type of fancying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With the above in mind then, how do you react if you're getting along with someone and they tell you they fancy you?

Decide whether you fancy them and act accordingly?"

Logic might suggest such a course of action, but given that self-confidence,or rather lack thereof, seems to be a problem, how many understand what 'accordingly' might be?

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"

I 'read' people all the time for other situations, just never for me. I think my celibate years meant I lost the skill.

Or your defences are just preventing you from opening up to it?"

That too.

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I always assume that flirting means nothing.

Mr N assures me that I'm completely oblivious to men fancying me sometimes

Does Mr N let you know when you should grab the opportunity?

Yep!

I can tell in a social situation because a man's face changes when he's attracted to a woman. What I used to be oblivious to and still am to an extent is the stranger scenario.

Mr N is a bit cheeky and if a guy is staring at me in the street he'll catch their eye and enjoy their embarrassment . I'm quite often oblivious to that type of fancying "

I don't think I'm ever aware of that type of fancying except in a club. Even then they have to really be looking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With the above in mind then, how do you react if you're getting along with someone and they tell you they fancy you?

Decide whether you fancy them and act accordingly?

Logic might suggest such a course of action, but given that self-confidence,or rather lack thereof, seems to be a problem, how many understand what 'accordingly' might be?"

Take it gently either way

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"With the above in mind then, how do you react if you're getting along with someone and they tell you they fancy you?

Decide whether you fancy them and act accordingly?

Logic might suggest such a course of action, but given that self-confidence,or rather lack thereof, seems to be a problem, how many understand what 'accordingly' might be?

Take it gently either way "

Keep it coming o YeOlde Sage.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I'll have a neon sign please!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With the above in mind then, how do you react if you're getting along with someone and they tell you they fancy you?

Decide whether you fancy them and act accordingly?

Logic might suggest such a course of action, but given that self-confidence,or rather lack thereof, seems to be a problem, how many understand what 'accordingly' might be?

Take it gently either way "

I like your style, Sir

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I always assume that flirting means nothing.

Mr N assures me that I'm completely oblivious to men fancying me sometimes

Does Mr N let you know when you should grab the opportunity?

Yep!

I can tell in a social situation because a man's face changes when he's attracted to a woman. What I used to be oblivious to and still am to an extent is the stranger scenario.

Mr N is a bit cheeky and if a guy is staring at me in the street he'll catch their eye and enjoy their embarrassment . I'm quite often oblivious to that type of fancying

I don't think I'm ever aware of that type of fancying except in a club. Even then they have to really be looking.

"

Do you assume that men wont fancy you so don't see the signs?

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I'll have a neon sign please! "

How's the head after all that Prosecco? A neon sign might be a bit much until tomorrow.

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"

I can tell in a social situation because a man's face changes when he's attracted to a woman. What I used to be oblivious to and still am to an extent is the stranger scenario.

Mr N is a bit cheeky and if a guy is staring at me in the street he'll catch their eye and enjoy their embarrassment . I'm quite often oblivious to that type of fancying

I don't think I'm ever aware of that type of fancying except in a club. Even then they have to really be looking.

Do you assume that men wont fancy you so don't see the signs? "

I suppose I do. There are usually many more fanciable women nearby.

I seem to get the fancying once people know me... they fancy my brain then but I then don't realise that their liking of my brain now includes my body too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My antennae are related to what I see, hear and feel. Changes in skin tone, pupil dilation, body language, breathing, rate of speech all sorts really, not just the content of what they say.

On here it's in the way they interact and respond. Depth of conversation, type of compliment, interest in you, willingness to disclose....timing of actions. Also a bit of understanding of the games we play when reading more intimately helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't tell. I'm shite at flirting too and if i fancy someone i ignore them and avoid eye contact.

It's a mirracle i ever had a long term relationship.

This is why i like straight talking no nonsense call a spade a spade type of guys. Know where you are with them

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"

I can tell in a social situation because a man's face changes when he's attracted to a woman. What I used to be oblivious to and still am to an extent is the stranger scenario.

Mr N is a bit cheeky and if a guy is staring at me in the street he'll catch their eye and enjoy their embarrassment . I'm quite often oblivious to that type of fancying

I don't think I'm ever aware of that type of fancying except in a club. Even then they have to really be looking.

Do you assume that men wont fancy you so don't see the signs?

I suppose I do. There are usually many more fanciable women nearby.

I seem to get the fancying once people know me... they fancy my brain then but I then don't realise that their liking of my brain now includes my body too.

"

Hmm I think you underestimate your fanciability. I'm an old bird and a bloke fell off his bike recently because he was staring at me so much. Mind you it might have been because he thought I shouldn't have been let out on my own or as Mr N said he wondered what I was doing out with my son...bloody cheek!

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By *icketysplits OP   Woman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"My antennae are related to what I see, hear and feel. Changes in skin tone, pupil dilation, body language, breathing, rate of speech all sorts really, not just the content of what they say.

On here it's in the way they interact and respond. Depth of conversation, type of compliment, interest in you, willingness to disclose....timing of actions. Also a bit of understanding of the games we play when reading more intimately helps."

The Doctor has spoken.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I'll have a neon sign please!

How's the head after all that Prosecco? A neon sign might be a bit much until tomorrow.

"

Better now than it was this morning!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My antennae are related to what I see, hear and feel. Changes in skin tone, pupil dilation, body language, breathing, rate of speech all sorts really, not just the content of what they say.

On here it's in the way they interact and respond. Depth of conversation, type of compliment, interest in you, willingness to disclose....timing of actions. Also a bit of understanding of the games we play when reading more intimately helps.

The Doctor has spoken. "

He's more like a wizard!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My antennae are related to what I see, hear and feel. Changes in skin tone, pupil dilation, body language, breathing, rate of speech all sorts really, not just the content of what they say.

On here it's in the way they interact and respond. Depth of conversation, type of compliment, interest in you, willingness to disclose....timing of actions. Also a bit of understanding of the games we play when reading more intimately helps.

The Doctor has spoken. "

;-) Most of it is unconscious but I do try to unpick it to see if I can understand it better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes yes, sometimes no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My antennae are related to what I see, hear and feel. Changes in skin tone, pupil dilation, body language, breathing, rate of speech all sorts really, not just the content of what they say.

On here it's in the way they interact and respond. Depth of conversation, type of compliment, interest in you, willingness to disclose....timing of actions. Also a bit of understanding of the games we play when reading more intimately helps.

The Doctor has spoken.

He's more like a wizard!"

Pffft a charlatan purveyor of dodgy snake oil

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"On here it's in the way they interact and respond. Depth of conversation, type of compliment, interest in you, willingness to disclose....timing of actions. Also a bit of understanding of the games we play when reading more intimately helps."

I'm not quite sure if this inspired nonsense or inspiring that so much information can come from such minor things. A willingness to disclose what? And what games are played?

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over a year ago


"My antennae are related to what I see, hear and feel. Changes in skin tone, pupil dilation, body language, breathing, rate of speech all sorts really, not just the content of what they say.

On here it's in the way they interact and respond. Depth of conversation, type of compliment, interest in you, willingness to disclose....timing of actions. Also a bit of understanding of the games we play when reading more intimately helps.

The Doctor has spoken.

He's more like a wizard!

Pffft a charlatan purveyor of dodgy snake oil "

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By *eanontiWoman
over a year ago

Limerick


"Can you tell if someone fancies you?

I need a giant neon sign with a big arrow pointing at the person before I know.

I recently found out that someone thought we were flirting with each other for 6 years and he was waiting for me to give him the go ahead. I thought we were just chatting. "

Totally me too never have a clue lol

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over a year ago


"On here it's in the way they interact and respond. Depth of conversation, type of compliment, interest in you, willingness to disclose....timing of actions. Also a bit of understanding of the games we play when reading more intimately helps.

I'm not quite sure if this inspired nonsense or inspiring that so much information can come from such minor things. A willingness to disclose what? And what games are played?

"

As we develop rapport with someone our willingness to disclose our stories increases- as trust develops. The sharing of emotionally laden stories increases intimacy.......

There are a number of subtle games we play with each other. As intimacy increases the games disappear and authentic conversation replaces it.

One game is what I call push-pull. Draw the other person in deeper then pull away e.g., make prolonged eye contact, then pull away. Then when they think you're not looking, look again is one of the simplest forms.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Dunno about neon signs, usually takes a whack around the head with a sledgehammer to make me realise anyone is in the slightest bit interested in me, and then a second whack on the other side of my head to make me accept they mean it and are not just having a laugh at my expense (that I usually laugh along with).

A couple of recent "I Really Fancy You"/"Who's On Your Hotlist" threads (which I know aren't to be taken too seriously anyway) here have been both a revelation and a good example of just how oblivious I am when I've actually received messages from them and been surprised that people had even noticed me, and then sceptical as to how serious they are.

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over a year ago


"Dunno about neon signs, usually takes a whack around the head with a sledgehammer to make me realise anyone is in the slightest bit interested in me, and then a second whack on the other side of my head to make me accept they mean it and are not just having a laugh at my expense (that I usually laugh along with).

A couple of recent "I Really Fancy You"/"Who's On Your Hotlist" threads (which I know aren't to be taken too seriously anyway) here have been both a revelation and a good example of just how oblivious I am when I've actually received messages from them and been surprised that people had even noticed me, and then sceptical as to how serious they are."

Scepticism on here is healthy, but if you are genuinely interested in the other person, gently testing out how serious they are, is a good way to go....

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Can you tell if someone fancies you?"

Yup.

Easy game to play

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Can you tell if someone fancies you?

Yup.

Easy game to play "

I thought everyone did?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not a clue usually. I assume no one fancies me so I completely miss out unless told directly"

yup im the same.. i just friend zone everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can you tell if someone fancies you?

Yup.

Easy game to play "

Oh I dunno sometimes it's hard

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Can you tell if someone fancies you?

Yup.

Easy game to play

I thought everyone did? "

Fancies me?!

LOL

Nah - some people develop a very quick aversion. N'er mind.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"Can you tell if someone fancies you?

Yup.

Easy game to play

I thought everyone did?

Fancies me?!

LOL

Nah - some people develop a very quick aversion. N'er mind."

How are you doing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People need to be as open as they are on here I'd much rather someone tell me they wanna fuck my brains out than try small talk and flirting "

I'd love to fuck your brains out

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Dunno about neon signs, usually takes a whack around the head with a sledgehammer to make me realise anyone is in the slightest bit interested in me, and then a second whack on the other side of my head to make me accept they mean it and are not just having a laugh at my expense (that I usually laugh along with).

A couple of recent "I Really Fancy You"/"Who's On Your Hotlist" threads (which I know aren't to be taken too seriously anyway) here have been both a revelation and a good example of just how oblivious I am when I've actually received messages from them and been surprised that people had even noticed me, and then sceptical as to how serious they are.

Scepticism on here is healthy, but if you are genuinely interested in the other person, gently testing out how serious they are, is a good way to go...."

Oh I know, and am getting better at it..it's just getting past the increduilty that they could actually be interested in what, in my opinion, is a frankly average, past it, 51 year old that I struggle with at times!!

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over a year ago


"Dunno about neon signs, usually takes a whack around the head with a sledgehammer to make me realise anyone is in the slightest bit interested in me, and then a second whack on the other side of my head to make me accept they mean it and are not just having a laugh at my expense (that I usually laugh along with).

A couple of recent "I Really Fancy You"/"Who's On Your Hotlist" threads (which I know aren't to be taken too seriously anyway) here have been both a revelation and a good example of just how oblivious I am when I've actually received messages from them and been surprised that people had even noticed me, and then sceptical as to how serious they are.

Scepticism on here is healthy, but if you are genuinely interested in the other person, gently testing out how serious they are, is a good way to go....

Oh I know, and am getting better at it..it's just getting past the increduilty that they could actually be interested in what, in my opinion, is a frankly average, past it, 51 year old that I struggle with at times!! "

Oh I dunno. I think I can guess what they might see in you

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Dunno about neon signs, usually takes a whack around the head with a sledgehammer to make me realise anyone is in the slightest bit interested in me, and then a second whack on the other side of my head to make me accept they mean it and are not just having a laugh at my expense (that I usually laugh along with).

A couple of recent "I Really Fancy You"/"Who's On Your Hotlist" threads (which I know aren't to be taken too seriously anyway) here have been both a revelation and a good example of just how oblivious I am when I've actually received messages from them and been surprised that people had even noticed me, and then sceptical as to how serious they are.

Scepticism on here is healthy, but if you are genuinely interested in the other person, gently testing out how serious they are, is a good way to go....

Oh I know, and am getting better at it..it's just getting past the increduilty that they could actually be interested in what, in my opinion, is a frankly average, past it, 51 year old that I struggle with at times!!

Oh I dunno. I think I can guess what they might see in you "

You're way too kind...but I'm totally blind to it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In reality I'm not looking for men to fancy me.

On here it's a rather artificial OTT approach which distorts reality making me feel I'm amazing which is simply not true.

I suppose what I'm trying to say is on the whole I'm a good judge of character, find people fairly easy to read so I think I'd pick up on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm awful at it as well. When I was in secondary school I haven't realised for over a year...my friend finally told me and everything became so obvious

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