FabSwingers.com forum: Fear of the chatrooms!

By *unkymanc OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

So, I've been lucky enough to have a few correspondences with some ladies who absoultely won't go in chat.

My issue is; I don't send or have face pics on here as I'm a dirty cheat and feel weird doing selfies. I generally have my face on cam in chat (also well aware anyone can screen grab).

I understand chat isn't for everyone and can be a daunting, perverted sometimes nasty place, however I've got loads of lovely friends on there and never demand them to cam up, just pop on for a minute and see if I suit their fancy.

I generally get asked for a face pic and responding be saying well I'm on cam right, if you want to see often comes back with a point blank refusal.

Am I being too paraoid? What to do? Skype?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've been in chat rooms before but people mainly see my cock thwrapping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps you have a mild case of Lalophobia.....

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Perhaps you have a mild case of Lalophobia.....

More la-la land phobia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps you have a mild case of Lalophobia.....

More la-la land phobia

Ha.you do make me laugh

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Either attach a face picture to a message and use the option to delete once read or delete it from your gallery and it will disappear their end. Or accept that if both of you are unable or unwilling to agree on something at the start of your communication you're clearly not compatible.

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By *unkymanc OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Either attach a face picture to a message and use the option to delete once read or delete it from your gallery and it will disappear their end. Or accept that if both of you are unable or unwilling to agree on something at the start of your communication you're clearly not compatible."

It's surprising how stubborn people (myself included) can be

It never ends nastily, just in silly stalemate! I may consider private pics.. maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they don't have to go on cam to view you, i'd mention that and see how it goes?

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By *unkymanc OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"they don't have to go on cam to view you, i'd mention that and see how it goes?"

I do, it's just a solid case of 'I don't do chatrooms', dick cams and constant pleading for nipples must have left them traumatised

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"they don't have to go on cam to view you, i'd mention that and see how it goes?"

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"they don't have to go on cam to view you, i'd mention that and see how it goes?

I do, it's just a solid case of 'I don't do chatrooms', dick cams and constant pleading for nipples must have left them traumatised

could be that i suppose, i used to have an aversion to going on cam after a few goes on here (same for going off site onto kik or whatsapp), but eventually i learned that not all guys wanna show you their dick and do just wanna chat.

i don't really have any other advice then, good job others left some.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It's surprising how stubborn people (myself included) can be

It never ends nastily, just in silly stalemate! I may consider private pics.. maybe

Don't sweat the small stuff. It's only sex innit

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I absolutely won't do cams on here, I only access Fab on my mobile. I have never used Skype and will not do so just for someone off here. I don't use messaging apps such as kik or whatsapp. All contact/messages are through the system here and I do require a face pic pretty early on - I want to know who I'm talking to. I will eventually give my number out to selected people on here if we have met a few times and plan on doing so again.

If my way of doing things doesn't suit the other person then I will just go on my merry way and you can do the same. Let's face it, there is hardly a shortage of single men on here so it won't take long to find someone who is happy to communicate in the same way i am.

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By *unkymanc OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"I absolutely won't do cams on here, I only access Fab on my mobile. I have never used Skype and will not do so just for someone off here. I don't use messaging apps such as kik or whatsapp. All contact/messages are through the system here and I do require a face pic pretty early on - I want to know who I'm talking to. I will eventually give my number out to selected people on here if we have met a few times and plan on doing so again.

So true yorkie. The odds do favour the ladys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't go on cam, or Skype, ever. If that loses me meets it's no skin off my nose.

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By *unkymanc OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"I won't go on cam, or Skype, ever. If that loses me meets it's no skin off my nose."

I guess that's my position, butt with face pics and a wee scrape of skin off my nose. (Lovely butt by the way!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried the chat room once. With the cam thing. It was bloody bonkers. Never again. It's a scary place.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"I won't go on cam, or Skype, ever. If that loses me meets it's no skin off my nose."

Same as

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By *unkymanc OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"I tried the chat room once. With the cam thing. It was bloody bonkers. Never again. It's a scary place.

The chat room can be like clubs, loads of guys with their cocks out.

If you have one bad experience in a club it doesn't mean you'll always have one, you just have to get used to the numbers game and stand out I guess. Each to their own though, I'm just curious about people's opinions. Cheers!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own. I shouldn't be here either. I have private pics. Private verifications. I go on cam very very rarely. I like just perving and having a laugh. I hate sending face pics. I do the site supporter thing and delete after seen. I can't meet for personal reasons. I like to get a feeling of 'something!' whilst chatting on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like going on cam,,,elloooooooo

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

I've used chat rooms for years, started way back in the days of o2 chat via wap on my phone. The chat rooms here really aren't much different to chat rooms anywhere else, it's just that here you may see nudity or more. Once you get used to how quick the chat can move it can be lots of fun. Yes there can be a lot of men wanking, doesn't mean you have to watch! Unfortunately though, it does put a lot of people off.

The chat rooms here are like the forums, a great way of meeting people and building up a circle of friends on the scene. Also, like the forums, it's not for everyone. The great thing about fab is that we can all use it in the way that works for us.

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By *unkymanc OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Each to their own. I shouldn't be here either. I have private pics. Private verifications. I go on cam very very rarely. I like just perving and having a laugh. I hate sending face pics. I do the site supporter thing and delete after seen. I can't meet for personal reasons. I like to get a feeling of 'something!' whilst chatting on here. "

You always give me 'something' when we chat diamond!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im thinking that maybe the ladies would want to photo of you so they can remember the conversation and whether they fancied you or not. I have a great memory for faces and usually remember if a guy has chatted briefly to me, even if it was years ago so I can only assume they want a mental record of what you look like. But a bit weird that they wont chat without it. I would opt for adding you onto my hotlist .. im sure to remember you with or without a face pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You always give me 'something' when we chat diamond!

Lol a stiff neck?! Mmmmmm xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im thinking that maybe the ladies would want to photo of you so they can remember the conversation and whether they fancied you or not. I have a great memory for faces and usually remember if a guy has chatted briefly to me, even if it was years ago so I can only assume they want a mental record of what you look like. But a bit weird that they wont chat without it. I would opt for adding you onto my hotlist .. im sure to remember you with or without a face pic

I've got a terrible memory for faces. If I'm going to meet someone I have to look at their photo immediately beforehand or I don't have a hope in hell of recognising them.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

It's ok you don't have to remember my face I am an ugly fucker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got a terrible memory for faces. If I'm going to meet someone I have to look at their photo immediately beforehand or I don't have a hope in hell of recognising them. "

I understand that from both sides. I can tell if I've spoken though to someone previously. Even if it's on another profile of mine or theirs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get your camera out, OP!

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By *unkymanc OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Get your camera out, OP!

You started this!

I'm in chat room 3 for a little while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get your camera out, OP!

You started this!

I'm in chat room 3 for a little while

Enjoy it

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By *unkymanc OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Get your camera out, OP!

You started this!

I'm in chat room 3 for a little while

Enjoy it

I'll try!

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

"I tried the chat room once. With the cam thing. It was bloody bonkers. Never again. It's a scary place.

Ha ha oops! Sorry!

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Munky I have to say that if it weren't for chat I wouldn't know you exist and we certainly wouldn't be meeting

Although may just eat you alive yet

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

"they don't have to go on cam to view you, i'd mention that and see how it goes?

I do, it's just a solid case of 'I don't do chatrooms', dick cams and constant pleading for nipples must have left them traumatised

I don't go in on here because of the experience on another swingers site

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I dont do chat, kik, whataapp or anything else. If someone doesnt send me a picture on here. Fine, i just move on. Im not arsing around for anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely prefer to see the face of who i am chatting to although can't remember their faces after few messages. Always confused which one is which lol

Have you tried blind dates?

might be like role play or something

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By *unkymanc OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"I definitely prefer to see the face of who i am chatting to although can't remember their faces after few messages. Always confused which one is which lol

Have you tried blind dates?

might be like role play or something

I understand woman's reluctance to cam up on chat and the amount of messages they have to sift through. But I still don't get the refusal to go on for a minute just to see the guys face they're potentially interested in. Maybe it does just come down to having a record of them for future reference? Blind date's sound fun...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What i said in the watersports thread was meant to be for here

How i did that i have no idea

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"What i said in the watersports thread was meant to be for here

How i did that i have no idea

I thought it was a new thing pissing on your phone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What i said in the watersports thread was meant to be for here

How i did that i have no idea

I thought it was a new thing pissing on your phone

Nooooo not wrecking my phone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What i said in the watersports thread was meant to be for here

How i did that i have no idea

I thought it was a new thing pissing on your phone

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"What i said in the watersports thread was meant to be for here

How i did that i have no idea

I thought it was a new thing pissing on your phone

Hello stranger xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What i said in the watersports thread was meant to be for here

How i did that i have no idea

I thought it was a new thing pissing on your phone

Hello stranger xx"

Hello stranger

Love your sense of humour lol

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