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Small Talk, can you do it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm officially crap at it. All the Christmas do's I dread all the making small talk with people I barely know. I always seem to end up next to the person who gives one word responses so leaves you nowhere to go with the conversation.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"I'm officially crap at it. All the Christmas do's I dread all the making small talk with people I barely know. I always seem to end up next to the person who gives one word responses so leaves you nowhere to go with the conversation. "

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yea

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Yep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Likewise

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Howdy"

Am stumped after that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can talk a glass eye to sleep and wake it back up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can do it. But I don't like it. I just have a set of stock topics to wheel out for the occasion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Takes a lot of effort. Would rather stand and present in front of 100+ than that sort of thing but I force myself to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

** Scratches head and makes vague grunting noises with a blank expression**

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Yep officially crap at it...whether it be an office function, chatting to somebody's Aunt Nelly at a wedding, or trying to get to know people in a club.

I'm not too bad if the other person takes the lead, but if I'm left to do so, I struggle for something to say (until 30 minutes later when I think of the funniest line ever that would have been perfect for the moment!!)!!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'm quite good at it unless the person I'm talking to offers little response. Then I'd rather go and chat to someone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I absolutely love the challenge of talking to people and getting them to open up, I feel the art of conversation is dying due to social media and I suppose forums too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, just ask people about themselves. You walk away 10 minutes later leaving them with the impression that you were fascinating and SO nice.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm ok with typing text in a chatroom, where everyone has the same voice - your comments are seen by everyone equally.

In person, I'm shy and quietly spoken, so my contributions go un-noticed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm brilliant at it....never a dull moment when I'm around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, just ask people about themselves. You walk away 10 minutes later leaving them with the impression that you were fascinating and SO nice....."

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

The art of small talk is to ask leading questions, that way they do most of the taking and you just interject now and again, they think you are fab after that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can just about do it but I'm pretty sure the person who is talking to me can tell I'm probably a bit bored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm nosey so I just ask loads of questions about them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am awful at it unless it's with people that I know very well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Errrrm. Cold out isn't. Could be worse though. We could be in Russia or somewhere really cold like......like. Do you work in accounts? I'll get me coat.

Yep. Brilliant me.

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By *ornyStew77Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"I'm nosey so I just ask loads of questions about them

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I find this works for me too

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

Small talk, I will unzip...

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham

If spouting endless shite is small talk , I'm an expert ! Although I cannot translate it into typed conversation at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be absolutely pants at small talk. Once I went self employed though I had to overcome it. Since then, I've actually taken a genuine interest in the new people that I meet. Admittedly, some talk twaddle or have vastly over inflated opinions of themselves, but more than most open up and a good evenings conversation is often had

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm officially crap at it. All the Christmas do's I dread all the making small talk with people I barely know. I always seem to end up next to the person who gives one word responses so leaves you nowhere to go with the conversation. "

I'm not great at it. I find it hard to hide when I'm bored and small talk bores me very quickly.

Yet again, I'll be avoiding the work Christmas party this year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just tell them about Fab exploits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never felt the need to do small talk. What is wrong with silence?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually never shut the fuck up.can talk hind legs off donkey. (Is that the saying)

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

I struggle to make conversation with customers at work until a candle or woolly jumper turns up, then I'm just like "oooh that's nice isn't it?" Then they just start telling me their life story... All I do is smile and laugh or aww until they're gone and its all good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Omg I REALLY can't be arsed with small talk!

It's exhausting having to listen to people talk about bollocks you don't care about!

I plan to drink ALL the wine and bore other people or make a scene so I can give them all something to talk about

The work Xmas party is the exception I need to keep my job!

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I find it's easier to make small talk with women.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...

I just drink and then challenge everyone to dance offs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm well known for being able to talk complete shit for hours if needed...however the art of conversation takes 2. I get bored if the other person is monosyllabic...

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"I'm well known for being able to talk complete shit for hours if needed...however the art of conversation takes 2. I get bored if the other person is monosyllabic... "

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm well known for being able to talk complete shit for hours if needed...however the art of conversation takes 2. I get bored if the other person is monosyllabic... "

Why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm well known for being able to talk complete shit for hours if needed...however the art of conversation takes 2. I get bored if the other person is monosyllabic...

Why?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate it. But I can just about muddle through but I always find it a real challenge.

I'm that party guest that people spend two minutes with then they're already scouting the room for an escape route / alternate person to talk to as I'm way too dull and awkward in contrived social situations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate it. But I can just about muddle through but I always find it a real challenge.

I'm that party guest that people spend two minutes with then they're already scouting the room for an escape route / alternate person to talk to as I'm way too dull and awkward in contrived social situations "

Piss off....Mr understated...but has met loads of hotties..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate it. But I can just about muddle through but I always find it a real challenge.

I'm that party guest that people spend two minutes with then they're already scouting the room for an escape route / alternate person to talk to as I'm way too dull and awkward in contrived social situations

Piss off....Mr understated...but has met loads of hotties.. "

honestly in a vanilla social or when I'm away representing the company on a industry conference and the like I have to strain every sinew to muster the courage to leave my room and mingle.

Fab is different. We can talk naughty things and I might get a little peck on the cheek at the end

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Yh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. I'm a total chatterbox anyway.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I'm officially crap at it. All the Christmas do's I dread all the making small talk with people I barely know. I always seem to end up next to the person who gives one word responses so leaves you nowhere to go with the conversation. "

The art is always ask them questions about themselves. Family, children, work, holidays. Most people always like to talk about themselves

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Easily. I could hold a deep n' meaningful with a brick wall, if necessary.

I do prefer to steer clear of small talk and find common ground tho'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This year it's easy, say the code word Brexit, to a group of 3 or more people, withdraw and take bets on when the fight will start

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was told in a very straight forward way by my aunt one Christmas that I'm shit at small talk. I always thought I was good at faking it, but apparently not. And I don't really care anyway - I don't see why we should force meaningless conversations when there's meaningful shit going on in the world that we can talk about instead.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I can do it, but I won't - life is too short for inane drivel!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Small talk? Easy. I can talk.

And talk.

And talk.

To render me speechless is a truly remarkable thing.

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By *accaMan
over a year ago

leicester

I make it a game. How can dry up with the chit chat first, it's not easy, but just throw in random responses that nobody expects and jobs a good un!!

So how as this year been for you? "like a slippery kipper mate"

So how have you ended up here, didn't think you mixed?? "need a good session mate, balls are like nuclear weapons waiting to be deployed"

I've found such responses to small talk usually end the small talk. My work here is done

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By *accaMan
over a year ago

leicester

Obviously that a who can dry up first

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

I hate small talk, but can do it when necessary.... I also have a well honed. slow turn and withering glance/stare to scare the 'feckers' off

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough

No problem here, we're both gobby eejits

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By *tillwaterMan
over a year ago

Liverpool


"No problem here, we're both gobby eejits "

Same I'm very opinionated (aren't all scousers) and if a meet can hold a conversation and has opinions of there own their better company

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Small talk? .yes ...Sometimes.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"I'm officially crap at it. All the Christmas do's I dread all the making small talk with people I barely know. I always seem to end up next to the person who gives one word responses so leaves you nowhere to go with the conversation. "

I'm a talkerholic I can chat the hind legs off of a donkey .im totally gregarious to the point where I've sort of learnt to tone it down a bit .its not unknown for me to chat to the bar staff on a social flirt with the hotel receptionist on meets and generally just talk to anyone who makes eye contact with me .

I have one of them personalities Tha your ether going to love or hate there I np middle ground with me but that's how I live my life in a all or nothing kind of guy which shows in everything a do including small talk .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can do it, but I won't - life is too short for inane drivel!"

I'm calling bullshit on that one...you bloody do...

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

It's like what did I get up to last weekend

Ummmm well had group sex with 3 different couples

Had sex with one person

Had a gangbang with another (well receiving head) while a friend was enjoying cock elsewhere

Watching us draw with West Ham

Ummmm my response is I caught up with some friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As my life is currently dominated by applying for jobs (Redundancy Fairy, once I'm settled your sparkly ass is mine), I always look forward to the awkward chit chat phase at the end of an interview.

Them "so, let's get to know more of the real you. What do you like to do in your free time?"

Me (in my head) "oh, I like to stand about in clubs in barely more than a smile, lick lovely ladies, have them lick me, indulge in lots of group sex and relish jolly enthusiastic tribbing sessions in front of an appreciative audience"

Me (in reality) "I bake".

Need to work on my non booby and fandango related small talk

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Yep pretty rubbish at it,think I probably bore myself never mind anyone else. It's a waste of energy

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I'm officially crap at it. All the Christmas do's I dread all the making small talk with people I barely know. I always seem to end up next to the person who gives one word responses so leaves you nowhere to go with the conversation.

I'm a talkerholic I can chat the hind legs off of a donkey .im totally gregarious to the point where I've sort of learnt to tone it down a bit .its not unknown for me to chat to the bar staff on a social flirt with the hotel receptionist on meets and generally just talk to anyone who makes eye contact with me .

I have one of them personalities Tha your ether going to love or hate there I np middle ground with me but that's how I live my life in a all or nothing kind of guy which shows in everything a do including small talk ."

When people start to have that glazed look you know you need to shut up,that's when you've well and truly lost them!

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"I'm officially crap at it. All the Christmas do's I dread all the making small talk with people I barely know. I always seem to end up next to the person who gives one word responses so leaves you nowhere to go with the conversation.

I'm a talkerholic I can chat the hind legs off of a donkey .im totally gregarious to the point where I've sort of learnt to tone it down a bit .its not unknown for me to chat to the bar staff on a social flirt with the hotel receptionist on meets and generally just talk to anyone who makes eye contact with me .

I have one of them personalities Tha your ether going to love or hate there I np middle ground with me but that's how I live my life in a all or nothing kind of guy which shows in everything a do including small talk .

When people start to have that glazed look you know you need to shut up,that's when you've well and truly lost them! "

Sometimes one chats to those one knows hate one just to put there nose's out because its just so much bloody fun watching the squirm over your totally lack of giving a toss about how they feel about you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's like what did I get up to last weekend

Ummmm well had group sex with 3 different couples

Had sex with one person

Had a gangbang with another (well receiving head) while a friend was enjoying cock elsewhere

Watching us draw with West Ham

Ummmm my response is I caught up with some friends "

With a weekend like that, who needs small talk????

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I can do it, but I won't - life is too short for inane drivel!

I'm calling bullshit on that one...you bloody do... "

Haha - but that kind of drivel isn't inane! !! Insane maybe, I'm up for that. ...

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