FabSwingers.com forum: Whats wrong with saying

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi, or Hi how are you.

How do people start conversations with people who seem to get so angry over this.

for the record I dont (normally)message anyone who block people for starting a message like this. So its not a rant because someone blocked me or ignored me.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I wouldn't get angry, I'd just ignore it. It's crap and boring. At least make the effort with a couple more words. Unless of course you are a perfect match to myself and I think the fucking will be on a new level of perfect. Do people actually get angry?

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham

I always like getting a Hi or How are you off one of the said ranters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read 50 near identical messages and see if it annoys you.

Our record is 28 'hi, how are you messages'

Single women can get 100's of messages. Imagine reading 200 'hi, how are you' messages.

Then you'll know why it's annoying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have formulated a plan, when we start meeting again and un hide our profile, i am going to put a stencil on our profile of a message, then all they have to do is copy and paste it fill in their name and location and attach a face picture, wonder how many will use it???

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

"Hi, or Hi how are you.

How do people start conversations with people who seem to get so angry over this.

for the record I dont (normally)message anyone who block people for starting a message like this. So its not a rant because someone blocked me or ignored me."

Set up a single female profile, you'll soon find out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing annoys me........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't get angry, we just think 'meh' when it happens so much.

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"Hi, or Hi how are you.

How do people start conversations with people who seem to get so angry over this.

for the record I dont (normally)message anyone who block people for starting a message like this. So its not a rant because someone blocked me or ignored me."

Surely it's fine as an opening sentence?

It's just not fine as an *only* sentence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing annoys me........

Not even Newcastle beating your lot?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's nothing wrong with it in my opinion. But, just see how many replies you get. And then think if it's what the recipients wants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing annoys me........

Not even Newcastle beating your lot?

Mildly miffed perhaps ... even a tad bothered but never annoyed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing annoys me........

Not even Newcastle beating your lot?

Mildly miffed perhaps ... even a tad bothered but never annoyed

"
what if they were to inflict the defeat that caused relegation (hypothetically) ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing annoys me........

Not even Newcastle beating your lot?

Mildly miffed perhaps ... even a tad bothered but never annoyed

what if they were to inflict the defeat that caused relegation (hypothetically) ?"

I'd probably just roll my eyes and sigh...

and maybe add a complimentary shoulder shrug .......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

get them all the time from the fanny off here

take it as a compliment meself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never get annoyed by it. But get bored as hell by it. Seen one hi. Seen them all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't mind a "hi" or "how are you" opening message, but to be honest we tend to find out that's the most imaginative part, or even the only part of the conversation.

Using it and following it with something to open up the conversation is good though.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

"I have formulated a plan, when we start meeting again and un hide our profile, i am going to put a stencil on our profile of a message, then all they have to do is copy and paste it fill in their name and location and attach a face picture, wonder how many will use it???"

lol I will just say hi in amours (I am sure I know you from there) - lot easier and I am lazy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Read 50 near identical messages and see if it annoys you.

Our record is 28 'hi, how are you messages'

Single women can get 100's of messages. Imagine reading 200 'hi, how are you' messages.

Then you'll know why it's annoying"

Thing is NT, the other people dont know this do they. but understand where you are coming from.

Sometimes I like to say 'HI' plus a couple of words to save the other person reading what theymight define a boring post.

If they like my profile they will answer then a full converation can start if they dont like what they see they wont reply and we can all move on.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

I opened one convo with "Have you seen my kite?" As it was a blustery day with the wind heading on their direction..

Still chatting on ocassion & hopefully we will meet, but we've to take a ladder as its in the tree outside her house.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

fuck me . I cant believe the responses in here make your message interesting blah blah.

so here's a challenge to everyone woman saying that in here . ok if its so bloody easy write a interesting message to me .

shouldn't be to hard as unlike a lot of female profiles my profile actually says something about what I'm like as a sexual animal and as a human being .

its very ease to say do this or do it like this when your the one not having to do anything except criticise and pass judgement on those that are actually being proactive .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I opened one convo with "Have you seen my kite?" As it was a blustery day with the wind heading on their direction..

Still chatting on ocassion & hopefully we will meet, but we've to take a ladder as its in the tree outside her house.

Brilliant.

I bet you were flying after that. Was you worried he would blow you out

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"fuck me . I cant believe the responses in here make your message interesting blah blah.so here's a challenge to everyone woman saying that in here . ok if its so bloody easy write a interesting message to me .

shouldn't be to hard as unlike a lot of female profiles my profile actually says something about what I'm like as a sexual animal and as a human being .

its very ease to say do this or do it like this when your the one not having to do anything except criticise and pass judgement on those that are actually being proactive . "

Your profile doesn't interest me so little point writing a message to try and gain your interest because I have no interest in you - therefore not easy to write a message to you.

I know you feel women do little and poor men do all but, it's not quite so.

I message men/women/couples quite often and I'm very successful on here - I can guarantee I've never started with a hi. So I am proactive in messaging but I don't feel the need to resort to just a hi.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Tend to ignore them. I appreciate writing an opener is tricky but when you get 50 messages a day and 85% are 'hi how are you?'.... Well it makes the elimination process easier

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Posters arguing against saying 'hi' - it makes no difference if you argue about it here.

People don't respond to those messages, end of. So you have two choices:

1. Rant about it and get the same poor level of responses

2. Adapt and improve.

It makes no difference to anybody else, you can do either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So here is how it normally goes

Them hi there

Us hi there

Them how are you? Finding the site?

Us we are good what about you?

Them horny fancy a fuck??

Us no, block

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

It depends on what else you put in the message.

If that is all that was in your first message, then that could be why you got blocked.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So here is how it normally goes

Them hi there

Us hi there

Them how are you? Finding the site?

Us we are good what about you?

Them horny fancy a fuck??

Us no, block"

Take it you didnt fancy a fuck then lol

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

shouldn't be to hard as unlike a lot of female profiles my profile actually says something about what I'm like as a sexual animal and as a human being .

its very ease to say do this or do it like this when your the one not having to do anything except criticise and pass judgement on those that are actually being proactive .

Your profile doesn't interest me so little point writing a message to try and gain your interest because I have no interest in you - therefore not easy to write a message to you.

I know you feel women do little and poor men do all but, it's not quite so.

it was a challenge not a invitation to try and get to know me . I don't message random woman I'm mainly here to add my 10 pence to the forum if someone truly catches my eye I will message to try and form a friendship sex is low on my list for being here ,

I do find this place a great laugh and brilliant dinner table conversation especially when I hand my phone over so my friends can see what I'm talking about .

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

I don't get angry when I receive a hi how are you message, I am bored with them. If that is the entirety of the message then it gets deleted, there needs to be more to get my attention. As an opening sentence it is fine as long as there are others under it.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

I do find this place a great laugh and brilliant dinner table conversation especially when I hand my phone over so my friends can see what I'm talking about .

Disgrace.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

It becomes boring

As do the..

How are you finding the site

Have you had any fun

You get the idea!

It's not that you can't say Hi just add something more distinguishing to it as well.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"it was a challenge not a invitation to try and get to know me . I don't message random woman I'm mainly here to add my 10 pence to the forum if someone truly catches my eye I will message to try and form a friendship sex is low on my list for being here ,

I do find this place a great laugh and brilliant dinner table conversation especially when I hand my phone over so my friends can see what I'm talking about .

But the challenge is not proving anything as I have shown. People message others to try to get to know them and fuck, hence saying hi. I'm sure your conversations are sparkling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't see anything wrong with "hi how are you"

We wouldn't open with it ourselves but when we receive them we judge the sender by their profile info/ pictures/ whether they are what we are looking for.

If there is effort shown in profile text we usually reply, if not it goes straight in the bin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, or Hi how are you.

How do people start conversations with people who seem to get so angry over this.

for the record I dont (normally)message anyone who block people for starting a message like this. So its not a rant because someone blocked me or ignored me."

We don't get angry. It is a useful filter.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"get them all the time from the fanny off here

take it as a compliment meself "

Fanny?

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

shouldn't be to hard as unlike a lot of female profiles my profile actually says something about what I'm like as a sexual animal and as a human being .

its very ease to say do this or do it like this when your the one not having to do anything except criticise and pass judgement on those that are actually being proactive .

Your profile doesn't interest me so little point writing a message to try and gain your interest because I have no interest in you - therefore not easy to write a message to you.

I know you feel women do little and poor men do all but, it's not quite so.

I can indeed say this lady does write a good message

and unlike many ladies on here is not shy about doing so as a first message.

However (there's always one of those isn't there) I don't accept criticism of the men from ladies who don't send first messages..Not that I obviously do or don't know which ones they are unless they've messaged us, basically what i'm saying is, if you haven't done it yourself with more than a "Hi, how you doing?" don't criticise others for trying..no matter what sex they are..

Whether these guys write one line, one paragraph or a soliloquy the first thing you will probably do is look at their pics (yes,no,maybe), where they are(distance, meet likely, unlikely) whether they are verified, maybe who they've already met.

He could be the next William Shakespeare (or was it Marlowe?) But "If the face don't fit, your not coming in".

Having spent the first few months on here writing said "interesting, on point" messages & watching them be binned without getting read I have to err on the side of the "Hello...etc" type of message, maybe a bit more chat, but not a lot and in said message we will say "Take a look at our profile if you like it message back & we'll chat properly, if not, don't"..

Pretty easy really...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"get them all the time from the fanny off here

take it as a compliment meself

Fanny?"

I think fanny is a lovely word. Prefer it over pussy or cunt.

Think it might also be a tongue on cheek post

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By *aspasherMan
over a year ago

South shields

I may be wrong but being a bit different is kind of the point of this site and al admit have used hi/ hello as the first word in a message but the rest has to be different maby banana or table lamp will catch attention more

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"get them all the time from the fanny off here

take it as a compliment meself

Fanny?

I think fanny is a lovely word. Prefer it over pussy or cunt.

Think it might also be a tongue on cheek post"

So you refer to a woman as a fanny! I like the word myself,but not in the context he's using it.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

I do find this place a great laugh and brilliant dinner table conversation especially when I hand my phone over so my friends can see what I'm talking about .

But the challenge is not proving anything as I have shown. People message others to try to get to know them and fuck, hence saying hi. I'm sure your conversations are sparkling."

and there in lays the problem with these kinds of sites woman assume that if you message then you want to fuck them . sadly this mentality ruins sites like this because its arrogant to assume any such thing whether that's a guy messaging a woman assuming she's up for fucking everyone since she's on swinging site or a woman assuming that every message is from a guy looking to fuck her .

this mentality is what ruins these sites for both sexes its assumed everything is assumed .you assumed I was fishing for messages when all I was saying was its not easy writing a interesting message if you think it is prove me wrong by sending me one .

you assumed by sending me a message I would assume you was interested in me its that attitude that I find so fucking funny about sites like this luckily I'm not the only one who laughs his arse off other such attitudes when they are displayed by both sexes but only guys get a bum deal other such a attitude by ranty woman ranting the little arse off when there doing just s much assuming as your average guy is .

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"...such a attitude by ranty woman ranting the little arse off when there doing just s much assuming as your average guy is ."

I wasn't assuming you were fishing for messages, I'm not quite sure where you got that from. I was just saying that you message someone when you're interested in some sort of way, you can't do that if there is nothing so it's a futile challenge. As you yourself say, you don't message everyone but only those you are interested in. I'm not assuming everyone who messages another wants to fuck them nor did I. You've attempted to twist my language in order to have a little bitch. And furthermore, not really answering the OP, just moaning.And you've succeeded in ranting your little arse off about assumptions when the only ones being made are yours. Well done!

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By *lassy pairCouple
over a year ago

Greenwich London

If we get a penny for every one who said hi how are you, we properly be richer than Donald trump

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

If we get a penny for every one who said hi how are you, we properly be richer than Donald trump

how are you

there I've added a penny to the pile buy yourself a penny sweet on me if they still exist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do find this place a great laugh and brilliant dinner table conversation especially when I hand my phone over so my friends can see what I'm talking about .

Discretion at its finest

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By *andbCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Hi, or Hi how are you.

How do people start conversations with people who seem to get so angry over this.

for the record I dont (normally)message anyone who block people for starting a message like this. So its not a rant because someone blocked me or ignored me."

We got a message asking " How are you finding the site Replied - " Pressed a few letters on my lap top and hey presto ... there it is ! " lol

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"...such a attitude by ranty woman ranting the little arse off when there doing just s much assuming as your average guy is .

eant rant rant that's all I got from that point proven

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's nothing wrong with 'hi, how are you?', in itself it probably has a low probability of success because of its regular use but the bottom line is for most if they're attracted to your pictures and profile then it's probably going to be the second message that counts.

Some complain about the boredom of receiving such messages, maybe consider the amount of long well thought out first messages that are just deleted without being read.

I've never believed in the one glove fit all approach, write what you feel like writing in the moment, whether long or short. If it works great, if not then there's plenty others.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

I do find this place a great laugh and brilliant dinner table conversation especially when I hand my phone over so my friends can see what I'm talking about .

Discretion at its finest

yes I'm nice and discreet when it comes to private messages woo but the forum is public domain so is everything written in it as you well know .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fucks given

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

I'd take hi or hello any day over some of the filth I get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd take hi or hello any day over some of the filth I get. "

Hi ... hello Purple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do find this place a great laugh and brilliant dinner table conversation especially when I hand my phone over so my friends can see what I'm talking about .

But the challenge is not proving anything as I have shown. People message others to try to get to know them and fuck, hence saying hi. I'm sure your conversations are sparkling.

#itsnotarant

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"eant rant rant that's all I got from that point proven

To be fair, I don't think you understand what's written. Or you can't admit when wrong. But good attempt. I don't want to derail the OP's thread with ranty woman talk and deluded man chat.

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

"I'd take hi or hello any day over some of the filth I get.

Hi ... hello Purple

Hello how you doing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, or Hi how are you.

How do people start conversations with people who seem to get so angry over this.

for the record I dont (normally)message anyone who block people for starting a message like this. So its not a rant because someone blocked me or ignored me."

Nothing is wrong with a quick hi, people who expect or demand more will usually either delete or not reply to your message regardless of its content. Keep is sumplr and blitz every profile that's even slightly suitable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd take hi or hello any day over some of the filth I get. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, or Hi how are you.

How do people start conversations with people who seem to get so angry over this.

for the record I dont (normally)message anyone who block people for starting a message like this. So its not a rant because someone blocked me or ignored me.

Agreed. If someone is really that into you it doesn't matter so much what texts are exchanged

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do find this place a great laugh and brilliant dinner table conversation especially when I hand my phone over so my friends can see what I'm talking about .

Discretion at its finest

yes I'm nice and discreet when it comes to private messages woo but the forum is public domain so is everything written in it as you well know ."

You talk to your friends about an internet forum as part of your dinner table chat? Don't you like them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd take hi or hello any day over some of the filth I get.

Hi ... hello Purple

Hello how you doing

I'm always good thank you... and yourself

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

"I'd take hi or hello any day over some of the filth I get.

Hi ... hello Purple

Hello how you doing

I'm always good thank you... and yourself

Just got my car sorted so I'm a very happy girl

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By *lassy pairCouple
over a year ago

Greenwich London

"I'd take hi or hello any day over some of the filth I get.

Hi ... hello Purple

Hello how you doing

I'm always good thank you... and yourself

Just got my car sorted so I'm a very happy girl

Now the car is sorted, are you coming down to visit us then

Sorry I forgot to say

Hi how are you first

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"You talk to your friends about an internet forum as part of your dinner table chat? Don't you like them?"

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

"I'd take hi or hello any day over some of the filth I get.

Hi ... hello Purple

Hello how you doing

I'm always good thank you... and yourself

Just got my car sorted so I'm a very happy girl

Now the car is sorted, are you coming down to visit us then

Sorry I forgot to say

Hi how are you first

On my way I want all of Abbie's sexy clothes

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

I do find this place a great laugh and brilliant dinner table conversation especially when I hand my phone over so my friends can see what I'm talking about .

Discretion at its finest

yes I'm nice and discreet when it comes to private messages woo but the forum is public domain so is everything written in it as you well know .

You talk to your friends about an internet forum as part of your dinner table chat? Don't you like them?"

I met my friends on sites similar to this one . we even play as couples from time to time .they left this world because of stalkers mainly so they love seeing my forum stalkers trying to twist everything I say in the forums . we laugh our arses off at such behaviour because i have at least three such stalkers on here and even more elsewhere .

watching my stalkers in action reminds them why they don't miss the online world after all I'm still here showing it for what it truly is a mad house full of madness of the most entertaining kind if your the kind of person who can laugh at such behaviour which luckily I am which is something my friends find highly amusing about me .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah, yes, forum stalkers. Both pathetic and amusing at the same time. I'm in the market for a new one, my last one went quiet...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah, yes, forum stalkers. Both pathetic and amusing at the same time. I'm in the market for a new one, my last one went quiet..."

I'm still here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah, yes, forum stalkers. Both pathetic and amusing at the same time. I'm in the market for a new one, my last one went quiet...

I'm still here

Darn, thought I'd shaken you off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah, yes, forum stalkers. Both pathetic and amusing at the same time. I'm in the market for a new one, my last one went quiet...

I'm still here

Darn, thought I'd shaken you off

Never

Is it only people in the "clique" who have stalkers?

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

"Ah, yes, forum stalkers. Both pathetic and amusing at the same time. I'm in the market for a new one, my last one went quiet...

I'm still here

Darn, thought I'd shaken you off

Never

Is it only people in the "clique" who have stalkers?

I stalk you sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I treat message in the same way as I would a letter, rather than an actual face to face conversation, and I shall attempt to explain why.

Since the advent of electronic communication (with the exception of the telephone) many people are, perhaps, of the belief that as soon as you press 'send' on a message, that it is instantly delivered and, often in the case of text messages and e-mails, instantly accessed and therefore treat these forms of communication in the same way they would a voice call.

What these people don't always appreciate is that the recipient might not be able to access their message at the exact time that it is delivered and it may be some time before they are in a position to read it and even respond.

So let's take such a scenario. Someone send's a 'Hi' message. It doesn't get read for a few days. The sender, not understanding this could get frustrated, think the recipient is being rude and perhaps block them - so now the recipient can not respond.

From the recipient's point of view, they might feel that the message is lacking in substance, but let's just consider for a moment that they reciprocate with a similar response 'Hello'

Back to the sender, who doesn't see this message for a couple of days.

This conversation could drag on for weeks and really end up going nowhere.

On the other hand, if the sender were to consider getting much of what they wanted to say into their initial message, the recipient has much more to go on.

In much the same way as the argument is made against text speak in a message, there isn't a character limit to messages as there are with SMS or tweets.

Many people on fab ignore winks. I have difficulty in distinguishing a wink from a message comprising solely of 'Hi'

I hope this makes some sense

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Ah, yes, forum stalkers. Both pathetic and amusing at the same time. I'm in the market for a new one, my last one went quiet..."

I stalk you. In the hope one day you'll realise you're just fab straight and... (don't shatter that illusion)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah, yes, forum stalkers. Both pathetic and amusing at the same time. I'm in the market for a new one, my last one went quiet...

I stalk you. In the hope one day you'll realise you're just fab straight and... (don't shatter that illusion) "

This

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By *lassy pairCouple
over a year ago

Greenwich London

"I'd take hi or hello any day over some of the filth I get.

Hi ... hello Purple

Hello how you doing

I'm always good thank you... and yourself

Just got my car sorted so I'm a very happy girl

Now the car is sorted, are you coming down to visit us then

Sorry I forgot to say

Hi how are you first

On my way I want all of Abbie's sexy clothes

Ooo is that all you wanted then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah, yes, forum stalkers. Both pathetic and amusing at the same time. I'm in the market for a new one, my last one went quiet...

I'm still here

Darn, thought I'd shaken you off

Never

Is it only people in the "clique" who have stalkers?

I stalk you sometimes

Blocked

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"Alright fuckface? Fancy a shag, or what?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally, I treat message in the same way as I would a letter, rather than an actual face to face conversation, and I shall attempt to explain why.

From the recipient's point of view, they might feel that the message is lacking in substance, but let's just consider for a moment that they reciprocate with a similar response 'Hello'

Back to the sender, who doesn't see this message for a couple of days.

This conversation could drag on for weeks and really end up going nowhere.

On the other hand, if the sender were to consider getting much of what they wanted to say into their initial message, the recipient has much more to go on.

In much the same way as the argument is made against text speak in a message, there isn't a character limit to messages as there are with SMS or tweets.

Many people on fab ignore winks. I have difficulty in distinguishing a wink from a message comprising solely of 'Hi'

I hope this makes some sense

It certainly does make sense

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"Ah, yes, forum stalkers. Both pathetic and amusing at the same time. I'm in the market for a new one, my last one went quiet...

I stalk you. In the hope one day you'll realise you're just fab straight and... (don't shatter that illusion)

This

Lol, not the only ones keeping an eye on the "straights" then

I see some post & think?

Unless...." So just sit & wait patiently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not this crap again pleeaaassseeee get over it its rant day tomorrow. If they don't message means not interested. Please don't have to justify themselves to you.

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By *heMochaManMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I mean what is wrong with the opening line...

'Want to go half's on a bastard'

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not this crap again pleeaaassseeee get over it its rant day tomorrow. If they don't message means not interested. Please don't have to justify themselves to you. "

Is this aimed at me?

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By *inkboomerangMan
over a year ago

Fallbrook

i admit, theres been a few messages i started with a

"hi, how are you ?" but i try to say something that grabs thier attention...if its a cpl, try complimenting the misses (respectfully) as an opener, or something funny...one photo showed the womens butt with the handle of a toothbrush stuck in her...

i opened that message with..." theres my toothbrush, ive been looking everywhere for that!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just never say "can I ask you a question" for your opening message. Makes me want to find the guy and say WHAAATTT what the fuck do you want to say, just say it mun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love this!!

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