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By *orny47suckmenow OP   Man
over a year ago

maidstone

Do you just go for looks, or personality?

Or do you go for both?

Personality can be hard to put across on here and when messaging, text can be taken so many ways.

Let me know your thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Combination of both to be honest needs to be a connection or it's pointless and no passion involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

both,,its obvious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Combination of both to be honest needs to be a connection or it's pointless and no passion involved "

spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

30-70 for me, personality is more important than looks, you could be the hottest person alive but not much use if its not enjoyable to be in your company x

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home


"Combination of both to be honest needs to be a connection or it's pointless and no passion involved "

This

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Looks may attract me, but only personality will make me meet someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks may attract me, but only personality will make me meet someone. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both. But rhey have to have a deeply dry sarcastic sense of humour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cock size and availability

Yeah I'm really that's shallow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality will always win me over faster than looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's looks with most here let's face it, it's not until you meet them in person before you find out what their personality is like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always both. You could be the best looking guy but if you're an absolute dick nip, or boring, then I just can't go there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Far rather personality over looks. If someone can't stimulate my mind and make me laugh, then they could be the most handsome or beautiful person in the world and I wouldn't be interested.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Always both. You could be the best looking guy but if you're an absolute dick nip, or boring, then I just can't go there. "

I am a Dick nip,boring and ugly lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A splendid mix of both

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By *orestersCouple
over a year ago

The Forest

Looks. I have enough ugly friends

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

We play in clubs, and in clubs I look for nsa sex that satisfies me and my fantasies. In this respect personality plays very little part and its looks that attract me. Having said that we have also met some good looking guys and girls with great personalities - we often play again and again with them.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Good to read that appearance isn't the most important thing

Unfortunately if it's personality I'm going to struggle too

However if there's a lady for whom looks nor personality matter that much, and this lady has generally low standards, poor eyesight etc, hello - I'm here for you

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

If there's a personality connection I tend to find someone good looking anyway so I'd have to say personality over looks. It's worked for me so far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality although there has to be an initial attraction to spark the interest

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Both please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks gets my attention, personality keeps it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"30-70 for me, personality is more important than looks, you could be the hottest person alive but not much use if its not enjoyable to be in your company x"

does it not work the other way round too though

I know many guys who are a joy to be around, i get on with them very well but i couldn't have sex with them ass i don't find them attravtive

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

Both...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks, unless it's someone I actually like then personality every time.

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough

Personality ultimately wins over looks.

We've sometimes chatted to couples that were fit as fuck but after 5 minutes of chatting had zero interest in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None.

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

On here, It's the personality of the profile first, the looks of the persons pictures, then it's I suppose the opposite on a social, the looks first and hoping the personality shines through too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesnt matter, it is just a fuck, not a marriage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Availability

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both for me

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Both as most have said,I think people can grow on you ,but still need attraction,

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks may attract me, but only personality will make me meet someone. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both tbh....gotta be a spark..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality....

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Although a great arse is as good as a good conversation

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Definitely has to be both...sure there has to be physical attraction at some level, but if there's not a mental one too with chemistry and connection it doesn't matter that it's "just a shag" (as it was so eloquently put further up) it'd still do nothing for me personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Combination of both to be honest needs to be a connection or it's pointless and no passion involved "

that answer will do for me too

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Both as matches are essential, unless you're in a gimp mask and can't communicate with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally and a big cock

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Both ideally. I've shagged some stunning 'hot' types who have been utterly dull and my memory of them is their lack of personality, not ability in the bedroom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I join the 'both' camp.

Those ladies with a nice big smile, pleasant uplifting and friendly personality and with a generally positive perspective to life tend to just look better to me anyway. Maybe it's a subconscious thing for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both, but heavily leaning on the looks side of things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality is a must to start and then I go for the looks.

I am not fussy but personality gets top marks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm first and foremost attracted to looks. That doesn't mean that they have to be classically good looking, just that there must be something about them I find attractive. Personality is what keeps me interested enough to meet, because I can't meet at short notice or spontaneously and I don't want to waste my time meeting someone where we can't have a laugh with each other, however good looking they may be. So it's important to me that people can get their personality across in messaging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm first and foremost attracted to looks. That doesn't mean that they have to be classically good looking, just that there must be something about them I find attractive. Personality is what keeps me interested enough to meet, because I can't meet at short notice or spontaneously and I don't want to waste my time meeting someone where we can't have a laugh with each other, however good looking they may be. So it's important to me that people can get their personality across in messaging. "

Same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality

Then looks

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham


"Personality

Then looks "

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By *umpty dumptyMan
over a year ago

birmingham

Personality and sense of humour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks grab my attention, personality keeps it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A mixture of both

Kinky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends...

One off nsa - looks

Regular or fwb - personality and looks

Glory hole - just hope and pray they don't have a cock...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks grab my attention, personality keeps it! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

looks all the way

I'll worry about personality when I have one leg out the door

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here intially it's looks that attract me to a profile but they have to have the personality to match or it ain't going to work.

Forums were a good 'hunting ground' in the past because I was attracted to someone's personality first, have made some good friends this way.

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

A brown paper bag and a ball gag sorts out most of the problems

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A brown paper bag and a ball gag sorts out most of the problems "

I can never find a brown paper bag that I can fit in...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality counts for a lot yes, but recent experience has made us re think our approach - if the physical attraction isn't there, all the personality in the world isn't going to help.

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By *artytwoCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

There is no 'or', it's never that simple.

"What's the most you ever lost on a coin toss?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone with both ideally. We wouldn't play with attractive people with no personality.

We wouldn't play with people who have an amazing personality but we don't find them attractive.

It may mean we don't meet very often but hey, it's no big deal.

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By *edRidingWolfCouple
over a year ago

Lydney

I need both

I have been laughed into bed, and I need that mental connection. Seduce my mind and my body responds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There as to be a bit of both. Body shape is very important to me. Mainly because I work hard at mine and dnt want ample or curvy sorry just my preference. But even if they buffed and fit and no personality I'd not bother. So bit of a hard one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I need both

I have been laughed into bed, and I need that mental connection. Seduce my mind and my body responds "

I've been laughed out of bed

Does that count?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Personality for me first. On here, there has to be some sort of attraction and dull messages, profiles or posts are a turn off. I find all sorts of people attractive but if there's nothing to engage me other than a pretty face, I'll remain as dry as the Atacama.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo personality first, but it's hard to find out what that's like ok here! Most of the time you have one shot at chat x

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By *iscellaneousCouple
over a year ago

Idle

Personality is really important to me (MiscF) as I have to feel comfortable with the couple/person.

Looks count too but I find that it counts for nothing if I don't feel completely at ease. Being bi I look at the couple as a whole so I might find one more attractive than the other but like both personalities a lot. It's a complex mix I think.

Thankfully we've managed to come across couples with both and hopefully that continues!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On a site like Fab where the ratio of men to women is so high, most women are going to screen first on physical attractiveness and then, if you make the cut, personality.

The idea that there's some trade off is I'm afraid just wishful thinking on the part of guys not getting any replies. Good looking women can have their choice so may well claim it's personality that decides it, but you have be physically attractive to be in the mix.

Of course like any generalisation there are exceptions, so it's no use women coming on and telling me I don't know how they make their decision and their last playmate was as ugly as fuck...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care how charming or fun a persons personality is unless they look good,,,forget it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks may attract me, but only personality will make me meet someone. "

We are exactly the same ...stimulation of the mind works wonders

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