FabSwingers.com forum: When someone asks..

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

For a face pic

You send it

And then no reply and they block you...wtf??

Is it so hard to reply and say no thanks??

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think it's a difficult call to make sometimes.

We sent face pictures and the guy left the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take it as not interested

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Some don't take rejection well. Some even put threads up about it. Sorry fella couldn't help it but if I seen this and I was the 1 you'd mailed I'd think I did the right thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For a face pic

You send it

And then no reply and they block you...wtf??

Is it so hard to reply and say no thanks??"

First time it happens, it's a slap in the face but after that, you just laugh!

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By *umpty dumptyMan
over a year ago

birmingham

"I think it's a difficult call to make sometimes.

We sent face pictures and the guy left the site

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may I say that's his lose

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

It happens all the time if you read threads in here - I'd just forget it and move on

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think it's a difficult call to make sometimes.

We sent face pictures and the guy left the site

may I say that's his lose "

Thank you.

We did laugh though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some don't take rejection well. Some even put threads up about it. Sorry fella couldn't help it but if I seen this and I was the 1 you'd mailed I'd think I did the right thing "

Why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they message 1st & ask for face pic, I always reply saying 'happy to swap' let them send 1 1st

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For a face pic

You send it

And then no reply and they block you...wtf??

Is it so hard to reply and say no thanks??"

As this thread shows some people don't deal all that well with rejection. Which is why some people choose to just block

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By *umpty dumptyMan
over a year ago

birmingham

"I think it's a difficult call to make sometimes.

We sent face pictures and the guy left the site

may I say that's his lose

Thank you.

We did laugh though

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Some don't take rejection well. Some even put threads up about it. Sorry fella couldn't help it but if I seen this and I was the 1 you'd mailed I'd think I did the right thing

Why?"

Because I'd think I was right in thinking he wouldn't take a polite no thanks well but maybe that's just me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's a difficult call to make sometimes.

We sent face pictures and the guy left the site

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think it's a difficult call to make sometimes.

We sent face pictures and the guy left the site

we're thinking of hiring ourselves out to encourage guests who overstay their welcome to leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some don't take rejection well. Some even put threads up about it. Sorry fella couldn't help it but if I seen this and I was the 1 you'd mailed I'd think I did the right thing

Why?

Because I'd think I was right in thinking he wouldn't take a polite no thanks well but maybe that's just me "

Maybe, on the other hand I would think the person/people who asked for a face pic and then just blocked were ignorant and rude and not worth meeting in the first place.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Some don't take rejection well. Some even put threads up about it. Sorry fella couldn't help it but if I seen this and I was the 1 you'd mailed I'd think I did the right thing

Why?

Because I'd think I was right in thinking he wouldn't take a polite no thanks well but maybe that's just me

Maybe, on the other hand I would think the person/people who asked for a face pic and then just blocked were ignorant and rude and not worth meeting in the first place."

2 sides of a coin I suppose

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

I'd at least say thanks for sending but no thanks. Then block

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd at least say thanks for sending but no thanks. Then block

Hehehe...now this is much better.

It's not that I cant take rejection. Its more about manners. If you respond no thanks to someone, and they cant take it, by all means block them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always respond to genuine interest or questions, give what we get attitude with manners.

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By *ifferent69Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK

"I think it's a difficult call to make sometimes.

We sent face pictures and the guy left the site

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could,nt agree more...

Unfortunately it no different on here than real life " harsh

.!". Just except your going to get plenty of knock backs..

On the flip side, if thats there response its given you an insight into there outlook, thus perhaps saving unnecessary time and energy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's a difficult call to make sometimes.

We sent face pictures and the guy left the site

*checks profile........

User currently online.

Nope, wasn't me.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I'd at least say thanks for sending but no thanks. Then block

Hehehe...now this is much better.

It's not that I cant take rejection. Its more about manners. If you respond no thanks to someone, and they cant take it, by all means block them. "

OP there is a very real possibility that that are not just being rude, they could know you in the real world and choose to keep their real life and fab separate.

I found family on here and chose to hide all my face pics and block them. Worked well for a few months until we attended the same club on the same night lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For a face pic

You send it

And then no reply and they block you...wtf??

Is it so hard to reply and say no thanks??"

No buts it's easier to just not say anything

the shit feeling is all the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you cannot or will not put face pics in your public gallery then that is a risk you run. Why complain about what others do? Putting a face pic in your public profile prevents so much disappointment... it's YOU that chooses to open yourself to disappointment by not doing so...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Owch! That's why we have a rule that we must get a face pic with first message and why we never ask for face pics. If we ask for a face pic and then immediate reject, its obvious that it is because of their face, and I wouldn't want someone to know that. But if we reject at first message then it could be for any number meet of reasons.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here's why a lot delete and block.

You say 'no thanks'

You get a reply saying 'why not'

You try to be polite and reply 'you're not our type, sorry'

You get yet another reply asking 'but why not, give me a reason'

At which point, politeness has now dwindled somewhat and you send 'what part of no thanks did you not understand'

And we get the inevitable 'fuck you then ugly cunts'

Alternatively, it's less grief to delete and block the sender.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've polity said sorry you're not for me and got a bar age of abuse. I reply 99% of the time. But some blokes can be dicks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For a face pic

You send it

And then no reply and they block you...wtf??

Is it so hard to reply and say no thanks??"

I got blocked after sending face pic.not everyone gona like everyone but jayz bit harsh being blocked.lol

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I've done this to someone before. Turns out I knew him. So I didn't reply with mine. I just blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the face that launched a thousand blocks.

Although I preferred delete and block to 'No thanks, you're a munter!'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd at least say thanks for sending but no thanks. Then block

Thats what we do x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Owch! That's why we have a rule that we must get a face pic with first message and why we never ask for face pics. If we ask for a face pic and then immediate reject, its obvious that it is because of their face, and I wouldn't want someone to know that. But if we reject at first message then it could be for any number meet of reasons.

Mrs"

So are you saying the recipient found the OP to be ugly?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Here's why a lot delete and block.

You say 'no thanks'

You get a reply saying 'why not'

You try to be polite and reply 'you're not our type, sorry'

You get yet another reply asking 'but why not, give me a reason'

At which point, politeness has now dwindled somewhat and you send 'what part of no thanks did you not understand'

And we get the inevitable 'fuck you then ugly cunts'

Alternatively, it's less grief to delete and block the sender. "

I think the point of sorry you're not my type is enough. If you original sender becomes abusive or persistant, then block if you want.

I just think that if someone asks you for a face pic, and you've sent them one or two, its just good manners to respond back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here's why a lot delete and block.

You say 'no thanks'

You get a reply saying 'why not'

You try to be polite and reply 'you're not our type, sorry'

You get yet another reply asking 'but why not, give me a reason'

At which point, politeness has now dwindled somewhat and you send 'what part of no thanks did you not understand'

And we get the inevitable 'fuck you then ugly cunts'

Alternatively, it's less grief to delete and block the sender.

I think the point of sorry you're not my type is enough. If you original sender becomes abusive or persistant, then block if you want.

I just think that if someone asks you for a face pic, and you've sent them one or two, its just good manners to respond back.

We'll continue to delete and block thanks. It works for us, and we give precisely zero fucks if that person thinks we're rude or not. We're never going to meet so there's no dramas.

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Fab will toughen you up...few more slaps and you will be like a boss on here

This place can be brutal at times, ignore it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For a face pic

You send it

And then no reply and they block you...wtf??

Is it so hard to reply and say no thanks??"

Aww I would never do that to be honest. I just say that they are handsome, but not my type unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs

So are you saying the recipient found the OP to be ugly?"

I've no idea what the recipient thought of the OP's picture, nor can I guess as I haven't been privy to his face pics. But to be asked for a face pic and then get immediately rejected makes me feel 'owch'. Realise it can't be helped, but I try to avoid it.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For a face pic

You send it

And then no reply and they block you...wtf??

Is it so hard to reply and say no thanks??

As this thread shows some people don't deal all that well with rejection. Which is why some people choose to just block"

Is it really that bad? In 2 years of using Fab we've never once had any abuse from anyone. There have been a handful of men and couples who we have felt have been a bit of a nuisance so we've ended up blocking. But it's been far and few between. Don't see the point in routinely blocking - that closes doors, and we might meet at a party or a club so that would be embarrassing.

Mrs

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

"For a face pic

You send it

And then no reply and they block you...wtf??

Is it so hard to reply and say no thanks??"

Apparently it is in the rules, if you don't like someone, just block them.

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