FabSwingers.com forum: Abuse how to minimise it

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

After recent abuse, reporting them to admin and the profile is still active, I ask the question how to keep myself as safe as possible.

A social is a must, which is most of my Veris and not meeting unverified profiles. Using filters and name and shaming. I also make it clear were I stand on my profile, if they bother to read it.

I don't retaliate with abuse either. Any suggestions. ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't name and shame?

It's against site rules x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block everybody, filter everybody, do your own searches.

Job done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you mean by abuse? Abusive messages? If so, put all your filters on and choose who to message yourself.

I also think that the naming and shaming, whingey status updates and ranty profiles tend to attract more abuse because it's a huge turn off to men with a bit of self respect, so they're going to be left attracting the dregs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've been on here over a year so you must know the score by now, surely?

Don't court drama by naming & shaming.

Filter upto the max.

Block & delete.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What do you mean by abuse? Abusive messages? If so, put all your filters on and choose who to message yourself.

That makes a lot of sense. Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You've been on here over a year so you must know the score by now, surely?

Don't court drama by naming & shaming.

Filter upto the max.

Block & delete."

I'm getting a similar message now from others. Prevention rather than cure, and don't winge about it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't name and shame?

It's against site rules x

Oh I didn't realise that thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Filter.. so if everyone sets all filters to on then silence is golden

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So the overall message I'm getting is

Use the filters, don't complain about it, and you should know better.

His profile is still active, as he's pays, and I'm now hidden.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So the overall message I'm getting is

Use the filters, don't complain about it, and you should know better.

His profile is still active, as he's pays, and I'm now hidden....."

If you've blocked him though you don't need to hide your profile as he can't see or message you.

I find those kind of people usually go unlos when they're membership expires.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

The fact that he is a site supporter is absolutely zilch to do with it and Admin dont automatically throw someone off the site just because they have been reported.

Here is an explanation from Admin from another thread on how they deal with reports.

******Just a quick note. If people report others and we can verify that they have broken site rules, we always take action (either a first and final warning, partially suspended account, fully suspended, mixture of the above).

Every single report sent via the REPORT link is reviewed. Clearly it's not in our interests to have people on here who are bad for the site. Equally we need to verify what has been reported and be fair to those who have been reported.

Admin

PS. we never provide feedback on what has happened. It's just not practical given that we get 100s of reports a day.

Here is what the page says after a report has been submitted:

Your feedback has been saved.

A website admin will shortly review your feedback and take the necessary action. After reviewing the evidence available to us, we may disable an account, remove a user, disable certain aspects of that user's account or issue a warning.

By leaving feedback you help improve the site for everyone who uses it. Thank you.******

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