FabSwingers.com forum: wots rong with hi....?

By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

this is NOT a rant or a wine.

It's a serious quesjun.

But wot is rong with just (hi) in a message.

Ya ok its small talk and its not verry emagenartive but its a huge ice breaker.

But for sum its small talk or no talk. Cos of condishouns like Asperger's ect....

And i no im not the Onley one with that.

I my self have red profiles of others wear im a match to wot thay r looking for but cos its also saying stuff like if you send a message it must at lest hsve a cupall of sentences in it and anything less you get deleted and blocked ect......... Witch is just a put off strate away.

And im Shor im not the Onley one that has thort this.......

So serious quesjon

Wots rong with just a hi ?

And I wood appreciate Thos hoo don't want just a hi to Plees comment and say y you don't asept just a hi.

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By *igjrvMan
over a year ago

blackwood

I agree hi is the first part of a conversation. You don't bump into someone on the street and just blurt out a chapter do you you lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree to an extent Seeside - it's an icebreaker to flag interest (much like a wink would be) and for many that works perfectly.

But I can also see why many people would think that lacks effort - and it's a lot more easy to cluster bomb every lady you come across with a 'hi' than a personal message. People like to feel special and that you've taken time to read their profile and evidence that in a message.

Everyone is different. If someone says on their profile 'one liners will be deleted' then don't send them a one liner! It's setting yourself up for a fail!

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Like you say it's not very imaginative and doesn't scream out message me back,unless you have super fit photo's of course!

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

I'm sure "hi" is fine, as long as you send a full photo of your self, one that really captures your personalty. Maybe a photo from having your aura read, or one of you jumping through hoops.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is nothing wrong with saying Hi to anyone. The problem is this, the interweb has a different perspective than real life. Some people in the cyber world believe that the normal rules of engagement when meeting someone knew don't apply here and that you should make up some kind of all singing all dancing form of introduction. The truth is if doesn't matter a flying fuck. Its whether or not they like your picture thats the difference between a reply or the bin. And also bare in mind that peoples expectons in the cyber world are often somewhat higher than they are in the real world. We are very wary of people who have a lots of ideas about age, size, colour etc. Its very easy to hide behind a screen it's not always quite so easy to be in someone's face. So carry on saying Hi we certainly will always do that and if they recipient doesn't think that's a good way to introduce yourself then they aren't worth knowing anyway...

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

It's a filter for me.

I've found in my experience, those that send "hi" as an initial message lack the communication skills necessary to interest me. I like to be mentally stimulated.

When visible my profile is quite detailed. If after reading it the best you can come up with is "hi" then it would be a non starter.

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

Try "hello" instead? Might get a better reception??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right let's imagine this is real life, when you meet someone for the first time you don't just say hi do you?

You would say something like hi I'm x and introduce yourself properly, you wouldn't just say hi and stand there waiting for a reply wondering why they aren't answering you back

We put effort in to any first message we send, and expect the same in any first message we receive,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to say you are all very nice people... there is an elephant in the room and no one has mentioned it ... fair play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course there is also the gender issue. Women are outnumbered by the men hugely on here. Therefore the ladies can afford to be very choosy and some are very very choosy indeed. That's just the way of the world on this and most "nilla" dating sites. It might not always be easy but get out from behind the screen and meet people, you'll find that real people are different than those who just hide behind a screen and bathe in there desired admiration.

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By *im le2Man
over a year ago

AYLESTONE

my names Jim .

Just read your profile and found it very interesting. Love the photos.

How's that for a start .

And why tell ppl you love there photos . Why not just fab the ones you like .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A guy I fancy can send whatever he likes.

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By *lue NarwhalMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

Seaside,

I appreciate that so far this sounds a bit doom and gloom for you..

But take heart..

On a very similar site to this, I made a number of friends and subsequently met two very wonderful ladies, not by contacting them but just by being my annoying self on the blogs..

I wasn't in any rush to meet and it just happened on its own and they made the first move by contacting me..

So maybe direct messaging isn't your strong point, but then it's not the only way to get to know someone..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We very rarely meet anyone from here because it's just to much hassle and people are very rarely who they claim to be. So if they can't take a basic "hi/hello nice to meet you" as an opener then it's not going anywhere for us. Honestly we find it far easier to get out and meet people in clubs or at parties. Its the way forward. Sires like this have a place but that place is quite small really.. The real world is far more fun and saying Hi is totally acceptable lol

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"HI

my names Jim .

Just read your profile and found it very interesting. Love the photos.

How's that for a start .

And why tell ppl you love there photos . Why not just fab the ones you like . "

That's a good start, and better than many we've received, although it is better if it's more personalised:

Say "what" was interesting in the profile and why.

Comment on "specific" photo's that take your interest.

It's also a bonus if you can encourage a response, a question is usually a good way of doing that.

AND... include a happy smiling face-pic

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi" is fine as an opener if they have pictures I find really attractive or a great profile. If they don't, it could be the greatest message in the world and I probably wouldn't open it.

That applies whether the person sending the message has aspergers or dyslexia or no conditions whatever. I'm not going to be giving special treatment to people I don't know and am not interested in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""Hi" is fine as an opener if they have pictures I find really attractive or a great profile. If they don't, it could be the greatest message in the world and I probably wouldn't open it.

That applies whether the person sending the message has aspergers or dyslexia or no conditions whatever. I'm not going to be giving special treatment to people I don't know and am not interested in. "

As I said previously is mainly down to the picture and very little to do with the message. Humans are visual creatures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well in my experience it usually goes something like this:

'Hi'

'Hello. How are you?'

'Great. Fancy a fuk?'

Now imagine that x50. THAT is why! It's as boring as fuck!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well in my experience it usually goes something like this:

'Hi'

'Hello. How are you?'

'Great. Fancy a fuk?'

Now imagine that x50. THAT is why! It's as boring as fuck!!"

Think happy thoughts!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well in my experience it usually goes something like this:

'Hi'

'Hello. How are you?'

'Great. Fancy a fuk?'

Now imagine that x50. THAT is why! It's as boring as fuck!!

Think happy thoughts!"

Meaning?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well in my experience it usually goes something like this:

'Hi'

'Hello. How are you?'

'Great. Fancy a fuk?'

Now imagine that x50. THAT is why! It's as boring as fuck!!

Think happy thoughts!

Meaning?"

Meaning that you come across as a bit uptight. Happy thoughts lead to happy things..

Don't get me wrong I do understand but that's just what happens. You are good looking and a lady, all that fancy a fuck bullshit is par for the course on here. We got it all the time until we blocked all the single guys. So we know what it's like. This isn't real life it's the internet, it doesn't matter.. so chill and be happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well in my experience it usually goes something like this:

'Hi'

'Hello. How are you?'

'Great. Fancy a fuk?'

Now imagine that x50. THAT is why! It's as boring as fuck!!

Think happy thoughts!

Meaning?

Meaning that you come across as a bit uptight. Happy thoughts lead to happy things..

Thank you for your unsolicited advise but I am well aware of what this lifestyle is about, having been swinging for 20 years on and off. Maybe, just maybe, I was answering the OP's question as to why Hi doesn't work. If that means I'm up tight then so be it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well in my experience it usually goes something like this:

'Hi'

'Hello. How are you?'

'Great. Fancy a fuk?'

Now imagine that x50. THAT is why! It's as boring as fuck!!

Think happy thoughts!

Meaning?

Meaning that you come across as a bit uptight. Happy thoughts lead to happy things..

Have a lovely day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you struggle with writing more than "hi", and that's fair enough, then I'd argue you are not a match for those profiles in the first place because, rightly or wrongly, they want more than that.

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By *ureTemptationWoman
over a year ago

Off the grid

"Well in my experience it usually goes something like this:

'Hi'

'Hello. How are you?'

'Great. Fancy a fuk?'

Now imagine that x50. THAT is why! It's as boring as fuck!!"

I'm with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you struggle with writing more than "hi", and that's fair enough, then I'd argue you are not a match for those profiles in the first place because, rightly or wrongly, they want more than that. "

Maybe it's not a case of struggling. It could just be a simpleasure case of being polite?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just send a hi followed by a random movie quote.

Hi, do you feel lucky punk, or,

Hi, do you wanna build a snowman. I'd imagine women would love that kinda shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you struggle with writing more than "hi", and that's fair enough, then I'd argue you are not a match for those profiles in the first place because, rightly or wrongly, they want more than that.

Maybe it's not a case of struggling. It could just be a simpleasure case of being polite?"

I'm going off the opening post where the OP says that writing more than hi is difficult for people with aspergers.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It's very boring. I'd only answer a message with more in it than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just write "Hi! Great profile!" It makes it look like you read it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see it as a huge ice breaker personally. It's just two letters. I say hi to people in the street, it doesn't get us chatting over a coffee. It doesn't stand out at all. I wouldn't respond to that in a message, and would never write it as a first message to someone either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's very boring. I'd only answer a message with more in it than that. "

Hi!

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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

thing is hi is ok for the first 10 or so messages you read in the morning .sadley after that dont bother reading profile.most of ours come with a cock pic too. no no no.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

What about "hi" as a reply to a well laid out opening message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with hi

Better than a copy and paste message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If Jason Statham sent me a message saying hi, I'd reply. If I get a message from a cock saying hi, I'd delete lol xx

Saying hi is enough to gauge interest I suppose. So if your photo is enough to make someone interested then it would work xx

I haven't replied to many that have just said hi xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If Jason Statham sent me a message saying hi, I'd reply. If I get a message from a cock saying hi, I'd delete lol xx

Saying hi is enough to gauge interest I suppose. So if your photo is enough to make someone interested then it would work xx

I haven't replied to many that have just said hi xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the guy sent pictures and he was good looking with a big penis then a simple "hi" would be enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only opening messages I delete straight away are blatant copy and paste jobs, and the really creepy 'this is exactly what I'm going to do to you' type stuff.

If someones pics or profile interest me then I wouldn't delete their opening message based purely on it being a simple 'hi'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just Hi is one of my pet hates. Two letters is hardly worth the effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never reply to a Hi, its lazy in my opinion and no doubt the one posting it just goes through a list of women and just says hi to them all.

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By *inchyorksMan
over a year ago

huddersfield

You are competing against hundreds of men, a hi screams lazy, treat you first message almost as a cv, being polite, respectful and referencing their profile in the first message, along with things you enjoy.

The first message in my opinion should almost be like an advert of yourself, and always attach pictures.

I find this works very well for me!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I've replied to 'hello' before. If the person's profile is what I'm looking for and they are my view of attractive, it can be enough. Most of the time I do like a slightly longer introduction but I wouldn't turn my nose up if I think we'll be a good match.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Whilst a simple "Hi" is a good opener, I really feel you do need a little more than that to expect a response. Whether that "little more" is a decent well thought out profile, or more to the message, or decent pictures is another thing.

Personally I think the message needs a little more than just "Hi" doesn't have to be your life story, but at least a couple of lines to say why you're writing that may see the sender at least looking at your profile (although a lot of people look at the profile before reading the message anyway) just sending "Hi" to me suggests laziness and leads me to wonder if someone can't be bothered with a little more than "Hi" what else won't they be bothered with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whilst a simple "Hi" is a good opener, I really feel you do need a little more than that to expect a response. Whether that "little more" is a decent well thought out profile, or more to the message, or decent pictures is another thing.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Getting a good conversation started in here is very different to doing so out in the real world so "hi" really isn't enough to break the ice.

In the real world you have non-verbal communication too. By this I mean you you have body language and a smile which you can't convey easily online. Because of this you need to say a little bit more online to get the chat started.

Seeside please don't lose heart. You come across as a really lovely guy and there will be someone out there for you. Keep posting on the forums - your personality shines through.

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Hi lol

Have you got too much time on yr hands today??

I have just responded too another of your (rants?)threads..

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By *aptain InvincibleMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

What do you reply with when they say "hi" back?

"How are you" i'd imagine.

And then what?

If you start a conversation you better be prepared to lead it.

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

I will respond to a hi message if their profile is decent, he has sent a face pic and only a face pic and he has read my profile, so yeah it never happens lol

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I will respond to a hi message if their profile is decent, he has sent a face pic and only a face pic and he has read my profile, so yeah it never happens lol"

Cue dozens of messages to your inbox with "Hi", a picture attached and reference to your profile!!

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By *ureTemptationWoman
over a year ago

Off the grid

"I will respond to a hi message if their profile is decent, he has sent a face pic and only a face pic and he has read my profile, so yeah it never happens lol"

This. But the face in the pic has to be fanciable.

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

If you're just gonna say "hi" you'd better be hot.

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

"I will respond to a hi message if their profile is decent, he has sent a face pic and only a face pic and he has read my profile, so yeah it never happens lol

This. But the face in the pic has to be fanciable.

Indeed or at least something to make me think maybe than that's their que to win me over with their amazing personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah but after a few well thought out messages, tailoring it to be a individual, funny, intelligent, thought provoking ice breaker.....then it gets deleted. And again. And again. And again. You kinda get disheartened!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest if someone sends me an introduction message that doesn't even contain my user name or any attempt to demonstrate messaging me wasn't just some random act by someone who doesn't feel it's even worth the effort needed to courteously introduces themselves .... they wouldn't be receiving an invitation into my home let alone an oppertunity to flop their cock in my direction ......

Hey look..... I know , I know, I'm such a fuk'in diva .. but I just enjoy being an utter twat too,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you can't think of more than just hi, what kind of reply are you expecting.

At least say

Hi, (insert name) I loved looking at your profile, I would really like to get a bit more personal if you are interested.

It still doesn't say much, but at least using a name doesn't like you just send loads of identical messages to half of fab.

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Here and there

"But I can also see why many people would think that lacks effort - and it's a lot more easy to cluster bomb every lady you come across with a 'hi' than a personal message. People like to feel special and that you've taken time to read their profile and evidence that in a message."

I agree, but anecdotally I've had as much (and maybe more) success from a 'hi' or one liner responding to a status update than from a carefully considered response to a profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We very rarely meet anyone from here because it's just to much hassle and people are very rarely who they claim to be. So if they can't take a basic "hi/hello nice to meet you" as an opener then it's not going anywhere for us. Honestly we find it far easier to get out and meet people in clubs or at parties. Its the way forward. Sires like this have a place but that place is quite small really.. The real world is far more fun and saying Hi is totally acceptable lol "

Absolutely this. We very rarely meet these days through the site.

The constant messaging backwards and forwards, trying to filter out those that are just all talk and trying to match up times to meet is so much hassle. You then turn up to meet and see the photos were taken 20 years ago.

Clubs are so much easier. No jumping through hoops or worrying about messaging. You talk like adult humans. The way we have for thousands of years....

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Yeah but after a few well thought out messages, tailoring it to be a individual, funny, intelligent, thought provoking ice breaker.....then it gets deleted. And again. And again. And again. You kinda get disheartened!"

Out on a limb here, but were the people you sent your opus to looking for you?

I read the profile before the message. If they're not what I'm looking for, and when visible there's no ambiguity as to the type of men I'm hoping to meet, they could have written a sonnet to rival Shakespeare, I'd never know as I'd simply delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out on a limb here, but were the people you sent your opus to looking for you?

I suppose not, and if I received hundreds of messages a day, I'd probably do the same, just offering some perspective from us poor poor men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is nothing wrong with a "hi" . A message has to start from somewhere and sometimes we are quite happy to chat back and forward with a male but it will be made clear we don't want to play. What does put me off is bad spelling, which may result in no returned messages. We all have spell check on our phones so there shouldn't be may mistakes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally don't think there's anything wrong with just a hi as opening message. Xxx

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

In the past I've had this...

Him: hi

Me: hi

Him: wot u up 2

Me: nothing wot u up 2

There's only so much playing along I can do before my mind wonders to my shopping list!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Hi' just get lost with all the other 'Hi' s and the "wot you up to?" And "how you finding this site?" And "wow" etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'Hi' just get lost with all the other 'Hi' s and the "wot you up to?" And "how you finding this site?" And "wow" etc. "

How are you finding the site really irritates me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok we've established hi isn't like, so what's preferred??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'Hi' just get lost with all the other 'Hi' s and the "wot you up to?" And "how you finding this site?" And "wow" etc.

How are you finding the site really irritates me x"

I find it by clicking on my favourites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok we've established hi isn't like, so what's preferred?? "

Get my name into the first line so it shows up without me opening it. I know that doesn't prove it's not the same message you've sent to everyone but at least I know you've begun to tailor it to me.

Try to ask or tell me something I can actually respond to properly. If you word it right a one word answer won't leap into my head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In the past I've had this...

Him: hi

Me: hi

Him: wot u up 2

Me: nothing wot u up 2

There's only so much playing along I can do before my mind wonders to my shopping list!

Yes this is the thing with us. A message saying just 'hi' in itself isn't a problem. But it usually means the people messaging us are going to be hard work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh...i couldn't care less if I received a message with "hi"

I've received messages before from women saying "hi" yet on their profile it says if I messaged just "hi" then it would be deleted.

"Hi" will get a response from me if I'm interested in the persons profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tbh...i couldn't care less if I received a message with "hi"

I've received messages before from women saying "hi" yet on their profile it says if I messaged just "hi" then it would be deleted.

"Hi" will get a response from me if I'm interested in the persons profile."

How about if you received 50 messages saying hi every day with a cock pic as an avatar?

Would you still bother to look at each profile to decide if you could be bothered to write something more than just "hi" back?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems that "hi" is in the same league as "fancy a fuck" ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tbh...i couldn't care less if I received a message with "hi"

I've received messages before from women saying "hi" yet on their profile it says if I messaged just "hi" then it would be deleted.

"Hi" will get a response from me if I'm interested in the persons profile.

How about if you received 50 messages saying hi every day with a cock pic as an avatar?

Would you still bother to look at each profile to decide if you could be bothered to write something more than just "hi" back? "

I look at cocks every day in work so no difference!

Besides I have filters so guys can't message me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is nothing wrong with a "hi" . A message has to start from somewhere and sometimes we are quite happy to chat back and forward with a male but it will be made clear we don't want to play. What does put me off is bad spelling, which may result in no returned messages. We all have spell check on our phones so there shouldn't be may mistakes. "

MANY mistakes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also if they had a cock pic as an avatar then I wouldn't be interested in the profile anyway

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over a year ago

"Also if they had a cock pic as an avatar then I wouldn't be interested in the profile anyway"

So you use certain criteria to whittle down your messages.

No cock pics. No men. Etc.

Some of us use lack of message content too. When you have lots to choose from anything can become a filter to sift them more efficiently.

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over a year ago

MANY mistakes

Ffs lol.... it's not spelt incorrectly though

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over a year ago

"Also if they had a cock pic as an avatar then I wouldn't be interested in the profile anyway

So you use certain criteria to whittle down your messages.

No cock pics. No men. Etc.

Some of us use lack of message content too. When you have lots to choose from anything can become a filter to sift them more efficiently. "

Just because someone says hi does not mean that person isn't worth a reply.

They may be shy and struggle with making first contact.

Yes I have filters because I am a straight guy.

What they say is not important to me, if I am attracted to the profile then I will reply.

Congratulations on your 50 messages a day.

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over a year ago

"Also if they had a cock pic as an avatar then I wouldn't be interested in the profile anyway

So you use certain criteria to whittle down your messages.

No cock pics. No men. Etc.

Some of us use lack of message content too. When you have lots to choose from anything can become a filter to sift them more efficiently.

Just because someone says hi does not mean that person isn't worth a reply.

They may be shy and struggle with making first contact.

Yes I have filters because I am a straight guy.

What they say is not important to me, if I am attracted to the profile then I will reply.

Congratulations on your 50 messages a day."

Oh I didn't say they're not worth it, just that such a simple message gets lost amongst all the other simple messages.

As for 50 a day; that varies enormously. Sometimes it's just a few other days it goes into meltdown.

A frock is a powerful thing

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over a year ago

Are verifications important (subjectively)? I've never bothered asking people to do it myself and never really see if other have them, but some seem to treat it like a shop bought guarantee?

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over a year ago

There is nothing wrong with Hi! The big problem with this site is people get away with putting fuck all on they're profiles which leaves people nothing to engage with when sending a message! Secondly some people here have a fucking high opinion of themselves I've seen some fucking honking bits of kit on here that think they are as fit as scarlett johannson they need to get a fucking grip! Last but not least women complaining about guys getting hacked off about bieng ignored and women getting hacked off about bieng abused! That's down to the thick fucks who run this site who allow women to receive 500 messages in 2 mins of logging on! I'd mass delete if I had that many its time they limited the amount of msgs people can receive! Rant over

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

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Out on a limb here, but were the people you sent your opus to looking for you?

I suppose not, and if I received hundreds of messages a day, I'd probably do the same, just offering some perspective from us poor poor men

I don't get hundreds of messages a day, I never have. If people want to waste their time messaging people who are not looking for them, more fool them.

Just don't expect a reply! Hardly need to be a member of Mensa to work that out!

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over a year ago

"There is nothing wrong with Hi! The big problem with this site is people get away with putting fuck all on they're profiles which leaves people nothing to engage with when sending a message! Secondly some people here have a fucking high opinion of themselves I've seen some fucking honking bits of kit on here that think they are as fit as scarlett johannson they need to get a fucking grip! Last but not least women complaining about guys getting hacked off about bieng ignored and women getting hacked off about bieng abused! That's down to the thick fucks who run this site who allow women to receive 500 messages in 2 mins of logging on! I'd mass delete if I had that many its time they limited the amount of msgs people can receive! Rant over"

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over a year ago

Out on a limb here, but were the people you sent your opus to looking for you?

I suppose not, and if I received hundreds of messages a day, I'd probably do the same, just offering some perspective from us poor poor men

I don't get hundreds of messages a day, I never have. If people want to waste their time messaging people who are not looking for them, more fool them.

Just don't expect a reply! Hardly need to be a member of Mensa to work that out! "

Everyone loves a trier.......except the women on fab it seems

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Are verifications important (subjectively)? I've never bothered asking people to do it myself and never really see if other have them, but some seem to treat it like a shop bought guarantee? "

The day I rely on the views of total strangers to decide whether I invite another stranger into my home/bed will be the day I walk into the Maudsley and ask to be sectioned to protect me from myself!

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over a year ago

Limiting the messages women receive wouldn't work, why should admin decide which messages I receive and which aren't allowed? What if the one guy I would match with can't message me because I've already received a shit load of messages from people I'm not interested in?

As for the 'honking bits of kit' (charming, really) that works both ways. It's not just some women who have a sense of entitlement.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I've seen some fucking honking bits of kit on here that think they are as fit as scarlett johannson they need to get a fucking grip! "

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over a year ago

"I've seen some fucking honking bits of kit on here that think they are as fit as scarlett johannson they need to get a fucking grip!

This has to be up for post of the week

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over a year ago

On the fence with this. Saying hi how are you... I suppose people di hear it all the time... Maybe following it up with a sincere message might help.

Don't understand people saying... Wanna fuck in an introduction message.

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over a year ago

people can receive! Rant over"

It up to people what they put on their profiles but if like me you do say what you're looking for as in locally based to me and I get 20+ messages from people who clearly don't meet that how can it be blamed as you so eloquently put 'the thick fucks' who run this site to me 'the thick fucks' are the ones who message me because they can't be bothered to read the first sentence on my profile and why should the admin restrict the amount of messages people get when all some people need to do is read? If I receive a hi message then I'm likely to delete as that equals laziness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A frock is a powerful thing

Depends who's wearing it!

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

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over a year ago

To be perfectly fair OP, while I completely understand and appreciate your own circumstances (re Aspergers and dyslexia), the person you are messaging isn't going to know that or get that from 'Hi'.

Something you should perhaps consider, is that when you look at your inbox, the beginning of the message is visible.

Now, while I appreciate that many will look at your profile before opening your message, many may not even go that far if they can see that all you have written is 'Hi'

Personally, I don't see the point in such messages. I'm also beginning to understand why a lot of people don't like winks - because it's difficult to understand. People wink for different reasons.

For many 'Hi' screams out lack of effort - both in composing a message and also hints that the profile hasn't been read.

What I think a lot of people have trouble getting their heads around is that, quite often, they treat sending a message as beginning a two-way conversation - compared with sending a letter. I've seen this over many years with e-mails etc. And this is largely because they believe that sending an electronic message is instant and make the assumption that it is received and read immediately - much like people make similar assumptions with text messages.

Now, if you were to approach a message in the same way as you would writing a letter....

Perhaps something to think about.

On a separate note OP, I have to say that I do rather admire how you are getting stuck into the forums. I don't mean to be at all patronising, but I know of a few who have similar conditions to you who wouldn't have anywhere near your confidence, so well done you!

Keep it up fella

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over a year ago

hi is almost ok if there's an instant attraction. if you're profile is good then it's probably fine.

most people are looking for compatibility, and an escape from everything usual in their life so the usual might not work here.

if i have to make all the effort with someone i lose interest. if you only say hi then already there's some expectation that i'll make more effort than you by replying.

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over a year ago

Hi Is fine.

If your going to follow it up with a purposeful message. Otherwise. Send s wink.

I've used my own advice when I first joined here. It got me nowhere. So. I stopped taking my own advise.

op, don't listen to me. I know nothing.

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over a year ago

"this is NOT a rant or a wine.

It's a serious quesjun.

But wot is rong with just (hi) in a message.

Ya ok its small talk and its not verry emagenartive but its a huge ice breaker.

But for sum its small talk or no talk. Cos of condishouns like Asperger's ect....

And i no im not the Onley one with that.

And im Shor im not the Onley one that has thort this.......

So serious quesjon

Wots rong with just a hi ?

And I wood appreciate Thos hoo don't want just a hi to Plees comment and say y you don't asept just a hi."

We understand your question, but we think the best way to handle this is for you to say 'HI' then answer it from your own experiences.

If you get very little or no reply, then you will know what is wrong with it. IE. You don't get a reply.

That will be what is wrong with 'HI' to you.

As for what we think is wrong with it, well it doesn't really matter. We think it boils down to whether your actions get you a result, or not.

Hope that helps!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

LOL

As for people with nothing on their profiles which means you've got nothing to message them about...don't bloody message them then!

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

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Hi is fine as a message. Just don't expect a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had a reply from someone with that wrote on thier profile and guess what it was ....hi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nowt wrong with hi lad

it's called manners round my way

key board warriors not happy with tho like

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

You've said on your OP that's it's small talk or no talk but whenever you post on the forums, they are usually long and detailed.

It may not be the 'hi' message, it's most likely that you are just not their type for any of thousands of reasons but sending more than a 'hi' message just may make you stand out from all the other 'hi' messages.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"nowt wrong with hi lad

it's called manners round my way

key board warriors not happy with tho like "

Actually, for a lot of people there's plenty wrong with 'hi' and lots have explained why. It's nothing to do with manners at all.

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over a year ago

"nowt wrong with hi lad

it's called manners round my way

key board warriors not happy with tho like

Actually, for a lot of people there's plenty wrong with 'hi' and lots have explained why. It's nothing to do with manners at all. "

you talk others listen aye babe

am never wrong like

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over a year ago

"nowt wrong with hi lad

it's called manners round my way

key board warriors not happy with tho like

Actually, for a lot of people there's plenty wrong with 'hi' and lots have explained why. It's nothing to do with manners at all.

you talk others listen aye babe

am never wrong like "

Shhh, the lady is talking.

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over a year ago

"Hi is fine as a message. Just don't expect a reply. "

Never expect a reply Op. or if you do. Put every effort you have in getting that person who reads it to understand who you are.

Even then, they might not like the idea of getting to know you further.

Hence, they don't reply. It's tough, I known

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over a year ago

"nowt wrong with hi lad

it's called manners round my way

key board warriors not happy with tho like

Actually, for a lot of people there's plenty wrong with 'hi' and lots have explained why. It's nothing to do with manners at all.

you talk others listen aye babe

am never wrong like "

' You talk others listen'

Isn't that what you are guilty of as well?

Everyone has their own opinion on what is reasonable both in an initial message and in a profile.

If someone is making first contact then it is normally because they want something.

The majority opinion on here is that a little more than 'HI' is needed, hence the usual lack of reply. It isn't about being a keyboard warrior or lack of manners, it is about the person making initial contact displaying a little bit of effort.

No-one has to say more than 'HI'. It is up to them.

The only thing is that they have to accept the results of their efforts.

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over a year ago

"nowt wrong with hi lad

it's called manners round my way

key board warriors not happy with tho like

Actually, for a lot of people there's plenty wrong with 'hi' and lots have explained why. It's nothing to do with manners at all.

you talk others listen aye babe

am never wrong like "

Are you sure? I think you might be.

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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Just finished work.

Going to have a reed throw tether 1st.

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over a year ago

"You've said on your OP that's it's small talk or no talk but whenever you post on the forums, they are usually long and detailed.

I did think this too

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over a year ago

Good point! Indeed some people just climb on up on that high horse of there's, get all high and mighty, and are decusted that some one hasent made all the effort to woo there highness.

Well why don't they make an effort and engage in conversation after some one clearly stated they wanted one.

The battle of the first message is here people!!

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over a year ago

"nowt wrong with hi lad

it's called manners round my way

key board warriors not happy with tho like

Actually, for a lot of people there's plenty wrong with 'hi' and lots have explained why. It's nothing to do with manners at all.

you talk others listen aye babe

am never wrong like

Are you sure? I think you might be. "

ask around lovely

pm me the apology if u like

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

As with everything, most things depend upon both context and your objectives.

I wouldn't be flirty in court with a judge, even if I would, if he was in a swingers club: context.

And if I wanted to secure a job that I really wanted, up against hundreds of other job seekers, I wouldn't try to find out the phone number of the HR Director and send a text message, saying 'Giz a job'.

It's better to craft your communication with someone based upon them first and foremost and latterly upon you. Find out, as much as you're able to, what sort of message they'd prefer.

Appropriately warm and friendly messages are almost certainly preferred over the opposite. If it's assumed that they'll get lots of messages, then aim to make sure that yours stands out as much as possible from the others. If they all say 'Hi', or 'Fancy a fuck', then it's not going to do this very well.

What's your aim? Ultimately trying to get a meet? Let that guide your mission.

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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Thanks for all vues on this.

So just hi not so grate idear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know whether anyone else has already said this but if someone sent me a message, any message, I'd be chuffin elated. But then I am an old ugly bloke, with no friends and no prospects

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over a year ago

"nowt wrong with hi lad

it's called manners round my way

key board warriors not happy with tho like

Actually, for a lot of people there's plenty wrong with 'hi' and lots have explained why. It's nothing to do with manners at all.

you talk others listen aye babe

am never wrong like

Are you sure? I think you might be.

ask around lovely

pm me the apology if u like

I've done a survey...they agree with me

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over a year ago

"nowt wrong with hi lad

it's called manners round my way

key board warriors not happy with tho like

Actually, for a lot of people there's plenty wrong with 'hi' and lots have explained why. It's nothing to do with manners at all.

you talk others listen aye babe

am never wrong like

Are you sure? I think you might be.

ask around lovely

pm me the apology if u like

I've done a survey...they agree with me

We think that if you take a look back up this thread, more of the people agree with you than disagree!

PS. We agree with you!

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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

"You've said on your OP that's it's small talk or no talk but whenever you post on the forums, they are usually long and detailed.

It's hard to explan but the for rooms is like a public place and less nurve raking than a privout message to sum one. Also hear its just seen as a quesjun or a larff to sum.... but for a privout message to start a convarshashoun has to be rite from the start cos its not just sum random quesjon or sumthing for a larff and that's the most nurve raking bit.

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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

"Seaside,

I appreciate that so far this sounds a bit doom and gloom for you..

But take heart..

On a very similar site to this, I made a number of friends and subsequently met two very wonderful ladies, not by contacting them but just by being my annoying self on the blogs..

I wasn't in any rush to meet and it just happened on its own and they made the first move by contacting me..

So maybe direct messaging isn't your strong point, but then it's not the only way to get to know someone.."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You've said on your OP that's it's small talk or no talk but whenever you post on the forums, they are usually long and detailed.

i understand that. it's how i feel. your inbox is more personal than the forums, the forums is less threatening.

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over a year ago

"You've said on your OP that's it's small talk or no talk but whenever you post on the forums, they are usually long and detailed.

Totally agree with you on that. There's a big difference between talking about things in a group and sending someone a personal message of a potentially intimate nature

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over a year ago

The old job application is a good comparison the 1s with the best cvs will get the most success.

But if your a univercity graduate and your offered a job in a factory packing meat freezing your ass off you prob hold out for something better

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over a year ago

"You've said on your OP that's it's small talk or no talk but whenever you post on the forums, they are usually long and detailed.

i understand that. it's how i feel. your inbox is more personal than the forums, the forums is less threatening."

Hmmmm, interesting. I'm the opposite. I still find the forums quite threatening, even after using it for a few months.

I'm quite comfortable with private messages.

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over a year ago

"You've said on your OP that's it's small talk or no talk but whenever you post on the forums, they are usually long and detailed.

i understand that. it's how i feel. your inbox is more personal than the forums, the forums is less threatening.

Hmmmm, interesting. I'm the opposite. I still find the forums quite threatening, even after using it for a few months.

I'm quite comfortable with private messages. "

might be different for couples, and maybe most other people as well, but people can (and sometimes do) chat differently in private to me than they do on the forums. like on the forum it's not awkward if you don't fancy someone and you chat, and even if you chat as friends in private i find most guys expect me to be interested in them eventually if they've PMed me.

i even avoid some topics on here because of this, as i don't want to get PMed by the OP.

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

"this is NOT a rant or a wine.

It's a serious quesjun.

But wot is rong with just (hi) in a message.

Ya ok its small talk and its not verry emagenartive but its a huge ice breaker.

But for sum its small talk or no talk. Cos of condishouns like Asperger's ect....

And i no im not the Onley one with that.

And im Shor im not the Onley one that has thort this.......

So serious quesjon

Wots rong with just a hi ?

And I wood appreciate Thos hoo don't want just a hi to Plees comment and say y you don't asept just a hi."
Unfortunately there's some serious ego junkies on here and they feed of making others suck up to them. They have or own a pussy so you must bow down to them.

A hi and hello to them means there high horse status isn't being noticed by you so you must be lower than them.

Rude abnoxous and deluded springs to mind but I'm glad there like that from the off as its a sign not to even waste your time on the ego junkies.

There's a few about that can't see the fun as this is a way to get the attention they don't get in real life and one of the processes of that is they belittle others and try to be God of a swingers site be it through attetion/spelling police want to be,s/the local forum Womble aka the clique shhhhhhhhhhh or just plain old rude and idiot like behaviour.

Some really have lost the whole point of it through there own self importance.

Apart from that there's some lovely people on here that make it worth being part of

Rant over and love fun and smiles to us normal ones hahahahahaha

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over a year ago

"this is NOT a rant or a wine.

It's a serious quesjun.

But wot is rong with just (hi) in a message.

Ya ok its small talk and its not verry emagenartive but its a huge ice breaker.

But for sum its small talk or no talk. Cos of condishouns like Asperger's ect....

And i no im not the Onley one with that.

And im Shor im not the Onley one that has thort this.......

So serious quesjon

Wots rong with just a hi ?

And I wood appreciate Thos hoo don't want just a hi to Plees comment and say y you don't asept just a hi.Unfortunately there's some serious ego junkies on here and they feed of making others suck up to them. They have or own a pussy so you must bow down to them.

A hi and hello to them means there high horse status isn't being noticed by you so you must be lower than them.

Rude abnoxous and deluded springs to mind but I'm glad there like that from the off as its a sign not to even waste your time on the ego junkies.

Some really have lost the whole point of it through there own self importance.

Apart from that there's some lovely people on here that make it worth being part of

Rant over and love fun and smiles to us normal ones hahahahahaha

You got all that from someone not replying to hi? Okay then haha

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"this is NOT a rant or a wine.

It's a serious quesjun.

But wot is rong with just (hi) in a message.

Ya ok its small talk and its not verry emagenartive but its a huge ice breaker.

But for sum its small talk or no talk. Cos of condishouns like Asperger's ect....

And i no im not the Onley one with that.

And im Shor im not the Onley one that has thort this.......

So serious quesjon

Wots rong with just a hi ?

A hi and hello to them means there high horse status isn't being noticed by you so you must be lower than them.

Rude abnoxous and deluded springs to mind but I'm glad there like that from the off as its a sign not to even waste your time on the ego junkies.

Some really have lost the whole point of it through there own self importance.

Apart from that there's some lovely people on here that make it worth being part of

Rant over and love fun and smiles to us normal ones hahahahahaha

You got all that from someone not replying to hi? Okay then haha

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imagine a hundred hi messages..same as a hundred fancy a fuck messages...you couldnt be bothered so neither can i. i appreciate its difficult for some people to spell, however whats more likely is that you have nothing to say..as a communicative person..it speaks volumes when someone says just a hi, whether thats a lack of confidence or couldn't be bothered, i wouldn't be interested.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

You got all that from someone not replying to hi? Okay then haha

Ssssh, it's a rehashed rant posted to make it about hi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You got all that from someone not replying to hi? Okay then haha

Ssssh, it's a rehashed rant posted to make it about hi."

I thought it seemed familiar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You got all that from someone not replying to hi? Okay then haha

Ssssh, it's a rehashed rant posted to make it about hi."

Huh? I'm lost... But then again, it doesn't take a lot

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over a year ago

"this is NOT a rant or a wine.

It's a serious quesjun.

But wot is rong with just (hi) in a message.

Ya ok its small talk and its not verry emagenartive but its a huge ice breaker.

But for sum its small talk or no talk. Cos of condishouns like Asperger's ect....

And i no im not the Onley one with that.

And im Shor im not the Onley one that has thort this.......

So serious quesjon

Wots rong with just a hi ?

A hi and hello to them means there high horse status isn't being noticed by you so you must be lower than them.

Rude abnoxous and deluded springs to mind but I'm glad there like that from the off as its a sign not to even waste your time on the ego junkies.

Some really have lost the whole point of it through there own self importance.

Apart from that there's some lovely people on here that make it worth being part of

Rant over and love fun and smiles to us normal ones hahahahahaha

You got all that from someone not replying to hi? Okay then haha

Noooooooo I got all that from experiance.

I have never been rude once in my life and won't ever be too but there's some serious tools about that fit the above prognosis like a glove.

I have had many of messages saying hi how are you or how's your day.I won't explode in a torrent of wobble on juice as say how dare you not write a book and fine me your moms maiden name and bank account number.

If they are that abnoxous they can't be on the same level as others or can't see there own ego is a huggggeeeeee turn off then to be honest I'm glad they show there idiotic ways straight away as it saves a lot of time and others feeling when you find out there deluded later on.

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You are a dramatic one aren't you?

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over a year ago

"My ex gf that I was with for 10yrs came over to me in the naffi and said hello.We hit it off from that simple one word.That hello was the first step from a strainger becoming a friend and even though she now lives back home in Germany were still friends and those 10yrs of smiles wouldn't of happened without a simple hello.

But I see your point.What my reply to her hello should of been was-HOW DARE YOU JUST SAY HELLO TO ME.CANT YOU SEE IM ABOVE YOU.YOU SHOULD OF COME OVER WITH A 11 PAGE CV AND YOUR IMYENTIONS MADE CLEAR.BUT NOOOOOOOO YOU WAFT OVER HERE TRYING TO RIDE MY STUNNING BODY LIKE A HIRE BIKE.YOU WICKED WENCH.NOW GO AWAY AND DONT COME NEAR MY THROWN AGAIN WITH YOUR SIMPLE HELLO WORD.TUT TUT HOW DARE YOU ENTER MY SPACE WITHOUT GIVING ME YOUR LIFE STORY AND CALLING ME GOD."

Wow strong views there pal. I stoped reading when you hit the caps lock.

It's always makes me chuckle when something rhymes with cock.

Caps lock - Cock.

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My ex gf that I was with for 10yrs came over to me in the naffi and said hello.We hit it off from that simple one word.That hello was the first step from a strainger becoming a friend and even though she now lives back home in Germany were still friends and those 10yrs of smiles wouldn't of happened without a simple hello.

But I see your point.What my reply to her hello should of been was-HOW DARE YOU JUST SAY HELLO TO ME.CANT YOU SEE IM ABOVE YOU.YOU SHOULD OF COME OVER WITH A 11 PAGE CV AND YOUR INTENTIONS MADE CLEAR.BUT NOOOOOOOO YOU WAFT OVER HERE TRYING TO RIDE MY STUNNING BODY LIKE A HIRE BIKE YOU WICKED WENCH.NOW GO AWAY AND DONT COME NEAR MY THROWN AGAIN WITH YOUR SIMPLE HELLO WORD.TUT TUT HOW DARE YOU ENTER MY SPACE WITHOUT GIVING ME YOUR LIFE STORY AND CALLING ME GOD.

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Stop copying James

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over a year ago

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Wow strong views there pal. I stoped reading when you hit the caps lock.

It's always makes me chuckle when something rhymes with cock.

Caps lock - Cock.

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yeah just saying hi in caps lock, doesn't do it for me either..must be me..oh well..(shrugs)

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Stop copying James

I did copy him. I quoted him above. Before he even posted it.

Im psychic.

Psychic rhymes with dick!

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over a year ago

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You got all that from someone not replying to hi? Okay then haha

Ssssh, it's a rehashed rant posted to make it about hi.

Huh? I'm lost... But then again, it doesn't take a lot

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be glad..be very glad xx

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Stop copying James

I did copy him. I quoted him above. Before he even posted it.

Im psychic.

Psychic rhymes with dick!

And bottleman rhymes with cockleman... Yes, I'm that good

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You got all that from someone not replying to hi? Okay then haha

Ssssh, it's a rehashed rant posted to make it about hi.

Huh? I'm lost... But then again, it doesn't take a lot

be glad..be very glad xx

That bad?

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Stop copying James

I did copy him. I quoted him above. Before he even posted it.

Im psychic.

Psychic rhymes with dick!

And bottleman rhymes with cockleman... Yes, I'm that good

NOW when I asked for s new username. Where were you with this type of input?

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over a year ago

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You got all that from someone not replying to hi? Okay then haha

Ssssh, it's a rehashed rant posted to make it about hi.

Huh? I'm lost... But then again, it doesn't take a lot

be glad..be very glad xx

That bad?

xx"
you dont want to be found 'there' do you? be where you are instead..

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You got all that from someone not replying to hi? Okay then haha

Ssssh, it's a rehashed rant posted to make it about hi.

Huh? I'm lost... But then again, it doesn't take a lot

be glad..be very glad xx

That bad?

xxyou dont want to be found 'there' do you? be where you are instead..

Haha I'm somewhere... Just not sure where

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Stop copying James

I did copy him. I quoted him above. Before he even posted it.

Im psychic.

Psychic rhymes with dick!

And bottleman rhymes with cockleman... Yes, I'm that good

NOW when I asked for s new username. Where were you with this type of input?

Ahhh you should have asked.. I'm an expert at changing usernames!

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Stop copying James

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i can't my inter web felling have been hurted and the pain is to much for my fragile soul

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Stop copying James

I did copy him. I quoted him above. Before he even posted it.

Im psychic.

Psychic rhymes with dick!

And bottleman rhymes with cockleman... Yes, I'm that good

NOW when I asked for s new username. Where were you with this type of input?

Ahhh you should have asked.. I'm an expert at changing usernames!

You know the bit above when I said 'where were you when I asked'......I did ask.

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O o O oo

It is boring and wouldn't grab my attention.

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Stop copying James

I did copy him. I quoted him above. Before he even posted it.

Im psychic.

Psychic rhymes with dick!

And bottleman rhymes with cockleman... Yes, I'm that good

NOW when I asked for s new username. Where were you with this type of input?

Ahhh you should have asked.. I'm an expert at changing usernames!

You know the bit above when I said 'where were you when I asked'......I did ask.

I must have missed the memo

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"[Removed by poster at 24/11/16 19:44:44]

Stop copying James

I did copy him. I quoted him above. Before he even posted it.

Im psychic.

Psychic rhymes with dick!

And bottleman rhymes with cockleman... Yes, I'm that good

NOW when I asked for s new username. Where were you with this type of input?

Ahhh you should have asked.. I'm an expert at changing usernames!

You know the bit above when I said 'where were you when I asked'......I did ask.

I must have missed the memo

Probably wasn't on the forilums when you posted it

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Stop copying James

I did copy him. I quoted him above. Before he even posted it.

Im psychic.

Psychic rhymes with dick!

And bottleman rhymes with cockleman... Yes, I'm that good

NOW when I asked for s new username. Where were you with this type of input?

Ahhh you should have asked.. I'm an expert at changing usernames!

You know the bit above when I said 'where were you when I asked'......I did ask.

I must have missed the memo

I sent one.

Subject - Hi.

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"It is boring and wouldn't grab my attention."

A sensible and sane answer.

However be careful ignoring it, just look at all the ranting it creates!!

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Maybe it is a bit simple, but someone chooses to send a message that simply says 'HI', well then we simply choose to ignore it.

No drama, no fuss.

Just our choice.

A choice that is shared by many others it seems going by many of the replies on here.

Interesting thread though. All the ones ranting and raving, do they know this sticks around for quite a while?

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"Maybe it is a bit simple, but someone chooses to send a message that simply says 'HI', well then we simply choose to ignore it.

No drama, no fuss.

Just our choice.

A choice that is shared by many others it seems going by many of the replies on here.

Interesting thread though. All the ones ranting and raving, do they know this sticks around for quite a while?"

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