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By *ightfall79 OP   Man
over a year ago

Dunbartonshire

So as many of my threads have stated I'm separated with kids . However my oldest today told me I need to stay single as I am that bit of normality in her life. I thought she was kidding and laughed it off , then got a lecture off my 13 year old daughter.

So if you are or where on this position would you put your daughters wishes first or your own.

I am verging on my daughters wishes until she is over this stage of so called normality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I split from my ex 9 years ago and have been single ever since mainly down to my kids

I would never bring another man into my life untill all my kids have left home

I would always put my kids feelings before my own, if i did get with a guy and any of my kids didn't like him he would be gone, and my eldest is 23 now but that still applys as she still lives at home and even at the age of 23 i wouldn't bring a person into her home she didn't get on with

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By *ightfall79 OP   Man
over a year ago

Dunbartonshire


"I split from my ex 9 years ago and have been single ever since mainly down to my kids

I would never bring another man into my life untill all my kids have left home

I would always put my kids feelings before my own, if i did get with a guy and any of my kids didn't like him he would be gone, and my eldest is 23 now but that still applys as she still lives at home and even at the age of 23 i wouldn't bring a person into her home she didn't get on with"

Well my oldest says she is moving in with me on her 16th birthday.

I have always put my kids first even when with ex my kids came first which I think created jealousy on her part.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I sometimes feel a bit like this, my nipper has had som many changes in recent years, I'm the only stable thing that she has.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I think you have to see them through the insecurity they are feeling but don't make them feel like they can call the shots forever. That's just as bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you have to see them through the insecurity they are feeling but don't make them feel like they can call the shots forever. That's just as bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

she's 13, old enough to listen to you.

i think once they're at the age where they can empathise with others you should encourage that. if you're interested in having a relationship then explain to her why you feel like you want one and why you should.

if you wanna stay single then don't use your daughter as an excuse. there's nothing wrong with being single either.

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By *ust MonicaWoman
over a year ago

CAMBRIDGESHIRE

I got in a relationship and regret it. After we spilt he was a dick to my oldest daughter. Would never do it again

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Everyone should put their kids first but not so much that you become a martyr.

I know from experience that daddies girls can be very jealous when their dad starts seeing another women, its not something i would personaly recomend. Maybe you would prefer to stay single anyway, nothing wrong with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you have to see them through the insecurity they are feeling but don't make them feel like they can call the shots forever. That's just as bad.

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Completely this.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"So as many of my threads have stated I'm separated with kids . However my oldest today told me I need to stay single as I am that bit of normality in her life. I thought she was kidding and laughed it off , then got a lecture off my 13 year old daughter.

So if you are or where on this position would you put your daughters wishes first or your own.

I am verging on my daughters wishes until she is over this stage of so called normality."

When I left my husband I only moved four miles away, kept the girls in the same school so their lives could remain "normal". My husband could also continue picking them up from school and doing their tea. I didn't remove a stick of furniture from the marital home so the girls still had familiar things around them.

My ex husband and I never missed an open evening, school play, college/university visit, graduation etc. When the girls were away at uni we travelled down together. When they moved for work we travelled to their homes together.

Family gatherings I was there. We were both single during their formative years, he still is.

But we have three happy, well adjusted, educated daughters who have husbands like their dad.

Being there for your kids without distractions was something that worked for my family. I now have a partner as I'm "free" to have one, but I don't begrudge my decision.

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By *ightfall79 OP   Man
over a year ago

Dunbartonshire

I don't have plans to get in a relationship with anyone at this point in time. That has nothing to do with daughter just me having a time out from being emotionally tied to someone else.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I don't have plans to get in a relationship with anyone at this point in time. That has nothing to do with daughter just me having a time out from being emotionally tied to someone else."

That's a good and positive thing. Rushing into something just so that you're not alone, which people do all the time, is bad for you and your children.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My 6 year old son pointed out to me a few weeks ago that I need to get a boyfriend because most of his friends have two dads

I think my two would accept a new man in their lives so long as he wasn't a lazy arsed couch potatoe. I'd be up for that too.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I actually detest being single at the minute more so than I've ever felt like...not sure why but I certainly never want to be someone's dirty secret....

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I don't have plans to get in a relationship with anyone at this point in time. That has nothing to do with daughter just me having a time out from being emotionally tied to someone else.

That's a good and positive thing. Rushing into something just so that you're not alone, which people do all the time, is bad for you and your children.

"

I do agree with that, I think it's really unhealthy to jump from relationship to relationship

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I am happy to be single and, as above, that had nothing to do with my daughter and her wants and needs. Her father and I remained close while she lived with me so she always was able to see him.

I caught up with a friend Friday night who had told me after his most recent relationship broke up that he was going to give himself a break and remain single for a while. By the time we met for a drink he was already dating again. Some people just seem to need a relationship to be complete.

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

I think everyone deserves the love of a good woman. You don't have to have them involved with your kids though if that's better for them x

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

My son's are my world so I've never thought about bringing someone into their lives. My private life has remained separate

However I'm desperately lonely and I think they would now welcome it. In fact they even suggested I go on take me out lol.

I do have someone special in my life now but its too complicated to risk the boys becoming attached to him at the moment.

However it does work out for some so I hope one day it will for me too.

Wiith regards your situation OP I think you have a right to be you as well as being a father. And you shouldn't feel guilty about that. There are ways to keep the two in separate boxes but also its important to remember they won't view things like this forever. Reassurance is key xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My daughter last week said I should give internet dating a try, my response was " me, trying to meet women on the internet, that would never work" lol, she could read the sarcasm in my voice, and I swear she was poised to have "the talk" with me, but at least she has no clue what a first class deviant I am, and it can stay that way

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I stayed celibate and single for over 11yrs. I am not sure it was the best thing for me, and it has made the kids think they own me.

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

I think our top priority as parents is to show our kids how to be happy adults. Alongside it is to teach them that, while they are our main focus, they are not the center of the world.

Having a good relationship, if that happens, accomplishes both. As long as you're (generic you, here) not the type who drops one person for another, It IS possible to have a relationship and look after a kids emotional needs at the same time.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"So as many of my threads have stated I'm separated with kids . However my oldest today told me I need to stay single as I am that bit of normality in her life. I thought she was kidding and laughed it off , then got a lecture off my 13 year old daughter.

So if you are or where on this position would you put your daughters wishes first or your own.

I am verging on my daughters wishes until she is over this stage of so called normality."

My daughter is 14 going on 40. The last time we spoke of my relationship or rather ship wrecks she ask me if I'll ever get it right and the only answer I could give that was honest was probably not. Her reply made me tear up. Never mind dad I'll always love you. How does that saying go about out of the mouths of babes

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"My daughter last week said I should give internet dating a try, my response was " me, trying to meet women on the internet, that would never work" lol, she could read the sarcasm in my voice, and I swear she was poised to have "the talk" with me, but at least she has no clue what a first class deviant I am, and it can stay that way "

I've joined POF and all I seem to get is hello _isscheekychops I've given up now

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"My daughter last week said I should give internet dating a try, my response was " me, trying to meet women on the internet, that would never work" lol, she could read the sarcasm in my voice, and I swear she was poised to have "the talk" with me, but at least she has no clue what a first class deviant I am, and it can stay that way

I've joined POF and all I seem to get is hello _isscheekychops I've given up now "

I'm with you sister xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think our top priority as parents is to show our kids how to be happy adults. Alongside it is to teach them that, while they are our main focus, they are not the center of the world.

Having a good relationship, if that happens, accomplishes both. As long as you're (generic you, here) not the type who drops one person for another, It IS possible to have a relationship and look after a kids emotional needs at the same time.

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Very well put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting

I have a nearly 7 year old daughter and always been single (in her eyes)..

Ive got a chance at happiness with a guy im kinda seeing.. but i think deep down it wont work as im just not ready for any kind of commitment. Im not gonna be around enough for him, and i know that im not prepared any time soon for the two of them to mix..

If you've been on here long enough you'll know my daughter really is my world.

Current guy truly is lovely.. just perhaps right guy,, wrong time and its not fair on him. meh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My daughter last week said I should give internet dating a try, my response was " me, trying to meet women on the internet, that would never work" lol, she could read the sarcasm in my voice, and I swear she was poised to have "the talk" with me, but at least she has no clue what a first class deviant I am, and it can stay that way

I've joined POF and all I seem to get is hello _isscheekychops I've given up now "

I was thinking of going on pof, but I cant be arsed, it all looks a bit shit to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think our top priority as parents is to show our kids how to be happy adults. Alongside it is to teach them that, while they are our main focus, they are not the center of the world.

Having a good relationship, if that happens, accomplishes both. As long as you're (generic you, here) not the type who drops one person for another, It IS possible to have a relationship and look after a kids emotional needs at the same time.

"

I agree with this. I've always had really good, open communication with my kids. I'm completely honest with them that, despite being divorced, I still believe in love, marriage, family unit etc. But that I'm happy in my own skin, and me and the kids make a great team, so any would be partner would absolutely have to *fit* with how we do family life. They know I'm fussy, they know love is important and special, but not life defining. My ex tells them he's "never going to fall in love again" (pretty ironic, given how emotionally limited he is... ) and I hate that negative viewpoint. Relationships, friendships, partnerships, are to my mind, what make us human.xx

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I think our top priority as parents is to show our kids how to be happy adults. Alongside it is to teach them that, while they are our main focus, they are not the center of the world.

Having a good relationship, if that happens, accomplishes both. As long as you're (generic you, here) not the type who drops one person for another, It IS possible to have a relationship and look after a kids emotional needs at the same time.

"

Definitely this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I split from my ex 9 years ago and have been single ever since mainly down to my kids

I would never bring another man into my life untill all my kids have left home

I would always put my kids feelings before my own, if i did get with a guy and any of my kids didn't like him he would be gone, and my eldest is 23 now but that still applys as she still lives at home and even at the age of 23 i wouldn't bring a person into her home she didn't get on with"

this is why Mr and I would never live together and it suits us. My kids dont need a father figure.. or someone in their life. So yes it means we have a rather unorthodox relationship but suits us both perfectly.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"My daughter last week said I should give internet dating a try, my response was " me, trying to meet women on the internet, that would never work" lol, she could read the sarcasm in my voice, and I swear she was poised to have "the talk" with me, but at least she has no clue what a first class deviant I am, and it can stay that way

I've joined POF and all I seem to get is hello _isscheekychops I've given up now

I was thinking of going on pof, but I cant be arsed, it all looks a bit shit to me"

It's alright but I don't know...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My daughter last week said I should give internet dating a try, my response was " me, trying to meet women on the internet, that would never work" lol, she could read the sarcasm in my voice, and I swear she was poised to have "the talk" with me, but at least she has no clue what a first class deviant I am, and it can stay that way

I've joined POF and all I seem to get is hello _isscheekychops I've given up now

I was thinking of going on pof, but I cant be arsed, it all looks a bit shit to me

It's alright but I don't know...lol "

Its got that certain shit quality you can't put you finger on, like a coldplay album

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"My daughter last week said I should give internet dating a try, my response was " me, trying to meet women on the internet, that would never work" lol, she could read the sarcasm in my voice, and I swear she was poised to have "the talk" with me, but at least she has no clue what a first class deviant I am, and it can stay that way

I've joined POF and all I seem to get is hello _isscheekychops I've given up now

I was thinking of going on pof, but I cant be arsed, it all looks a bit shit to me

It's alright but I don't know...lol

Its got that certain shit quality you can't put you finger on, like a coldplay album "

Haha my mum says I should meet someone in real life...but all my friends are in the swinging scene so rarely have normal nights out I think I need to start doing that more...

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"My daughter last week said I should give internet dating a try, my response was " me, trying to meet women on the internet, that would never work" lol, she could read the sarcasm in my voice, and I swear she was poised to have "the talk" with me, but at least she has no clue what a first class deviant I am, and it can stay that way

I've joined POF and all I seem to get is hello _isscheekychops I've given up now

I was thinking of going on pof, but I cant be arsed, it all looks a bit shit to me

It's alright but I don't know...lol

Its got that certain shit quality you can't put you finger on, like a coldplay album

Haha my mum says I should meet someone in real life...but all my friends are in the swinging scene so rarely have normal nights out I think I need to start doing that more... "

Your Mum needs to tell us how to manage this magical 'meeting guys in real life', as I can't work it out at all. Seeing as I struggle to get interest on here I'm unlikely to spend cash to join Match or eHarmony and fail on there too. And being a real ale fan means I am unlikely to meet the kind of guy I like when out for a beer.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"My daughter last week said I should give internet dating a try, my response was " me, trying to meet women on the internet, that would never work" lol, she could read the sarcasm in my voice, and I swear she was poised to have "the talk" with me, but at least she has no clue what a first class deviant I am, and it can stay that way

I've joined POF and all I seem to get is hello _isscheekychops I've given up now

I was thinking of going on pof, but I cant be arsed, it all looks a bit shit to me

It's alright but I don't know...lol

Its got that certain shit quality you can't put you finger on, like a coldplay album

Haha my mum says I should meet someone in real life...but all my friends are in the swinging scene so rarely have normal nights out I think I need to start doing that more... "

Outsource to First Dates or Married At First Sight. Their choices can't be any worse. I seriously considered MAFS watching the most recent series.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"My daughter last week said I should give internet dating a try, my response was " me, trying to meet women on the internet, that would never work" lol, she could read the sarcasm in my voice, and I swear she was poised to have "the talk" with me, but at least she has no clue what a first class deviant I am, and it can stay that way

I've joined POF and all I seem to get is hello _isscheekychops I've given up now

I was thinking of going on pof, but I cant be arsed, it all looks a bit shit to me

It's alright but I don't know...lol

Its got that certain shit quality you can't put you finger on, like a coldplay album

Haha my mum says I should meet someone in real life...but all my friends are in the swinging scene so rarely have normal nights out I think I need to start doing that more...

Your Mum needs to tell us how to manage this magical 'meeting guys in real life', as I can't work it out at all. Seeing as I struggle to get interest on here I'm unlikely to spend cash to join Match or eHarmony and fail on there too. And being a real ale fan means I am unlikely to meet the kind of guy I like when out for a beer."

I did eHarmony for a year. Not one single match. That's a lot of money for no one to want to meet for a relationship. At least with Soul Mates I went on some disastrous dates.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"So as many of my threads have stated I'm separated with kids . However my oldest today told me I need to stay single as I am that bit of normality in her life. I thought she was kidding and laughed it off , then got a lecture off my 13 year old daughter.

So if you are or where on this position would you put your daughters wishes first or your own.

I am verging on my daughters wishes until she is over this stage of so called normality."

We got together when our daughters were 12 and 14 respectively. Two years on and they get on with each of us .... girls that age like to call the shots, especially with dad. This may be more about what else is going on in her life. My daughter didn't like my ex and told him and me, but she gave my OH a chance and he is a really stabilising the comforting influence on her. (I am not particularly maternal). The OH's daughter had to adjust more, but that was more to do with her not feeling secure with her mum ... deep down she still wanted to know her dad was there for her, even when he and I were living together, once she knew our relationship was stable, there were no problems. Its a period of transition but it can be a really good one if it means there is another caring adult in the lives of your children. I think it really helped that we both have teenagers and the girls have also become friends .... happy families and adults are happy too.

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By *verready32Man
over a year ago

omagh


"I split from my ex 9 years ago and have been single ever since mainly down to my kids

I would never bring another man into my life untill all my kids have left home

I would always put my kids feelings before my own, if i did get with a guy and any of my kids didn't like him he would be gone, and my eldest is 23 now but that still applys as she still lives at home and even at the age of 23 i wouldn't bring a person into her home she didn't get on with"

Think I'm with you on this one

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"My daughter last week said I should give internet dating a try, my response was " me, trying to meet women on the internet, that would never work" lol, she could read the sarcasm in my voice, and I swear she was poised to have "the talk" with me, but at least she has no clue what a first class deviant I am, and it can stay that way

I've joined POF and all I seem to get is hello _isscheekychops I've given up now

I was thinking of going on pof, but I cant be arsed, it all looks a bit shit to me

It's alright but I don't know...lol

Its got that certain shit quality you can't put you finger on, like a coldplay album

Haha my mum says I should meet someone in real life...but all my friends are in the swinging scene so rarely have normal nights out I think I need to start doing that more...

Your Mum needs to tell us how to manage this magical 'meeting guys in real life', as I can't work it out at all. Seeing as I struggle to get interest on here I'm unlikely to spend cash to join Match or eHarmony and fail on there too. And being a real ale fan means I am unlikely to meet the kind of guy I like when out for a beer."

My mum is incredibly old fashioned when it comes to dating...I did say look at the last bloke I went out with, look what happened there

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"My daughter last week said I should give internet dating a try, my response was " me, trying to meet women on the internet, that would never work" lol, she could read the sarcasm in my voice, and I swear she was poised to have "the talk" with me, but at least she has no clue what a first class deviant I am, and it can stay that way

I've joined POF and all I seem to get is hello _isscheekychops I've given up now

I was thinking of going on pof, but I cant be arsed, it all looks a bit shit to me

It's alright but I don't know...lol

Its got that certain shit quality you can't put you finger on, like a coldplay album

Haha my mum says I should meet someone in real life...but all my friends are in the swinging scene so rarely have normal nights out I think I need to start doing that more...

Outsource to First Dates or Married At First Sight. Their choices can't be any worse. I seriously considered MAFS watching the most recent series. "

I think you should

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think i need to date a guy with kids who might understand a bit more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So as many of my threads have stated I'm separated with kids . However my oldest today told me I need to stay single as I am that bit of normality in her life. I thought she was kidding and laughed it off , then got a lecture off my 13 year old daughter.

So if you are or where on this position would you put your daughters wishes first or your own.

I am verging on my daughters wishes until she is over this stage of so called normality."

I'm in the same situation. Separated with kids. But my daughter is 1 so I don't think she'll be telling me to stay single any time soon

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

St Neots

I've been on my own for 8 years but mine are 30 and 29 I would love a relationship now. Eofre ots too late for me

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By *ightfall79 OP   Man
over a year ago

Dunbartonshire

When we split up she already had someone else lined up. She had been in contact with said guy for several months and they had met a couple if times (non sexual meets).

So when I moved out she had introduced new man to the kids 2 days later , he stays there 3 nights a week.

Since then she has moved home which would have unsettled the kids further. I am not to far away so my 3 oldest kids usually get bus to see me during week days after I've finished work.

I then get my two youngest kids every weekend while the oldest ones comes and go as please.

So I think this is where the "normality" part comes into play. I am in there eyes still 100% dad and have no other emotional ties outside if there life's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My daughter last week said I should give internet dating a try, my response was " me, trying to meet women on the internet, that would never work" lol, she could read the sarcasm in my voice, and I swear she was poised to have "the talk" with me, but at least she has no clue what a first class deviant I am, and it can stay that way

I've joined POF and all I seem to get is hello _isscheekychops I've given up now

I was thinking of going on pof, but I cant be arsed, it all looks a bit shit to me

It's alright but I don't know...lol

Its got that certain shit quality you can't put you finger on, like a coldplay album

Haha my mum says I should meet someone in real life...but all my friends are in the swinging scene so rarely have normal nights out I think I need to start doing that more... "

Take a class or something, an evening course in car maintenance could be both fruitful and save you a bit of money, and I recon you would look good in overalls lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When we split up she already had someone else lined up. She had been in contact with said guy for several months and they had met a couple if times (non sexual meets).

So when I moved out she had introduced new man to the kids 2 days later , he stays there 3 nights a week.

Since then she has moved home which would have unsettled the kids further. I am not to far away so my 3 oldest kids usually get bus to see me during week days after I've finished work.

I then get my two youngest kids every weekend while the oldest ones comes and go as please.

So I think this is where the "normality" part comes into play. I am in there eyes still 100% dad and have no other emotional ties outside if there life's. "

Does their mother know how your oldest kids are feeling?

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By *ightfall79 OP   Man
over a year ago

Dunbartonshire


"When we split up she already had someone else lined up. She had been in contact with said guy for several months and they had met a couple if times (non sexual meets).

So when I moved out she had introduced new man to the kids 2 days later , he stays there 3 nights a week.

Since then she has moved home which would have unsettled the kids further. I am not to far away so my 3 oldest kids usually get bus to see me during week days after I've finished work.

I then get my two youngest kids every weekend while the oldest ones comes and go as please.

So I think this is where the "normality" part comes into play. I am in there eyes still 100% dad and have no other emotional ties outside if there life's.

Does their mother know how your oldest kids are feeling? "

Yes she does but she just laughs it off , says she is in love and the kids will adapt in time.

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Does their mother know how your oldest kids are feeling?

Yes she does but she just laughs it off , says she is in love and the kids will adapt in time."

saddens me a little, but then no one knows all the facts..

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"Think i need to date a guy with kids who might understand a bit more "

That can bring its own problems too, I started dating a woman, who just out of the blue told me she expected me to put her kids first, I'd of understood if she was saying treat all the kids equally, but she wanted me to put the needs of my kids after hers.

I think my exact words were "sorry love, no sex in the world is that good, bye!" And she called ME an arsehole lol

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"Think i need to date a guy with kids who might understand a bit more

That can bring its own problems too, I started dating a woman, who just out of the blue told me she expected me to put her kids first, I'd of understood if she was saying treat all the kids equally, but she wanted me to put the needs of my kids after hers.

I think my exact words were "sorry love, no sex in the world is that good, bye!" And she called ME an arsehole lol "

oh christ..

single life it is then.. lol

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over a year ago

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"My daughter last week said I should give internet dating a try, my response was " me, trying to meet women on the internet, that would never work" lol, she could read the sarcasm in my voice, and I swear she was poised to have "the talk" with me, but at least she has no clue what a first class deviant I am, and it can stay that way

I've joined POF and all I seem to get is hello _isscheekychops I've given up now

I was thinking of going on pof, but I cant be arsed, it all looks a bit shit to me

It's alright but I don't know...lol

Its got that certain shit quality you can't put you finger on, like a coldplay album

Haha my mum says I should meet someone in real life...but all my friends are in the swinging scene so rarely have normal nights out I think I need to start doing that more...

Take a class or something, an evening course in car maintenance could be both fruitful and save you a bit of money, and I recon you would look good in overalls lol"

Great if I had a car lol

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"Think i need to date a guy with kids who might understand a bit more

That can bring its own problems too, I started dating a woman, who just out of the blue told me she expected me to put her kids first, I'd of understood if she was saying treat all the kids equally, but she wanted me to put the needs of my kids after hers.

I think my exact words were "sorry love, no sex in the world is that good, bye!" And she called ME an arsehole lol

oh christ..

single life it is then.. lol "

What I'm saying is cute, you don't need to find a certain type of man, when its right its right, and no mater if he has no kids or ten, if hes the one, how many kids you or he has, will be irrelevant

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"My daughter last week said I should give internet dating a try, my response was " me, trying to meet women on the internet, that would never work" lol, she could read the sarcasm in my voice, and I swear she was poised to have "the talk" with me, but at least she has no clue what a first class deviant I am, and it can stay that way

I've joined POF and all I seem to get is hello _isscheekychops I've given up now

I was thinking of going on pof, but I cant be arsed, it all looks a bit shit to me

It's alright but I don't know...lol

Its got that certain shit quality you can't put you finger on, like a coldplay album

Haha my mum says I should meet someone in real life...but all my friends are in the swinging scene so rarely have normal nights out I think I need to start doing that more...

Take a class or something, an evening course in car maintenance could be both fruitful and save you a bit of money, and I recon you would look good in overalls lol

Great if I had a car lol "

Yeah but it would be a bit pointless doing a course that men aren't interested in, and cars was the first thing that sprang to mind, I mean the men you would meet at a pole dancing class, are, shall we say, only ever going to be friends lol

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