FabSwingers.com forum: Is it dishonest

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi is it being dishonest if you have a straight profile on one site and a bi profile on another site if u use this site for straight meets only and the other when u have a taste for something different and if not are u a liar for not divulging this to your meets as I know lots on here do engage in this practise

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By *ureTemptationWoman
over a year ago

Off the grid

*shrug*

I ain't bovvered. Do I look bovvered?

People do what they want.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"*shrug*

I ain't bovvered. Do I look bovvered?

People do what they want."
been told it was dishonesty said it's a matter of perception ie not everyone wants they're sex life and desires publicly displayed

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Hi is it being dishonest if you have a straight profile on one site and a bi profile on another site if u use this site for straight meets only and the other when u have a taste for something different and if not are u a liar for not divulging this to your meets as I know lots on here do engage in this practise "

I'd rather people were honest.

Why the need to hide it? Is it because lots of people choose not to have sex with bisexuals?

I'm not sure I'd say it's a lie as such because until you're asked a direct question, technically you've not lied, you've just not divulged all the information.

I'd avoid someone that did that though, I like people who know who they are and aren't afraid of it.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's somewhat blurring the lines and wouldn't be seen as honest in the eyes of anyone up for straight meets who only ever wants to meet someone who's never even considered any contact with the same gender. It's not particularly unusual here though for men to do this.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Happy birthday op

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

oooooooo good question.

It's not a lie BUT if someone expressed a wish never to meet with bi sexuals and the 'bi on the other site but not thid site' didn't disclose then they are a lying bastard.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Happy birthday op

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thank u and yes it is common for bisexual men To do this as many females won't entertain them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"oooooooo good question.

It's not a lie BUT if someone expressed a wish never to meet with bi sexuals and the 'bi on the other site but not thid site' didn't disclose then they are a lying bastard. "
only if they were asked and didn't answer truthfully then thats a lie and most on here have had bi sex but never disclosed and have never been asked to

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Happy birthday op

thank u and yes it is common for bisexual men To do this as many females won't entertain them "

So I guess you know it's dishonest then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's no-one else's business who I have had sex with. I extend the same courtesy to other people. Do what makes you happy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Happy birthday op

thank u and yes it is common for bisexual men To do this as many females won't entertain them

So I guess you know it's dishonest then.

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maybe or maybe it's no one's business but your own but if it doesn't hurt you why ask especially if you play safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happy birthday op

thank u and yes it is common for bisexual men To do this as many females won't entertain them "

To be honest if someone won't meet bisexual people then I'd rather know that as I won't meet bigots or homophobes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it's no-one else's business who I have had sex with. I extend the same courtesy to other people. Do what makes you happy.

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exactly but people are always curious and ike to know these things but wot admit they have had bi tendencies or thoughts and are quick to condemn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It certainly lacks transparency, not sure if I;d consider it dshonest though

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Happy birthday op

thank u and yes it is common for bisexual men To do this as many females won't entertain them

So I guess you know it's dishonest then.

maybe or maybe it's no one's business but your own but if it doesn't hurt you why ask especially if you play safe"

Yup... there's a massive part of me that thinks that too... my sex life is no-one else's business but I don't feel the need to hide my sexuality if that makes sense. Probably easier for girls though... no-one generally cares.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"oooooooo good question.

It's not a lie BUT if someone expressed a wish never to meet with bi sexuals and the 'bi on the other site but not thid site' didn't disclose then they are a lying bastard. only if they were asked and didn't answer truthfully then thats a lie and most on here have had bi sex but never disclosed and have never been asked to"

Nope. Lying by omission is lying. If I know you don't like custard creams but you don't know I know you don't like custard creams and I go to the shop to get you biscuits you like and come back with custard creams then ffs....... I lied about not knowing you didn't like custard creams.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Happy birthday op

thank u and yes it is common for bisexual men To do this as many females won't entertain them

So I guess you know it's dishonest then.

maybe or maybe it's no one's business but your own but if it doesn't hurt you why ask especially if you play safe

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yes it is easier on first as every man likes to see a bit of girl on girl but girls tend ti puke at the site of man on man or the thought of it

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"*shrug*

I ain't bovvered. Do I look bovvered?

People do what they want.been told it was dishonesty said it's a matter of perception ie not everyone wants they're sex life and desires publicly displayed "

You mean like how you've publicly admitted yours. Was a thread the right place to keep something private?

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Tough one, because in one way you don't need to disclose your preferences to the world, on the other hand knowingly meeting somebody who states a clear preference for non-bi and not declaring it would, in my world, be not genuine and congruent. If I found out I would walk away.

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By *ildt123Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

It's disengenuous tho, as a profile that says "I am straight" or implies it when the person isn't is dishonest is it not?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Happy birthday op

thank u and yes it is common for bisexual men To do this as many females won't entertain them "

It is not "common" - where is your statistical evidence? For your information and speaking from personal experience, "females" really enjoy the company of bisexual men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only want to meet STRAIGHT men and have this on my profile. So if I asked you whether you are bi and you said no, then you would be lieing. It's actually quite simple. Deceiving will 9nly come and bite you on the ads....but then again that's what you want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only want to meet STRAIGHT men and have this on my profile. So if I asked you whether you are bi and you said no, then you would be lieing. It's actually quite simple. Deceiving will 9nly come and bite you on the ads....but then again that's what you want

Ruddy phone....Deceiving will only come and bite you in the ass

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"*shrug*

I ain't bovvered. Do I look bovvered?

People do what they want.been told it was dishonesty said it's a matter of perception ie not everyone wants they're sex life and desires publicly displayed

You mean like how you've publicly admitted yours. Was a thread the right place to keep something private?"
I haven't admitted or denied anything in asking a question that's different to the usual threads in here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Happy birthday op

thank u and yes it is common for bisexual men To do this as many females won't entertain them

It is not "common" - where is your statistical evidence? For your information and speaking from personal experience, "females" really enjoy the company of bisexual men.

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no stats but I get a lot f messages of supposedly straight guys and fabbed pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*shrug*

I ain't bovvered. Do I look bovvered?

People do what they want.been told it was dishonesty said it's a matter of perception ie not everyone wants they're sex life and desires publicly displayed

You mean like how you've publicly admitted yours. Was a thread the right place to keep something private?"

This

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But where in the fab guidelines does it say u must display your sexuality at all times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So your bi on fabguys but straight on here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So your bi on fabguys but straight on here?

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didn't say that lol I'm just opening a debate based on something I read recently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i don't think it's dishonest. it's covering all bases in different ways. looking for different things in different places.

but i'd hope that you'd respect anyone who does not want to meet bi guys coz you are bi. i don't mind sexuality myself but some people do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's your own choice, same as it's your choice who you sleep with and what you tell them about past partners, your thoughts on who you're attracted to are personal and private

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i don't think it's dishonest. it's covering all bases in different ways. looking for different things in different places.

but i'd hope that you'd respect anyone who does not want to meet bi guys coz you are bi. i don't mind sexuality myself but some people do."
I agree in principle but how would u know the other person is being honest in practice if you don't know them personally and after all on a sex site like this it's hard to tell what your getting unless u have met several times but peope do have bisexual fantasies they never actually acted on does that make them bisexuals lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lots on here have had gay thoughts dreams desires but wouldn't admit it openly some have experimented and found its not for them but others have its a sex site and as such should be viewed as such

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i don't think it's dishonest. it's covering all bases in different ways. looking for different things in different places.

but i'd hope that you'd respect anyone who does not want to meet bi guys coz you are bi. i don't mind sexuality myself but some people do.

I agree in principle but how would u know the other person is being honest in practice if you don't know them personally and after all on a sex site like this it's hard to tell what your getting unless u have met several times but peope do have bisexual fantasies they never actually acted on does that make them bisexuals lol "

well obviously you don't know. i'm just going off my morals and i like to have a clear conscience. i can trust in myself and that's the way i like to be.

i'm not even disappointed in liars any more, i expect them, it's why i don't meet much now. really cba to figure out who is a liar or not.

fantasies are different to experience in my book. you're bi if you've had experiences and want more of them, simple as that to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of the day, sex is just that!

Be it with 2 males, 2 females, ! Male and 2 females etc..

When all this 'labeling' ends and everyone just enjoys what they are doing, the world will be a much better place to be.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I think it's your own choice, same as it's your choice who you sleep with and what you tell them about past partners, your thoughts on who you're attracted to are personal and private "

What about the choice of those who don't want to have sex with bi men? Effectively if a man lies about his bisexualness and says he's straight when he isn't, he's taking that choice away.

Informed consent is the way forward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"oooooooo good question.

OP doesn't the first half of your sentence answer your opening post?

It is a sweeping generalisation to say that most on here are bi, on what do you base such a claim?

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By *ureTemptationWoman
over a year ago

Off the grid

Where do you draw the line? That's what I wonder.

I say straight on my profile. I've kissed a girl in the past. Tongues and everything.

Does this make me bi? Bi curious? It was over 20 years ago and I haven't done anything since.

Should I be "honest on my profile" in case I'm misleading people?

I think as an individual you have to try and respect other people's requirements.

But equally, there are a hell of a lot of people who lie or deceive on Fab. From compliments they don't mean, to saying they aren't married when they are, to being slightly optimistic about their height.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Where do you draw the line? That's what I wonder.

I say straight on my profile. I've kissed a girl in the past. Tongues and everything.

Does this make me bi? Bi curious? It was over 20 years ago and I haven't done anything since.

Should I be "honest on my profile" in case I'm misleading people?

I think as an individual you have to try and respect other people's requirements.

@ optimistic about their height! That made me chuckle!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's your own choice, same as it's your choice who you sleep with and what you tell them about past partners, your thoughts on who you're attracted to are personal and private

What about the choice of those who don't want to have sex with bi men? Effectively if a man lies about his bisexualness and says he's straight when he isn't, he's taking that choice away.

Informed consent is the way forward.

totally agree with this.

i meet less now because of liars, so what did the liars achieve?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

True u should be honest if asked but not everyone has the same moral compass but I don't judge it'd down to the individual and like I said this thread was about provoking a response and it's different to the usual generic threads on here

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"True u should be honest if asked but not everyone has the same moral compass but I don't judge it'd down to the individual and like I said this thread was about provoking a response and it's different to the usual generic threads on here "

Discussion and debate is always good!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

For the record I'm 5:6 not 5'5 lol found a missing inch the other day

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"Happy birthday op

thank u and yes it is common for bisexual men To do this as many females won't entertain them

It is not "common" - where is your statistical evidence? For your information and speaking from personal experience, "females" really enjoy the company of bisexual men.

Agree, I have been on holiday with 2 different bi sexual men and had a great time x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Discussion and debate is always good!

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it is but u do get people jumping to the wrong conclusion about you as the poster lol

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Discussion and debate is always good!

it is but u do get people jumping to the wrong conclusion about you as the poster lol"

I guess you have to think about your wording when you open a thread on a topic for debate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be honest ffs!

Then people can make an informed decision whether they want to meet you or not!

I would be annoyed if I found out someone I was snagging was big and they didn't tell me - or married etc...

I feel like taking pictures at flattering angles to make me look like a size 12 - but what's the point!?

I know it's a sex site but I want to know what I'm getting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shagging *

Not snagging ffs

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By *ureTemptationWoman
over a year ago

Off the grid

"Shagging *

Not snagging ffs

Snagging kinda worked though.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Well its dishonest, by definition. You aren't being honest about your sexuality.

MrB

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Discussion and debate is always good!

it is but u do get people jumping to the wrong conclusion about you as the poster lol

I guess you have to think about your wording when you open a thread on a topic for debate.

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yep I should really proof read what I put but I'm a bit of fantasist that can't control myself and I'm stuck in my own little world today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shagging *

Not snagging ffs

Snagging kinda worked though.

I also meant to say bi not big

Bloody phone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it is but think this site lot of guys are not honest anyway.

All i get mostly is 'straight' guys message me asking if i want a discreet blowjob or want to take their anal virginity so take what's written on guys bio now with a pinch of salt even if it says not looking for men. ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dishonest. Your one or the other. You can't be both.

*only my opinion.

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By *ackandkateCouple
over a year ago

Truro

All I got to say to OP is that it's your cock so you decide where you shove it and who can suck it

If anyone believes all they read on here then more fool them

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

It wouldn't bother me,but would you admit to that really hot couple that wants to meet you but won't meet bi men if they asked if you were?

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

I personally feel you should respect people's rights to judge you as what you really are.

Let's face it, if you say straight on here and are really bi, and are getting meets from people who wouldn't otherwise play with you... you're basically playing with people who don't really want to meet you.

Some people just don't want to meet bi people. Conversely there are plenty that do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It wouldn't bother me,but would you admit to that really hot couple that wants to meet you but won't meet bi men if they asked if you were?"
lots won't male and female that's why I asked if it was wrong to keep your two personas separate on different sites and not divulge it

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