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International Men's Day

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Is today, it is focusing on male suicide and they have laid out 247 shoes symbolising the male suicides that have occurred this month...

All I wanted to say was as much as we all rock regardless what gender we are...Men you are getting a high 5 from mr today

Also if you are going through a shit time don't be afraid to talk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surprised this hasn't been outlawed.

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Surprised this hasn't been outlawed. "

Why would it?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Agreed. Don't be ashamed to ask for help if you need it.

You're not alone. You're not weak or any of the other things you might think of yourself.

1 in 4 people suffer from mental health problems at some stage in their lives.

Domestic abuse perpetrated by women against men is far from uncommon and is under-reported.

Whatever the issues you face, help is out there.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Men's mental health is something inactivmy speak about

I have had my own anxiety and stress issues in the past

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men do get a rough ride when it comes to issues like depression and body confidence. It's good to see some male plus-size models breaking out into the scene now.

Squeeze those men in your life a little bit tighter today, folks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men's mental health is something inactivmy speak about

I have had my own anxiety and stress issues in the past

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My ex suffered from depression. He got the help he needed. Eventually.

So many men don't talk about things. Hopefully raising awareness will help with this.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Men's mental health is something inactivmy speak about

I have had my own anxiety and stress issues in the past

My ex suffered from depression. He got the help he needed. Eventually.

So many men don't talk about things. Hopefully raising awareness will help with this. "

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"Surprised this hasn't been outlawed.

Why would it? "

Exactly ,its not discussed enough.There has been a big campaign in Rugby league about this recently.

Miss

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Surprised this hasn't been outlawed.

Why would it?

Exactly ,its not discussed enough.There has been a big campaign in Rugby league about this recently.

Miss"

I agree I see far too many men go through struggles and don't talk about it and often respond with "I'm fine" you can see that they are not...they choose to go down the pub etc...good on rugby league as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best thing I ever did was talk to someone. When my gorgeous wife was taken from us I was descending in to a very dangerous spiral until a lovely young lady at work just took the time to sit and have coffee with me sometimes. I felt guilty at first but there was never anything sexual and slowly but surely she brought me out of myself just by being a friend.

For anyone who wants to know what makes me tick, here's my story:

She was taken from me suddenly. Brain haemorrhage. Anyone who says loss gets easier with time is a liar. The space between the times you missed them just grow longer, and when you do remember to miss them again it's still with a stabbing pain to the heart. And there's the guilt. Guilt because it's been too long since you last missed them.

The best way I can describe trying to move on is like having a massive pile of rocks dumped in your front garden. Every day you walk out and see the rocks, there sharp and ugly and heavy but you just have to learn to live around them the best way you can. Some people plant moss or ivy to brighten up the pile, some just leave it be and feel the same emotions every day without ever doing anything about it.

Through nothing more than talking to that gorgeous woman, it gradually felt like I was taking the rocks one by one and building a wall around my garden with them. I like my garden now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The best thing I ever did was talk to someone. When my gorgeous wife was taken from us I was descending in to a very dangerous spiral until a lovely young lady at work just took the time to sit and have coffee with me sometimes. I felt guilty at first but there was never anything sexual and slowly but surely she brought me out of myself just by being a friend.

For anyone who wants to know what makes me tick, here's my story:

She was taken from me suddenly. Brain haemorrhage. Anyone who says loss gets easier with time is a liar. The space between the times you missed them just grow longer, and when you do remember to miss them again it's still with a stabbing pain to the heart. And there's the guilt. Guilt because it's been too long since you last missed them.

The best way I can describe trying to move on is like having a massive pile of rocks dumped in your front garden. Every day you walk out and see the rocks, there sharp and ugly and heavy but you just have to learn to live around them the best way you can. Some people plant moss or ivy to brighten up the pile, some just leave it be and feel the same emotions every day without ever doing anything about it.

Through nothing more than talking to that gorgeous woman, it gradually felt like I was taking the rocks one by one and building a wall around my garden with them. I like my garden now "

What a lovely way of describing it. Should I lose anyone close to me I'm going to build memorial gardens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy international chaps day chums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reaching out for help is an act of strength not weakness

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Surprised this hasn't been outlawed.

Why would it?

Exactly ,its not discussed enough.There has been a big campaign in Rugby league about this recently.

Miss

I agree I see far too many men go through struggles and don't talk about it and often respond with "I'm fine" you can see that they are not...they choose to go down the pub etc...good on rugby league as well. "

I am fine - I used that a line when I was struggerling

Mates would ask me out, I said I was fine. I used to get pissed of with everyone asking was I alright - I clearly wasn't but I found it hard to say NO I am not ok, I need help

A breakdown in a meeting in the office was the last straw that made me snap. 2 months of work, and Counceling helped. I had to learn to open up. I am better than I was - i still have the odd grey day but i manage that through either gym or walking

Football should also do more. There have been footballers that have struggled and nothing had been done to help

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold


"Men do get a rough ride when it comes to issues like depression and body confidence. It's good to see some male plus-size models breaking out into the scene now.

Squeeze those men in your life a little bit tighter today, folks!

"

Just watch out for my ribs

Sometimes it feels that as a man you can't win.

Much of society expects you to be strong and silent, the bread winner, provider and rock.

When you do have a weakness you're not allowed to show it.

I've struggled over the years trying to be all of the above, and felt a failure when I haven't.

It's irrational, and nonsensical.

Don't be afraid to show your emotions, seek help from family, friends or even strangers.

Reach out and don't be afraid.

Celebrate who you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Minxy snogs & booby hugs to all you fabulous dudes

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"The best thing I ever did was talk to someone. When my gorgeous wife was taken from us I was descending in to a very dangerous spiral until a lovely young lady at work just took the time to sit and have coffee with me sometimes. I felt guilty at first but there was never anything sexual and slowly but surely she brought me out of myself just by being a friend.

For anyone who wants to know what makes me tick, here's my story:

She was taken from me suddenly. Brain haemorrhage. Anyone who says loss gets easier with time is a liar. The space between the times you missed them just grow longer, and when you do remember to miss them again it's still with a stabbing pain to the heart. And there's the guilt. Guilt because it's been too long since you last missed them.

The best way I can describe trying to move on is like having a massive pile of rocks dumped in your front garden. Every day you walk out and see the rocks, there sharp and ugly and heavy but you just have to learn to live around them the best way you can. Some people plant moss or ivy to brighten up the pile, some just leave it be and feel the same emotions every day without ever doing anything about it.

Through nothing more than talking to that gorgeous woman, it gradually felt like I was taking the rocks one by one and building a wall around my garden with them. I like my garden now

What a lovely way of describing it. Should I lose anyone close to me I'm going to build memorial gardens "

The problem comes when someone believes it would be disrespectful to the person lost to move the rocks or move on. They think they should never be happy again. If they let go of the pain, they are letting go of the person.

I'm going through this with a member of my family at the moment. They feel they owe it to the memory of the person not to move on and never to stop feeling the very worst of the loss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suicide prevention, is a very important part of the work that needs to be done to help men of today accept who and what they are, most men have a hard time living up to the perceived image of what a man is, we can't all be David Beckham with his amazing looks and those free kicks, not all of us cascasn be bear grills, and be able to make a shelter out of a bit of dstring and a dead moose.

Men are men, no matter what they do for a living, or hobbies, your no less of a man just because you like flower arranging, or cried at the end of love actually, you are still a whole person.

We still live with preconceived ideas of what men and women should be, men like football and drinking and fighting, women like shoes, shopping and bitching about other women, we need to stop dividing up the planet into gender groups, and look at each other as people, and the same goes for race, religion, and srxual orientation.

We all have to accept others, but more importantly, accept yourself, accept who and what you are, David Beckham and bear grills are amazing people, but I doubt they would have a clue if they did your job for a day, so be happy that you are a better plasterer than Beck's, and admire the fact that if bear grills was to work in your office, he would have to be shown how to do tbhe things you do without thinking about them, were all made for different things, do what you do, but don't wory about what others can do, just let them do it, we all have our talents

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Men have a tendency to keep problems to themselves. They go 'into their cave' in times of stress.

This can be dangerous for us.

Hopefully a day highlighting this will help people who feel stuck 'alone' with their problems.

MrB

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By *obwithkiltMan
over a year ago

Belton

When I had my first visit from Harry my black dog it was my then wife who just held me as I finally broke down after the post had been delivered.. Friends were shocked, some helped in small ways-others just didn't know what to say or do around me.

A small group of friends, a couple of them really blokey just kept a close eye on me, dragged me out 'just for some air'.. One said a couple of years ago that watching me made him look at himself and go and get help "I realised that I wasn't alone and never would be.. We should be able to shout about this it would help so many more"

Harry walks with me occasionally rest of time sleeping in front of the fire

Stay strong chaps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not alone. Samaritans is a really good resource is you are struggling. Freephone number is 116 123, confidential, anonymous, non-judgemental support.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice post, OP.

It's ok not to be ok!

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