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Skin hunger -- all about the hug!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

'Most of us are familiar with the experience of “skin hunger,” whether or not we have ever given it a name or were even aware it had one. It's that deep longing and aching desire for physical contact with another person. Of all of the senses, touch is considered the first we acquire and our skin is our largest sensory organ. Just as seeing a beautiful sunset can move a person to inexplicable tears, or hearing beautiful music can reach into one’s soul, or tasting exquisite food can tantalize and amuse the palate as well as satisfying one's appetite, being wrapped in the warm embrace of someone you trust can fulfill a wide range of emotional and physical needs you might not have even realized you had.

When you think about piles of puppies, sleeping kitties, or those laboratory monkeys forced to choose between a “wire mother” who provided food or a “cloth mother” that only offered sensory and tactile support—and who chose emotional nourishment over food—it is clear that tactile stimulation and close contact with others is necessary to our well-being. The almost universal desire to wrap tiny babies in embraces is an example of how we all long to be close to another. Yet as we get older, there may be fewer and fewer opportunities to satisfy our hunger for the touch of another human being. In fact, some geriatric care centers have begun programs in which hugs are provided on a regular basis to make sure skin hunger does not go unsatisfied. (Hugs, of course, are only well-received when they come from individuals in whom we safely can place our trust.)

So what does all this mean for us?

First, we know that a hug can calm us when we are stressed:

In empirical studies, researchers have found that an embrace functions as a protective layer against stress. In controlled studies comparing individuals who had and had not received a hug from their romantic partners prior to a stressful event, those who had enjoyed a warm embrace showed lower stress reactions to stressful situations. And huggers had smaller increases in their blood pressure—both systolic and diastolic numbers.

We are calmed by the comforting touch of another. An embrace before facing common stress triggers can protect against increased heart rates. It’s been shown, too, that the effects of a hug can last longer than just the moment or two immediately after it occurs; one researcher suggested that a warm hug between romantic partners every morning can have a positive affect that lasts the full day. You can add a “one-a-day hug” to your “one-a-day vitamin” routine and really boost your well-being.

Hugs have also been shown to increase the production of oxytocin in humans; this is the hormone that positively influences our bonding and nurturing behaviors. Its presence in the bloodstream has been shown to positively affect older adults living in assisted care facilities. And in clinical trials, researchers found that individuals receiving oxytocin showed less fatigue, greater dispositional gratitude, and steadier physical functioning than those receiving a placebo. This suggests that the signs and symptoms of aging may be mediated by supportive physical touch. Some researchers have begun looking at the role of oxytocin in fostering the warm relationship between grandparent and grandchild. But regardless of age or stage, a hug is a sure-fire well-being booster shot.

Getting a warm hug of support from someone we trust in a moment of stress can instantly calm us; being the one giving a hug to someone who needs one can also bring you a surge of well-being. Humans need physical contact, and we all experience skin hunger that needs satisfying—whether you are cuddling a tiny infant or gently embracing your great-grandmother, you are providing a little bit of comfort, stress reduction, and healing.

Just close your eyes and say, "Ahhhhh!"

So.....who wants a hug? ((((hugs))))

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I read the first three lines...

When I was celibate for all those years I went for regular massages, not just because I need and like them but because I wanted to ensure I was still touched (and not sexually).

I love hug. If you're craving, OP, let my friend know - he gives good hugs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't crave hugs from people, but I do miss having a dog to pet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

an ex use to say I was only going out with her to hug her

I'm a hugger

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I read the first three lines...

When I was celibate for all those years I went for regular massages, not just because I need and like them but because I wanted to ensure I was still touched (and not sexually).

I love hug. If you're craving, OP, let my friend know - he gives good hugs. "

Sorry! It was a bit long but I thought it an accessible and good read!

Hugs rule!

Look at you pimping out the man hugs -- loving your work!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't crave hugs from people, but I do miss having a dog to pet. "

I spent last week catching up with dog hugs and having them curl up on my legs whilst I watched a movie.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"an ex use to say I was only going out with her to hug her

I'm a hugger "

Well I'll be huggered! You goo-ball, you!

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

Hugs are great....

You could hug 30 people in succession and every hug would feel different, same as kissing 30 people...but some would stand out...chemistry is beautiful

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hugs are great....

You could hug 30 people in succession and every hug would feel different, same as kissing 30 people...but some would stand out...chemistry is beautiful"

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I read the first three lines...

When I was celibate for all those years I went for regular massages, not just because I need and like them but because I wanted to ensure I was still touched (and not sexually).

I love hug. If you're craving, OP, let my friend know - he gives good hugs.

Sorry! It was a bit long but I thought it an accessible and good read!

Hugs rule!

Look at you pimping out the man hugs -- loving your work! "

You know he won't mind.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Hugs are great....

You could hug 30 people in succession and every hug would feel different, same as kissing 30 people...but some would stand out...chemistry is beautiful

"

I had a thread a year or so ago trying to gauge the interest for a hugging social.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hugs are great....

You could hug 30 people in succession and every hug would feel different, same as kissing 30 people...but some would stand out...chemistry is beautiful

I had a thread a year or so ago trying to gauge the interest for a hugging social.

"

We should totally restart that! I'm in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing better at de stressing me than 'Daddy I want a cuddle'.

Getting home to a big hug from the little person is a total joy.

But I always have room for more hugs

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Yes please.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nothing better at de stressing me than 'Daddy I want a cuddle'.

Getting home to a big hug from the little person is a total joy.

But I always have room for more hugs"

Come in for one now....!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes please."

(((((feminist hugs)))))

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ive been cuddling today.

When my son was born he was a prem baby and i wasnt allowed to take him out his incubater to cuddle him. So i used to sit there and through the portholes i used to sit there all day just stroking his back.

Now all through his life from being a baby to a stroppy teenager whatever stresses the only thing to calm him down was ne stroking his back. Right till the day he left home he would come and lay on the bed for his half hour stroke

Im going to stay with him at the weekend, hes 26 and father of two and i can guarantee at some point he will ask me to stroke him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing better at de stressing me than 'Daddy I want a cuddle'.

Getting home to a big hug from the little person is a total joy.

But I always have room for more hugs

Come in for one now....! "

Arms wide and warm chest waiting...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ive been cuddling today.

When my son was born he was a prem baby and i wasnt allowed to take him out his incubater to cuddle him. So i used to sit there and through the portholes i used to sit there all day just stroking his back.

Now all through his life from being a baby to a stroppy teenager whatever stresses the only thing to calm him down was ne stroking his back. Right till the day he left home he would come and lay on the bed for his half hour stroke

Im going to stay with him at the weekend, hes 26 and father of two and i can guarantee at some point he will ask me to stroke him"

Awww that's lovely.

My mother used to sing me lullabies as I drifted off to sleep, whilst stroking the inside of my forearm -- in a similar fashion. And yes, I still love it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nothing better at de stressing me than 'Daddy I want a cuddle'.

Getting home to a big hug from the little person is a total joy.

But I always have room for more hugs

Come in for one now....!

Arms wide and warm chest waiting..."

Snuggles in

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

Should a hugathon be in total silence and blindfolded... then in each hug, you could just feel the moment

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Should a hugathon be in total silence and blindfolded... then in each hug, you could just feel the moment"

I like oooohs and ahhhhs and eye contact on the lunge though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I miss regular naked spooning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I miss regular naked spooning. "

Does that count?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like hugs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I miss regular naked spooning.

Does that count? "

Totally counts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like hugs "

Well, you are a lover of fun.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Oooh I love hugs, apparently it takes 20 seconds for oxytocin to be released, so you have to have LOOOONG hugs, or preferably spoooning!!

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Hereabouts


"In empirical studies, researchers have found that an embrace functions as a protective layer against stress."

That explains why crawling into bed and spooning feels like literally all my stress is evaporating out of my skin. The more stress I've had in a day, the more relief I feel from a cuddle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel strange sometimes because I don't like hugging people. I never have. I cuddle with Marc, but hugging isn't something I'm into. I think growing up in NYC made me very protective of my personal space in odd ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like hugs

Well, you are a lover of fun."

Love hugs better though

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By *rimo4uMan
over a year ago

north kensington w10


"I like hugs "

Me to guy, but it's been wow probably two year since the last. can't wait until it happens though!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I feel strange sometimes because I don't like hugging people. I never have. I cuddle with Marc, but hugging isn't something I'm into. I think growing up in NYC made me very protective of my personal space in odd ways. "

Oh yeah, I don't hug anyone, it has to be the right people!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I'm not good at hugs but I'm getting better with practice.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

Oh I so miss hugs. I am one of those people who craves skin on skin contact. I think it's because I've spent way too much of my life without it. I may want sex and the more intimate stuff but hugs are what I need.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm longing for a two armed hold me close squeeze hug that lasts for as long as I require.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I feel strange sometimes because I don't like hugging people. I never have. I cuddle with Marc, but hugging isn't something I'm into. I think growing up in NYC made me very protective of my personal space in odd ways. "

Is that perhaps like the bit in the brackets in the article, that it's important that the hug is from someone trusted and that ensures safety perhaps? Although I know someone who cannot stand hugs not even to be touched. It goes without saying you should never presume to touch someone else without consent...but hugging is one of those ones that many people *think* they can foist on others -- not cool! It's a favourite topic in professional boundaries training (e.g. Social care and similar professions) the whole do you accept the client hug or not question....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oooh I love hugs, apparently it takes 20 seconds for oxytocin to be released, so you have to have LOOOONG hugs, or preferably spoooning!! "

Spooning is best.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In empirical studies, researchers have found that an embrace functions as a protective layer against stress.

That explains why crawling into bed and spooning feels like literally all my stress is evaporating out of my skin. The more stress I've had in a day, the more relief I feel from a cuddle. "

Yup. Totally this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cannot understand anyone who doesnt like hugging, either from a child, a parent or lover. I guess it can depend how you have been brought up though.

I adore hugs.. and right now .. i need that hug.. or hugs bad.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like hugs

Me to guy, but it's been wow probably two year since the last. can't wait until it happens though! "

((hug))

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh I so miss hugs. I am one of those people who craves skin on skin contact. I think it's because I've spent way too much of my life without it. I may want sex and the more intimate stuff but hugs are what I need."

Would you like a sideorder of intimate stuff with this ((hug)) ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm longing for a two armed hold me close squeeze hug that lasts for as long as I require. "

(((((huuuuuuugggggggg)))))

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I cannot understand anyone who doesnt like hugging, either from a child, a parent or lover. I guess it can depend how you have been brought up though.

I adore hugs.. and right now .. i need that hug.. or hugs bad.

"

Kisses and (((hugs)))

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By *eliz NelsonMan
over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop


"Should a hugathon be in total silence and blindfolded... then in each hug, you could just feel the moment

I like oooohs and ahhhhs and eye contact on the lunge though! "

Agreed!

But....if blindfolded and silent....you may find a hug, where it felt so right and the scent was intoxicating, where without blindfold and communicating, that moment could be missed

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"Oh I so miss hugs. I am one of those people who craves skin on skin contact. I think it's because I've spent way too much of my life without it. I may want sex and the more intimate stuff but hugs are what I need.

Would you like a sideorder of intimate stuff with this ((hug)) ? "

I think you already know the answer to that question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel strange sometimes because I don't like hugging people. I never have. I cuddle with Marc, but hugging isn't something I'm into. I think growing up in NYC made me very protective of my personal space in odd ways.

Is that perhaps like the bit in the brackets in the article, that it's important that the hug is from someone trusted and that ensures safety perhaps? Although I know someone who cannot stand hugs not even to be touched. It goes without saying you should never presume to touch someone else without consent...but hugging is one of those ones that many people *think* they can foist on others -- not cool! It's a favourite topic in professional boundaries training (e.g. Social care and similar professions) the whole do you accept the client hug or not question.... "

Hmmm, it's possible. The thing is I don't even really hug the people I trust (Marc being the exception). I'm trying to condition myself out of feeling awkward about it, though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As Brian Ferry sang...."Whoaoh,can't you see,the hug is the drug that's got a hold on me"...or something like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could do with a hug about now. Not left the General in Southampton for 6 days as wife is fighting for life.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Oh I so miss hugs. I am one of those people who craves skin on skin contact. I think it's because I've spent way too much of my life without it. I may want sex and the more intimate stuff but hugs are what I need."

Come and help me practice then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great read, post and topic. I have always sworn by the benefits of hugging for both involved. Love it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I feel strange sometimes because I don't like hugging people. I never have. I cuddle with Marc, but hugging isn't something I'm into. I think growing up in NYC made me very protective of my personal space in odd ways.

Is that perhaps like the bit in the brackets in the article, that it's important that the hug is from someone trusted and that ensures safety perhaps? Although I know someone who cannot stand hugs not even to be touched. It goes without saying you should never presume to touch someone else without consent...but hugging is one of those ones that many people *think* they can foist on others -- not cool! It's a favourite topic in professional boundaries training (e.g. Social care and similar professions) the whole do you accept the client hug or not question....

Hmmm, it's possible. The thing is I don't even really hug the people I trust (Marc being the exception). I'm trying to condition myself out of feeling awkward about it, though."

Certainly not something to feel awkward about!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As Brian Ferry sang...."Whoaoh,can't you see,the hug is the drug that's got a hold on me"...or something like that "

You had me at Brian (or is it Bryan?) Ferry -- I have bit of a Roxy Music crush on him!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Could do with a hug about now. Not left the General in Southampton for 6 days as wife is fighting for life. "

Oh gosh! (((HUGS)))

Sending you both and strength.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Could do with a hug about now. Not left the General in Southampton for 6 days as wife is fighting for life. "

Sorry to hear and hope she pulls through, big hugs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Great read, post and topic. I have always sworn by the benefits of hugging for both involved. Love it"

I do so a hug

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh I so miss hugs. I am one of those people who craves skin on skin contact. I think it's because I've spent way too much of my life without it. I may want sex and the more intimate stuff but hugs are what I need.

Would you like a sideorder of intimate stuff with this ((hug)) ?

I think you already know the answer to that question "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Should a hugathon be in total silence and blindfolded... then in each hug, you could just feel the moment

I like oooohs and ahhhhs and eye contact on the lunge though!

Agreed!

But....if blindfolded and silent....you may find a hug, where it felt so right and the scent was intoxicating, where without blindfold and communicating, that moment could be missed"

''Tis a good point -- love that you've included scent there too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As Brian Ferry sang...."Whoaoh,can't you see,the hug is the drug that's got a hold on me"...or something like that

You had me at Brian (or is it Bryan?) Ferry -- I have bit of a Roxy Music crush on him!! "

Dunno how he spells his name but he's one cool customer for sure

Top Roxy Music tracks for me are...

Do The Strand

Amazonia

Virginia Plain

Love Is The Drug

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel strange sometimes because I don't like hugging people. I never have. I cuddle with Marc, but hugging isn't something I'm into. I think growing up in NYC made me very protective of my personal space in odd ways.

Is that perhaps like the bit in the brackets in the article, that it's important that the hug is from someone trusted and that ensures safety perhaps? Although I know someone who cannot stand hugs not even to be touched. It goes without saying you should never presume to touch someone else without consent...but hugging is one of those ones that many people *think* they can foist on others -- not cool! It's a favourite topic in professional boundaries training (e.g. Social care and similar professions) the whole do you accept the client hug or not question.... "

I really struggle with contact, even with my wife. It's been commented on before by others that in social situations or work meetings that I cross my arms a lot, and that can be seen as closed of, even aggressive. But in effect I'm hugging myself due to being stressed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I feel strange sometimes because I don't like hugging people. I never have. I cuddle with Marc, but hugging isn't something I'm into. I think growing up in NYC made me very protective of my personal space in odd ways.

Is that perhaps like the bit in the brackets in the article, that it's important that the hug is from someone trusted and that ensures safety perhaps? Although I know someone who cannot stand hugs not even to be touched. It goes without saying you should never presume to touch someone else without consent...but hugging is one of those ones that many people *think* they can foist on others -- not cool! It's a favourite topic in professional boundaries training (e.g. Social care and similar professions) the whole do you accept the client hug or not question....

I really struggle with contact, even with my wife. It's been commented on before by others that in social situations or work meetings that I cross my arms a lot, and that can be seen as closed of, even aggressive. But in effect I'm hugging myself due to being stressed. "

I've been reading up a lot of Simon Baron Cohen's work now -- and that makes sense the self-comforting/self-hug in order to alleviate anxiety and stress -- isn't it fascinating that it's still a similar-esque action -- a self-hug -- that de-stresses regardless of the fact you're not seeking it from someone else..?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I feel strange sometimes because I don't like hugging people. I never have. I cuddle with Marc, but hugging isn't something I'm into. I think growing up in NYC made me very protective of my personal space in odd ways.

Is that perhaps like the bit in the brackets in the article, that it's important that the hug is from someone trusted and that ensures safety perhaps? Although I know someone who cannot stand hugs not even to be touched. It goes without saying you should never presume to touch someone else without consent...but hugging is one of those ones that many people *think* they can foist on others -- not cool! It's a favourite topic in professional boundaries training (e.g. Social care and similar professions) the whole do you accept the client hug or not question....

I really struggle with contact, even with my wife. It's been commented on before by others that in social situations or work meetings that I cross my arms a lot, and that can be seen as closed of, even aggressive. But in effect I'm hugging myself due to being stressed. "

It's common for people to hug themselves without realising. I know I'm stressed and soothing myself when I catch myself cupping my left breast.

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By *rimo4uMan
over a year ago

north kensington w10


"I like hugs

Me to guy, but it's been wow probably two year since the last. can't wait until it happens though!

((hug))"

BIG HUG back! Wow felt good!

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

To all who have posted "hugs"

I do love to receive a good hug, some people are better at hugging than others.

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home

We hug a lot in our family. I'm a very touchy person. Maybe is cultural thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

at work im called the hug machine - everybody comes to me for a hug - love it

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Full scale serious hugger here.....

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.


"Could do with a hug about now. Not left the General in Southampton for 6 days as wife is fighting for life. "

Sorry to read that....I'm sending you both cyber hugs xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm spoilt for hugs from my children, and not looking forward to the day they get too big to give their old mum a hug.

My dog also cuddles in on my lap for his snooze time.

I do miss the arms of a man though.

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We took our kids to see the new film 'trolls' a couple of weeks ago. They have hug alarms on their wrists that go off every hour or so and everyone just hugs .

This should be law !

Sending you a massive hug n kiss Estella xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I miss regular naked spooning. "

Skin-on-skin spooning is the best...

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I'd give up sex for hugs

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over a year ago

Do you know what, this post actually made me a bit tearful.

I'm so into cuddles, I'm really affectionate and I've just realised I've not been hugged properly in a really long time, by anyone.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

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"'Most of us are familiar with the experience of “skin hunger,” whether or not we have ever given it a name or were even aware it had one. It's that deep longing and aching desire for physical contact with another person. Of all of the senses, touch is considered the first we acquire and our skin is our largest sensory organ. Just as seeing a beautiful sunset can move a person to inexplicable tears, or hearing beautiful music can reach into one’s soul, or tasting exquisite food can tantalize and amuse the palate as well as satisfying one's appetite, being wrapped in the warm embrace of someone you trust can fulfill a wide range of emotional and physical needs you might not have even realized you had.

When you think about piles of puppies, sleeping kitties, or those laboratory monkeys forced to choose between a “wire mother” who provided food or a “cloth mother” that only offered sensory and tactile support—and who chose emotional nourishment over food—it is clear that tactile stimulation and close contact with others is necessary to our well-being. The almost universal desire to wrap tiny babies in embraces is an example of how we all long to be close to another. Yet as we get older, there may be fewer and fewer opportunities to satisfy our hunger for the touch of another human being. In fact, some geriatric care centers have begun programs in which hugs are provided on a regular basis to make sure skin hunger does not go unsatisfied. (Hugs, of course, are only well-received when they come from individuals in whom we safely can place our trust.)

So what does all this mean for us?

First, we know that a hug can calm us when we are stressed:

In empirical studies, researchers have found that an embrace functions as a protective layer against stress. In controlled studies comparing individuals who had and had not received a hug from their romantic partners prior to a stressful event, those who had enjoyed a warm embrace showed lower stress reactions to stressful situations. And huggers had smaller increases in their blood pressure—both systolic and diastolic numbers.

We are calmed by the comforting touch of another. An embrace before facing common stress triggers can protect against increased heart rates. It’s been shown, too, that the effects of a hug can last longer than just the moment or two immediately after it occurs; one researcher suggested that a warm hug between romantic partners every morning can have a positive affect that lasts the full day. You can add a “one-a-day hug” to your “one-a-day vitamin” routine and really boost your well-being.

Hugs have also been shown to increase the production of oxytocin in humans; this is the hormone that positively influences our bonding and nurturing behaviors. Its presence in the bloodstream has been shown to positively affect older adults living in assisted care facilities. And in clinical trials, researchers found that individuals receiving oxytocin showed less fatigue, greater dispositional gratitude, and steadier physical functioning than those receiving a placebo. This suggests that the signs and symptoms of aging may be mediated by supportive physical touch. Some researchers have begun looking at the role of oxytocin in fostering the warm relationship between grandparent and grandchild. But regardless of age or stage, a hug is a sure-fire well-being booster shot.

Getting a warm hug of support from someone we trust in a moment of stress can instantly calm us; being the one giving a hug to someone who needs one can also bring you a surge of well-being. Humans need physical contact, and we all experience skin hunger that needs satisfying—whether you are cuddling a tiny infant or gently embracing your great-grandmother, you are providing a little bit of comfort, stress reduction, and healing.

Just close your eyes and say, "Ahhhhh!"

So.....who wants a hug? ((((hugs))))"

your preaching to the converted I fully understand the chemicals of a hug by that I mean what happens in the brain .

I also understand the chemicals of sex especially D/s sex .

but I also think there is a deeper nourishing going on to do with our eternal soul needing to touch another soul, as on this plan of existence its hard to do that I think our physical form is designed to allow us to feel a fraction of our souls in the act of the physical interactions such as hugs and sex .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have craved a hug recently

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To all who have posted "hugs"

I do love to receive a good hug, some people are better at hugging than others.

"

Try one of mine...

((hug))

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We hug a lot in our family. I'm a very touchy person. Maybe is cultural thing "

Fancy a f...hug?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"at work im called the hug machine - everybody comes to me for a hug - love it"

Ooooh the hug machine!!! Fabulous!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Full scale serious hugger here....."

Now that's commitment! Well done

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm spoilt for hugs from my children, and not looking forward to the day they get too big to give their old mum a hug.

My dog also cuddles in on my lap for his snooze time.

I do miss the arms of a man though. "

Roll up men....hugs required!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We took our kids to see the new film 'trolls' a couple of weeks ago. They have hug alarms on their wrists that go off every hour or so and everyone just hugs .

This should be law !

Sending you a massive hug n kiss Estella xx"

Awww and right back at ya! Mwahhh and (hug)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd give up sex for hugs"

I've decided you don't have to choose! Phew!! But I know what you mean.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you know what, this post actually made me a bit tearful.

I'm so into cuddles, I'm really affectionate and I've just realised I've not been hugged properly in a really long time, by anyone. "

Right missy, drink soon and I'm bringing hugs. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

your preaching to the converted I fully understand the chemicals of a hug by that I mean what happens in the brain .

I also understand the chemicals of sex especially D/s sex .

but I also think there is a deeper nourishing going on to do with our eternal soul needing to touch another soul, as on this plan of existence its hard to do that I think our physical form is designed to allow us to feel a fraction of our souls in the act of the physical interactions such as hugs and sex ."

Have a ((soul hug))

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By *iver2015Woman
over a year ago

middlesbrough

I love hugs!

I give most people a hug when I'm saying hello and goodbye. That's just normal for me and the people in my life. Maybe it's a Northern thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs are on me. I won't even reach down and cup a buttock while doing it

Honest

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have craved a hug recently

"

Have one of mine? (((hug)))

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I love hugs!

I give most people a hug when I'm saying hello and goodbye. That's just normal for me and the people in my life. Maybe it's a Northern thing? "

We do it in the south too! Hugs rule!

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over a year ago


"Hugs are on me. I won't even reach down and cup a buttock while doing it

Honest "

Lies.

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over a year ago


"Do you know what, this post actually made me a bit tearful.

I'm so into cuddles, I'm really affectionate and I've just realised I've not been hugged properly in a really long time, by anyone.

Right missy, drink soon and I'm bringing hugs. X"

Just bear hug me and talk to me in your Jazz FM voice! Haha!

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over a year ago


"Do you know what, this post actually made me a bit tearful.

I'm so into cuddles, I'm really affectionate and I've just realised I've not been hugged properly in a really long time, by anyone.

Right missy, drink soon and I'm bringing hugs. X

Just bear hug me and talk to me in your Jazz FM voice! Haha! "

Jazzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz!

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By *enny79TV/TS
over a year ago

chesterfield

I need lots of hugs a v huggie person here miss hugs sooooo much xx

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I read the first three lines...

When I was celibate for all those years I went for regular massages, not just because I need and like them but because I wanted to ensure I was still touched (and not sexually).

I love hug. If you're craving, OP, let my friend know - he gives good hugs. "

Best you Lickety - I read about five.

Yes op - I agree!

Without going too deep I was fed and clothed as a child but was never shown any affection at all - no hugs, goodnight kisses, bedtime stories etc! I think this is what caused me to be so promiscuous from age 17 to 22 (when I got pregnant with my daughter) - I craved affection and most young guys will only give that during sex! It took having my daughter and getting 'real' love and affection to break that cycle - and in the ensuing 20 years I slept with 2 people!

Obviously now I'm on fab I sleep with more than the 'real world' average number of guys - but due to me being a fussy cow and having the kids most of the time it's not that many!

What I'd like ideally is the thing I can't find - a 'significant other' to be genuinely in love with but not tied to 24/7 (I want alone time with my kids too) and someone emotionally monogamous but happy for us both to enjoy others occasionally (ie not another regular partner but 'one-off's') Can I find it - can I hell!!

In the meantime - Hugs anyone??

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By *ackspopCouple
over a year ago

Wymondham

Meet up a couple of times every year with the same group of people for music festivals: most of them always say how much they miss my hugs. It's nice to be appreciated (and I get to hug fabulous people too.. win-win!)

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

I miss and crave someone of my own to hug,wish I hadn't seen this thread now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amos Lee - arms of a woman.

https://youtu.be/Th4SwSpaRWU

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

That's the one thing I miss from my ex, he was a fabulous hugger! Men - if a woman asks for a hug, throw your arms round her, hold her tight, and DON'T LET GO til she does! !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I read the first three lines...

When I was celibate for all those years I went for regular massages, not just because I need and like them but because I wanted to ensure I was still touched (and not sexually).

I love hug. If you're craving, OP, let my friend know - he gives good hugs.

Best you Lickety - I read about five.

Yes op - I agree!

Without going too deep I was fed and clothed as a child but was never shown any affection at all - no hugs, goodnight kisses, bedtime stories etc! I think this is what caused me to be so promiscuous from age 17 to 22 (when I got pregnant with my daughter) - I craved affection and most young guys will only give that during sex! It took having my daughter and getting 'real' love and affection to break that cycle - and in the ensuing 20 years I slept with 2 people!

Obviously now I'm on fab I sleep with more than the 'real world' average number of guys - but due to me being a fussy cow and having the kids most of the time it's not that many!

What I'd like ideally is the thing I can't find - a 'significant other' to be genuinely in love with but not tied to 24/7 (I want alone time with my kids too) and someone emotionally monogamous but happy for us both to enjoy others occasionally (ie not another regular partner but 'one-off's') Can I find it - can I hell!!

In the meantime - Hugs anyone?? "

I'm looking for the same thing as you, I miss having someone special in my life

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I read the first three lines...

When I was celibate for all those years I went for regular massages, not just because I need and like them but because I wanted to ensure I was still touched (and not sexually).

I love hug. If you're craving, OP, let my friend know - he gives good hugs.

Best you Lickety - I read about five.

Yes op - I agree!

Without going too deep I was fed and clothed as a child but was never shown any affection at all - no hugs, goodnight kisses, bedtime stories etc! I think this is what caused me to be so promiscuous from age 17 to 22 (when I got pregnant with my daughter) - I craved affection and most young guys will only give that during sex! It took having my daughter and getting 'real' love and affection to break that cycle - and in the ensuing 20 years I slept with 2 people!

Obviously now I'm on fab I sleep with more than the 'real world' average number of guys - but due to me being a fussy cow and having the kids most of the time it's not that many!

What I'd like ideally is the thing I can't find - a 'significant other' to be genuinely in love with but not tied to 24/7 (I want alone time with my kids too) and someone emotionally monogamous but happy for us both to enjoy others occasionally (ie not another regular partner but 'one-off's') Can I find it - can I hell!!

In the meantime - Hugs anyone??

I'm looking for the same thing as you, I miss having someone special in my life "

Then I very much hope we BOTH find it lovely! You're a lovely person! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Group hug?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Group hug? "

Ah go on then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hugs are on me. I won't even reach down and cup a buttock while doing it

Honest

Lies. "

Innocent until proven guilty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I read the first three lines...

When I was celibate for all those years I went for regular massages, not just because I need and like them but because I wanted to ensure I was still touched (and not sexually).

I love hug. If you're craving, OP, let my friend know - he gives good hugs.

Best you Lickety - I read about five.

Yes op - I agree!

Without going too deep I was fed and clothed as a child but was never shown any affection at all - no hugs, goodnight kisses, bedtime stories etc! I think this is what caused me to be so promiscuous from age 17 to 22 (when I got pregnant with my daughter) - I craved affection and most young guys will only give that during sex! It took having my daughter and getting 'real' love and affection to break that cycle - and in the ensuing 20 years I slept with 2 people!

Obviously now I'm on fab I sleep with more than the 'real world' average number of guys - but due to me being a fussy cow and having the kids most of the time it's not that many!

What I'd like ideally is the thing I can't find - a 'significant other' to be genuinely in love with but not tied to 24/7 (I want alone time with my kids too) and someone emotionally monogamous but happy for us both to enjoy others occasionally (ie not another regular partner but 'one-off's') Can I find it - can I hell!!

In the meantime - Hugs anyone??

I'm looking for the same thing as you, I miss having someone special in my life

Then I very much hope we BOTH find it lovely! You're a lovely person! Xx"

Thank you. That goes for you too xx

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk


"I read the first three lines...

When I was celibate for all those years I went for regular massages, not just because I need and like them but because I wanted to ensure I was still touched (and not sexually).

I love hug. If you're craving, OP, let my friend know - he gives good hugs.

"

Can relate completely to the top paragraph...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Group hug?

Ah go on then. "

Room for two more ?

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Group hug?

Ah go on then.

Room for two more ? "

Hell yes!!

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I read the first three lines...

When I was celibate for all those years I went for regular massages, not just because I need and like them but because I wanted to ensure I was still touched (and not sexually).

I love hug. If you're craving, OP, let my friend know - he gives good hugs.

Best you Lickety - I read about five.

Yes op - I agree!

Without going too deep I was fed and clothed as a child but was never shown any affection at all - no hugs, goodnight kisses, bedtime stories etc! I think this is what caused me to be so promiscuous from age 17 to 22 (when I got pregnant with my daughter) - I craved affection and most young guys will only give that during sex! It took having my daughter and getting 'real' love and affection to break that cycle - and in the ensuing 20 years I slept with 2 people!

Obviously now I'm on fab I sleep with more than the 'real world' average number of guys - but due to me being a fussy cow and having the kids most of the time it's not that many!

What I'd like ideally is the thing I can't find - a 'significant other' to be genuinely in love with but not tied to 24/7 (I want alone time with my kids too) and someone emotionally monogamous but happy for us both to enjoy others occasionally (ie not another regular partner but 'one-off's') Can I find it - can I hell!!

In the meantime - Hugs anyone??

I'm looking for the same thing as you, I miss having someone special in my life

Then I very much hope we BOTH find it lovely! You're a lovely person! Xx

Thank you. That goes for you too xx"

Well should we ever meet at a social let's save each other a great big hug!

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...

Can I join this hug please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Group hug?

Ah go on then.

Room for two more ?

Hell yes!! "

I feel this may turn into more of a grope than a hug, but I am totally cool with that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love a hug but just can't find a smaller spoon ???

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over a year ago


"Group hug?

Ah go on then.

Room for two more ?

Hell yes!!

I feel this may turn into more of a grope than a hug, but I am totally cool with that! "

Oh to be an octopus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I join this hug please "

Your our +1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Group hug?

Ah go on then.

Room for two more ?

Hell yes!!

I feel this may turn into more of a grope than a hug, but I am totally cool with that! "

I should not. I'm not a piece of meat to be groped at.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Group hug?

Ah go on then.

Room for two more ?

Hell yes!!

I feel this may turn into more of a grope than a hug, but I am totally cool with that! "

Grope hug - group hug!

Semantics!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Group hug?

Ah go on then.

Room for two more ?

Hell yes!!

I feel this may turn into more of a grope than a hug, but I am totally cool with that!

I should not. I'm not a piece of meat to be groped at. "

Thats immaterial dear hatter, now get in the middle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Group hug?

Ah go on then.

Room for two more ?

Hell yes!!

I feel this may turn into more of a grope than a hug, but I am totally cool with that!

I should not. I'm not a piece of meat to be groped at.

Thats immaterial dear hatter, now get in the middle "

Oh okay then.

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By *enny79TV/TS
over a year ago

chesterfield


"Group hug?

Ah go on then.

Room for two more ?

Hell yes!!

I feel this may turn into more of a grope than a hug, but I am totally cool with that!

I should not. I'm not a piece of meat to be groped at.

Thats immaterial dear hatter, now get in the middle

Oh okay then. "

Room for a little one xxx

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

This explains so much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think of it a bit like vitamin D. Your skin needs the touch of another person's skin like it needs the touch of the sun. Not too much, just the right amount

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'Most of us are familiar with the experience of “skin hunger,” whether or not we have ever given it a name or were even aware it had one. It's that deep longing and aching desire for physical contact with another person. Of all of the senses, touch is considered the first we acquire and our skin is our largest sensory organ. Just as seeing a beautiful sunset can move a person to inexplicable tears, or hearing beautiful music can reach into one’s soul, or tasting exquisite food can tantalize and amuse the palate as well as satisfying one's appetite, being wrapped in the warm embrace of someone you trust can fulfill a wide range of emotional and physical needs you might not have even realized you had.

When you think about piles of puppies, sleeping kitties, or those laboratory monkeys forced to choose between a “wire mother” who provided food or a “cloth mother” that only offered sensory and tactile support—and who chose emotional nourishment over food—it is clear that tactile stimulation and close contact with others is necessary to our well-being. The almost universal desire to wrap tiny babies in embraces is an example of how we all long to be close to another. Yet as we get older, there may be fewer and fewer opportunities to satisfy our hunger for the touch of another human being. In fact, some geriatric care centers have begun programs in which hugs are provided on a regular basis to make sure skin hunger does not go unsatisfied. (Hugs, of course, are only well-received when they come from individuals in whom we safely can place our trust.)

So what does all this mean for us?

First, we know that a hug can calm us when we are stressed:

In empirical studies, researchers have found that an embrace functions as a protective layer against stress. In controlled studies comparing individuals who had and had not received a hug from their romantic partners prior to a stressful event, those who had enjoyed a warm embrace showed lower stress reactions to stressful situations. And huggers had smaller increases in their blood pressure—both systolic and diastolic numbers.

We are calmed by the comforting touch of another. An embrace before facing common stress triggers can protect against increased heart rates. It’s been shown, too, that the effects of a hug can last longer than just the moment or two immediately after it occurs; one researcher suggested that a warm hug between romantic partners every morning can have a positive affect that lasts the full day. You can add a “one-a-day hug” to your “one-a-day vitamin” routine and really boost your well-being.

Hugs have also been shown to increase the production of oxytocin in humans; this is the hormone that positively influences our bonding and nurturing behaviors. Its presence in the bloodstream has been shown to positively affect older adults living in assisted care facilities. And in clinical trials, researchers found that individuals receiving oxytocin showed less fatigue, greater dispositional gratitude, and steadier physical functioning than those receiving a placebo. This suggests that the signs and symptoms of aging may be mediated by supportive physical touch. Some researchers have begun looking at the role of oxytocin in fostering the warm relationship between grandparent and grandchild. But regardless of age or stage, a hug is a sure-fire well-being booster shot.

Getting a warm hug of support from someone we trust in a moment of stress can instantly calm us; being the one giving a hug to someone who needs one can also bring you a surge of well-being. Humans need physical contact, and we all experience skin hunger that needs satisfying—whether you are cuddling a tiny infant or gently embracing your great-grandmother, you are providing a little bit of comfort, stress reduction, and healing.

Just close your eyes and say, "Ahhhhh!"

So.....who wants a hug? ((((hugs))))"

May I have a hug please. I feel melancholy and out of sorts.

I've even gone back to writing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After losing my partner I was hugged alot..and had cats to pet....I found it was skin on skin I craved...just being held close and feeling that soft warm skin against yours...is not the same as a clothed hug...not necessarily a sexual thing...but it is just different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never imagined Harlow's Monkeys being brought into conversation on the Fab forums

Nice post Estella

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I think of it a bit like vitamin D. Your skin needs the touch of another person's skin like it needs the touch of the sun. Not too much, just the right amount "

I'd go with that.

Currently in need and it does feel like I am deficient in something essential for good health.

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over a year ago


"I think of it a bit like vitamin D. Your skin needs the touch of another person's skin like it needs the touch of the sun. Not too much, just the right amount

I'd go with that.

Currently in need and it does feel like I am deficient in something essential for good health.

"

I think we need to organise some group hug socials.

Anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some universities do puppy-hugging sessions for exam-stressed students.

We could have a fab version of that - with various forumistas on a rota

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some universities do puppy-hugging sessions for exam-stressed students.

We could have a fab version of that - with various forumistas on a rota "

I'd rather have the puppies than the forumistas.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I think of it a bit like vitamin D. Your skin needs the touch of another person's skin like it needs the touch of the sun. Not too much, just the right amount

I'd go with that.

Currently in need and it does feel like I am deficient in something essential for good health.

I think we need to organise some group hug socials.

Anyone?"

When I'm through this stuff I will do something for the New Year.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I think of it a bit like vitamin D. Your skin needs the touch of another person's skin like it needs the touch of the sun. Not too much, just the right amount

I'd go with that.

Currently in need and it does feel like I am deficient in something essential for good health.

I think we need to organise some group hug socials.

Anyone?

When I'm through this stuff I will do something for the New Year.

"

I'd like that too

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over a year ago


"I think of it a bit like vitamin D. Your skin needs the touch of another person's skin like it needs the touch of the sun. Not too much, just the right amount

I'd go with that.

Currently in need and it does feel like I am deficient in something essential for good health.

I think we need to organise some group hug socials.

Anyone?

When I'm through this stuff I will do something for the New Year.

"

I'm in.

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over a year ago


"I think of it a bit like vitamin D. Your skin needs the touch of another person's skin like it needs the touch of the sun. Not too much, just the right amount

I'd go with that.

Currently in need and it does feel like I am deficient in something essential for good health.

I think we need to organise some group hug socials.

Anyone?

When I'm through this stuff I will do something for the New Year.

I'd like that too "

Me three!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Estella. That was a beautiful, beautifully written and informative post. I'm a fully paid up 'hugger bugger' And I totally get the whole skin contact. I often find myself wishing I had longer arms so I could do full wrap around hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This explains so much "

You know that when I'm available I will always give you a big hug.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I need lots of hugs a v huggie person here miss hugs sooooo much xx"

(hugs) for you!!

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over a year ago


"I read the first three lines...

When I was celibate for all those years I went for regular massages, not just because I need and like them but because I wanted to ensure I was still touched (and not sexually).

I love hug. If you're craving, OP, let my friend know - he gives good hugs.

Best you Lickety - I read about five.

Yes op - I agree!

Without going too deep I was fed and clothed as a child but was never shown any affection at all - no hugs, goodnight kisses, bedtime stories etc! I think this is what caused me to be so promiscuous from age 17 to 22 (when I got pregnant with my daughter) - I craved affection and most young guys will only give that during sex! It took having my daughter and getting 'real' love and affection to break that cycle - and in the ensuing 20 years I slept with 2 people!

Obviously now I'm on fab I sleep with more than the 'real world' average number of guys - but due to me being a fussy cow and having the kids most of the time it's not that many!

What I'd like ideally is the thing I can't find - a 'significant other' to be genuinely in love with but not tied to 24/7 (I want alone time with my kids too) and someone emotionally monogamous but happy for us both to enjoy others occasionally (ie not another regular partner but 'one-off's') Can I find it - can I hell!!

In the meantime - Hugs anyone?? "

Here's hoping for what you'd like, in the meantime here's a hug

((hugs))

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Meet up a couple of times every year with the same group of people for music festivals: most of them always say how much they miss my hugs. It's nice to be appreciated (and I get to hug fabulous people too.. win-win!)"

Total win:win!! Come give us all a hug!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I miss and crave someone of my own to hug,wish I hadn't seen this thread now "

Awwww, you're not alone -- we're all here craving a hug -- here you go: (((hugs)))

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Amos Lee - arms of a woman.

https://youtu.be/Th4SwSpaRWU"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That's the one thing I miss from my ex, he was a fabulous hugger! Men - if a woman asks for a hug, throw your arms round her, hold her tight, and DON'T LET GO til she does! ! "

Yesssss!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I read the first three lines...

When I was celibate for all those years I went for regular massages, not just because I need and like them but because I wanted to ensure I was still touched (and not sexually).

I love hug. If you're craving, OP, let my friend know - he gives good hugs.

Best you Lickety - I read about five.

Yes op - I agree!

Without going too deep I was fed and clothed as a child but was never shown any affection at all - no hugs, goodnight kisses, bedtime stories etc! I think this is what caused me to be so promiscuous from age 17 to 22 (when I got pregnant with my daughter) - I craved affection and most young guys will only give that during sex! It took having my daughter and getting 'real' love and affection to break that cycle - and in the ensuing 20 years I slept with 2 people!

Obviously now I'm on fab I sleep with more than the 'real world' average number of guys - but due to me being a fussy cow and having the kids most of the time it's not that many!

What I'd like ideally is the thing I can't find - a 'significant other' to be genuinely in love with but not tied to 24/7 (I want alone time with my kids too) and someone emotionally monogamous but happy for us both to enjoy others occasionally (ie not another regular partner but 'one-off's') Can I find it - can I hell!!

In the meantime - Hugs anyone??

I'm looking for the same thing as you, I miss having someone special in my life "

Wishing you every success with finding your special someone xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Group hug? "

Totes!

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over a year ago


"That's the one thing I miss from my ex, he was a fabulous hugger! Men - if a woman asks for a hug, throw your arms round her, hold her tight, and DON'T LET GO til she does! !

Yesssss!!!!"

Standard

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I read the first three lines...

When I was celibate for all those years I went for regular massages, not just because I need and like them but because I wanted to ensure I was still touched (and not sexually).

I love hug. If you're craving, OP, let my friend know - he gives good hugs.

Can relate completely to the top paragraph... "

((hugs))

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Group hug?

Ah go on then.

Room for two more ?

Hell yes!! "

And me!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can I join this hug please "

Always!! ((hug))

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Love a hug but just can't find a smaller spoon ??? "

Hugs and spoons and forks for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This explains so much "

Doesn't it just?! ((hug))

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think of it a bit like vitamin D. Your skin needs the touch of another person's skin like it needs the touch of the sun. Not too much, just the right amount "

Agreed. Give us a hug eh, Ruby?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"'Most of us are familiar with the experience of “skin hunger,” whether or not we have ever given it a name or were even aware it had one. It's that deep longing and aching desire for physical contact with another person. Of all of the senses, touch is considered the first we acquire and our skin is our largest sensory organ. Just as seeing a beautiful sunset can move a person to inexplicable tears, or hearing beautiful music can reach into one’s soul, or tasting exquisite food can tantalize and amuse the palate as well as satisfying one's appetite, being wrapped in the warm embrace of someone you trust can fulfill a wide range of emotional and physical needs you might not have even realized you had.

When you think about piles of puppies, sleeping kitties, or those laboratory monkeys forced to choose between a “wire mother” who provided food or a “cloth mother” that only offered sensory and tactile support—and who chose emotional nourishment over food—it is clear that tactile stimulation and close contact with others is necessary to our well-being. The almost universal desire to wrap tiny babies in embraces is an example of how we all long to be close to another. Yet as we get older, there may be fewer and fewer opportunities to satisfy our hunger for the touch of another human being. In fact, some geriatric care centers have begun programs in which hugs are provided on a regular basis to make sure skin hunger does not go unsatisfied. (Hugs, of course, are only well-received when they come from individuals in whom we safely can place our trust.)

So what does all this mean for us?

First, we know that a hug can calm us when we are stressed:

In empirical studies, researchers have found that an embrace functions as a protective layer against stress. In controlled studies comparing individuals who had and had not received a hug from their romantic partners prior to a stressful event, those who had enjoyed a warm embrace showed lower stress reactions to stressful situations. And huggers had smaller increases in their blood pressure—both systolic and diastolic numbers.

We are calmed by the comforting touch of another. An embrace before facing common stress triggers can protect against increased heart rates. It’s been shown, too, that the effects of a hug can last longer than just the moment or two immediately after it occurs; one researcher suggested that a warm hug between romantic partners every morning can have a positive affect that lasts the full day. You can add a “one-a-day hug” to your “one-a-day vitamin” routine and really boost your well-being.

Hugs have also been shown to increase the production of oxytocin in humans; this is the hormone that positively influences our bonding and nurturing behaviors. Its presence in the bloodstream has been shown to positively affect older adults living in assisted care facilities. And in clinical trials, researchers found that individuals receiving oxytocin showed less fatigue, greater dispositional gratitude, and steadier physical functioning than those receiving a placebo. This suggests that the signs and symptoms of aging may be mediated by supportive physical touch. Some researchers have begun looking at the role of oxytocin in fostering the warm relationship between grandparent and grandchild. But regardless of age or stage, a hug is a sure-fire well-being booster shot.

Getting a warm hug of support from someone we trust in a moment of stress can instantly calm us; being the one giving a hug to someone who needs one can also bring you a surge of well-being. Humans need physical contact, and we all experience skin hunger that needs satisfying—whether you are cuddling a tiny infant or gently embracing your great-grandmother, you are providing a little bit of comfort, stress reduction, and healing.

Just close your eyes and say, "Ahhhhh!"

So.....who wants a hug? ((((hugs))))

May I have a hug please. I feel melancholy and out of sorts.

I've even gone back to writing... "

So many ((((hugs)))) for you Markoh xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"After losing my partner I was hugged alot..and had cats to pet....I found it was skin on skin I craved...just being held close and feeling that soft warm skin against yours...is not the same as a clothed hug...not necessarily a sexual thing...but it is just different "

I'm in absolute agreement xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I never imagined Harlow's Monkeys being brought into conversation on the Fab forums

Nice post Estella "

I know, right?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think of it a bit like vitamin D. Your skin needs the touch of another person's skin like it needs the touch of the sun. Not too much, just the right amount

I'd go with that.

Currently in need and it does feel like I am deficient in something essential for good health.

"

We're in the same city, if I'd qualify as a hugger for your huggeeness then say and I'm a-coming for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think of it a bit like vitamin D. Your skin needs the touch of another person's skin like it needs the touch of the sun. Not too much, just the right amount

I'd go with that.

Currently in need and it does feel like I am deficient in something essential for good health.

I think we need to organise some group hug socials.

Anyone?"

Yes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some universities do puppy-hugging sessions for exam-stressed students.

We could have a fab version of that - with various forumistas on a rota "

IN!!!

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over a year ago


"Some universities do puppy-hugging sessions for exam-stressed students.

We could have a fab version of that - with various forumistas on a rota

I'd rather have the puppies than the forumistas. "

Then you get puppies. And me. (I'm a non-negotiable but you can instigate contact first -- I'll follow your lead)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think of it a bit like vitamin D. Your skin needs the touch of another person's skin like it needs the touch of the sun. Not too much, just the right amount

I'd go with that.

Currently in need and it does feel like I am deficient in something essential for good health.

I think we need to organise some group hug socials.

Anyone?

When I'm through this stuff I will do something for the New Year.

I'd like that too "

IN!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Estella. That was a beautiful, beautifully written and informative post. I'm a fully paid up 'hugger bugger' And I totally get the whole skin contact. I often find myself wishing I had longer arms so I could do full wrap around hugs "

Hugger bugger for the win!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm literally just posting to break up your constant stream of your replies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some universities do puppy-hugging sessions for exam-stressed students.

We could have a fab version of that - with various forumistas on a rota

I'd rather have the puppies than the forumistas.

Then you get puppies. And me. (I'm a non-negotiable but you can instigate contact first -- I'll follow your lead) "

I like your thinking - sounds a plan.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a hugger, love them, my son is 22 and I hug him still even if he gets embarrassed,a friend was going on holidays lately and we met for coffee when leaving I hugged her goodbye, she said it was the warmest best hug she ever had

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over a year ago


"Some universities do puppy-hugging sessions for exam-stressed students.

We could have a fab version of that - with various forumistas on a rota

I'd rather have the puppies than the forumistas.

Then you get puppies. And me. (I'm a non-negotiable but you can instigate contact first -- I'll follow your lead)

I like your thinking - sounds a plan. "

Can I get kittens?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm literally just posting to break up your constant stream of your replies. "

Hater.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm literally just posting to break up your constant stream of your replies.

Hater."

Sorry, Hatter.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some universities do puppy-hugging sessions for exam-stressed students.

We could have a fab version of that - with various forumistas on a rota

I'd rather have the puppies than the forumistas.

Then you get puppies. And me. (I'm a non-negotiable but you can instigate contact first -- I'll follow your lead)

I like your thinking - sounds a plan. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm a hugger, love them, my son is 22 and I hug him still even if he gets embarrassed,a friend was going on holidays lately and we met for coffee when leaving I hugged her goodbye, she said it was the warmest best hug she ever had"

Great compliment!! ((hug))

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some universities do puppy-hugging sessions for exam-stressed students.

We could have a fab version of that - with various forumistas on a rota

I'd rather have the puppies than the forumistas.

Then you get puppies. And me. (I'm a non-negotiable but you can instigate contact first -- I'll follow your lead)

I like your thinking - sounds a plan.

Can I get kittens?"

Depends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm literally just posting to break up your constant stream of your replies.

Hater.

Sorry, Hatter."

Very cute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some universities do puppy-hugging sessions for exam-stressed students.

We could have a fab version of that - with various forumistas on a rota

I'd rather have the puppies than the forumistas.

Then you get puppies. And me. (I'm a non-negotiable but you can instigate contact first -- I'll follow your lead)

I like your thinking - sounds a plan.

Can I get kittens?

Depends."

On what?

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over a year ago


"I'm a hugger, love them, my son is 22 and I hug him still even if he gets embarrassed,a friend was going on holidays lately and we met for coffee when leaving I hugged her goodbye, she said it was the warmest best hug she ever had

Great compliment!! ((hug))"

Thanks friend just had twins , 2 boys, can't wait to get to see them and cuddle them lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some universities do puppy-hugging sessions for exam-stressed students.

We could have a fab version of that - with various forumistas on a rota

I'd rather have the puppies than the forumistas.

Then you get puppies. And me. (I'm a non-negotiable but you can instigate contact first -- I'll follow your lead)

I like your thinking - sounds a plan.

Can I get kittens?

Depends.

On what?"

Whether you give me sex or not, obvs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm a hugger, love them, my son is 22 and I hug him still even if he gets embarrassed,a friend was going on holidays lately and we met for coffee when leaving I hugged her goodbye, she said it was the warmest best hug she ever had

Great compliment!! ((hug))

Thanks friend just had twins , 2 boys, can't wait to get to see them and cuddle them lol"

Twins!! Fantastic!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some universities do puppy-hugging sessions for exam-stressed students.

We could have a fab version of that - with various forumistas on a rota

I'd rather have the puppies than the forumistas.

Then you get puppies. And me. (I'm a non-negotiable but you can instigate contact first -- I'll follow your lead)

I like your thinking - sounds a plan.

Can I get kittens?

Depends.

On what?

Whether you give me sex or not, obvs. "

I love kittens so I'l take one for the team.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some universities do puppy-hugging sessions for exam-stressed students.

We could have a fab version of that - with various forumistas on a rota

I'd rather have the puppies than the forumistas.

Then you get puppies. And me. (I'm a non-negotiable but you can instigate contact first -- I'll follow your lead)

I like your thinking - sounds a plan.

Can I get kittens?

Depends.

On what?

Whether you give me sex or not, obvs.

I love kittens so I'l take one for the team. "

Offer, and kittens rescinded. You're mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some universities do puppy-hugging sessions for exam-stressed students.

We could have a fab version of that - with various forumistas on a rota

I'd rather have the puppies than the forumistas.

Then you get puppies. And me. (I'm a non-negotiable but you can instigate contact first -- I'll follow your lead)

I like your thinking - sounds a plan.

Can I get kittens?

Depends.

On what?

Whether you give me sex or not, obvs.

I love kittens so I'l take one for the team.

Offer, and kittens rescinded. You're mean. "

I am indeed. I thought people would have noticed this by now.

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over a year ago


"Some universities do puppy-hugging sessions for exam-stressed students.

We could have a fab version of that - with various forumistas on a rota

I'd rather have the puppies than the forumistas.

Then you get puppies. And me. (I'm a non-negotiable but you can instigate contact first -- I'll follow your lead)

I like your thinking - sounds a plan.

Can I get kittens?

Depends.

On what?

Whether you give me sex or not, obvs. "

Hey I never got the offer of sex. I should have negotiated more.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some universities do puppy-hugging sessions for exam-stressed students.

We could have a fab version of that - with various forumistas on a rota

I'd rather have the puppies than the forumistas.

Then you get puppies. And me. (I'm a non-negotiable but you can instigate contact first -- I'll follow your lead)

I like your thinking - sounds a plan.

Can I get kittens?

Depends.

On what?

Whether you give me sex or not, obvs.

Hey I never got the offer of sex. I should have negotiated more. "

Yeah you did! I just said I'd follow your lead...! You could lead me anywhere you wanted!!

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Hugs are great but feelings follow!

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By *obwithkiltMan
over a year ago

Belton

Love hugs...Nothing like one every now and then to make you smile, feel loved, safe, horny ... And a crowd I hang around with whenever we see each other we greet with a hug.. Blokes included... a family type feeling when you receive one

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"an ex use to say I was only going out with her to hug her

I'm a hugger "

Why can't I see that myself?

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