FabSwingers.com forum: When is fun not fun?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lots of people say 'have a break from the site' if it stops being fun.

But disregarding the forums, I'm referring to the site its self with my first question.

You search, send a message, arrange a meet hopefully. That's fun right?

So when is it not fun?

Secondly - When is the forum not fun? Why would you leave because of the forum?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm finding the forum exceptionally fun.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

It's not fun when you no longer want to feel the emptiness of NSA sex...recent experiences have made me led to believe that you are some what used goods as a woman if you are on the scene...

I know this is not true but actions of others have made me feel a bit worthless

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"It's not fun when you no longer want to feel the emptiness of NSA sex...recent experiences have made me led to believe that you are some what used goods as a woman if you are on the scene...

I know this is not true but actions of others have made me feel a bit worthless "

However I've met some amazing friends and the forums are addictive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forums can be fun and addictive. The 'looking for a meet' part has taken a back seat for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The forums can be fun and addictive. The 'looking for a meet' part has taken a back seat for me."

Yes. This is same thing I found.

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

"It's not fun when you no longer want to feel the emptiness of NSA sex...recent experiences have made me led to believe that you are some what used goods as a woman if you are on the scene...

I know this is not true but actions of others have made me feel a bit worthless

However I've met some amazing friends and the forums are addictive

I'm with you on the emptiness of the sex, saddened about the used goods comment though. I'd have hoped that the enlightened people of fab would have moved on from things like that

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"It's not fun when you no longer want to feel the emptiness of NSA sex...recent experiences have made me led to believe that you are some what used goods as a woman if you are on the scene...

I know this is not true but actions of others have made me feel a bit worthless

However I've met some amazing friends and the forums are addictive

I'm with you on the emptiness of the sex, saddened about the used goods comment though. I'd have hoped that the enlightened people of fab would have moved on from things like that

Nah not when they are somewhat old fashioned in what a woman should be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not fun when you no longer want to feel the emptiness of NSA sex...recent experiences have made me led to believe that you are some what used goods as a woman if you are on the scene...

I know this is not true but actions of others have made me feel a bit worthless

However I've met some amazing friends and the forums are addictive

I'm with you on the emptiness of the sex, saddened about the used goods comment though. I'd have hoped that the enlightened people of fab would have moved on from things like that

Agree about the USED GOODS comment. Surely that's up to the individual. I certainly dnt feel like that. I'm selective. Never meet unless I've chatted a while. I'm in control. No one should feel like that and if you do then change it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of people say 'have a break from the site' if it stops being fun.

But disregarding the forums, I'm referring to the site its self with my first question.

You search, send a message, arrange a meet hopefully. That's fun right?

So when is it not fun?

Secondly - When is the forum not fun? Why would you leave because of the forum?

we'd never leave because of the forum...it's a miniscule part of the whole experience for us...if we had an issue with it, we'd just stop posting (it's usually only me posting anyway...buns doesn't really bother very often)

when playing becomes not fun is when looking for people to meet becomes a chore, routine or hard work. we've left and come back because our personal circumstances have meant that swinging or looking to do it are very low down on our list of priorities or when we've lost sight of why we do it. Then we close down or hide our profile and filter out all categories until we're in a place where we want to get back on the horse again.

fab isn't our only route into swinging, it's one of the tools we use and it's ease of accessibility means it's simple for us to do it this way. Other sites where you have to pay for even the most basic of interactivity wouldn't allow us this degree of flexibility.

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

Fun:

Apart from exciting meets (mostly...) feel the PASSION here flowing in every word, in every picture

Not fun:

People who thinks that flirting can involve lack of respect for others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of people say 'have a break from the site' if it stops being fun.

But disregarding the forums, I'm referring to the site its self with my first question.

You search, send a message, arrange a meet hopefully. That's fun right?

So when is it not fun?

Secondly - When is the forum not fun? Why would you leave because of the forum?

The frustration and and at times anger that some people voice about their lack of success on here suggests a lot of people on here are not having fun. Just leave if the site posses you off that much.

As for the forums, I get the impression some people invest way more than is healthy in their time on here. Personally they're not as fun as they used to be hence why I just dip in and out when I'm bored but equally others are clearly loving the forums and it goes in cycles. Can't see why people leave rather than just ignore the forums for a bit

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By *ureTemptationWoman
over a year ago

Off the grid

It stops being fun when it starts to get scary. I took a long break after that point.

It can stop being fun when it stops feeling new and exciting and different. When it starts to feel mundane, take a break and come back when it feels exciting again. A male of a couple told me he stopped getting a buzz from meets so wasn't sure where to go from there. That's "take a break" time to me.

When you're constantly sending messages but not getting any interest and it's making you depressed or angry - also a good time to take a break.

Feels like an advert for Kit Kat.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I take a break from the forums because I choose to go and do other things that entertain me more at that given time. No drama.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Something is no longer fun when your not enjoying it.

If i cant be bothered with the forums then i dont post.

Noone has ever made me feel like used goods. Depends on your mindset. We all know why most of us are here which is for no commitment sex

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Fun is not fun when you get to the weekend and realise you can't have fun because you did not do everything you were supposed to during the week.

I'm always fun.

When it stops being fun, just add vodka

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use the site apart from the forum to arrange to meet people. It's no longer fun when I'm bored of it or feel there's no one I want to meet.

I use the forums to pass the time when I'm doing other things and because they amuse or annoy me. I don't use them to get meets. When I stop meeting, that's when I delete and leave the site. With one exception, each time I've left it's been for 6 months or so and I just hung around on a couple of Reddit subs instead.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I find I don't find it 'fun' when I'm not finding what I'm seeking.. luckily, the friends I have and a message from someone new keep me pretty happy...it's rare I send prospective messages when I do it's with the attitude of "no expectations" that way I'm never disappointed if it doesn't result in a reply

The forums can be fun, likewise if I'm finding them not so I take a break for a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm having fun but find it really hard to arrange meets so that frustrates me. If I wake up one morning and think to myself, I don't feel sexy any more, why am I doing this, then I'll know that's the time to either take a break or leave.

As for the Forums, it has been a great tool for me to chat to people outside of my area and also make a few new friends. I love the banter and when I'm feeling a bit lonely or bored, it makes me smile (most of the time).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I think I should put more effort into looking for a romantic relationship, rather than looking for NSA fun. I know that in the long term a romantic relationship is what I want.

However, I have a lot going on at home and sometimes I feel that a romantic relationship would be just too much. So I dither and dally and then some arsehole says something on here that makes me feel like "fuck you shithead" and with the dilly dallying it just gets to be a bit much. That and I suffer with depression so my tolerance levels for shitty behaviour is not what it could be, and there is a lot of shitty behaviour on the forums at times, so I leave, albeit for the shortest time possible.

But at the moment the site fills a gap. When that gap is filled or i've just had enough, then I'll move on permanently.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Like I said it's MY mindset I didn't say that all people on here treat others as used goods...

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By *rimo4uMan
over a year ago

north kensington w10

"It's not fun when you no longer want to feel the emptiness of NSA sex...recent experiences have made me led to believe that you are some what used goods as a woman if you are on the scene...

I know this is not true but actions of others have made me feel a bit worthless "

Yes the forums aside the site should be fun right, but it's not for many of us which is sad, i feel like I'm on the outside looking in, that makes me feel a bit worthless to. As the old saying goes you have to be in it to win it! But i wish i could win it sometimes to make it al worthwhile. Hart on my sleave time again lol..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's not fun when you no longer want to feel the emptiness of NSA sex...recent experiences have made me led to believe that you are some what used goods as a woman if you are on the scene...

I know this is not true but actions of others have made me feel a bit worthless

Your right. Lots and lots of users are on the outside looking in.

Soo many don't get meets on here.

And isn't that what most (if not the major majority) of us are here for?

So maybe the forums are more fun than we all make out.

its not as harsh as it's made out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I gotta stop it and go shop x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"It's not fun when you no longer want to feel the emptiness of NSA sex...recent experiences have made me led to believe that you are some what used goods as a woman if you are on the scene...

I know this is not true but actions of others have made me feel a bit worthless

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what do you feel as though you are on the outside of? What are you looking for.

Do you want to be fully involved in the lifestyle or are you just looking to meet people for sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't leave because of the forums, but I might take a step back. It's so easy to become aggravated by people's _iews but they're just that, _iews.

As for the site, the day I wake up and decide I'm bored of it is probably when the fun goes and I step back from that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not fun when you no longer want to feel the emptiness of NSA sex...recent experiences have made me led to believe that you are some what used goods as a woman if you are on the scene...

I know this is not true but actions of others have made me feel a bit worthless

However I've met some amazing friends and the forums are addictive

I'm with you on the emptiness of the sex, saddened about the used goods comment though. I'd have hoped that the enlightened people of fab would have moved on from things like that

Nah not when they are somewhat old fashioned in what a woman should be "

That is sadly true.. xx and I am on a disillusioned time with fab just now as finding meets is just so hard right now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it stops being fun when you realise meets are like flying pigs.

Then you discover the forums and the bunch of weirdos that reside here and it becomes bearable again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's fun messaging and meeting when you want that.

i'm after something more than that now, i want really good meets that last for ages and not loads of guys to fuck one after the other coz the first and second didn't satisfy me properly.

might make my own site called 'date a dildo' or something, that would be fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not fun when you no longer want to feel the emptiness of NSA sex...recent experiences have made me led to believe that you are some what used goods as a woman if you are on the scene...

I know this is not true but actions of others have made me feel a bit worthless

none of your forum posts are attractive tbh. sorry if that offends.

i'm sure load of guys are down hearted, this place is competitive for men (not for women coz any woman on here can get a fuck and attention if she wants that), but they try not to show it. or if they do they do it in a way where they make people want to reply to them. and this is where you fail.

again, not meaning to offend but you seem to be struggling and i'd like you to know my opinion on why that may be happening for you.

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