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By *ureTemptation OP   Woman
over a year ago

Off the grid

My husband has pointed out that for all my protesting that I'm straight, I watch and awful lot of lesbian porn.

And that's ignoring the girl I got chatting to in a bar years ago and ended up kissing for quite some time.

So. Is it nerves? If I'm not 100% sure, should I just not go there?

Women, what was your first time with another woman like and how did it happen?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

There are many things that we're unsure about before we've tried them, food, sex, jobs - perhaps most things. Sexual orientation is more complex though, as it runs the spectrum of love, romance and sex - plus the specifics of what activities we might undertake.

As so many people only realise that they don't have 100% rigidity in their interests well past becoming an adult, it's reasonable to consider yourself curious or open minded for as long as you are.

I'd not rush any labelling or activities - there's no prize for haste.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was very curious for a couple of years and then an opportunity presented via fab - it was everything i thought it would be and more and i remember it all - my fantasy is to be a womans first woman and to be her first too - giving and receiving - ultimate for me and when ive done this id like to think it was as memorable for her as it was me - now i look more a ladies than guys but could never give up the fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was curious for a long time. Slept with a woman in August, for the first time and it was incredible. I actually cried the first time she made me climax, I think because it was just one of those life changing experiences.

I highly recommend it!

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

Lead us not into Temptation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guess I knew from my teens. Wanted to experiment with girls and boys. Had a few experiences which I enjoyed, kind of grew from there with me.

XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had a sexual encounter with a woman without a man being there too. Lesbian porn bores me for the same reason, there needs to be cock involved for me to be interested. My first experience with a woman I'd say was good but it left me feeling quite exposed, like a fumbling teenage boy, because I don't know what the hell I'm doing with a woman, whereas I feel like a do with a man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, and I wasn't 100% sure but did it anyway. If I waited to be 100% about things I'd probably never do anything. I figured the worst that could happen was I wouldn't like it, so I'd just go home.

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

We've found curiosity creeps up on you as you get older lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm comfortable with other women, I don't fancy them, but Have kissed some. Some people said this made me bi curious, so I had that even though I was not sexually attracted to a female. I've been in a few group situations where women have been there and used toys or fingers and it's never done anything for me. So now they say I'm bi friendly (whatever) all I know is I'd rather have cock and if i couldn't have it I'll use a toy on myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was curious for a long time. Slept with a woman in August, for the first time and it was incredible. I actually cried the first time she made me climax, I think because it was just one of those life changing experiences.

I highly recommend it! "

This is what I'd be hoping for, but instead, I can't help by fearing that I'll be all awkward and distracted. This is probably the reason why I've been putting it off ......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never had a sexual encounter with a woman without a man being there too. Lesbian porn bores me for the same reason, there needs to be cock involved for me to be interested. My first experience with a woman I'd say was good but it left me feeling quite exposed, like a fumbling teenage boy, because I don't know what the hell I'm doing with a woman, whereas I feel like a do with a man. "

l don't find women having sex with each other a turn on at all either.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"So. Is it nerves? If I'm not 100% sure, should I just not go there?

Women, what was your first time with another woman like and how did it happen?"

I think you should go with what makes you comfortable as clichéd as that may sound. I wouldn't get too hung up on definitions of sexuality - it's a spectrum anyway and you can kiss who you want to and watch the porn you want without it being a defining factor. My first time was quite a few years ago before I discovered men, we'd had some drinks and it progressed from there. Just remain open minded and if it works, great, if not meh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was curious for a long time. Slept with a woman in August, for the first time and it was incredible. I actually cried the first time she made me climax, I think because it was just one of those life changing experiences.

I highly recommend it!

This is what I'd be hoping for, but instead, I can't help by fearing that I'll be all awkward and distracted. This is probably the reason why I've been putting it off ...... "

Some women are sensitive to other women's fears in this regard. If you are genuinely curious to explore a little more in depth, speak about your worries. I had a a few experiences with women, based on a couples play. One evening, I got persuaded by a lovely, gorgeous woman to play one on one at a swinging club. It was amazing. She was very soothing, and understanding of my nerves and fears. I'm thankful for her .

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By *odramafunCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire/staffordshire

Maybe you should have an explore and go in with an open mind.... I did! Absolutely love to be play with females but as for relationships men are for me X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was curious for a long time. Slept with a woman in August, for the first time and it was incredible. I actually cried the first time she made me climax, I think because it was just one of those life changing experiences.

I highly recommend it!

This is what I'd be hoping for, but instead, I can't help by fearing that I'll be all awkward and distracted. This is probably the reason why I've been putting it off ...... "

meet beforehand and talk - so important to talk over fears and wants - once youre comfy with each other it will flow - relax and enjoy xxxx ---- then come back and tell us all about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was curious for a long time. Slept with a woman in August, for the first time and it was incredible. I actually cried the first time she made me climax, I think because it was just one of those life changing experiences.

I highly recommend it!

This is what I'd be hoping for, but instead, I can't help by fearing that I'll be all awkward and distracted. This is probably the reason why I've been putting it off ...... "

The key is finding a couple or woman that you get on with. I should add that this was during a threesome. Talk lots about it and find someone who's understanding and willing to guide you!

I worried about what to do, it's a completely new scenario. Like Ruby said, I know what to do with a guy! I just thought about what I love and it came very naturally!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess situation is key. I was lucky enough to find myself in the perfect situation and took to it, if that's the right phrase, like I'd always done it.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"I was curious for a long time. Slept with a woman in August, for the first time and it was incredible. I actually cried the first time she made me climax, I think because it was just one of those life changing experiences.

I highly recommend it!

This is what I'd be hoping for, but instead, I can't help by fearing that I'll be all awkward and distracted. This is probably the reason why I've been putting it off ......

meet beforehand and talk - so important to talk over fears and wants - once youre comfy with each other it will flow - relax and enjoy xxxx ---- then come back and tell us all about it "

^^^ This, We have been chatting almost everyday to someone in a similar position for a few weeks & will be meeting them soon. Not quite solo fem/fem but S will be as attentive as needed/wanted.

H

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was curious for a long time. Slept with a woman in August, for the first time and it was incredible. I actually cried the first time she made me climax, I think because it was just one of those life changing experiences.

I highly recommend it!

This is what I'd be hoping for, but instead, I can't help by fearing that I'll be all awkward and distracted. This is probably the reason why I've been putting it off ......

The key is finding a couple or woman that you get on with. I should add that this was during a threesome. Talk lots about it and find someone who's understanding and willing to guide you!

I worried about what to do, it's a completely new scenario. Like Ruby said, I know what to do with a guy! I just thought about what I love and it came very naturally! "

See it definitely didn't/doesn't come naturally to me - which is why I consider myself straight above anything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was curious for a long time. Slept with a woman in August, for the first time and it was incredible. I actually cried the first time she made me climax, I think because it was just one of those life changing experiences.

I highly recommend it!

This is what I'd be hoping for, but instead, I can't help by fearing that I'll be all awkward and distracted. This is probably the reason why I've been putting it off ......

The key is finding a couple or woman that you get on with. I should add that this was during a threesome. Talk lots about it and find someone who's understanding and willing to guide you!

I worried about what to do, it's a completely new scenario. Like Ruby said, I know what to do with a guy! I just thought about what I love and it came very naturally!

See it definitely didn't/doesn't come naturally to me - which is why I consider myself straight above anything else. "

Yeah, I think that's when you know!

I don't think I'd want a relationship with a woman, so I'm always unsure as to whether I am actually bisexual, but then it's just a label.

Snazzy bra!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was curious for a long time. Slept with a woman in August, for the first time and it was incredible. I actually cried the first time she made me climax, I think because it was just one of those life changing experiences.

I highly recommend it!

This is what I'd be hoping for, but instead, I can't help by fearing that I'll be all awkward and distracted. This is probably the reason why I've been putting it off ......

The key is finding a couple or woman that you get on with. I should add that this was during a threesome. Talk lots about it and find someone who's understanding and willing to guide you!

I worried about what to do, it's a completely new scenario. Like Ruby said, I know what to do with a guy! I just thought about what I love and it came very naturally!

See it definitely didn't/doesn't come naturally to me - which is why I consider myself straight above anything else.

Yeah, I think that's when you know!

I don't think I'd want a relationship with a woman, so I'm always unsure as to whether I am actually bisexual, but then it's just a label.

Snazzy bra! "

Thanks! I'm liking straps at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was curious for a long time. Slept with a woman in August, for the first time and it was incredible. I actually cried the first time she made me climax, I think because it was just one of those life changing experiences.

I highly recommend it!

This is what I'd be hoping for, but instead, I can't help by fearing that I'll be all awkward and distracted. This is probably the reason why I've been putting it off ......

The key is finding a couple or woman that you get on with. I should add that this was during a threesome. Talk lots about it and find someone who's understanding and willing to guide you!

I worried about what to do, it's a completely new scenario. Like Ruby said, I know what to do with a guy! I just thought about what I love and it came very naturally!

See it definitely didn't/doesn't come naturally to me - which is why I consider myself straight above anything else.

Yeah, I think that's when you know!

I don't think I'd want a relationship with a woman, so I'm always unsure as to whether I am actually bisexual, but then it's just a label.

Snazzy bra! "

i dont ever see myself in a full relationship with a woman - but i do consider myself bisexual -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The OP's original message mirrors the situation my wife found herself in. She explored, gingerly to begin with, and a little over two years later she realised that she's gay and had been repressing it since her teens.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that there's quite a scale out there, and as somebody has already pointed out, you shouldn't get too hung up on labels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice guys xx

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