FabSwingers.com forum: why?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Am finding that bi guys who are married feel more guilty when they meet women than men.do all bi men feel like that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am finding that bi guys who are married feel more guilty when they meet women than men.do all bi men feel like that?"

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Purely a guess, but would it be that the wife could feel more threatened in her relationship by another woman, than a man, if she found out ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Purely a guess, but would it be that the wife could feel more threatened in her relationship by another woman, than a man, if she found out ?"

My wife is also on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you talking about married men whose wives don't know they are having sex with other people?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you talking about married men whose wives don't know they are having sex with other people?"
i met a bi guy who then said he felt guilty meeting me that he wud a man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Purely a guess, but would it be that the wife could feel more threatened in her relationship by another woman, than a man, if she found out ?

My wife is also on fab."

I did say purely my guess. Your situation is different though, you both swing and are aware of each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Purely a guess, but would it be that the wife could feel more threatened in her relationship by another woman, than a man, if she found out ?

My wife is also on fab.

I did say purely my guess. Your situation is different though, you both swing and are aware of each other."

We are "aware" of each other...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Purely a guess, but would it be that the wife could feel more threatened in her relationship by another woman, than a man, if she found out ?

My wife is also on fab.

I did say purely my guess. Your situation is different though, you both swing and are aware of each other.

We are "aware" of each other...

Sooooooo, you responded 'yes' to the OP's question. You could perchance expand a little to your feeling guilty with women, and enlighten us 'guessers'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Purely a guess, but would it be that the wife could feel more threatened in her relationship by another woman, than a man, if she found out ?

My wife is also on fab.

I did say purely my guess. Your situation is different though, you both swing and are aware of each other.

We are "aware" of each other...

Sooooooo, you responded 'yes' to the OP's question. You could perchance expand a little to your feeling guilty with women, and enlighten us 'guessers'

Well I'd love to but I'm not allowed.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

How many men are you basing it on op? In my experience ive not really found a corralation between the sexes a married man has sex with and his guilt

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"Am finding that bi guys who are married feel more guilty when they meet women than men.do all bi men feel like that?"

I don't see why not: we've seen many profiles where the wife is allowed to play with another woman, but not a man, so surely this is just the converse, isn't it?

I wonder if it's linked to feelings that the same-sex meet is more clearly seen as just sex?

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am finding that bi guys who are married feel more guilty when they meet women than men.do all bi men feel like that?

I don't see why not: we've seen many profiles where the wife is allowed to play with another woman, but not a man, so surely this is just the converse, isn't it?

I wonder if it's linked to feelings that the same-sex meet is more clearly seen as just sex?

Mr ddc"

Very similar to my answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's what I guessed at in my first response ? A woman would feel more threatened by a woman to her relationship, than a man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's what I guessed at in my first response ? A woman would feel more threatened by a woman to her relationship, than a man

No, not quite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give up. The same, but not the same. Somebody else says the same and they are close ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I give up. The same, but not the same. Somebody else says the same and they are close ?

Well I'm not allowed to tell you what I said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mum said 'no such thing as can't'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My mum said 'no such thing as can't'

The OP PM'd me. I told her my answer. Forum rules are quite clear. Don't discuss the contents of private messages. My hands are sadly tied.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not asking for the contents of your message to someone else. I was asking for clarification of why the women meets are more guilt ridden ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am not asking for the contents of your message to someone else. I was asking for clarification of why the women meets are more guilt ridden ?"

Ah you're assuming my answer was built around guilt. Which it wasn't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Howeva i know a man who's wife forgave him for cheating with a lady. And another lady told her man to leave when he told her he had met a man and is bi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because when l man cheats wife a woman, many women feel like their femininity was enough or was less than the other woman's. While a man isn't in competition with her that way. Women compete with each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am finding that bi guys who are married feel more guilty when they meet women than men.do all bi men feel like that?"

I don't think they do , no .

Some do , but the majority ( especially those who are cheating ) , don't give a fuck as guilt isn't in their consciousness .

And invariably , these are the guys who offer a better meet experience . There's nothing worse than meeting a cheater who constantly gets feelings of guilt during a meet .

If you're going to cheat , at least have the decency to leave your baggage behind when you meet up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

..... oh, I'm only just realising that this thread is about cheating! Doh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"..... oh, I'm only just realising that this thread is about cheating! Doh! "

I thought that at first, then thought I was wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Howeva i know a man who's wife forgave him for cheating with a lady. And another lady told her man to leave when he told her he had met a man and is bi."

I know a lady on here who posted about her husband falling for a man and she threw him out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder how many of their wifes know they are bi lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Am finding that bi guys who are married feel more guilty when they meet women than men.do all bi men feel like that?

I don't think they do , no .

Some do , but the majority ( especially those who are cheating ) , don't give a fuck as guilt isn't in their consciousness .

And invariably , these are the guys who offer a better meet experience . There's nothing worse than meeting a cheater who constantly gets feelings of guilt during a meet .

If you're going to cheat , at least have the decency to leave your baggage behind when you meet up

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i met two bi men who felt guilty afta they met me their excuse (cos am female) but am guessing their wives woudnt tolerate their men meeting men ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am not asking for the contents of your message to someone else. I was asking for clarification of why the women meets are more guilt ridden ?

Ah you're assuming my answer was built around guilt. Which it wasn't."

You answered the OP's post which asked if bi men felt more GUILTY when meeting women.

You replied YES

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am not asking for the contents of your message to someone else. I was asking for clarification of why the women meets are more guilt ridden ?

Ah you're assuming my answer was built around guilt. Which it wasn't.

You answered the OP's post which asked if bi men felt more GUILTY when meeting women.

You replied YES

That's correct. But my expanded answer wasn't built around the guilt I experience with women, more the lack of any emotion whatsoever when meeting men..

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I am not asking for the contents of your message to someone else. I was asking for clarification of why the women meets are more guilt ridden ?

Ah you're assuming my answer was built around guilt. Which it wasn't.

You answered the OP's post which asked if bi men felt more GUILTY when meeting women.

You replied YES

That's correct. But my expanded answer wasn't built around the guilt I experience with women, more the lack of any emotion whatsoever when meeting men.."

Meeting men is more transactional and meeting women is more involved, just by the nature of more wanting a connection first?

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By *rinking-in-laCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Are you talking about married men whose wives don't know they are having sex with other people?i met a bi guy who then said he felt guilty meeting me that he wud a man."

Well then obviously all bi men are the same as the one you met.

How could they possibly be any different?

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