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By *uicy jones OP Man
over a year ago

near a big hill in s/ shropshire NOT in

Why do some men think it's ok to slap woman about im a temper !!! Not in sexual moment !!!! Fucking hate cowards !!!!

Sorry I'm just venting !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ditto vice versa.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The world's full of twats sadly.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Same as some women think its ok to slap a guy i guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do some men think it's ok to slap woman about im a temper !!! Not in sexual moment !!!! Fucking hate cowards !!!!

Sorry I'm just venting !!! "

The vast majority don't. Most decent humans know violence us never acceptable

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Ouch, I hope whatever soarked this isn't as serious as it sounds and that everyone is ok.

Bloke lays a finger on me in anger and I'm breaking it. Slowly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Domestic violence , which is what I'd class that as, is never acceptable,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men."

...and which stats would those be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

...and which stats would those be?

https://www.google.co.uk/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/society/2010/sep/05/men-victims-domestic-violence?client=ms-android-motorola

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

...and which stats would those be?

Domestic violence:

* Will affect 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in their lifetime.

* Leads to, on average, two women being murdered each week and 30 men per year.

* Accounts for 16% of all violent crime

(Source: Crime in England and Wales 04/05 report)

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By *ack Genuine BullMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

Alcohol is usually a defining aspect in such cases........

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Why do some men think it's ok to slap woman about im a temper !!! Not in sexual moment !!!! Fucking hate cowards !!!!

Sorry I'm just venting !!! "

Did you see it happen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men."

I know it does happen to guys , but I thought the stats still showed more women were attacked then men,

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Alcohol is usually a defining aspect in such cases........

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not usually, sometimes, some people are just arseholes

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

I know it does happen to guys , but I thought the stats still showed more women were attacked then men, "

It will, cos a lot of men won't come forward or admit it.

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By *illwill69uMan
over a year ago

moston

"Why do some men think it's ok to slap woman about im a temper !!! Not in sexual moment !!!! Fucking hate cowards !!!!

Sorry I'm just venting !!! "

Because they can...

But for ballence we have to understand that:

There are just as many women attack men in the same way for the very same reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

I know it does happen to guys , but I thought the stats still showed more women were attacked then men, "

According to that articles it's around 60/40 and that's not taking into account men not reporting it as much as women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

I know it does happen to guys , but I thought the stats still showed more women were attacked then men,

According to that articles it's around 60/40 and that's not taking into account men not reporting it as much as women."

6040 doesn't support your claim of it being 'fairly even'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

I know it does happen to guys , but I thought the stats still showed more women were attacked then men,

According to that articles it's around 60/40 and that's not taking into account men not reporting it as much as women.

6040 doesn't support your claim of it being 'fairly even'.

How so? 10% is not huge difference and consider that men report it even less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do some men think it's ok to slap woman about im a temper !!! Not in sexual moment !!!! Fucking hate cowards !!!!

Sorry I'm just venting !!!

Because they can...

But for ballence we have to understand that:

There are just as many women attack men in the same way for the very same reason."

no,there aren't...and if you care to look into it ,the levels of violence,like a poster above said, are far and away much more serious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do some men think it's ok to slap woman about im a temper !!! Not in sexual moment !!!! Fucking hate cowards !!!!

Sorry I'm just venting !!!

Because they can...

But for ballence we have to understand that:

There are just as many women attack men in the same way for the very same reason.

no,there aren't...and if you care to look into it ,the levels of violence,like a poster above said, are far and away much more serious.

Women apparently initite more violence too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do some men think it's ok to slap woman about im a temper !!! Not in sexual moment !!!! Fucking hate cowards !!!!

Sorry I'm just venting !!!

Because they can...

But for ballence we have to understand that:

There are just as many women attack men in the same way for the very same reason.

no,there aren't...and if you care to look into it ,the levels of violence,like a poster above said, are far and away much more serious.

Women apparently initite more violence too."

apparently?? really?... apparently they are usually hospitalised at least 3 times before they press charges too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why has this turned into a competition on who gets it worse?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ditto vice versa.....

Yep

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Why has this turned into a competition on who gets it worse?

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domestic abuse, is domestic abuse, whether, its male, female, transgender, same sex couples and each case should be delt with no differently based on the above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Same as some women think its ok to slap a guy i guess"

Both are absolutely wrong but why is it still not okay to slap a woman back if she slaps you first and without being unprovoked?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people enjoy being in a volatile relationship.

They seem to feed on the drama and chaos of it.

True story

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

I know it does happen to guys , but I thought the stats still showed more women were attacked then men,

According to that articles it's around 60/40 and that's not taking into account men not reporting it as much as women."

and if you think all women report dv then your a bit naïve..

DV whomever its against is deplorable..

end of..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do some men think it's ok to slap woman about im a temper !!! Not in sexual moment !!!! Fucking hate cowards !!!!

Sorry I'm just venting !!! "

I don't condone violence from either sex. They're both equally twats

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any domestic violence is unacceptable regardless of whether it's the male or female...disgusting behaviour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

I know it does happen to guys , but I thought the stats still showed more women were attacked then men, "

You're right, it does. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Same as some women think its ok to slap a guy i guess

Both are absolutely wrong but why is it still not okay to slap a woman back if she slaps you first and without being unprovoked?"

Difficult one, im thinking I've seen a guy slapped as his partner found out he was cheating. Did she then deserve a slap back?

Why would someone slap unprovoked though ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

...and which stats would those be?

Domestic violence:

* Will affect 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in their lifetime.

* Leads to, on average, two women being murdered each week and 30 men per year.

* Accounts for 16% of all violent crime

(Source: Crime in England and Wales 04/05 report)"

Tbf I doubt men would readily come forward. Compared to women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why has this turned into a competition on who gets it worse?

It's wrong regardless of sex. And it's been increasing recently in some areas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

...and which stats would those be?

Domestic violence:

* Will affect 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in their lifetime.

* Leads to, on average, two women being murdered each week and 30 men per year.

* Accounts for 16% of all violent crime

(Source: Crime in England and Wales 04/05 report)

Tbf I doubt men would readily come forward. Compared to women"

I've been a victim of it....attacked by my son's mom in front of him...I was more concerned for the little one being subjected to seeing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Same as some women think its ok to slap a guy i guess

Both are absolutely wrong but why is it still not okay to slap a woman back if she slaps you first and without being unprovoked?

Difficult one, im thinking I've seen a guy slapped as his partner found out he was cheating. Did she then deserve a slap back?

Why would someone slap unprovoked though ?

A while ago three d*unk woman attack a completely sober man, hospitalising him and not once did he raise a fist. As I watched it on the news I wondered if had retaliated and hit them then would the news story have been "man attacks vulnerable women"?

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Why has this turned into a competition on who gets it worse?

I was just thinking that!

Domestic violence, regardless of the gender is unacceptable.

Some of the excuses / reasons that some abusers give to try and justify doing it are frankly pathetic. There is no excuse or good reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like being slapped during intercourse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Either is not acceptable however more women report domestic violence than men as guys are less likely to involve the police

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

...and which stats would those be?

Domestic violence:

* Will affect 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in their lifetime.

* Leads to, on average, two women being murdered each week and 30 men per year.

* Accounts for 16% of all violent crime

(Source: Crime in England and Wales 04/05 report)

Tbf I doubt men would readily come forward. Compared to women

I've been a victim of it....attacked by my son's mom in front of him...I was more concerned for the little one being subjected to seeing it "

May I asked what she did? Don't answer if it's too personal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No man will ever be a man until such time he's taken a hiding of a woman and not raised a hand back in my mind simple as that no place in any society for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

...and which stats would those be?

Domestic violence:

* Will affect 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in their lifetime.

* Leads to, on average, two women being murdered each week and 30 men per year.

* Accounts for 16% of all violent crime

(Source: Crime in England and Wales 04/05 report)

Tbf I doubt men would readily come forward. Compared to women

I've been a victim of it....attacked by my son's mom in front of him...I was more concerned for the little one being subjected to seeing it

May I asked what she did? Don't answer if it's too personal."

I too was wondering her reason for hitting him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

...and which stats would those be?

Domestic violence:

* Will affect 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in their lifetime.

* Leads to, on average, two women being murdered each week and 30 men per year.

* Accounts for 16% of all violent crime

(Source: Crime in England and Wales 04/05 report)

Tbf I doubt men would readily come forward. Compared to women

I've been a victim of it....attacked by my son's mom in front of him...I was more concerned for the little one being subjected to seeing it

May I asked what she did? Don't answer if it's too personal.

I too was wondering her reason for hitting him. "

But does there need to be reason,would any scenario make it acceptable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No man will ever be a man until such time he's taken a hiding of a woman and not raised a hand back in my mind simple as that no place in any society for it "

Surely the right of passage into manhood should not require taking a beating from anyone...

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

They don't have to slap. They can manipulate and control which sometimes is worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

...and which stats would those be?

Domestic violence:

* Will affect 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in their lifetime.

* Leads to, on average, two women being murdered each week and 30 men per year.

* Accounts for 16% of all violent crime

(Source: Crime in England and Wales 04/05 report)

Tbf I doubt men would readily come forward. Compared to women

I've been a victim of it....attacked by my son's mom in front of him...I was more concerned for the little one being subjected to seeing it "

What did you do? Afterwards I mean. Did you report her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many years back I was walking through a busy city centre late at night...3 d*unk women approached me and one went for my balls and cock and twisted them...fucking hurt..and they walked off laughing..I saw a copper in a car and told him...he said getaway lad stop complaining you should have enjoyed it so blokes probably don't report assults

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do some men think it's ok to slap woman about im a temper !!! Not in sexual moment !!!! Fucking hate cowards !!!!

Sorry I'm just venting !!! "

Man or women violence is just not acceptable! Not knowing the circumstances of what u witnessed its difficult to pass judgement but in General violence is not the answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rather hit a wall or door than a woman but most of the time I'd probably kick the table

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough

"Surely the right of passage into manhood should not require taking a beating from anyone...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

...and which stats would those be?

Domestic violence:

* Will affect 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in their lifetime.

* Leads to, on average, two women being murdered each week and 30 men per year.

* Accounts for 16% of all violent crime

(Source: Crime in England and Wales 04/05 report)

Tbf I doubt men would readily come forward. Compared to women

I've been a victim of it....attacked by my son's mom in front of him...I was more concerned for the little one being subjected to seeing it

What did you do? Afterwards I mean. Did you report her?"

As mad as it sounds I didn't nothing to deserve it...I don't think any actions justify violence in a relationship...she tried to hit me around the face with a stool once that's the time that sticks...I didn't report her looking back now I wish I had...was a few false allegations made against myself which the police realised when she was giving completely different versions of events....but I wouldn't change anything because I love my son to bits

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Domestic violence is more than just physical assault, it can be emotional, sexual, financial, religious/faith.

If anyone needs to find help and support do a web search for hidden hurt. There is a lot of good information and support forums. I would also highly recommend reading "why does he do that?" Written by Lundy Bancroft. Although it is from the perspective of the abuser being male it is interchangeable for both genders and explains why they behave in the way they do and why they don't change.

Don't think you have to suffer, reach out - there is plenty of help and support available whether you are male or female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

...and which stats would those be?

Domestic violence:

* Will affect 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in their lifetime.

* Leads to, on average, two women being murdered each week and 30 men per year.

* Accounts for 16% of all violent crime

(Source: Crime in England and Wales 04/05 report)

Tbf I doubt men would readily come forward. Compared to women

I've been a victim of it....attacked by my son's mom in front of him...I was more concerned for the little one being subjected to seeing it

May I asked what she did? Don't answer if it's too personal.

I too was wondering her reason for hitting him.

But does there need to be reason,would any scenario make it acceptable "

Never once said her behaviour was acceptable! There is however a reason for everything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely the right of passage into manhood should not require taking a beating from anyone...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

...and which stats would those be?

Domestic violence:

* Will affect 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in their lifetime.

* Leads to, on average, two women being murdered each week and 30 men per year.

* Accounts for 16% of all violent crime

(Source: Crime in England and Wales 04/05 report)

Tbf I doubt men would readily come forward. Compared to women

I've been a victim of it....attacked by my son's mom in front of him...I was more concerned for the little one being subjected to seeing it

May I asked what she did? Don't answer if it's too personal.

I too was wondering her reason for hitting him.

But does there need to be reason,would any scenario make it acceptable

Never once said her behaviour was acceptable! There is however a reason for everything. "

Oh no sorry I didn't mean it like that I was just getting at the fact that an unreasonable act in the sense that she may have a "reason" but to the average person that so called reason wouldn't be deemed as acceptable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

...and which stats would those be?

Domestic violence:

* Will affect 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in their lifetime.

* Leads to, on average, two women being murdered each week and 30 men per year.

* Accounts for 16% of all violent crime

(Source: Crime in England and Wales 04/05 report)

Tbf I doubt men would readily come forward. Compared to women

I've been a victim of it....attacked by my son's mom in front of him...I was more concerned for the little one being subjected to seeing it

May I asked what she did? Don't answer if it's too personal.

I too was wondering her reason for hitting him.

But does there need to be reason,would any scenario make it acceptable

Never once said her behaviour was acceptable! There is however a reason for everything. "

But are reasons important, there are maybe many reasons why some men hit women ( absolutely unexceptable by the way ) but it doesn't give reason for violence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

...and which stats would those be?

Domestic violence:

* Will affect 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in their lifetime.

* Leads to, on average, two women being murdered each week and 30 men per year.

* Accounts for 16% of all violent crime

(Source: Crime in England and Wales 04/05 report)

Tbf I doubt men would readily come forward. Compared to women

I've been a victim of it....attacked by my son's mom in front of him...I was more concerned for the little one being subjected to seeing it

May I asked what she did? Don't answer if it's too personal.

I too was wondering her reason for hitting him.

But does there need to be reason,would any scenario make it acceptable

Never once said her behaviour was acceptable! There is however a reason for everything.

But are reasons important, there are maybe many reasons why some men hit women ( absolutely unexceptable by the way ) but it doesn't give reason for violence "

Knowing the reasons behind someone's negative behaviour, is an affective way to help them combat their negative behaviour.

For all we know she acted in self defence. We only know one side to the story. I prefer to keep an open mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

...and which stats would those be?

Domestic violence:

* Will affect 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in their lifetime.

* Leads to, on average, two women being murdered each week and 30 men per year.

* Accounts for 16% of all violent crime

(Source: Crime in England and Wales 04/05 report)

Tbf I doubt men would readily come forward. Compared to women

I've been a victim of it....attacked by my son's mom in front of him...I was more concerned for the little one being subjected to seeing it

May I asked what she did? Don't answer if it's too personal.

I too was wondering her reason for hitting him.

But does there need to be reason,would any scenario make it acceptable

Never once said her behaviour was acceptable! There is however a reason for everything.

But are reasons important, there are maybe many reasons why some men hit women ( absolutely unexceptable by the way ) but it doesn't give reason for violence

Knowing the reasons behind someone's negative behaviour, is an affective way to help them combat their negative behaviour.

For all we know she acted in self defence. We only know one side to the story. I prefer to keep an open mind."

I can certainly assure you it wasn't self defence it was just another episode in a series of being attacked and cheated on...in all honesty I think she has slight mental issues.

I can also assure you that I haven't contributed to this to simply bend the truth and try and earn a cyber pat on the back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

...and which stats would those be?

Domestic violence:

* Will affect 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in their lifetime.

* Leads to, on average, two women being murdered each week and 30 men per year.

* Accounts for 16% of all violent crime

(Source: Crime in England and Wales 04/05 report)

Tbf I doubt men would readily come forward. Compared to women

I've been a victim of it....attacked by my son's mom in front of him...I was more concerned for the little one being subjected to seeing it

May I asked what she did? Don't answer if it's too personal.

I too was wondering her reason for hitting him.

But does there need to be reason,would any scenario make it acceptable

Never once said her behaviour was acceptable! There is however a reason for everything.

But are reasons important, there are maybe many reasons why some men hit women ( absolutely unexceptable by the way ) but it doesn't give reason for violence "

People do unspeakable things all over the world and they all have their own reasons for doing them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

...and which stats would those be?

Domestic violence:

* Will affect 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in their lifetime.

* Leads to, on average, two women being murdered each week and 30 men per year.

* Accounts for 16% of all violent crime

(Source: Crime in England and Wales 04/05 report)

Tbf I doubt men would readily come forward. Compared to women

I've been a victim of it....attacked by my son's mom in front of him...I was more concerned for the little one being subjected to seeing it

May I asked what she did? Don't answer if it's too personal.

I too was wondering her reason for hitting him.

But does there need to be reason,would any scenario make it acceptable

Never once said her behaviour was acceptable! There is however a reason for everything.

But are reasons important, there are maybe many reasons why some men hit women ( absolutely unexceptable by the way ) but it doesn't give reason for violence

Knowing the reasons behind someone's negative behaviour, is an affective way to help them combat their negative behaviour.

For all we know she acted in self defence. We only know one side to the story. I prefer to keep an open mind."

If a guy acted in self defence is that acceptable?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I saw a drug addicted, potentially homeless couple having a row and the woman slapped the man and the man punched her straight in the jaw, as hard as you'd hit another man, he took a mini run-up and everything and she dropped straight to the floor. It was quite shocking. I'd never seen anything like that in the flesh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

...and which stats would those be?

Domestic violence:

* Will affect 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in their lifetime.

* Leads to, on average, two women being murdered each week and 30 men per year.

* Accounts for 16% of all violent crime

(Source: Crime in England and Wales 04/05 report)

Tbf I doubt men would readily come forward. Compared to women

I've been a victim of it....attacked by my son's mom in front of him...I was more concerned for the little one being subjected to seeing it

May I asked what she did? Don't answer if it's too personal.

I too was wondering her reason for hitting him.

But does there need to be reason,would any scenario make it acceptable

Never once said her behaviour was acceptable! There is however a reason for everything.

But are reasons important, there are maybe many reasons why some men hit women ( absolutely unexceptable by the way ) but it doesn't give reason for violence

Knowing the reasons behind someone's negative behaviour, is an affective way to help them combat their negative behaviour.

For all we know she acted in self defence. We only know one side to the story. I prefer to keep an open mind.

If a guy acted in self defence is that acceptable? "

Very tough call to make...read something about a woman nearly beating a man to death...could he be condemned for punching her? I myself would probably feel ashamed if I had hit her...don't think there's a right or wrong answer

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over a year ago

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

...and which stats would those be?

Domestic violence:

* Will affect 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in their lifetime.

* Leads to, on average, two women being murdered each week and 30 men per year.

* Accounts for 16% of all violent crime

(Source: Crime in England and Wales 04/05 report)

Tbf I doubt men would readily come forward. Compared to women

I've been a victim of it....attacked by my son's mom in front of him...I was more concerned for the little one being subjected to seeing it

May I asked what she did? Don't answer if it's too personal.

I too was wondering her reason for hitting him.

But does there need to be reason,would any scenario make it acceptable

Never once said her behaviour was acceptable! There is however a reason for everything.

But are reasons important, there are maybe many reasons why some men hit women ( absolutely unexceptable by the way ) but it doesn't give reason for violence

Knowing the reasons behind someone's negative behaviour, is an affective way to help them combat their negative behaviour.

For all we know she acted in self defence. We only know one side to the story. I prefer to keep an open mind.

If a guy acted in self defence is that acceptable? "

If both use reasonable force to defend themselves, yes I believe so.

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By *imetoexplore69Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

...and which stats would those be?

Domestic violence:

* Will affect 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in their lifetime.

* Leads to, on average, two women being murdered each week and 30 men per year.

* Accounts for 16% of all violent crime

(Source: Crime in England and Wales 04/05 report)"
stats cant really be taken seriously though as think how many guys wont admit it and alot of guys dont judge being hit by a woman as domestic violence. iv been slapped a few times by woman but never felt like itwas domestic violence but can you imagine the outrage if i slapped em back.best thing to do is laugh at them but be prepared to defend yourself lol.

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over a year ago

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

...and which stats would those be?

Domestic violence:

* Will affect 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in their lifetime.

* Leads to, on average, two women being murdered each week and 30 men per year.

* Accounts for 16% of all violent crime

(Source: Crime in England and Wales 04/05 report)

Tbf I doubt men would readily come forward. Compared to women

I've been a victim of it....attacked by my son's mom in front of him...I was more concerned for the little one being subjected to seeing it

May I asked what she did? Don't answer if it's too personal.

I too was wondering her reason for hitting him.

But does there need to be reason,would any scenario make it acceptable

Never once said her behaviour was acceptable! There is however a reason for everything.

But are reasons important, there are maybe many reasons why some men hit women ( absolutely unexceptable by the way ) but it doesn't give reason for violence

Knowing the reasons behind someone's negative behaviour, is an affective way to help them combat their negative behaviour.

For all we know she acted in self defence. We only know one side to the story. I prefer to keep an open mind.

If a guy acted in self defence is that acceptable?

If both use reasonable force to defend themselves, yes I believe so. "

Wow really

we won't comment anymore

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"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

...and which stats would those be?

Domestic violence:

* Will affect 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in their lifetime.

* Leads to, on average, two women being murdered each week and 30 men per year.

* Accounts for 16% of all violent crime

(Source: Crime in England and Wales 04/05 report)stats cant really be taken seriously though as think how many guys wont admit it and alot of guys dont judge being hit by a woman as domestic violence. iv been slapped a few times by woman but never felt like itwas domestic violence but can you imagine the outrage if i slapped em back.best thing to do is laugh at them but be prepared to defend yourself lol."

Exactly this

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over a year ago

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

...and which stats would those be?

Domestic violence:

* Will affect 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in their lifetime.

* Leads to, on average, two women being murdered each week and 30 men per year.

* Accounts for 16% of all violent crime

(Source: Crime in England and Wales 04/05 report)

Tbf I doubt men would readily come forward. Compared to women

I've been a victim of it....attacked by my son's mom in front of him...I was more concerned for the little one being subjected to seeing it

May I asked what she did? Don't answer if it's too personal.

I too was wondering her reason for hitting him. "
that's dodgy territory, sounds a bit like victim blaming

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over a year ago

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

...and which stats would those be?

Domestic violence:

* Will affect 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in their lifetime.

* Leads to, on average, two women being murdered each week and 30 men per year.

* Accounts for 16% of all violent crime

(Source: Crime in England and Wales 04/05 report)

Tbf I doubt men would readily come forward. Compared to women

I've been a victim of it....attacked by my son's mom in front of him...I was more concerned for the little one being subjected to seeing it

May I asked what she did? Don't answer if it's too personal.

I too was wondering her reason for hitting him. that's dodgy territory, sounds a bit like victim blaming "

Them questions are expected I guess most of the time people twist the truth to benefit themselves...people will always doubt

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"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

...and which stats would those be?

Domestic violence:

* Will affect 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in their lifetime.

* Leads to, on average, two women being murdered each week and 30 men per year.

* Accounts for 16% of all violent crime

(Source: Crime in England and Wales 04/05 report)

Tbf I doubt men would readily come forward. Compared to women

I've been a victim of it....attacked by my son's mom in front of him...I was more concerned for the little one being subjected to seeing it

May I asked what she did? Don't answer if it's too personal.

I too was wondering her reason for hitting him. that's dodgy territory, sounds a bit like victim blaming "

No it does not. No one deserves to be treated with violence and no one reacts violently for no reason. Nowhere did I say he was to blame. I did say and do believe she had her reasons. Unexceptable behaviour yes. But really do you believe she picked up a stool , hit him etc etc all in front of her son for NO REASON?? He may not of gave her a reason but surely she had a reason whatever that may be.

Yes I believe and it is within UK law for him to reasonably defend himself.

"A man who is attacked or believes that he is about to be attacked may use such force as is both necessary and reasonable in order to defend himself. If that is what he does then he acts lawfully."

https://www.cps.gov.uk/legal/s_to_u/self_defence/#Reasonable_Force

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough

" But really do you believe she picked up a stool , hit him etc etc all in front of her son for NO REASON?? He may not of gave her a reason but surely she had a reason whatever that may be.

Would you have asked the same question if it was woman who had been beaten with a stool?

Not being snarky, I'm actually interested to know.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"No man will ever be a man until such time he's taken a hiding of a woman and not raised a hand back in my mind simple as that no place in any society for it

Surely the right of passage into manhood should not require taking a beating from anyone...

so its not to do with necking multiple shots on top of umpteen pints of stella then chucking it all up in the curry house whilst attempting a phal?

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over a year ago

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

...and which stats would those be?

Domestic violence:

* Will affect 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in their lifetime.

* Leads to, on average, two women being murdered each week and 30 men per year.

* Accounts for 16% of all violent crime

(Source: Crime in England and Wales 04/05 report)

Tbf I doubt men would readily come forward. Compared to women

I've been a victim of it....attacked by my son's mom in front of him...I was more concerned for the little one being subjected to seeing it

May I asked what she did? Don't answer if it's too personal.

I too was wondering her reason for hitting him. that's dodgy territory, sounds a bit like victim blaming

Yes I believe and it is within UK law for him to reasonably defend himself.

"A man who is attacked or believes that he is about to be attacked may use such force as is both necessary and reasonable in order to defend himself. If that is what he does then he acts lawfully."

https://www.cps.gov.uk/legal/s_to_u/self_defence/#Reasonable_Force"

And it's women like you that guys probably don't report violence,in your world the guy must of done something wrong,however no doubt in your world if the event happened the other way round the women wouldn't of needed to do anything...honestly officer

To make it clear before anyone judges violence towards women in not exceptable,vulgar and a disgrace

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over a year ago

" But really do you believe she picked up a stool , hit him etc etc all in front of her son for NO REASON?? He may not of gave her a reason but surely she had a reason whatever that may be.

Would you have asked the same question if it was woman who had been beaten with a stool?

Not being snarky, I'm actually interested to know."

Yes of course. Why would anyone want to beat anyone in any manner? I'd ask no matter who the victim. If he didn't trigger her behaviour (still no excuse), maybe she's suffering a mental illness? It's a reason. All I ever meant was, I don't take sides and I always keep an open mind. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors. Both sexes can behave like a dick.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"Why do some men think it's ok to slap woman about im a temper !!! Not in sexual moment !!!! Fucking hate cowards !!!!

Sorry I'm just venting !!! "

Works both ways dude, with my exwife I used to have to go to work in long sleeved shirts as she'd swing a lot and my forearms would be a mass of bruises. Four years of hell. It did transpire she had issues though..

Admittedly rarer but it does happen.

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over a year ago

"Actually, the stats show that rates of domestic abuse are fairly even amongst women and men.

...and which stats would those be?

Domestic violence:

* Will affect 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in their lifetime.

* Leads to, on average, two women being murdered each week and 30 men per year.

* Accounts for 16% of all violent crime

(Source: Crime in England and Wales 04/05 report)

Tbf I doubt men would readily come forward. Compared to women

I've been a victim of it....attacked by my son's mom in front of him...I was more concerned for the little one being subjected to seeing it

May I asked what she did? Don't answer if it's too personal.

I too was wondering her reason for hitting him. that's dodgy territory, sounds a bit like victim blaming

Yes I believe and it is within UK law for him to reasonably defend himself.

"A man who is attacked or believes that he is about to be attacked may use such force as is both necessary and reasonable in order to defend himself. If that is what he does then he acts lawfully."

https://www.cps.gov.uk/legal/s_to_u/self_defence/#Reasonable_Force

To make it clear before anyone judges violence towards women in not exceptable,vulgar and a disgrace "

What a surprise you twisting what people say. I've said she had a reason. I definitely have never said he definitely was the cause for her outburst. He could of been but equally could not of been. She had a reason!! Whatever that was.