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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Which is more appealing good looks body,or personality not boring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks for initial attraction, personality to back it up and make me actually want to meet.

That doesn't mean I expect everyone to look a certain way or have a certain body type, my tastes are pretty varied, but I have to find them attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both are equally important for me.

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By *ndiansexguruMan
over a year ago

Surbiton, Germany

Personally deffo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Both are equally important for me."

Same for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure that one can be more appealing than the other unless you compartmentalise those you communicate with by separating out their attributes? Looks draw me in,personality keeps me there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there has to be a physical attraction or spark before anything sexual can ever happen (explains why I don't get many meets lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks first I'm shallow. Very shallow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there has to be a physical attraction or spark before anything sexual can ever happen but personally is important as well no one like awkward silences (explains why I don't get many meets lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Both are equally important for me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Both are equally important for me.

Same for me "

Yes, I'd find difficult to separate the two, as once you like someone's personality you see her more attractive, and once you find someone attractive you have more interest in her personality...

So, both are important

X

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Good body looks for first meet.

Good personality to ensure repeats.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality draws me (Mr) in but looks draw the Mrs in.

But then we also need the other side as well to want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Initial attraction to start with then both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both for me too

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By *iver2015Woman
over a year ago

middlesbrough

Personality and humour. They make people physically attractive to me.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Looks for initial attraction, personality to back it up and make me actually want to meet.

That doesn't mean I expect everyone to look a certain way or have a certain body type, my tastes are pretty varied, but I have to find them attractive. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks catch my attention, personality keeps it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks catch my attention, personality keeps it. "

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why see it as a dichotomy? Looks and personality and much more besides constitute my criteria for attraction and I dare say for many others too. I simply don't see things as a trade off between two.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Garry says you are all shallow going for looks or personality.

What really matters is if there is a pussy

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I want to say both, but I'm more 40-60 in favour of personality to be honest. Yes looks are great for the initial "Hello!" factor, but after that I'm looking for women that can engage with a smile (yes, as a man I need my mind stimulating also!).

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By *otrockloverMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Both but potentially both are open to subjective interpretations anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personality then looks,no point having a kiss with a wet fish though I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

looks catch the eye personality catches the mind, has to be a bit of both for me

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If I'm going to have to live with someone for years looks and personality. If I'm having casual sex looks and personality.

Attraction is very important to me, I need to like what I see and no, that doesn't mean gym fit 30 year olds.

I'm sure to some that makes me shallow but heigh ho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's parallel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality. Although I do like someone I can have chemistry with, I find some people with a great personality can make someone develop into being rather gorgeous to me, regardless of looks.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

A combination of both to be honest - you can be extremely good looking but have no personality and there wouldn't be an attraction, likewise there may be an incredible personality but no physical attraction.

It all comes down to chemistry between two individuals at the end of the day, where the ingredients are looks AND personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Which is more appealing good looks body,or personality not boring"

Hard to say. I do have to be physically attracted to a person but you could be an Adonis but if you have a rubbish personality then we won't be playing.

Eve. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely a bit of both but swaying on more personality than looks. I tend to find that guys who are really attractive, know it and there's nothing more ugly than that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's a combination of both.

That said I have met people I don't find attractive but that hold decent conversation and vice versa, however without both it'd be unlikely I drop my undies.

Mrs Dirty

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Looks, im not that fussy but i have to like the look of them a bit. You cant always tell just by seeing a face pic though, i know what i like and what i dont like.

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By *od ThrusterMan
over a year ago

Newport Pagnell


"Looks catch my attention, personality keeps it. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice body.

Personality of a wet flannel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me its looks, i need to be attracted to them first and foremost

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By *od ThrusterMan
over a year ago

Newport Pagnell


"Personality. Although I do like someone I can have chemistry with, I find some people with a great personality can make someone develop into being rather gorgeous to me, regardless of looks."

This has an awful lot of truth about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need to fancy someone but if I enjoy a persons company that can make them more attractive to me. I've known lots of people that have become more attractive to me as I've got to know them, sadly it also works in reverse

Beard

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I find that the more time I spend chatting to someone that makes me laugh and keeps me on my toes, the more attractive I find them.

So it would have to be personality for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesnt matter as it is nsa.

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By *adyDangerWoman
over a year ago

land of debauchery and kink


"I find that the more time I spend chatting to someone that makes me laugh and keeps me on my toes, the more attractive I find them.

So it would have to be personality for me."

Same

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Looks may attract my attention but only personality will make me want to meet now.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I have spoken to people on here without seeing pictures and have totally fancied them before seeing what they look like. I have yet to be disappointed but whether or not I'm just lucky or if there is a correlation between me liking them as a person and therefore finding them attractive is unknowable. So I'd say personality is the most important facet for me based on the limited apocryphal data I have to go on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both, no compromise.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Both, no compromise."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A mixture of both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have spoken to people on here without seeing pictures and have totally fancied them before seeing what they look like. I have yet to be disappointed but whether or not I'm just lucky or if there is a correlation between me liking them as a person and therefore finding them attractive is unknowable. So I'd say personality is the most important facet for me based on the limited apocryphal data I have to go on."

Agreed

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By *otty69Couple
over a year ago

bedford

Looks initially attract you to a person...but ideally you would want both, could never go out with someone didnt like but had a lovely personality or vice a versa .x

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"Both, no compromise. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality edges it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks but I'm shallow lol

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By *udemattMan
over a year ago

sleaford

I would say personality as I have been with ladies who I initially looked at and didn't fancy, but after talking to them I wanted to get more intimate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks catch my attention, personality keeps it. "

This

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"Personality edges it "

Yep..for us too

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By *hoxyWoman
over a year ago

Chester

Initial interest looks but if there is no personality the first impression soon dwindles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality. I don't care how good a person looks, if the person is a horrible human being I really don't want to know him/her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks and penis first but personality is needed as well. I've said it before but there was a guy on here that I met (he's long gone) but his personality suited me so much, he just got me, his penis was big as well in the pictures but when I met him in the flesh I couldn't fancy him, I tried really hard because his personality was so good but I couldn't imagine having sex or doing anything sexual with him, was really gutted about that.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

A nice face, doesnt have to be good looking, personality wins it for me. But obviously their are some that i find unattractive even with a great personality.

Body type not fussed but i dont really go for extremes

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By *ary Queen Of CocksWoman
over a year ago

Cumbria

You can't shag a personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ideally both, but I'm very fussy and shallow when it comes to Fab so looks (both face and body) first. Nobody gets a second meet without a great personality too though

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By *rimo4uMan
over a year ago

north kensington w10


"Which is more appealing good looks body,or personality not boring"

If you are talking fab's then looks is most important just because this to me is a casual sex introduction site. Not a dating site.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"Which is more appealing good looks body,or personality not boring"

Looks and body type will always play second fiddle with me to how someone makes me feel about them .so personality first because I take play and my responsibilities to who i choose to play with seriously .

That's the thing about not being here for numbers but defining memories one becomes more interested in the personality of those one may be thinking about forming that or those memories with than there looks or body

In others words does the personality of the person I'm interested in induce the lust in me to be inspired to give my all so I can have a lasting memory from the fact I knew them intimately .

You see I have learn that when a adventure means nothing to me I soon forget the adventure and the person it was with but as I want lasting memories I now choose only to play with those who inspire true lust in me on a mental level not just a physical one.

If I wish for only physical attributes I might as well pay for such because let's be honest here such woman who offer such a service would easily out strip most on here in the looks and body department .

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Looks are just fiiiiiiiine.

(I'll provide the personality)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A mixture of both

Kinky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Which is more appealing good looks body,or personality not boring"

Because I'm on fab, I go for looks and body type first. Doesn't have to be a ripped gym bunny but I do have to find an attraction.

If I were dating for real with the intention of each entering a relationship, I'd go for more mature and good personality.

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By *acLe0dMan
over a year ago

Preston

A mix of both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks may attract my attention but only personality will make me want to meet now. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks may attract my attention but only personality will make me want to meet now. "

Spot on this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks will always create an initial attraction, but there's been numerous times I've thought someone was attractive only to be put off by their personality and even more so where I've not been as attracted physically, but have developed a huge attraction to their personality.

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By *acLe0dMan
over a year ago

Preston


"Looks will always create an initial attraction, but there's been numerous times I've thought someone was attractive only to be put off by their personality and even more so where I've not been as attracted physically, but have developed a huge attraction to their personality. "

Agreed, I can find someone attractive but personality is what makes me attracted to them.

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By *radleywigginsMan
over a year ago

northwest

Do you see more profiles that say 'send a photo with your message' or more that say send 'let's chat for months before I ask for a picture'?

On Fab, looks rule.

'Must have a good personality' = must be really good looking.

'I have a type' = must be tattooed, muscular, massive cock.

Massive sweeping generalisations obviously.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Personality every time, looks are just a bonus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know my personality is more attractive than my looks and it's hard to convey that in profile text. That's probably why I spend time on the forums and am looking to get to a few social gatherings soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality. I have meet some very attractive people who after spending an hour in their company I'd rather have taken a cheese grater to by dick. Then there are women who I wouldn't have been initially attracted to but when I have spent time with them I have find myself drawn to them. Confidence is generally a big factor here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality does it for me, but there has to be an attraction too!

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