FabSwingers.com forum: jumping through hoops. .....

By *rcher01 OP Man
over a year ago

hereford

I've been on this site on and of for over a two years and totally get why when you send a message that it has to reflect the profile you are responding to and be articulate and not cut and paste ( which I have never done ) I also appreciate that women and couples receive a huge amount of messages ......and here comes the but. ... but it can get frustrating when one spends a time and effort to message some one and it gets read that people can't be bothered to reply either way, especially when some of the demands from people really shouldn't be that demanding. .....I know I'm not the first to mention this but I'm old school and think it's about manners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read the FAQ's about no replies. Take it as a no thanks.

And you don't have to jump through hoops. Those with lists of demands are easy to move on from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm old school.

Someone will follow shortly with a formula. X+y x m = bwasted time etc.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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What do you mean but demands from people who shouldn't be demanding?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People can be demanding as they want on here.

People can also choose to ignore those demands and look for someone less demanding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't make the first move, let them come to you. Problem solved

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Don't make the first move, let them come to you. Problem solved

How's that working out for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't make the first move, let them come to you. Problem solved

How's that working out for you?"

Can't complain.

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

You jump through the hoops! There's a good boy!

Mate if they like you they will come. I think that's the quote??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone has a demanding profile it puts me off anyway. So I wouldn't bother messaging in the first place. All this put Tutti Frutti with two spaces between each letter crap or we won't reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People can be demanding as they want on here.

People can also choose to ignore those demands and look for someone less demanding

Op should message with his own demands. They then cancel each other out. Success

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Why would you even message anyone if you dont like stuff on their profile.

Noone is forcing you to do anything on this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been on this site on and of for over a two years and totally get why when you send a message that it has to reflect the profile you are responding to and be articulate and not cut and paste ( which I have never done ) I also appreciate that women and couples receive a huge amount of messages ......and here comes the but. ... but it can get frustrating when one spends a time and effort to message some one and it gets read that people can't be bothered to reply either way, especially when some of the demands from people really shouldn't be that demanding. .....I know I'm not the first to mention this but I'm old school and think it's about manners "

You are not the first to mention it nor will you be the last.

It is nothing about manners. It is about interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been in the same boat so I've sacked the messages, stopped trying to chase meets and have just decided to have a laugh on the forums, interact with people and anything else is a bonus

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"People can be demanding as they want on here.

People can also choose to ignore those demands and look for someone less demanding

Op should message with his own demands. They then cancel each other out. Success

To be fair I don't think he's overly fussy from reading his profile.

It's us ladies.

Unfairly fussy and demanding.

I quite like demanding though.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Don't make the first move, let them come to you. Problem solved

How's that working out for you?

Can't complain. "

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

If someone never requested a message from you, then they haven't been demanding.

It's life that some people will click with some others but they won't do it for others.

If you'd prefer to chat face to face, rather than message hoop jumping, then visit clubs and socials.

Work out if there's something about you that could be crafted more attractively, for the types of people that you'd like to meet.

No guarantees here, ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People can be demanding as they want on here.

People can also choose to ignore those demands and look for someone less demanding

Op should message with his own demands. They then cancel each other out. Success

To be fair I don't think he's overly fussy from reading his profile.

It's us ladies.

Unfairly fussy and demanding.

I quite like demanding though.

What the hell is that supposed to mean? "He's not overly fussy."

I must have missed the bit where he asked for profile advice.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"People can be demanding as they want on here.

People can also choose to ignore those demands and look for someone less demanding

Op should message with his own demands. They then cancel each other out. Success

To be fair I don't think he's overly fussy from reading his profile.

It's us ladies.

Unfairly fussy and demanding.

I quite like demanding though.

What the hell is that supposed to mean? "He's not overly fussy."

I must have missed the bit where he asked for profile advice.

That's good because I wasn't giving advice

Thanks though

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I find people with a sense of entitlement off putting and wonder how they'd react if you met them and declined to have sex. After all, it's bad manners to meet and not spread em right?!!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"People can be demanding as they want on here.

People can also choose to ignore those demands and look for someone less demanding

This. It's a self operating filter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People can demand what they want,clearly it doesn't fit in with you,tough,up your game,other guys do

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Forget all the messaging, head to a club meet people in the flesh and get to know them.

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