FabSwingers.com forum: I dont know what all you single blokes are moaning about!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think this site is good! only been here 2 weeks I think its pretty easy finding matches

The only prob is most girls dont show there face in profile, so if you see a nice bum, or set of s, and message her asking for pics and so on, when you recieve them, you relise you dont fancy them....... I think this is a big reason as to the ammount of messers on this site, just change of mind from both sex

If everyone had more pics on profile, people would know the score

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's alright for everyone who feels able to put their face pic on.

You have to work a lot harder than that to see my face

I prefer to maintain my privacy as is my right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Similarly, if you walked into a nightclub, saw a pretty girl and made a play for her, you would have no idea that she had three nipples and scars all over her body until you got her home and stripped her off.

Profiles on here are merely a shop window and once you've made contact and swapped more intimate photos, ie facial pics, you can make an informed decision as to whether you want to proceed or not.

Some people cannot show their faces on a very public profile because of their personal circumstances (we don't show ours because Siren has a sensitive job and if I show my face she will be identified through association)

p.s. You still look like Lewis Hamilton. with oil.

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By *ummy mummyWoman
over a year ago

southampton-ish

I don't think someone who asks to see my face pics and then doesn't want to meet as being a "messer"..not everyone is going to find everyone else attractive.works both ways..loads of guys only have cock shots up and send face pics later or have them in private pics,don't see anything wrong with it. The only time I complain is when someone is a no show and does not cancel in advance...

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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I have a face pic because I don't have any problems with doing that. Some women don't because they do. But I agree that I would not meet someone without seeing a face pic, and if I see a face pic and don't like what I see then its not going to go much further. Best to be honest at the beginning, thus saving time and feelings all over the place.

Your pic is nommy. Just saying.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That's alright for everyone who feels able to put their face

You have to work a lot harder than that to see my face

I prefer to maintain my privacy as is my right. "

Oh of course its your right! I dont always have my face in my profile pic, depends on how I feel

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have a face pic because I don't have any problems with doing that. Some women don't because they do. But I agree that I would not meet someone without seeing a face pic, and if I see a face pic and don't like what I see then its not going to go much further. Best to be honest at the beginning, thus saving time and feelings all over the place.

Your pic is nommy. Just saying.

I agree.

whats nommy mean?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"I agree.

whats nommy mean?"

It means yummy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Similarly, if you walked into a nightclub, saw a pretty girl and made a play for her, you would have no idea that she had three nipples and scars all over her body until you got her home and stripped her off.

Profiles on here are merely a shop window and once you've made contact and swapped more intimate photos, ie facial pics, you can make an informed decision as to whether you want to proceed or not.

p.s. You still look like Lewis Hamilton. with oil.

I agree! apart from the lewis hamelton bit! lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I agree.

whats nommy mean?

It means yummy.

Oh thanks.... you have a nice back lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"I agree.

whats nommy mean?

It means yummy.

Oh thanks.... you have a nice back lol

Thank you.

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By *icboyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Not everyone wants their photo on this site. Family, friends, work all sort of reasons.

You have to ask, sometimes when you chat to someone you will find them attractive land before you see them. Attraction starts in the mind.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not everyone wants their photo on this site. Family, friends, work all sort of reasons.

You have to ask, sometimes when you chat to someone you will find them attractive land before you see them. Attraction starts in the mind.

Not in my mind it dont! lol sounds like a load of old bollocks to me....... This is a swinging site, I think thats more for a dating site but thats just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not everyone wants their photo on this site. Family, friends, work all sort of reasons.

You have to ask, sometimes when you chat to someone you will find them attractive land before you see them. Attraction starts in the mind.

Not in my mind it dont! lol sounds like a load of old bollocks to me....... This is a swinging site, I think thats more for a dating site but thats just my opinion

Hmmm, you're on dodgy ground there.

You're implying that because we're swingers we shouldn't be fussy about who we shag, or who sees our photos.

Attraction does start in the mind whether you're a swinger or a 'nilla, and some people are just plain uncomfortable showing face pics to all and sundry without retaining some level of control over who sees them.

Some people don't want to show face pics for fear that if they reject someone they may be identified later (at a social or a club for example) and find themselves in an awkward situation.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Not everyone wants their photo on this site. Family, friends, work all sort of reasons.

You have to ask, sometimes when you chat to someone you will find them attractive land before you see them. Attraction starts in the mind.

Not in my mind it dont! lol sounds like a load of old bollocks to me....... This is a swinging site, I think thats more for a dating site but thats just my opinion

if thats the case then why do you want to see a face pic?

if you didnt need to be attracted to someone then the pics of their ass/boobs etc would be enough

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By *icboyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Not everyone wants their photo on this site. Family, friends, work all sort of reasons.

You have to ask, sometimes when you chat to someone you will find them attractive land before you see them. Attraction starts in the mind.

Not in my mind it dont! lol sounds like a load of old bollocks to me....... This is a swinging site, I think thats more for a dating site but thats just my opinion

This answer made me smile, a whole lot. pmsl

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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I think we had a thread recently on here which was about face pics. I think the consensus was that, as swingers, we don't just shag anyone, although in a club scenario it is difficult to turn down someone to their face. But I would at least have to fancy someone before they get into my pants.

On the other hand I agree with the OP - I like to be on talking terms with my shags, but I have no intention of 'getting to know their mind' or whatever. I meet, I like, I shag. I have no interest in a relationship.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I agree that a lot of blokes moan on here, usually the ones with a 2 line profile and a cock picture for some reason.

But the face picture thing I understand. I send mine out with messages and I have some in my private pictures but I'm happy leaving them at that and I understand folks who feel the same.

As to the attraction thing, for me physical attraction is necessary, but I prefer to meet people who interest me and who I feel some connection with - so the mind is a big part of it for me too.

Everyone has their own way of meeting people and that constantly evolves and changes as well - moaners possibly excepted!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree that a lot of blokes moan on here, usually the ones with a 2 line profile and a cock picture for some reason.

But the face picture thing I understand. I send mine out with messages and I have some in my private pictures but I'm happy leaving them at that and I understand folks who feel the same.

As to the attraction thing, for me physical attraction is necessary, but I prefer to meet people who interest me and who I feel some connection with - so the mind is a big part of it for me too.

Everyone has their own way of meeting people and that constantly evolves and changes as well - moaners possibly excepted!

True, I don't mind showing a face pic which is my choice, if I send them one in a message without having one on my profile I could scare them off

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not everyone wants their photo on this site. Family, friends, work all sort of reasons.

You have to ask, sometimes when you chat to someone you will find them attractive land before you see them. Attraction starts in the mind.

Not in my mind it dont! lol sounds like a load of old bollocks to me....... This is a swinging site, I think thats more for a dating site but thats just my opinion

if thats the case then why do you want to see a face pic?

if you didnt need to be attracted to someone then the pics of their ass/boobs etc would be enough"

sorry was that aimed at me or the other bloke??? cause this site is all about attraction for me, and if the girl is a nice person then its added bonus! obviously if this was a dating site it would be complietly different! and personality would matter most, but its not!

Im sure there are some blokes on this site with wicked personalities, that are not great looking, dont here of them getting all the girls! cause really when it comes down to it, its all about attraction.... from both sex

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Not everyone wants their photo on this site. Family, friends, work all sort of reasons.

You have to ask, sometimes when you chat to someone you will find them attractive land before you see them. Attraction starts in the mind.

Not in my mind it dont! lol sounds like a load of old bollocks to me....... This is a swinging site, I think thats more for a dating site but thats just my opinion

if thats the case then why do you want to see a face pic?

if you didnt need to be attracted to someone then the pics of their ass/boobs etc would be enough

my apologies, was in sleep mode when i read the post lol got it all mixed about

makes sense now

carry on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not everyone wants their photo on this site. Family, friends, work all sort of reasons.

You have to ask, sometimes when you chat to someone you will find them attractive land before you see them. Attraction starts in the mind.

Not in my mind it dont! lol sounds like a load of old bollocks to me....... This is a swinging site, I think thats more for a dating site but thats just my opinion

Hmmm, you're on dodgy ground there.

You're implying that because we're swingers we shouldn't be fussy about who we shag, or who sees our photos.

Some people don't want to show face pics for fear that if they reject someone they may be identified later (at a social or a club for example) and find themselves in an awkward situation."

What! No im not impying anyone should not be fussy! I never said that! im fussy myself! Iv had offers but prob only 1 girl im going to meet, if I wasnt fussy I would meet my hole inbox! why does everyone turn everthing you say against you? lol

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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"I think this site is good! only been here 2 weeks I think its pretty easy finding matches

If everyone had more pics on profile, people would know the score"

Changing your mind or realising you don't click isn't messing anyone around.... it's a fact of life.

Just the same as someone may see a face pic and think 'phwoar' only to find out they don't get on for other reasons.... sexual preferences or whatever.

At whatever point you realise this one isn't for you, as long as you let them know they are not your type, then there's no harm done is there?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think this site is good! only been here 2 weeks I think its pretty easy finding matches

If everyone had more pics on profile, people would know the score

Changing your mind or realising you don't click isn't messing anyone around.... it's a fact of life.

Just the same as someone may see a face pic and think 'phwoar' only to find out they don't get on for other reasons.... sexual preferences or whatever.

At whatever point you realise this one isn't for you, as long as you let them know they are not your type, then there's no harm done is there?"

I agree! think people just got wrong end of the stick about what I was saying lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol thats the forums for ya xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's alright for everyone who feels able to put their face pic on.

You have to work a lot harder than that to see my face

I prefer to maintain my privacy as is my right. "

Oh, go on. Show us

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"That's alright for everyone who feels able to put their face pic on.

You have to work a lot harder than that to see my face

I prefer to maintain my privacy as is my right. "

I'm like that with my bum pics.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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"I think this site is good! only been here 2 weeks I think its pretty easy finding matches

If everyone had more pics on profile, people would know the score

Changing your mind or realising you don't click isn't messing anyone around.... it's a fact of life.

Just the same as someone may see a face pic and think 'phwoar' only to find out they don't get on for other reasons.... sexual preferences or whatever.

At whatever point you realise this one isn't for you, as long as you let them know they are not your type, then there's no harm done is there?

I agree! think people just got wrong end of the stick about what I was saying lol"

I am glad you do agree.... which means people don't need to put more face pics on profiles and not doing so doesn't lead to there being more messers on the site....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

For the record I was not saying people should put more pics on there profile! I just said that it would prob save a lot time and messages for everyone if they did, thats it!

everyone gets the wrong idea and thinks I was moaning lol wich is quite funny when you look at the topic name lol

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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"For the record I was not saying people should put more pics on there profile! "

ermmmmm.....

"The only prob [I assume that means PROBLEM] is most girls dont show there face in profile, so if you see a nice bum, or set of s, and message her asking for pics and so on, when you recieve them, you relise you dont fancy them....... I think this is a big reason as to the ammount of messers on this site, just change of mind from both sex [you attribute the lack of face pics to the number of 'messers' and sort of imply people who change their mind are 'messers']

If everyone had more pics on profile, people would know the score [you are pretty much suggesting the solution is for people to put more face pics on their profiles]"

In my original reply I was disagreeing with you.... and you agreed with me.... let's leave it at that

People will always have different opinions and I do agree if everyone could have a face pic on their profile it would lead to quicker choices being made.... but that's not how it is. Showing a face pic does not reduce the number of 'messers' and changing your mind after exchanging messages/photos does not a 'messer' make.... unless they have been on the beer and had a dodgy curry.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

for some reason all i hear in my brain when reading the thread is "oooooh.... look at me look at me look at me"

I know... cynical... jaded...

if its working for you... cool... but really, broadcasting it to the world???

this is like the "anti-moan".....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And in converse..if lovematch.co showed more pics of tits and bums and cocks ...then that might save a lot of time too !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not everyone wants their photo on this site. Family, friends, work all sort of reasons.

You have to ask, sometimes when you chat to someone you will find them attractive land before you see them. Attraction starts in the mind.

Not in my mind it dont! lol sounds like a load of old bollocks to me....... This is a swinging site, I think thats more for a dating site but thats just my opinion

You are missing out on one of the most fun and interesting bits then. x

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

this is like the "anti-moan"..... "

Not as good as the one I did even if I do say so myself.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"for some reason all i hear in my brain when reading the thread is "oooooh.... look at me look at me look at me"

Worked for him though, didn't it? And it was nice reading an upbeat post that was neither cynical nor jaded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not everyone wants their photo on this site. Family, friends, work all sort of reasons.

You have to ask, sometimes when you chat to someone you will find them attractive land before you see them. Attraction starts in the mind.

Not in my mind it dont! lol sounds like a load of old bollocks to me....... This is a swinging site, I think thats more for a dating site but thats just my opinion

if thats the case then why do you want to see a face pic?

if you didnt need to be attracted to someone then the pics of their ass/boobs etc would be enough

Open your mind, you might find a like-minded swinger who suits and would that not be great? x

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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"for some reason all i hear in my brain when reading the thread is "oooooh.... look at me look at me look at me"

To be fair.... I hear that everytime someone starts another 'person above' thread. It's like a 'look at me' for the qwertyly challenged.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Worked for him though, didn't it? And it was nice reading an upbeat post that was neither cynical nor jaded."

well... do you know what.... for someone who has been here for a whole 14 days there are a lot of sweeping generalisations in that 1st post.... I just can't even be bothered to rant this morning....cynical and jaded is the best I have...

all ranted out.... thanks for putting the world to rights, all this time I have had it all wrong... ect ect ect.....

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Well thats got him noticed at least!Girls please form an orderly queue, in order of attractiveness, and don't forget your face pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And in converse..if lovematch.co showed more pics of tits and bums and cocks ...then that might save a lot of time too !

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"for some reason all i hear in my brain when reading the thread is "oooooh.... look at me look at me look at me"

To be fair.... I hear that everytime someone starts another 'person above' thread. It's like a 'look at me' for the qwertyly challenged."

Thank you! Thats what I think too.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"for some reason all i hear in my brain when reading the thread is "oooooh.... look at me look at me look at me"

Worked for him though, didn't it? And it was nice reading an upbeat post that was neither cynical nor jaded."

I agree largely. It's also nice to see a bloke who's not afraid to put up his views on things.

I think a lot of blokes are a bit too scared to do that at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"for some reason all i hear in my brain when reading the thread is "oooooh.... look at me look at me look at me"

To be fair.... I hear that everytime someone starts another 'person above' thread. It's like a 'look at me' for the qwertyly challenged."

That's exactly how I see those threads. Or don't see them actually, cos I don't read them anymore.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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"for some reason all i hear in my brain when reading the thread is "oooooh.... look at me look at me look at me"

To be fair.... I hear that everytime someone starts another 'person above' thread. It's like a 'look at me' for the qwertyly challenged.

Thank you! Thats what I think too."

You're welcome.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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Worked for him though, didn't it? And it was nice reading an upbeat post that was neither cynical nor jaded.

all ranted out.... thanks for putting the world to rights, all this time I have had it all wrong... ect ect ect.....

Awww I am sorry I spoiled your day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"for some reason all i hear in my brain when reading the thread is "oooooh.... look at me look at me look at me"

To be fair.... I hear that everytime someone starts another 'person above' thread. It's like a 'look at me' for the qwertyly challenged."

Yes careful I got the yellow card for saying something similar in another thread which was so obviously a "look at me" posting

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"for some reason all i hear in my brain when reading the thread is "oooooh.... look at me look at me look at me"

Worked for him though, didn't it? And it was nice reading an upbeat post that was neither cynical nor jaded.

I agree largely. It's also nice to see a bloke who's not afraid to put up his views on things.

I think a lot of blokes are a bit too scared to do that at times. "

I just think there is too much criticism of people on the forums for doing.....nothing. There are posts that deserve certain treatment, but I don't think this is one of them. Fabio thinks otherwise - his prerogative. But I think the world would be a nicer place if others just didn't diss all the time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Qwertyly challenged !! lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"Qwertyly challenged !! lol

Is it sad I just got that?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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"Qwertyly challenged !! lol

Is it sad I just got that?

It doesn't matter when you get it... as long as you get it it's all gooooood.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I think a few got the wrong idea.

I took your post as being.....I want to fancy someone then meet them. I don't want a relationship.

You are of the same mindset as us....attraction to their looks will be first, then see if we get on a bit for the chatting inbetween the fun.

There is nothing wrong with that, even if others don't agree.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"Qwertyly challenged !! lol

Is it sad I just got that?

It doesn't matter when you get it... as long as you get it it's all gooooood."

Don't get it enough, I know that!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"for some reason all i hear in my brain when reading the thread is "oooooh.... look at me look at me look at me"

I know... cynical... jaded...

if its working for you... cool... but really, broadcasting it to the world???

this is like the "anti-moan"..... "

That could be said for a lot of threads then.

There is nothing wrong with starting a thread to get yourself noticed.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

what can i say... cynical... jaded... grumpy.... awww my natural state...

my problem is that whenever someone makes a sweeping generalisation the red lights and a wall of "white noise" goes off at "chez fabs".... I do try to fight it but the force just isn't that strong in "this one"........

good luck to the fella....

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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There is nothing wrong with starting a thread to get yourself noticed."

There are enough threads knocking about telling single guys to do just that.... join in on the forum and get yourself noticed.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

There is nothing wrong with starting a thread to get yourself noticed.

There are enough threads knocking about telling single guys to do just that.... join in on the forum and get yourself noticed."

Ah, exactly my point Polo

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Hello!

...anyone?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"Hello!

Hello!

...anyone?

LOL! she sais START a post, not hijack someone elses.

Go on, get a pic of you oiled up and I promise to reply. :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is nothing wrong with starting a thread to get yourself noticed.

There are enough threads knocking about telling single guys to do just that.... join in on the forum and get yourself noticed.

Ah, exactly my point Polo

and a very sharp one too

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Hello!

Hello!

...anyone?

sorry mate... you only have an arse pic.... you don't count....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello!

Hello!

...anyone?

hello

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Hello!

Hello!

...anyone?

sorry mate... you only have an arse pic.... you don't count...."

That is my face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello!

Hello!

...anyone?

sorry mate... you only have an arse pic.... you don't count....

That is my face

match.com?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Hello!

Hello!

...anyone?

sorry mate... you only have an arse pic.... you don't count....

That is my face

i though "face like a slapped arse" was just a phrase

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"Hello!

Hello!

...anyone?

sorry mate... you only have an arse pic.... you don't count....

That is my face

match.com?"

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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I didn't really see this one as a 'look at me' thread.... and so what if the guy mentions he's got a queue of poontang knocking his inbox doors in..... look at him..... come on is anyone really that surprised that he has?

But that's not all or even the main part of what he was saying.

In the OP he has made a statement that the number of messers is connected to the lack of face pick, suggested more face pics is a solution and pretty much implied a messer includes people who change their mind about being attracted to someone.

I don't think you need to be a cynic to disagree with at least part if not all of the above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For over a year I did not show a face pic be ause of ex hubby but now I am comfortable to do so, I have to be attracted to someone to meet, I admit that up front and have said this to guys who have not had face pics and a lot of the time after a few messages and I am eventually sent a face pic, I have had to say, sorry but you are not my type, that doesn't make me a messer and I appriciate it if someone said it to me if I wasn't theirs, mainly though they look at your pics and you never hear again, the people I class as messers are the ones that chat to you for what seems like ages (most only trying to get ou to talk dirty) and they always make excuses as to why they can't send a face pic, so I normally give up on them or you exchanged pics, you arrange an actual meet and then they don't show, without so much as an excuse, for me I have invested time in talking to them and the whole procedure of getting ready for the meet, for some they have had to arrange for baby sitters and or, they have paid out for accom and get a no show

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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In the end he was stating his point of view. There are a LOT of posts on the Lounge and Swinger Chat forums that do that (see the Not Turning Up post in here too) so it seems a bit mean to dogpile him for just saying what he thinks. Of course it is fine to disagree too, but its not the end of the world.

And yes, he is very tasty! Mmmmm.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Anyway to drag the thread back on track (bloody hell, that's a new one for me!!), I sometimes feel the blokes get 'accused' (wrong word really) of look at me threads when they aren't necessarily that.

I think this one had an element of that and it was done far better than many I've seen. Let's be honest we all post on the forums to get noticed one way or the other, if you don't then maybe a 'dear diary' would be better.

...and I like the qwerty threads, I've had meets that grew from those so despite the apparent banality of them they do serve a purpose. Like most threads, ignore them if you find them annoying.

Your swing will vary.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

So the moral of the story.......if posts annoy the hell out of anyone, ignore them, and let the rest of us join in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sometimes peeps may not look that attractive in pics, or even when you meet them, but once you get to know them and find out how much fun you can have, the way you see them changes completely.

just my pennethworth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyway to drag the thread back on track (bloody hell, that's a new one for me!!), I sometimes feel the blokes get 'accused' (wrong word really) of look at me threads when they aren't necessarily that.

...and I like the qwerty threads, I've had meets that grew from those so despite the apparent banality of them they do serve a purpose. Like most threads, ignore them if you find them annoying.

Your swing will vary.

yeah! we like a bit of a kinky swing

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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...and I like the qwerty threads, I've had meets that grew from those so despite the apparent banality of them they do serve a purpose. "

Yeah.... LOOK AT ME!

I do avoid them.... it doesn't mean I can't have an opinion on them though does it.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"So the moral of the story.......if posts annoy the hell out of anyone, ignore them, and let the rest of us join in.

I think this simple truth may be beyond some people.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

...and I like the qwerty threads, I've had meets that grew from those so despite the apparent banality of them they do serve a purpose.

Yeah.... LOOK AT ME!

I do avoid them.... it doesn't mean I can't have an opinion on them though does it."

Not at all

...do bum threads count as qwerties I wonder?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

lol it was not a look me thread I was just reading past posts of all these blokes that sey this site is a waste of time, and thought I would disagree and say I think its a good site, you lot can think what you like lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"lol it was not a look me thread I was just reading past posts of all these blokes that sey this site is a waste of time, and thought I would disagree and say I think its a good site, you lot can think what you like lol

Shhh! We're sticking up for you!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yep and just like life has it's ups and downs ... variety n all that x

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Shhh! We're sticking up for you!!

So was I... I think... I get confused.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Shhh! We're sticking up for you!!

So was I... I think... I get confused.

*Pets* There there, don't worry. This is the sort of thing that happens when you get older and confused. I'll get your slippers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with you...it is a good site and too many people join with so many expectations so end up becoming disappointed with it as they assume people just want to jump on everyone else. It works better for some than others due to status ,age and if you look like the OP !

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

Face pics aren't the be all and end all.

I am stunningly handsome but even my face pic can't prepare you for meeting me in the flesh (yes women have fainted).

Sometimes it's better to not look at the face pic, too much AWESOMENESS can work against you.

I agree with Vic about the 'look at me' threads though. Essentially every time you press the 'Post Message' button you are saying 'look at me'.

it's just different levels of overtness.

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By *icboyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Loving this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mmmmmm so long and dangly

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By *icboyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"mmmmmm so long and dangly "

You been peeking at the picture again? lol

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By * times sexyCouple
over a year ago

Staffs

Could it be that the guys who berate the site as rubbish cos they cant get lucky are the same guys that cant pull a girl in "real life" so they come on here thinking everyones gonna fall over themselves for them DOH !! LOL a decent guy will be succesful here face pic or no. maybe they should look at their attitude, profile and cock pic (WHY ??) and think about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"for some reason all i hear in my brain when reading the thread is "oooooh.... look at me look at me look at me"

To be fair.... I hear that everytime someone starts another 'person above' thread. It's like a 'look at me' for the qwertyly challenged."

I disagree: omit "quwertyly" and you're nearer the mark!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Could it be that the guys who berate the site as rubbish cos they cant get lucky are the same guys that cant pull a girl in "real life" so they come on here thinking everyones gonna fall over themselves for them DOH !! LOL a decent guy will be succesful here face pic or no. maybe they should look at their attitude, profile and cock pic (WHY ??) and think about it"

true! lol

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

And again.

Please don't keep being rude about people who enjoy threads, have your opinion yes that you don't like certain threads, but don't be personal and rude about the people who do like them.

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By * times sexyCouple
over a year ago

Staffs

true! lol"

clearly a decent guy !!! lol

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"And again.

Please don't keep being rude about people who enjoy threads, have your opinion yes that you don't like certain threads, but don't be personal and rude about the people who do like them."

I agree, at what point do the moans about such threads get more boring than the threads themselves I wonder? At least the 'would you' threads are self contained unlike the moans about them that crop up everywhere

How many jokes are we all allowed each day before we are being irritating and banal?

Why did the dinosaurs die out?

How many bum pics should you have before considering counselling?

Why? Why?

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"Why did the dinosaurs die out?"

They never existed!

Anyone can dig up a few bones, arrange them creatively and make a 'scary monster' Ooohhhhh scarey!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Why did the dinosaurs die out?

They never existed!

Anyone can dig up a few bones, arrange them creatively and make a 'scary monster' Ooohhhhh scarey!

Then what the fuck was that big green thing that tried to eat me on a recent trip to the Plasticine Era then?

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"Why did the dinosaurs die out?

They never existed!

Anyone can dig up a few bones, arrange them creatively and make a 'scary monster' Ooohhhhh scarey!

Then what the fuck was that big green thing that tried to eat me on a recent trip to the Plasticine Era then?

Ah see now you're dealing in facts. It was The Incredible Hulk.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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"I agree, at what point do the moans about such threads get more boring than the threads themselves I wonder? At least the 'would you' threads are self contained unlike the moans about them that crop up everywhere

Should the opinions ('moans' if you prefer) about such threads be contained within those threads aswell... is that what you are suggesting?

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Why did the dinosaurs die out?

They never existed!

Anyone can dig up a few bones, arrange them creatively and make a 'scary monster' Ooohhhhh scarey!

Then what the fuck was that big green thing that tried to eat me on a recent trip to the Plasticine Era then?

Ah see now you're dealing in facts. It was The Incredible Hulk."

Ahhh! I should have know that Doctor Funkster would have the answer! I did try Gazoogling it but the stupid thing said it was a greenfinch.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Should the opinions ('moans' if you prefer) about such threads be contained within those threads aswell... is that what you are suggesting?"

*** Please repost in the correct thread, thank you ***

I haven't got a fucking clue to be honest. But I bet if I started posting 'yes I would' in threads at random I'd soon be pulled up for it, especially the tabloid headline ones that I personally loath.

I'm tired and emotional and I keep lashing out at the people I love the most... anyone want a worm?

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Yes I would.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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Should the opinions ('moans' if you prefer) about such threads be contained within those threads aswell... is that what you are suggesting?

*** Please repost in the correct thread, thank you ***

I'm tired and emotional and I keep lashing out at the people I love the most... anyone want a worm?

I am sorry you can't mention the tabloid headline posts and your loathing in this thread.... even though it might seem a relevant point for the conversation to you.

I haven't really noticed many people just popping up in a thread about cars or shops or whatever and randomly posting "those 'one above' threads are shite" .... but if you have spotted any, please send me the links so I can quote them and agree

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"Not everyone wants their photo on this site. Family, friends, work all sort of reasons.

You have to ask, sometimes when you chat to someone you will find them attractive land before you see them. Attraction starts in the mind.

Not in my mind it dont! lol sounds like a load of old bollocks to me....... This is a swinging site, I think thats more for a dating site but thats just my opinion

Great sex is more than just putting a cock in a hole.Mentally connecting is for me part of foreplay,and sex without foreplay is like a bloody mary without vodka,you can do it,but why would you want to!

When you can come just from a text,and make a woman beg to meet you,then you will realise why some of us prefer the mind.

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Should the opinions ('moans' if you prefer) about such threads be contained within those threads aswell... is that what you are suggesting?

*** Please repost in the correct thread, thank you ***

I'm tired and emotional and I keep lashing out at the people I love the most... anyone want a worm?

I am sorry you can't mention the tabloid headline posts and your loathing in this thread.... even though it might seem a relevant point for the conversation to you.

Waddaya think I am, your PA? Find them yourself!!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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Waddaya think I am, your PA? "

That depends on what you think PA stands for.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

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I have a profile full of pictures, they are very recent pictures. For me it saves hassle of chatting to someone then when you send a picture there not attracted to you. I assume if they have seen my pictures and still message they must like me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, sorry, but I disagree. I like to engage with a man's mind first, and his body second. Judging people by their bum or 's' is very shallow, in my opinion.

I don't have a face pic on here, nor will I ever do, due to the need to protect my personal safety.

If girls who don't show their face in their profiles irritate you, then just move on to the next one.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Completely agree with most of what op said apart from having a face pic on front of profile. Many of us have to be more discrete than that for various reasons. Would say though that I like to see a face pic attached to first message and if I like it I send one by retun. Hate chatting too much withour face pic too. Often a waste of time for them as I'm such a fussy cow. we want ti meet hot guys who are nice. If they wouldn't be of interest to me in my vanilla life they do not stand a chance on here with me either. Not unfriendly or snobbish but we have standards.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Waddaya think I am, your PA?

That depends on what you think PA stands for."

Pa - my bitch - weird its not mb....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Worked for him though, didn't it? And it was nice reading an upbeat post that was neither cynical nor jaded.

all ranted out.... thanks for putting the world to rights, all this time I have had it all wrong... ect ect ect.....

How long does the OP have to be on here to be allowed an opinion?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP, sorry, but I disagree. I like to engage with a man's mind first, and his body second. Judging people by their bum or 's' is very shallow, in my opinion.

I don't have a face pic on here, nor will I ever do, due to the need to protect my personal safety.

If girls who don't show their face in their profiles irritate you, then just move on to the next one."

I never said it irritates me people not having face pics! all I ment was its a shame if you have been chatting to someone and they send pics and you dont find them attractive as you dont want to hurt there feelings and its not nice...... thats it, thats all I ment by this bloody post! what does irritate me is people like you, making something out of nothing!

by the way for some strange reason I dont take offence when someone off a fuck website calls me shallow lol Each to there own and all that.......you say im judging people? no more than you judging me calling me shallow

It is my thought for not thinking, and taking the time to word my post better I will remember that in the future lol

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

its a shame if you have been chatting to someone and they send pics and you dont find them attractive as you dont want to hurt there feelings and its not nice...

Completely agree, exactly how I feel about it. Nods in agreement.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" its a shame if you have been chatting to someone and they send pics and you dont find them attractive as you dont want to hurt there feelings and its not nice...

Completely agree, exactly how I feel about it. Nods in agreement. "

Thank you! least someone does ay lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... a fuck website ..."

I think that sums up the differences between us perfectly.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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" its a shame if you have been chatting to someone and they send pics and you dont find them attractive as you dont want to hurt there feelings and its not nice...

Completely agree, exactly how I feel about it. Nods in agreement. "

If someone isn't prepared to get knocked back, then they shouldn't really be sending a photo in the first place.

Generally, compared to men, women have it really easy on here... we can just sit back and wait for the requests to come in. I admire guys for getting out there and mailing people, sending face pics..... and the vast majority take it on the chin when you say "sorry your not what I am looking for".

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"... a fuck website ...

I think that sums up the differences between us perfectly."

I agree

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"... a fuck website ...

I think that sums up the differences between us perfectly."

Its as good a description as any I guess.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

" its a shame if you have been chatting to someone and they send pics and you dont find them attractive as you dont want to hurt there feelings and its not nice...

Completely agree, exactly how I feel about it. Nods in agreement.

If someone isn't prepared to get knocked back, then they shouldn't really be sending a photo in the first place.

Yes, that's true but its never pleasant, think that's what is meant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

".... and the vast majority take it on the chin when you say "sorry your not what I am looking for"."

thats cos they finished wanking at ur pics!!!-maybe even came on their own chin! hehe

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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" its a shame if you have been chatting to someone and they send pics and you dont find them attractive as you dont want to hurt there feelings and its not nice...

Completely agree, exactly how I feel about it. Nods in agreement.

If someone isn't prepared to get knocked back, then they shouldn't really be sending a photo in the first place.

Yes, that's true but its never pleasant, think that's what is meant. "

Most people are grown-ups and know they can't be sliced bread to everyone. We are not talking about a partner saying "I just don't feel for you anymore" of course that hurts. We are talking about someone with no emotional connection being told "you're not for me". You do someone a discourtesy by assuming a knockback from a stranger will upset them.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

" its a shame if you have been chatting to someone and they send pics and you dont find them attractive as you dont want to hurt there feelings and its not nice...

Completely agree, exactly how I feel about it. Nods in agreement.

If someone isn't prepared to get knocked back, then they shouldn't really be sending a photo in the first place.

Yes, that's true but its never pleasant, think that's what is meant.

Think upset is a bit of an exageration. MOST are nice about it I just mean its not my personal fav past time. That's just how I feel.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"... a fuck website ...

I think that sums up the differences between us perfectly.

Its as good a description as any I guess. "

of course it is! lets not dress it up! we all know why were here! lol I admit I look at things a bit black or white but thats just me, I say what I think and am honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive not read all of this thread yet as a lil bit busy but a few of the early posts made comment about no face pictures because they are worried about being recognised by family/friends etc...

what about tattoo's?? surely those would easily be used to identify you?

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

"for some reason all i hear in my brain when reading the thread is "oooooh.... look at me look at me look at me"

I know... cynical... jaded...

if its working for you... cool... but really, broadcasting it to the world???

this is like the "anti-moan".....

That could be said for a lot of threads then.

There is nothing wrong with starting a thread to get yourself noticed."

yep got to agree rugby ,if we come down to judging people by what threads they start or contribute to ,we may as well all stop posting,if you dont like someone or there style of writing ,constant moaning or even too optimistic

its so simple, dont read it, and get on with your life....it is a forum ...lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ive not read all of this thread yet as a lil bit busy but a few of the early posts made comment about no face pictures because they are worried about being recognised by family/friends etc...

what about tattoo's?? surely those would easily be used to identify you?"

people should learn how to photoshop(or free alternatives) hehheee-I enlarge all my pics so i look massive or muscley lol...but i have successfully taken a persons tattoo(s) away and made it look like they never had one...smart nerd me hhehee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... a fuck website ...

I think that sums up the differences between us perfectly.

Its as good a description as any I guess.

of course it is! lets not dress it up! we all know why were here! lol I admit I look at things a bit black or white but thats just me, I say what I think and am honest"

In fairness though you are also looking for someone you can have a drink and a laugh with though. So it isn't JUST looks that are important to you presumably? I'm wondering if you have a similar attitude to me? I wouldn't meet anyone I didn't find attractive but they could be the sexiest man going and if he couldn't have a conversation he'd not meet me either.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"... a fuck website ...

I think that sums up the differences between us perfectly.

Its as good a description as any I guess.

of course it is! lets not dress it up! we all know why were here! lol I admit I look at things a bit black or white but thats just me, I say what I think and am honest

Yh your right it would be nice to go out for a drink and have a laugh and I am able of a conversation, believe it or not lol but what I mean is im not looking to get to know someone deeply its not dating, and looks come first, like for most on here if there honest. But of course I understand what everyone is saying

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over a year ago

"... a fuck website ...

I think that sums up the differences between us perfectly.

Its as good a description as any I guess.

of course it is! lets not dress it up! we all know why were here! lol I admit I look at things a bit black or white but thats just me, I say what I think and am honest

There are some people who come on looking for dating, whether they realise that or not. But I think many on here have a similar idea to yourself - a attraction and a connection of some sort, sufficient to get along on a meet, but no strings and I'd say that's very different to dating.

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