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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just wondering does depression ever go away I've had mine for about 6/7 years now and sometimes it's just too much anyone who has suffered with depression has it ever gone away other time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you sought medical advice? Sorry to hear of your depression, I can imagine it's a horrible thing. But help is out there and I hope you are able to access specialist support.

Good luck my friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My depression had a cause. I got rid of the cause and eventually the depression lifted. I weaned myself off the medication myself as my GP was showing no sign of doing it. Sometimes I get close again so try and focus on something else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all in the mind. It can go away with a change of heart ...

Generally though? I think people just get better at living with the thoughts and seeing the light in situations, that yeah you still have a few characteristics but not enough to let it get to you.

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

Depends. I've had mine since around the age of 6 I'm now 37.

Others have one bout and never experience it again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well yes however through a series of councilling it helped me (Mrs) look into ways causing my depression and y I feel tat way and then ways on how to deal with my problems. Luckily tat helped as I sought help at the beginning of the downer feeling.

It does rear its ugly head every now and then but thanks to the tools I have and support from my family.

Try to seek either medical or councilling help and good luck op x

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

OP, sorry to read that you are feeling unwell. Have you had any treatment?

There are times when mental health is good and times when it's bad. Enjoy the times when you are well and try and find the things that make you better when you are unwell.

I have had depression since I was a child but it took me until my 20s to acknowledge that, have a proper diagnosis and deal with it. Sometimes it's good and sometimes it bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From personal experience I'd say no once youve got past the stage of it being more than a year, the cause is still there even once you discover what it is its about learning to live your life despite it. I do a bit of voluntary work with adult males who suffer with depression/anxiety and I find it similar to alcoholism that they are just one trigger away from a relapse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I promise you it does mate I also suffered up until the point where I tried to do myself in. I'm now in a good place and you will be to mate. I found that being honest with my friends and family about my state of mind really helped. In the end it's your brain and at the moment you are basically having an argument with it. You and you alone is the only one that can sort it, just really try and keep positive ignore it when its telling you you are down and just start smiling to yourself, put some comedy on and try and laugh. I really hope you sort it mate, you can do it. Good luck

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"It's all in the mind. It can go away with a change of heart ... "

Not if we're talking about actual depression. It's not all in the mind and that outdated idea doesn't help people with depression.

It's a chemical imbalance in the brain and and illness that needs treatment just like any other.

The treatment does include learning how to see & react to things in a different way, but that needs to be done with guidance from a professional.

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

Have you been to your gp? CBT os good if you can get it.

On the plus side even if it's there to stay. Its not there everyday. Enjoy the good and hopefully it will lessen the bad x

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

"It's all in the mind. It can go away with a change of heart ...

Not if we're talking about actual depression. It's not all in the mind and that outdated idea doesn't help people with depression.

It's a chemical imbalance in the brain and and illness that needs treatment just like any other.

The treatment does include learning how to see & react to things in a different way, but that needs to be done with guidance from a professional."

Thank you. I stayed away from that comment as it kinda made my blood boil x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's all in the mind. It can go away with a change of heart ...

Not if we're talking about actual depression. It's not all in the mind and that outdated idea doesn't help people with depression.

It's a chemical imbalance in the brain and and illness that needs treatment just like any other.

The treatment does include learning how to see & react to things in a different way, but that needs to be done with guidance from a professional."

The chemical imbalance hypothesis is actually the outdated theory! It's never been proven. The pharmaceutical industry are slowly distancing themselves from that particular untruth.

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

I've been off my antidepressants for about 4months now & sometimes feel I should be on them still. I feel worse when I'm stressed

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

"It's all in the mind. It can go away with a change of heart ...

Not if we're talking about actual depression. It's not all in the mind and that outdated idea doesn't help people with depression.

It's a chemical imbalance in the brain and and illness that needs treatment just like any other.

The treatment does include learning how to see & react to things in a different way, but that needs to be done with guidance from a professional.

The chemical imbalance hypothesis is actually the outdated theory! It's never been proven. The pharmaceutical industry are slowly distancing themselves from that particular untruth. "

Its more that there are definitive changes in the brain of a depressed person.

Whatever the reason personally only medication keeps me alive.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"The chemical imbalance hypothesis is actually the outdated theory! It's never been proven. The pharmaceutical industry are slowly distancing themselves from that particular untruth. "

Oh, I hadn't heard that. But I still think depression is not something one can decide to snap out of.

I'm talking about real depression, not just feeling a bit low over something of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's all in the mind. It can go away with a change of heart ...

Generally though? I think people just get better at living with the thoughts and seeing the light in situations, that yeah you still have a few characteristics but not enough to let it get to you. "

It's not always about thoughts or situations.

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

I suffered terribly with it until a professional explained it to me in terms I could deal with.. Suddenly I understood the mechanism of depression and it subsided..

I don't think it ever goes completely, we are all predisposed to suffer, it's a natural effect..it's how we cope that makes the difference..

By the way, crying does help..

I didn't read all the posts, so sorry if I'm repeating, watch the black dog video..just do a Google search for it.

I hope you find your own coping mechanism soon.

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

"It's all in the mind. It can go away with a change of heart ...

Generally though? I think people just get better at living with the thoughts and seeing the light in situations, that yeah you still have a few characteristics but not enough to let it get to you.

It's not always about thoughts or situations. "

It has to be more to it as you say. Mine can rear it's ugly head when nothing has changed at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been off my antidepressants for about 4months now & sometimes feel I should be on them still. I feel worse when I'm stressed "

I don't get stressed when I'm on mine. I couldn't walk out of the door if I didn't have them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry op, it is a tough thing to deal with.

But yes, depression can go away. You can't make yourself happy all of a sudden by thinking yourself happy. You need to work out what is getting you depressed and if you can't change you need to learn to cope with it. If it is your job that is shit try to find another but it is usually not that obvious. CBT is as effective as anti depressants but GPs generally will go for the pill route as it works much quicker (particularly when you take the waiting time in to consideration) and it is generally cheaper. If you haven't already speak to your GP. Given how long it had been going on you might need to ask him for a change or addition of treatment.

If you now are on tablets for it maybe some psychological support is what you need to start feeling better. Getting you to a better place with the tools needed to tackle the situations causing depression may be all that is needed to get you off the tablets one day

Good luck and hope you feel better. Maybe not tomorrow but down the line. Such a long period won't be reversed quickly

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I also believe food can make a difference, the chemicals in it I mean.

I can't eat chocolate because I am lactose intolerant but before I was diagnosed if I ate some the next day I would feel suicidal. And nothing to do with calories or guilt.

Once I spotted this trend I didn't touch the stuff so didn't suffer.

I think thsi is why advice for depression includes eating well?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The chemical imbalance hypothesis is actually the outdated theory! It's never been proven. The pharmaceutical industry are slowly distancing themselves from that particular untruth.

Oh, I hadn't heard that. But I still think depression is not something one can decide to snap out of.

I'm talking about real depression, not just feeling a bit low over something of course."

I could recommend some very good books if you're interested.

I know exactly what you mean about real depression. Well my definition of it anyway I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was once severely depressed, at least that's what I would call it, as I begin to question why I'm living.

In my case it was music and 30mins-1hour of alone time that I used for thinking that got me out of it.

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

It dus go......

But you need to sort out the thing that crossed your depression in the 1st place.

I had survear depression not so long agow and only just got back on my feet. Of cors simpall things still remind me of it and put give me a

but im no way near as low as I wos. wot got me out of it is that the thing that crossed it got sorted out.

So in short the cross of your depression is also the arnsar to getting better.

Hope this make sense.

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

"It dus go......

But you need to sort out the thing that crossed your depression in the 1st place.

I had survear depression not so long agow and only just got back on my feet. Of cors simpall things still remind me of it and put give me a

but im no way near as low as I wos. wot got me out of it is that the thing that crossed it got sorted out.

So in short the cross of your depression is also the arnsar to getting better.

Hope this make sense."

Sometimes depression doesn't have a cause.

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By *ongtalljonMan
over a year ago

North Wales

Well apparently you wasn't depressed 8 years ago.

So, what changed?

What was the trigger?

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

"It dus go......

But you need to sort out the thing that crossed your depression in the 1st place.

I had survear depression not so long agow and only just got back on my feet. Of cors simpall things still remind me of it and put give me a

but im no way near as low as I wos. wot got me out of it is that the thing that crossed it got sorted out.

So in short the cross of your depression is also the arnsar to getting better.

Hope this make sense.

Sometimes depression doesn't have a cause. "

You arnt born with depression. it always has a cause. but not everyone knows the cause of Thar own depression......the hard bit is finding wot the cause is then sorting it out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering does depression ever go away I've had mine for about 6/7 years now and sometimes it's just too much anyone who has suffered with depression has it ever gone away other time?"

It's peaks and troughs mate, I've struggled for years with it. The hardest thing is to find a way to climb out of the troughs. I tried booze, drugs, aggression(street fighting) and just about every dumb way to climb out of them. The doc gave me pills which made me feel neither happy or sad and that was the worst, the turning point was the numbness. I isolated myself from everyone, binned the wife and house and moved to a different city. I binned the pills and walked into a boxing gym, got my arse handed to me 3 times a week but I looked forward to it, not so I could fight but so I could see how much I could take. I class myself as "balanced" now rather than cured, still have off days but I force myself out of them. I did however keep my job through all this, still gotta pay the bill lol

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

"It dus go......

But you need to sort out the thing that crossed your depression in the 1st place.

I had survear depression not so long agow and only just got back on my feet. Of cors simpall things still remind me of it and put give me a

but im no way near as low as I wos. wot got me out of it is that the thing that crossed it got sorted out.

So in short the cross of your depression is also the arnsar to getting better.

Hope this make sense.

Sometimes depression doesn't have a cause.

You arnt born with depression. it always has a cause. but not everyone knows the cause of Thar own depression......the hard bit is finding wot the cause is then sorting it out."

No. It doesn't.

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

"I've been off my antidepressants for about 4months now & sometimes feel I should be on them still. I feel worse when I'm stressed

I don't get stressed when I'm on mine. I couldn't walk out of the door if I didn't have them. "

I mean now I'm no longer on them, I feel more "fragile" / emotional when I'm stressed

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

"It dus go......

But you need to sort out the thing that crossed your depression in the 1st place.

I had survear depression not so long agow and only just got back on my feet. Of cors simpall things still remind me of it and put give me a

but im no way near as low as I wos. wot got me out of it is that the thing that crossed it got sorted out.

So in short the cross of your depression is also the arnsar to getting better.

Hope this make sense.

Sometimes depression doesn't have a cause.

You arnt born with depression. it always has a cause. but not everyone knows the cause of Thar own depression......the hard bit is finding wot the cause is then sorting it out."

You can be born with depression. It can be caused by a chemical imbalance rather than an actual thing/act/event.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Im not sure if it's as easy as there being a cause but if it is I can't think of anything and so anti depressants help because the ones I have tried made me feel worse to the point where I even relapsed quite bad? Can anyone recommend any that have helped them?

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

"Im not sure if it's as easy as there being a cause but if it is I can't think of anything and so anti depressants help because the ones I have tried made me feel worse to the point where I even relapsed quite bad? Can anyone recommend any that have helped them?"

I am on a very hefty dose of venlafaxine combined with mirtazapine. However I tried many before i found ones that worked for me. Its sadly not a science. Trial and error is the way forward for meds

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

You need to give them a couple of months. If the ones you have aren't working after that then go and change to another one. We're all different and they react differently to each individual. What works for me might not work for you.

If the side effects are severe then go back and tell your GP immediately.

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

"It dus go......

But you need to sort out the thing that crossed your depression in the 1st place.

I had survear depression not so long agow and only just got back on my feet. Of cors simpall things still remind me of it and put give me a

but im no way near as low as I wos. wot got me out of it is that the thing that crossed it got sorted out.

So in short the cross of your depression is also the arnsar to getting better.

Hope this make sense.

Sometimes depression doesn't have a cause.

You arnt born with depression. it always has a cause. but not everyone knows the cause of Thar own depression......the hard bit is finding wot the cause is then sorting it out.

You can be born with depression. It can be caused by a chemical imbalance rather than an actual thing/act/event. "

I did not no that.

In that case I mite be rong with my larst post. Sos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've suffered for 16 years and in that time I've been to groups, had a cpn come to my home and had my medication changed four times. I have my good days and bad days, but when I have a full blown panic attack it still scares the shit out of me just like my first one did. As for the minor attacks I've learned to cope with them by doing something to take my mind of it. But you'll know what works best for you op as we all deal with thing differently, but I would say don't lock yourself away from the outside world so to speak as there is people who care for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Different drugs work for different people. I personally moved away from anti D's after quite a few years on them. Diet change, lowering my alcohol intake, daily yoga and meditation became my coping mechanism along with CBT. Find what works for you and stick to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some get over it some dont. Im a long term sufferer

Its not all in the mind it's actually a physical chemical imbalance in the brain which is what the antidepressants are for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It dus go......

But you need to sort out the thing that crossed your depression in the 1st place.

I had survear depression not so long agow and only just got back on my feet. Of cors simpall things still remind me of it and put give me a

but im no way near as low as I wos. wot got me out of it is that the thing that crossed it got sorted out.

So in short the cross of your depression is also the arnsar to getting better.

Hope this make sense.

Sometimes depression doesn't have a cause.

You arnt born with depression. it always has a cause. but not everyone knows the cause of Thar own depression......the hard bit is finding wot the cause is then sorting it out.

You can be born with depression. It can be caused by a chemical imbalance rather than an actual thing/act/event. "

It's not caused by a chemical imbalance. They don't even know what a 'normal' chemical balance in the brain is! There is no way to measure it in a living person. It's a bullshit theory devoid of any scientific empirical evidence to support it.

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

But, as i said earlier there is a definite neurological difference inthe brain of a depressed person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For anyone who's interested in the subject, I'd recommend Beyond Prozac by Dr. Terry Lynch and The Depression Delusion by the same author. Also Toxic Psychiatry by Peter Breggin and Anatomy of an Epidemic by Robert Whitaker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do believe that this is something that sufferers learn to deal with, some are worse off than others, some learn coping mechanisms and some use prescribed medication. The treatments are wideranging and varied. However I would never, ever use the phrase 'truly depressed' or 'seriously depressed' around a sufferer, as to them this is the worst they've ever felt.

I recognise in myself certain traits and symptoms and treat them with what I know and generally it keeps me on the equilibrium. But I know I'm only on the border, half of the battle is admitting and 'treating'

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By *illwill69uMan
over a year ago

moston

"Just wondering does depression ever go away I've had mine for about 6/7 years now and sometimes it's just too much anyone who has suffered with depression has it ever gone away other time?"

Yep it does. However you first need to find a good doctor with an interest in mental health who will refer you to a specialist for a proper diagnosis. Reason being that many being treated for depression are suffering from other illnesses that bouts of depression are just one symptom of but because it is obvious and the doctor is overworked other symptoms are missed.

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

There's a tendency for people to diagnose themselves with depression when actually they're sad or feeling low. Which is a shame as it can be self fulfilling.

I wish depression was just feeling sad.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There's a tendency for people to diagnose themselves with depression when actually they're sad or feeling low. Which is a shame as it can be self fulfilling.

I wish depression was just feeling sad. "

I think all of us suffering wish it was just that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From a personal point of view, I was prescribed anti depressants but the thought of being reliant on a drug to keep me on even keel made me seek alternative ways like the counselling, now not saying it completely worked as 12yrs on still suffer but I control it and only go dark in my own company but I find physical exercise and stimulation keeps it mostly at bay, guess mine I have learnt to live with it, but then I know the root of it but talking to someone impartial may help and certainly wouldn't make it any worse. Hope you find a way to cope with it so it doesn't effect your life too much

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By *ornyminx13Woman
over a year ago

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I find it comes back bites u on the bum when u least expect it

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

"I find it comes back bites u on the bum when u least expect it"

It sure does

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Several years ago I suffered depression and had some sort of an anxiety disorder. My gp put me on a drug called sertraline and I had therapy. It worked a treat. I learned to rewire mt thoughts. I concentrated on work and few a few years never gave myself time to dwell on things. I can out the other side. You can too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mental health issues (I'm loathe to call it depression, it's both more and less than that) all stems from the relationship with my family and my fucked up childhood.

I cut my parents out years ago and as they are the biggest trigger but it doesn't go away, it's just different and easier to control now.

I doubt it will ever go away, but I don't let it define me anymore. And I spot the warning signs when I'm about to hit self destruct much earlier these days

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

My most recent experience of depression was over a guy, I loathe the fact that a guy could make me hit rock bottom but slowly I'm picking myself up.

It's a horrible feeling of self worthlessness and all my insercurties that have been tucked away in a box for years have resurfaced...I will get there I know what makes me depressed and I'm working to resolve my way of thinking.

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By *hatterbox 2Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Ive just been diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder (gad) but been put on medication i would say go to your gp and tell them how you feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In short no it will never fully go.. The trigger mechanism has been activated and you can't turn that off... What you can do is manage your day to day situation.. If your on medication DO NOT SKIP it...seek councelling too it helped me. You will recognise the signs that are familiar to when you had your melt down.. I do... And i know i have to rectify and take control. It really is self management once you have that worked out it becomes less of a problem to cope with... You would be surprised how many fabbers suffer with it.. Its a mental illness and employers don't know how to deal with it... I am going through a tribunal atm with my old employer because they are short sighted about depression...keep up the fight and talking helps... Good.luck pal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine comes and goes. Sometimes i need medication, other times i muddle on through.

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By *uperock99Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

I suffer from depression too, that's why I come on here, to get out of the real world and into a world of sex & fantasy, cause every day life is shit, a bit like the film Ground Hog day, every day is the same unless you make it change to your advantage, relationships never work out the way you want it to, or jobs never last etc etc but at least on here you get to let your hair down and don't give a fuck & have fun, a temporary fix maybe but that's how I deal with it

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