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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I really want to reach out into this style meets , long, controlling (collar , handcuffs , gags etc , but also the cuddling afterwards but I don't seem to get people messaging me with the same intentions? Do the two not go together or am I missing a lot of people ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm meeting a woman tomorrow with this scenario...she wants her limits pushing. So you be suggested we make sure there's enough time for some down time afterwards.

Aftercare is something that should always be taken into consideration

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes but it seems like that isn't an interest of some people , like they just expect you to leave after , I like a connection.

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

I wouldn't use this site to indulge my bdsm interests as trust is paramount. Unless i met someone who i formed a relationship with. But i guess kinda not the point of the site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't think it has to be limited to a relationship as long as there's a good connection after a while of meeting

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop


"I don't think it has to be limited to a relationship as long as there's a good connection after a while of meeting "

Depends what you enjoy.

I love edgeplay and I'm not putting that on the hands I've met once or twice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder how you find out what you like, someone suggested porn but like you said to enact anything you need trust. But how do you know you like something is no one has told you about it?

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

You just do it. No one told me I'd like being bitten. Someone did it. I loved it.

Or you read about things on here/listen to people etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm reading and listening, now need to try

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

Trying is the fun part :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure it is ?? but you need two to play, that's the hard part

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol that was a wink not a question mark. Damn iPhone

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By *xtwinklesxxWoman
over a year ago

nottinghamshire

Please choose wisely, A d/s meet is not something you should do without talking through the dynamics and a social first. There are so many wannabe Doms about who think after reading the book, watching the film can do it, but he wasn't a true Dom, sexually bully yes. If you'd like to chat then pm me hun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust is key, never forget that, bdsm on a one off meet is never a good idea, you have to know as much as you can about a sub in order to deliver the right balance of debauchery and care.

Talk to people, understand what it is that appeals to you, and start slowly, its better to walk away from your first experience feeling that it wasn't enough, than walk away feeling that you did things that you didn't want to do, build upon that and eventually you will feel comfortable in letting go, and being intensely pleasured.

And remember its supposed to be fun

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

Bdsm isn't something you can just meet someone and get straight into the role and then expect the whole relationship dynamic to be there.. You need that report with someone,a connection for that to work..

All you can expect from here is a bit of soft play..

Maybe sign up to a bdsm workshop, you will be there with a handful of like minded people and may be lucky enough to meet someone there.

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By *tephanie19631TV/TS
over a year ago

oxford

Try joining a more fetish style site ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the other person isnt willing to give you aftercare Avoid them...

For me I go into subspace and i fall really fast after playing .. so aftercare is a massive part in playing

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"If the other person isnt willing to give you aftercare Avoid them...

For me I go into subspace and i fall really fast after playing .. so aftercare is a massive part in playing "

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By *ittenandthepirateCouple
over a year ago

Manchester


"If the other person isnt willing to give you aftercare Avoid them...

For me I go into subspace and i fall really fast after playing .. so aftercare is a massive part in playing "

Absolutely this

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By *RH and HRNCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthen

There are plenty of people out there . . Not sure if FABS is the right place to look though.

They do exist on this site, boobs is a Domme, but keeps swinging separate to that side of her . . As we've had issues with people on here with regards to her Domme side.

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