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By *olling Stone OP   Man
over a year ago

Dorking

I find it very exciting when some one replies me no matter it's decline from other end but to me at least they replied out of decency. It frustrates me when you write a message and then find out that even after many days let alone same time, they haven't checked messages yet and also when they have checked yet no reply yes or no. Well that's my philosophy that at least we should reply no matter YES or NO.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i delete straight away then they can send me another message asking if i'm interested.

it's fun.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Dont keep looking if theyve checked them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *olling Stone OP   Man
over a year ago

Dorking


"No"

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a message, it's not the end of the world if someone doesn't reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try to always reply ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read the damn FAQ. Delete your sent box. Don't take fab so seriously.

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By *olling Stone OP   Man
over a year ago

Dorking


"Dont keep looking if theyve checked them"

Well if you are serious and have taken on board what they wrote in their profile and feel that there is chemistry there then clearly you will be excited and then naturally you will check whether they have read it ....

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By *smithyukMan
over a year ago

Staffs

Some women get them many messages that they would never get to yours if they spent all week goin through messages. Some receive more messages as they are reading so never progress lower through the 100s they have. And so then they bulk delete and your message is gone. It's the luck of the draw that hopefully you can message just as they click read next message and then yours gets read. Then it's the time to moan if they haven't replied when they have actually read it

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By *olling Stone OP   Man
over a year ago

Dorking


"i delete straight away then they can send me another message asking if i'm interested.

it's fun. "

Oh I see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always reply..

sometimes I give constructive criticism too, so they have to thank me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont keep looking if theyve checked them

Well if you are serious and have taken on board what they wrote in their profile and feel that there is chemistry there then clearly you will be excited and then naturally you will check whether they have read it .... "

You sound arrogant. You know you will not be every woman's type. Women are allowed to not fancy you. So therefore you still wouldn't fit what she's looking for. Deleted messages are your answer...no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If no reply, delete then block, saves looking at another profile of someone not interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The general concensus that I've picked up from the forums is that as a rule women do not reply to messages but bulk delete due to the number of messages they receive. If however you stick around the forums there is a remote chance a woman will message you but that's about as good as it gets here.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Dont keep looking if theyve checked them

Well if you are serious and have taken on board what they wrote in their profile and feel that there is chemistry there then clearly you will be excited and then naturally you will check whether they have read it .... "
ok, heres a tip, make the first sentence of your message interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The general concensus that I've picked up from the forums is that as a rule women do not reply to messages but bulk delete due to the number of messages they receive. If however you stick around the forums there is a remote chance a woman will message you but that's about as good as it gets here. "

I never bulk delete incase I miss a gem. However, I dont need to read messages in order to see whether a man is local or nearby. Because i travel, location is my main priority on here. So if receive a message and I can obviously see he isn't local, I instantly delete without reading it. If my profile was read before messaging, a guy wouldn't of wasted his time sending the message in the first place.

I'm sure many other women do the same.

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By *olling Stone OP   Man
over a year ago

Dorking


"Dont keep looking if theyve checked them

Well if you are serious and have taken on board what they wrote in their profile and feel that there is chemistry there then clearly you will be excited and then naturally you will check whether they have read it .... ok, heres a tip, make the first sentence of your message interesting."

Saying what ... for instance what would be interesting near you had I written to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no one on this site owes you fuck all,

tip delete you sent message instead of looking at them

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Dont keep looking if theyve checked them

Well if you are serious and have taken on board what they wrote in their profile and feel that there is chemistry there then clearly you will be excited and then naturally you will check whether they have read it .... ok, heres a tip, make the first sentence of your message interesting.

Saying what ... for instance what would be interesting near you had I written to you? "
i dont know, but if its telling me im stunning gorgeous or any other buzz word it doesnt get opened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'You're a dreamer Hutton'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The general concensus that I've picked up from the forums is that as a rule women do not reply to messages but bulk delete due to the number of messages they receive. If however you stick around the forums there is a remote chance a woman will message you but that's about as good as it gets here. "

you missed my post then...I always reply.. f*ck the FAQs, I'm bucking the trend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm here for fun, and to chat to people I want to chat to. If I'm not getting paid to do admin, then I'm certainly not going to do the work of one. I get far too many messages. Most I don't open, as I know I can't reply. To ignore a message, is not rude, it's a way of saying you're not interested... Please check Fab FAQ's. Try being a woman for a day, and see how much fun you have replying to every single message you receive. Because if that's all I did, I wouldn't even bother logging in, to be fair.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"The general concensus that I've picked up from the forums is that as a rule women do not reply to messages but bulk delete due to the number of messages they receive. If however you stick around the forums there is a remote chance a woman will message you but that's about as good as it gets here. "

^ This, I've not sent a preemptive message for about 8 yrs

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

OP read every other thread on this topic and you'll be enlightened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it very exciting when some one replies me no matter it's decline from other end but to me at least they replied out of decency. It frustrates me when you write a message and then find out that even after many days let alone same time, they haven't checked messages yet and also when they have checked yet no reply yes or no. Well that's my philosophy that at least we should reply no matter YES or NO. "

I think something like a no button would be great. Then for the recipient they could stop further messages or invite more of a conversation.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"I find it very exciting when some one replies me no matter it's decline from other end but to me at least they replied out of decency. It frustrates me when you write a message and then find out that even after many days let alone same time, they haven't checked messages yet and also when they have checked yet no reply yes or no. Well that's my philosophy that at least we should reply no matter YES or NO. "

Lol no. Just...NO!

Guaranteed that if women replied to each and every message, yours would be right at the end so...would you like that "no" answer today or in about three weeks time! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find it very exciting when some one replies me no matter it's decline from other end but to me at least they replied out of decency. It frustrates me when you write a message and then find out that even after many days let alone same time, they haven't checked messages yet and also when they have checked yet no reply yes or no. Well that's my philosophy that at least we should reply no matter YES or NO.

Lol no. Just...NO!

Guaranteed that if women replied to each and every message, yours would be right at the end so...would you like that "no" answer today or in about three weeks time! lol "

Love this answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The general concensus that I've picked up from the forums is that as a rule women do not reply to messages but bulk delete due to the number of messages they receive. If however you stick around the forums there is a remote chance a woman will message you but that's about as good as it gets here.

^ This, I've not sent a preemptive message for about 8 yrs "

Agreed. I've stopped sending initial messages now as out really isn't worth the calorie burn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how do you find the time to answer the 2 or 3 hundred messages you get a day OP? Maybe you could impart your method to the single ladies on here who get that many?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always reply to all my messages i get!

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women get literally 100's of msgs not sure if I'd be replying to all my msgs if that was me especially shit ones.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Pop over to Google and look up 'self entitlement'.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Just get it into your mind set that no reply = no interest

The ladies on fab are inundated with messages(some get hundreds) so they haven't got time to send a no to everyone.

And I've heard that when a woman does reply with a polite 'no thanks' the guy takes that as she's gagging for sex and continues to reply

Personally I would reply to any message but in all my years on here I've never been messaged first so it's different circumstances

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Oops OP I didn't realise I was supposed to reply to all the messages you sent me thanking me for posting on your other threads bemoaning your Fab experience!!

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Oops OP I didn't realise I was supposed to reply to all the messages you sent me thanking me for posting on your other threads bemoaning your Fab experience!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is an inbox of "no thanks" messages better than having it deleted? I've never understood this. When I do my own messaging proactively I'd much rather they just deleted it than getting loads of rejection males.

It's a waste of my time writing one, and it's a waste of your time reading it. Deleting is just more efficient all round.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed. But sadly youre fighting a loosing battle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women get literally 100's of msgs not sure if I'd be replying to all my msgs if that was me especially shit ones."

The only time women get 100s of messages is when they first join and know nothing of filters etc, and so get bombarded by all the desperadoes on here who take advantage of that fact...

With filters in place and age barriers set most women average about 20 messages per day, unless they are actively chatting to others ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women get literally 100's of msgs not sure if I'd be replying to all my msgs if that was me especially shit ones.

The only time women get 100s of messages is when they first join and know nothing of filters etc, and so get bombarded by all the desperadoes on here who take advantage of that fact...

With filters in place and age barriers set most women average about 20 messages per day, unless they are actively chatting to others ...

"

I got over a thousand in a day once when one of my photos got on page 1. That was with filters on, so they were all from verified site supporting men with photos between 27 and 47.

Normal for me is more like 40 though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women get literally 100's of msgs not sure if I'd be replying to all my msgs if that was me especially shit ones.

The only time women get 100s of messages is when they first join and know nothing of filters etc, and so get bombarded by all the desperadoes on here who take advantage of that fact...

With filters in place and age barriers set most women average about 20 messages per day, unless they are actively chatting to others ...

I got over a thousand in a day once when one of my photos got on page 1. That was with filters on, so they were all from verified site supporting men with photos between 27 and 47.

Normal for me is more like 40 though. "

How many 98.5 yr olds message you now?

A lot less surely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women get literally 100's of msgs not sure if I'd be replying to all my msgs if that was me especially shit ones.

The only time women get 100s of messages is when they first join and know nothing of filters etc, and so get bombarded by all the desperadoes on here who take advantage of that fact...

With filters in place and age barriers set most women average about 20 messages per day, unless they are actively chatting to others ...

"

Fuck. I'm more of a minger than i thought. I average far less than that and have no need for filters....(obviously not with my current profile set up as i don't expect any atm! )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women get literally 100's of msgs not sure if I'd be replying to all my msgs if that was me especially shit ones.

The only time women get 100s of messages is when they first join and know nothing of filters etc, and so get bombarded by all the desperadoes on here who take advantage of that fact...

With filters in place and age barriers set most women average about 20 messages per day, unless they are actively chatting to others ...

I got over a thousand in a day once when one of my photos got on page 1. That was with filters on, so they were all from verified site supporting men with photos between 27 and 47.

Normal for me is more like 40 though.

How many 98.5 yr olds message you now?

A lot less surely. "

I don't have the age filtered out, people of all ages can still message me - that's just so I don't appear in local updates and similar because I don't really want that at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once deleted a message from a woman that was on my hotlist by mistake.... now she thinks I'm not interested... pfft deleting sucks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i often just get deleted very upsetting

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"i often just get deleted very upsetting"

Then you are taking this far too seriously.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"i often just get deleted very upsetting

Then you are taking this far too seriously. "

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

I used to reply to everyone be it yes or no. Unfortunately some people on here don't like when you reply and say no. They get really offended like it's my duty to have sex with them because they messaged me!! So I've stopped replying and guess what? I get called arrogant and ignorant and blah blah blah.

Trust me you cannot win so ignore people if you want. Reply to people if you want. Don't concern yourself with checking if they've read your message. And if they don't reply or just delete your message without a response just block. It works for me.

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