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By *rightonsteve OP Man
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It occurred to me that I don't actually have any. What do you look for in a man as a friend?

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home

I have hubby for that

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By *hloe sussexTV/TS
over a year ago

Larne

"It occurred to me that I don't actually have any. What do you look for in a man as a friend? "

Why ?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Same as i look for in a female friend plus testicles

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Same as I'd look for in a female friend.

They have to like me for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't really have any male friends. I guess I'd look for guys who didn't drone on about sports constantly. Which explains a lot.

-Mr

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By *rightonsteve OP Man
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"It occurred to me that I don't actually have any. What do you look for in a man as a friend?

Why ?"

I have an enquiring mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same as any friend no matter what sex they are x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Long arms, good hugs.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"It occurred to me that I don't actually have any. What do you look for in a man as a friend? "

That they ride motorbikes & i'm not joking..

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By *hloe sussexTV/TS
over a year ago

Larne

"It occurred to me that I don't actually have any. What do you look for in a man as a friend?

Why ?

I have an enquiring mind. "

No why don't you have any male friends ?

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Good question. I'm the total opposite of you OP, I have mostly male friends. And I'm not one of those women who purposely avoids being friends with other women either; I just have very few female friends and I don't know why really.

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By *rightonsteve OP Man
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"It occurred to me that I don't actually have any. What do you look for in a man as a friend?

Why ?

I have an enquiring mind.

No why don't you have any male friends ?"

I don't know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A sense of fun and to not be sexually attracted to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good shoes, a healthy beard and a love of opera

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Mostly male friends are different. I wouldnt ring one up and organize a proper night out then discuss what we will be wearing.

You know where they will be so just turn up.

So i guess i do treat male friends somewhat different to female friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It occurred to me that I don't actually have any. What do you look for in a man as a friend? "

Same here - get on better with women really and I've never been fussed with the whole going out getting shitfaced thing so guess I'm seen as boring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only have two (and one of them might be a bit of a stretch describing him as a friend) and they're totally different to each other. So I have no idea. Men don't really like me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It occurred to me that I don't actually have any. What do you look for in a man as a friend? "

Can they cut the mustard? I don't hang out with people who can't handle their beer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only have two (and one of them might be a bit of a stretch describing him as a friend) and they're totally different to each other. So I have no idea. Men don't really like me. "

Men are often intimidated by strong, confident women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you actually look for friends?

Those people who are my friends are those who can put up with my general being an arse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone you can talk to about common male interests.

(Usually down the pub)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gotta be really attractive so I can piggyback off their success

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you actually look for friends?

Those people who are my friends are those who can put up with my general being an arse. "

Such an arse.

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By *rightonsteve OP Man
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"How do you actually look for friends?

Those people who are my friends are those who can put up with my general being an arse. "

I don't look for friends so I don't know.

I'm starting to think I don't know a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best mate is a great listener , and the opposite to me in every way . Politically etc ...

He makes me think with his observations , never gets angry , never takes the piss .

Always there if I need him , as I am for him .

Asks for nothing , just a wonderful fella .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It occurred to me that I don't actually have any. What do you look for in a man as a friend? "

They have to be equally as big of a cunt as me.

Seriously though most my close mates have been the same ones for 15 years or so with a few extras added along the way, we are all fairly similar in our likes and dislikes so I guess that's the answer

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"I only have two (and one of them might be a bit of a stretch describing him as a friend) and they're totally different to each other. So I have no idea. Men don't really like me.

Men are often intimidated by strong, confident women."

Ah. That'll explain why I have mostly male friends then.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"My best mate is a great listener , and the opposite to me in every way . Politically etc ...

He makes me think with his observations , never gets angry , never takes the piss .

Always there if I need him , as I am for him .

Asks for nothing , just a wonderful fella ."

My best mate is currently halfway through four years in New Zealand, last time he travelled we didn't talk, correspond, nothing for two years on his return went round his house & he opened the door with a can out the fridge & a hug..It was like he'd never been gone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only have two (and one of them might be a bit of a stretch describing him as a friend) and they're totally different to each other. So I have no idea. Men don't really like me.

Men are often intimidated by strong, confident women.

Ah. That'll explain why I have mostly male friends then.

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you're obviously not strong and confident then

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"I only have two (and one of them might be a bit of a stretch describing him as a friend) and they're totally different to each other. So I have no idea. Men don't really like me.

Men are often intimidated by strong, confident women.

Ah. That'll explain why I have mostly male friends then.

you're obviously not strong and confident then "

QED.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

They have to take me dancing, come to gigs with me, and give me HUGE long hugs!!

Calling me Sexy Boobs earns extra brownie points.....

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

"They have to take me dancing, come to gigs with me, and give me HUGE long hugs!!

Calling me Sexy Boobs earns extra brownie points.....

Sexy boobs, fancy a dance and a cuddle??? ??

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By *rightonsteve OP Man
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I just wondered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have guys that I have worked with who stay in touch; but I am pants at staying in touch...My best friend is a woman... but I don't have lots of "go down the pub" type friends.... I am a bit of a loner (put the

away) I like it that way.

Most of the people I know are married or in long-term relationships and I don't like to intrude on peoples lives so keep myself to myself....

So OP you are not alone, being alone (well you might be alone but without male friendship as such, oh bollocks you know what I mean)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It occurred to me that I don't actually have any. What do you look for in a man as a friend? "

I just have to like them (and they me), I don't look for anything.

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By *rightonsteve OP Man
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I have guys that I have worked with who stay in touch; but I am pants at staying in touch...My best friend is a woman... but I don't have lots of "go down the pub" type friends.... I am a bit of a loner (put the

away) I like it that way.

Most of the people I know are married or in long-term relationships and I don't like to intrude on peoples lives so keep myself to myself....

So OP you are not alone, being alone (well you might be alone but without male friendship as such, oh bollocks you know what I mean)"

Yeah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only have two (and one of them might be a bit of a stretch describing him as a friend) and they're totally different to each other. So I have no idea. Men don't really like me.

Men are often intimidated by strong, confident women."

Yes, but there are exceptions to that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just realised the large majority of my friends are male. And the same I look for in anyone who wants to be friends. -Mia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

away) I like it that way.

Most of the people I know are married or in long-term relationships and I don't like to intrude on peoples lives so keep myself to myself....

So OP you are not alone, being alone (well you might be alone but without male friendship as such, oh bollocks you know what I mean)

Yeah

I don't know about you Mr Steve, but I have moved around a fair bit and well, I guess I am very selfish with my time... not really into "laddish" behaviour since I broke the big 4 0; I have become..... well strangely content; I adore the company of women, but mostly because well a) I probably want to sleep with them but b) you can say anything to a woman, you know.... deepest thoughts etc. and although they still take the piss as bad as blokes, there is a.... oh I don't really know what I am talking about.....

...look big groups of blokes do my noggin in; I don't know why; maybe its the misogyny; maybe its the alpha thing; maybe its the pack mentality.... and then if you get single guy friend on his own; its all look at what I have/don't have.... roaring lion shite or kicked donkey shite....

There are blokes at work; I talk to them... thats enough

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Same as any other friend, irrespective of sex: intelligence, humour and loyalty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

away) I like it that way.

Most of the people I know are married or in long-term relationships and I don't like to intrude on peoples lives so keep myself to myself....

So OP you are not alone, being alone (well you might be alone but without male friendship as such, oh bollocks you know what I mean)

Yeah

There are blokes at work; I talk to them... thats enough "

Preach brother. I went off to uni and never went back so everyone I was friendly with just dwindled away.

I'm not a fan of huge groups unless they are big enough to lose myself in

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I have a small group of life-long female friends and the rest are male.

I don't specifically look for male friends. it just happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

away) I like it that way.

Most of the people I know are married or in long-term relationships and I don't like to intrude on peoples lives so keep myself to myself....

So OP you are not alone, being alone (well you might be alone but without male friendship as such, oh bollocks you know what I mean)

Yeah

There are blokes at work; I talk to them... thats enough

Preach brother. I went off to uni and never went back so everyone I was friendly with just dwindled away.

I'm not a fan of huge groups unless they are big enough to lose myself in

Same here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There you go Mr Steve; you are not alone in being alone (insofar as male friends go); maybe its an age thing; maybe we are all arseholes; I have a sneaky suspicion that any men I get to know see me as dangerous as I am a terrible flirt with their wives (yeah I know; zero respect; terrible human being... what can you do?); maybe its because we can stand alone and be happy with that; maybe it's because we aren't alphas or maybe we are alphas? I don't know... genuinely; just well, I'm alright about it, so meh..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There you go Mr Steve; you are not alone in being alone (insofar as male friends go); maybe its an age thing; maybe we are all arseholes; I have a sneaky suspicion that any men I get to know see me as dangerous as I am a terrible flirt with their wives (yeah I know; zero respect; terrible human being... what can you do?); maybe its because we can stand alone and be happy with that; maybe it's because we aren't alphas or maybe we are alphas? I don't know... genuinely; just well, I'm alright about it, so meh.."

Tart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tart."

Or Mr Steve; maybe we are just Tarts; whopping great strawberry ones... and we don't have time for male friends because we are too busy trying to charm the (red) knickers off of ladies...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tart.

Or Mr Steve; maybe we are just Tarts; whopping great strawberry ones... and we don't have time for male friends because we are too busy trying to charm the (red) knickers off of ladies...

Suave tarting.

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By *rightonsteve OP Man
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Pauly: you're making sense.

resonates like the echo of a humming birds wing in a cave of bats.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you actually look for friends?

Those people who are my friends are those who can put up with my general being an arse. "

But what a nice arse it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often go to my male friends when I need a straight answer with no BS or fluff

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By *tudmcmuffinMan
over a year ago

Swindon

I have two male friends, one gay one straight, my two best friends are women. Says a lot about me I think.

Oddly enough I met my two besties on here

which also says a lot about me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got no male friends, and no wish to acquire any.Just don't enjoy male company and not into blokey things...such as beer,football, fighting lol.

All my friends are women, mostly in their 20s ( doesn't impress the wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loyalty and honesty. The same as I look for in all my friends.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'm not fussed between male or female friends and the numbers of each have changed - sometimes more guys, otherwise more women.

Like others, I can be demanding - but I give as good as I get. I respect and like honesty and someone who's loving.

A strong bloke as a friend, who likes practical jobs would be great but it's an empty slot atm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In male friends I generally gravitate to funny people who don't take anything seriously.

I prefer women though - its less weird just hanging out in PJs with them.

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