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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My job makes me a bit suicidal. Been trying to get out for years but can't find anything suitable. Anyone got any words of wisdom??

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Talk to HR and/or your manager. Your employer has invested years in you and should be willing to provide support.

Also, talk to your GP.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Talk to HR and/or your manager. Your employer has invested years in you and should be willing to provide support.

Also, talk to your GP."

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look, you need to address this. Drop me a line and I can give you some words. I have some knowledge in this area.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look, you need to address this. Drop me a line and I can give you some words. I have some knowledge in this area. "

No offence you may have knowledge but I'd advise the OP to see her gp and discuss it there rather than an anonymous source on a swingers site

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

No job is worth your life.

Go and see your GP, if you can afford it find a therapist, see if there is an employee assistance programme that can give you some immediate support and consider what you can do in order to leave if it is making you miserable (not your ideal job but your survival job).

Good luck and I wish you peace.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My job makes me a bit suicidal. Been trying to get out for years but can't find anything suitable. Anyone got any words of wisdom??"

I despised the career I was in to the point it was making me ill. I sold my home had 6 months outand then took a minimum wage job that paid my bills...just... Worked my way up there and am now assistant managerin the same place and couldn't be happier.They were dark times and had to sell my only asset to get out of the hell I was in. Wouldn't change it though;happiness is everything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No offence taken: GP is a possible starting point, but there are other NHS approaches here and I wouldn't comment where I not qualified to...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice. Seeing my gp won't help unless he can get me a new job haha. I know i need to get a new job but I'm kinda limited (no job pays as well and taking a paycut wouldnt be fair on my family).

Just gotta keep looking....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I jumped in front of a van once, when I was 18. Just know that you can't be a victim of the world when your relise you are the world. Your the creator of your own destiny, youv acknowledged the fact the job Isint for you, not allowing your self to move forward stuck in a toxic cycle will do no good for your self don't be afraid to take a step in the dark life works in mysterious ways, and you may well find your self basking in an array of wonderful light, stay positive or maybe look for reasons as to why the job is good and try and point out what is good in what you have, instead of pulling at what in not good, some people lose track in a negative trail of thought... What was you happy about when you first got the job?

Wishing you peace of mind, love of others around you, and prosperity of your self,

P.s a fellow former suicidal idiot *kiss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read the mind website until you get to see your gp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the advice. Seeing my gp won't help unless he can get me a new job haha. I know i need to get a new job but I'm kinda limited (no job pays as well and taking a paycut wouldnt be fair on my family).

Just gotta keep looking...."

Well if you were serious about the suicidal thoughts that's not exactly going to be fair on your family and will result in a much larger drop in income for the family.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look, you need to address this. Drop me a line and I can give you some words. I have some knowledge in this area.

No offence you may have knowledge but I'd advise the OP to see her gp and discuss it there rather than an anonymous source on a swingers site"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the advice. Seeing my gp won't help unless he can get me a new job haha. I know i need to get a new job but I'm kinda limited (no job pays as well and taking a paycut wouldnt be fair on my family).

Just gotta keep looking...."

Reading this I can't help but think that your openibg post was unnecessarily melodramatic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have suggested the gp .. But .. Having something like that on your medical records isn't good so explore other avenues op.

Think about what it is you don't like and tall to yous line manager, friends etc first. Another reason is a gp would be likely to just hand out anti depressants rather than post the issues making you un happy. . See one if you must but check other avenues first x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you know what just put yourself first your no good to your family of your not here.

My job within the NHS was amazing but bullies by senior management made it horrid. I recently left and I also decided to whistle blow. I believe I was used as a scape goat now by someone else as I had decided to leave.

You can't pay for happiness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would have suggested the gp .. But .. Having something like that on your medical records isn't good so explore other avenues op.

Think about what it is you don't like and tall to yous line manager, friends etc first. Another reason is a gp would be likely to just hand out anti depressants rather than post the issues making you un happy. . See one if you must but check other avenues first x "

Why wouldn't it be good to mention on medical records?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am also in a kna where i don't like colleagues, the shifts, or the shitbag organisation i work for. I am looking to get out.. Work to live not live to work. Nothing is worth fucking up your health x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would have suggested the gp .. But .. Having something like that on your medical records isn't good so explore other avenues op.

Think about what it is you don't like and tall to yous line manager, friends etc first. Another reason is a gp would be likely to just hand out anti depressants rather than post the issues making you un happy. . See one if you must but check other avenues first x

Why wouldn't it be good to mention on medical records? "

Future job prospects.. Some employers want to check, and with the advent of technology details can be aquired from your gp. i am not saying don't go, just think twice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do they have a confidential employee assistance programme you can use ? Many companies do and you can talk to a counsellor for free.

No job is worth feeling like that about. Like others have said talk to your GP.

I hope you feel better soon.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would have suggested the gp .. But .. Having something like that on your medical records isn't good so explore other avenues op.

Think about what it is you don't like and tall to yous line manager, friends etc first. Another reason is a gp would be likely to just hand out anti depressants rather than post the issues making you un happy. . See one if you must but check other avenues first x

Why wouldn't it be good to mention on medical records?

Future job prospects.. Some employers want to check, and with the advent of technology details can be aquired from your gp. i am not saying don't go, just think twice."

What an utter load of crap I had depression and had those thoughts due to my work situation and the gp was amazing. In this day and age companies can't discriminate like that.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I would have suggested the gp .. But .. Having something like that on your medical records isn't good so explore other avenues op.

Think about what it is you don't like and tall to yous line manager, friends etc first. Another reason is a gp would be likely to just hand out anti depressants rather than post the issues making you un happy. . See one if you must but check other avenues first x

Why wouldn't it be good to mention on medical records?

Future job prospects.. Some employers want to check, and with the advent of technology details can be aquired from your gp. i am not saying don't go, just think twice."

What absolute garbage. No one can access your medical records without your permission. I have had to have quite high level security clearance checks done recently and even they don't ask for medical records.

Making statements like this is what causes shame amonh those with mental health problems and causes them to struggle on without seeking the help they need.

OP.... if your job is really that bad then talk to your partner and discuss how much of a cut you can afford to take and get out. There are loads of jobs out there. They may not be perfect but by the sounds of it, neither is this one.

If you truly are having suicidal thoughts then seek help. Through your GP, speak to samaritans, mind etc anyone who you feel able to be open and honest with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My job makes me a bit suicidal. Been trying to get out for years but can't find anything suitable. Anyone got any words of wisdom??"

Bitethe bullet and just get out . Ok it may not be a job you want long term but if your current job is having such an impact on you action needs to be taken asap. Good luck x

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By *adyDangerWoman
over a year ago

land of debauchery and kink


"I would have suggested the gp .. But .. Having something like that on your medical records isn't good so explore other avenues op.

Think about what it is you don't like and tall to yous line manager, friends etc first. Another reason is a gp would be likely to just hand out anti depressants rather than post the issues making you un happy. . See one if you must but check other avenues first x "

Your medical records are confidential why wouldn't it look good? They are not your CV ?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I would have suggested the gp .. But .. Having something like that on your medical records isn't good so explore other avenues op.

Think about what it is you don't like and tall to yous line manager, friends etc first. Another reason is a gp would be likely to just hand out anti depressants rather than post the issues making you un happy. . See one if you must but check other avenues first x

Why wouldn't it be good to mention on medical records?

Future job prospects.. Some employers want to check, and with the advent of technology details can be aquired from your gp. i am not saying don't go, just think twice."
putting stuff like that is ridiculous and actually dangerous. Someone could be frightened to go to the gp if they read stuff like this

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By *adyDangerWoman
over a year ago

land of debauchery and kink

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By *adyDangerWoman
over a year ago

land of debauchery and kink


"I would have suggested the gp .. But .. Having something like that on your medical records isn't good so explore other avenues op.

Think about what it is you don't like and tall to yous line manager, friends etc first. Another reason is a gp would be likely to just hand out anti depressants rather than post the issues making you un happy. . See one if you must but check other avenues first x

Why wouldn't it be good to mention on medical records?

Future job prospects.. Some employers want to check, and with the advent of technology details can be aquired from your gp. i am not saying don't go, just think twice.putting stuff like that is ridiculous and actually dangerous. Someone could be frightened to go to the gp if they read stuff like this"

Plus nobody can view medical records without your permission. My dr contacted me when I was prosecuting my ex for domestic abuse the police wanted access to my medical records I had to give permission and even then my dr only released what was relevant.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I would have suggested the gp .. But .. Having something like that on your medical records isn't good so explore other avenues op.

Think about what it is you don't like and tall to yous line manager, friends etc first. Another reason is a gp would be likely to just hand out anti depressants rather than post the issues making you un happy. . See one if you must but check other avenues first x

Why wouldn't it be good to mention on medical records?

Future job prospects.. Some employers want to check, and with the advent of technology details can be aquired from your gp. i am not saying don't go, just think twice.putting stuff like that is ridiculous and actually dangerous. Someone could be frightened to go to the gp if they read stuff like this

Plus nobody can view medical records without your permission. My dr contacted me when I was prosecuting my ex for domestic abuse the police wanted access to my medical records I had to give permission and even then my dr only released what was relevant. "
exactly, it was a stupid thing to say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems the current job is well paid , hence it's hard to find anything else .

So clearly the job and employer can't be all bad .

So maybe it's the op that needs to alter her thinking ?

And maybe see the job in a new light ?

Just a thought .

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"Thanks for the advice. Seeing my gp won't help unless he can get me a new job haha. I know i need to get a new job but I'm kinda limited (no job pays as well and taking a paycut wouldnt be fair on my family).

Just gotta keep looking...."

I feel for you OP and your words above do you credit but if I was a member of your family I would swap all the material wealth in the world for your well being as a human being .

the rat race traps so many in jobs they hate but I'm sure if you changed jobs and took a pay cut yes your standard of living may fall but your standard of life would rise .

its a balancing act op do your sums look at where all the money goes you earn and then think do I really need to be sending money on what I'm spending it on I bet if you done this you could see away to take a lesser paying job and still be ok as a family with the added benefit of you no longer feeling the way you feel .

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Well, there's not much info about the OP's situation, so it's hard to gauge what's going on.

One man's "week from hell" could be another's cue to step out in front of a bus...

Needs more info.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well, there's not much info about the OP's situation, so it's hard to gauge what's going on.

One man's "week from hell" could be another's cue to step out in front of a bus...

Needs more info. "

Agree with joe, with the limited info we have we can only advise seeing the GP first if it is that bad, I was in a really bad place last October and I just left my job, luckily though it wasn't that well paid and I had some savings to fall back on in the downtime I had, I didn't have a home and was sofa surfing so I was very lucky to get out the job I hated but with an high income job, comes an high end mortgage etc.

What you have to remember OP is this: you have one life, your family need you either way would they prefer a happier mum (I assume you have kids) etc or a mum that is forever stressed and worrying about work and having dark thoughts.

You have to make that decision and with there will be sacrifices between all parties, if you have another half speak to him, go to the GP, you are the important one here, not a house, fancy holiday etc

X

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Thanks for the advice. Seeing my gp won't help unless he can get me a new job haha. I know i need to get a new job but I'm kinda limited (no job pays as well and taking a paycut wouldnt be fair on my family).

Just gotta keep looking....

Well if you were serious about the suicidal thoughts that's not exactly going to be fair on your family and will result in a much larger drop in income for the family. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My job makes me a bit suicidal. Been trying to get out for years but can't find anything suitable. Anyone got any words of wisdom??"

If that's the case. Get straight out. You may struggle. But clearly you already are. Good luck x

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By *ooking for bbwsCouple
over a year ago

secret garden chilling, always something to do in the garden


"Thanks for the advice. Seeing my gp won't help unless he can get me a new job haha. I know i need to get a new job but I'm kinda limited (no job pays as well and taking a paycut wouldnt be fair on my family).

Just gotta keep looking...."

my gp as helped, although I called the councler first, but now she calls me every two weeks to check on me, as some days good some days our bad, an like today with the rain so much pain, an still got pain which really gets me down.... try plan something good that's always the best idea....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

Join the army.

Be more depressed!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone. Not sure yet what I'm going to do xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you go learn a new trade or new skills so you can move to a better paying job?

On all honesty if your job though is making you that depressed then you leave no job regardless of money is worth taking your life over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can you go learn a new trade or new skills so you can move to a better paying job?

On all honesty if your job though is making you that depressed then you leave no job regardless of money is worth taking your life over."

This x 2

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By *adyDangerWoman
over a year ago

land of debauchery and kink


"Join the army.

Be more depressed! "

Oi be nice you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't suffer from it as far as I'm aware. But know those who do. There's no easy answer. And trying to get them to "snap out of it" is hard. But I think I do a good job of helping them cope. The brain is a fucked up bit of kit. But mates are the perfect placebo

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By *adyDangerWoman
over a year ago

land of debauchery and kink

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop


"I would have suggested the gp .. But .. Having something like that on your medical records isn't good so explore other avenues op.

Think about what it is you don't like and tall to yous line manager, friends etc first. Another reason is a gp would be likely to just hand out anti depressants rather than post the issues making you un happy. . See one if you must but check other avenues first x

Why wouldn't it be good to mention on medical records?

Future job prospects.. Some employers want to check, and with the advent of technology details can be aquired from your gp. i am not saying don't go, just think twice."

Total codswallop and scaremongering!!!

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

Money aside if your job makes ypu suicidal you have to go. Mine did, seriously considered the train tracks opposite my house. Realised after some help things had to change. I moved jobs, lost 1k per month but was much better off mentally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

leave.

no job is worth being unhappy about.

god knows how many jobs I've walked out of because they were shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe you could learn about the Buddhist 4 noble truths

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would have suggested the gp .. But .. Having something like that on your medical records isn't good so explore other avenues op.

Think about what it is you don't like and tall to yous line manager, friends etc first. Another reason is a gp would be likely to just hand out anti depressants rather than post the issues making you un happy. . See one if you must but check other avenues first x 3

Why wouldn't it be good to mention on medical records?

Future job prospects.. Some employers want to check, and with the advent of technology details can be aquired from your gp. i am not saying don't go, just think twice.

What an utter load of crap I had depression and had those thoughts due to my work situation and the gp was amazing. In this day and age companies can't discriminate like that. "

Why do you have to be so rude?

All i suggested was addressing the root cause by talking to her supervisor and getting it sortwd there and then. I have had bad experience from my problems with similar in the past you rude crude individual!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well this escalated quickly.

As for the guy who berated me for not replying....i actually did just not in the time frame he expected.

Its been lovely to see so many of you offer words of advice thank you xxx

Still don't really know what to do etc i know it's black and white really to anyone else but its not that easy in reality and i know a lot of you have been in the same situation and have problems of your own or other dealings with depression. Thanks for all your help xx

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Well this escalated quickly.

As for the guy who berated me for not replying....i actually did just not in the time frame he expected.

Its been lovely to see so many of you offer words of advice thank you xxx

Still don't really know what to do etc i know it's black and white really to anyone else but its not that easy in reality and i know a lot of you have been in the same situation and have problems of your own or other dealings with depression. Thanks for all your help xx"

Only you can decide what is right for you but do try and get some help and support: we can't always see when we need it when we're feeling swamped by all the negative emotions.

I hope you are able to find your way soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My job makes me a bit suicidal. Been trying to get out for years but can't find anything suitable. Anyone got any words of wisdom??"

Is it the job, ie what you do, or the environment you do it in? If it's the former, find somethng else you like. If it's the latter, go and do it somewhere else.

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By *o-jCouple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Notts

Hi Lee ,

Sorry to here you're getting flack off people on here , I cant contact you direct as too old but I hope others have given you some help .

I've had some experience in this situation so if you fancy a chat contact me .

A fellow tattoo'd rocker

Jo x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi Lee ,

Sorry to here you're getting flack off people on here , I cant contact you direct as too old but I hope others have given you some help .

I've had some experience in this situation so if you fancy a chat contact me .

A fellow tattoo'd rocker

Jo x"

No I've only had one guy whinge xx

Thanks x

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