FabSwingers.com forum: Bloody feelings

By *ild-1 OP Woman
over a year ago

york

Why do feelings mess everything up?!

My fwb developed them so I let my guard down. It all went downhill from there!! It's over now and it's raw. I will miss the mind blowing sex without a shadow of a doubt. I should have walked away months ago.

Sorry for the rant just had to let of steam.

Wanted .... new fwb that won't develop feelings .... close to york area

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

"Why do feelings mess everything up?!

Sorry for the rant just had to let of steam.

Wanted .... new fwb that won't develop feelings .... close to york area

Sorry I am in London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol I know exactly where you are coming from OP...

Best way of getting over one man is by getting under another

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By *adame YvesWoman
over a year ago

Nothampton

There is a time to walk away in that sort of relationship and its spotting it as its not easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lol I know exactly where you are coming from OP...

Best way of getting over one man is by getting under another

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By *ild-1 OP Woman
over a year ago

york

"lol I know exactly where you are coming from OP...

Best way of getting over one man is by getting under another

Absolutely ~ I intend on getting under another haha

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"lol I know exactly where you are coming from OP...

Best way of getting over one man is by getting under another

Absolutely ~ I intend on getting under another haha "

Looking at your pics am guessing it won't be long

Sorry it's raw though OP...hope it's better for you soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do feelings mess everything up?!

Sorry for the rant just had to let of steam.

Wanted .... new fwb that won't develop feelings .... close to york area

This exact same thing has happened to me but in reverse...I was the one that got the feelings...and bow I'm sad cos it was the best sex ever

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

It happens sadly. Usually when it starts becoming a regular thing. We all being to get comfortable and that's when you catch feelings.

You live and you learn OP. You'll be ok.

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By *ild-1 OP Woman
over a year ago

york

"lol I know exactly where you are coming from OP...

Best way of getting over one man is by getting under another

Absolutely ~ I intend on getting under another haha

Looking at your pics am guessing it won't be long

Sorry it's raw though OP...hope it's better for you soon"

Thank you that means a lot xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What went wrong ? If you both enjoyed this lifestyle and was having fun why did it go down hill after it ??

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By *ryrotMan
over a year ago

shag pile

Jump back in and enjoy.thats why your on here.petex

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

"It happens sadly. Usually when it starts becoming a regular thing. We all being to get comfortable and that's when you catch feelings.

You live and you learn OP. You'll be ok.

*begin typo!

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By *ild-1 OP Woman
over a year ago

york

"What went wrong ? If you both enjoyed this lifestyle and was having fun why did it go down hill after it ?? "

I knew him when I was 17/18 but he never got a look in then. Hadn't seen him in 21 years and we got chatting on fb. He came over for a glass of wine & it started there. it was only ever a bit of fun. Then a few months ago he asked us to be exclusive to each other & admitted he had feelings for me. From that day on it's been toxic & on & off. He has lots of mental baggage. The thing that kept us running back to each other was the sex!! I've done slot of firsts with him and had more to go - the york social in Dec for a start. All lines of communication are now severed as otherwise when we were horny it would start again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What went wrong ? If you both enjoyed this lifestyle and was having fun why did it go down hill after it ??

Sounds like it was doomed for a while if it was toxic for a long time sex is no reason to keep it going .

Hope things get better for you soon . Maybe use this as a lesson . Who knows

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By *ild-1 OP Woman
over a year ago

york

Yeah lesson learnt I hope! Onwards and upwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Started off as Fwb 7 years ago now a couple. Took lot for us admit we had feelings for each other as both in relationships.. Marie. X

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By *ild-1 OP Woman
over a year ago

york

"Started off as Fwb 7 years ago now a couple. Took lot for us admit we had feelings for each other as both in relationships.. Marie. X"

So sometimes it works out then xx

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

"Then a few months ago he asked us to be exclusive to each other & admitted he had feelings for me. From that day on it's been toxic & on & off."

That doesn't sound right. Did you agree, disagree, not respond? Has there been misunderstanding about what you both want?

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By *ild-1 OP Woman
over a year ago

york

"Then a few months ago he asked us to be exclusive to each other & admitted he had feelings for me. From that day on it's been toxic & on & off.

That doesn't sound right. Did you agree, disagree, not respond? Has there been misunderstanding about what you both want? "

No misunderstanding that I know about. Basically I think he can't handle that he has feelings so it's better to go out separate ways - I'm not going to be picked up & dropped because he has no idea what he wants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do feelings mess everything up?!

Sorry for the rant just had to let of steam.

Wanted .... new fwb that won't develop feelings .... close to york area

This exact same thing has happened to me but in reverse...I was the one that got the feelings...and bow I'm sad cos it was the best sex ever

Been there, it's a bugger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feelings suck sometimes.

Big hugs and chin up! xxx

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By *ild-1 OP Woman
over a year ago

york

"Feelings suck sometimes.

Big hugs and chin up! xxx"

Thanks I appreciate the support

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do feelings mess everything up?!

I always put ((feelings)) in parenthesis so I don't catch any.

You know...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feelings suck...been there one since joining here myself.

I found one of the hardest things to let go of following the end of my fb relationship was anger. I was stuck in the ‘blame game’and endlessly questioning who did what and what could have been done differently. But that kind of thinking only made me feel bitter and regretful and I kept going round in circles. In the end I just had to come to terms with it and be brave and move on. You are only human....you'll get there...give it time.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do feelings mess everything up?!

Sorry for the rant just had to let of steam.

Wanted .... new fwb that won't develop feelings .... close to york area

feelings are good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thought this was going to be a vampire thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Started off as Fwb 7 years ago now a couple. Took lot for us admit we had feelings for each other as both in relationships.. Marie. X

So sometimes it works out then xx "

Yes weve had our ups and downs like most couples Tony x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She knows who she is. Always has been

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lol I know exactly where you are coming from OP...

Best way of getting over one man is by getting under another

May I be of service?

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By *harliebbwWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I won't meet anyone more then 3 time. The other half plays different and he has 1 that's fallen for him. Put her life on hold etc they chat still but no sex now there is feelings even 1 sided 1s

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman
over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feelings suck.

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By *hocoholicWoman
over a year ago

The big D

Feelings are so good when alls goin well but devasting when it turns to hell. Is it better to be loved & lost or never to be there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feelings are natural and usually beyond your control but if it doesn't work for both people it can be awful.

It's a difficult balance and sometimes no end of talking can sort it out.

OP - hoping you find something that works for you again soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh feelings, I've tried the nsa route, it didn't work for me ..like I've stated in my profile I'm human and no matter what feelings always come into play, whether it's feelings of I fancy the pants off a person,great sex,fantastic kisser and just a person's touch these are all feelings.....it's when them feelings run deeper I shut down and block them out.

Yes I've been stung on here when I first joined about 2 yrs ago it hurt like a bitch but I got over it and you will to ....what's the saying....live and learn...you'll get there don't let this spoil your time here not when there's so much fun to be had.xxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feelings can creep in and then bang, before you can stop it, you've fallen in love.

I've been there and it hurts, but time does heal the pain.

Good luck OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ascade35Man
over a year ago

Alnwick

Definitely been there and had that happen, it's hurts like hell as you, and a many others it seems know.

Day at a time I guess, and, if I may be pragmatic for a moment, things will work out for the best.

I've seen your pics, you look hot and I'm sure you'll have the guys queuing at your door before too long xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feelings make us human. They sometimes make us laugh, sometimes they make us cry.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

20 weeks ago?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

20 weeks ago?"

I'm hoping she got ever it.

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