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"After a Fab date I'll tend to send a quick text when I get home. Sometimes I get in first, other times they've already messaged. I don't think it matters so much these days with all this equality If someone messaged me quickly I wouldn't think it was over eager - it's just being polite isn't it? " Fook knows I'm useless when it comes to these things | |||
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"After a Fab date I'll tend to send a quick text when I get home. Sometimes I get in first, other times they've already messaged. I don't think it matters so much these days with all this equality If someone messaged me quickly I wouldn't think it was over eager - it's just being polite isn't it? Fook knows I'm useless when it comes to these things " i will send my number and you can text me as much as u like lol | |||
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"After a Fab date I'll tend to send a quick text when I get home. Sometimes I get in first, other times they've already messaged. I don't think it matters so much these days with all this equality If someone messaged me quickly I wouldn't think it was over eager - it's just being polite isn't it? Fook knows I'm useless when it comes to these things i will send my number and you can text me as much as u like lol" Haha your very own stalker | |||
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"So when chatting to the opposite sex who texts who first? I sent a guy a text just saying thank you for a lovely evening......I feel that I was being too eager....I haven't had a response and that's cool but does it come across as to eager??? I'm confused which doesn't take much " He's probably being a bloke and trying to style out his response. He's probably wanting to text you to but doesn't want to appear to eager | |||
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"Be confident enough to send it and not care. If they want to play those games then that reflects poorly on them. " Nice profile pic..... nice to see you | |||
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"It doesn't really matter. It's good that you took the bull by the horns OP. Kinky " Thanks angel I need to stop thinking so much that's half my battle in life I think too much | |||
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"Be confident enough to send it and not care. If they want to play those games then that reflects poorly on them. Nice profile pic..... nice to see you " Thank you and nice to see you too x | |||
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"If I'm home first, I text first. I don't see it as being eager. I see it as being polite " "Be confident enough to send it and not care. If they want to play those games then that reflects poorly on them. " Agree with these. Can easily spend too much time over thinking and analysing something and nothing. Have done that time and and again to myself . Do what you feel is right and the rest is up to them to deal with. Good luck x | |||
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"It doesn't really matter. It's good that you took the bull by the horns OP. Kinky Thanks angel I need to stop thinking so much that's half my battle in life I think too much " I have my own theory on that. I think just doing something without thinking can be arrogance. Thinking something through but still doing what is true to yourself is confidence. Thinking is rarely the problem, not acting is. | |||
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"So when chatting to the opposite sex who texts who first? I sent a guy a text just saying thank you for a lovely evening......I feel that I was being too eager....I haven't had a response and that's cool but does it come across as to eager??? I'm confused which doesn't take much " I hate sending messages first. I either don't know what to say or I don't want too sound too eager can't win! | |||
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"If I'm home first, I text first. I don't see it as being eager. I see it as being polite Be confident enough to send it and not care. If they want to play those games then that reflects poorly on them. Agree with these. Can easily spend too much time over thinking and analysing something and nothing. Have done that time and and again to myself . Do what you feel is right and the rest is up to them to deal with. Good luck x " Cheers yes I do think too much | |||
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"It doesn't really matter. It's good that you took the bull by the horns OP. Kinky Thanks angel I need to stop thinking so much that's half my battle in life I think too much " Play it cool. I am very similar to you in nature though so I totally understand where you are coming from x Kinky | |||
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"So when chatting to the opposite sex who texts who first? I sent a guy a text just saying thank you for a lovely evening......I feel that I was being too eager....I haven't had a response and that's cool but does it come across as to eager??? I'm confused which doesn't take much " I'm not sure...why don't we meet, have sex and then when I leave you can text first and I can let you know how it comes across? | |||
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"So when chatting to the opposite sex who texts who first? I sent a guy a text just saying thank you for a lovely evening......I feel that I was being too eager....I haven't had a response and that's cool but does it come across as to eager??? I'm confused which doesn't take much I hate sending messages first. I either don't know what to say or I don't want too sound too eager can't win! " If I had to go through the whole 'proper dating' thing again I think I'd just be up front and say 'I don't know all the rules and etiquette of all this and I don't want to appear over eager but I had a really good time tonight and it would be great to see you again' I can't be doing with all these games and holding off waiting for the right moment and not a moment too soon or a moment too late bobbins. As long as you're not stalkery and politely let people know you enjoyed their company what's the issue? We're all adults yes? (You can tell it's been a LONG time since my dating days, right!? ) | |||
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"usually if I haven't heard from them after a couple of hours, I will text.." A couple of hours? I wait a couple of days, then think they weren't that interested in me and forget about them. | |||
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"So when chatting to the opposite sex who texts who first? I sent a guy a text just saying thank you for a lovely evening......I feel that I was being too eager....I haven't had a response and that's cool but does it come across as to eager??? I'm confused which doesn't take much I'm not sure...why don't we meet, have sex and then when I leave you can text first and I can let you know how it comes across? " Lol | |||
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"So when chatting to the opposite sex who texts who first? I sent a guy a text just saying thank you for a lovely evening......I feel that I was being too eager....I haven't had a response and that's cool but does it come across as to eager??? I'm confused which doesn't take much " I'd see your text as polite and a sign you liked me. Which would be great of course! Personally I'd text back and if you haven't had a text back I would read that as rude and as a person giving the cold shoulder. You've been nice. If a guy can't be nice back there are plenty more of us guys who'd be only too happy to date you! | |||
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"After a Fab date I'll tend to send a quick text when I get home. Sometimes I get in first, other times they've already messaged. I don't think it matters so much these days with all this equality If someone messaged me quickly I wouldn't think it was over eager - it's just being polite isn't it? Fook knows I'm useless when it comes to these things i will send my number and you can text me as much as u like lol Haha your very own stalker " Ha! You're welcome to stalk me any day! | |||
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"If I'm home first, I text first. I don't see it as being eager. I see it as being polite " Yes. | |||
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"I always like it made absolutely clear, prior to meeting, who will text who first after meeting, and what the time scale will be for that text to materialise. If the person suggested they would text first, 30 minutes after the meet, then I'd assume they were a man pretending to be a woman who was only interested in sending cock/sky remote pics. Obviously I'm joking. For me this seems really, really juvenile. If I had a meet and then found a forum post about apres texts. I would run for the hills and block." Who says it's got anything to do with fab it was just a question | |||
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"So when chatting to the opposite sex who texts who first? I sent a guy a text just saying thank you for a lovely evening......I feel that I was being too eager....I haven't had a response and that's cool but does it come across as to eager??? I'm confused which doesn't take much " Yeah, I've been blown out for not texting every 5 mins | |||
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"It's just polite to text to say thanks and that you've just got home etc. It may come across eager but I'm not going to apologise for having manners. " But if they don't care that you've just got home, the text will come across as irritating and as though you're forcing their hand | |||
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"So when chatting to the opposite sex who texts who first? I sent a guy a text just saying thank you for a lovely evening......I feel that I was being too eager....I haven't had a response and that's cool but does it come across as to eager??? I'm confused which doesn't take much " There is no harm or over eagerness in texting first to say that you've enjoyed your evening with someone. | |||
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"So when chatting to the opposite sex who texts who first? I sent a guy a text just saying thank you for a lovely evening......I feel that I was being too eager....I haven't had a response and that's cool but does it come across as to eager??? I'm confused which doesn't take much I hate sending messages first. I either don't know what to say or I don't want too sound too eager can't win! If I had to go through the whole 'proper dating' thing again I think I'd just be up front and say 'I don't know all the rules and etiquette of all this and I don't want to appear over eager but I had a really good time tonight and it would be great to see you again' I can't be doing with all these games and holding off waiting for the right moment and not a moment too soon or a moment too late bobbins. As long as you're not stalkery and politely let people know you enjoyed their company what's the issue? We're all adults yes? (You can tell it's been a LONG time since my dating days, right!? )" See I wouldn't even think of writing that lol! I'm pretty shit at all the flirting and dating malarkey | |||
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"I'm really baffled by this thread. I've never put much stock in to 'who messages who' first. It's just about being polite to me. Also a way to let them know I got back safely. Never saw it as coming across as too keen, and their reaction to me texting them, has never caused me to suspect that they think I'm too keen either. " | |||
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"So when chatting to the opposite sex who texts who first? I sent a guy a text just saying thank you for a lovely evening......I feel that I was being too eager....I haven't had a response and that's cool but does it come across as to eager??? I'm confused which doesn't take much " Bull- it's simple- JFDI!! | |||
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"So when chatting to the opposite sex who texts who first? I sent a guy a text just saying thank you for a lovely evening......I feel that I was being too eager....I haven't had a response and that's cool but does it come across as to eager??? I'm confused which doesn't take much " No not at all just good manners well done you | |||
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"I'm really baffled by this thread. I've never put much stock in to 'who messages who' first. It's just about being polite to me. Also a way to let them know I got back safely. Never saw it as coming across as too keen, and their reaction to me texting them, has never caused me to suspect that they think I'm too keen either. " Don't worry I often baffle myself | |||
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"I'm really baffled by this thread. I've never put much stock in to 'who messages who' first. It's just about being polite to me. Also a way to let them know I got back safely. Never saw it as coming across as too keen, and their reaction to me texting them, has never caused me to suspect that they think I'm too keen either. Don't worry I often baffle myself " | |||
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"I'll always text first, it's just good manners and politeness I think. Saying that though, my record with dating is rubbish as shown last week when my date was put off by me turning up with a single rose for her. Apparently it was "too nice and a turn off" Ah well " . Don't give it a second thought as some people just aren't the flowers, chocolates or gift sorta people. Maybe the person in question prefers the 'treat em mean, keep em keen approach'. I've been meeting someone on a weekly basis for a good number of months, he always brings flowers or chocolates or some sort of small gift. To me it's his way of expressing himself. If giving flowers or the like is what you like doing be true to yourself and carry on regardless, if the person doesn't like it then it's up to them whether they accept or reject them. | |||
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"So when chatting to the opposite sex who texts who first? I sent a guy a text just saying thank you for a lovely evening......I feel that I was being too eager....I haven't had a response and that's cool but does it come across as to eager??? I'm confused which doesn't take much " I don't think it really matters who txs first,its nice to give and receive. | |||
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"So when chatting to the opposite sex who texts who first? I sent a guy a text just saying thank you for a lovely evening......I feel that I was being too eager....I haven't had a response and that's cool but does it come across as to eager??? I'm confused which doesn't take much " No, that sounds normal to me. (although that too doesn't say much ) We tend to send a ty PM when we get back to some Wi-Fi, along with the veri. Our playphone only gets turned on before a meet, and off once we spot each other. This does mean that sometimes we have discovered a post-meet text months later, which must make us look extremely rude Mr ddc | |||
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"I don't text. I take "playing it cool" to extremes, quite unintentionally though. My social skills are a bit shite these days." That's me too,not great but just who i am | |||
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"So when chatting to the opposite sex who texts who first? I sent a guy a text just saying thank you for a lovely evening......I feel that I was being too eager....I haven't had a response and that's cool but does it come across as to eager??? I'm confused which doesn't take much " I always make the first text.... really early on like almost afterwards Has been well recieved thus far, although I am so cute and adorable who couldn't just love me! | |||
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"So when chatting to the opposite sex who texts who first? I sent a guy a text just saying thank you for a lovely evening......I feel that I was being too eager....I haven't had a response and that's cool but does it come across as to eager??? I'm confused which doesn't take much " I'm too old to comment! | |||
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"So when chatting to the opposite sex who texts who first? I sent a guy a text just saying thank you for a lovely evening......I feel that I was being too eager....I haven't had a response and that's cool but does it come across as to eager??? I'm confused which doesn't take much " I will text first if I want to meet them again. XXX | |||
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"So when chatting to the opposite sex who texts who first? I sent a guy a text just saying thank you for a lovely evening......I feel that I was being too eager....I haven't had a response and that's cool but does it come across as to eager??? I'm confused which doesn't take much I will text first if I want to meet them again. XXX" So that's why I didn't get a text back! But we reviewed my performance many times during and after! | |||
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"So when chatting to the opposite sex who texts who first? I sent a guy a text just saying thank you for a lovely evening......I feel that I was being too eager....I haven't had a response and that's cool but does it come across as to eager??? I'm confused which doesn't take much " definitely not being to eager,unless he was still sat opposite you | |||
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"I find that sending images of the flower bouquet I want at the simple and quiet wedding ceremonywith 500 guests works for me. I never hear off the fecker again. Hope that helps " Apologies. I misunderstood the question! | |||
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