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"Ultimatly it seperates the gen ppl from the fakes and thats the main thing coz there are way 2 many timewasters and fakes on ere " Just because someone is real and been verified, it doesn't mean they're gonna turn up on the night they've arranged to meet you though. So you need one verification that says you're genuine. Surely that's all you need? Or is the list of references appealing in a skills sort of way? ~author curious~ | |||
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"i dont understand how it can seperate the gen ppl on here actually im not going to write anymore and just stick to the way i think easier that way " Ooooh I'm sticking with the way I think too! But I like to hear what other people think if you feel the urge to share... please do! | |||
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"I'm thinking out loud again! Sorry about that! I like my privacy. I'm not that good with verifications, I don't use them to decide whether I'll meet someone or not, I'm not really that interested in other people's reviews, I have a mind of my own and generally I trust my instincts. I don't really like giving verifications. I don't think other people need to know who I'm having sex with. Lists of verifications on a profile kinda make me cringe a bit. I don't really like it. I know it's personal and each to their own and all that but I feel a bit bad not giving them back when people write nice things about me but it makes me feel worse when I see my name on someone's profile like a notch on a bedpost so I just don't do it. I show one of mine (mainly cause it made me smile and it's not graphic) but the rest I have hidden and I've only really verified people I know well. I like my privacy and I've always believed in discretion when it comes to meeting people so it just doesn't sit right with me to broadcast who I'm having sex with. It's not that I have anything to hide, I just don't feel like it's anyone else's business. I think I'm probably in the minority with this from what I read about the moans on the no shows in the forums but I've never had someone not turn up. Why are verifications so important to you?" for me they are not.... for me the whole point of verification is that they were who they said they were and they turned up..... nothing more I hate the whole "play by play" account that some people do... I don't want to know what you got up to, and I almost see it as having a lack of discretion and bragging about what they did... I only show general ones.. if they are too graphic then I don't show them... simple as I actually wish that Fabswingers would just put up some general statements and let people tick those to verify, because at that point it would stop people trying to "one up" others..... | |||
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" The fact that I don't have any on show has never been a problem to anyone that has contacted us " Sorry for snipping your post Honey but that pretty much covers it for me too. I don't usually have any on show and the one I do have is deliberate but prior to that, I've never been questioned and it's never been a problem for me to not show them in arranging a meet. | |||
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" The fact that I don't have any on show has never been a problem to anyone that has contacted us Sorry for snipping your post Honey but that pretty much covers it for me too. I don't usually have any on show and the one I do have is deliberate but prior to that, I've never been questioned and it's never been a problem for me to not show them in arranging a meet. " can i just interject on that point... I think it can be different for couples and single ladies than it could be for single men just because of the numbers... for example, how many times have we heard suspicions and had threads about single guys just because they don't show verifications??... how many times have we heard people say they would choose people who show verifications over those who don't? the problem isn't verifications or how many one has as such, it is the graphic nature and "TMI" of some for me that make me really really cringe..... | |||
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"i dont understand how it can seperate the gen ppl on here actually im not going to write anymore and just stick to the way i think easier that way Ooooh I'm sticking with the way I think too! But I like to hear what other people think if you feel the urge to share... please do! you hit nail on head with what you said just because someone is verified by 1 person doesnt mean they going to be the same for another .I have lots of verifacations i dont show them i like people to make up their own minds about me the same way i do about them ." I think your missing the point ,one varifycation means naff all ,in fact it is highly poss that the vari has been made by the same person who as been varied by having 2 fab accounts ,but being varied by numerous diferent ppl lets you know at least that they are genuine and have played with others and i think on the whole spectrum of things that varies are a good thing for most of the fabsters rather than not a good thin as there are 1000s ov profiles on ere that state that u need to be varied for any sort of response ,so varies get a thumbs up from us because without them we would not have as much luck as we av | |||
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"i do look at them and think they are a useful tool in decision making. however, just to add another dimension to this discussion, do you think there comes a point where TOO MANY verifications can be offputting ?" to many verifications dont really bother me but if i see lots of pics playing with no Protection that is a deffo a no go.And so is then everybody else on that verification list as you never know | |||
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"Ultimatly it seperates the gen ppl from the fakes and thats the main thing coz there are way 2 many timewasters and fakes on ere " How does it do that then? I've lost count of the amount of whinging threads written by people who've been stood up - all with the immortal line - "and they were verified!" Verifications don't mean a person will turn up and having none doesn't make the person a fake. Most of my meets haven't been verified and I didn't leave a verification even after years of meeting. There's no substitute for your own common sense and intuition. I believe there is always a clue, but people tend to ignore their own gut instincts. | |||
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"Ultimatly it seperates the gen ppl from the fakes and thats the main thing coz there are way 2 many timewasters and fakes on ere How does it do that then? I've lost count of the amount of whinging threads written by people who've been stood up - all with the immortal line - "and they were verified!" Verifications don't mean a person will turn up and having none doesn't make the person a fake. Most of my meets haven't been verified and I didn't leave a verification even after years of meeting. There's no substitute for your own common sense and intuition. I believe there is always a clue, but people tend to ignore their own gut instincts." Well we would go as far to say that you are in the minority as there are ppl on ere crying out for varis by cam,fone or otherwise as they are not gatting any luck at all without them and weve noticed after 4 yrs ov being on fab that the overall magority of ppl would say that they are a good thing ,why else would fab make previsions for ppl to write varies if they are no use it wouldent be cause the magority agrees with you now would it and as in everything ,the magority always wins ,we just think that meeting ppl wiout could put you in dangerouse predicaments and wen some1 who is varied catches your eye at least you can say that they seem ok and gen rather than ppl wiout ,Obviously!! | |||
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" I think your missing the point ,one varifycation means naff all ,in fact it is highly poss that the vari has been made by the same person who as been varied by having 2 fab accounts ,but being varied by numerous diferent ppl lets you know at least that they are genuine and have played with others and i think on the whole spectrum of things that varies are a good thing for most of the fabsters rather than not a good thin as there are 1000s ov profiles on ere that state that u need to be varied for any sort of response ,so varies get a thumbs up from us because without them we would not have as much luck as we av " and there you unwitting describe the problem.... so people are viewed with suspicion if they hide them all..... .... and people who only show 1 or 2 are viewed with suspicion..... .... so what choice do people have...sometimes you just can't win!!! or maybe that says more about other people than it does being comfortable enough in yourself not to fall for the peer pressure... I actually agonised a lot over whether to show mine or not... I was in the "i'm not showing mine" camp for a long while.... because I went to socials I was lucky enough to be known to a lot of people anyway... I eventually decided to show "some" of mine.. just so people knew I was who I said I was... I don't show anything graphic or write anything graphic because frankly what I do or get up to is no one elses business.... I'd be all in favour of taking that out of peoples hands... and the site putting up various non graphic statements for you to tick to varify, i think people would then be a lot happier knowing that everyone was then using it the same | |||
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"i think there are 2 different kind of verifications.There are the Kind that tell you in a i think open way example"was a great fuck and gave a great B/J"maybe true but not very nice and then there is the one that said"Had a Great time great company and the Bedroom skills where Brilliant" sounds a lot better i think.And them i the kind i like to read.But again that is my personal Opinion" Yes I quite agree, there is nothing worse than when they go into great detail, doing a Alan Hansen! | |||
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"We have some verifications showing on our profile, mainly because I feel that if someone has taken the time to write one, then ill show it, unless it was graphic. I can't stand the underhand way veris are used though. All this going into the verifiers profile and checking them out, the using veris to try and point score on a forum post, ie if I was to say I don't meet smokers and people going through profiles to try and find a link somewhere to a smoker and bringing it up in a forum post, or the constant re-verifying a fave single male to let other single women know that you're his fave and he keeps meeting you - we all know this rubbish goes on. " Oh indeed Iconic, ooh indeed! | |||
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"As a single woman who chooses to meet at her home. I use varies methods to select a guy and the verification system is one way that i use" Thank you, thats logical, im not buying this "i choose to hide them" by my fellow solo male. That can be seen as said before, yer mate sent you a made up veri just to appear more genuine with the green tick (a timewasters trick) or maybe your an undecided swinger who really holds who you met kinda precious and dont want to advertise who you met? or might you be ashamed of showing who you met? Or are there so many you fear being judged by that statistic? I get some feel its a type of bragging, playground mentality, a "look who i met" thing. Mine are there to simply state im a swinger and i meet other swingers. | |||
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