FabSwingers.com forum: Some body for every one ?..

By *rimo4u OP Man
over a year ago

north kensington w10

It seems mad that you can go a year on here, putting in your time and effort without attracting someone at least. Is it a case of if your face fits or something else?

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

Getting out and about helps ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

99% of users are dreamers and that doesn't help either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think it's just simply if someone likes you and you like them then maybe something will happen.

I've had a few people interested in meeting me and they're simply not my type, I'd imagine the same applies where I'm not someone's type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are loads of blokes here that are in the same boat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From a previous experience on here I found there's a better chance of a meet if you don't go head first with the filth.

A bit of cheekiness but politeness goes a long way!

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Sometimes it's just being in the right place at the right time, just catching the eye of someone you haven't noticed before, nothing falls in your lap that easily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your face looks good OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are you not out in nightclubs mate pulling students.

Your only wasting your own time if your not getting any success

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By *igmatt82Man
over a year ago

birmingham

"From a previous experience on here I found there's a better chance of a meet if you don't go head first with the filth.

A bit of cheekiness but politeness goes a long way! "

I agree, if you think your just going to come on here and sleep with everyone you message your going to be disappointed. Take it easy and go socials or to a club and just go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Getting out and about helps ...."

Spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone for everyone. That's not true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most is luck. If they get to see you're message amongst all the others.

If no one else comes along and goes ahead of you.

That's just 2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From a previous experience on here I found there's a better chance of a meet if you don't go head first with the filth.

A bit of cheekiness but politeness goes a long way! "

well said

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Definitely getting out and about to organised socials and attending clubs (and actually speaking to people) helps...being active in the forums and chat rooms likewise.

When you actually think about it, endlessly trawling user profiles where there is generally very little to go on, and sending messages in the hope of a response is not necessarily going to generate much success when the odds are stacked so heavily.

As an example of how different it is for single/solo guys on here compared to single women, we recently set up two single accounts to run alongside our couples profile - they were both set "live" at about the same time just over a week ago - mine I've had about 4 unsolicited messages since then, whereas the solo profile set up by my partner has averaged at least 30-40 unsolicited messages a day!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely getting out and about to organised socials and attending clubs (and actually speaking to people) helps...being active in the forums and chat rooms likewise.

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it's a bloody mindfuck at times ....that's all I get. Lol

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

There's a lot of straight single guys on here but sadly not an equal number of single women, so it's never going to be easy. Men can't pick and choose in the same way that some women and couples often can. The site really is night and day in how it works for men compared to women and couples. For most men it'll take time, patience and realistic expectations. And I've found it's often just pure luck that'll bring the right woman to your door.

I've found for me personally it's best not to take Fab too seriously. It's too easy to get frustrated on here. I now have the approach that if something happens then great but if not then what have I lost? Put the effort in when needed but don't see Fab as the be all and end all. Be relaxed in how you approach women. The dog in heat approach tends not to impress. Keep it light and just go with the flow.

Getting out and about in the real world is often the better option. I now just see Fab as an aside to my "real life".

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

From experience it's a case of getting yourself known so when you do approach a lady, they are aware of your existance.. So more likely to read your message..

On some occasions, ladies will even contact you.. Strangely enough it does happen...inexplicable, I know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all sure there is someone for everyone, in a longer term way at least.

It is not just guys who find it difficult either. I often wonder what I am doing here.

That is not to say I have NEVER met someone I like but the 'someone' that could be out there eludes me.

I know, I know...it is not a dating site, I hear you grumble, but finding my Maniciorn is a Herculean task.

Most likely the one where he gets to clean the stables...

Perhaps I will just take up knitting :-\

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

get out and meet people in person.. i know it might be daunting going to socials or clubs on your own..but it is worth it, even if you arrange to playm or meet with someone 121 later...

chemistry works, and it works better in person than it does over messaging. The forums are great for getting the feel of someone, what they are like, but i use fab for keeping in contact with those i have met, the events i am going to, those id like to meet and seeing the opportunity for when that can happen..its more effective than sending random messages x

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Maybe if you spent less time on the forums whinging about not getting anywhere and more time out at clubs and socials you might have a bit more success OP.

Nearly all of your forum posts are a moan about not getting meets. Nobody will give you a pity fuck no matter how many times you post. We are all here to have fun. By posting the stuff you do you don't come across as a fun person to be around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get out and about and you will become familiar to people....snow ball affect

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

Is the effort you've you in the same as what effort a woman on here wants e.g. Copy and paste messages, hi etc

Go to clubs

Go to socials

Go in the chat room

Ask for advice on your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems mad that you can go a year on here, putting in your time and effort without attracting someone at least. Is it a case of if your face fits or something else?

You need a ten inch cock. Or try a club.

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By *rimo4u OP Man
over a year ago

north kensington w10

"It seems mad that you can go a year on here, putting in your time and effort without attracting someone at least. Is it a case of if your face fits or something else?

You need a ten inch cock. Or try a club.

Yep see your point, i only have 9.5"s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems mad that you can go a year on here, putting in your time and effort without attracting someone at least. Is it a case of if your face fits or something else?

You need a ten inch cock. Or try a club.

Like cavemen do.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

If your face fits on someone else's that's Frankenstein esq

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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago

most fundamental aspects

"Get out and about and you will become familiar to people....snow ball affect

To be fair, that effect is once you're very familiar!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have heard patience is the key ?

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By *andorasSecretCouple
over a year ago

Nr Birmingham

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By *andorasSecretCouple
over a year ago

Nr Birmingham

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By *andorasSecretCouple
over a year ago

Nr Birmingham

Third time lucky...This may just be me and I appreciate that honesty is always a good thing but having played here previously for quite some time as a single lady, I'm not sure I'd want to be reading about your ten year stint with escorts on your profile! Just my view point....

Ali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's simple. Supply and demand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep bragging g about banging escorts ain't doing you any favours op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have heard patience is the key ?"

That's the word according to Shag

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"It's simple. Supply and demand "

Although those who demand a supply don't often succeed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

looks, location, personality, all are the usual factors on whether someone will meet or not.

only a few things but they complicate everything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a lot of straight single guys on here but sadly not an equal number of single women, so it's never going to be easy. Men can't pick and choose in the same way that some women and couples often can. The site really is night and day in how it works for men compared to women and couples. For most men it'll take time, patience and realistic expectations. And I've found it's often just pure luck that'll bring the right woman to your door.

Getting out and about in the real world is often the better option. I now just see Fab as an aside to my "real life"."

Definitely this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Third time lucky...This may just be me and I appreciate that honesty is always a good thing but having played here previously for quite some time as a single lady, I'm not sure I'd want to be reading about your ten year stint with escorts on your profile! Just my view point....

Ali

I'm sure you mean well but realistically speaking your comment isn't in the least bit helpful.

I'd go as far as to say it's verging on judgemental.

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

You haven't asked for profile advice; but;

Whilst it is great that you are overcoming your problems from awhile ago; I think that the amount of your profile that describes it is far too much; and may put people off; as if you might be a bit difficult to cope with; too much information :

Why not cover that in a couple of short sentences , and move on to the positives?

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By *andorasSecretCouple
over a year ago

Nr Birmingham

Ali

I'm sure you mean well but realistically speaking your comment isn't in the least bit helpful.

I'd go as far as to say it's verging on judgemental. "

In what way isn't it helpful to the OP? His post was in relation to the reason/s why he may not be having any success here. I simply gave my view point. I'm far from judgemental but was merely commenting that it perhaps wasn't something I'd voice to everyone on my profile. Ali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems mad that you can go a year on here, putting in your time and effort without attracting someone at least. Is it a case of if your face fits or something else?

You need a ten inch cock. Or try a club.

Like cavemen do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"looks, location, personality, all are the usual factors on whether someone will meet or not.

only a few things but they complicate everything."
2 out of 3 ain't bad lol

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By *rimo4u OP Man
over a year ago

north kensington w10

"Yep bragging g about banging escorts ain't doing you any favours op"

Bragging? did you read my profile?

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"Yep bragging g about banging escorts ain't doing you any favours op

Bragging? did you read my profile? "

Just a piece of advise: review your profile and trim it down.

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