FabSwingers.com forum: forgive and forget

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

with everything happening here and me drinking on a work night (ouch my head)

forgiveness

do you forgive easily and give another chance (vanilla and swinging)

and forget

after you have forgave do you forget or do u always remember it

i forgive occasionally but never forget

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that you can forgive the errors and mistakes that people do, but forgetting never goes away and your trust for that person will never be in the same light as it was before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your very last sentence....

"I forgive occasionally but never forget"

Sums me up to a tee.

People can make mistakes and do twatty things.... I am more inclined to give them a second chance.

When people use venom and spite... I will neither forgive nor forget.

xxxx

Hope your head recovers soon xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that you can forgive the errors and mistakes that people do, but forgetting never goes away and your trust for that person will never be in the same light as it was before."
Just to add there is a certain person that I will never forgive or forget!!!

It isn't anyone off fab either lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend ta give three chances and then that's it

I have given more occasionally and also less occasionally

At the end a the day we only human

As fa forgetting it depends entirely on the severity of the wrong xx

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

A sharp axe and a bit of old carpet goes a great way to forgiveness.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i forgive occasionly but they better be liked by me

on here i give 3 chances if they fook up thats their loss

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

It depends who and what it is. But once theyve crossed me thats usually it. But i do believe in second chances and ive been given a fair few in my time

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I try... as many times people have forgiven me.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I try... as many times people have forgiven me."

I havent forgiven you yet

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I try... as many times people have forgiven me.

I havent forgiven you yet

good, cause I ain't finished with ya yet..

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

I try to give people the benefit of the doubt.

But hurt me or my friends and I find it difficult to forgive. People say I'm a good friend but a lousy enemy.

I don't believe in revenge but do believe in the adage what goes round comes round

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I never forgive but because of my small cognitive capacity and virtually none existent memory I always forget.

So pretty much I have no grudges.

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I forgive but never, ever forget

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will forgive most things if I receive a sincere apology, like people have said were only human and we have all f**ked up at times.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

depends on the severity of the crime I guess but on the whole o am a very forgiving person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never forget if someone has hurt me. It all depends on whether I'm ready to let things lie if its beneficial to me. However I am no fool and I may act as if its all rosy but inside I'm guarded and alert.

I don't do revenge, it gives no pleasure. Done that in a previous relationship and would never stoop so low again, though I'm glad to say my revenge only hurt him (well and me as my conscience stopped me sleeping for a while), but I'd never deliberately hurt innocent parties. I learnt a lesson in that I neednt have done anything. Grass is never really greener on the other side is it, its an illusion from a distance. The texts I get asking to meet 'for a coffee' and me refusing cos I'd never go there again are sweeter revenge than the destructive kind

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I really find it staggering when people have a difference of opinion with someone... and they go on and on and on and on about.. days, weeks, months later...

what a waste of energy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i could easily have been bitter and feeling revengeful when my ex left me, because what he did to me was unforgivable but i decided in the very early days after he left not to waste my extremeley precious energy at that time on any form of negativity ... so i just threw him away and moved on with my life...that decision gave me so much power over the rest of my life ,im so glad i made it . so i would say yes im a forgiver and a forgetter ......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the whole im an easy going person. So yes id say i forgive and forget.

But You cross me i will never forgive nor forget!......

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

Depends on the severity on what has been done or said, I am very laid back and easy going, but will defend myself,family and friends if i have to. Mostly I will give people another chance. Ive never felt the need to seek revenge on anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't give my friendship easily, but when i do you are stuck with me through thick and think...... always forgive, but never forget or mention again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt say im a forgiver or a forgeter, i just don't spent precious time looking back, it just makes you remember not to choose the same type in the future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your very last sentence....

"I forgive occasionally but never forget"

Sums me up to a tee.

People can make mistakes and do twatty things.... I am more inclined to give them a second chance.

When people use venom and spite... I will neither forgive nor forget.

xxxx

Hope your head recovers soon xx"

Have to agree with these sentiments

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Nope... youre all going in my little book

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your very last sentence....

"I forgive occasionally but never forget"

Sums me up to a tee.

People can make mistakes and do twatty things.... I am more inclined to give them a second chance.

When people use venom and spite... I will neither forgive nor forget.

And to nick a famous quote "Saved me typing that"

The day I find "...and forget" in the bible... I will change my ways...

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By *adcowWoman
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

i tend to forgive honest mistakes but if they have been spiteful or intentional then that is not the norm for me to forgive.

as for forgetting i once waited 15 yr to get revenge - and the person will never forget it either

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Nope... youre all going in my little book

is it a little black book

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"with everything happening here and me drinking on a work night (ouch my head)

forgiveness

do you forgive easily and give another chance (vanilla and swinging)

and forget

after you have forgave do you forget or do u always remember it

i forgive occasionally but never forget "

i think we should remember,or else how do we learn from the past.

There are a couple of people i will never forgive,however i try not to allow their behavior to impact on me now.I wish i could forgive them,particually one who i believe acted in many ways unintentionally,and hope it will come.But i don't loose sleep over it.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"Nope... youre all going in my little book

is it a little black book

It is but its running out of space

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By *razydriver8Couple
over a year ago

plymouth

i forgive and the best revenge is never to think about them again.. if they have done something to hurt me.. i know that what ever goes around comes around.. one way or another..

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By *otstory69Man
over a year ago

stafford

"Your very last sentence....

"I forgive occasionally but never forget"

Sums me up to a tee.

People can make mistakes and do twatty things.... I am more inclined to give them a second chance.

When people use venom and spite... I will neither forgive nor forget.

xxxx

Hope your head recovers soon xx"

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Frocks, I think you sum up how a lot of people feel, including me.

people make mistakes, and accidents happen, but vindictiveness and spite are causing harm by choice, and that gets neither forgiven or forgotten.

I believe in Kharma. It's not quick justice, but if you're nasty

, it will get you eventually.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

i think recognizing the difference between accidents and mistakes,where there really is nothing to forgive, is important too.

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

"Nope... youre all going in my little book

The old or the new one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mantra is: Fuck me over once, more fool you - fuck me over twice, more fool me.

More often than not I don't give second chances as I see something that I felt was real and deeply committing has become tainted and shallow.

I don't accept apologies as people are only sorry after they've been found out. If they were truly sorry they'd never have shafted you in the first place.

I guess I'll know if Siren is my ideal partner when I'm on my death bed 40-50 years from now. If she's sitting there beside me I'll know she was the one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"with everything happening here and me drinking on a work night (ouch my head)

forgiveness

do you forgive easily and give another chance (vanilla and swinging)

and forget

after you have forgave do you forget or do u always remember it

i forgive occasionally but never forget "

One needs to enquire as to reasons as one never knows what peeps have got going on in their lives. Always err on the side of forgiveness.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"Nope... youre all going in my little book

The old or the new one

Only have the one... so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normally give a second chance depending on what happened, if someone was spiteful or just plain nasty then they have no chance.

When were good no one remembers, when were bad no one forgets, that's people for you

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I hunt them down for the dogs they are and then wreak my righteous wrath upon the next 12 generations of their family until their very name has been expunged from history and memory.

Other than that I'm pretty relaxed and easygoing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually turn my back and forget. Life's too short after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it all depends on the severity of what has happened.

If someone "fucks me over" with malice. Then that's it for me, they are out of my life. I may have to be around that person at certain times ie work or social, but that is it. My attitude is that, yes "life is too short" so why be arsed putting up with shit and keeping those people in your life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will usually give someone a second chance especially if there is room for interpretation on what's happened. But I go into things the second time with my eyes wide open for warning signs and if the same happens again, forget it.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

honest mistakes i can forgive and forget easy .made afew myself lol !

people deliberatly lieing ,misleading or taking my soft nature as a sign of weakness arent even thought twice about !wont toally forget what they done but they are totally forgotten about . im very patient and just leave it to karma to sort tem as they arent importent enough in my life to waste any any energies on hating or planning cold revenge .got much better and more important things in life .

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