FabSwingers.com forum: what men want!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Am getting totally pissed off wen am on meets and the men doing what they want rather than pleasing me. And i always thought you men have to please the ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you not ask for what you want?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bring me a kebab? That's what I'd want.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you not ask for what you want?"
yeah i do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am getting totally pissed off wen am on meets and the men doing what they want rather than pleasing me. And i always thought you men have to please the ladies."

Not all of us, check my verifications

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Am getting totally pissed off wen am on meets and the men doing what they want rather than pleasing me. And i always thought you men have to please the ladies."
err reality check..noone has to do anything they dont want..maybe you should talk through your requirements before you go to the bedroom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one guy kept twiddling my nipples like they were a radio. i did ask him to stop doing that, twice i asked, but he carried on.

it was weird and i'm sure he left his underpants at mine for some reason. never met him the next time he asked lol.

fuck it, just get another guy over to do you right straight after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am getting totally pissed off wen am on meets and the men doing what they want rather than pleasing me. And i always thought you men have to please the ladies.

Not all of us, check my verifications

I sure hope not!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am getting totally pissed off wen am on meets and the men doing what they want rather than pleasing me. And i always thought you men have to please the ladies."

We do. But it's a two way street the way I see it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More honest communication prior

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By *ovis69 and green eyesMan
over a year ago

valleys

I always thought it's about pleasing each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always thought it's about pleasing each other"

This ^^. Unless previously discussed (ie, just wanting to come and lick your pussy), it should be a mutually beneficial meet. You moan about them being selfish, yet your comment about men being there just to please you is also selfish. I love to please, as well as to be pleased. Perhaps discuss with your next meet what they expect out of the meet, and perhaps you can gage a semblence of what type of lover they could potentially be, based on their reply. Not sure fire... But a little helpful perhaps.

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By *iver2015Woman
over a year ago

middlesbrough

Get them told! It's got to be mutually beneficial. If a man tries to dominate you into doing what he wants and you're not into that then don't let him. You have nothing to prove. xx

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By *infullyNaughtyMan
over a year ago

Stanwell

The guy needs to please the lady just like the lady needs to please the guy. Whoever thinks that these meets are a one way street are idiots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am getting totally pissed off wen am on meets and the men doing what they want rather than pleasing me. And i always thought you men have to please the ladies."

Mutual pleasure here.

Are you lying there like a plank of wood?

I'd hope not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am getting totally pissed off wen am on meets and the men doing what they want rather than pleasing me. And i always thought you men have to please the ladies.

Mutual pleasure here.

Are you lying there like a plank of wood?

I'd hope not.

^. My thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven't you heard ?

All single guys are spawned from Satan

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Am getting totally pissed off wen am on meets and the men doing what they want rather than pleasing me. And i always thought you men have to please the ladies."

I personally believe the key to get sex is communication but I do feel for the op as I hear similar complains far to often for my tastes .

mostly based around not delivering or playing in the agreed way once they have the fern in a venerable and compromising position .

at the end of the day its not the OPs fault she's not getting a satisfying sexual experience the fault lays with those who promise great sex knowing that there only there for a quick rut based around fulfilling there needs only .

trust me there are plenty like that out there behaving in that way of both sexes .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am getting totally pissed off wen am on meets and the men doing what they want rather than pleasing me. And i always thought you men have to please the ladies.

I personally believe the key to get sex is communication but I do feel for the op as I hear similar complains far to often for my tastes .

mostly based around not delivering or playing in the agreed way once they have the fern in a venerable and compromising position .

trust me there are plenty like that out there behaving in that way of both sexes . "

The voice of wisdom has spoken.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Am getting totally pissed off wen am on meets and the men doing what they want rather than pleasing me. And i always thought you men have to please the ladies.

I personally believe the key to get sex is communication but I do feel for the op as I hear similar complains far to often for my tastes .

mostly based around not delivering or playing in the agreed way once they have the fern in a venerable and compromising position .

trust me there are plenty like that out there behaving in that way of both sexes .

The voice of wisdom has spoken. "

wisdom my arse common sense more like it even I fool has enough common sense to see the truth when its right under his nose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am getting totally pissed off wen am on meets and the men doing what they want rather than pleasing me. And i always thought you men have to please the ladies.

I personally believe the key to get sex is communication but I do feel for the op as I hear similar complains far to often for my tastes .

mostly based around not delivering or playing in the agreed way once they have the fern in a venerable and compromising position .

trust me there are plenty like that out there behaving in that way of both sexes .

The voice of wisdom has spoken.

wisdom my arse common sense more like it even I fool has enough common sense to see the truth when its right under his nose

Oh okay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't come across this, most of the men I,'ve met have made a good effort to pleasure me and visa versa. Like someone said it's a 2 way thing. Sometimes men are nervous, they are not fk machines.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am getting totally pissed off wen am on meets and the men doing what they want rather than pleasing me. And i always thought you men have to please the ladies.

I personally believe the key to get sex is communication but I do feel for the op as I hear similar complains far to often for my tastes .

mostly based around not delivering or playing in the agreed way once they have the fern in a venerable and compromising position .

trust me there are plenty like that out there behaving in that way of both sexes . "

A lot of the time the things chatted about are not realistically achievable on one first meet. A lot of chat is just fantasy. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't come across this, most of the men I,'ve met have made a good effort to pleasure me and visa versa. Like someone said it's a 2 way thing. Sometimes men are nervous, they are not fk machines."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am getting totally pissed off wen am on meets and the men doing what they want rather than pleasing me. And i always thought you men have to please the ladies.

I personally believe the key to get sex is communication but I do feel for the op as I hear similar complains far to often for my tastes .

mostly based around not delivering or playing in the agreed way once they have the fern in a venerable and compromising position .

trust me there are plenty like that out there behaving in that way of both sexes .

The voice of wisdom has spoken.

wisdom my arse common sense more like it even I fool has enough common sense to see the truth when its right under his nose

And what truth would that be sir??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am getting totally pissed off wen am on meets and the men doing what they want rather than pleasing me. And i always thought you men have to please the ladies.

I personally believe the key to get sex is communication but I do feel for the op as I hear similar complains far to often for my tastes .

mostly based around not delivering or playing in the agreed way once they have the fern in a venerable and compromising position .

trust me there are plenty like that out there behaving in that way of both sexes .

A lot of the time the things chatted about are not realistically achievable on one first meet. A lot of chat is just fantasy. X"

Yes, ideas. But surely you've gauged what they like/want?

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

If there was no communication from either side before, during or after sex it's possible that the males you have met have assumed that they have done that which you you find pleasing.

Communication is the key.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make sure you get what you want. Be forceful in your communication. Talk to the other person during sex.

As a friend said to me yesterday though: if the other person is bad at sex, the sex will always be bad. In that case just move on and sleep with someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a woman telling me what to do to please her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love a woman telling me what to do to please her. "

Marriage material right here ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love a woman telling me what to do to please her.

Marriage material right here ladies.

Yes. Bloody hate ironing and cooking! Oh and housework

Taking over those chores would really please me....

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By *ercuryMan
over a year ago

Grantham

Satisfaction needs to be mutual.

I take the step during the undressing stage of asking what they won't or don't like to do, and work around that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"one guy kept twiddling my nipples like they were a radio. i did ask him to stop doing that, twice i asked, but he carried on.

it was weird and i'm sure he left his underpants at mine for some reason. never met him the next time he asked lol.

fuck it, just get another guy over to do you right straight after."

Don't that work then? Damn!

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By *ercuryMan
over a year ago

Grantham

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Satisfaction needs to be mutual.

I take the step during the undressing stage of asking what they won't or don't like to do, and work around that. "

Just before sex isn't a time I want to be talking about things that turn me off...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a thought, it's a bit left field. Tell the blokes you're with that they need to do more to satisfy you.

Radical eh?

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

"one guy kept twiddling my nipples like they were a radio. i did ask him to stop doing that, twice i asked, but he carried on.

it was weird and i'm sure he left his underpants at mine for some reason. never met him the next time he asked lol.

fuck it, just get another guy over to do you right straight after."

I felt a right tit.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Except for one small fact.

You make it sound as though this happened last night, OP. How much did you talk about what you wanted beforehand. How much did you talk about what you wanted during the meet. Are we talking sexually btw, since in the past you have indicated that you feel the man should be paying for dinner and everything?) But, perhaps most importantly, how much errr, 'feedback' did you give him afterwards? Because surely if you tell him it was nice and excellent then he will never change what he does.

Mr ddc

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By *ercuryMan
over a year ago

Grantham

"Satisfaction needs to be mutual.

I take the step during the undressing stage of asking what they won't or don't like to do, and work around that.

Just before sex isn't a time I want to be talking about things that turn me off... "

No, it's far better to wait until he's spent an hour slurping away downstairs, to then tell him that "it doesn't do anything for me".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Satisfaction needs to be mutual.

I take the step during the undressing stage of asking what they won't or don't like to do, and work around that.

Just before sex isn't a time I want to be talking about things that turn me off...

No, it's far better to wait until he's spent an hour slurping away downstairs, to then tell him that "it doesn't do anything for me".

I find it better to talk beforehand... Like... After the social and before the meet.

Exception is at clubs, when I negotiate activities in and don't step outside of those boundaries.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Am getting totally pissed off wen am on meets and the men doing what they want rather than pleasing me. And i always thought you men have to please the ladies.

I personally believe the key to get sex is communication but I do feel for the op as I hear similar complains far to often for my tastes .

mostly based around not delivering or playing in the agreed way once they have the fern in a venerable and compromising position .

trust me there are plenty like that out there behaving in that way of both sexes .

A lot of the time the things chatted about are not realistically achievable on one first meet. A lot of chat is just fantasy. X"

yes I get that all the time from ferns the old I can handle what ever you throw at me john

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

Except for one small fact.

Mr ddc"

you can tell dog not to wolf his food but the dog when offer a plate of food is still going to wolf it all down as quickly and as energetically as possible .

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Men are from Earth, women are from Earth.

Deal with it.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Communication.

Foreplay.

They work you up enough in the foreplay you'll be yelling what you want and they won't be able to resist!

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Am getting totally pissed off wen am on meets and the men doing what they want rather than pleasing me. And i always thought you men have to please the ladies.

I personally believe the key to get sex is communication but I do feel for the op as I hear similar complains far to often for my tastes .

mostly based around not delivering or playing in the agreed way once they have the fern in a venerable and compromising position .

trust me there are plenty like that out there behaving in that way of both sexes .

The voice of wisdom has spoken.

wisdom my arse common sense more like it even I fool has enough common sense to see the truth when its right under his nose

And what truth would that be sir??"

that some people fuck for a orgasm and others fuck to explore limits .

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

Except for one small fact.

Mr ddc

you can tell dog not to wolf his food but the dog when offer a plate of food is still going to wolf it all down as quickly and as energetically as possible .

I'm guessing that view will winalot of support...

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Gotta say op you seem to have more problems than most both arranging to meet folk and then having unsatisfying meets .. guess some folk are just unlucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men are very unselfish lovers and put the woman's needs they are with first. Got to be ed out I suppose

Kinky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am getting totally pissed off wen am on meets and the men doing what they want rather than pleasing me. And i always thought you men have to please the ladies."

I always thought it was a two way thing.

I try my best to please the man or men I'm with and hope they do similar for me.

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

"Am getting totally pissed off wen am on meets and the men doing what they want rather than pleasing me. And i always thought you men have to please the ladies."

I have never experienced this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Except for one small fact.

Mr ddc

you can tell dog not to wolf his food but the dog when offer a plate of food is still going to wolf it all down as quickly and as energetically as possible .

This is so true, I swear with some when once the sex switch flicks in their brain they are just the star in their own porn film.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some men are very unselfish lovers and put the woman's needs they are with first. Got to be ed out I suppose

Kinky

I don't lie gardening at the best of times and i'm getting fed up of so many s!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jesus Christ....

We have to send the 1St message,

Send the 1St photo, shave down below......etc

Now you expect us to do all the pleasing as well as be mind readers

Give us a break....

It's mutual play after all!!!

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By *ackett1962Man
over a year ago

harrow

Not blowing my own trumpet...but I always like to know what the other person or persons like. I then make sure they enjoy themselves first and me afterwards.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I've also found that the guys I've met want to make sure I'm totally satisfied, that way I'll meet them again.

As I make sure they're satisfied too..like it's been said, 2 way Street.

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By *aughtyinguMan
over a year ago

swindon

Think the key is communication, tell him or guide him physically, but everyone has a whole bunch of things in their heads, so u need some kindness and understanding too..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some men are very unselfish lovers and put the woman's needs they are with first. Got to be ed out I suppose

Kinky

I don't lie gardening at the best of times and i'm getting fed up of so many s!"

Can't blame you

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

After some hideous experiences where they lay there like a sack of spuds or I'm left unfulfilled, I now how have a few rules. Main one being, I come first.

Get my first one out of the way and I'm your best friend

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By *ackett1962Man
over a year ago

harrow

"After some hideous experiences where they lay there like a sack of spuds or I'm left unfulfilled, I now how have a few rules. Main one being, I come first.

Get my first one out of the way and I'm your best friend "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just go with the flow.. I always please though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Choose better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jesus Christ....

We have to send the 1St message,

Send the 1St photo, shave down below......etc

Now you expect us to do all the pleasing as well as be mind readers

Give us a break....

It's mutual play after all!!!

You men don't have to do anything but it would help you enormously if, when you do do it first, that you do it with good grace... that way you don't come across as selfish whingers

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