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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm sure I'm not the only one that's suffered from this, you start chatting to a women/couple, just the general stuff, life etc, small hints of meeting that aren't really acknowledged, then silence, your last message not replied to then eventually deleted, do you message again to respark the conversation or just leave it and see if they get back in touch?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sure I'm not the only one that's suffered from this, you start chatting to a women/couple, just the general stuff, life etc, small hints of meeting that aren't really acknowledged, then silence, your last message not replied to then eventually deleted, do you message again to respark the conversation or just leave it and see if they get back in touch?"

Give them there p45 and move the fuk on lol

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By *ightfall79Man
over a year ago

Dunbartonshire


"I'm sure I'm not the only one that's suffered from this, you start chatting to a women/couple, just the general stuff, life etc, small hints of meeting that aren't really acknowledged, then silence, your last message not replied to then eventually deleted, do you message again to respark the conversation or just leave it and see if they get back in touch?

Give them there p45 and move the fuk on lol"

this.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

If the convo tails off, just forget it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sure I'm not the only one that's suffered from this, you start chatting to a women/couple, just the general stuff, life etc, small hints of meeting that aren't really acknowledged, then silence, your last message not replied to then eventually deleted, do you message again to respark the conversation or just leave it and see if they get back in touch?"

Leave it and if they get back in touch, it's a no thanks XXX

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm not pushy so I'll just leave it I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send a cock picture as a last resort to save it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sure I'm not the only one that's suffered from this, you start chatting to a women/couple, just the general stuff, life etc, small hints of meeting that aren't really acknowledged, then silence, your last message not replied to then eventually deleted, do you message again to respark the conversation or just leave it and see if they get back in touch?"
Move on fella

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Send a cock picture as a last resort to save it "

Yeah cause that works

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

If a guy hasn't arranged to meet for a coffee social fairly quickly then I know he's a dreamer and I move on.

Allowances are made for people who are further away and some logistical planning is required

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sure I'm not the only one that's suffered from this, you start chatting to a women/couple, just the general stuff, life etc, small hints of meeting that aren't really acknowledged, then silence, your last message not replied to then eventually deleted, do you message again to respark the conversation or just leave it and see if they get back in touch?"
A leave it

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"If a guy hasn't arranged to meet for a coffee social fairly quickly then I know he's a dreamer and I move on.

Allowances are made for people who are further away and some logistical planning is required "

Phew!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Having said that, conversations can fall off the page and a mass delete will lose them.

So it might just be that

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I'm sure I'm not the only one that's suffered from this, you start chatting to a women/couple, just the general stuff, life etc, small hints of meeting that aren't really acknowledged, then silence, your last message not replied to then eventually deleted, do you message again to respark the conversation or just leave it and see if they get back in touch?"

I've had this happen to me recently and have just left it. There's nothing to respark if the interest has gone.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"I'm sure I'm not the only one that's suffered from this, you start chatting to a women/couple, just the general stuff, life etc, small hints of meeting that aren't really acknowledged, then silence, your last message not replied to then eventually deleted, do you message again to respark the conversation or just leave it and see if they get back in touch?"

If I really wanted to meet them, I might try one more time. Sometimes, messages get lost in amongst the junk.

It would really depend on how the conversation was going before then.

We've had conversations fizzle out as we've not been so active online and vice versa. One or the other of us, have reached out and bingo.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"If a guy hasn't arranged to meet for a coffee social fairly quickly then I know he's a dreamer and I move on.

Allowances are made for people who are further away and some logistical planning is required

Phew! "

I had to add that

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham


"I'm sure I'm not the only one that's suffered from this, you start chatting to a women/couple, just the general stuff, life etc, small hints of meeting that aren't really acknowledged, then silence, your last message not replied to then eventually deleted, do you message again to respark the conversation or just leave it and see if they get back in touch?

Give them there p45 and move the fuk on lol"

convos stopped for a reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My fav is when you message someone and they answer with something that can't be answered back to,

Im like Hmmmmm, I get the hint

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"My fav is when you message someone and they answer with something that can't be answered back to,

Im like Hmmmmm, I get the hint "

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"My fav is when you message someone and they answer with something that can't be answered back to,

Im like Hmmmmm, I get the hint "

Wish they all did

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By *iver2015Woman
over a year ago

middlesbrough

I just leave it. Many times I've thought someone seemed alright but it just sort of fizzled. I do like someone with a bit of humour about them though. I can take a bit of banter and cheekiness too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sure I'm not the only one that's suffered from this, you start chatting to a women/couple, just the general stuff, life etc, small hints of meeting that aren't really acknowledged, then silence, your last message not replied to then eventually deleted, do you message again to respark the conversation or just leave it and see if they get back in touch?"

Ive been on here on and off for 4 years and Yep this has happened on alot of occasions, mostly with couples,I think its mainly were the lady of the couple is talking to me, and then Mr turns up and puts an end to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What? You actually get a reply at all? I rarely do, or even a view of my profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If that happens to us i dont bother to messege them and if they get back in touch i say no thanks to them.

If we start chatting to a guy and are interested in meeting i normally send a friend request. However if no meet ever seems like happening i delete them as they are probably dreamers and/or just after wank material.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're just not into you... get over it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They're just not into you... get over it!! "

Ouch!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just remember that members have lives outside of fab so with other stuff going on it's not always possible for ping pong messages. Wait until you are both 'available' then fire a short message across.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They're just not into you... get over it!!

Ouch!"

Didn't hurt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But then you have the asking for a meet too quick and they still ignore you and block

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But then you have the asking for a meet too quick and they still ignore you and block"

I dot ask to meet straight away, I like to build up a repertoire first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sure I'm not the only one that's suffered from this, you start chatting to a women/couple, just the general stuff, life etc, small hints of meeting that aren't really acknowledged, then silence, your last message not replied to then eventually deleted, do you message again to respark the conversation or just leave it and see if they get back in touch?"

To be honest OP, I've done this. It's not that I've wanted to stop chatting. Sometimes I'll get an influx of messages, and the message falls too far down the thread for me to see it. Especially if I go offline, or am in the forums. Then I get distracted by something else, and days later I'll message to see how things are going with them. Only to find I missed their message. It's not always disinterest. Sometimes it can be not seeing a message.

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By *reakShow90Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

Had the same problem I just leave it as I don't want to come over as pushy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But then you have the asking for a meet too quick and they still ignore you and block

I dot ask to meet straight away, I like to build up a repertoire first."

'Raport' surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This happens nine times out of ten, I don't even think about it anymore, I just move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But then you have the asking for a meet too quick and they still ignore you and block

I dot ask to meet straight away, I like to build up a repertoire first.

'Raport' surely? "

That's the one, thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its easy to miss a message and bulk delete id try one more time and good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens alot on our couples profile. you get messaged by a guy who seems pleasant enough but maybe clearly hasn't read the profile, he seems harmless enough so you just chat. Like you would in a club or whatever. He's not what we're looking for so we don't ever mention meeting. If he can't read the profile the only persons time he's wasting is his own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sure I'm not the only one that's suffered from this, you start chatting to a women/couple, just the general stuff, life etc, small hints of meeting that aren't really acknowledged, then silence, your last message not replied to then eventually deleted, do you message again to respark the conversation or just leave it and see if they get back in touch?"

It means I'm bored of the uninteresting conversation. If you want this to stop, ask them about themselves, make the conversation quirky and interesting. For them to converse in the first place means you made a good impression, you are losing them because your conversation is about meeting, not about them or anything that stands out from the crowd

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

You should always try to end messages with an "in" for them to continue the conversation don't you think?

S

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm sure I'm not the only one that's suffered from this, you start chatting to a women/couple, just the general stuff, life etc, small hints of meeting that aren't really acknowledged, then silence, your last message not replied to then eventually deleted, do you message again to respark the conversation or just leave it and see if they get back in touch?

It means I'm bored of the uninteresting conversation. If you want this to stop, ask them about themselves, make the conversation quirky and interesting. For them to converse in the first place means you made a good impression, you are losing them because your conversation is about meeting, not about them or anything that stands out from the crowd "

My conversation wasn't about meeting though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having said that, conversations can fall off the page and a mass delete will lose them.

So it might just be that "

This is my life story. Just lost in an oblivion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sure I'm not the only one that's suffered from this, you start chatting to a women/couple, just the general stuff, life etc, small hints of meeting that aren't really acknowledged, then silence, your last message not replied to then eventually deleted, do you message again to respark the conversation or just leave it and see if they get back in touch?

It means I'm bored of the uninteresting conversation. If you want this to stop, ask them about themselves, make the conversation quirky and interesting. For them to converse in the first place means you made a good impression, you are losing them because your conversation is about meeting, not about them or anything that stands out from the crowd

My conversation wasn't about meeting though"

Read your original message.

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By *layfulCouple86Couple
over a year ago

Lancashire

We get this all the time it can be quite frustrating

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm sure I'm not the only one that's suffered from this, you start chatting to a women/couple, just the general stuff, life etc, small hints of meeting that aren't really acknowledged, then silence, your last message not replied to then eventually deleted, do you message again to respark the conversation or just leave it and see if they get back in touch?

It means I'm bored of the uninteresting conversation. If you want this to stop, ask them about themselves, make the conversation quirky and interesting. For them to converse in the first place means you made a good impression, you are losing them because your conversation is about meeting, not about them or anything that stands out from the crowd

My conversation wasn't about meeting though

Read your original message. "

Sorry, was only asking what plans for the weekend, not asking outright for a meet.

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