FabSwingers.com forum: Men! Attach pics so we know who we are talking to and stop wasting our time!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I woke up this morning with 137 messages in my inbox. If it takes 1-2 minutes to answer each one, that's 2hours 17mins to 4hours 34mins just to answer ONCE without striking up a conversation. This is constant and I'm sorry but I simply DON'T have the time to waste messaging back and forth asking for pics and details which is usually met by a response such as 'I haven't uploaded any yet'.

Apart from wasting my time and annoying me, from experience these men are usually time wasters.

Therefore, from now on any message which doesn't contain CLEAR PICTURES of COCK, BODY AND FACE will automatically be deleted and I won't reply EVEN IF WE HAVE SPOKEN BEFORE!

And before you ask "But why do I need to send pictures if we spoke last week? Don't you remember me?" The answer is "No, I don't remember you because I get hundreds of messages a day and I can't possibly remember every profile name ESPECIALLY WHEN YOU HAVE NO PICS OR DETAILS ON YOUR PROFILE! So you need to REMIND me who you are with your pics, otherwise you are just another username and I haven't got a clue who you are."

I feel the same applies for a lot of girls on here, so help us out by attaching your pics so we can see who we are talking to.

Rant over.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

The same applies to me except I got 138* messages today so that makes me a winner

*actually, its zero.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Filters, my friend, filters.

Go looking yourself if an overflowing inbox is causing you problems

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually Rant Day is Thursday so come back then

Or block everybody and do your own searching

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and send pics with EACH message!? Even if you sent them last week?

Nah mate, that sounds too needy and demanding for me to be honest.

Even if I was looking for a T-girl (which I'm not) I'd pass you by if you couldn't do the courtesy of remembering me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Filters, my friend, filters.

Go looking yourself if an overflowing inbox is causing you problems

you took the words right out of my mouth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually Rant Day is Thursday so come back then

Or block everybody and do your own searching

Although it could be boast Monday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually Rant Day is Thursday so come back then

Or block everybody and do your own searching

Although it could be boast Monday

ooh meeeeeow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just do what everyone else does and block delete them ... simples

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

My my you are the popular one..

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

100's of messages...you must be really popular on here.

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By *lice_in_BlunderlandWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Gotta love the direct approach

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Filters, my friend, filters.

Go looking yourself if an overflowing inbox is causing you problems

Kuck Foff, you're far too sensible!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Woke up this morning to 137 msgs in your inbox - That's a 1st would problem right there.

Think it's time for some counselling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for doing the maths

this is why I tend not to reply to those I'm not interested in, takes too bloody long.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh and send pics with EACH message!? Even if you sent them last week?

Nah mate, that sounds too needy and demanding for me to be honest.

Even if I was looking for a T-girl (which I'm not) I'd pass you by if you couldn't do the courtesy of remembering me! "

To be fair I remember nobody. I'm shit 'which one are you again' I blame the 4000 messages inbetween Tho

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By *acko9568Man
over a year ago

saltburn

"Filters, my friend, filters.

Go looking yourself if an overflowing inbox is causing you problems

you took the words right out of my mouth

Why are all the foxy redheads so far away, sob sob, xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks for doing the maths

this is why I tend not to reply to those I'm not interested in, takes too bloody long.

This is exactly what I'm thinking of doing. Before I would try and answer everyone to be polite but I'm not going to bother any more.

Interesting how some of the men are getting really rude about it. The whole point of me making this post is to actually HELP them get laid. And while some have commented that I'm bragging. I'm not. It's just the truth so you understand my perspective and know what I'm dealing with here. It's not bragging, I'm just a TV on here and I know that actual women and TS get a LOT more messages than that. I'd rather have 5 quality messages than 138 rubbish ones. Of course instead of trying to understand my perspective some people decide to make fun of my post instead. Probably the same men who complain that no women answer them or meet. Wonder why?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I think it's more light hearted banter than rudeness. You announced an issue and you got some good filtery advice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh and send pics with EACH message!? Even if you sent them last week?

Nah mate, that sounds too needy and demanding for me to be honest.

Even if I was looking for a T-girl (which I'm not) I'd pass you by if you couldn't do the courtesy of remembering me!

To be fair I remember nobody. I'm shit 'which one are you again' I blame the 4000 messages inbetween Tho"

Exactly. Looking at your status with you having 400 men waiting I totally get it. THIS is exactly what I mean fellas. When a beautiful girl like this has 400 blokes wanting to fuck her, you think she is gonna bother answering the messages which say 'wanna fuck?' with no picture, details and no pics on profile? Don't forget you are competing with all these other Men. Be realistic. She has actually out a status up to not bother messaging her any more because there are too many messages. It's not boasting. It's the truth!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good advice op. I will.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it's more light hearted banter than rudeness. You announced an issue and you got some good filtery advice. "

I'm not aware of filters but I will look them up now. It's a great suggestion.

Sorry I'm just so frustrated with the whole situation when I'm literally spending hours and hours replying to everyone and feeling bad if I don't. Then men don't make it easier with empty profiles and messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would forget what I look like if I didn't use a mirror now and then. I have to either save the message that has the face pic or risk forgetting what someone looks like.

I don't get hundreds of messages either

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

I used to answer every message . I used to never block.

Now I've changed how I work my profile to save me and guys time.

Unfortunately while I understand that you say these things in an attempt to help ... most won't take it on board and it is left to you to change what you can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh and send pics with EACH message!? Even if you sent them last week?

Nah mate, that sounds too needy and demanding for me to be honest.

Even if I was looking for a T-girl (which I'm not) I'd pass you by if you couldn't do the courtesy of remembering me!

To be fair I remember nobody. I'm shit 'which one are you again' I blame the 4000 messages inbetween Tho

Thankyou darling xx

It wasn't boasting at all. That's not my nature. It was more a poke at those that Mail 'meet now??!!' Or send 7 messages when you've not read their first xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks for doing the maths

this is why I tend not to reply to those I'm not interested in, takes too bloody long.

You are absolutely right. I'd literally spend 6-7 hours answering messages on the weekend and i thought to myself why am I doing this and wasting all this time? I could actually be meeting someone or doing something fun or useful and being productive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for doing the maths

this is why I tend not to reply to those I'm not interested in, takes too bloody long.

This is exactly what I'm thinking of doing. Before I would try and answer everyone to be polite but I'm not going to bother any more.

lol The whole point of making this thread is to massage your ego, nothing else... If you REALLY wanted to 'help' men get laid you would put that on your profile and leave it as that but I suppose you gotta get that attention somehow huh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The same applies to me except I got 138* messages today so that makes me a winner

*actually, its zero. "

I've had four!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just block men and do the searching yourself.

Doll x

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"I woke up this morning with 137 messages in my inbox. If it takes 1-2 minutes to answer each one, that's 2hours 17mins to 4hours 34mins just to answer ONCE without striking up a conversation. This is constant and I'm sorry but I simply DON'T have the time to waste messaging back and forth asking for pics and details which is usually met by a response such as 'I haven't uploaded any yet'.

Apart from wasting my time and annoying me, from experience these men are usually time wasters.

Therefore, from now on any message which doesn't contain CLEAR PICTURES of COCK, BODY AND FACE will automatically be deleted and I won't reply EVEN IF WE HAVE SPOKEN BEFORE!

I feel the same applies for a lot of girls on here, so help us out by attaching your pics so we can see who we are talking to.

Rant over.

But what if its someone with face pics on their profile? & do you do the same when sending? Every time you send, even when in conversation?

Just being devils advocate

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Tsk tsk.. instead of typing replies on here taking up valuable time....you'd be at 124 to go now... Stop wasting time .

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I block straight men who look at my profile and bi men with mostly cock photos and any man with a boring profile which is a lot. That leaves 3. I also blocked someone last night who didn't want me to message them and I block people whose attitudes in the forum I don't like. I also block every 10th person who looks at me because of my interest in roman decimation.

Makes my fab experience more fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Filters and copy and paste are great

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thankyou darling xx

It wasn't boasting at all. That's not my nature. It was more a poke at those that Mail 'meet now??!!' Or send 7 messages when you've not read their first xx"

Yes that last point. Literally yesterday I had a bloke send multiple messages back to back with things like "why aren't you answering?" Then another "am I not your type?" Then another "what's your type?" Then simply "????" And the worst is when they get annoyed because you haven't answered them yet ( when actually you haven't had a chance to even read their original message because you are busy answering the fifty before him and actually if he just waited then you would have seen that he is your type) and start sending abusive messages about being a stuck up cow for not replying.

It's so frustrating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's more light hearted banter than rudeness. You announced an issue and you got some good filtery advice.

I'm not aware of filters but I will look them up now. It's a great suggestion.

Finding someone you are attracted to and want sex with isn't easy. You can make it a little less mentally tiring, by using filters, but finding someone worthwhile takes time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Apart from wasting my time and annoying me, from experience these men are usually time wasters.

Therefore, from now on any message which doesn't contain CLEAR PICTURES of COCK, BODY AND FACE will automatically be deleted and I won't reply EVEN IF WE HAVE SPOKEN BEFORE!

I feel the same applies for a lot of girls on here, so help us out by attaching your pics so we can see who we are talking to.

Rant over.

But what if its someone with face pics on their profile? & do you do the same when sending? Every time you send, even when in conversation?

Just being devils advocate

If you read what I wrote I specifically stated 'when you have no pics or details on your profile'. Obviously if you have a good profile with a filled in profile text and clear pictures then you don't need to send pics with your message, though sending with your initial one does help. If I message someone for the first time even though i have loads of pics on profile I still send them pics of me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh and send pics with EACH message!? Even if you sent them last week?

Nah mate, that sounds too needy and demanding for me to be honest.

Even if I was looking for a T-girl (which I'm not) I'd pass you by if you couldn't do the courtesy of remembering me!

To be fair I remember nobody. I'm shit 'which one are you again' I blame the 4000 messages inbetween Tho

The same principle would apply to the hottest lady on here. We've talked, exchanged pics. Got on OK. If the next week she demands I send a pic with every message because she can't remember me, I move on. I'm not THAT desperate for a shag.

Same as she would if I did the same to her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it's more light hearted banter than rudeness. You announced an issue and you got some good filtery advice.

I'm not aware of filters but I will look them up now. It's a great suggestion.

Finding someone you are attracted to and want sex with isn't easy. You can make it a little less mentally tiring, by using filters, but finding someone worthwhile takes time. "

Yes you are absolutely right I need to look into these filters

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh and send pics with EACH message!? Even if you sent them last week?

Nah mate, that sounds too needy and demanding for me to be honest.

Even if I was looking for a T-girl (which I'm not) I'd pass you by if you couldn't do the courtesy of remembering me!

To be fair I remember nobody. I'm shit 'which one are you again' I blame the 4000 messages inbetween Tho

Same as she would if I did the same to her. "

I never said with EVERY message. If you read my post I said that if you spoke to us last week and have no pics on profile then you need to REMIND us who you are be sending a picture. Maybe I should have been clearer and said with the first message of a new conversation just to jog our memory. If I've exchanged five messages with you in the past hour then obviously I won't need a picture with EVERY message, just the first one to remind me who I'm talking to. This applies to any situation when you can't see someone and haven't spoken to them in a while, not just fab. In normal day to day interactions when you see somebodys face it jogs your memory. You immediately remember something about them, even if you can't remember full details. That's why if someone calls you at work for example and you haven't spoken to them in a month, they don't just tell you what they want. They introduce themselves "Hi this is John from accounts. How are you? Remember we spoke about a month ago about xxxx and I wanted to ask you xxxxx". The same rules of communication should apply to fab. Send a picture with first message if it's been a while since we last spoke and remind me who this is. Otherwise if all I've got is a username and an empty profile, how the hell do you expect me to remember who you are? A simple face pic would do wonders in helping me to remember.

Again this applies IF YOU HAVE NO PICS ON PROFILE. If you do have pics then its not really as important is it? Last time I looked you had loads of pics on your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do with every message thanks. And clear and up to date aswell

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

If it has taking you 8 months and you have been spending 6/7 hours every weekend to answer your fan mail,then you deserve a knighthood..

glad you have seen the light..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do with every message thanks. And clear and up to date aswell

That message made me smile so much. If fab had the emoji with the heart eyes id use it right now. Thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was me, I'd put a more realistic age range than 18-99, that would narrow it down considerably

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it's more light hearted banter than rudeness. You announced an issue and you got some good filtery advice.

I'm not aware of filters but I will look them up now. It's a great suggestion.

Finding someone you are attracted to and want sex with isn't easy. You can make it a little less mentally tiring, by using filters, but finding someone worthwhile takes time. "

I've just found filters! Yay! Just blocked newbies (usually time wasters who delete their profiles after they wank)

Also blocked those without public pics on profile. That should reduce numbers. Though if you check my veris I have actually met some Great guys without profile pics but they did send me pics with their messages.

Anyway we will see how it goes

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

137 I am lucky to have one in last 24 hours lol

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By *iver2015Woman
over a year ago

middlesbrough

And I thought I was doing alright with 3 messages a day

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If it was me, I'd put a more realistic age range than 18-99, that would narrow it down considerably

But I do find guys of all ages sexy. From the 21yo duracel bunny to the 40yo DILF and even met some hot men in their 60s who are very fit and sexually experienced.

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

"If it was me, I'd put a more realistic age range than 18-99, that would narrow it down considerably

I agree..many do this and then say sorry too young or sorry too old.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"137 I am lucky to have one in last 24 hours lol "

You're dressed as a clown, he's dressed as a woman. You could do the same if you want...

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By *lice_in_BlunderlandWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

"I do with every message thanks. And clear and up to date aswell

That message made me smile so much. If fab had the emoji with the heart eyes id use it right now. Thank you!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gawd,,,,, I'm feeling utterly deflated ...

I mean don't get me wrong , I received a message last week and it was a very nice message,,,,,

Its just a shame the sender lived in Canada..... well at least that's what claimed when said yes I'd love to meet......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You had all the helpful messages before I posted my flippant one. I don't think I have received 100 messages since I created this profile let alone per day, so not experienced your problem.

Plus I am not meting as a single man, so I don't care what the people I converse with look like.

Our couples profile when active uses filters with great sucess. I recommend you look into that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm surprised no one has mentioned that filters don't actually work if you have a message history with someone, even if it was just to say 'sorry not my type' ...

I'm guessing the only way the OP will get his messages reduced is by blocking those he finds unsuitable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it was me, I'd put a more realistic age range than 18-99, that would narrow it down considerably

But I do find guys of all ages sexy. From the 21yo duracel bunny to the 40yo DILF and even met some hot men in their 60s who are very fit and sexually experienced. "

Best to go searching yourself then..

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

My my,problems eh! We have people moaning for not receiving message's we have people moaning for receiving message's,what next I wonder

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"I block straight men who look at my profile and bi men with mostly cock photos and any man with a boring profile which is a lot. That leaves 3. I also blocked someone last night who didn't want me to message them and I block people whose attitudes in the forum I don't like. I also block every 10th person who looks at me because of my interest in roman decimation.

Makes my fab experience more fun. "

If you consider Algebra fun...!..

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

"My my,problems eh! We have people moaning for not receiving message's we have people moaning for receiving message's,what next I wonder

If a message in the forest of messages gets deleted as unread is a tear shed or a smile turn to a frown in the ether?

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By *anes HubbyCouple
over a year ago

Babbacombe Torquay

What the op hasn't said is that he hasn't logged on for four months, in which case 137 messages isn't a lot really

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"My my,problems eh! We have people moaning for not receiving message's we have people moaning for receiving message's,what next I wonder

If a message in the forest of messages gets deleted as unread is a tear shed or a smile turn to a frown in the ether?

Yeah it is a bit chilly today

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

Apart from wasting my time and annoying me, from experience these men are usually time wasters.

Therefore, from now on any message which doesn't contain CLEAR PICTURES of COCK, BODY AND FACE will automatically be deleted and I won't reply EVEN IF WE HAVE SPOKEN BEFORE!

I feel the same applies for a lot of girls on here, so help us out by attaching your pics so we can see who we are talking to.

Rant over.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Apart from wasting my time and annoying me, from experience these men are usually time wasters.

Therefore, from now on any message which doesn't contain CLEAR PICTURES of COCK, BODY AND FACE will automatically be deleted and I won't reply EVEN IF WE HAVE SPOKEN BEFORE!

I feel the same applies for a lot of girls on here, so help us out by attaching your pics so we can see who we are talking to.

Rant over.

Its a good job I don't interest you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had 58 since yesterday, but I uploaded new pics so that always increases the messages. I went through all mine yesterday and only replied to those that added a face pic. Some of those 58 will be some of the men replying saying "ok thank you for letting me know" etc apart from the one that told me to grow up little girl, then blocked me

but I feel if they've gone to the effort of sending a message and adding a face pic then I'll reply, I state on my profile that I won't ask for a face pic as that's initiating conversation and I'm not here for that.

I could go searching myself but many men on here don't have pics on their profile, let alone face pics. If the majority of men didn't message almost every woman on here, regardless of her pics/profile, then more women would be inclined to message than have them message instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv had one message off someone i chat to in here besides that....zilch

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Can I echo this post, I have pics and profile.

If you don't too i'm not wasting my time with you.

Do people with no pics seriously get meets??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can I echo this post, I have pics and profile.

If you don't too i'm not wasting my time with you.

Do people with no pics seriously get meets??

I have no idea, but there is no law that says you have to answer every message...

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I'm a woman and have no pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many dont have pics, but yet asks for pics, no daubt something to hide or married lol.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"My my,problems eh! We have people moaning for not receiving message's we have people moaning for receiving message's,what next I wonder

But, without all the moaning posts on the forums. There wouldn't be much going on/left to read.

I suppose all the kiss, fuck, shake my hand threads would keep them ticking over.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Tried filters as many suggested.

What an improvement! Thank you everyone!

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