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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Okie dokie here goes ...when you get messages from people and they describe themselves as good looking do you inwardly think, hmm I'll decide on that one! Or do you think , wow they've got some confidence! ..does it put you off them or do you get a bit defensive and want to prove them wrong lol...how do you react

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose we all have our preference , but if someone feels the need to introduce themselves as being "Good looking" I'm just gonna leave them too it....

I mean c'mon ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a similar thread in the Swingers Chat section - attractiveness is very subjective, I see a number of people who describe themselves as attractive and think 'not my type at all' so it's kind of a pointless thing to say really.

One man's (or woman's) beautiful will be another's ugly, and vice versa.

But hey, if you don't love your yourself I guess you can't expect others too either

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Why on earth would you want to prove them wrong?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

If people felt more confident, an increased level of self worth, these forums would be reduced of the volumes of needy validation threads....

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Sure I've answered this today

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

It's how I rationalise rejection from folk.... 'I'm so good looking ,...I'm out of their league"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess this question is aimed at ladies?

For me I never describe myself as good looking but if I read somewhere that they said theyre good looking I'd be like" oh yeh"?

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

I (he) insert imaginary brackets directly after with (in your opinion) into the text, involuntarily and subconsciously now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Incidentally just for the record, I feel obligated to say that being this really-really-really good looking can be such a burden...

I mean you wouldn't believe some of the bitchy names people call me....

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"Why on earth would you want to prove them wrong?

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It's human nature to slap down anyone with a cocky attitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the context / intent.

Message me that & expect me to be in awe - off putting.

Message me that as a general description of yourself - perfectly acceptable.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why on earth would you want to prove them wrong?

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Wrong choice of phrase sorry. ..

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Okie dokie here goes ...when you get messages from people and they describe themselves as good looking do you inwardly think, hmm I'll decide on that one! Or do you think , wow they've got some confidence! ..does it put you off them or do you get a bit defensive and want to prove them wrong lol...how do you react "

I would never, ever, ever describe myself as good looking in a message or on my own profile as I think it sounds conceited

Although I think I'm ok and only hit half of the ugly tree branches when I fell out of it that's for the person I message to decide when I say hi.

I normally get "you're not my type" replies rather than you're not good looking which I guess is a polite way of saying it lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The thing is good looking is subjective isn't it ...you're good looking if the majority of people "deem " you to be

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

If I wasn't me I would be my own type. So from that point of _iew I do consider myself good-looking/attractive. However, that is a totally subjective point of _iew so I wouldn't describe myself as such to other people since I am well aware that their opinions may differ.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm, I'm smart, funny, down to earth, humble and down right bloody handsome. Now, I don't put that in my profile because it would be like stating the obvious .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hmmm, I'm smart, funny, down to earth, humble and down right bloody handsome. Now, I don't put that in my profile because it would be like stating the obvious ."

If you think all those things it's great and you're obviously a confident person which in itself can be attractive. .so long as it's not over confidence because then it's a different matter xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sure I've answered this today "

Also sharing a deja vu moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thing is good looking is subjective isn't it ...you're good looking if the majority of people "deem " you to be "

There are also those that are what I would call 'classically' good looking but they're not my type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmm, I'm smart, funny, down to earth, humble and down right bloody handsome. Now, I don't put that in my profile because it would be like stating the obvious .

If you think all those things it's great and you're obviously a confident person which in itself can be attractive. .so long as it's not over confidence because then it's a different matter xx "

Oh, never. I'm a gentleman, I only beckon ladies over when I'm interested in them rather than to just use them for my entertainment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a fine line between confidence n cockiness.

Because "nobody likes a big head" it seems to be much more socially acceptable to belittle yourself n your abilities...(oh I'm rubbish at this n that/make shrek look like Brad Pitt!)...rather than talking about your good points n what you may be great at for fear of being thought of as blowing your own trumpet!

Anyway I'll stop rambling...nothing wrong with being confident if you can do so without coming across as narcissistic

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There is a fine line between confidence n cockiness.

Because "nobody likes a big head" it seems to be much more socially acceptable to belittle yourself n your abilities...(oh I'm rubbish at this n that/make shrek look like Brad Pitt!)...rather than talking about your good points n what you may be great at for fear of being thought of as blowing your own trumpet!

Anyway I'll stop rambling...nothing wrong with being confident if you can do so without coming across as narcissistic "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If people felt more confident, an increased level of self worth, these forums would be reduced of the volumes of needy validation threads...."

Then what would I amuse myself with?. ...but I totally agree.

For what it's worth I like people who are confident with their looks. ...much more attractive than those who constantly put themselves down....The devil in me just wants to agree with them

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

What's the big deal?

I am, of course exceptionally good- looking;

My weakness is that I am also excessively modest

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"The thing is good looking is subjective isn't it ...you're good looking if the majority of people "deem " you to be

There are also those that are what I would call 'classically' good looking but they're not my type.

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Yes I find that sometimes - handsome, but not attractive to me, and the reverse - not classically handsome but fills me with lust lol! Strange thing that brain chemistry!

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