FabSwingers.com forum: arsey about verifications !

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

there are some verifications I have to hide to respect the wishes of the persons who sent them because they don't want to offend other friends !! i feel sorry for them as there should be no jealousy on a swingers site surely !!

(and don't call me shirley)

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

So they left you verifications but then asked you to hide them. Why did they leave you verifications in the first place if they didnt want you to show them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So they left you verifications but then asked you to hide them. Why did they leave you verifications in the first place if they didnt want you to show them."

LOL... totally agree

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Why would veris left for you offend others?

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Its madness in here sometimes!

People are weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've hidden most of mine down to the not wanting people to know I chose to be with someone else at the time someone else wanted to see me

It shouldn't but things do get silly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

because they didn't want to upset other guys theywere seeing so had to delete/hide them x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

But why would it upset other guys that they had left you verifications.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

because they would get jealous about them seeing anyone else !! the guys obviously got possesive and when i was previously on here a few of my meets got arsey about verifications i had left for others !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

of course some get jealous.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So they left you verifications but then asked you to hide them. Why did they leave you verifications in the first place if they didnt want you to show them."

I did show them on this profile and one i had before but then had to hide or delete...why are you so sceptical ?

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

I wouldn't worry about it as, if I was the people who have asked you to do this, and now read that you have broadcast it in the forums, I wouldn't be meeting you again - Problem solved!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't worry about it as, if I was the people who have asked you to do this, and now read that you have broadcast it in the forums, I wouldn't be meeting you again - Problem solved!

Ermm..they are not on my friends list or verifications to be _iewed ....how is the rebuliding of that Hadrians wall coming along ?

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"I wouldn't worry about it as, if I was the people who have asked you to do this, and now read that you have broadcast it in the forums, I wouldn't be meeting you again - Problem solved!

Ermm..they are not on my friends list or verifications to be _iewed ....how is the rebuliding of that Hadrians wall coming along ?"

Oh dear, no need to get arsey about a reply to your OP!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"So they left you verifications but then asked you to hide them. Why did they leave you verifications in the first place if they didnt want you to show them.

I did show them on this profile and one i had before but then had to hide or delete...why are you so sceptical ?"

Because i find it hard to believe someone would want you to remove a verification because someone was jealous. Why on earth dont they tell the other person/people to get stuffed and its a swingers site and they will meet who they like

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't worry about it as, if I was the people who have asked you to do this, and now read that you have broadcast it in the forums, I wouldn't be meeting you again - Problem solved!

Ermm..they are not on my friends list or verifications to be _iewed ....how is the rebuliding of that Hadrians wall coming along ?

Oh dear, no need to get arsey about a reply to your OP!

Why do you assume arsey ? just no sense of humour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't worry about it as, if I was the people who have asked you to do this, and now read that you have broadcast it in the forums, I wouldn't be meeting you again - Problem solved!

Ermm..they are not on my friends list or verifications to be _iewed ....how is the rebuliding of that Hadrians wall coming along ?

Oh dear, no need to get arsey about a reply to your OP!

chill out boys ....ive had to hide my vrifications in the past because some jelaous lady decided she didnt like one of "her " guys leaving a better verification for me than he did for her ..she then proceeded to message people on my verifications/friends list telling lies about me ....there really are some odd bods on here ! luckily ive never actually met any ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So they left you verifications but then asked you to hide them. Why did they leave you verifications in the first place if they didnt want you to show them.

I did show them on this profile and one i had before but then had to hide or delete...why are you so sceptical ?

Indeed ! some people just post in this forum just to get a "look at me" but I wanted to start a genuine topic about i'm sure others have experienced !!

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I hide all of mine and im glad I do

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't worry about it as, if I was the people who have asked you to do this, and now read that you have broadcast it in the forums, I wouldn't be meeting you again - Problem solved!

Ermm..they are not on my friends list or verifications to be _iewed ....how is the rebuliding of that Hadrians wall coming along ?

Oh dear, no need to get arsey about a reply to your OP!

yayyy !!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I've hard about people verification hopping etc and personally can't think of anything more tedious lol

To be fair to the op if the problems started after the person verify him then I think its good he respected their wishes. If they knew people would get funny before they verified then I think they just like the drama lol

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By *uro anchorMan
over a year ago

Coventry

whats a verification ?....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"there are some verifications I have to hide to respect the wishes of the persons who sent them because they don't want to offend other friends !! i feel sorry for them as there should be no jealousy on a swingers site surely !!

(and don't call me shirley) "

only at the weekends lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dream of a verification......even if it says I'm shoite

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By *waymanMan
over a year ago

newcastle

Jealousy on here? Never...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some really odd people on here

When i was with the ex we used to meet a few couples who was meeting us 'behide other couples they meets back' never got it

Its much easier meeting singles, ive never met a single guy whos asked me not to tell anyone they meet ive met them, had a few couples tho

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Ohhhh a new bit of wierdness to muse over!

As gran said,theres nowt as queer as folk,mind she also said i'd get worms from icking cake mixture from the dish!

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"So they left you verifications but then asked you to hide them. Why did they leave you verifications in the first place if they didnt want you to show them."

+ 1

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

(and don't call me shirley) "

Why would a friend of theirs be offended they left you a verification?

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

"because they didn't want to upset other guys theywere seeing so had to delete/hide them x"

Then they surely miss the whole point of swinging? Surely the other guys know this person or person(s) will be meeting other people? The mind boggles on this one.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

(and don't call me shirley) "

How would their friends know they left you a verification? There are thousands of profiles on here.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

(and don't call me shirley) "

okay... so they left you a verification, but told you not to show it??? or did they infer that you ought not to show it or they wouldn't meet you again????

or are we again only hearing one side to a story... hmmmmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why on earth dont they tell the other person/people to get stuffed and its a swingers site and they will meet who they like"

Well said Diamond! Bloody hell... If people can't handle the lack of 'exclusivity' in the swinging world then they really need to pack their bags and get a one-way ticket to Vanilla City

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I don't get why so many people have problems with verifications. I know they are basically a way to verify someone is a real person, but it is a nice way of letting someone know how much you appreciated meeting them. If a person doesn't want me to show a veri that they met me, then don't do a veri!! And if they are ashamed of meeting me and don't want people to know then there is no reason for them to display my veri to them.

Simples!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think its necessarily that people are strange, I think swingers like to give it the "we are into sexual freedom and happy with ourselves and suffer no hangups in relation to sexuality" but thats rarely the case - there are more hang ups here than a bloody washing line.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I dont understand is why send a verif at all if they are not happy with you showing it - surely its alot easier NOT to send one?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What I dont understand is why send a verif at all if they are not happy with you showing it - surely its alot easier NOT to send one? "

Because at the time it wasn't an issue..but then people get arsey because they've said nicer things about you than them !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

(and don't call me shirley)

okay... so they left you a verification, but told you not to show it??? or did they infer that you ought not to show it or they wouldn't meet you again????

or are we again only hearing one side to a story... hmmmmmm

Not really sure what your inferring...the point of my post was that some people are funny about giving/sending/showing vewrifications for fear of upsetting other people they have met !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

(and don't call me shirley)

Why would a friend of theirs be offended they left you a verification? "

Some people obviously get upset if someones verification is more glowing than theres !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

FFS !! I wished I'd hadn't bother posting this now !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"they've said nicer things about you than them !"

I've heard that said before. I think the last time was in 1992 just before the bell went to call us back into the classroom after lunchbreak.

Seriously, I think their friends are just acting childish and immature

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"FFS !! I wished I'd hadn't bother posting this now !"

welcome to the forums..

this is just the way it is around here.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

ps... people do get jealous.

guys get jealous of other guys who meet females they have met..

females get jealous of other females if they meet the hot newbie..

it's all a game to some.. some play fair..

others not so..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ps... people do get jealous.

guys get jealous of other guys who meet females they have met..

females get jealous of other females if they meet the hot newbie..

it's all a game to some.. some play fair..

others not so.."

and u know what they say growing old is mandatory growing up is optional

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Perhaps the OP wanted us to know that he has hidden verifications as well as the ones showing?..............But why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ps... people do get jealous.

guys get jealous of other guys who meet females they have met..

females get jealous of other females if they meet the hot newbie..

it's all a game to some.. some play fair..

others not so.."

That's what I meant - View puts it far better than I did.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Yes some people get arsey over verifications.

It is a valid comment.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Perhaps the OP wanted us to know that he has hidden verifications as well as the ones showing?..............But why?

Because he can if he wants to

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Well I think the whole cocept is shite tbh. We rarely give them and don't display them and yes indeed regular friends can get a tad jealous, its human nature. In our experience they just mean the person exists and turned up, followed by some sex. We have seen seem some of these people in real life who bare no resemblance to the stunning beauty or handsome adonis they were described as. People say nice things sometimes just because its easier to than not. I have chatted to people who admitted as much. Well, who displays bad verications????????!!!! Ego stroking lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ps... people do get jealous.

guys get jealous of other guys who meet females they have met..

females get jealous of other females if they meet the hot newbie..

it's all a game to some.. some play fair..

others not so..

That's what I meant - View puts it far better than I did.

View is the voice of reason !!!

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

yes ive heard this happen to couple of other people . they post a verification and another person they met throws toys out the pram for what ever the reason. it never happened to me personally simply for the reason id not tolerate that shite lol !! if anyone dare get snippy,arsey or jealous over a verification someone left me they find themseleves at the sharp end of my tounge (not in a good way lol ) and then my boot ! theyd be left in no uncertain terms that their behaviour is out of order and would be blocked and id have no further contact with em ! the ones throwing hissy fits over others verifications are nothing but bullies really.who are they to say what others can meet or say in a verification ! like any bully they only do it if they are allowed to ! why the couple you met are cowtowing to others i cant fathom! the only people they have to answer is each other ,certainly not some meet theyve had on here ! maybe they dont like conflict ,maybe they havent been honest with the other person and met you instead of them well never know ! but doesnt seem fair theyve dragged their issues to you . if anyone is jealous about another meet then why would you want to meet them again,it asking for trouble ! id be asking your friends why are they are so bothered putting this others persons nose out of joint.as i say the ONLY ones they anser to is themselves .

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By *otstory69Man
over a year ago

stafford

perhaps i'm missing the point, but i thought verifications are a feature available to vouch for a person/couple to say 'yes, they are fun/genuine/interesting' to give other people some confidence in meeting them. this to encourage sharing = more safe fun for everyone.

I don't see it as a rating competition, with a winner, or a way to tag 'ownership' and promote exclusivity, but exactly the opposite. "Try these people, they're GRrrrreat!! " (no, that doesn't mean cover them in sugar frosting and milk. lol)

i would recommend chilling out, share and share alike, and be happy to be involved in this wonderful community.

have fun people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ohhhh a new bit of wierdness to muse over!

As gran said,theres nowt as queer as folk,mind she also said i'd get worms from icking cake mixture from the dish!

rather muse over your bootilicious bum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

(and don't call me shirley)

Why would a friend of theirs be offended they left you a verification? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"FFS !! I wished I'd hadn't bother posting this now !"

sorry but u gotta laught

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont think its necessarily that people are strange, I think swingers like to give it the "we are into sexual freedom and happy with ourselves and suffer no hangups in relation to sexuality" but thats rarely the case - there are more hang ups here than a bloody washing line.

spot on

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