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By *ubmandub1 OP   Man
over a year ago

city

..... Sound so aggressive in the bio they spend most of it warning people and talking about blocking. Really make them sound appealing doesn't it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fabs full of guys. And with some if them it goes to there head

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By *ureTemptationWoman
over a year ago

Off the grid

Because we get a lot of horrible messages?

Although I tried the sweetness and light approach because I know guys don't like the list of demands, and I had a guy rip into me for having a nasty profile text so you can't win either way. I even messaged him back in case it's was a joke and he deleted my message.

There are some tw*ts around on Fab. Comes with the territory.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe because they are frustrated with the dick pics and fancy a fuck messages!

It is offputting tho!

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By *ubmandub1 OP   Man
over a year ago

city

I do understand that but fuck me it makes the ladies sound horrible people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do understand that but fuck me it makes the ladies sound horrible people "

To see truly horrible people, you should see some of the hideous, venomous messages received for no justifiable reason.

I agree to some extent with you OP and find some of the shoutier divaesque ones a little off putting, but I understand why they exist.

If I find a profile is not to my taste, I simply move on as it's unlikely I'll enjoy the company of the author.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I'm kind of guilty. Not because I'm big headed by any stretch of the imagination, but frustration.

I was getting so many "you free to fuck now?" messages that I was missing genuinely decent people I'd be happy to chat to.

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By *ubmandub1 OP   Man
over a year ago

city

Very true high heels but you can put you privacy settings in a way that should only allow messages front the type of people you like.

As I said it's just the tone of the bios that astound me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very true high heels but you can put you privacy settings in a way that should only allow messages front the type of people you like.

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Unfortunately there's no way to just stop dickheads from messaging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do understand that but fuck me it makes the ladies sound horrible people "

Then don't contact them.

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By *ubmandub1 OP   Man
over a year ago

city

Yes princess I see how you put yourself in the above bracket ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"..... Sound so aggressive in the bio they spend most of it warning people and talking about blocking. Really make them sound appealing doesn't it lol"

I'm only aggressive when I'm fucking you.

*jokes*

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By *ubmandub1 OP   Man
over a year ago

city


"I do understand that but fuck me it makes the ladies sound horrible people

Then don't contact them."

I don't contact them I said the profile comes across badly. Wind your neck back in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do understand that but fuck me it makes the ladies sound horrible people "

You don't have to message them my lovely, move on to a profile that does sound appealing. A lot of it is frustration with the site, guys not reading their profile messaging etc but that said, it is easy to put your preferences across in a polite way.

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By *ubmandub1 OP   Man
over a year ago

city


"..... Sound so aggressive in the bio they spend most of it warning people and talking about blocking. Really make them sound appealing doesn't it lol

I'm only aggressive when I'm fucking you.

*jokes*"

Shame it's a joke lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do understand that but fuck me it makes the ladies sound horrible people

Then don't contact them.

I don't contact them I said the profile comes across badly. Wind your neck back in "

Now who sounds aggressive?

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By *heonix316Couple
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"..... Sound so aggressive in the bio they spend most of it warning people and talking about blocking. Really make them sound appealing doesn't it lol"

I suppose these stipulations come from bitter experience.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Yes princess I see how you put yourself in the above bracket ha ha "

Yet I still get lots of messages and meet lovely people, so there are tolerant and respectful people who don't want bareback and don't expect me to fuck them on the first meet, so....it works for me.

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By *ubmandub1 OP   Man
over a year ago

city


"I do understand that but fuck me it makes the ladies sound horrible people

Then don't contact them.

I don't contact them I said the profile comes across badly. Wind your neck back in

Now who sounds aggressive? "

Touché

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get soooo many messages where guys clearly haven't read the profile, I think my profile is pretty cheerful and friendly, but I still get abuse

I think some ladies just get fed up and it shows in their profile, if you read between the lines its clear they get asked silly questions, get timewasters and generally Dont want messages from people that they Dont want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could say the same about any profile on here ie; why do some men have no pics and no profile, why do some couples only have pics of the woman, why do etc etc. Why does anyone do anything on here, because they can? If it works for them then great, crack on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Their profile to run how they see fit.

It's their experience of a good majority of men on here that's led them to have their shouty profiles.

I'm not a fan of them and I avoid them like the plague. However I understand how fucked off they must get with the same messages day in day out.

Case in point, I was allowed access to a female friends account to read her messages for a laugh, what I encountered was pretty fucking grim to be polite, I actually wanted to delete her account for her

If you could see what some men send, you would have a better understanding of why they try and deter the idiots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The question is has anyone who was about to send you a nasty message ever read your profile and thought;

"Ooooh, she's stated that she doesn't want any nasty messages, ill not send her one"

I very much doubt it because I doubt they even read the profile in the first place!

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By *ubmandub1 OP   Man
over a year ago

city

I am enjoying the mainly logical and friendly responses on this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll hazard a guess it's because they got fed up with men doing whatever it is they are being aggressive about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do understand that but fuck me it makes the ladies sound horrible people

Then don't contact them.

I don't contact them I said the profile comes across badly. Wind your neck back in "

Neck firmly where it was.

If there is any aspect of a profile that puts you off, then don't contact them. Why bother criticising them?

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By *ubmandub1 OP   Man
over a year ago

city


"The question is has anyone who was about to send you a nasty message ever read your profile and thought;

"Ooooh, she's stated that she doesn't want any nasty messages, ill not send her one"

I very much doubt it because I doubt they even read the profile in the first place!"

I would be happy to get any messages ..... Us blokes on here struggle lol

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By *ubmandub1 OP   Man
over a year ago

city

Not trying to criticise just wondering why so aggressive

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By *hispers-40Woman
over a year ago

up the garden path

When you get messages saying you're clogging up the site Delete your profile or you get Dicks trying to blackmail you no wonder they sound aggressive Just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they just get pissed off at pointless messages and reading them. i go ranty on my profile occasionally. then i find out ways to block more men or something, like block them all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The question is has anyone who was about to send you a nasty message ever read your profile and thought;

"Ooooh, she's stated that she doesn't want any nasty messages, ill not send her one"

I very much doubt it because I doubt they even read the profile in the first place!

I would be happy to get any messages ..... Us blokes on here struggle lol"

And a fair amount of guys don't struggle, its all about how good you are at selling yourself.

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France


"..... Sound so aggressive in the bio they spend most of it warning people and talking about blocking. Really make them sound appealing doesn't it lol

I'm only aggressive when I'm fucking you.

*jokes*"

That's fine with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not trying to criticise just wondering why so aggressive "

aaaaand now you know.

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France


"..... Sound so aggressive in the bio they spend most of it warning people and talking about blocking. Really make them sound appealing doesn't it lol"

If you don't like it; ignore then....

Simple enough solution I would think...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"..... Sound so aggressive in the bio they spend most of it warning people and talking about blocking. Really make them sound appealing doesn't it lol"

Maybe they want to make sure their aggression keeps away the undesirables?

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"..... Sound so aggressive in the bio they spend most of it warning people and talking about blocking. Really make them sound appealing doesn't it lol"
no its not, some couples are like this too...i go to clubs, plenty of fun people who seem to want to enjoy themselves..rarely search on here. i may look at a profile, due to a forum post or a wink or something...i would find it too depressing if i relied on that kind of searching for my meets x

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By *ureTemptationWoman
over a year ago

Off the grid


"The question is has anyone who was about to send you a nasty message ever read your profile and thought;

"Ooooh, she's stated that she doesn't want any nasty messages, ill not send her one"

I very much doubt it because I doubt they even read the profile in the first place!"

I've had rules like that on my profile for a bit and it did cut down the dodgy messages and I still got nice ones.

It does work. But it's not really me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do understand that but fuck me it makes the ladies sound horrible people

Then don't contact them.

I don't contact them I said the profile comes across badly. Wind your neck back in

Now who sounds aggressive? "

He's not aggressive, he's just a go-getter!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do understand that but fuck me it makes the ladies sound horrible people

Then don't contact them.

I don't contact them I said the profile comes across badly. Wind your neck back in "

And there you have it..... wind your neck back in??? Sigh.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do understand that but fuck me it makes the ladies sound horrible people

Then don't contact them.

I don't contact them I said the profile comes across badly. Wind your neck back in

Now who sounds aggressive?

He's not aggressive, he's just a go-getter! "

Oh yeah, silly me jumping to conclusions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The question is has anyone who was about to send you a nasty message ever read your profile and thought;

"Ooooh, she's stated that she doesn't want any nasty messages, ill not send her one"

I very much doubt it because I doubt they even read the profile in the first place!"

Agreed, an overly aggressive/ranty profile doesn't discourage the fuckwits, and may deter the nicer people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"..... Sound so aggressive in the bio they spend most of it warning people and talking about blocking. Really make them sound appealing doesn't it lol"

In a nut shell they do it because they can. They will still always get attention and meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fabs full of guys. And with some if them it goes to there head "

Nailed it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not sure how anyone would be interested in those profiles as it reflects how they are lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have shouty words on my profile about something that is very important. People can read it and they won't message me, it it applies to them. Some people don't read it and I have to point it out to them still, but it's very important that people know before we get into a conversation about meeting.

There are a couple of other things pertaining to it, but I tell them that via a message.

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By *ubmandub1 OP   Man
over a year ago

city

It's good to have people chatting on here it can get very dull

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do understand that but fuck me it makes the ladies sound horrible people "

They probably are.

[Standing by for torrent of abuse from uber-defensive women and couples, as well as a few white-knighting single blokes]

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

I dont know maybe some people are more easily annoyed, or have had some bad experiences on here so want to put certain types off contacting them, sometimes being too nice isnt such a good thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did a piss take ranty profile in capitals once, clearly very sarcastic and over the top but I got a few nasty messages saying what an absolute diva I was, head up my arse etc and when I asked them to actually read it again, they apologised realising I wasn't serious. This just proves some don't read profiles, they clearly just saw the ranty bit and without fully reading it, they decided to be nasty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do understand that but fuck me it makes the ladies sound horrible people

They probably are.

[Standing by for torrent of abuse from uber-defensive women and couples, as well as a few white-knighting single blokes]"

You'll have to do better than that.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Try being a female, then all your questions will be answered!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do understand that but fuck me it makes the ladies sound horrible people

They probably are.

[Standing by for torrent of abuse from uber-defensive women and couples, as well as a few white-knighting single blokes]"

They might be. They might not.

Nobody is going to be everyone's cup of tea.

No likey, no messagey.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Try being a female, then all your questions will be answered! "
no, thats no excuse...they dont control your behaviour

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Not trying to criticise just wondering why so aggressive "

Out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks. Lots of aggressive people about.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Try being a female, then all your questions will be answered! no, thats no excuse...they dont control your behaviour "

I meant so they could see the type of messages we receive, that was all. I'm very good at ignoring my messages

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Try being a female, then all your questions will be answered! no, thats no excuse...they dont control your behaviour

I meant so they could see the type of messages we receive, that was all. I'm very good at ignoring my messages "

yeah you have a point..its why my filters are on though..i chose that over shouty capitals in my profile..and an aggressive stance , because that isnt me and i dont like being 'changed' by other people to be something i am not...i do think we are in control of this xx

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

People will run their profile how it suits them just as you do . If its not working for them I'm sure they would change it .

From a female prospective and many years on this site ,I can assure you that with some people on here subtle does not work! So why not make it crystal clear about exspections .At least then people know if they fit criteria or not and type of approach that's looked for . I would of thought that helps the reader than trying to going on a profile with zero on it .

I have also developed a very thick skin and zero tolerence policy on here from the amount of crap spewed when I've told a person no.

If you don't like the tone of a profile then you are free to move on to the next one .That's the beauty of the site,you can keep looking till you do find something that perks your interest . Why worry about those who dont interest you and just keep focus on those who do.Far more productive use of time .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you are one of few, who has something that many want, the intrinsic value of that which you have is exaggerated. As value is increased the benefits of that which is sought are also exaggerated; when that something is a someone, the perceived value of that someone can lead to a behavioural change.

The behavioural change can take many forms; of indifference, arrogance, embarrassment, inflation of self worth, or paradoxically low value (through ego crash).

The profiles we use on fab can act as a shield, bait, a wall or a door to preferences, how the reader interprets a profile is based on experience, desire or desperation.

The fundamental question one should ask is not why are some people's profiles aggressive (for this is self evident) but what has caused them to be thus... in this simple question is the answer as to whether you should be concerned with their tone.. 9 times out of 10 you will find the answer is "no"..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny how a lot of these women want the perfect man. 6ft 3, handsome, huge penis and fit muscular body but most of the women are ugly, overweight and saggy, in their mid 50's. Get a grip. Most of you women wouldn't even get looked at once nevermind twice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funny how a lot of these women want the perfect man. 6ft 3, handsome, huge penis and fit muscular body but most of the women are ugly, overweight and saggy, in their mid 50's. Get a grip. Most of you women wouldn't even get looked at once nevermind twice. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"..... Sound so aggressive in the bio they spend most of it warning people and talking about blocking. Really make them sound appealing doesn't it lol"

because they have their head so far up their arse they cant tell whether they have the right tone or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funny how a lot of these women want the perfect man. 6ft 3, handsome, huge penis and fit muscular body but most of the women are ugly, overweight and saggy, in their mid 50's. Get a grip. Most of you women wouldn't even get looked at once nevermind twice. "

easy tiger, that's my self esteem you're trampling all over!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funny how a lot of these women want the perfect man. 6ft 3, handsome, huge penis and fit muscular body but most of the women are ugly, overweight and saggy, in their mid 50's. Get a grip. Most of you women wouldn't even get looked at once nevermind twice. "

No, no, don't you hold back. Tell me how you really feel!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funny how a lot of these women want the perfect man. 6ft 3, handsome, huge penis and fit muscular body but most of the women are ugly, overweight and saggy, in their mid 50's. Get a grip. Most of you women wouldn't even get looked at once nevermind twice. "

Then, once more, simply do not contact them. There is no need to be offensive. That reflects on you more than them.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Tbh recently I've thought about changing my profile to bullet points explaining what I do but mainly what I don't want from fab. This is because it's seems to me that 9/10 guys don't read my profile before contacting me and it takes quite a while to sift through them, and I'm not talking 100's here. But I didn't because I don't want to come across as a ranty, demanding woman because I'm not

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By *hispers-40Woman
over a year ago

up the garden path


"Funny how a lot of these women want the perfect man. 6ft 3, handsome, huge penis and fit muscular body but most of the women are ugly, overweight and saggy, in their mid 50's. Get a grip. Most of you women wouldn't even get looked at once nevermind twice.

easy tiger, that's my self esteem you're trampling all over! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funny how a lot of these women want the perfect man. 6ft 3, handsome, huge penis and fit muscular body but most of the women are ugly, overweight and saggy, in their mid 50's. Get a grip. Most of you women wouldn't even get looked at once nevermind twice.

easy tiger, that's my self esteem you're trampling all over! "

No offence

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funny how a lot of these women want the perfect man. 6ft 3, handsome, huge penis and fit muscular body but most of the women are ugly, overweight and saggy, in their mid 50's. Get a grip. Most of you women wouldn't even get looked at once nevermind twice. "

Ouch! Brutal but so true. Can't blame them for being like that though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funny how a lot of these women want the perfect man. 6ft 3, handsome, huge penis and fit muscular body but most of the women are ugly, overweight and saggy, in their mid 50's. Get a grip. Most of you women wouldn't even get looked at once nevermind twice. "

Highheels is definitely not in that category. She is stupidly hot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funny how a lot of these women want the perfect man. 6ft 3, handsome, huge penis and fit muscular body but most of the women are ugly, overweight and saggy, in their mid 50's. Get a grip. Most of you women wouldn't even get looked at once nevermind twice. "

Most people come on here to find something they perhaps have never had, act out a fantasy etc so are looking for something specific. If that's what they want then why not look for it on here? Doesn't always mean they'll find it but to have such an attitude towards people looking for what they want is really unnecessary.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Funny how a lot of these women want the perfect man. 6ft 3, handsome, huge penis and fit muscular body but most of the women are ugly, overweight and saggy, in their mid 50's. Get a grip. Most of you women wouldn't even get looked at once nevermind twice. "
yeah but we have one advantage and that is that women can withhold sex..

men however withhold commitment..so as far as i'm concerned its an equal playfield, if you like those kind of shit games...personally, as long as someone doesnt have issues, including entitlement, then i tend to get along with them just fine, men or women x

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Tbh recently I've thought about changing my profile to bullet points explaining what I do but mainly what I don't want from fab. This is because it's seems to me that 9/10 guys don't read my profile before contacting me and it takes quite a while to sift through them, and I'm not talking 100's here. But I didn't because I don't want to come across as a ranty, demanding woman because I'm not "

For me i think it depends on the person that's reading it and their interpretation. I wrote mine in a calm voice but some read it in a stroppy one!

I read other profiles and to me it's just folks making it clear what they do or don't want. Nowt wrong with that at all.

I know if I read Joe bloggs profile and it says he wants to hear from tall blondes...well, that ain't me so I won't bother!

Like I say in mine. Time is precious, and I really don't see the point in wasting the time of both parties.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"Funny how a lot of these women want the perfect man. 6ft 3, handsome, huge penis and fit muscular body but most of the women are ugly, overweight and saggy, in their mid 50's. Get a grip. Most of you women wouldn't even get looked at once nevermind twice. "

Firstly they may no get your interest but who's to say they aren't shagging loads of guys not from here??

Secondly if mid 50s aren't for you then best not to have your age range set up to 99

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read them in the style of Miss Whiplash. It works then! You can imagine them swishing a whip after each full stop. Flexing the cane at the bits in CAPITALS!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the messages I get are

"how are you today" "here's my number, 07..." "hi" "good morning".... these get deleted, as it clearly states on my profile that these kind of messages will be deleted.

Then there are the messages that say - "like your profile, clear and to the point" - this kind get a reply.

but a mail I received to a status that said "horny" was " what time" I did reply to ask what time for what, to which he replied a fuck, I said I wasn't meeting him - and because I don't just hit that block button quickly he carried on trying to get a day/time/place for this meet that wasn't going ahead...

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By *aughty_amazonWoman
over a year ago

BRISTOL

I've just edited mine after dozens of "I'm near fancy a fuck" messages today alone. If men read profiles, we wouldn't Have to sound so grumpy, simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because we get a lot of horrible messages?

Although I tried the sweetness and light approach because I know guys don't like the list of demands, and I had a guy rip into me for having a nasty profile text so you can't win either way. I even messaged him back in case it's was a joke and he deleted my message.

There are some tw*ts around on Fab. Comes with the territory.

"

Basically this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funny how a lot of these women want the perfect man. 6ft 3, handsome, huge penis and fit muscular body but most of the women are ugly, overweight and saggy, in their mid 50's. Get a grip. Most of you women wouldn't even get looked at once nevermind twice.

Most people come on here to find something they perhaps have never had, act out a fantasy etc so are looking for something specific. If that's what they want then why not look for it on here? Doesn't always mean they'll find it but to have such an attitude towards people looking for what they want is really unnecessary. "

I agree, as a man who wouldn't want a 20 year old brunette with huge tits etc but doesn't mean I'm going to get it! and I definitely wouldn't be demanding enough or rude enough to make other women feel like if they don't fit the profile then they have no chance with me. Some women on here really do think they are something special. Other men put them on a pedestal when in any other arena they wouldn't even get a look in

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"Funny how a lot of these women want the perfect man. 6ft 3, handsome, huge penis and fit muscular body but most of the women are ugly, overweight and saggy, in their mid 50's. Get a grip. Most of you women wouldn't even get looked at once nevermind twice. "

I get looked at quite a lot when im out and about though not always for the right reasons i would prefer not to be looked at because im shy.

So you describe the perfect man, what about if he hasnt got the personality or charisma to match his looks?

I personaly think muscular bodies are overated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very true high heels but you can put you privacy settings in a way that should only allow messages front the type of people you like.

As I said it's just the tone of the bios that astound me "

You would think that, but we are quite clear in what we are looking for in our profile, and have our message filters set for what yo want

That still doesn't stop one line messages from people who fall in to our age range but clearly aren't what we are looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funny how a lot of these women want the perfect man. 6ft 3, handsome, huge penis and fit muscular body but most of the women are ugly, overweight and saggy, in their mid 50's. Get a grip. Most of you women wouldn't even get looked at once nevermind twice.

Most people come on here to find something they perhaps have never had, act out a fantasy etc so are looking for something specific. If that's what they want then why not look for it on here? Doesn't always mean they'll find it but to have such an attitude towards people looking for what they want is really unnecessary.

I agree, as a man who wouldn't want a 20 year old brunette with huge tits etc but doesn't mean I'm going to get it! and I definitely wouldn't be demanding enough or rude enough to make other women feel like if they don't fit the profile then they have no chance with me. Some women on here really do think they are something special. Other men put them on a pedestal when in any other arena they wouldn't even get a look in "

Then its the guys fault for putting them on a pedestal in the first place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"..... Sound so aggressive in the bio they spend most of it warning people and talking about blocking. Really make them sound appealing doesn't it lol"

I can't tell you why. But my guess is, they think the world revolves around them.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Funny how a lot of these women want the perfect man. 6ft 3, handsome, huge penis and fit muscular body but most of the women are ugly, overweight and saggy, in their mid 50's. Get a grip. Most of you women wouldn't even get looked at once nevermind twice.

Most people come on here to find something they perhaps have never had, act out a fantasy etc so are looking for something specific. If that's what they want then why not look for it on here? Doesn't always mean they'll find it but to have such an attitude towards people looking for what they want is really unnecessary.

I agree, as a man who wouldn't want a 20 year old brunette with huge tits etc but doesn't mean I'm going to get it! and I definitely wouldn't be demanding enough or rude enough to make other women feel like if they don't fit the profile then they have no chance with me. Some women on here really do think they are something special. Other men put them on a pedestal when in any other arena they wouldn't even get a look in

Then its the guys fault for putting them on a pedestal in the first place "
i am special because i value and appreciate my lovers, our pedestals are equal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just edited mine after dozens of "I'm near fancy a fuck" messages today alone. If men read profiles, we wouldn't Have to sound so grumpy, simples "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've tried out a few different ways of expressing what I'm looking for and not looking for, and I seem to have got it right now. I thought it may put people off, but I get very few messages that I don't want now, and I've made friends with a lot of lovely guys since changing it.

I totally get the shouty profiles, but if you're one of the good guys, I can see how you may be put off, so it could be counter intuitive to be too demanding. It's probably unlikely the woman is really like that, though. Just born out of frustration.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"..... Sound so aggressive in the bio they spend most of it warning people and talking about blocking. Really make them sound appealing doesn't it lol"

Op you have committed a cardinal sin on Fab you have criticise single ferns profiles thumbs up for bravery .

And now a bit of moral support from me yes you are quite right such profiles do come across as written in a lot of cases at best as woman who have had a belly full of the fuckwits who invest these sites at worst as stuck up primadonna's who hate all men except those who conform to there idea of the perfect prince charming .

Who of coarse doesn't exist except in there head hence the ranting profile .

Oh well time to duck and run for cover me thinks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funny how a lot of these women want the perfect man. 6ft 3, handsome, huge penis and fit muscular body but most of the women are ugly, overweight and saggy, in their mid 50's. Get a grip. Most of you women wouldn't even get looked at once nevermind twice. "

Well that's me out the race then.... TBH I don't want a 6'3 fit, muscular bloke with a huge penis..... I don't really like tall men, and I cannot stand a muscular body, have these guys really not have anything better to do than get all sweaty in a gym? and for what? what does it make them better at?? It doesn't enhance their performance, I've had great sex with unfit guys.... it's not the size of your cock, guys, it's what you can do with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pulls up the chair and gets the pocorn lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funny how a lot of these women want the perfect man. 6ft 3, handsome, huge penis and fit muscular body but most of the women are ugly, overweight and saggy, in their mid 50's. Get a grip. Most of you women wouldn't even get looked at once nevermind twice.

Well that's me out the race then.... TBH I don't want a 6'3 fit, muscular bloke with a huge penis..... I don't really like tall men, and I cannot stand a muscular body, have these guys really not have anything better to do than get all sweaty in a gym? and for what? what does it make them better at?? It doesn't enhance their performance, I've had great sex with unfit guys.... it's not the size of your cock, guys, it's what you can do with it "

For peace of mind. Well being maybe

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

I can appreciate that women get annoyed by guys sending god awful messages, this isn't gonna change, irrespective of what you put in your profile..adversely it will drive those with an aggressive disposition to act in such manner because your profile is written in a negative way..

Aggreassign breeds aggression..

The best way to deal with these people is not to provoke them in the first place and ignore them.

If they become persistent block them or report them to the site.

Or am I over simplifying the situation.

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By *rKinkedKuntMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Because they can. No such thing as equal rights on here.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Because they can. No such thing as equal rights on here. "

Of course there is, I like both sexes and always read a profile first. I've seen guys who are very open about what they do and dont eant in a playmate on their profiles as well as ladies.

I've seen some that are aggressive and I generally find they aren't what I'm looking for anyway. I have been told mine comes across aggressive by some, and fair and to the point by others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can appreciate that women get annoyed by guys sending god awful messages, this isn't gonna change, irrespective of what you put in your profile..adversely it will drive those with an aggressive disposition to act in such manner because your profile is written in a negative way..

Aggreassign breeds aggression..

The best way to deal with these people is not to provoke them in the first place and ignore them.

If they become persistent block them or report them to the site.

Or am I over simplifying the situation."

Not at all, you've got a point.

For instance our profile used to make it clear to single guys not to message us if they were 'fab straight' but it just made it worse.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Funny thing is I'm in my fifties with plenty of wobbly bits, but I have met several good-looking, 6'3", muscular men with huge cocks, on here and on dating sites - nice guys, male models - you name it. I have no ranty profile, but I might just say "Suck it up and get over it!!" to those who want to spew their sour grapes at me!!

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By *aughty_amazonWoman
over a year ago

BRISTOL


"Funny how a lot of these women want the perfect man. 6ft 3, handsome, huge penis and fit muscular body but most of the women are ugly, overweight and saggy, in their mid 50's. Get a grip. Most of you women wouldn't even get looked at once nevermind twice. "

I could get laid every weekend in real life, I'm no model but I'm a Fucking nice person and not bad looking. Truth is I'm not desparate and I'm fussy as fuck, it's my body and I chose who fucks me, if I wanted an oompa loompa surely that's my choice?

Most men assume women on here are needy housewives who are gagging for it and should be grateful of their cock!

I don't love myself but fuck that if I can pull my ideal fuck then I will, im not gonna give a sympathy shag. I'm here for kinky wild sex, not to just get laid. Men need to realise we are not free prostitutes because we're on fab.

Rant over, and I don't mean all men. Just the half wits who think we'll drop our knickers because they wave a cock in our face!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

.


"Because they can. No such thing as equal rights on here. "

I don't think rights come in to it. Everyone has equal rights on here. There are more men undeniably but everyone has the right to run their profile as seen fit. The profiles that are aggressive are off putting to me, hence why mine is the way it is. I guess it's a way of narrowing down what they are looking for and partially down to frustration in those that don't match messaging. The amount of people with the assumption that because it's a swingers site you shouldn't have the right to choose who you fuck is daft. If you're an overweight fifty something who wants to only fuck adonises, crack on and good on you. Overweight fifty something men can if wanted only put their cocks in nubile twenty somethings with huge tits but might be waiting a bit longer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funny how a lot of these women want the perfect man. 6ft 3, handsome, huge penis and fit muscular body but most of the women are ugly, overweight and saggy, in their mid 50's. Get a grip. Most of you women wouldn't even get looked at once nevermind twice.

I could get laid every weekend in real life, I'm no model but I'm a Fucking nice person and not bad looking. Truth is I'm not desparate and I'm fussy as fuck, it's my body and I chose who fucks me, if I wanted an oompa loompa surely that's my choice?

Most men assume women on here are needy housewives who are gagging for it and should be grateful of their cock!

I don't love myself but fuck that if I can pull my ideal fuck then I will, im not gonna give a sympathy shag. I'm here for kinky wild sex, not to just get laid. Men need to realise we are not free prostitutes because we're on fab.

Rant over, and I don't mean all men. Just the half wits who think we'll drop our knickers because they wave a cock in our face!"

I get that. At least you aren't rude about it whereas some women are plain rude and being picky is one thing being obnoxious and arrogant is another

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"Try being a female, then all your questions will be answered! no, thats no excuse...they dont control your behaviour

I meant so they could see the type of messages we receive, that was all. I'm very good at ignoring my messages

yeah you have a point..its why my filters are on though..i chose that over shouty capitals in my profile..and an aggressive stance , because that isnt me and i dont like being 'changed' by other people to be something i am not...i do think we are in control of this xx"

This is so well put we all control how we interact with others aggression begets aggression positively attracts positively .

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By *aughty_amazonWoman
over a year ago

BRISTOL


"Funny how a lot of these women want the perfect man. 6ft 3, handsome, huge penis and fit muscular body but most of the women are ugly, overweight and saggy, in their mid 50's. Get a grip. Most of you women wouldn't even get looked at once nevermind twice.

I could get laid every weekend in real life, I'm no model but I'm a Fucking nice person and not bad looking. Truth is I'm not desparate and I'm fussy as fuck, it's my body and I chose who fucks me, if I wanted an oompa loompa surely that's my choice?

Most men assume women on here are needy housewives who are gagging for it and should be grateful of their cock!

I don't love myself but fuck that if I can pull my ideal fuck then I will, im not gonna give a sympathy shag. I'm here for kinky wild sex, not to just get laid. Men need to realise we are not free prostitutes because we're on fab.

Rant over, and I don't mean all men. Just the half wits who think we'll drop our knickers because they wave a cock in our face!

I get that. At least you aren't rude about it whereas some women are plain rude and being picky is one thing being obnoxious and arrogant is another "

I've had a lot of messages saying I'm obnoxious, or up my own ass, I just reply 'my body my choice' and then block!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funny how a lot of these women want the perfect man. 6ft 3, handsome, huge penis and fit muscular body but most of the women are ugly, overweight and saggy, in their mid 50's. Get a grip. Most of you women wouldn't even get looked at once nevermind twice.

I could get laid every weekend in real life, I'm no model but I'm a Fucking nice person and not bad looking. Truth is I'm not desparate and I'm fussy as fuck, it's my body and I chose who fucks me, if I wanted an oompa loompa surely that's my choice?

Most men assume women on here are needy housewives who are gagging for it and should be grateful of their cock!

I don't love myself but fuck that if I can pull my ideal fuck then I will, im not gonna give a sympathy shag. I'm here for kinky wild sex, not to just get laid. Men need to realise we are not free prostitutes because we're on fab.

Rant over, and I don't mean all men. Just the half wits who think we'll drop our knickers because they wave a cock in our face!

I get that. At least you aren't rude about it whereas some women are plain rude and being picky is one thing being obnoxious and arrogant is another "

There are plenty of people of both sexes like that on here, but not just here, in life in general. I'd rather know they're like it from the off rather than waste my time finding that out after chatting. I do think however, that many with ranty profiles are probably very nice people but you never get a second chance at a first impression and that's what your profile is, a first impression of you in written text.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funny how a lot of these women want the perfect man. 6ft 3, handsome, huge penis and fit muscular body but most of the women are ugly, overweight and saggy, in their mid 50's. Get a grip. Most of you women wouldn't even get looked at once nevermind twice.

I could get laid every weekend in real life, I'm no model but I'm a Fucking nice person and not bad looking. Truth is I'm not desparate and I'm fussy as fuck, it's my body and I chose who fucks me, if I wanted an oompa loompa surely that's my choice?

Most men assume women on here are needy housewives who are gagging for it and should be grateful of their cock!

I don't love myself but fuck that if I can pull my ideal fuck then I will, im not gonna give a sympathy shag. I'm here for kinky wild sex, not to just get laid. Men need to realise we are not free prostitutes because we're on fab.

Rant over, and I don't mean all men. Just the half wits who think we'll drop our knickers because they wave a cock in our face!

I get that. At least you aren't rude about it whereas some women are plain rude and being picky is one thing being obnoxious and arrogant is another

I've had a lot of messages saying I'm obnoxious, or up my own ass, I just reply 'my body my choice' and then block!"

We get accused of being boring and pretentious, but they're probably right

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"Funny how a lot of these women want the perfect man. 6ft 3, handsome, huge penis and fit muscular body but most of the women are ugly, overweight and saggy, in their mid 50's. Get a grip. Most of you women wouldn't even get looked at once nevermind twice.

I could get laid every weekend in real life, I'm no model but I'm a Fucking nice person and not bad looking. Truth is I'm not desparate and I'm fussy as fuck, it's my body and I chose who fucks me, if I wanted an oompa loompa surely that's my choice?

Most men assume women on here are needy housewives who are gagging for it and should be grateful of their cock!

I don't love myself but fuck that if I can pull my ideal fuck then I will, im not gonna give a sympathy shag. I'm here for kinky wild sex, not to just get laid. Men need to realise we are not free prostitutes because we're on fab.

Rant over, and I don't mean all men. Just the half wits who think we'll drop our knickers because they wave a cock in our face!

I get that. At least you aren't rude about it whereas some women are plain rude and being picky is one thing being obnoxious and arrogant is another

I've had a lot of messages saying I'm obnoxious, or up my own ass, I just reply 'my body my choice' and then block!

We get accused of being boring and pretentious, but they're probably right "

bullshit your not people are just scared of your intelligence and looks so they come up with a excuse as to why they will not put the effort in with you

yes I'm moving in for the kill very very slowly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very true high heels but you can put you privacy settings in a way that should only allow messages front the type of people you like.

Unfortunately there's no way to just stop dickheads from messaging."

Spot on.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

It's easier than blocking and doing the searching.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's easier than blocking and doing the searching....."

Oh I don't know, I find it all very easy. The good profiles stand out a mile and shout MESSAGE ME (oops, sorry, capital shouty mode there!) Truth is, some people moan about all their messages but won't block as they don't get any attention.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"It's easier than blocking and doing the searching.....

Oh I don't know, I find it all very easy. The good profiles stand out a mile and shout MESSAGE ME (oops, sorry, capital shouty mode there!) Truth is, some people moan about all their messages but won't block as they don't get any attention. "

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"It's easier than blocking and doing the searching....."

This

Quite often, I think *some* people just like the attention.

If something isn't working or causing you that much drama, change it.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"It's easier than blocking and doing the searching.....

Oh I don't know, I find it all very easy. The good profiles stand out a mile and shout MESSAGE ME (oops, sorry, capital shouty mode there!) Truth is, some people moan about all their messages but won't block as they don't get any attention. "
this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"..... Sound so aggressive in the bio they spend most of it warning people and talking about blocking. Really make them sound appealing doesn't it lol"

Yeah!arrogant women who do they think they are

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By *artytwoCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

D has had a single profile for a couple of years just for webcam play. There have been hundreds of messages and lots of veris. There has been one message accusing her of being racist and one calling her a 'lard arse' (??) and that's all in 2 years-ish. Never anything horrible.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"..... Sound so aggressive in the bio they spend most of it warning people and talking about blocking. Really make them sound appealing doesn't it lol

Yeah!arrogant women who do they think they are "
mmm nice shorts x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"..... Sound so aggressive in the bio they spend most of it warning people and talking about blocking. Really make them sound appealing doesn't it lol

Yeah!arrogant women who do they think they are mmm nice shorts x"

Mmmmmmm nice everthing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"..... Sound so aggressive in the bio they spend most of it warning people and talking about blocking. Really make them sound appealing doesn't it lol

because they have their head so far up their arse they cant tell whether they have the right tone or not? "

This is my initial thought too, to be honest.

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