FabSwingers.com forum: newbies. Single guys wanted (mfm) concerns and Q's

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We are a North West based, happily married, young (early 30's) couple with good sex life.

We had a couple of threesome's (mfm) with hubby's best friend a few years ago (completely straight). We didn't discuss it for years until recently and turns out its been a huge fantasy of his ever since. So we are gonna try it again

... cant find a suitable friend at the min for various reasons so here we are on fab! II just have a few concerns and questions and was hoping for some advice pls guys?

- I don't like using condoms. But don't want to get pregnant by someone else as me and hubby are trying for more. Not ideal of course. Any advice? And surely its like playing STI roulette on this site without condoms. Or is it not as bad as I think? Any tips on minimising risk and what to do if we think we have something would be much appreciated (not been Gum clinic in yrs so don't know if things have changed or improved with technology or medicine in recent years).

- I'm not very confident in myself lately and a bit nervous about it all. The thought of a club is scary lol. Any suggestions how to get started? Shall we invite someone straight round, or go for drinks first in pub or night club, or will that be too awkward? Or should i suck it up, have a few drinks and try and hit a swingers club?

- Any other advise about any aspect of swinging (particularly 3sums) would be great

By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

If you don't like the idea of clubs then I would suggest getting to know someone off here. Meet for a social first, if you all click then arrange a play meet.

Gum clinics never seem to change over the years. If you're planning to bb then get tested before you start and also go get tested regularly. I would also recommend making sure your playmates are doing the same.

As for the pregnancy thing, maybe look for someone who has had the snip.

I'm not going to lecture you on the risks of bareback. I'm sure you guys know the risks and have made an informed choice that this is how you want to play, just like we made our choice to play safe.

By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Despite you thinking clubs are scary we would sugget to try one.

You then have the choice of playing with others or simply play with your partner if it all seems too much.

Don't forget you don'y have to play with anyone at a club you can just go and socialise if you like

By *acLe0dMan
over a year ago

Preston

As has already been mentioned you could always do a social meet or two with a guy to see if you are all comfortable with each other. You should proceed at a speed which is best for you. After all everyone involved might be a litte nervous so best to try and minimise those nerves.